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09-06-2010, 12:55 PM
Part of me wants to tell my DH how much I weigh as an extra motivator to get up and exercise, but a part of me says "Some secrets in a marriage are good!" :D

I'm wondering how many of you have told your husbands/wives/partners/significant other your weight?

09-06-2010, 01:04 PM
When I first started over a year ago I never told anyone how much I weighed, I just said too much. Just last night I told my mom for the first time how much I weighed when I started and how much I weigh now. She asked a couple times throughout the entire time I was loosing and I didn't tell her exactly. Other than that, a couple of my friends know how much I weigh now, it doesn't really bother me telling people anymore.

09-06-2010, 01:06 PM
These days, everyone. It's part of my mental set of "rules"--no lying about your weight. And I can tell lots of people are curious, now that I have lost a lot.

When I was at my high weight? No one, not even me. I didn't go to the doctor for years so that even the doctor wouldn't know.

09-06-2010, 01:08 PM
I don't lie, but I AVOID. I haven't told ANYONE my weight, expect for those here :)

09-06-2010, 01:15 PM
I struggle with this one. In my experience people fixate on "the number" and it becomes part of your permanent stats when they think of you. My doc and a couple of truly good-hearted friends are the only ones who know. I admire people who can just fess up and tell people the number.

09-06-2010, 01:17 PM
Me, my doctor, and you guys. That's it!

AZ Sunrises
09-06-2010, 01:20 PM
:) I'm the only one. No one else has a reason to know or would really care. I don't care to know what someone else weighs either.

09-06-2010, 01:41 PM
After a while I told my SO, the folks here, and one or two other people.

09-06-2010, 01:45 PM
I told a friend the day I got under 300, that was a huge moment for me. And I found that once I told him (even though he had been through it, was around 375 when he started, and would understand) I felt freer... like it was just a number. Up until then anyone I had talked to I had just told them how much I'd lost, with no point of reference. Now I've told a bunch of people... my mom, a few friends, my roommates (it was part of the "this is why I eat like I do, please don't expect me to join you for delivered pizza, but I'll gladly make us pizza!" sort of conversation), my doctor, etc. I feel like it frees me from the notion that my weight defines me. It's like "I have brown hair, I have blue eyes, I weigh ____ pounds." It describes me, but doesn't define me.

09-06-2010, 01:45 PM
Me, my doctor, my dietitian, my counselor & you guys. I see no point in letting others know...they already tell me I'm too skinny & I don't need them having a number to use against me as well. :P

09-06-2010, 02:01 PM
I'm ashamed of my weight, but I don't hide it from anyone. I tell people my highest, lowest, current...whatever they want to know. Boyfriend guessed my weight to within 5 lbs, so I just confirmed it for him :)

It was really hard at first...but now that I've "come clean" with the world, it makes my weight loss efforts much easier to talk about. People are also much more supportive now that I'm so open about my desire to be a healthy weight.

09-06-2010, 02:02 PM
My husband knows. It always used to be such a big deal, but then we were both trying to lose weight and decided to start a contest, so I had to tell him. It was so hard, but he didn't care one bit. He sees me naked, it's not like knowing the number really makes any difference. :) It's nice to be able to share my specific number goals with him too, to have someone in real life to talk to about that stuff. Funny thing is, I still won't tell my mom or my sister, not that either one of them have asked. I've also been thinking about if I want to disclose my highest weight once I lose a bunch. Do I really want people to identify me as a specific number? It's funny how we all have different opinions on who should know this kind of info.

09-06-2010, 02:14 PM
Me, my doctor, and you guys. That's it!
Me too!

09-06-2010, 02:17 PM
I tell anyone who asks now!!! :D The way I look at it... as much as I've lost, I should be proud of my 1, 7, and 8!!!!! ;) :carrot:

09-06-2010, 03:19 PM
My husband knows, sort of. He knew at one time so if he does the math he can figure it out. :D But I make him do the math! My best girlfriend recently revealed her weight to me...but now she makes me do the math. :rofl: She updates me on pounds lost, but I bet she never reveals her actual weight again.

