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10-16-2002, 01:50 PM
I need help! I am basically house bound! I have a great support with my husband, as he gets home @3:00. everyday he asks what do you want do honey? I always reply nothing!:( I have posted afew times , but can't seem to locate them:?: I get up and just do nothing but sit @ the computer. I used to love taking care of my home,but now I can't get moyivated. as all I want to do is sit and eat junk:mad: I weigh 250lbs, and I'm 5'2':mad: I'm going to this lady in my town @ 4:00 that has a Goal Weight clinic. Never heard of it before and it's been in my town for 10 years and is only 2 miles from me:?: You all sound so supportive:) Have a good day:D P.S. does anyone have a problem with urine leaking? Sorry to be so graphic:?: Thanks for listening:listen: :stress: :

10-16-2002, 03:11 PM
Hi! So glad you're here--you will get the support you need--and if you don't, speak up!

I have a great support with my husband, as he gets home @3:00. everyday he asks what do you want do honey? I always reply nothing!

Tell him you want to go for a walk around the block! I'd love for someone to say that to me!

I have posted afew times , but can't seem to locate them

Well, if you click on your profile, it will let you click another link to see all your posts. It will search them out for you.

P.S. does anyone have a problem with urine leaking?

I will answer this question in a Private Message, as it's a very private matter, that I don't think anyone but you wants to hear about.

Anyway, welcome and good luck @ 4 today--let us know what this lady says.

10-16-2002, 05:56 PM

I'm glad to hear that you are motivated to do something. Pretty face is right, you should tell your husband you want to go for a walk. If anything it will get you out in the fresh air and that should make you feel better. I know it always does for me.

I hope that you find the support that you need here. Post often, and remember that we are all struggling with the weight issues.

10-16-2002, 07:35 PM
Originally posted by SuchAPrettyFace
Hi! So glad you're here--you will get the support you need--and if you don't, speak up!

Tell him you want to go for a walk around the block! I'd love for someone to say that to me!

Well, if you click on your profile, it will let you click another link to see all your posts. It will search them out for you.

I will answer this question in a Private Message, as it's a very private matter, that I don't think anyone but you wants to hear about.

Anyway, welcome and good luck @ 4 today--let us know what this lady says.

10-16-2002, 08:30 PM
I just wanted to say welcome and post here as often as you want. It helps us all. The more we post -if we are doing well or not-the better we do!
good luck to you!

10-16-2002, 08:32 PM
Godschild - I really like your name. :) We are all God's children, and we all owe it to Him to take care of the earthly body he's given us.

So, on that note, welcome! I know you will find all the support you need here. Some of your things in your post lead me to think that maybe some of your weight problem is due to undiagnosed depression. (I know depression sure makes me eat!) Maybe you should see a therapist for a professional opinion.

Good luck! :)

10-16-2002, 08:48 PM
Welcome, Godschild!! You've taken the first step by coming here. I'm fairly new myself and I've already received such great feedback, motivation, and inspiration. Good luck with your endeavors. I look forward to hearing from you about the health clinic. Take care.


10-16-2002, 09:43 PM
here, dear. have a hug.... :grouphug: it'll be ok.

but what's going on with you? sounds like stress. depression. something is quite literally eating you!!!!!

now, instead of sitting at the computer all day, maybe you could start small. i'm not talking about walking a half mile just yet. just walking in place for 5 minutes at a time every hour. yes. just start SOMEWHERE.

how did the goal weight clinic appt go?

just stay and hang out with us. a bunch of great ladies. and very smart ones, too.

10-16-2002, 11:45 PM
Thank you all;) When DH got home we went for a walk:cp: I put you all in my prayers and thanked God for you responding to me;) I'm not going back to look @ all of your names as I will learn them all soon:) I did not get in with the the weigh in lady as of yet, but I walked and ate everything healthy:cb: I know my depression is my weight and I have a daughter that is giving us fits and she is 29 years old:( Our DGD lives with her and she won't let us see her ,as DGD will tell us the drinking that goes on @ their apartment:devil: How do I get a personal message :?: As , you were so kind to discuss the urinating:( I'm going to try to locate the profile , to enter! Thank you for your thoughtful messages:angel:
Love and blessings to all, Godschild

10-17-2002, 12:40 AM
Dear Godschild,

Welcome to the site :)
If you want some info on leaking just do a seach at any pregancy site, One in three women have this problem at some stage and it can be treated, there are special exersizes you can do and hopefully will get completly better. It's a big problem with pregnancy so all big sites address it.
Good to hear your eating healthy and feeling more positive, Good luck


10-17-2002, 09:07 AM
I think Jenelle may be right about the depression ... I think a lot of us have probably been in your shoes. Even a little therapy can help. And exercise releases a natural anti-depressant (which I recommend you try before someone tries to put you on medication). Doing some light weight-lifting is a quick way to give you a boost -- at least it has been for me -- so you might want to explore some simple resistance exercises you can do, as well as the walking.

It must be wonderful to have such a supportive husband. I'm sorry to hear about your daughter giving you such trouble and heartache, and I hope your granddaughter is not in any danger ...

Oh, and another thing: you said you're housebound -- does that mean you can't go out or you choose not to go out? If you can go out, would it possible for you to get a part-time job or do some volunteering? This would get you out among people, another thing that would boost your psyche and get you a little busy. I imagine you belong to a church? They may be able to help you out in this respect. There's a woman at my church who is rather large and partially disabled who volunteers doing office work at the church.

I wish you the best! Stick around and keep us informed!

10-17-2002, 10:47 AM
Welcome Godschild :) (I love your name, too!) It's tough, tough, tough getting started, but we HAVE to start somewhere. Start small & take it one day at a time... better yet, take it one minute at a time!

