100 lb. Club - Pants are too tight, and feeling discouraged....




milliondollarbbw
09-16-2010, 12:45 PM
So, my diet has not been good lately, I must admit. Though, I have been dealing with this weird issue of not feeling hungry and also dealing with nausea when I eat even a tad bit of a full meal, so, keeping food down has been hard, to say the least.

So, I am a bit surprised that my jeans are a bit too tight, though, the weight difference is only about 3lbs. Sigh.

How do you all stay motivated when the weight doesn't want to budge?

I have also been more stressed this past month than usual, so I am thinking the stress may have been messing with my cortisol levels. I also having been getting enough sleep. Yes, I think I have been a bit of a wreck lately.

I am about 3lbs over 300lbs now. :( Ugh.


kbj0123
09-16-2010, 01:34 PM
Don't beat yourself up and let it get out of control! That is the mistake we often make, then we end up eroding all the good we have done. Acknowledge how far you have come, what you have accomplished and even if that pants is a little tight, try on other clothes that were tight at the beginning of your journey but are slack now. Let today be your new start, join a challenge and keep it moving!

time2lose
09-16-2010, 01:38 PM
I hope you don't mind me saying this, but is there any possibility that you could be pregnant?


carter
09-16-2010, 02:41 PM
How do you all stay motivated when the weight doesn't want to budge?


I just broke through a plateau, my first real plateau in which I did everything right, ate on my plan, exercised on my plan, and did not see any loss over about 6 weeks.

I stayed motivated by believing in my plan, believing that it would work if I gave it time, and reminding myself each time I was tempted to stray "because it's not working anyhow" that going off plan wasn't going to make it work any better.

I can't point to anything except force of will. I didn't give in. I just decided that I am sick and tired of being fat, and nothing but sticking to my plan was going to end that for me.

And I'm delighted to say that once the plateau broke, about a week ago, it broke with a vengeance. Several pounds have melted off and my body has changed too, all in the space of a week.

I hope you have the same experience. Just stick with your plan - you know it works.

cfmama
09-16-2010, 03:25 PM
Pregnant was the very first thing I thought of too! Any possibility???

synger
09-16-2010, 04:26 PM
I agree with carter. Staying on plan isn't a whim, it's a DECISION. You know the plan works. Stick with it and let it work. There are all sorts of reasons why you might be up a few pounds of water weight. But if you're staying within your plan (and your plan doesn't include 3500 extra calories over time) you WILL lose weight. You have to.

I find that I go two or three weeks with nary a budge on the scale (or a nudge upward, even!), then drop five pounds overnight. That's just my pattern. It's still discouraging during the weeks I'm not losing, but I KNOW my plan works. So I keep at it. And the weight DOES drop off.

Looking back at my weekly/monthly progress also helps a lot. Even when I feel like I'm not losing at all, I can look back and SEE that I've been losing 6-8 pounds each month. THis month won't be any different. It's the long-term averages that make the difference.

Another thing that helps me bully through the bad times is to focus less on the RESULTS of my plan (weight lost and scale numbers) and rather to focus on the BEHAVIOURS of my plan (planning my meals and snacks, eating on-plan, counting my calories, exercising regularly). If I am focusing on that, then the scale just becomes a tool I can use, not the dictator of my mood.

rockinrobin
09-16-2010, 06:58 PM
Warning: Some tough love ahead...




So, my diet has not been good lately, I must admit.

How do you all stay motivated when the weight doesn't want to budge?

The scale won't budge unless you manipulate it to budge. You determine whether or not it budges. So I don't think this is a case of an unexplained plateau, but rather a self induced one. Which is good! Means you can get things moving fairly easily.

If I recall correctly, a few months ago, you mentioned this about your hunger level and what not. And we talked about quality of food and how many calories they contain.

Weight loss won't just happen to you. You must make it happen. You are the orchestra here. You pull the strings.

I don't mean to be sound harsh, but you really can't expect it to budge, if you're not consistently, day in, day out, day after day, after day, week after week, month after month staying on plan, staying within an allotted calorie budget. You can't have it both ways. You can't eat off plan and have the weight loss. It just can't be.