It's interesting knowing other people's weights. My mom is a tiny 4'9". I won't use real numbers so as not to offend anyone. She's a very large woman for her tiny height. She recently revealed her weight to me and I thought she was SEVENTY FIVE pounds heavier than she actually is. That tells you how hard it is to accurately measure up a person who is not your height.

09-06-2010, 03:26 PM
I have told my hubby because he sees me naked it's not like he can't see the weight without the number. He has started cheering me on now rather than saying I won't stick to this one. I have totally quit drinking pop and love seeing the scale keep going down and he is there standing beside me when I step on the scale of the mornings. I like that he knows.

09-06-2010, 03:34 PM
(Hope it's okay for me to post here :))

When I was at my highest weight, nobody knew. My driver's license said 150lbs. I knew that was a lie and I was higher than that, but I had no idea by how much. I really had to grow a chest hair to finally step on the scale when I first started and see how much I actually weighed. I was disgusted, but not really surprised by the number. I definitely did not tell anybody my starting weight for awhile. Now, a few close friends who have also lost weight know my starting weight.

These days though...shoot, I love telling people my weight, haha. If it was socially acceptable to introduce myself by saying "hey, I'm Megan...I weigh 128 pounds" then I totally would, lol. I volunteer that information freely.

09-06-2010, 03:35 PM
I am an open book about weight. My friends at work know, my family knows...
I find it kind of empowering to "wear my weight well" and let people know that you can still be appealing above 200lbs :)

09-06-2010, 03:35 PM
My DH knows. I'm usually dancing around naked when I tell him though, so I'm not sure he's paying much attention. ;)

Of course my doctor also knows - I may be naked, but I'm certainly not dancing there!

09-06-2010, 03:39 PM
At some point or another, I've told my weight to my mom, my sister, 4 of my close girl friends and one of my guy friends. I haven't really talked to any of them about it that recently, but they all know where I started and a ballpark of where I am now.

edit- oh and my both of my old trainers (one of which went to HS with me, totally weird to find out he was gonna be my trainer) and some of my old co-workers. I worked at a gym to it was a good place to bounce weight loss ideas and motivation off of people. All of these people are back in Atlanta though, the only person in Nashville that knows is my sister. My roommate and some co-workers know how much I've lost, but never saw me at my HW or know what I weigh/ed.

09-06-2010, 03:40 PM
My husband knows because I am trying to get under his weight as a mini-goal. I tell anyone who asks, it's just a stinking number, not a reflection of my worth as a person. I don't tell people at work though, I try to keep my work life and private life separate, although I will tell them how much I have lost if someone asks.

09-06-2010, 03:57 PM
Up until recently, no one knew! It felt important to divulge the highest number though to a few people - BF, mom among them. Sort of an attmept to let it go. I don;t ever want to be back there and knowing that people know is motivating.

09-06-2010, 03:59 PM
I've told a couple of good friends who are also working on their weight via nutrition and exercise. It's sort of motivational.

BUT . . . my brother-in-law and another good guy friend have both started trying to lose weight. As part of their weekly weigh-in, they post a picture of the scale on Facebook!! The don't even know each other, so it's not like the got the idea from each other. BIL is a big dude (6'3", so he's already heavier by default) and he doesn't seem self-conscious about everyone knowing his weight.


09-06-2010, 04:21 PM
My doctor, dietitian, weight-recorders at TOPS, Everyone at 3FC, my mom and sister. Most importantly my boyfriend knows because he is my number one support person and because I've asked him to help me with accountability.

09-06-2010, 05:01 PM
:O Shock Horror!!!!!!!!!!!! No one!!! Except you all (my 3FC peeps)! And until the number is respectable (say onederland), no one is going to know!!

