100 lb. Club - Fearing the "after" body




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caryesings
09-08-2010, 06:38 PM
Alternate title: Continuation of Saef's real women's abdomens suggestion.

I read a lot of threads of folks that are scared of what their bodies will look like after a large weight loss or are disappointed by what they see when they actually get there. So I made a promise that I would post "the ugly truth" when I got to 100 lbs. down.

My stats - Carried around that extra 100 lbs for 20 years. Gained the weight very fast (all in one year). Have lost fairly slowly (@1.4 lbs. per week). I exercise @6 hours/week, combination of stationary bike, walking/hiking, lap swimming. Some aerobics and yoga. Teeny tiny amount of weight lifting for bat wings.

So first picture is showing it all and yep, not terribly attractive. On the other hand, 2nd picture is clothed and think that body looks pretty hot for a woman who will be 51 next month.


milmin2043
09-08-2010, 06:51 PM
Thank you SO much for posting the pictures. I also have 105 lbs. to lose, lost 40 so far. I have been concerned about what my skin and body will look like after losing it all.
I think you look terrific. You have so much to be proud of. Determination and persistence have definitely paid off for you. Thanks again very much. Your success story has made me believe that I can actually do this and not feel bad about my body image after I get there.

rockinrobin
09-08-2010, 06:54 PM
I think you look pretty darn hot as well, and not just for a 51 year old!

Thanks for posting. Although you just took away the "afraid what they'll look like after weight loss" excuse for many people ;).


MablesGirl
09-08-2010, 07:14 PM
I think you look great!

Angie
09-08-2010, 07:26 PM
For those starting out, like me, perhaps we should take a picture of ourselves in our underwear now to compare to our after. I'm much more afraid of seeing myself naked now than what I will look like after my hard work pays off.

Congratulations on your great success!

susiemartin
09-08-2010, 07:56 PM
You look terrific!

maryblu
09-08-2010, 08:06 PM
Kudos, Carysings, and Wow! You look great. Thanks for your post, because this has been bugging me for a while....

Two things that come to mind are:

All of us who have lost "the weight" look great in clothes. We should be asking ourselves how many ppl really see us nekkid, and if it is a large #, we may have more issues than loose skin!!!

I just don't understand ppl worrying about this issue prematurely. I am not talking about those of us close to goal who now realize we have some "excess baggage", but I have read dozens, literally dozens, of posts of us who have just started, have 1oo#s to lose, and are worrying prematurely about this ..c'mon, if we have a significant amount to lose, first things first..worry about the skin issue once at a healthy weight.

Good for you, Angie..I agree with you!

milmin2043, congrats on 40#..you will succeed and look as hot as Cary!

mandalinn82
09-08-2010, 08:07 PM
I just don't understand ppl worrying about this issue prematurely. I am not talking about those of us close to goal who now realize we have some "excess baggage", but I have read dozens, literally dozens, of posts of us who have just started, have 1oo#s to lose, and are worrying prematurely about this ..c'mon, if we have a significant amount to lose, first things first..worry about the skin issue once at a healthy weight.

Not to mention...if you feel like you're no better off, you can always gain it back and fill that skin right out again.

SeaWave
09-08-2010, 08:08 PM
Personally, I'm more worried about how I'd look years from now being unable to care for myself because of illness brought on by the extra weight. I think you look great, caryesings! :bravo:

plumeria
09-08-2010, 08:31 PM
I think you look amazing!!

I'm more concerned about the long term health consequences of staying at my current weight than I am of what I will look like once I lose it. That hadn't even crossed my mind, to be honest.

time2lose
09-08-2010, 08:32 PM
I think you look great. Much better than I do, but my starting weight was higher than yours and I am shorter. Even though my skin is sagging, I would not fill it up for any price!

Trazey34
09-08-2010, 08:48 PM
I think you look awesome!!! BUT even if you looked horrible it's still worth it -- i'd rather be ALIVE right???

but lucky you -- live long AND be hot woooooot!

duckyyellowfeet
09-08-2010, 08:50 PM
You look awesome! Seriously. Congrats.