You want that scale to move - than you've got to put forth the continuous effort. You've got to put the work in.

And make no mistake about it - you CAN do this. You CAN make that scale budge and budge a LOT. But you must decide to do so and of course be willing to do what's required and necessary to move it on down.

Take a look at the two quotes I have at the bottom of my signature; I think they may be appropriate here.

milliondollarbbw
09-16-2010, 07:10 PM
Thank you, everybody! :)

Nope, I doubt I am pregnant. I mean, that would be sort of difficult, but, no, unless it is by osmosis or something, I don't think pregnancy is causing my nausea.

shannonmb
09-17-2010, 09:29 AM
Okay, girlie, I think I'm going to do some tough love here, too. If you can look in your heart and honestly say that you are ready to continue with this challenge of losing weight, then you have to get rid of every single excuse and just start doing it. I'm not necessarily saying this based on this post, but I also remember some of your previous posts and I know that you have a lot of stress, feel undervalued at work, were having some man trouble (which I hope you are done with that guy, btw), weird appetite changes, and some other stuff that you felt were hindering your progress.

1) Have you seen a doctor about your nausea? It is going to be imperative that you eat on a regular basis, and if you can't eat, you need to go to the doctor to find out why.

2) There is always going to be some stress or outside influences that make focusing on yourself and your health a challenge. So whatever they are currently, you have to figure out how to work around those.

3) Whatever your plan is, and I hope you have a safe, effective one that provides your body proper nutrition and fuel, you have to make it happen. It is going to take some work at the beginning to get yourself on a schedule and learn about portions, replacement behaviors for when you are wanting to eat out of stress, boredom, etc, and how to get everything ready for yourself. But after awhile, it starts to become almost automatic and the work starts to pay off. IMHO, weight loss is next to impossible unless you are willing to make active steps to make it happen.

4) I would personally advise you to stop focusing so much on the scale itself, and start to spend a lot more time focusing on the behaviors in #3. Until you get that straight, you are just probably making yourself crazy thinking about those 3-4 pounds in the last few months. The scale is going to go nowhere but up until you really start taking care of yourself, so why bother worrying about the numbers unless you are making active steps to change?

I really hope you take this as it is intended -- with kindness and respect. I just hear your struggle in every post you make, and it makes me sad. Keep fighting the good fight, keep posting, keep thinking about your plan and tweaking to make it something you can live with, and don't forget to love yourself, too! :hug:

Lori Bell
09-17-2010, 11:02 AM
What kind of food do you eat? Food intolerances can cause nausea...and when a person has a food allergy/intolerance they will often crave the very food they can not tolerate.

Gluten (wheat containing products) and casein (dairy products) are often the biggest culprits.

My advice is to go to the DOctor. According to several of your posts in the 300+ club this nausea went on for weeks, subsided, and was followed by a total sugar/carb fest . I don't understand I guess...is the nausea back or are you still binging on bagels and stuff like you said in a previous post?

milliondollarbbw
10-01-2010, 12:40 AM
So, I am recommitting myself to losing weight. I have gained like 10lbs in a month. Yikes!

I do realize that while my portion size has drastically gone down (on some days, I would bring only a scone and an energy bar to cover both my breakfast and lunch, and I wouldn't be hungry---which is unusual for me), the amount of carbs and sugar has greatly increased. So, I am most likely swapping the lower portions with the higher intake of sugar via well, sugar, and carbs. I know a lot of it was stress as I just didn't want to get on the scale AT. ALL.

So, I need to get back on track. I am not going to buy the carb heavy foods, cut back on any sugary drinks, and make sure that each meal I have has a good amount of protein. There were some days when the only protein I had was maybe in the milk in my coffee! Not good!

My nausea has gone down a lot, though, I can't get too crazy with eating the amounts I used to eat. When I see my doctor, I will try and talk to her about it. It is difficult as so many doctors see the weight, and well, they just get this preformed image in their minds and I feel like they become a lot less helpful.