09-06-2010, 05:11 PM
Nobody knew my weight - not even me - until I entered my weight loss program. Now DH knows, and is genuinely happy for me with each 1-pound victory. My BFF knows, although she's always been thin and there is much she just seems incapable of understanding. Anyone who opens my workbook would see, since it's all there in black and white. My 21-year-old (still at home) son and his GF, who are both incredibly supportive and are starting to make some better food choices themselves. My mom, who is also obese but has begun talking about Atkins. And here, of course.

09-06-2010, 05:56 PM
me, people here, my family, my bf, people on my facebook, people on my livejournal, etc etc...so yeah, I reckon I am an open book :D

Petite Powerhouse
09-06-2010, 05:58 PM
Me, my doctor, my dietitian, my counselor & you guys.

Ditto. In my life I've never shared my weight with anyone else. If my BF asked, I'd tell him, but he doesn't.

I'm probably going to have to out myself to a few friends soon, because they want to give blood as a group and I don't weigh enough to do so. So they will at least know I am under 110. But I still won't tell them what I actually weigh. I don't really know why: I guess I just don't care to talk about such things. I don't care what any of my friends weighs, and I like to think that what I weigh isn't really of interest to them.

09-06-2010, 06:29 PM
I haven't told anyone. I just say how much I've lost...but only if I'm asked. When I get down to my husband's weight (he's 160 - and eats whatever he wants), I'll let him do the math.

My husband often describes people/football players like "He's a big ol' boy...I bet he runs 270." I cringe everytime he says it. I honestly think his has no clue that I'm obese.

09-06-2010, 06:31 PM
As part of their weekly weigh-in, they post a picture of the scale on Facebook!!

I love this idea! Not so much the posting on Facebook, but the taking pictures of the scale, and the accountability? I might start doing this more. I took a picture when I got under 300... it was an amazing day!

09-06-2010, 08:23 PM
I haven't told anyone. I just say how much I've lost...but only if I'm asked. When I get down to my husband's weight (he's 160 - and eats whatever he wants), I'll let him do the math.

My husband often describes people/football players like "He's a big ol' boy...I bet he runs 270." I cringe everytime he says it. I honestly think his has no clue that I'm obese.

I know what you mean about the husband has no idea you are obese...I think men - especially married men who want to remain sexually active - are so conditioned to not even THINK about the weight of their wives.;)

The really funny thing, my job is global and I work with many people in Eastern Europe and Asia, and you would be surprised how quickly they will ask you "What is your weight?" It makes me LOL sometimes and I think how freeing it must be to not have those barriers like we do in the US.

09-06-2010, 08:54 PM
The really funny thing, my job is global and I work with many people in Eastern Europe and Asia, and you would be surprised how quickly they will ask you "What is your weight?" It makes me LOL sometimes and I think how freeing it must be to not have those barriers like we do in the US.

I lived in China for 4 years, and I cannot tell you how many times I was asked my weight. After the initial shock, I didn't mind the question, but that doesn't mean I answered it. I was a master of deflection! :D

09-06-2010, 08:57 PM
My husband, my doctor, everyone at 3fc ;), and everyone on another website I frequent. IRL people though are only my husband and my doctor. I *do* tell people how much I've lost, if they ask, though.

09-06-2010, 09:15 PM
Everyone who sees my sig & weigh-ins here and on 2 other boards I frequent. Offline, hubby and the kids and a couple of friends, since hubby and I have our weigh-in sheet taped to the inside of our bathroom door.

09-06-2010, 09:15 PM
I lived in China for 4 years, and I cannot tell you how many times I was asked my weight. After the initial shock, I didn't mind the question, but that doesn't mean I answered it. I was a master of deflection! :D

I usually say I don't know how to convert to metric...lol.

09-06-2010, 09:22 PM
I have always been open about my weight with my DH. He is very supportive and I knew he would never have one negative thing to say to me. My sisters, mother and 1 cousin knows. Plus everyone here.

09-06-2010, 09:26 PM
Once I got under 200 I finally told my boyfriend. My mom knows too, my cousin, my PE teacher (perhaps anyone that saw it on the weight sheet I filled out, I don't really think I'm that big any more so I'm not ashamed of it.) Everyone here too, this place has helped me embrace my weight so much! It's a great feeling to not care about the number on the scale :D

09-06-2010, 09:37 PM
I usually say I don't know how to convert to metric...lol.