And fine, I worry about it! Maybe its because I haven't had too many "man, I am too fat to do that" moments that make me take myself out of the shallow end of the thought process.

DaughterOfVenus
09-08-2010, 09:03 PM
I worry about it, but not too much. I've promised myself that if I need it, I'll skip having new cars and get a plastic surgery loan instead of auto loans.

However, you look fantastic! Amazing job!

lovemyboy
09-08-2010, 09:09 PM
You look fantastic!!! Thank you so much for posting REAL pictures. I think the mind imagines how we will look after weight loss as either an empty bag of skin or a bikini model, neither of which are accurate. Your picture shows that what we get is to look hot in clothes with a few extra wrinkles underneath. That and we have our health with which to enjoy our new hotness.

This just shows we should not let the skin worries stop us. Like someone else said, how many people see us naked anyway. For me, it's just medical personnel who are under oath to be professional about what they see anyway.

You look great!!

Jane
09-08-2010, 10:13 PM
....... We should be asking ourselves how many ppl really see us nekkid, and if it is a large #, we may have more issues than loose skin!!!......

:rofl:

TamiL
09-08-2010, 10:14 PM
Great job! I am glad that you were able to post these photos and show the reality of what really happens to our bodies. Our bodies do not miraculously transform into some airbrushed super model body just because we lose weight. What we get is what we are just in a smaller more compact size.

I used to obsess over this too while losing weight. Now that I have lost the weight, I no longer worry about it. Yes, I have some wrinkly skin, lots of stretch marks and various other wiggly parts, but I had those when I was heavy as well!!! I am proud of my body the way it is now. I am confident in the way I look and carry myself. I will rock my size 2 jeans and mini skirts at age 45 and be happy for what I have accomplished. Life is too short to focus our attention on things that just are....

saef
09-08-2010, 10:58 PM
Thank you, Cary, for taking me up on my suggestion in that earlier thread. I join many others in appreciating your candor. You have done us all a lot of good by showing us these pictures. And I believe that, in turn, it's also going to do you some good, hearing your hard work & your bravery validated by everyone posting here.

We do really need pictures of real women -- that we see every day, that we work with, that we interact on this board -- post-weight-loss. We all are carrying airbrushed pictures of models & actresses in our heads, and I'm not sure that sometimes they're doing us any good. We don't have to aspire to look exactly like that, and to be dissatisfied with ourselves if we don't achieve it, in every detail. We just need to do our best & try to be the best version of ourselves that we can be -- and that's a lot of work, with all the obstacles that life seems to throw at us daily. That's really enough.

You look great. You have done an amazing thing.

milmin2043
09-08-2010, 10:59 PM
@TamiL-you look amazing! Congratulations.
Also, I agree with everything that everyone on this thread has already said. If I didn't have something to obsess over, I wouldn't be happy!! :)
However, I am thrilled to be losing weight and thrilled to have the problem of loose skin.
My biggest problem right now is that my boobs look like 2 deflated tiny balloons. None of my bras fit and I look like I am playing dress up in them. That's after only 40 lbs. I can't imagine after 105 lbs. lost. I have always lost weight from the top down. This time, of course, is no different. BUT, I will be able to shop at Victoria's Secret. I always look at the bright side of every situation.
All of you are amazing and I am so glad to have found this site. Thank you all very much.

Tai
09-08-2010, 11:47 PM
I think you look wonderful; congratulations for all your hard work!

tryn2bfit
09-08-2010, 11:54 PM
Thanks for sharing! You look great!

Jessica88
09-09-2010, 12:05 AM
You look GREAT!! You should be so proud of yourself :)

saef- there is another tread where some girls have posted pictures of their stomaches after losing weight http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/body-image-issues-after-weight-loss/201209-how-does-your-stomach-look.html :)

shannonmb
09-09-2010, 07:35 AM
Cary, bless your sweet heart for posting those pics. It'll be much worse for me, but it's all relative. You look outstanding!