I need to get this weight down as my self-esteem is not doing so good. I am worried about being able to pay my bills (money concerns), finding love (not sure that is in the cards right now), being able to progress in life and achieve more in my career (I don't think my bosses really respect me, and the market is so hard right now to find something better), and just actually feeling happy in my life.

I hope that with the change in diet, the increase in exercise, and focusing on keeping in my mind the life I want to lead, that I can be more of the person that does what makes them happy, versus the person I am now----who sits at home looking at how great everyone else seems, and wishing I could live the life that I want to live and be able to be happy, versus being angry at the world.

SassyPoppet
10-01-2010, 10:21 AM
Good for you - recommitting to what you believe in can be extremely empowering if you recognize the power it takes to make it so. Please hang in there - take it one day at a time. I can do a day, but thinking of having to do this for months can be overwhelming. Baby steps! Oh, and no matter what, wear lipstick and mascara every day :) hehe, this always! makes me feel better.

One section of your last post that really resonated with me is the following: "I need to get this weight down as my self-esteem is not doing so good. I am worried about being able to pay my bills (money concerns), finding love (not sure that is in the cards right now), being able to progress in life and achieve more in my career (I don't think my bosses really respect me, and the market is so hard right now to find something better), and just actually feeling happy in my life."

So a tid bit more of the "tough love"... honey pie don't try to take this all on at the same time when you're valiantly trying to take care of yourself. If you're not loving yourself and struggling to regain self-confidence to strengthen your self-esteem - believe me when I say this low energy will overshadow everything else you're trying to do, and may in fact be permeating your relationships. There's really nothing wrong with taking a few months (like 3).. and do the following:

1. If you need to save money, make a budget, and track your money like you do your exercise and food/water. Stay within a range and save everything else.

2. Finding love... everyone in this world deserves to love and be loved by someone, and while you may want to love and be loved at this very moment, you may not be in the right place yourself to be able to do either. Take the time to get yourself on track (it will also allow yourself to save some money).. but take a rest - focus every ounce of energy on you. It's hard to do, believe me, but it's very empowering to know that you don't have to do anything but make yourself strong. Get out and walk, breathe in some fresh air, read a good book, learn some new healthy recipes, do some bicep curls, clean out that closet... take a deep breath and smile at yourself and love who you see.

3. Bosses and respect - being a "boss" myself, one of the biggest things I have learned is that when I am my busiest, I am the shortest and take the least amount of time to assist and make strong my biggest assest - and that's the people I work with. Bosses have a responsibility to take care of those that work for them... but its a hard lesson and one that not everyone takes to heart or continually works on. I guess what I'm trying to say is that your bosses may not even be aware of their behavior (which isn't an excuse) and is not something you can control. What you can control is your own attitude and their lack of consideration or empathy parrellel to your own admitted sensitivity makes for the perfect storm. Control what you can - do the best job that you can, be timely, accurate and full of integrity and you really can't go wrong. If you can honestly say you're doing this, and not being a gossiper, negative nellie, or any of those things - then you must have an open an honest conversation with the powers that be and articulate your concerns (I'd be more than willing help you phrase the conversation if this is the path you go down)...

Happiness - well, happiness is always a work in progress and you're tackling a number of things to get you in the right frame of mind and body to give yourself a solid foundation in which to act. It's not going to be easy, but dammit it's going to be sooooo worth it. Every step you take forward gets you one step closer to goal, and that is something that's very doable - one step at a time. If you take a step backwards - cry, scream, vent, rave, run around the block, up the stairs and down the street - but get it out, deal with it to the point you're able to stand tall and take another step forward.

Remember we are incredibly strong people - not many can do what we're doing and that is taking a good hard look at ourselves and working our bodies and mind to be exactly what we envision. Take that power and run with it babycakes, run!

:)
Sass :hug:

SassyPoppet
10-01-2010, 10:24 AM
PS - I forgot to mention this too... do you take a daily vitamin in the AM? if so, I've gone through a phase that it makes me very very queasy to the point of wanting to throw up. I find that if I eat and then take it I'm ok, or take it with a little OJ it works better. Just something to consider if you do this...

rockinrobin
10-01-2010, 10:36 AM
So, I am recommitting myself to losing weight. I have gained like 10lbs in a month. Yikes!