That is TOTALLY one of the things I used to say! :D I would also say things like, "I think China and American use a different system," or I would have people guess, because they always guessed low and I told them they were "more or less" right. Sometimes I pretended I didn't understand Chinese (sad, but true - it's a very effective way to get out of awkward situations).

BTW, I went to UF in the late 90s, during the Spurrier era. I'll try not to hold it against you that you're a Gamecock fan. Go Gators! ;)

09-06-2010, 11:20 PM
Lots of people know. I try not to hide it! It's hard though.


09-07-2010, 06:13 AM
I guess lots of people know how much I weigh but I don't actually talk about my weight much with anyone. I am so much more than my weight so I don't let it define me.

Now, people are starting to ask me how much I have lost, but other than my family, I just say "a few pounds but I hope to loose more".

09-07-2010, 06:16 AM
Many years ago I told my husband, one of the most liberating things I ever did!
Now when people ask if I've lost weight, I just tell them "I'm condensing!"

09-07-2010, 10:28 AM
The only people that know my weight are my mom, after MONTHS of nagging, my doctor, the woman at the gym who weighs me, and my best friend.

09-07-2010, 10:51 AM
Most of my life, only God knew. :lol: When I went to the girly-parts doc, she knew... And now, its pretty much just you guys here!!

My BFF has a lot of health problems and some of her meds won't let her loose weight (even though she tries her darndest!).. So we give eachother ballparks, but I don't want to hurt her, so I always over-say. In the time I've lost my weight, she's lost something like 3 lbs, so... We always say "One day, in six years..." and then we crack up. :lol:

09-07-2010, 02:52 PM
1. 3fc (you heard it here first)
2. My husband (though I didn't tell him how high I'd been and was until I was more than halfway through my weightloss. The husband denial is so true. He even looked at the 'before' pic I'd put on our home desktop for inspiration and told me it was just a bad picture and that I hadn't been that fat. Yeah, I'd had a lot of "bad pictures.")
3. My doctor/nurse/insurance company, because the nurse weighs me.
4. 2 Female friends who are 5'6 and 5'10, respectively (my friend who is 4'11 thinks anyone over 100 pounds or so is overweight).
5. One neighbor, and a woman at my dentist's office, just because we were sharing large weight-loss details.

6 (Almost-but-not-quite) my mother. I told her and dad when I was down 50 -- they'd noticed loss -- and they were surprised I had that much to lose. I updated her for a little bit after that and when I got down 80 lbs my mother was shocked beyond anything that I'd had that much to lose. I could tell she was concerned and also trying to figure out how I could've had that much to lose. After that I didn't get specific with her again or any other relatives except my husband. For several reasons, I guess. I was freaked out that she was freaked out.

09-07-2010, 03:10 PM
You guys are the only ones who know my real weight. My husband knows how MUCH I've lost, but not the real numbers. Oh, I guess my doctor knows too, but he doesn't care. :lol: I only see him once a year.

My husband weighs 165 lbs. He's training for a triathlon and all fit and muscly. NO WAY am I discussing real numbers with him! Bless his cotton socks, he's never asked, either.

09-07-2010, 09:34 PM
My hubby and the nurse/doctor's office knows.

If my hubby weighed less than me, I'm not sure I'd share it with him. :D

09-07-2010, 11:04 PM
My girlfriend knows...and I think a friend or two does. I'm not really open about it in general, but if it comes up, I don't always shy away from the subject.

I've just come to terms with the fact that no one could have really thought I was 140lbs or something, so the actual number isn't the biggest issue ever

09-07-2010, 11:06 PM
The doctors office, and my boyfriend knows. He's the first person I've ever had the courage to tell.

09-08-2010, 02:20 AM
You guys are the only ones who know my weight - i flat out LIE to everyone else if i can't avoid it. Luckily, not too many people ask the fat girl for her weight and I won't be stepping on one of those "guess my weight" scales at the carnivals anytime soon!

