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Misty23
08-17-2010, 02:41 PM
I'm Misty. I'm 23.

I've tried dieting so many times I can't even keep track.

I tried weight watchers, counting calories, giving up carbs.

End of Jan I gave up my 2 favorite foods for 6 months in order to lose weight for a wedding and it didn't work.

I have a very limited diet (I'd say about 65% due to stubbornness and 35% due to the fact I have IBS and some foods I cannot digest).


I used to just not eat except for maybe once a day and even then it would only be a bite or two of food.

I need help. I can't keep living this way and I'm just so tired of being the girl on the sidelines, the one that makes every laugh and feel better when they're sad, the one who wants to go out on the weekends with friends but has none, the girl who's never been kissed. I read about the 3FC on aol one day and said to myself I wish it could be me to lose weight and inspire others. If anyone as any advice at all I'll take it, whatever I can get. Any ideas on a weight loss plan or exercise routine, I would love.

Thanks to anyone who takes time out of their day to read this or respond to it.


Coondocks
08-17-2010, 02:48 PM
Misty, welcome aboard and HUGE hugs to you first off.

The only advice I can really give is to look around, ask questions and find something that's going to work for you. There are so many different routes people take here, so many people to ask questions and get great advice from.

You're going to have to commit, and realize it's not something you can do by just 'giving up' your favourite foods for 6 months.
You have to change your life. Change your eating habits. Change how you move, how much you move.

Start small so you don't overwhelm yourself.

Good luck to you, I know you can do it!!

ThicknPretty
08-17-2010, 02:57 PM
Welcome to 3FC. Iím glad you decided to join.

You CAN be the one to lose weight and inspire others and itís very important that you remember that. Also, donít wait to lose weight to start living your life to the fullest. You donít belong on the sidelines at any weight!

This site is a wonderful source of inspiration, encouragement and information and I encourage you to check in with us and jump into the discussions. Also, make sure to check out the 20-somethingís board.

Good luck.


EagleRiverDee
08-17-2010, 02:58 PM
Hi Misty!

Welcome! This is a great community, with tons of support.

I second one thing the previous poster said- the key is going to be modifying your lifestyle to include a clean diet and regular exercise.

Before I truly committed to weight loss, I exercised 5 days a week but ate what I wanted. I was never a soda pop/junk food type and figured my diet was good. My doctor told me, "Weight loss comes from diet, muscles come from exercise." It's an oversimplification...but he was mostly right. Once I modified my diet, the weight started to come off (slowly).

Glad you're here- and good luck!

doingmybest
08-17-2010, 03:02 PM
Hi Misty! Welcome to 3FCs! :welcome3:

I am hoping that you can find some fun in this process. Try to find a plan that not only works for you but allows you to have some food that you really enjoy.
That is where I failed before - I treated it as a burden of deprivation, and something temporary instead of trying to incorporate it into my life with treats that I really love.

I have a daily journal where I write my successes and my weaknesses. I even put silly stickers in it to make it colorful.

Take baby steps and make small goals for yourself. Give yourself non-food rewards for even the tiniest good thing you have done.

And keep posting and reading on 3FCs. You will learn a lot here and get a lot of inspiration! Best wishes!!!! :hug:

GirlyGirlSebas
08-17-2010, 03:26 PM
Welcome to 3FC, Misty! You've tried some wonderful plans. Maybe one of them is worth a second chance. One thing to keep in mind...any plan you choose will require commitment. Once the initial excitement is gone, you have to fall back on your commitment and your faith that this will work for you as it has for so many others here at 3FC.

Sandi
08-17-2010, 03:35 PM
Welcome Misty!! You have stumbled upon one of the most informative and supportive places on the net. The more you post and read, the more you can take away from this site. You have been given some pretty good advice so far. I want to agree with Thick that no matter what your current weight, you don't belong on the sidelines!! Get out there and live!! Make the most of your youth!!!

As far as choosing a plan, that one is up to you. Try and pick one that you feel like you could stick with...forever. One of the things that we have learned is that our journey doesn't end when the weight is gone. We must continue to do what we did to get the weight off so we can keep it off!