I do realize that while my portion size has drastically gone down (on some days, I would bring only a scone and an energy bar to cover both my breakfast and lunch, and I wouldn't be hungry---which is unusual for me), the amount of carbs and sugar has greatly increased. So, I am most likely swapping the lower portions with the higher intake of sugar via well, sugar, and carbs. I know a lot of it was stress as I just didn't want to get on the scale AT. ALL.

So, I need to get back on track. I am not going to buy the carb heavy foods, cut back on any sugary drinks, and make sure that each meal I have has a good amount of protein. There were some days when the only protein I had was maybe in the milk in my coffee! Not good!

My nausea has gone down a lot, though, I can't get too crazy with eating the amounts I used to eat. When I see my doctor, I will try and talk to her about it. It is difficult as so many doctors see the weight, and well, they just get this preformed image in their minds and I feel like they become a lot less helpful.

I need to get this weight down as my self-esteem is not doing so good. I am worried about being able to pay my bills (money concerns), finding love (not sure that is in the cards right now), being able to progress in life and achieve more in my career (I don't think my bosses really respect me, and the market is so hard right now to find something better), and just actually feeling happy in my life.

I hope that with the change in diet, the increase in exercise, and focusing on keeping in my mind the life I want to lead, that I can be more of the person that does what makes them happy, versus the person I am now----who sits at home looking at how great everyone else seems, and wishing I could live the life that I want to live and be able to be happy, versus being angry at the world.

I'm glad to hear that you are ready to re-commit!! That's exciting. I am fairly certain that once you clean up your diet, you will be feeling much better.

You mentioned that you will cut back on the sugar-y drinks? How about eliminating them altogether? I know for me and loads of other successful folks around here - that cold turkey is the way to go with the sugar (and flour). After an initial difficult period (for me it was about two weeks), as you detox from the stuff, it than becomes, dare I say - easy.

You have to remember that it is no hardship to not eat this stuff. It is no deprivation to not eat these foods. The deprivation is actually eating them and remaining fat and underutilized and not living life to it's fullest. No more settling for second best, not when first best is well within your reach.

Will you be counting calories? For me, it's forced portion control and ESSENTIAL. I need something to guide me, since my intuitive eating nozzle is missing. Please set yourself up for success - journal your foods, track your calories, set yourself some boundaries, get rid of the garbage, add in the good stuff, plan ahead, and than plan, plan and plan some more.

You CAN do this. You've got the ability to lose the weight. You don't have to be fat if you don't want to be. Get excited about the changes you are about to make, as there's a whole new wonderful world about to open up to you. :carrot:

dragonwoman64
10-02-2010, 02:47 PM
if you're eating/drinking a lot of carbs and sugars, the spikes and drops of your blood sugar levels might make you feel queasy and affect your appetite. it also can affect your mood and energy levels (and sleep patterns).

the jeans being tight could be water retention from food, salt, TOM; could be the jeans going through the wash.

it's easy to get overwhelmed when you pile a lot of stuff (love, job, weight, money) together. you might want to try focusing for a while on one or two areas: eating healthy, budgeting (just a suggestion, pick what's most important to you, but I definitely would have eating healthy as one item, since I think that may be key to letting you focus on other areas).

ubergirl
10-03-2010, 01:08 AM
if you're eating/drinking a lot of carbs and sugars, the spikes and drops of your blood sugar levels might make you feel queasy and affect your appetite. it also can affect your mood and energy levels (and sleep patterns).

I agree with this, and I think you should schedule a Dr.'s appt on the double. There are some not very nice things that can cause constant nausea and bloating-- one of them is ovarian cancer. Another possible culprit is DIABETES. Many people with uncontrolled diabetes have a decreased appetite in the morning because of very high blood sugars in the morning. Their appetite doesn't pick up until the middle of the day.

Getting healthy and dropping some of the weight will make you feel MUCH BETTER.

milliondollarbbw
10-14-2010, 11:00 PM
I got on the scale this morning for the first time in a few days. Sigh. How can you gain 10 pounds in a week? Sigh. I think I am retaining a small ocean.