09-08-2010, 10:38 AM
I know. And internet people know (funny how much easier it is to write it down to people you'll never see. :D). That's it. I do tell my husband how much I've lost, but not what I weigh. Maybe I will once I'm significantly smaller than him. (He's a foot taller and about 15 lbs lighter than me).

09-09-2010, 12:34 AM
This whole discussion reminds me of the time this obnoxious person I knew ran into me at the mall and was shocked, just shocked, at how much weight I'd lost. He acted like I was lying. I'd lost around 25 pounds over a healthy few months. He just made SUCH a big deal, and not in a "I'm so happy for you!" way, over the fact that he himself had lost 25 pounds but it had taken him a year. I felt kinda insulted every which way, though in the end I guess it's kinda funny. He seemed to not believe me and I couldn't tell if he thought surely I needed to lose more or if he thought I was lying because I didn't look like I had lost so much.

Then, my boss made SUCH a big deal about "the number," too, and told everyone she encountered that I'd lost 25 pounds. But not like it was a good thing. More like, "Gawd, can you believe she was SO overweight." This is a person who has never been a pound overweight in her life.

People are so funny. Not always ha-ha funny. So I feel just fine keeping my own "number" to myself.

I think for some comic relief someone should start a thread about all the obnoxious things people have said to us about our weight. Oh--I just thought of another one. A drunk man (again, at the mall; what is it about malls?) looked at me and asked when I was due. Now, I'm no spring chicken. It is clear that ship has sailed. So he either wasn't seeing clearly or was just a mean drunk.....

09-09-2010, 02:19 PM
My SO learned my weight a few months back in the oddest way. We went to the landfill with some tree limbs, and a scale weighs your vehicle when you get there. When I got out of the van to get our yellow vests, he did the math. :devil: I was not amused. :o

My sister and my bff know, everyone in internet land knows, and a few people at work know. I'm not ashamed of my weight, per se, but I am ashamed of my highest weight and also very proud of how far I've come!

09-09-2010, 02:42 PM
When I started I told my husband & my best friend (and y'all here lol). Now everyone knows & it's something I don't freak out about :)

09-09-2010, 02:47 PM
You folks here and the ones at my doctor's office. I am sure that DH weighs less than me so I don't want to tell him. :)

09-09-2010, 08:46 PM
My doctors office and the Internet know. I avoid speaking the number because people don't need to know it. It is quite easy for anyone to form a height/weight opinion of me with their eyes alone. Besides if you start sharing numbers it opens people up to doing math and commenting in idiotic ways like, "you should just stop now, you're too skinny, etc.," even though if they looked up the number on a BMI chart they could see I am overweight. (not that people don't say stupid things without a number.)

09-11-2010, 06:38 PM
Great thread, by the way.

So far, no one knows. Just me and anyone here. But no one I might actually have social contact with. And probably no one ever will. While I'm heavier, I don't want them having a number with which to judge me. When I'm lighter, I won't NEED them to know: I'll know.

I might tell one or two people (best friend, boyfriend, mom) eventually.

I got scarred one time when I went to the doctor at the same time as my mother. She's...a good mom, but a little nosy sometimes. We'd gone together because we got to catch up in the waiting room (same doctor, and we don't get to see each other very much).

Y'know how the doctors take you into the hall and weigh you? Well, my mom and I were called in at the same time. She should have gone right to her room, but she hovered and watched while I was weighed. I was too embarrassed to say I didn't want her there, and I don't think the doctor saw her. She saw my weight (almost 200 lbs, dammit) and immediately after our appointments started recommending things to help me lose weight (some weird pill things). I've hid it from her since then. I don't want pills or anything like that.

I even hid my weight loss from people I know. I'm at the point where some are noticing, so I say, "Yeah, I've lost a little weight. Thanks for noticing." I've lost 30 figgin' pounds!

So, no one. And probably no one for a very long time.

Again, awesome thread! I hadn't really thought about this...