Nikki6kidsmom
08-17-2010, 04:01 PM
Misty,
You can get where you want out of pure desire to change. When I first started I said to myself , I am going to give this an real honest go for 1 month and see if I can do it and if I feel any better at the end of one month.

For that very first month I focused on drinking water everyday, before that i would go all day without one single bit of water. I gave up excessive bread like rolls or biscuits but still had wheat sandwich breads occasionally. I stayed away from sugar items (cookies,cakes,pies,candy,little debbies) and had fresh fruit instead. I replaced chips with either pretzels or raw veggies and light ranch for snacks. And no fried food (onion rings,fries,chicken). I did all this on my own no other plan or money paid out to any gym or weight loss group.

And for that month I starting walking 3 times a week one mile in my neighborhood by myself because I didn't even want to tell my friends and family I was attempting this in case I failed yet again.

Those changes started my journey. By the end of the first month I had lost 15 pounds and felt like I had more energy. I wasn't craving sugar like I used to and the walking seemed to help me clear my head and relieve some stress. The success in that month helped me focus even more on how I could find ways to improve my diet and up my exercise.

You are starting with the right mindset. Set some mini goals and take it one day at a time. Keep focused and you will succeed!

Misty23
08-17-2010, 06:34 PM
Thank you all for taking time out of your day to read what I wrote and give me advice.

I should stop sitting on the sidelines......my sister in law's friend is just as big as I am and she doesn't let it stop her from going out having a good time and getting a boyfriend so I shouldn't let it stop me either.

Nikki I really like your approach to it. I don't eat a lot of sugar myself (I rarely ever crave chocolate or cookies) so I think giving that up might be pretty easy for me (and since I tend to eat pasta I think I can make the switch to wheat instead since they say it fills you up faster with less consumed).

I will go look on the forums and read everyones approach and see what I like about it and see if I can make a plan from there.


I think my goal for the first month is going to be just to get out and walk 3-4 times a week, give up sugar and soda. If I lose weight then that would be great also hehe.

Thank you all! <3

boots
08-17-2010, 06:44 PM
yeah I gave up sugar-drinks and a lot of sugar and controled my carb intake while pregnant because I got gestational diabetes.

Afterwards I've noticed with my adult life, I've "maintained" through the 160s-170s whereas before that pregnancy I'd done nothing but increase my weight since undergrad. So like my first four-five years of my adulthood I did nothing but gain weight, and REALLY just controlling sugar and carbs STOPPED the weight gain. (I started undergrad at 120 and ended undergrad at 165!!!). Now I'd like to get back to the middle of the healthy BMI (middle seems like the safest weight to be! instead of hanging around in the overweight section of BMI! But I wouldn't have made that healthy lifestyle change except they told me I could...ya know...kill my baby because I was diabetic. (Its so much easier to control your diet when someone else's life depends on it! Literally....but shouldn't YOUR life be important too!)

So yeah, just a few simple changes at a time that you turn into healthy habits is the way to go!

Rosinante
08-17-2010, 07:05 PM
Misty, just an IBS thought - I haven't eaten wheat since May 24th this year - and the brass band in my insides has been Totally Silent!
I'm not saying it's the same for everybody but might be worth a thought. I can eat absolutely anything else, albeit in calorie counted, so sometimes small, quantities.

susiemartin
08-17-2010, 07:30 PM
Misty -
Nice to meet you!

bargoo
08-17-2010, 07:54 PM
Welcome and good luck ! Eat less and move more ! Find the diet plan that you WILL follow and do it. Experiment untio you find what works for you. I've tried 'em all and found calorie counting works best for me.

shannonmb
08-17-2010, 08:33 PM
Hi Misty!!! I'm rooting for you!!!

What would you think about posting exactly what you ate yesterday and the foods that you have found you need to avoid, so that everyone can brainstorm and come up with a plan that might work for you? There are so many ideas on the subject, and maybe you could get some ideas/suggestions.