I have been eating less, and have gone to my doc and hopefully a new medicine she prescribed will help me to lose weight and to reduce my appetite. It isn't meant for that, but I read that it is one of the side effects (I am ok with that).

I see myself looking thinner, but my pants are still too tight on some days, and, I saw a picture of myself recently that was just so, so, so gross. At times, even though I know it is wrong, I wish I could be anorexic. Of course I don't want to be skeletal, but if I could just take a break from eating for a while...sigh.

I am working on how much I eat, and haven't been eating to getting full in a long, long time. I used to eat to the point of being super, super full. Now I don't. So I am happy about that. I need to get the sugar habit down, as I have been having sweets with my coffee as my breakfast. Not good. Lately, I have just been trying to do whatever possible to remain relaxed and calm, and sometimes sugar and treats are what do that. I know it is not a good coping mechanism, so I am hoping that working out at night will improve the happiness and relaxed feelings.

shannonmb
10-15-2010, 08:45 AM
I am pretty convinced that real, sustainable weight loss is simply not possible for most people (I know that's a bold statement) without a specific, comprehensive eating plan. Do you have one? I personally don't think people who start off at our starting weights can just plan on "watching the sweets" or "trying to cut back on the junk food" to obtain any kind of meaningful change.

When I started back here in May, I was wholly unsure if a decent weight loss was possible for me. I had tried and failed so many times in the past!! I decided that I was going to develop a healthy, satisfying eating plan, and stick to it like glue and see what happened. In these last few months, I have really rooted myself in these better behaviors, and now I am getting to the point where I just know what to eat and when, how to manage eating out, what to do when hunger strikes, and at this point, very rarely do I even think about the crappy stuff. I was at a meeting at work the other day, I knew there would be junk food, so I ate breakfast before I went. It didn't even cross my mind that I could have "just one" of the little cinnamon rolls lots of other people were munching on. It has really just sort of become something I just don't do. I didn't have to white-knuckle it through the meeting just wishing I was allowed to eat that, not at all. That is why I know I am going to succeed this time, all the way to goal weight. I KNOW it. I have detoxed my body of the junk it does not want or need, I am fully satisfied with what I do choose to eat, and I have made a commitment to myself to keep it that way.

It all started with my taking the time to work out a realistic plan that will keep me fueled properly and appeal to me taste-wise. If I hadn't done that, then I would have been sitting in that meeting 5 months later thinking "well, just 2 of these cinnamon rolls is cutting back, right -- they're small!" Setting me up for a day of uncontrollable cravings and struggling to do anything right with my diet, not to mention fatigue, bloat, blech, and wondering why I STILL haven't lost any weight even though I told myself I was going to back in May!

Make yourself a very specific plan, and hold on for dear life for a few weeks. Smooth sailing after that! I'm not saying I never have temptations or urges to eat bad stuff, but they are much fewer and further between, and I can HANDLE them now, when before I never could.

I would wish you luck, but really, luck has nothing to do with it.

Edit: I am actually full after eating my meals -- not super, duper sick full, but comfortably, satisfied full. I love that feeling and couldn't do this if I didn't have it. And as for the exercise, make sure you are not doing it right before you go to bed, because exercise can make you super-alert and keep you awake longer, and you DEFINITELY need to sleep well/enough IMHO!

rockinrobin
10-15-2010, 09:13 AM
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I see myself looking thinner, but my pants are still too tight on some days, and, I saw a picture of myself recently that was just so, so, so gross. At times, even though I know it is wrong, I wish I could be anorexic. Of course I don't want to be skeletal, but if I could just take a break from eating for a while...sigh.

Lately, I have just been trying to do whatever possible to remain relaxed and calm, and sometimes sugar and treats are what do that. I know it is not a good coping mechanism, so I am hoping that working out at night will improve the happiness and relaxed feelings.

Well you can't take a break from eating, but you can take a break from eating the *wrong* foods and the wrong quantities.

