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TheActress
08-10-2010, 04:09 AM
I was having a convo with someone, and I brought up a little "cover up" trick I have and I thought I must be the ONLY one who did it... turns out, I'm not alone! And she suggested I start up a thread about all the things we might think only WE do to cover up things relating to our obesity and/or things we think might only happen to us....

Soooo

Am I the only one...

-who coughs when they run out of breath going up one flight of stairs so nobody knows they're ACTUALLY gasping for air?
-used to ALWAYS tie a jacket around her waist, because it was inevitable her shirt would ride up?
-pretends they were running to class(or whatever destination) because they are sweating so much?
-who's cheap jeans only last about 3-4 months and then explode in the thigh area.
-who doesn't understand why the numbers on women's sizes correspond to absolutely nothing (okay, that was out of context with the original intent of this thread, but it was on my mind... seriously, they mean NOTHING!!)
-who tucks fat rolls down into their jeans and up into their bra band?
-who waits for other people to order first so that I can order slightly less than them to feel less fat?

I have a ton more, but I'd like to hear what YOU GUYS have :p


Quillie
08-10-2010, 04:21 AM
You're not alone! Some look familiar, some I wish I'd tought of! Am I the only one

- who never finishes her plate when eating out with friends 'I'm full', yeah right, I'm never full!
- who has a snack right before going to family parties
- who always has to work at times everybody plans to go swimming
- who wears really high heels, so she can't join the dancing

Rosinante
08-10-2010, 04:34 AM
The only one I've got is the exploding cheap jeans, that made me laugh!

Am I the only one who refuses to admit to my mother that I am losing weight because if I do, she'll take such a keen interest that it'll feel like she's smothering me like she has done for 55 years and like she's trying to take away even the tiniest thing I could call my own? Issues, moi? Just about to get in the car and drive over, moi? :)


time2lose
08-10-2010, 08:26 AM
Oh, I can add to this one!

Am I the only one...
* who wore black pants and black shell with patterned jacket to try to look "thinner"
* ate in the car so no one would know - Like I could hide it
* walked to meetings early so that I could catch my breath before anyone else got there
* lied about my weight on my driver's license
* laughed and smiled on the outside while cringing and crying on the inside

criseyde
08-10-2010, 08:30 AM
"who doesn't understand why the numbers on women's sizes correspond to absolutely nothing (okay, that was out of context with the original intent of this thread, but it was on my mind... seriously, they mean NOTHING!!)"

Haha! I knew I wasn't crazy! I've never been able to figure out how it works and now my favorite store (Maurices) has a weird new "plus" sizing system and now I understand even less (if that's possible). :P


And time2lose I can say you're not the only one to all of those.

Here's a couple:
-who wears baggy sweatshirts/hoodies in the middle of summer trying to hide certain areas?
-who always seems to conveniently have homework/work/other obligations when people want to go out in public?

Eliana
08-10-2010, 08:43 AM
Oh, so many!

Am I the only one who...


Used to feel like if I didn't eat a meal at home then I didn't eat so after eating at a restaurant I'd come home and eat again? :dizzy:
used to pace at the top of the stairs before entering an office area or whatever I was headed to at the top because I was so out of breath?
used a beachtowel at the gym shower?
made excuses so as not to have to go to a friend's pool party?
got gingerly into a car so as not to flip it? :D Ok, so as not to rock everyone in it?
feared porch swings?

PudgyGurl
08-10-2010, 08:54 AM
I see lots of cover ups I do!!

I would like to add one:

Am I the only one, to get in bed before dh, and take my clothes off under the blankets (rather than him taking them off, while we are standing LOL)

saef
08-10-2010, 09:06 AM
I've got more:

- Would never wear shorts outside her own home?
- Went through a large tin of body powder every year, particularly in summer, to try to prevent chafing? (And, when looking for more, had to explain the concept of body powder to a sweet skinny young salesgirl who'd never heard of the stuff & couldn't imagine why anyone would use it?)
- When everyone piled into one car for a trip, tried always to get one of the front seats, so I wouldn't be crammed into the back, overspilling onto my neighbors?
- Was always getting those cheap jeans sewn up in the thights & patched, to try to get a little more wear out of them, so they looked like Frankenstein jeans, what with all the zig-zag stitching & dark threads in pale worn places?
- Tried to hide empty ice cream half-gallons & one-pound M&M bags from her trash from her highly observant (okay, snooping) landlady, in case she saw how quickly I went through them? (They were my equivalent of the closet alcoholic's tell-tale "empties.")