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09-13-2010, 10:57 PM
No one ever asks me, really. My mom does sometimes, and she is really vain about her looks. She got gastric bypass several years ago but never works out or anything, so she is still not down to her goal weight, which is the same as mine at 150. She complains about it a lot, and I suspect she asks me what my weight is to make herself feel better, so I don't ever tell her. Considering she's been at my present weight, I'm sure she can probably guess.

I can't imagine ever telling my boyfriend. We talk about being overweight and trying to lose weight often, actually. He weighs 270 and wants to get down to somewhere in the range of 200-220. I would hate to admit to him that I'm only 20 pounds lighter than him. As long as he likes what he sees, I don't see that it's necessary to tell him. I don't think he would ever ask me anyway but, if he did, I don't know that I would do it. I wouldn't lie, but I probably wouldn't tell him either.

Now when I start losing weight, I may be more revealing. Like if I get down to 220 and someone asks me how much weight I've lost/what I weigh, then I might feel better about telling them since it is also obvious that I'm working on losing it and being successful at it. Like if someone asked me now how much I weight w/o seeing me lose any, I feel like telling them would be like putting myself down versus telling someone how much I weight b/c they notice a difference is lifting myself up.

09-13-2010, 11:23 PM
My doctor and a few family members know. The family members that know it are very encouraging about my weight loss journey, so I see no reason to hide it from them.

09-26-2010, 12:01 AM
Just to be the outsider...

My fiance knows exactly how much I weigh. I don't.

I step onto the scales backwards with my eyes covered and he just tells me iff I have have gone up, down, down a lot, or stayed the same.

If I could weight myself with out me knowing the number and without him knowing the number I would.

I cannot maintain a healthy mindset if I know my weight.

09-26-2010, 04:44 AM
When I was at my high weight? No one, not even me. I didn't go to the doctor for years so that even the doctor wouldn't know.

same here. I don't even know for sure what my highest weight WAS? I know I peaked over 200s with my first two pregnancies, and my third pregnancy was healthier but not on purpose, I somehow started to eat and act healthier but without a huge conscious effort due to watching my carb intake because of gestational diabetes.

I started to pay attention for real this last March after having the baby in October when I realized I'd stayed at 185 for like 6 months and I needed to fix that. I felt like I'd neither lost nor gained since having a 7 lb baby.

So I keep 185 as my "peak" but in truth I know I've been heavier, I just don't even really know exactly how much because I didn't want to know? I do know I was pushing into size 18 jeans almost, but I never let myself buy them.

Now I don't care. I like to keep myself accountable, I tell everyone who asks I've lost 35 lbs, I weigh about 155 and I have about 35 more to go and these are the lifestyle changes I've made. I want to be happy with myself in every aspect and be a healthy parent and role-model for my kids. Kids do as you do not do as you say. I don't want them fighting diabetes, their weight, heart problems etc. I love my kids and I want them to be healthy.

09-26-2010, 02:48 PM
Me, my doctor, and you guys. That's it!

Same here

I can't believe I weigh more then my husband.

09-26-2010, 03:20 PM
In the past I would have never told a soul even if they had beat it out of me lol

Now that I have gained it back I wouldn't tell anyone either :(

But before when I first started losing weight I told my DH, & my sisters and mom. Kindof like inspiration to keep on track lol. Plus they were all so supportive and right there for every lb I lost.

Enduring Infinity
09-26-2010, 10:41 PM
Only you guys, me, and my doctor, but I am thinking about letting one of my friends who is also losing weight know, too.

09-27-2010, 12:42 AM
My husband doesn't know. We have only been married since July and some things like my weight are still very near and dear to my heart lol

I finally told a friend today who is also trying to get healthier. I asked her to guess my weight and to be brutally honest, she guess close to 200 pounds, I laughed and told her she was off by about 50, she couldn't believe it! I guess I carry it well??

09-27-2010, 12:51 AM
Just about anyone who's interested on the internet can find out, on here and through my blog but in real life no one.

09-27-2010, 01:59 AM
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