:grouphugs: We're all here whenever you need support! :)

10-17-2002, 07:41 PM
Hello! Thank you! All of who wrote me! I did get out last night! I did not get to see the weight counselor , but I will:) I got up and got fully dressed , and I thank you all very much! Love and blessings to all of you, Godschild

10-18-2002, 06:38 PM
so, godschild. what's the scoop for today??? how did it go? any good weekend plans?

10-18-2002, 11:19 PM
Welcome!!! I'm a little late, but I have been away.

I am so proud of you for getting out. Does that mean that you are housebound by choice?

This is a great group of women. If your looking for support and motivation then you have come to the right place!!


10-19-2002, 12:30 PM
Good Morning! Hello JiffyPop! I'm still trying to figure this site out. Yesterday did not go well. My daughter is not letting us see our grandaughter as she tells us what is going on @ there apartment! Took all my strength just to get out of bed @ 10:00! :dizzy: I'm real tired of being so confined to this house , and very unhappy about my weight. My whole family is not letting us talk to our DGD:mad: that's a story in it's self. My DH says they have always been jealous of me so move on. If you buy them cigerettes or something , they will advocate bad behavior:s: My mom has always played the devil's advocate for my GROWN KIDS!!! I set out in life to make something of my self and I did. I have a beautiful condo and a great life, I did until the weight and me letting them pull me down. How are all of you doing today? If I could I would shower and go to the boat and win a big Jackpot:) There are alot of bazaars this weekend, but I'm afraid I will run into the two friends I had for 40 years that dumped me:mad: I only hear from them when there dh's don't want them or they need something. My dh says they don't want me around as I'm not gossiping about my dh, who knows! Sorry about all this :^: You see I have had a lot of people that hurt me :( Now , I would love to hear how all of you are doing , and have a fun day. Be good to your selfs:) Love, Godschild:)

10-22-2002, 10:13 AM
A bit late...

But Welcome Aboard! This is a great place for support, inspiration and encouragement. Make yourself at home and post away!!!

10-22-2002, 10:35 AM
Godschild, I don't know what you can do about your family, about not being able to see your DGD -- obviously, we can't understand what's going on with all that. Is your daughter angry because you won't buy her cigarettes?? Or that you won't give her money? If your mother is giving financial support to your grown kids and you refuse to, rest assured YOU are doing the right thing -- they need to grow up and take care of themselves, and giving them money only teaches them that they don't have to take responsibility for themselves.

As for those so-called friends, you shouldn't let them keep you from going places you want to go ... But it does sound like you need to get out and make some new friends -- nice people, not ones who just want to use you for complaining about their husbands. Think about looking into volunteering opportunities -- it's a great chance to meet some nice people, plus it gives you a reason to get out of bed.

Take care!

10-23-2002, 12:51 PM
Good Morning! My situation is that my daughter will not let my husband and I see our grandaughter. She tells us of the parties and things that go on at her apartment, and then my daughter thinks well I had better keep her away from my mom and dad so she don't tell. As for my family members, mother, sisters and niece, I will not help them financially anymore but my daughter will do things for them, so they advocate her behavior to the point of even denying me visitation, or @ least stating to my daughter WE WILL NOT BE A PART OF THIS!!! My DH believes they like to see me suffer ( my family) as I have done real good in life and they have not. I have always been there for my family and love them very much, but this was it! Also, if I don't have DGD my niece or whoever has her gets paid $$$ to babysit!! I hope this makes it clear in what we are dealing with. The hardest thing is knowing my DGD is so sad, and they won't even let her call , or get on the phone when we call. Thank you for listening and I hope I can be of some support to all of you! I have been getting out of the house. I now have higher blood pressure then I ever have had 153/100 usually low 113/78! or should I say good! I did get to the doctor and my bladder is fine Praise The Lord!! I hope to learn all your names and post to all of you :) I made the Diet soup and it was good have any of you ever tried it? Here it is:

1/2 head cabbage
1 onion
2 carrots
2 stalks of celery
1 chicken breast cutt into pieces
2 cans ff chicken broth
1 pkg onion soup mix
1 quart of tomatoes

Cover fresh veggies with water and bring to a boil making sure veggies are tender, add rest of ingredients and simmer for 1 hour. O pts as , this serves @ least 10 large bowls MMM good and very filling :) :D

Blessing ,Godchild

10-23-2002, 03:14 PM
Godschild, I'm glad to hear you're getting out. Meeting some new people with some positive attitudes can help a lot in getting out of what seems like .

I'm so sorry for your family situation. People can get so jealous and hurtful when they see someone doing well financially when they are not. On the other hand, you might give some thought to whether you might have prompted their attitude by essentially bragging about how well you're doing -- I'm not saying that you've done that, but some people do flaunt their success, and that can be so obnoxious! Again, I don't mean to insinuate that you are this way!

Do you think your DGD is in any kind of danger? For example, do you think there are drugs in the house? If I knew that to be the case, I would contact social services and do whatever I could to get her out of there ... but ONLY if I had a certainty that illegal activity was going on. Of course, the entire family would then resent you even more. I guess one would have to decide what's more important - being liked or doing the right thing ... Perhaps your daughter is simply trying to get your goat.

Take care,

10-24-2002, 03:09 PM
Hello! No I do not flaunt my achievements, infact I share the wealth that I have earned. When one has $$ family members seem to think we should give it to them. It' s odd as Oprah had just said" everyone wants me to buy them a car or a house!!! My GD is not in grave danger, as she is lacking love. We will be seeing her, as for my family I forgive them, but I am not ready to have tea with them! Go after your dreams!
Quiters never win and winners never quit;) I'm so thankful that I found this site, as you all have been so helpful:grouphug: DH and I are going away for the weekend, so I better get packing:wave:

Blessings to all:)