Hiya
08-10-2010, 09:07 AM
Am I the only one who sits with her hand 'neath her chin like she's just having the most profound thoughts but really is simply hiding her double chin with her fingers?

time2lose
08-10-2010, 09:38 AM
Saef - One of yours really hits me

When everyone piled into one car for a trip, tried always to get one of the front seats, so I wouldn't be crammed into the back, overspilling onto my neighbors?

Even worse, everyone tells you to take the front seat. Even though they would never say why, you know why!

Rosinante
08-10-2010, 09:52 AM
Am I the only one...
* who wore black pants and black shell with patterned jacket to try to look "thinner"


You mean it doesn't work? :dizzy: bummer.

L R K
08-10-2010, 10:07 AM
Great thread idea! You are definitely not alone!

Yep, i've done these (or still do ...)

- Coughs when they run out of breath going up one flight of stairs so nobody knows they're ACTUALLY gasping for air?

- Lied about my weight on my driver's license, or other important documents ...

- Wore a lot of black because it apparently makes you look thinner

- Wears a sweater in the middle of summer trying to hide certain areas

- Sits with her hand 'neath her chin like she's just having the most profound thoughts but really is simply hiding her double chin with her fingers

caryesings
08-10-2010, 10:21 AM
Immediately upon sitting on couch pulls throw pillow onto lap to block view of abdominal rolls?

Quillie
08-10-2010, 10:36 AM
Caryesings, yes! I've tried to hide behind pillows so often, and behind other people when somebody takes a picture!

I also wore heaps of black and jeans, I never had to match things, as everything I owned matched! How times have changed.

ubergirl
08-10-2010, 10:57 AM
Immediately upon sitting on couch pulls throw pillow onto lap to block view of abdominal rolls?

Ha! I thought I was the only one who did that. :)

How about keeping candy in my purse, keeping my purse in my lap, and "sneaking" pieces into my mouth one by one so that "nobody would know I was eating candy."

Eliana, I used to eat after a restaurant too. Another handy uber food "rule" was that food scarfed standing up, eaten alone, or eaten in the car, even if meal-like, was not "a meal."

BrittanieYork
08-10-2010, 11:03 AM
caryesings - I do this and it drives my husband nuts! He doesn't understand why I can't be on the couch without a pillow or blanket in my lap!

How bout:
Am I the only one who:
*Hides in the back of everyone taking a group picture if I haven't managed to escape it all together?:ziplip:
*Constantly tugs at my clothes whether they are falling down or bunching up, just to make sure?:dunno:
*Who walks at a certain time of day to avoid traffic hours in my neighborhood? (Weekends around 11am are fabulous. Will maybe run into 1 or 2 cars):running:
*Who will wear a blue jean jacket (even in August in Texas) with certain skirts because the only shirts that match the skirts are tanks?:belly:
*Doesn't go out with certain girls because I don't want to be the big girl in the group? :dance:
*Can't quit smoking because it's my way of not eating as much? "I won't eat, I'll just have another cig":smoking:
*Watches how much small girls eat at restaurants and tries to put my fork down before they do, then keeps picking and picking until my plate is clean and think to myself "Ahh! So that's why their skinny!!":jeno:

TheActress
08-10-2010, 11:33 AM
The FRANKENSTEIN JEANS!!!!!! OHHHMIGOSH, I wore frankenstein jeans all through high school... sew them up... patch them up... duct tape them from the inside... you name it I've tried it. *sigh*

Oh.. and the pillow thing. I didn't even REALIZE I was doing it until I read it. But I'm right there with you. :)

successfulhannah
08-10-2010, 11:33 AM
Am I the only one who:

-Keeps there hair long because you were told fat girls look bad with short hair. (I happen to think short hair is cute)
-Feels like everybody is watching me when I go grocery shopping for healthy foods (makes me think everyone is saying "There is no help for you, your just fat)
-Wears turtle necks to cover up that double chin
-Wears big baggy jackets to cover up all the fat rolls
-Always has shoes break because of having to much weight in them
-Broke a chair when I sat down, then everyone looked at me (you know what they were thinking)
-Has a sports car but refuses to drive it because you feel like a giant in it and you think everyone is starring at you (so you drive your husbands truck to work everyday)
-who has trouble finding a belt to fit

These are a few that I wanted to add that happend to me

PaulaM
08-10-2010, 12:06 PM
These are so spot on, and it makes me sad to think about it, most of it is just automatic.

I always stand at the back of every photo or shove my biggest purse in front of me. I have about 20 pairs of pants, all black. I do use a beach towel in the locker room. Would never eat anything like junk food in public, have to hide it at home and then bury the wrappers, even from my husband who has always eaten healthy foods. The one about being asked to sit in the front seat is particularly humiliating, it has happened a few times. How about boarding an airplane like Southwest and all the passengers either giving you a dirty look or obviously trying to arrange themselves so you won't sit next to them.

Lord I can't wait to be thin again.

MaddiesMom
08-10-2010, 12:14 PM
Am I the only one...

I used to put on a shirt and if it was too tight, I would pull on it to stretch it out because I didn't want to admit that it was too small.

I told my friend the other day, I was so proud - I'm 7 pounds away from away from my drivers license weight! LOL

Eliana
08-10-2010, 12:28 PM
Am I the only one who never really got into sizes larger than 18, but just wore stretchy unknown-sized pants instead because they were "more comfortable"? Who knows what size I really wore? I was in denial.

EagleRiverDee
08-10-2010, 12:39 PM
Immediately upon sitting on couch pulls throw pillow onto lap to block view of abdominal rolls?

Oh, I totally do that.

I also only buy "tunic tees" from Lands End because other t-shirts are so short they show my belly if I raise my arms the least little bit.

And I refuse to let my BF put his hands on my stomach when he's holding me. I actually admitted to him the other night I can't sleep that way because if he's touching my stomach I feel like I have to suck it in, and can't relax enough to fall asleep.

If I am wearing a shirt or sweater that isn't long enough to cover my belly, I often wear a coat over it, even when I'm not cold. Inside. All day.

calluna
08-10-2010, 12:51 PM
Am I the only one

- who wore slip-on shoes because it was both too much effort AND too humiliating to tie shoes with laces?

- who had to buy a watch with an "extended" band because my wrist wouldn't fit a regular one, and just noted to others that she detested pressures of any kind on her wrist? I do wear my watch loose, incidentally, but most people don't have to get extra-long watchbands to make that happen.

- who wouldn't wear a bathrobe at home because it was dangerous? Gapping was not to be thought of. Instead, loose sweats and huge tees, always, around the house.

ORSewmama
08-10-2010, 12:56 PM
I can relate to so many of these!

Coughing at the top of the stairs to cover the fact that I was gasping for air! Especially when I started intentionally taking the stairs. OR, I would find a drinking fountain and get a drink while gasping LOL

Wearing a fleece jacket in a really warm room, while claiming to be cold, because I don't want to take it off and risk exposing my rolls

Would never in a million years sit in a playground swing for fear of breaking it, not matter how much my children begged or how reinforced it looks (proud to say I am over this and have been on the swings with my children now).

plumeria
08-10-2010, 01:02 PM
I buy "tall" tops even though I'm only 5'2" because they give me a longer torso which makes me look thinner (I think). I won't buy anything that hits above my hips.