I am a calorie counter, but within my calories, I have found there are certain things I really need to avoid unless I want to STARVE the rest of the day. For example, if I eat a big carb meal without a substantial protein to balance it out, I'm hungry an hour later, even if I eat a huge serving. Now that I have figured out what kinds of stuff make me insane, I have been VERY satisfied with my meals and don't even feel remotely deprived after mealtime. It will take awhile for you to really do the work to figure it out for yourself, but if you do, weight loss isn't nearly as painful. In fact, I am having a BLAST figuring out ways to make delicious, healthy things to eat and watching my body shrink before my eyes!

Good luck to you, hun, and keep reading and posting. This site is amazingly inspiring, and you and I are just as worthy and capable of BIG SUCCESS as anyone here! :hug:

Onederchic
08-17-2010, 09:24 PM
Misty, welcome aboard and HUGE hugs to you first off.

The only advice I can really give is to look around, ask questions and find something that's going to work for you. There are so many different routes people take here, so many people to ask questions and get great advice from.

You're going to have to commit, and realize it's not something you can do by just 'giving up' your favourite foods for 6 months.
You have to change your life. Change your eating habits. Change how you move, how much you move.

Start small so you don't overwhelm yourself.

Good luck to you, I know you can do it!!

This.

Misty23
08-18-2010, 01:40 AM
Well yesterday wasn't really a good day for me......I mean it's like a normal day only I didn't really have access to food for 70% of it.

I got on a flight from Las Vegas to my hometown. I had nothing for breakfast and on the plane I had a thing of water and a little package of cheese its.

Then I came home and went out to eat with some family, had some pasta dish I rarely ever eat (mostacoli I think its called) and a salad (dressing on the side) and water.


Yesterday was pretty much about trying to relax and figure things out once I got home, I hadn't slept for 2 nights previous to it and then when I got home that night my little dog got sicker than she ever has before and was throwing up for 2 hours. So my focus was mainly on her.


Today was a horrible day for me emotion-wise so I ate really unhealthy I had chips which I hate eating (I only eat them when I have problems) I had string cheese which I also don't like to eat that much.

I made guacamole but only had 3 little tortilla chips with it on them.

Then for dinner I fixed enchiladas (99% fat free ground turkey meat, potatos, cheese and tomato on a tortilla).


I know I can ditch the potatos and make it healthier and have a minimum amount of cheese on them (which I hardly use any to begin with).



I don't know if that helps any or not. I don't tend to eat really anymore I just take a bite or two and lose interest in the food.

shannonmb
08-18-2010, 07:43 AM
Awww, your poor doggie! I hope she is better!

It sounds like you are keeping some healthy snacks in the house and you are fixing lighter meals, so you are well on your way, aren't you! Now you need to just get yourself on a schedule.

When I asked you to post what you ate yesterday, I definitely wasn't expecting a "typical" day, like what you eat every day. I used to get frustrated when I would hear "write down what you eat on a daily basis and cut out one thing", etc, because what I would eat - quantity and quality was COMPLETELY different every day. Like one day I wouldn't eat for half the day then I would gorge on chinese food. Or I would go out to breakfast and have a huge meal, not eat the rest of the day, then eat a bag of chips for dinner. There was absolutely no rhyme or reason to my eating, so it was kinda hard to just "tweak" it. It wasn't like every day I was eating 2 eggs, a piece of toast, and 2 slices of bacon for breakfast, so switch to turkey bacon and no butter on the toast and "voila", a healthy diet, type of thing. But what you did write makes me think you and I had a similar eating style.

Believe me, I know I am still very far from goal and so it might be hard for you to trust weight loss advice from someone like me! :o But I honestly for the first time in my life KNOW that it is just a matter of time before I get to where I am going, because I finally have a plan that works perfectly in my life and I am having fun, fun, fun with it! So take my advice as you will...