As far as the sugar and treats calming you, how long does that calming affect last? ISn't it time to find something that gives you true comfort without the guilt, without the ill side affects?

Shannon just wrote a sticky worthy post and I can't say it any better than that.

I'll just add this much copied post of mine:

Know that you DO have the ability to lose the weight. We all do. It's not some hare brained, crazy, out of this world scheme. We all are capable of it. Yourself included.

Eating well, adhering to a healthy life style is nothing to fear, nothing to loathe. Remaining obese IS. So, you need to fear and loathe it (remaining obese).

At some point, you will have to come to the conclusion that all that *food* comes at too high of a price. That the consequences are just too high.

At some point your desire to be thin, healthy, fit and active will have to outweigh, overtake and overpower the desire for all that food.

At some point you will have to come to terms that you just can't have it both ways - the high calorie, high quantity food and be the optimal you.

At some point you will have to recognize that you DO have the power over this. That it IS within your control. That being overweight is a choice. That getting slim is a choice. And you are the one that gets to choose.

At some point you will have to realize that it's okay to tell yourself no. That you don't have to give into a craving or a desire or a want. You will have to stop worrying about your immediate gratification and look to your long term satisfaction.

At some point, you'll have to change what you want. The foods that you're eating, the way that you're living.

At some point you will have to change your relationship with food. You can't use it for times of anger, loneliness, boredom, stress, happiness, joy.

At some point you will have to stop focusing on what you are giving up and focus on what you are GAINING.

At some point you will just have to do the mature, responsible, adult thing and make mature, responsible decisions.

At some point you will have to realize that all work, effort, time, devotion, persistence and dedication that this requires is incredibly worth it and to not do it would be ludicrous.

At some point you will just have to suck it up and get past the uncomfortable moments of changing your bad habits and incorporating the new ones in. There WILL be uncomfortable moments - initially, temporarily.

At some point you will have to raise your standards and require more from yourself. And stop settling for foods that just taste good. You'll need them to taste good and BE good for you; long after your done chewing.

At some point you will have to challenge yourself and really, really push yourself. You'll have to give it 150 percent. You'll have to push and push. Reaching, stretching, striving, growing, prospering.

At some point you'll have to realize that eating well, adhering to a healthy lifestyle is no prison sentence. But a ticket to freedom. That will open up more doors to you than you can possibly imagine. Ones you didn't even realize were closed.

At some point you will have to say, enough is enough. I'm not going to take this another minute. I'm done being fat. That it can't possibly be as hard to lose the weight as it is to remain morbidly obese. Choosing your hard.

At some point you will have to decide to do this, once and for all, permanently and NO MATTER WHAT. No matter what.

At some point you'll have to set yourself up for success. Get rid of the junk. Make a plan, make a plan, make a plan. Plan, plan and than plan some more. Plan out your food schedule in advance, knowing where each and every bite is coming from AHEAD OF TIME. Much easier to stick to a plan when you've got one. Write down each and every morsel that goes into your mouth before it goes in that said mouth. No matter what. It doesn't go into your mouth before you write it down. Be firm. Make some boundaries, make some rules. Set some limits. And stick to them. No matter what. Stop giving yourself permission to veer off. Enough is enough. Time to do the mature, responsible thing, even if you don't want to. Eventually, you'll want to.

And luckily once you get into it, working past that initial discomfort, getting through the detox period so to speak, and it becomes more habitual and then those rewards start surfacing and it no longer feels like a sacrifice - it becomes dare I say - easy. But you've got to get there. You've got to push through to get to that point. So I urge you to PUSH YOURSELF. Find out what you're capable of. Amaze yourself.

And really, why on earth WOULDN'T you do this? Why???? Why keep settling for second best when first best is well within your reach? Break those bad habits, incorporate the new good ones. Isn't it worth going through a little uncomfortable moments for a few weeks or heck even months to switch behaviors, learn some new skill, master something incredible and have a wonderful, more carefree life? One with lotssssss less worries and anxieties and one with much more joy, happiness, confidence, self respect, stamina, energy, vitality,optimal health and choices???

milliondollarbbw
10-17-2010, 09:15 PM
Thank you. :)