I also kept my hair loooong thinking it thinned out my face. I only recently cut it because I hated the upkeep.

time2lose
08-10-2010, 01:06 PM
MaddiesMom originally posted I told my friend the other day, I was so proud - I'm 7 pounds away from away from my drivers license weight! LOL

This discussion reminded me about my Driver's License so I checked. Mine says 215. Of course when I put that on my dl, I probably weighed 280. Think I should get a new one and put my weight down as 163?? :devil:

gerbies
08-10-2010, 02:27 PM
So funny...glad I'm not alone...


Who selects the thickest and/or darkest material for shorts/capris in the summer so my "sweat" marks would not show through in the most embarrasing areas?
Who places empty wrappers/food containers in a plastic Target bag with other stuff before putting in the garbage (so my husband won't know what I had)?
Who kills herself on the elliptical to ensure she's going faster/harder than the skinny girl on the machine next to her just so she doesn't look like the slow, sweaty fat girl in the gym?
Who, all of sudden, becomes the best hostess, serving food and drinks at her own pool party to avoid having to go into the pool around guests (and I loathe cooking or hosting parties)?
Who declines many party invitations just so people will not notice the 5 lbs I've gained in the last few weeks?
Who hates summer so much, just because it's uncomfortable to constantly be sweating when you're not moving?
Who avoids traveling just in case she's on a full flight and feels "squished" in the seat and always has to have the armrest or she won't fit in the seat?
Who takes the stairs at work because (like the gym) will be damned if she's the token fat girl taking the elevator…
Who has to wear Spanx shorts under all skirts and dresses to avoid sweating and chafing...
* Who would iron a shirt or sweater to stretch it out to fit properly (although it never is done well...it always looks too blousy because I over-ironed it)...

kendra
08-10-2010, 02:44 PM
Oh I do that too, wear a jacket in the middle of summer just to "hide" my huge body. And the one about the driver's license, my weight is listed as it was when i was in high school, which was 130. Oh I want to be that weight so much now. And I also stretch my shirts before I put them on because I can't stand the too tight feeling.

Am I the only one...who doesn't dry their clothes because the dryer causes them to "shrink". (Yeah that really happens to clothes that you've had forever, so embarrassing)

EagleRiverDee
08-10-2010, 02:58 PM
Am I the only one...who doesn't dry their clothes because the dryer causes them to "shrink". (Yeah that really happens to clothes that you've had forever, so embarrassing)

Yes! I use the "low heat" setting on my dryer because otherwise my pants get too tight. It takes forever to get them dry that way, though.

Eliana
08-10-2010, 03:14 PM
bit.

And I refuse to let my BF put his hands on my stomach when he's holding me. I actually admitted to him the other night I can't sleep that way because if he's touching my stomach I feel like I have to suck it in, and can't relax enough to fall asleep.


Oh, thank you! This has been a major problem for us and I couldn't tell him why!! :o

Eliana
08-10-2010, 03:16 PM
This discussion reminded me about my Driver's License so I checked. Mine says 215. Of course when I put that on my dl, I probably weighed 280. Think I should get a new one and put my weight down as 163?? :devil:

Mine's 160!!! :rofl: Someone somewhere along the way should have said, "Honey, now come on."

But congratulations to you! It's taking me a long, long time to get my license weight!

saef
08-10-2010, 03:42 PM
... Often had a safely pin securing the space between buttons on her blouses & shirts, because otherwise they'd gape open too much from being tight on the bust?

... And ultimately stopped wearing tops that buttoned, partly because of that reason, and also because of how tight shirts were around the hips, even if they somewhat fit up higher?


[Can't believe my feeling of incredulity in the dressing room, after I'd lost about 50 pounds, when I risked trying on a shirt that buttoned down the front -- & it fit me right. No gaping. No pulling. And I returned to the very adult & formal world of tops that buttoned. So glad to be back!]

time2lose
08-10-2010, 04:04 PM
saef originally posted .. Often had a safely pin securing the space between buttons on her blouses & shirts, because otherwise they'd gape open too much from being tight on the bust?

... And ultimately stopped wearing tops that buttoned, partly because of that reason, and also because of how tight shirts were around the hips, even if they somewhat fit up higher?