In my opinion, you have to start eating on a regular basis. I think 5-6 small meals a day is probably best to keep the metabolism going, but that does not work for me. But I do think you need to schedule yourself to eat. That way, the "hungries" don't hit, you are less tempted to go nuts, and your body knows what to expect. Whatever works for you, schedule your meals! It doesn't matter if you are uninterested in food, your body needs fuel throughout the day. Eating isn't all about what you are wanting or not wanting at a certain time, it is supposed to be what keeps the machine going at peak performance. So I think the first thing you should do is get that schedule going, eat meals, not just grabbing bites of something here or there, or saving your appetite for dinner. Once you think of some stuff you can have for each meal, then you can start playing around with it, trying new things, seeing how different things affect your IBS, weight loss, etc.

I have a feeling your tummy will be much happier with you if you do this!!! Good luck to you!!

MablesGirl
08-18-2010, 08:46 AM
welcome Misty! You CAN do this. What I'm realizing as I have struggled in the past 2 months is that this really is a lifestyle change. It's about finding a way to life a healthy life, for the rest of your life.

Lori Bell
08-18-2010, 08:52 AM
How much weight do you want to lose? 100+? 10? IMO there is a world of difference in trying to take off a few pounds vs. over 100.

Sandi
08-18-2010, 09:08 AM
Misty - I saw in your bio that you are 280, what's your goal?

knitsforfive
08-18-2010, 10:19 AM
My biggest piece of advice regarding this site in particular is this: stick with it even if you go off track. The support is very valuable.

renstwin
08-18-2010, 10:45 AM
I agree with the a lot of the advice given in the previous posts. You have to find a plan that you can stick with long term, that you are able to follow that fits in with your IBS problem.

Personally, I did not get to 313 pounds by eating a bite or two here or there. A good place to start is to write every single thing that you eat, I mean every bite. Do that for a week. Analyze. Decide what you can change to make healthier, and go from there.

Best of luck to you and I hope to hear of your success in the future.

Misty23
08-18-2010, 11:55 AM
@Sandi I'm hoping to get to 130-140 (but I realize that could be too unrealistic).

Losing weight and building muscle should be easier for me since I have a higher amount of testosterone than I do estrogen *thank's to my uber fail uterus* Working out for me isn't hard, it's just a matter of getting myself to go do it. I try taking my dog with me but she really only can make it half a block before she fakes like she's going to die from running (although we run around the house chasing each other for a solid hour each morning and night).

I'll start writing down everything I eat today and do that for the week. I think my biggest obstacle to overcome is my self doubt.

DaughterOfVenus
08-18-2010, 01:20 PM
Holy god, reading your post was like looking in a mirror. I do have a social life, but I tend to be the funny fat girl, and hang back in a lot of situations and close myself off because of insecurities. I'm also 23, I don't know what I weigh, but somewhere around 260 or 270 (I'm waiting for my scale to arrive.) I COMPLETELY understand where you are coming from.

Something that a lot of us need to accept is our own responsibility for things. I know I spent a lot of time saying, "I've tried every diet, and they didn't work." In reality, they ALL worked. I just didn't stick with them. The idea is to find the plan that I can stick with, and take it one day at a time.

You and I are both making the change around the same time, and we're close to the same weight, seem to have similar eating habits, and similar life issues. We should totes be buddies and support each other one on one. I'd love to have someone to talk to.

My plan is to start walking every day. I haven't figured out what I'm going to do yet when the snow flies, but I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. I'm going to drink more water, and eat small meals more regularly instead of going hours or days without eating and then binging on everything in sight. For example, instead of skipping breakfast this morning I ate a poached egg on toast. And I find now that it's one oclock I don't feel like I want to binge on everything in sight.

I've cut out butter, it's just not necessary, I've stocked up on salad, chicken breast, whole wheat pasta, lots of tomatoes. I've found that a lot of ethnic foods are low in animal products and therefore saturated fat and calories, so I've been eating lots of mexican (pico de gallo for the win!!!), chinese stir fries. I replaced all my white rice with brown, and I've mostly stopped eating red meat because to me it's just not worth the calories.

It's only been a short while, maybe a week. I'm just taking it one day at a time.

I plan to do daily weigh ins because I've learned that works for me. I get too discouraged if my weekly weigh-in date happens to be a bloat day and the number is bad. It's much more encouraging for me to track it daily and see the overall decrease.