I understand the gals who still have most of their weight to lose who are in a flurry about what their bodies are going to look like when they are done. Sometimes we can keep ourselves so numb with the food that we truly don't understand what we are doing to ourselves. Then we have that "aha" moment, commit to a healthy lifestyle, and then have to truly mourn what being overweight has cost us. I don't think any of us can really recover from obesity totally unscathed. For some of the younger girls, that mourning probably takes the form of understanding that they may never be the hottest girl on the beach. For me, I have robbed myself of being fit and healthy for the first 9 years of my daughter's life.

No question we will all be healthier and probably happier as the weight continues to come off. But I imagine we all have our demons to fight on the way down!

rockinrobin
09-09-2010, 07:55 AM
!

Sometimes we can keep ourselves so numb with the food that we truly don't understand what we are doing to ourselves.


This is so true! Why didn't we think - oh no, what will I look like NOW if I eat this? Where was the concern THEN? Because as we all know, you can't cover up the fat, there is no concealing it. And it is always in the way.

Not to mention that the fat potentially causes a slew of debilitating and deadly diseases - extra skin - nada.

The time to have thought of it was before and during. Now, we've got to deal with the consequences. I am thankful beyond to belief though, to have to deal with those said consequences. Because the consequences of keeping the weight on - waaaaaaay worse set of consequences.

Eliana
09-09-2010, 09:11 AM
You know what I think is terrific about YOUR body? You have fabulous, FABULOUS arms and legs and that's all anyone sees clothed!! You can sport tank tops and shorts!!

I have worked very, very hard to get the arms you have and I'm still working toward those legs. ;)

renstwin
09-09-2010, 10:06 AM
I think you look great! :)

fitkristi
09-09-2010, 10:12 AM
We should be asking ourselves how many ppl really see us nekkid, and if it is a large #, we may have more issues than loose skin!!!



Bwahahaha!

Congrats, OP! You look AMAZING!

matt_H
09-09-2010, 12:48 PM
I'm glad I'm not the only one showing a bit of skin ;)

You look great! The loose skin will definitely improve over time.

Lyn2007
09-09-2010, 01:12 PM
You look great! I personally have some issues with how my body looks naked BUT I make sure to look every day, pay attention, and gradually I am accepting it. It is not bad really, and people always say I look hot when I am out and about so I'll take that.

DaughterOfVenus
09-09-2010, 02:06 PM
"For some of the younger girls, that mourning probably takes the form of understanding that they may never be the hottest girl on the beach."

Screw that, I don't care if my tummy does get all hangy, I'll get a tummy control suit and still be the hottest girl on the beach. Hot is a state of mind.

Matilda08
09-09-2010, 04:18 PM
you look great!!!! WTG on your success

RobinD
09-09-2010, 04:33 PM
Screw that, I don't care if my tummy does get all hangy, I'll get a tummy control suit and still be the hottest girl on the beach. Hot is a state of mind.

I LOVE your attitude, Brenda!

Carrie, I have more to lose than you, am only one inch taller and 3 years younger. Your honesty is appreciated because, while I know I won't look exactly like you ('cause I'm not you), and I know I won't look like I turned back the clock 7 years (when I was last slim) I now have a clearer mental image as to what to expect. Honestly, I had absolutely no idea what losing 100+ pounds does to a middle aged woman's body. Now I have a much clearer idea, which I find a relief. I'm not so afraid any more. Thank you very, very much.

You look great, and should feel very proud of what you have accomplished!

Hugs,
Robin

sweet93tricia
09-09-2010, 04:37 PM
you look geat. Good job! :carrot:

dragonwoman64
09-09-2010, 08:36 PM
but lucky you -- live long AND be hot woooooot!

couldn't have said it better! strike out: for a XX year old, please!

Lori Bell
09-09-2010, 10:58 PM
Damn Woman...This is SOOOO not fair!! :tantrum: How come you still have boobage?

OMG I am SO jealous...:stress:

Move over Blanche, here comes the new hottest "Golden Girl" :D

rockinrobin
09-09-2010, 11:23 PM
Honestly, I had absolutely no idea what losing 100+ pounds does to a middle aged woman's body.


Well of course every single body is different. But really, could you imagine a 100 + pound loss not being anything but spectacular and an incredible improvement of unbelievable proportions to a middle aged, young aged, old aged or simply any aged - woman's body??? :)