[Can't believe my feeling of incredulity in the dressing room, after I'd lost about 50 pounds, when I risked trying on a shirt that buttoned down the front -- & it fit me right. No gaping. No pulling. And I returned to the very adult & formal world of tops that buttoned. So glad to be back!]

This thread is reminding me of so many things! I would wear a sleeveless shell under shirts and then wear the shirt open like a jacket. One of the biggest joys in my life right now is wearing shirts that button!!! My dressing style has changed completely.

dcapulet
08-10-2010, 04:16 PM
when I am gasping for air, I close my mouth and breathe only through my nose when people pass me. I don't want them to see how much air i need.

I thought I was the only one too!

joyra
08-10-2010, 04:24 PM
Wow, I've done a lot of these things! I have a couple more to add:

- Always wear bike shorts under my skirts and dresses .... even to formal or professional places.
- Sometimes don't zip up my skirt all the way (because I can't!) and wear a big top

JennieLovesKisses
08-10-2010, 04:52 PM
Haha, I've done quite a few of these myself.

Though, I don't cough when I'm gasping for air I used the "yawn" cover up! xD

ChrissyBean
08-10-2010, 07:20 PM
I still don't like having my belly touched. I have a feeling I'll NEVER like it. :(

I Can And I Will
08-10-2010, 09:39 PM
Am I the only one ...

- who is still relatively small chested, even though the rest of my body is large? This requires me to buy a skinny girl's bra and use an extender. I hate the way my bras feel! :(

- who will not wear a cap sleeved shirt. I am very self-conscious of the size of my arms, so I search and search for shirts with the "elbow sleeve". They are hard to find!

- will only wear "fat girl shorts" AKA capris in the summer. I went to an amusement park in them the other day and I burned up in those stupid things!

- photoshops the fat away on my pictures? Okay, I can't erase the weight entirely, but I do put shadows under my chin which hides the double chin or shadow the side of the face which slims it some. I always leave the original as is though, so my children don't wonder who that woman was. :D

milmin2043
08-10-2010, 10:29 PM
....who hasn't worn my wedding band set for years?

....who wore only men's t-shirts

....who cut the tags out of her clothes so I wouldn't have to face the truth

....who got stuck in clothing trying to put on too small sizes and had to cut or rip them off

(Wow....reading these is a little depressing)!

TXMary2
08-10-2010, 11:01 PM
Great thread!

I've done the pillows thing and standing behind people in photos- as if my fat face wasn't a dead giveaway that I was obese.

Worn lots of black.

Obsessively tanned because a tan makes you look thinner.....lol...so they say.

Kept my hair long to frame my face in hopes of disguising fat cheeks and double chin.

In the past I would go into a fast food place with food selections written on a piece of paper as if I were ordering for multiple people.

TheActress
08-10-2010, 11:14 PM
AHHH! I thought I was the ONLY one that pretended they were ordering for multiple people at fast food restaurants!!!! Sometimes I even play it up (actress that I am) and pretend to send a text or something to "make sure" I got their order right..... lord that's sad. I don' t plan on doing that anymore :)

Natasha1534
08-10-2010, 11:35 PM
* walked to meetings early so that I could catch my breath before anyone else got there
* lied about my weight on my driver's license

I've done both of those. For years my weight on my license was listed as 280. Last time I renewed I finally bumped it up to 300 (still a lie). It was a HUGE NSV for me the other week when, for the first time ever, I finally weighed LESS than my license says I do!!! :)

Caryesings, yes! I've tried to hide behind pillows so often, and behind other people when somebody takes a picture!

I always always always do that!!! I bet when I reach my goal weight I'll still do it just out of habit. I'm 5 foot 6 so I always use the excuse that I'm taller than most of the other girls (b/c I usually am) and need to be in the back.

-Feels like everybody is watching me when I go grocery shopping for healthy foods (makes me think everyone is saying "There is no help for you, your just fat)

YES!!! I used to always wonder if people were looking at what was in my cart and judging me. And when I would get to the register w/ my bag of chips, coke, and chocolate bar I would wonder if the cashier was judging my choices.

I used to put on a shirt and if it was too tight, I would pull on it to stretch it out because I didn't want to admit that it was too small.

I have done that SO many times it's not even funny. My poor TDU pants used to be so tight that they would unbutton when I bent over or sat down. Now they're so loose that I have to wear a belt w/ them!!!

tryn2bfit
08-10-2010, 11:48 PM
i feel better after readin this thank you! now i know i am not the only one ;)


http://tryn2bfit224.blogspot.com/

PaulaM
08-11-2010, 11:15 AM
After reading this thread I feel worse! Why can't we see that food is a real addiction for us? I told myself for years I just enjoy eating, but seeing all this in black and white makes you wonder about how much "fun" it really is. If all this hiding and lying doesn't sound like a drug addict or alcoholic I don't know what does. They can go cold turkey but we can't.

I'm getting ready to go to Zumba class, I'm not as depressed as this sounds LOL. But I am serious about what I said.

time2lose
08-11-2010, 11:23 AM
Why can't we see that food is a real addiction for us?

I agree that I have a real food addiction, especially for white sugar laden food.

ChrissyBean
08-11-2010, 11:37 AM
I honestly don't think food was an "addiction" for me. Certainly a habit, but a full-blown addiction? No. I still eat a LOT, like I'm constantly snacking, but it's baby carrots, fruit and almonds instead of cookies and chips. Same habit, different stuff.

K-boogie
08-14-2010, 08:10 AM
OMG! I love this thread for me it's
Wearing black pants to hide the bulge
Placing a pillow in my lap when sitting
Using my child as a shield thinking she would hide the bulge
wearing a girdle to smooth things out in the freaking summer (praying I wouldn't pass out)
I have more but gotta go out of town to visit with in laws and yes I will be wearing plack capris :(

ShellydeFlores
08-14-2010, 01:08 PM
I think when someone hits the point of eating in their car really fast so no one sees you eat or seas WHAT you ate....thats pretty much an addiction. Anytime you feel the need to hide what you are eating, when you get offensive after someone looks at your food (with really no malintention), or when you make excuses at fastfood restaurant--or pretend to order for two--thats addiction. I've done all of these and the pretending to check the "text" from your coworker about their order or pretend to be on the phone with them so I get it right. It's really sad.

Didn't intend to depress anyone or offend but wanted to make a point that it really is an addiction and just because the food is being replaced it doesn't necessarily mean your mind is thinking that way yet.

A couple others:
-avoids my beautiful heels like the plague because I'm afraid I'll break them
-who keeps a pair of emergency flip flops in the car in case my coworkers want to walk to lunch (because I can't keep up with them in my work shoes)
-who would get scared and turn down men if they talked to me because I was afraid of rejection later
on that note...
-slipped into the friend zone because you've given up on impressing them

TheActress
08-14-2010, 01:35 PM
Thats one thing I never do is avoid my heels! I love them too much... but I do keep emergency flip flops because my heavy butt can only walk in them so long...

Except for my heels made by Carlos Santana of all people. I can walk in those for miles. If you want the most comfortable heels of your life, buy a pair! They're phenomenal. (Off topic, but still important ;) )

DhaniCauldwell
08-14-2010, 02:38 PM
I can identify with most of these! I've got some more...

-Pretend you have to go to bathroom when you're caught in a situation where you have to do trust exercises (falling into people's arms)
-Sit down in the car and immediately pull up your jeans to hide your fat roll
-Always eating salad in public

:queen: Dhani :queen:

ShellydeFlores
08-14-2010, 02:49 PM
Thats one thing I never do is avoid my heels! I love them too much... but I do keep emergency flip flops because my heavy butt can only walk in them so long...

Except for my heels made by Carlos Santana of all people. I can walk in those for miles. If you want the most comfortable heels of your life, buy a pair! They're phenomenal. (Off topic, but still important ;) )

Love, Love, Love Carlos Santana shoes! A lot of my heels are stilleto. I was a bit of a trampy dresser back in the day when I was able to wear them well. Now I feel like the heavy girl who everyone looks at and thinks "Wow, she really shouldn't be wearing those." I can't help it. When I do wear them, I can't wear them long. Plus I walk a lot. I have a long distant from my parking lot to my work building, then I walk to lunch, walk back, walk to my car after work...walk building to building for meetings. Heels just don't work well in that type of working condition. I wish I could wear them 24/7 like some of the thing girls on my floor. It doesn't even bother them.

TheActress
08-14-2010, 03:13 PM
Love, Love, Love Carlos Santana shoes! A lot of my heels are stilleto. I was a bit of a trampy dresser back in the day when I was able to wear them well. Now I feel like the heavy girl who everyone looks at and thinks "Wow, she really shouldn't be wearing those." I can't help it. When I do wear them, I can't wear them long. Plus I walk a lot. I have a long distant from my parking lot to my work building, then I walk to lunch, walk back, walk to my car after work...walk building to building for meetings. Heels just don't work well in that type of working condition. I wish I could wear them 24/7 like some of the thing girls on my floor. It doesn't even bother them.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who's found out the man is a genius with more than the guitar! I LOVE HIM FOR MAKING SHOES! I totally understand about not being able to wear them long (I keep flip flops in my purse lol). Most of mine are on the pretty tall end for heels. I think that's the one thing I look forward to most about not weighing what I do, being able to wear my heels all day long and not even think about it. Oh what a dream that is. :^:

ShellydeFlores
08-14-2010, 03:18 PM
Yes! I really can't wait to lose it al so I can get back into my heels. I just love them like children. I have high heels too. Few of them are under 4 in. I sometimes get self conscious wearing them because I'm tall as it is and then with them on I'm like an Amazon. Most of the guys I've ever dated we all around my height so it was dificult to wear heels around them. Hopefully when I lose all my weight and am actually attractive again I'll find me a tall, dark and handsome man I can wear them around.

Carlos Santana's wife I believe is the mastermind behind the shoes. She designs them if I remember correctly.

TheActress
08-14-2010, 03:40 PM
Yes! I really can't wait to lose it al so I can get back into my heels. I just love them like children. I have high heels too. Few of them are under 4 in. I sometimes get self conscious wearing them because I'm tall as it is and then with them on I'm like an Amazon. Most of the guys I've ever dated we all around my height so it was dificult to wear heels around them. Hopefully when I lose all my weight and am actually attractive again I'll find me a tall, dark and handsome man I can wear them around.

Carlos Santana's wife I believe is the mastermind behind the shoes. She designs them if I remember correctly.

Oh hun we're in the same boat, I don't think I own any heels under 4in. I totally get the amazon feeling too, I think I end up at no less than 6ft most of the time in heels... but I don't date guys under 6ft usually so I'm good to go. Guys my height make me feel totally awkward.

She is? That makes a little more sense then. She deserves some sort of shoe award.

Siki
08-14-2010, 03:41 PM
[QUOTE=MaddiesMom;3430209]Am I the only one...

I used to put on a shirt and if it was too tight, I would pull on it to stretch it out because I didn't want to admit that it was too small.]


Yeap I used to do that a lot too, still do sometimes ;)

boots
08-14-2010, 06:09 PM
yall made me laugh on this thread! I do the pillow on the couch thing most commonly but I've never thought about it before! or I hold a kid or a purse in my lap so I can feel comfortable.

mthrgoos68
08-14-2010, 06:10 PM
Boy, this is the best thread I've seen in a LONG time! I've done ALL of these, but the coughing after going up a flight of stairs is really the best! I really thought I was the only that had done that.

Am I The Only One That....

Went to the kids plays and awards assemblies a little late so that I could stand in the back and hope that nobody noticed me and made fun of them for having the fattest mom in the school?

Wouldn't go to a movie theater because I wouldn't fit in the seat?

Any time we had to go some place with a turnstile, I would be sure to stick one of the kids in a stroller (LONG after they should have been in a stroller), so that I could use the handicap entrance because I knew I wouldn't through the turnstile?

Would squat down and pull my shirts over my knees to stretch them out so they weren't tight on my stomach?

Would wait until everybody went to bed at night to sit down with a HUGE bowl of ice cream?

Would refuse to go to amusement parks because I knew I wouldn't fit on the rides?

Wouldn't sit at a picnic bench for fear of flipping it over to one side?

Would stand rather than sit because I was afraid of breaking the chairs?

TheActress
08-14-2010, 07:21 PM
mthrgoose- I was the stubborn one who went to the amusement parks, got on the rides, and then got tossed around because I was too fat for the thing to click down as far as it needed to :/

LiliK
08-14-2010, 08:13 PM
Just think how freeing it will be not to have to think about these things!! I'm really looking forward to not spending so much time avoiding the whole "hey, I'm fat and it governs my behavior" thing. I know we do it for both our own self-image and because we don't want to offend or bother others, but wow, we spend a whole lot of time thinking and planning and implementing these strategies.

N1kk1
08-15-2010, 07:33 AM
I have done almost all these things. Wow what a great thread! I do alot of the coughing up the stairs and stretching of the shirts. Other stuff is:

If I knew I could fit in a seat at the movie, but I would hang over or thru the seat, then I would turn down my pals offers for a movie and go later so I would not impose on their personal space.

Cross my legs in tight fit spaces, no mater how long or how uncomfortable, just fit or look like I fit better.

Avoid the tiny public bathrooms so that I did not have to squish in behind the door.

Work out at the wee morning hours so that there were minimal ppl around to see me jiggle and run the risk of breaking the elliptical.

K-boogie
08-16-2010, 01:18 PM
Would squat down and pull my shirts over my knees to stretch them out so they weren't tight on my stomach?

OMG!! YES say it ain't so. You too?


Would wait until everybody went to bed at night to sit down with a HUGE bowl of ice cream?



I have waited until my husband was in the shower and sneak snacks :(

Wyllowbelle
08-16-2010, 08:13 PM
What about airplanes? MY God the seats are only getting smaller. Has anyone forced the side arm down and the seat belt closed so tight they can hardly breathe for the 3 hours on the plane? I did that once and had bruises on the tops of my thighs because the seat belt dug in so badly and I refused to ask for an extension.

What about sneaking food in the kitchen? Like not going back for seconds, but grabbing finger fulls or spoon fulls from the pans still on the stove? Eating what was left of the kid's plates while cleaning up? I *still* have to fight that urge all the time - especially when money's tight in the summer and I "can't stand to waste it." I should really tell myself that I "can't stand to WAIST it." Besides - isn't that why someone invented Tupperware?

Oh, and always take profile and online photos from the shoulders up, neck lifted and "eyes big" so as to not look so chunky. I even "tuck the arm flub" just in case my upper arms show.

And I lied on my DL weight, too. By a good 50 lbs. And I cough when I'm out of breath to keep from panting. And heaven forbid if I'm TALKING to someone walking up stairs. I often fake a rock, or something, and then ask them a question so THEY have to talk, not me.


-Kiki

EagleRiverDee
08-16-2010, 11:06 PM
I have one:

Am I the only one who doesn't feel as fat as I look? Seriously- I see a photo of me and I am like, holy cow. (no pun intended!) ;) And even though, yeah, I feel fat, I don't feel that fat. Is it just a psychological thing? I can't imagine myself the way I actually look or something?

tryhardforlife
08-16-2010, 11:11 PM
Eagle I had a pic taken when I felt pretty confidant earlier in my weight loss and looking back boy too soon. Now sometimes I'm surprised my mirror image is so different than pictures in a good way.

SarahD140
08-16-2010, 11:15 PM
What a great thread, I am so not alone.

Frankenstien jeans! So me!
Pillow Covering tummy rolls
Hidden food/wrappers
Wearing panty hose/tight shorts to avoid chafing
Taking pictures from more "flattering" angles
Wearing lots of black
getting into cars slowly
Wearing layers in the AZ heat...

I am sure there are tons more for me.. Glad to know your all here w/ me