Anyway... I hope something I said is encouraging. I find the most helpful thing I've done is join here. Sometimes support and motivation is the most critical thing, more than any specific diet plan. It's so easy to look at the big picture, and how far you have to go, and just throw up your hands. I'm trying so hard to take it one day at a time.

Someone on here mentioned a journal with stickers... I think I'll go buy one right now!

shannonmb
08-18-2010, 02:26 PM
@Sandi I'm hoping to get to 130-140 (but I realize that could be too unrealistic).

Why? There you go doubting yourself again!! ;) Unless you are really tall or have some sort of medical condition, there is no reason in the world why you can not make a realistic goal like that and achieve it! Read around on here and you will see TONS of people who have reached those sort of goals, even with health problems, emotional problems, and pretty much any sort of stumbling block you can imagine. You appear to be a young girl with lots of energy, all you need now is the motivation and a commitment to yourself, and you CAN get there!!! (I'm saying this to myself as much as you, except the part about young and full of energy hahahah)

Lots of people around here break it into smaller mini-goals, and that's what I'm trying, too. The sheer amount can be overwhelming to think about, so I'm in the process of losing 50lbs. Once I get there, I'll get to work on my next goal. After a little non-food celebration, of course! :D

Misty23
08-18-2010, 03:48 PM
@Shannonmb If you only knew the amount of self doubt I have, it is amazing. I know I shouldn't because of particular things I've found myself to be pretty good at (these things I never thought I would be good at ever or would be capable of). So you're right I do need to just not doubt myself and I'm not extremely tall just average height.


@DaughterofVenus we should be. Same age, around the same weight ( i haven't weighed myself in over a month so I could still be down at 260 which is what I was at before this wedding).....who knows with each others support we both could really get it in gear and make sure we both stay on track. Nothing better then to have someone check you and make sure you're sticking to your plans/goals.

DaughterOfVenus
08-18-2010, 04:41 PM
Oh one more thing we have in common that I forgot, I also have a tiny, lazy dog. I tried to take her running with me and I ended up carrying her home. *snicker*

Misty23
08-18-2010, 04:44 PM
I swear we must have dogs that are long lost litter mates. Bell just stares at me after I pick her up and carry her and just smiles and taunts me like look what i can make you do!!!!

DaughterOfVenus
08-18-2010, 11:38 PM
HAHA so true! And guess what my dog's name is? Bella Tiana. (My grandmother insisted on naming her Beautiful Princess, even though I thought it was stupid.) Yeah, she runs about as far as the stop sign at the end of the road, then starts pulling on the leash to go home, and by the time I turn around to finally GO back home, she just lays in the dirt and refuses to move, so it's either drag her home by the leash like she's some kind of corpse, or pick her up and carry her all the way back. LOL I'm going to try the other dog and see if he's a better sport.

Misty23
08-19-2010, 11:42 AM
HAHA so true! And guess what my dog's name is? Bella Tiana. (My grandmother insisted on naming her Beautiful Princess, even though I thought it was stupid.) Yeah, she runs about as far as the stop sign at the end of the road, then starts pulling on the leash to go home, and by the time I turn around to finally GO back home, she just lays in the dirt and refuses to move, so it's either drag her home by the leash like she's some kind of corpse, or pick her up and carry her all the way back. LOL I'm going to try the other dog and see if he's a better sport.

LOL that has got to be one of the most popular dog names now I swear ( I blame twilight but I personally only gave my dog her middle name the name she has she had at the shelter and I didn't want to change it it was too cute imo)

We have too much in common hehe that's kinda funny.

DaughterOfVenus
08-19-2010, 11:46 AM
Our dog is way older than Twilight, but go ahead and blame Twilight for global warming and animal cruelty if that will make it go away. LOL

Trazey34
08-19-2010, 02:09 PM
You CAN be the one to lose weight and inspire others and itís very important that you remember that. Also, donít wait to lose weight to start living your life to the fullest. You donít belong on the sidelines at any weight!

Good luck.

That's the best advice you're going to hear!!! Don't WAIT to enjoy life! When you're happy and enjoying life you tend to want to protect and guard that happiness by doing other great things for yourself :carrot: