Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution Ė August 2010 Ė Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

08-01-2010, 08:11 AM
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The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

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08-01-2010, 08:13 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - A simple summer weekend day catching up on some chores. Ate on plan; CREDIT moi. Did my gym; CREDIT moi. Was cool enough at dinner that we had to wear long sleeved shirts to eat out on the patio - a tad unseasonable for the end of July in the Boston area.

The Blue Jay came to the bird bath as it does daily - not particularly disturbed that we were sitting about six feet away. Does four dip-and-shakes then flies to the fence. Beginning to feel like "our" Blue Jay, LOL. It's dry enough around here that our bird bath is serving the local avian community well.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Kudos for meeting your July exercise goal and for giving yourself new workout pants as a reward.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - You're really taking your exercise seriously - Kudos for going to the gym when you "had to twist my arm" with Kudos again for making an appointment with your trainer.

Interesting question about FREE samples: Yes, my food plan includes FREE samples - when new-to-me, rare or unusual, or as replacement for a snack. But not including the mundane that I could get anytime such as potato chips, crackers, cookies, and cheese. I consider myself wandered off plan when I grab a bunch of nuts, for example, just because they're FREE.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Ouch for leading horses to water; this parenting business is hard. Good choice to go replant your zucchini. You remind me of the song from the Fantasticks of the sixties, LOL,Plant a carrot, get a carrot,
not a Brussels sprout.
Thatís why I like vegetables,
you know what youíre about.

Donna (new2me2) - Yay for feeling better - with exercising and journalling. Lack of sleep brings the whole world down.

Amber (AmberPr) - Congrats on reaching Onderland - nice milestone. Have you planned a reward? Yay for your own raspberries coming in - I'm jealous. Count me as one of those still learning to plan. If I make a (realistic) plan for the day, I get more done. If my list includes, for example, eliminate world hunger, then the whole list is useless - as if it didn't exit. So my current challenge is making choices when making the list, which seems like a good way to live when I do it.

synger - Ouch for when "My 'just say no' goes completely out the window" - BTDT. Good to have that calibrated so that choices can be made.

Readers - day 33
Eliminate Emotional Eating

Use Mindset Techniques
Apply the same kind of thinking techniques you previously learned to combat emotional eating:

. . .
Read your Advantages Response Card. Review all the reasons you want to lose weight. Don't you still want to achieve all those benefits? Aren't they still important? Is it worth strengthening your giving-in muscle by eating now?

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 229.

08-01-2010, 11:12 AM
I ate one green grape tomato standing up -- in front of the Farmers Market stand where the farmer was trying to convince everyone that those green tomatoes were tastier than they looked! And they were!

Speaking of green tomatoes, it looks like this is going to be the first year that I'm successful at growing tomatoes and I have a question for those of you more experienced. Are all of those green tomatoes going to ripen at the same time? Or will they do it a few at a time? I'm going to be overwhelmed if they all ripen at once.

WI: +0.4kg, Exercise: +30 1875/1800 minutes for July, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

seadwaters: great job getting things set up this weekend to take care of yourself!

new2me2: I've been thinking that I might want a dance game since I have so much fun walking to music. I'll put Just Dance on the list!

Lexxiss: glad you were able to get to a time and space where you can take care of yourself.

synger: good realization that you can't have more than two drinks and stay on plan

AmberPr: forgot to write this yesterday -- CONGRATULATIONS on reaching onederland! That's so exciting!

BillBlueEyes: kudos for a good on-plan weekend!

08-01-2010, 12:06 PM
From Bill ... Thanks for the reinforcement about small resentments. Have you any clues about how to spot them coming? Or to stop them during the wallowing-about period?

From gardenerjoy ... interesting that, for you, going to work is the path to food sanity!

Let me fiddle around with these comments for a bit.

Hm. Hmm. Hmmm.

Well, I can say that long work days are good because all my food is packed, there's no choice, and I eat mountains of raw veg.

Home days could, therefore, be better if I invested time at the beginning of the day in flinging a mountain of raw veg together.

There are other good things about long work days like hours alone, wrestling with one sticky problem after another. (I love this - but I do know that not everyone would. :p) Home has its fair share of sticky problems, of course, but I don't have long concentrated hours available to me there (some of you know, I think, that 10 year olds chat, sing, argue, tell jokes, discuss, ask riddles, read bits out of books and magazines and a few other things I can't remember. Ask advice and for points of information. Cut up a lot of cardboard.) Not spending too much time on making food & washing up would help me and quell some resentmentitos. (N.B. If SO is also not working then it's a bit different as he also cooks and washes up.)

So, part of the answer is, therefore, get as much food ready FOR ME beforehand and early, whether the day will be spent at home, at work or on tour. Do this as part of the daily routine, thus cutting down on having to think about my frequently complicated trajectory through the day.

Another part of the answer could be to buy the full complement of raw eating veg each time I shop, rather than thinking 'which veg do I need?'

Bill - my resentmentitos are frequently because tasks have built up and I am having to multitask. I just can't do this as my brain doesn't work well at all in this situation. (That nonsense about women and multitasking is just that. I shall not get started on this subject.) It hurts my brain and I want to use (read: save) my remaining brain cells for consciously undertaken, sharply focused actions rather than a blurry muddle. N.B. Here, I don't mean the blurry muddles of birth and death, of illness, divorce or other very emotionally fraught times. I mean the ironing, the travel timetable, the shopping and so on. And the food, of course. Clues: don't let 'it' build up? A little and often? Name and shame the resentmentito head early on? And then knock it on the head, oh-well-ly?

That's probably enough rambling from me at present. Have we edged on a little? I hope so. Got to keep the wheels turning.

... next day. With me so far? :) I wrote that last night when rather tired. Thanks, friends. I'll post it anyway.

Hope all is going well in your neck of the woods. :hug: for being on the journey.

08-01-2010, 12:28 PM
Good morning all and happy August! I can't believe it's AUGUST already, lol!

Well, my wish came true...I broke 147 today, and came very close to breaking 146, lol! I stepped on the scale and could hardly believe my eyes when it read 146.2! Yay, lol. :D Unlike Silverbirch, I do MUCH better at home, lol. I go for longer periods between eating and there is usually no stress to weaken my resolve plus there are lots of things I can do for distraction...not so much at work. ;)

I got a tiny bit more sleep. I still woke up at 1 a.m., but was able to get a back to sleep a little more often I think. Not sure what's up with the 1 a.m. thing, but I want it to go away, lol. :D

Have not done anything YET, but will get some exercise in one way or another today. My stomach is a little sorer again today, but not bad enough to keep me from doing anything. A walk may be in order if the overcast will ever leave. I like to walk early when it's quiet and light traffic, but I also want sun. I'm pretty sure I'm low on Vitamin D at the moment and it would be nice to get a little natural D. :) If it gets too late, I'll do a DVD and some Walk It Out.

Seadwaters(Cheryl) Good job on getting yourself to the gym! Very, very good job at planning and thinking through things! Glad to hear Bonnie is playing! That makes me smile!

BillBlueEyes It's been a bit cooler here too...I wore a sweatshirt around most of the day Friday and when I was home yesterday, lol.

gardenerjoy LOL on the green tomatoe. Unfortunately I know nothing of growing tomatoes...only eating them, lol. And, re Just Dance. It's got some good music and you try to copy the moves they show you. A little comical in my case, but good exercise trying to catch up! :D

Waving to everyone else!!

08-01-2010, 03:13 PM
on-plan yesterday -- under calories and carbs.

today's my monthly weigh-and-measure... down six pounds from last month (my goal is 5), but no difference on the tape measure. Not really a surprise on that, because I've been feeling like I'm in a holding pattern this month, weight wise. I dropped 30 pounds fairly quickly, and I think this month was a "slow down and reshuffle" month for my body. My pants are definitely looser.

08-02-2010, 07:00 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The tomatoes are coming in; long live tomatoes!!! Super good. Yellow ones are especially good this year. And the plants are still loaded.

Rode my bike here and there for errands and going places - just like I did when I was a kid and lived on my bike. It wasn't muscle development exercise, like riding it up an Arizona mountain, but it's stay-alive exercise and fun. CREDIT moi for enjoying life.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Don't understand what's up with a "green grape tomato" - is it a variety that's green when its ripe? My take is that tomatoes ripen a few at a time, until they sense that you've gone away for a day, smugly thinking you know that you're safe. Then all the rest turn scarlet simultaneously, LOL.

silverbirch - Think you're onto something for heading off resentment with, "Clues: don't let 'it' build up? A little and often?" Clearing the decks of the little stuff helps me feel sane - when I do it. The little tasks usually don't take as much time as I spend putting them off.

Donna (new2me2) - Yay for natural Vitamin D. Ouch for avoiding the sun to prevent skin cancer. Double Ouch for finding the right balance between those two. Hope your stomach settles down. And Congrats on breaking the 147 barrier.

synger - LOL at " 'slow down and reshuffle' month for my body" - great attitude of acceptance that the body does what the body does.

Readers - day 33
Eliminate Emotional Eating

Food can be an effective distractor - temporarily.
But eating doesn't solve the problem that led to
your distress in the first place.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 228.

08-02-2010, 07:05 AM
Hi Coaches

An on plan day - ate something sensible at the cafeteria that I anticipated would be on the menu. Got home and ate an on-plan meal so all is well. I have made an appointment for the trainer tomorrow morning and then I will work at home which will be good. Will plan and prepare for the rest of the week

Waving to all of you - hope all is well

Credits - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - No - $0
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - Yes - $1
- Made food plan - Yes - $1
- Logged food soon after eating - No (time and access) - $0
- Food on-plan - No - biscuits
- Posted to the list - Here I am
- Ate seated every time - No - $0
- Ate mindfully and slowly - Yes
- Put down fork occasionally - Yes
- Weighed myself - Yes - 214.8 - $1
- Drank water - Yes
- Exercise - No - $0

TALLY (only red ones earn money!) - DAY = $3; Week = $8

Working on - :running:
Planning Planning Planning

Have a good day Beckies

08-02-2010, 09:35 AM
Good morning everyone,

Had a really lazy day yesterday. Felt sore and tired and no motivation, unlike Saturday when I felt I had tons of energy. Guess it caught up with me. I'm still feeling tired today- only went half way on my morning walk.

Today begins a new week. It's gonna be a tuff one. Three out of five days will be on the road. I'm planning to have salads with meat when I eat out, or brothbased soup, or plain sandwiches. I'll pack snack size bags of carrots, peapods, cheese and crackers, yogurt and fruit &/or fruit smoothies. TO DO) Tonight I'll start bagging things up.

What I'm thankful for today: That my little family is still together and that we work through our problems even when we are so mad at each other we can't see straight. Sometimes we don't see eye to eye and usually that's o.k., but we also have the patience to let things work themselves out. We have had so many friends and relatives who have gone through divorce and I have a relative going through some major changes right now. Even when it really is for the best, it's devestating....


walked alot over the weekend
picked more raspberries
hauled some junk to the dump and recycle center
did a lot of online seaching for healthy meal ideas, etc
put together a mail station (do you have mail piled all over the place? We'lll see if this works. Seems like everything I try in the battle against paper, I lose...)
Ate healthfully all weekend (although only half was planned and the rest "no plan"
weighed myself this morning. Was up a little. Am chalking it up to water retention as there is no way I ate enough calories to gain any weight!Hope everyone has a good day,

08-02-2010, 10:53 AM
I decided yesterday to start shifting my focus a bit from losing weight to building muscle. For a couple of months now, I've been doing mostly long low-intensity aerobic workouts which seem to be most effective for getting the weight off. But, since I want to be functional, not just thinner, this seems like a good time to work some strength training back in the routine. As part of that, I'm also reading The Body Fat Solution by Tom Venuto -- a book by a body builder, but for regular people.

WI: -0.35kg, Exercise: +105 105/1800 minutes for August, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

silverbirch: I like your ramblings -- it's helpful to see someone else's process of working things out. Seems the wheels are turning.

new2me2: yay for the downtic in weight!

synger: yay for loose pants!

BillBlueEyes: kudos for biking for errands. Yep, green grape tomatoes are green when they are ripe! That's helpful to know about tomatoes -- that means they will ripen next weekend when we've gone to KC for four days!

seadwaters: good job with planning and following through on the cafeteria meal and the meal at home. Hope your appointment with the trainer goes well.

AmberPr: way to go with planning for a busy week with travel!

08-02-2010, 10:56 AM
Good morning all! I decided to try to wait the overcast out a bit, so I cleaned the bathroom, lol. Yay and credit, lol. I even scrubbed the grout lines which are mostly hopeless, but I did make some difference.

My goal this week is to do just a little straightening every day. We'll see how THAT goes, lol.

Meals were on plan and I even decided to bake that WW GF Diet Coke cake. I made 12 mini bundt cakes then cut them in half and froze them. They aren't bad, but fortunately not quite yummy enough to make me want to eat them all at once. Phew!

By the time I did all that, it was 9:30 and the sun still wasn't out yet, so decided to just go for the walk anyway. I put on my socks and shoes, got my pedometer, opened the door, and the sun started to come out! Yay! Got my natural D afterall, lol. It was still peaceful enough for most of the walk, and was glad I went without iPod! :D But I got a shocker when I read my normal route was only 1.5 miles. I thought it was a bit longer than that. Next weekend, I'll try a bit different route and see what happens. :)

Then yesterday evening I did 30 minutes of slightly more vigorous Walk It Out (the songs were in the 170 bpm range and so I jogged in place through much of them).

The best news of all...I slept better! Yay! I did still wake up at 1:00 but went back to sleep and stayed asleep until about 2:30. That's okay with me. I get up at 3:40 ish anyway, so if I can get anywhere near there I'm happy.

My weight went back up a little today, but I think I know why and it should go away again quickly enough.

synger CONGRATULATIONS on 6 lbs lost this month!

BillBlueEyes Still envious of your tomatoes, lol! Also envious of your bike rides!

seadwaters(Cheryl) Yay for an on-plan day!!

AmberPr It sounds like you have a great start and plan for your busy week! Bagging ahead is a great plan for me as well! I do have one place where my mail goes...I have stacks of paper everywhere, but a little upright mail holder that the mail goes in as soon as I pick it up...or I should say the bills go there. I sort through the rest by my recycle bins, lol.

08-02-2010, 11:09 AM
Yesterday went well. Under calories and carbs, and 30 minutes on elliptical. We had gamers over, and Anne made a lasagna for dinner. I ate a small piece, and was satisfied. (Scott and Anne both had seconds, which surprised me!) She had also brought cheesecake from the Cheesecake factory, and I did not have any!

08-02-2010, 12:22 PM
Hi Coaches! Welcome to August! Unbelievable.

Had a great weekend in the pool! yay, that it is finally operating!!!!

went to the grocery although I was so NOT in the mood to battle the crowds. CREDIT. Grumped at everyone that bumped into me. DISCREDIT.

ate on plan. Took that pound back off! yayayyayayay!!!! I was shocked to see it this morning.

Yesterday, I visited with my friend for 2 1/2 hours yesterday and her 21 month old and my 2 year old going full force the whole time and it was a 45 minute drive each way. I decided I was going to stop on the way home and just eat out! I decided it. I looked as I drove. And thank God there was nothing on the way. It's a toll road and boy am I glad for that. About 1/2 way home, I said, whatever, my diet no fuss veggie pizza is just fine. Get over yourself. So I went home and ate right! SUPER BIG CREDIT!!! and today, when I saw how the scale rewarded me, I was thrilled.

I need to remember the scale can be kind as well. ;)

have a great day everyone!

08-02-2010, 12:51 PM
Hello August, wow, hard to believe it is August already.

Saturday we to a ride out to the orchard areas of the county ( I am in Central Washington, TONS of fruits and vegetables in the grocery stores come from my back yard!)
We got a bunch of hot peppers, some eggplant, walla walla sweet onions, and plums, apricots and nectarines! Then Sunday morning we made a batch of pepper jelly. we will continue to make several batches over the next 2 months, green now, yellow in late August and red in September, and we give these away through the year. Generally the green is mild..OH BOY, not this first batch! It is great used as a chicken glaze, or served with cream cheese and crackers.
We made our sushi Saturday night, it was great, each of us made a we also had Pho, a Vietnamese noodle soup. Starts with broth (we used veggie) and noodles, once that is super hot and the noodles cooked we ladel it into our bowls that have thin sliced onion and bean sprouts in them, then we add to the top fresh basil and mint leaves, and cooked protien (we used shrimp this time) The hot broth meeting the fresh herbs is fantastic!
So that was our dinner, out on the front porch, after a surprise storm that afternoon. LOVE the smell of fresh rain.
Sunday we made home made pita pockets, never will I buy them again, 25 minutes work, 1 hour raising, costs about 50-75 cents for 8 Whole wheat, no preservative pita pockets, and they were wonderful. We had lentils, corn on the cob, rainbow chard, and pita bread....again on the front porch.
Today it is over cast, so I might mow the front yard after work if no one else has done it yet. The sun is not my friend, and I stay out of it as often as possible, I have had skin cancer already, So breaks from the sun now and then are very welcomed.
Wish I could say I was on plan today, but I did not pack anything for lunch, so I may leave the office and run home and get something later...well see how the day goes so far.
Getting ready to plan a campout for 80 people, and that always excites me every year. I do all the meal planning and the cooking, and we eat healthy, but VERY well. No hot dogs and canned chili for us! But there will be a black bean veggie chili on the fire this year.
Credits for this weekend, did some workout---enough to make cramps in my calves, so now know I need more water
Planned meals for the entire week, and sticking to them
In a smaller pair of jeans although the scale is not reflecting that

08-03-2010, 01:16 AM
Checking in after vacation. So, I had planned all 4 days in advance, I followed the plan 2 of the 4 days. The 2 days I didn't follow my plan I didn't go too crazy, but still went over calories and felt disappointed in myself.

I got home and read Day 19, Stop Fooling yourself.
I have a problem with the sabotaging thought Beck describes so well in this chapter (and it was my weekend problem) as "It's okay to eat this because I want it...and, besides I don't really care". I read this in the book just last night after I returned. Her response is "I might not care at this moment, but I will care in a few minutes. I'll be unhappy if I eat something I shouldn't. And, I sure will care when I find out I am not losing weight".

I need to revisit that often. When I get off track I am very aware and just say "I don't care." I must remember that "I WILL CARE".

I was back on track Sunday.


exercised 2x today
Ate on plan
Made tomorrows plan
Posted here
Read ARC's

Hello All and Thanks for being here

Mikkijoe: So nice to have all that great produce in your backyard. The family sushi rolling was a great idea. I love PHO too.

Houston2command: The working pool sounds great especially in the heat you have been having. I love swims at dawn.

Synger: A small piece of lasagna and NO cheesecake factory desert! You deserve 4 credits for that.

new2me2: The diet coke cake doesn't sound like it was too good. There is a spice cake recipe modification that floats around weight watchers and may be on their website. It is REALLY good.

Gardnerjoy: Congratulations on deciding to do weights. I have been taking a body pump class twice a week since April. I don't love weights. I use to do them in front of the TV and thought it was great, but quickly got bored. I really like the body pump class because it forces me to do a routine. I have really noticed definition in my arms and I have fewer aches and pains since starting (although, this took a couple months.) I think it is a great idea to change focus like that and not make it all about dieting.

AmberPR: Good luck with the travel week. I use to travel weekly for my job and I know how difficult that can be with dieting.

Seadwaters: Hope the trainer went well. I should do that sometime. It scares me a little because I heard they work you really hard.

BillBluEyes: You really make vegetables seem so appealing. Thanks for making them sound like such a treat. I like to bike around too. I am thinking of adding some paniers to my bike so I can run more errands. Right now, I stuff everything in a messenger bag so it limits bike grocery runs.

Have a great week

08-03-2010, 05:15 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I've really been struggling, but I keep trying *credit*. I do really well on a routine and I've been having a hard time getting back into one. I am tired and a bit depressed. Acknowledging it does help. Yesterday morn I just got up and really didn't care...and of course ate things not on my plan. By 11am I made the decision to "start my day over". So....I started with my morning coffee outside, had my usual breakfast and vitamins and made the decision to get a few things checked off my list. I overate my carbs at dinner but it was OP food which was an improvement over the past few days.

Today I will read from my Beck book-DONE-*credit*-Day 34 Do Problem Solving.
-Define the problem specifically
-acknowledge what goes through my mind when I think about it
-Respond to unhelpful thinking with the seven question technique.
I am tired and depressed. I am straying from my food plan and am having a hard time getting back into my exercise and life routine.
"If I realize that I can change what I do, I'll feel more in control and probably be more effective." (notebook-p 194)
Today I will get back on my bike and go to my water aerobics class.
Today I will write down my food plan and stick to it.

Onward and upward!

BillBlueEyes, Yay for tomatoes of all colors! I enjoy riding my bike for errands, too, and will make an effort for 1 bike errand today. Thanks for the reminder! lol for Fantastiks!

Alma, *credit* for hopping right back on plan. I'm working on "Stop Fooling yourself", too.

Mikkijoe, what a wonderful time of year for you! I enjoyed the trip through the orchards...and your description of a very healthy weekend. *credit*

Houston2Command, *credit* for riding out your food urges. I'm glad the scale rewarded you, too.

Synger, *credit* for not overeating. Great news, too, for eating a small piece and feeling "satisfied"!

Donna, I'm trying for a little straightening every day, too. I find food is better when environment is better. *credit* for continued exercise effort!

gardenerjoy, *credit* for reevaluating your focus and deciding to start building muscle. I am going to try a green tomato right now....hmm not too bad.

AmberPr, thanks for sharing "What I'm thankful for today." I really appreciate that. *credit* for all your list of credits. Hope you are having good results with a mail station. I have a pretty good filing system and I think my most successful technique is by getting mail items filed immediately if they don't need further attention.

Cheryl (seadwaters), *credit* for sensible eating at the cafeteria. I'm glad to hear things are going more smoothly at home.

silverbirch, it helped me to read through your post. Sometimes I multitask quite well, but when I feel down it's much harder. *credit* for identifying the problem and working on the solution.

08-03-2010, 06:00 AM
Hi Coaches
Hope you all had a good day. I spoke a little soon about Bonnie being settled - she became very agitated last night - wouldn't settle and kept getting up and scratching at the door. Not sure who she was looking for but it wasn't me. I had to give her a sedative again. I got up, gave the pill and had to wait until she slept. Today she has wet all the dog bedding several times so we are washing everything. I made the mistake of stopping the daytime antidepressant but think it has a sedative effect she needs - sorry to go on - it has dominated my day. She is now more settled and eating again (she has none of these issues at my sister's house!). My sister leaves tomorrow for four weeks - I am really excited for her. She will be back in 5 weeks so I have Bonnie for a while yet. I didn't eat over this - so am happy about that.

I have a chicken pizza in the oven. I had forgotten how useful they were - you get a chicken breast and fillet it and beat it flat. It then becomes the base for a pizza. I am looking forward to it.

All together an on-plan day but as I was rushed for most of it I found myself eating lunch as I went to sit to eat. I went to gym - changed the appointment to the middle of the day while I dealt with doggie chaos this am. Big day tomorrow and the next so I need to get organised - it seems to take a while to get the doggie dinners done!

Credits - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - Yes - $1
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - Yes - $1
- Made food plan - Yes - $1
- Logged food soon after eating - Yes - $1
- Food on-plan - No - biscuits
- Posted to the list - Here I am
- Ate seated every time - No - $0
- Ate mindfully and slowly - Yes
- Put down fork occasionally - Yes
- Weighed myself - Yes - down - 212.8 - $1
- Drank water - Yes
- Exercise - YES - $1

TALLY (only red ones earn money!) - DAY = $6; Week = $14

Working on - :running:
Planning Planning Planning

Have a good day Beckies

08-03-2010, 07:30 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - When I was out walking the other day when it was hot, I saw an older lady walking along, slowly, in shorts, with the kind of double thighs that heavy people must always hide under long pants since I've never seen them before. I saw people staring at her disapprovingly, but to my delight and thanks to getting sensitized from reading on 3FC, I silently cheered thinking, D*mn the torpedoes - wear shorts when it's hot!

Had a mess of leftover kale with onions for lunch - just right; CREDIT moi. And gym after work; CREDIT moi. More tomatoes from the garden with more to come.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Neat idea to shift your focus per, "want to be functional, not just thinner." I think it's great when we focus away from weight issues to heath and strength issues. And Yep, your tomatoes will smell when you're in KC - just like dogs can smell fear, LOL.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Flattened chicken breast for a pizza base - what a brilliant idea. Do you then precook the chicken or just cover it with toppings and bake it all together? Kudos for your kindly attitude as you juggle the recipe for keeping Bonnie comfortable - for six more weeks! Which may seem like a long time in human weeks, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) Yay for "Onward and upward!" With Big Kudos for using the Seven Questions Technique to chase down your issue. You're in a genuine difficult situation right now; you're doing well to stay so focused.

Donna (new2me2) - Yay for "natural D after all." Kudos for the clear portion control with the mini bundt cakes. Ouch to me for being reminded that scrubbing the grout lines in the bathroom is an option.

Houston2Command - Yep, SUPER BIG KUDOS for facing down that desire to eat fast food. Yay for homemade veggie pizza. What does "no fuss" mean?

Amber (AmberPr) - Yay for "Healthfully all weekend." And Kudos for carefully planning in advance your three days on the road. (Is "in advance" needed in that sentence? Does one ever plan after the fact?)

Mikkijoe - Yay for all the fruits and vegetables in Washington State. And my thanks to your growers for shipping them to Massachusetts. Just amazing that you are planning and then cooking for 80 people camping out. And "healthy" at that. Good show!

Alma (Alma4343) - But Kudos also for "didn't go too crazy" - the most important part in my opinion is to avoid the just-let-it-all-go temptations. Yep, and thanks for the reminder, "I WILL CARE." I also need panniers - but need to learn to pronounce them first, LOL.

synger - Kudos for avoiding Cheesecake Factory cheesecake. The very name of that place serves as a warning to me. Recently we were meeting friends for dinner - she talks quite a bit about her dieting - and they chose Cheesecake Factory! We gently steered our group to a place with some tasty seafood options; <shudder>.

Readers - day 33
Eliminate Emotional Eating

do you eat emotionally?
Emotional eating involves a desire to distract yourself from an unpleasant feeling. When you find yourself eating for a reason other than true hunger, ask yourself, How was I just feeling emotionally?

Was I feeling sad, lonely worried, embarrassed, frustrated, angry, guilty?
Was I feeling at loose ends, unsettled, bored?
Was I trying to avoid doing something I didn't want to do?
The Beck Diet Solution, pg 229.

08-03-2010, 09:29 AM
Quick post today. I'm handing out literature at the polls for a friend of mine who is running for our state representative in Jefferson City. That's probably not too much of a challenge to my healthy plans, but I didn't sleep well last night and had to get up early for this, which will be a challenge all day long. Reminding myself that eating does not fix tired.

WI: +0.05kg, Exercise: +60 165/1800 minutes for August, Food: 75%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

08-03-2010, 09:52 AM
Good morning:

Credit today for weighing in. Even though I knew it would be bad. And it was. However, I know if I don't get on the scale, I for sure don't face reality.

Credit for posting this morning.

Credit for eating egg whites for breakfast. And going to work in a few minutes with yogurt and blueberrries for morning snack, salad and tuna on brown for lunch and veggies for afternoon snack.

Credit for a plan to deal with the next 2 nights in the hotel. Am bringing cereal for the mornings. I intend to buy food for the next 3 days at the grocery store- no going to restaurants. And will either walk or ride the hotel bike and am bringing my weights. Now I just need to do it all. :D

I am starting to feel what I feel like when I am not taking care of myself: sad, worried, angry with myself, tired, and defeated.

Have a great week everyone. Sooner or later I am going to get this right.


08-03-2010, 11:19 AM
Good morning all!

It's surprising how quickly an on-plan day can go awry... As most of you may remember, I have a gluten free co-worker who likes to bake. She brings me a baked treat once a month or so...sometimes a little more often, some times a little less. When I started Beck, I made a "pre-plan" to have those treats when she brings them. She usually brings small portions, so going crazy with them isn't an issue. Yesterday she brought two. And, I ate them both. :o :dizzy: Yes indeed. A gluten free cupcake and a gluten free biscuit that she had made with the new Bisquick Gluten Free mix. They were good. :) Fortunately, I had enough points left on WW to have them, and even eating both, I was well under my calorie allotment for the day. And also fortunately, I knew there was a good chance she would bring them yesterday since I knew she was buying the Bisquick, so I saved a lot of my weekly points just in case.

The rest of the day, I was strictly on plan. I did an hour of Walk It Out last night.

Unfortunately I'm up more today in weight. Hoping it's just water retention from the extra carbs, and not a reflection of my week last week. :)

I slept MUCH better last night. I made it until 2 before I woke up and then did fall back asleep...woke up right before 4. That's enough to make me happy! :D

synger Major credit for not overeating...a small piece of lasagna is a huge credit in my world (part Italian, lol).

Houston2Command Oooh, I sooo dislike shopping in crowds, lol. I usually try to get to the grocery store when they first open, but that's not always possible. Congratulations on your lost pound. Major credit for skipping the fast food!

Mikkijoe Your fruit/veggie haul sounds yummy as does your sush and pita pockets! :) Every once in a while I get the urge to try to make my own tortillas...they sound easy enough and that way I can make them out of one of the flours I can eat. Alas, too lazy, lol. Yay, for black bean veggie chili, lol. Congratulations on the smaller pair of jeans!!! I've often said I wouldn't mind at all what the scale said I weigh if I could just get back into my smallest jeans, lol. :D

Alma4343 I think I may need to make a response card with your Day 19 quote! :) I think they gave us the spice cake recipe as well. I'll have to look. The diet coke cake actually tasted good, but just wasn't good enough to make me want to eat them all. :)

Lexxiss I'm so sorry you are struggling but glad acknowledging it helps.
"If I realize that I can change what I do, I'll feel more in control and probably be more effective." LOVE this!!! And, I think everything is better when the environment is better, lol.

seadwaters Poor Bonnie! Sorry you had to start the sedatives again. MAJOR credit to you for not overeating over the whole thing!!! I absolutely LOVE the idea of chicken pizza...I must try that, although acknowledging how lazy I am, it will not probably be soon, lol!

BillBlueEyes Good for you for cheering on the lady you saw. I see that type of situation a lot and I usually think that it's great that people will get out and have fun and not care about what others think of their body, but I still have a hard time not caring myself. I cover up a lot. :^:

gardenerjoy Hope your day goes well and that you can get some sleep tonight!

CeeJay Major, major credit for getting on the scale to face reality! I really admire you for's so easy to ignore the consequences of our actions sometimes. Great plan for your travels!!

08-03-2010, 12:44 PM
Sitting at my desk, with my cup of coffee, and I SHOULD be doing payroll, but nope.....:o

Something really hit me today, when I read the comment from BillBlueEyes and he said to me 'good show' ....... I clearly understand what he was saying BUT I also turned that around to myself "good show" in, Am I being Authentic, transparent, honest? 100%? I get all upset because the scale is not moving, it is such an injustice, such a conspiracy, all against ME! WAAHHHH Poor me, such a pity party, I do all these great steps forward, BUT no result. Yet I fail to sometimes acknowledge the steps backward, and more importantly, find the prevention programs for those backward steps.

Kinda hipocrital of myself! I am constantly preaching authenticity in people and relationships.....When you point your finger at someone three more are pointing at yourself, huh...:^:

So that is my reflective coffee moment today. Now I need to do something about it.


Our sun has gone away. Although we are 4 hours drive from British Columbia, we have a haze in our sky from a large fire up there. Its a little depressing, still 80-90 degrees, but no blue skys that we always enjoy.

Hitting the planning hot and heavy for our camping trip (after I get payroll done today!:o )
Making some more jelly tonight, and then looking into making some zuchini relish too
OH, and getting some walking in.....funny how that is an after thought, not funny haha:joker: but funny not so funny but sad :nono:

08-03-2010, 01:22 PM
hi everyone.

had a big emotional night and ate nothing. the good to take from it is that in the past I would have eaten everything and then some. I would have made all the bad food in the world pay for my upset mood. I think skinny people don't turn to food when they are upset. So Credit me for thinking like a skinny person.

today was weigh in day. lost 2 lbs! no doubt some of it if from skipping dinner and snack last night. But some is probably from my consistent workouts so I'm still taking credit.

having trouble finding a desire to eat today still. forced breakfast down.

I lost almost 2 more inches overall so total inches is more than 7! that's great.

and best of all, today I reached my previous all time high weight which I swore then I would never see again. I did all the right stuff eating and working out but skipped the cognitive and the long term maintenance part. I now know how imperative these parts are. Almost more important than the diet and exercise. so yay for this milestone.

glad to see how well everyone is doing. thanks for the inspiration.

08-03-2010, 04:20 PM
Hello All!

Sorry to take a few days away, but I rarely get time in front of the computer at home- so on the weekends, it's impossible! Credit moi for not overeating this past weekend when in-laws were over. I always over-indulge when they're footing the food bill. I'm trying to plan my meals ahead of time, but it's hard to do so when DH doesn't want to deal with it until a few hours before. The best I can do is agree on a meat to defrost the day before.

The baby woke up every time his pacifier popped out last night. At 4 o'clock in the morning, I found myself asleep while standing by the crib with my hand on his belly. He had my hand in a vice grip (I think he thinks I'm his teddy bear). It was so precious, but I told him that I wanted him to start sleeping through the night - then he could stop growing up. You think he'll listen?

Take care y'all!

08-04-2010, 05:44 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Walked past the container of trail mix in the pantry and had the thought, I'll just have a little. Duh!!! Where'd that come from? Entertained it for a while, remembering how much I like the stuff since it contains dried cranberries. Then remembered that I'm working to get my scale jitter centered on my declared weight instead of jittering above. Said Oh, Well, and continued on my way. CREDIT moi.

CeeJay - Kudos indeed for planning your next two nights in the hotel; planning is a great way to fight the "not taking care of myself" blues.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yep, "eating does not fix tired." Just noticing that you've set yourself a strenuous exercise goal for the month; Kudos for keeping the bar high.

Donna (new2me2) - It's pretty remarkable that gluten-free is so mainstream that there's a Bisquick for it. Yay for sleep. And Yay for recognizing that 4am is, indeed, part of today instead of last night, LOL.

Houston2Command - Congrats on the two more inches lost, and Congrats on reaching the emotional milestone. It is interesting to ponder that skinny people don't turn to food when they're upset.

Mikkijoe - Hope you get your payroll done; there's nothing like a pending deadline to motivate me to head off into reflective thoughts about something else, LOL. What's in zucchini relish?

MorganleFay - Smart kid there who knows how to totally immobilize you with a vice grip while he sleeps. Here's hoping you get some sleep sometime. Kudos for staying on-plan with your in-laws.

Readers - day 33
Eliminate Emotional Eating

Use Behavioral Techniques
Take some action in order to decrease your distress when you're upset:

Distract yourself: When you're upset, watching TV or reading might not be distracting enough. Look at My Distraction Activities Chart on page 132 to choose a few activities to try.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 229.

08-04-2010, 06:29 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I had a much better day yesterday, *credit* for just "doing it". While at the pool, I decided this would be a good month to record my exercise as a way to get back into it.*credit* for that. Instead of riding my bike home, I rode across town to visit a friend. On the way home I noticed I had crossed the 200 mile mark on my new bike. *credit* When I started, I barely rode around the block. A moment of self reflection at how far I have come eased my current struggle a bit. As a reward, I found excellent chokecherries along the bike path. Fortunately, poop bags were nearby and I picked a gallon before calling in my assistant, DH, to help.
Todays mission is to rethink my evenings. I need to come up with a new plan to counteract my DH, the constant snacking machine.

BillBlueEyes, perhaps we have the same trail mix, as mine has cranberries, too. A serving never satisfies me; instead I use a spoonful as a salad topping. *credit* for the successful walk-by.

Cheryl (seadwaters), I hope your doggie chaos has improved. *credit* for an op day, even when rushed.

gardenerjoy, I hope you got some rest. *credit* for recognizing tired VS hungry.

CeeJay, it is good to see you here. Identifying feelings is important. *credit* for planning ahead.

Donna(new2me2), *credit* for staying "strictly" on plan after the extra treat. Glad to hear you are sleeping better-I am happy with five hours.

Mikkijoe, *credit* for getting your walking in , even if you are a little hard on yourself.

Houston2Command, *credit* for emotions without eating! I am finding, too, that when I get to that spot and actually recognize that there isn't a single food that will ease the pain. Congrats on WL!

MorganleFe, *credit* for not overeating when someone else is footing the bill. Your description of your night made me tired. lol. Take care.

Ok, I am off to find my first cup of coffee. Have a great day everyone!

08-04-2010, 07:49 AM
Hi Coaches

Just got home, fed the dogs, rapidly cooked dinner and now about to eat it. I ate sensibly at work and have had an on-plan day. I had to walk all over the campus so got lots of unplanned exercise which has to be good. Will hopefully check in soon. Tomorrow is a long one. Bonnie seems settled again but they are long days alone for her (she doesn't see my dogs as company!)

Re the chicken pizza - the chicken base is covered raw - usually with some sort of tomato base, then lots of baby spinach and grated zucchini, and onions and olives and mushrooms and sliced tomato. And a final sprinkle of a little parmesan. Good. Cooked for about 12 minutes in hot oven

Credits - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - Yes - $1
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - Yes - $1
- Made food plan - Yes - $1
- Logged food soon after eating - No - $0
- Food on-plan - No - biscuits
- Posted to the list - Here I am
- Ate seated every time - Yes - $1
- Ate mindfully and slowly - Yes
- Put down fork occasionally - Yes
- Weighed myself - Yes - up - 213 - $1
- Drank water - Yes
- Exercise - no - $0

TALLY (only red ones earn money!) - DAY = $5; Week = $19

Working on - :running:
Staying on plan at work and when really busy

Have a good day Beckies

08-04-2010, 09:22 AM
Hi Becksters - I had a good visit with family. It was good to spend time with my silly grandson.

In the realm of everything seems to be going wrong...I now have a huge painful rash as a result of the antibiotic for the other rash. I went back to the dermatologist and we have a new approach to all this. I am feeling weary of the whole thing, really. But - I found this quote....“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance you must keep moving” Albert Einstein So - I will keep moving forward.

I have a plan for today. I am going to do some meditation. I think it will be helpful.

It feels good to be home.

08-04-2010, 09:43 AM
Yesterday's credits:

Ate under my calories and carbs
Didn't snack at all
Made on-plan choices at the lunch buffet (I usually bring my lunch, but had a seminar so had to buy)
Sat down for every meal

NSV: I was only at about a 1-2 on the pain scale (of 1-10) for my feet. I actually went down the stairs to my seminar. One flight, but still I've been avoiding it because of the pain. Only did it once... used the elevator the other two times. But I did it once!

This morning is another matter. I woke at about an eight on the pain scale, and almost called in sick. But I took a little more time this morning stretching and going slowly, and by the time I got to work I'm down to about a 4-5, and it should probably settle down to my normal 3-4. That's survivable, especially since it only hits when I have to walk anywhere, and I'm mostly sitting at a desk or conference table during the day.

08-04-2010, 11:10 AM
I survived yesterday eating planned food and slept quite well last night! We hit 102 degrees yesterday -- I was very glad I took an early morning shift for handing campaign literature and not a lunchtime one!

WI: -0.05kg, Exercise: +90 255/1800 minutes for August, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

synger: so sorry for the sore feet -- that's a really tough thing to live with. Good job working with the pain scale to keep it all in perspective for yourself.

Beverlyjoy: it's just not fair to get another rash from the medicine that was supposed to fix the first rash! Glad you were able to work out a new strategy with your doctor. And I'm glad that you both enjoyed your trip and feel good about being home.

seadwaters: your chicken pizza sounds yummy! Yay for an on plan day with lots of unplanned exercise!

Lexxiss: I find logging exercise very useful. Besides my one line in this post, I put details in a daily post on the monthly exercise thread in Support Groups / Chicks Up for a Challenge. We're not very chatty there, but there's support if you want it and just seeing everyone's progress as they chip away at their exercise goals is motivating.
Good job realizing that you need an evening strategy!

BillBlueEyes: way to go countering that sabotaging thought! I sometimes amaze myself in both directions. I'm amazed when I have a thought that represents the old way of thinking and I'm equally amazed when I have a thought that represents the new way of thinking. Changing our thinking is intriguing work!

MorganleFay: our thread often goes a bit quieter on weekends, so you're not the only one! Good job staying on plan with visitors who pay for meals!

Houston2Command: hope you're finding your way to less emotional times, and good job not overeating that night! And yay for the milestone weight!

Mikkijoe: excellent reflections on authenticity and its application to weight loss. Good job on planning for the camping trip.

new2me2: Good job staying on plan after the baked treats. Sodium might be part of your temporary gain, too -- there was probably baking soda, baking powder, and salt in both of those treats and they all add sodium.

CeeJay: yay for all the credits!

08-04-2010, 11:23 AM
good morning!

I had a good night of sticking to my plan to get things done. Made meat sauce that took almost 3 hours and it smelled delicious all night. I get to eat some tonight with my special lasagna. woo hoo. first noodle i'll be having for 3 weeks now. wow.

BillBE - no fuss pizza is whole wheat pita toasted a little. Then put on 1 cup low cal sauce topped with cooked broccoli and mushrooms (if you like mushrooms, bleh!) and then some parmesan cheese (not much though). If you can handle extra calories, you can add 4 slices of pepporoni. Instead, I added a bit of feta cheese (about 1/4 cup). bake until it looks good. It was a lot better tasting than I expected.

Now that I eat better for 3 weeks +, as the diet predicted, the foods I'm eating do taste better than they did in the past. My body finds them yummy because it isn't confused about what yummy is from junk. I read it; I knew it would be true; but I still carried my skepticism in my pocket to use when I proved it false. So far, it holds true!

Lexxiss - good job on the bike! I am so jealous. houston is not bike friendly roadwise or weatherwise.

08-04-2010, 11:37 AM
Hello all! Hum, not a lot to report today. Made a plan for today and so far am sticking to it. Exercise was Walk It Out, but I'm hankering for something a bit more, so tonight I'll aim for another workout of some sort.

Mikkijoe Wow, some very deep reflections! :)

Houston2Command Major credit for realizing that skinny people don't turn to food when they are upset! Congratulations for 2lbs and 7 inches gone! That's amazing!

MorganleFay Yes, credit to you for not overeating with in-laws in the house. Hope the little one let you have some sleep last night!

BillBlueEyes Oh gosh, YES, I get those thoughts sometimes too...they come out of nowhere, lol. "I'll just have a little" ...famous last words. :( As far as the mainstream gluten-free stuff...gluten free is sort of "fashionable" right now so those of us who have to avoid it get the benefit of it, lol.

Lexxiss Glad your day was much better! Congratulations on how far you've come and major credit for giving credit to yourself for it!

seadwaters Okay, that chicken pizza sounds really, really good, and something that I might actually be able to do, lol (have I mentioned I don't "cook", lol)!!! I'll have to see what I can come up with!

Beverlyjoy Yay for silly grandsons! :D Glad you have a good visit with family! Wow, I'm sorry to hear about the reaction to the antibiotic, but I LOVE your's so true, we MUST keep moving forward.

synger So sorry to hear about the increase in pain!

gardenerjoy Yay for sleep!!! :) Uggg...I wilt when the temperature get much above 80...we get a few days here around 100 every summer. Thanks for the reminder about the sodium...that sure could be contributing!

08-04-2010, 02:09 PM
Well, so what is new in my life???? HMmm, well not much, and ya know? I'm OK with that today! We wavered off the meal plan last night because chicken did not get taken out to thaw. And after work I went to Walgreens and spent $29 out of pocket, and got $78 dollars of product! SWEET VICTORY, I love matching coupons with sale flyers, and more imporatantly I love it that other Bloggers match them up for me, all I have to do is print coupons and go to the store, stick to my list, and SCORE! I got Mens vitamins for $10, with a $10 off next purchase (free). Then the next purchase I got packs of hershey bars for our campout--half price, used the $10 coupon, then got another $5 off next purchase, then got a bunch of other stuff! Anyway...that was a good night in my house.

;)BillBlueEyes "Just A Little" is pretty much like "Kinda Pregnant" right? Zucchini relish sometimes just has onions and zucchini with mustard seeds, vinegar, and some sugar. Other recipes--of which I will use--are more like a Chow Chow, with tons of garden veggies, cabbage, onion, zucchini, peppers, carrots, etc...again seasoned with mustard seed, some tumeric, vinegar, sugar. Used as a condiment for sammiches (yup--that's the way I spell it) or on meats and poultry.

;)Cee Jay Planning Plannning Planning. obviously the key to success in many areas of our lives. We know it in our brain. Great job at following through with the actions!

;)Joy your exercise goal is amazing! I dont know if that would ever motivate me, but I would like to hope that in time it would, thanks for the inspiration.

;)new2me2 I am still trying to get situated on Walk It Out, we finally went out and got the mat, we were using the board, and that killed my calves, then we used the controller and nunchuck, and that did not register well for me.....but long story short, when going to get a mat we got a Dance Dance Revelution House Party--it has a work out section on it...I could never do it, but it did look fun---Wait--I could not do it right now--but in time I will be able to---there that feels better. every tried meletonin for sleeping? we got ours at a pharmacy that deals with health foods as well, smallest dose works great for stopping the habit of getting up and not getting back to sleep easily, it is safe and over the counter

;)Houston Interesting about the changing our taste buds, but very true! Seems that the tastebuds are quicker to get retrained than other things though, huh? Seems that when we start feeding our body the good food it makes it want MORE of the good stuff, but then again same thing when we feed it sugar or junk, then it just wants more of the junk too

;)MorganFay Many of us dont post much, or at all, on the weekends, dont feel bad. I remember the baby days, it seemed like you would never get any sleep! But remember it is just a season, and one day you will reflect back on those nights and not remember the exhaustion, just remembering the joy. I looked down at my son last night who fell asleep on the living room floor after work, and remembered how fun it was to watch him sleep when he was an infant, he is now 18.

;)Lexxiss 200 miles on the bike, that is a huge pat on the back! And thank you for making me spew my coffee onto my screen---"chokecherries and poop bags" That just struck my funny bone.

;)Beverlyjoy So sorry about what you are going through, but happy that you are getting to spend some time with your grandson. I look forward to those times, but I hope not in the near future! I told my son he could not 'duplicate' until he was at least 26, and he is agreement, but I dont know about my daughter--but then again she is only 14 right now, but I am SURE they will do exactly what their mama tells them to do as far as waiting to start a family!

;)Seadwaters What a blessing you are to your sister! Just think about the peace of mind she has while traveling, knowing that her high-needs fur baby is well taken care of.

;)Synger I feel your pain--literally! I have plantar faciitis (not going to spell check that) and a past broken foot with severe sprain to that between the two I am in constant pain, especially in the evening or after being on them alot, I look forward to that easing up as the weight comes off

;)Amber Great job on that planning for your trip. And fantastic job on recognizing the importance of family, divorce is SO devastating, I know from personal experience, and I WANTED it, yet it was devastating, I can only imagine how it is for those who do not want sad. And when there are children involved the effect is life long for them! Our family units need prayed for daily!

;)Alma Love the I WILL CARE ! I needed to hear that. How is that Seattle weather? kinda a strange summer huh? I am in Yakima, and we are having a weird one, thats for sure

;) Silverbirch, a great thanks to you for the inspiration of packing food for your work week, I so need to get on track for that. Big Kudos to you!

WHEW:dizzy: I hope I did not miss anyone!

Well off to print payroll checks and to spit colorful adjectives (=bad words) at my printer......then I need to find my actual desk top, I am pretty sure it is not made of paper, then I need to get some files closed up and completed....Tonight, will be grocery list for campout--finding things that are on sale this week that we need in order to save more monies ....AND transfering my A&R onto actual cards that I bought last night finally....then I will have those in my purse at all times

08-04-2010, 08:08 PM
So, another week with no loss (this makes 3). It is a little depressing, however, it did measure and lost 3 inches so something must be happening. Also, 2 people in my workout class commented that I have lost weight. I am not going to get depressed over this. I know it is a long journey and I am changing my life!

weighed 0 lbs (6 week total 4.8 lbs) (when oh when will I hit the first 5!)
stayed positive about 0 lbs lost
took measurements
exercised planned and unplanned
doing great at not making hunger and emergency
Read ARC's

Hello Everyone:

MikkiJoe, The weather in Seattle is gorgeous right now. 70's and sunny. Ahh However, supposed to rain this weekend and it is Seafair. It HAS been a strange summer, June was basically like January this year.

New2me: Impressive how dedicated you are to walk it out workouts. Great job.

Houston2command: The meat sauce sounds great. I think I can smell it from here.

Gardnerjoy: glad you got some sleep. I battle insomnia periodically and I know how hard that can be, especially to eat well as tired in a big trigger for me.

Synger: so sorry about your pain. It is impressive that you ate right with pain, that can be a battle.

Beverlyjoy: thanks for the quote. I needed that one today!

Seadwater: Thanks for the chicken pizza idea, I will try this soon.

Lexxis: 200 miles on the bike! Great. I love biking. need to remind myself to "just do it" more because I sure enjoy it when I do.

BillBlueEyes: Good job passing the trail mix and reminding us to stay the course.

Morganlefey: You are doing so well to be posting when you can with a small baby. I know you must be very sleep deprived.

08-04-2010, 08:51 PM
Dear all,

Sorry I have been missing in action - I have been away in London for the last week. I had a brilliant time but unfortunately, all the good work i had been doing went out the window. I had only got as far as Day 6 in the Beck Diet Solution so I am not going to be hard on myself. Tomorrow is another day and I plan to re-read days 1-6 and get right back on track.

Hope you are all well, talk soon x

08-05-2010, 02:14 AM
'Lo, all. Back from the fun at Girls' Week on the island. *Organic, is the only way I can describe it.

Funny, even though I live on a lake in with alotta lake shore and 7 acres, in God's Country, as I always say-------getting *away to the island is, well............*getting AWAY. I wasn't there for two hours until we were on the pontoon and I was examining the *junk in my head. The obvious junk was living with this 10 pound weight gain. So the "Come to Jesus Meeting" went something like this..."You know how much this bugs you, and you KNOW what to do about it, so why *aren't you DOING IT???"

*sigh. Why, indeed? I will continue to carry around the 10 troublesome, really, really horrible 10 #s until I chose to get rid of them. *sigh.

The other "AHA" moment came when I realized what a control freak I am. Seriously--I seriously am. It took coming together with old friends and new really, really cool, ""together" ladies ..who are so seriously NOT control freaks..that I could see it. Was pretty much a big wake up call to see I was the "straight man/one" in the whole group!!!

The good news is: it dint take me long to shed the inhibitions and start being totally crazy..I still got it!

The enlightenment was a good thang.

Am still on vacation and up tonite waiting on the promised Aurora Borealis, and Mikkijoe, I am not gonna spellcheck that, either!!!

08-05-2010, 07:12 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Hot night last night spent with a fan blowing over me all night. I slept like a log. Then woke up to a favorable scale reading. YAY. Except it's anti-water weight; can't really celebrate that I've dehydrated a couple of pounds away, LOL. I can feel it returning with my morning coffee.

Made it to the gym after work (CREDIT moi) despite having tickets to a Red Sox game at Fenway park last night. Worked out next to a young guy using smaller dumbbells than I was using. Yay. Even though I know that I'm too sophisticated at this stuff to compare my personal workout to another's, LOL.

maryblu - Welcome back. Congrats for combining enlightenment and a glorious *organic vacation with your buds. The classical literature is filled with saints and gurus who deprived themselves to reach enlightenment. This is an improvement to be sure.

And, feeling like I'm repeating myself from one year ago, would you and Brett kindly decide to Tango or Not-Tango and, until then, stop filling the newsprint that crosses in front of my eyes. Consider it kinda a personal decision. And, while you're at it, stop the reports about a pair of nineteen year olds who are un-re-breaking up again - even if they can see Russia from their back yards, LOL.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Ouch for 102 degrees. That's HOT. Interesting that the old think and the new think are both surprising, LOL.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for a silly grandson as a cure for the blues; you oughta find a way to market that, LOL. Thanks for the "must keep movingĒ quote from Albert Einstein.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Thanks for the chicken pizza recipe; gonna try me that to satisfy the part of my that wants to be on the cave man diet. Yay for Bonnie accepting her current reality. Wondering if she'll have a similar adjustment period in five weeks when she returns to your sister's house.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Congrats on the 200 mile milestone on your bike; how'd you know that? Kudos for starting to record your exercise to improve your accountability. Jealous here at a full poop bag of chokeberries; you gonna cook up something with those?

Donna (new2me2) - Can't do better, IMHO, than, "Made a plan for today and so far am sticking to it." Kudos for that. LOL that gluten-free is "fashionable." I'm waiting for it to be fashionable to avoid FREE samples, LOL.

Houston2Command - Yay that foods taste better; good testimonial for the good life. Thanks for the "no fuss pizza" instructions.

Mikkijoe - Oh Yes, "SWEET VICTORY" indeed for saving that much using coupons for food you actually need. LOL at "Just A Little" is pretty much like "Kinda Pregnant." Thanks for the zucchini relish recipe; when ours comes in, we get baskets full.

Alma (Alma4343) - Kudos for staying on your plan and Double Kudos for recognizing that your body will shed its weight on its own schedule.

synger - Kudos for fighting back by using the stairs and another for making "on-plan choices at the lunch buffet" - those buffets can be deadly.

Lisa (MissVitality) - Ouch for being diverted a bit by London. On the other hand, what a lovely place in which to suffer diversion, LOL.

Readers - day 33
Eliminate Emotional Eating

Use Behavioral Techniques
Take some action in order to decrease your distress when you're upset:

. . .
Drink a soothing no- or low-calorie beverage. Consider making yourself a cup of tea. Sit down and drink it slowly.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 229.

08-05-2010, 09:55 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Just a quick check in, and thanks for the compliments on my bike endeavors. I got 10 more miles in yesterday *credit* now I'm up to 212! I was tracking my exercise last summer/fall and stopped because I knew what I was getting doing my usual "routine"-but now as I try to get back into that routine, it's a great tool!

BillBlueEyes, the chokecherries aren't good for anything but jam and syrup-they are very bitter-make you "choke" if you eat them. My Mom, however, loves the jelly and goes through a jar a week when I have an ample supply of juice. She's obviously not on my food plan, but at 89 and at normal weight she can eat as much as she likes.

After a fun day, we had to make an unexpected trip so I'm back on the Eastern slope of Colorado attending to some important family business and will travel again tonight or early tomorrow. Gotta get home for the next big cherry tomato picking fest.

See ya'll tomorrow.

08-05-2010, 10:16 AM
I'm giving myself credit for ordering "The Big Skinny" for breakfast at a new restaurant we tried yesterday. And extra credit for realizing that the plate they brought me had about 700 calories on it and, then, only eating about 300 of them. Sheesh! I guess the emphasis was on the Big not the Skinny.

Credit to the Missouri Botanical Garden for serving an excellent meal at the event last night so I didn't have to work hard to eat well. Salad greens topped with grilled salmon and grilled vegetables. Yum! I'll give myself credit for skipping the alcohol and the dessert.

WI: -0.15kg (new low), Exercise: +60 315/1800 minutes for August, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Lexxiss: good job biking and posting amidst unexpected travel.

BillBlueEyes: kudos for getting a workout before a ballgame -- very dedicated!

maryblu: so glad that the get away is proving enlightening in all kinds of ways.

MissVitality: good job getting right back to posting and other Beck things after vacation.

Alma4343: way to go staying committed without getting the appropriate scale feedback. What kind of exercise do you do? I'm ready to be losing inches as much as weight, so I'm looking around for what makes that happen.

Mikkijoe: good job with all of your planning and shopping and writing our your Advantages and Responses.

new2me2: yay for sticking to the plan -- hope you found some exercise that felt good to you

Houston2Command: so glad you've reached the point where the healthier foods taste good! LOL at holding skepticism in your pocket -- I did that, too. For me, the healthy food just keeps getting better! I sometimes crave sprouts!

08-05-2010, 10:17 AM
I've been sort of "lurking", but getting ready for re-entry.

More later..gotta go weigh myself and dh wants the computer.


08-05-2010, 10:44 AM
Good mornin' y'all!

I actually got SOME sleep last night. The two older boys are away with the grandparents, so it's just DH, HRH ("His Royal Highness"-the baby) and I. It felt like it did eight years ago when we only had one kid-so we stayed up till 12:00am watching 2 Stargate Atlantis episodes. DH took his first shift (1-3am) and I had the second (3-6am). HRH slept until 4:20am- that's a whole four hours of relatively uninterrupted sleep! I'm wide awake today! LOL I stayed on plan yesterday and dropped another pound! WooHoo! So far, keeping between 1500-1800 calories is working very well! :carrot: I also have three potential opportunities lined up for a "real" job in my field! I don't want to jinx anything, so I'm holding my breath!

BillBlueEyes: Comparing ones self to others in the gym is an obvious. Don't worry too much about it. The important thing is that you use that comparison in a good way - either pump yourself up to work harder, or congratulate yourself at how far you've come. You seem to be doing that very well. Keep it up!

maryblu: Are you my twin? LOL Your reflections sound exactly like what I'm struggling with all the time. "You know how much this bugs you, and you KNOW what to do about it, so why *aren't you DOING IT???" I say this a lot...which is why I'm trying the Beck's diet- because I need to do something different.

Alma4343: If you're losing inches without losing weight that's a GREAT thing! It means that you're gaining muscle. Keep it up!

Mikkijoe: You and I would probably have a BALL shopping together! I'm a die-hard bargain hunter! Just like some people like to brag about the designer labels they own, I like to brag about how much money I saved on something!

08-05-2010, 11:27 AM
Hello everyone!

Just a quick Hi! before I hed back out on the road. I'm pooped out, but today I get to ride instead of drive, so I'm hoping to relax. Eating has been half on half off with a few treats in there. I don't feel like I'm way over doing it, but it's certainly not a method for losing weight. I did jump on the scale this morning and I was up to 202... hoping it's just water weight and It drops back of next week when I'm back on plan. BLECH.

Talk to you soon,

08-05-2010, 11:38 AM
Good morning everyone! Well, yesterday was interesting, lol. I had two separate things going on...I was hungry all day long and I just plain wanted to eat. I didn't crave anything in particular, I just wanted to eat. Bad combo when one is also HUNGRY all day, lol. Fortunately I did NOT overeat, and I DID stick to plan except for one tomato from one of our attorney's garden. I made it through the day, and today seems better on both counts, lol. I'm even down slightly in weight from yesterday. I still feel like I'm retaining water, and hope that's all it is.

For exercise I did the beginner workout off the WW Punch DVD, but added some impact here and there to spice it up. There is an intermediate and an advanced level workout also on the DVD, but mentally, it was a better thing for me to do MORE than the workout called for rather than doing LESS than one of the others would call for. Strange but true. :D I'm feeling much better and getting more sleep than I have been, but still don't feel like my cardio stamina is quite back to normal. Thus the little mind game. :)

On plan today so far as well.

Mikkijoe Credit for being okay with life! :) Yay for great bargains!!! As for Walk It Out, I use the matt too. It does a much better job of counting steps for me. I didn't like the board at all because I can't seem to stay on that tiny thing, lol. The nanchuk doesn't register very well for me, but actually, I did a multi-player session (with myself, lol), using the matt AND the nanchuk. The nanchuk only registered 300 less steps, so it's not as bad as it seems at the time. :D I have a Dance Dance game, but not sure which one it is and didn't notice if there was a workout...I'll have to look. :) I am REALLY bad at Dance Dance though, lol. I have tried melatonin, and 5HTP along with a few other things. They all seemed to help for a while but stopped working after a while. I had my neurotransmitter levels tested, and found I was deficient in a few, so was taking some things specifically for that and that also helped for a while. {{sigh, lol}} Maybe I should try the melatonin's been a few years.

Alma4343 Yay for 3 inches lost!!! That IS something working! The weight will follow! Great attitude!

MissVitality Glad to have you back! Yay for a great time in London, ouch for undoing everything. Great plan to reread and get back on track.

maryblu Yay for a great weekend and great discoveries about yourself!

BillBlueEyes Ouch on dehydration! LOL...I think I understand the mental thing with the guy using smaller dumbbells. ;)

Lexxiss Your mileage is impressive! Great job!

gardenerjoy Wow, great job for realize "skinny" wasn't so much! :)

ponee Glad to see you back!

MorganleFay Glad you were able to get some sleep and had a nice evenign with DH! :)

08-05-2010, 12:33 PM
Short post this morning, I am doing some research on Primal and/or Paleo Diets. What I am doing is not working, and this is typical for my body over the years. I seem to have to mix it up. Primal is heavy protien and fat, and low carb. Pretty much flip side of what I am doing. But as I track and look over reports I see that I am on target 90% of the time, so I should be losing and I am not hardly. At my weight I should expect some decent it may be time to mix it up.
Just trying to wrap my head around it...Once I find the right 'formula' and mix it with Becks I do think I can beat this. But it certainly is a scientific formula issue.

08-05-2010, 02:14 PM
Hello Everyone,

I am doing a quick post today. I hope everyone is having a great day and week.

I did well yesterday, I am feeling good today. Some friends invited me for an evening sail in Puget Sound. I have not been on a sail boat out there yet so I am so excited to go! I was able to exercise already and have been doing well staying on my plan (credit credit).

Gardnerjoy: I am doing weights 2x/week for a hour, spin class, 2x/week, walk 3 miles 1 or 2 times a week and pilates 2x/week(just started the pilates a couple weeks ago). I stay active with swimming and biking, but not on a regular schedule. For weights, I am taking bodypump class, I have a love hate relationship with that class. It really does make me work harder at weights than I ever have before. But, I sure do love it after I am finished in the morning ;) I am really enjoying the class camaraderie as I have never been able to find a friend to be a steady workout buddy. You can go to to find out if there are classes in your area. There are people of all ages and sizes in the class.

08-05-2010, 03:20 PM
hi all,

i am excited about another pound gone!
did not work out b/c of project at work. bad.
ate on plan. credit
made yummy lasagna. credit
ate more than i was allotted but had saved some cals (per the diet) so I was still on plan.
stayed on target emotionally even after my employee quit and emailed my whole office what a monster I am. Credit! hahaa. i actually found it quite humorous!!! but a year ago it probably would have led me to 3 candy bars, etc.

maryblu- I so have you beat on the control thing. I am finally aware of it and trying to stop/cut back but it's hard! last night, i told my BF not to break the lasagna noodles. he hates the control problem so he gave me the look. later when i could laugh about it, I kept saying don't break the lasagna noodles over and over and laughing at how ridiculous I was being.

going to the gym today. credit.

08-05-2010, 10:50 PM
Hello Fellow Beckies:

Credit for:

-Eating healthy and on plan 3 days in a row- and that was 3 days away from home and 2 hotel nights so double- triple credit. :D
-Each time I thought about eating off plan, I thought about how lousy I was going to feel if I did it.
-Walking 30 minutes on Tuesday, 40 minutes on Wednesday and riding exercise bike 30 minutes today.
-Bringing the weights to the hotel and doing them on Tuesday night and this morning.
-Reading response and advantage cards each day.
-Checking in with my coaches tonight.
-Planning food for the next 3 days and packing up lunch for tomorrow.

:carrot::carrot::carrot: You all know how it feels to step out of a downward spiral. I feel great.

Have a good night everyone!!!


08-05-2010, 10:58 PM
Hi Becksters:

I had to check twice to see if it was really true that it's only the 5th of August and already there are four pages of Beck talk. Always happy to see upon my return that there are many people here fighting the good fight.

I just stopped trying. And am feeling much the worse for it. My weight this whole summer is a steady 273-276. And boy, it's hard on me. But ask me why I'm not dedicating myself to feeling better and I can't tell you that. I did see the Dr for my annual checkup-6 years overdue:o-and I requested a stress test and some help in getting into a physial fitness program of some sort. I told him I wanted to know the baseline that my body is at and it was hard to do that for me. At the same Dr. visit my BP meds were upped.
Some of you here know how I feel about meds and my dream for me is to not need any, but I am still going contrary to my stated desire... nevertheless, I am grateful there is medicine to help me avoid the destruction of high bp. So the stress test measures the heart and the bp, which was of particular importance to my Dr as I was newly on the new bp meds, and so I get to the hospital and the tech tries to take my bp with the reg sized cuff and that thing never fits me, my upper arms are very fat until I am under 200lbs, but she keeps trying, 3x she does, and it always pulls apart at the velcro tabs as she is pumping it full of air. She goes for a search for a large cuff and comes back to tell me there isn't one (IN THE HOSPITAL?!) and so we skip the bp part and just get me wired up to do the stress test on the treadmill and I exceed their expectations but there is no record of my bp for the test.

When I was younger, that kind of stuff would make me mad. Now I just resign myself to it. It seems to be part and parcel of how I feel "fat people get treated and I am fat so don't be surprised." and I'm not.

Guess I'm depressed.

So today I had the blood tests done. I will get the call to see the Dr. about my cholesterol next. I'm waiting for it-predicting it here but hoping I am wrong. I sincerely hope diabetes markers won't be found. And my place is a worse mess than ever. And it's been a perfect summer here and I won't even let myself out in shorts (I did it once) and don't even have a skirt right now to wear. I'm just not letting myself have anything; like punishing myself will somehow "show me" that it's so lousy being fat I should do something about it.

When I was a young girl, my best friend and neighbour's brother used to shout insults at me for being fat. He was about 4 years older than me and he never missed a chance to call me names. My friend stuck up for me everytime and I tried to avoid him at every turn. Then I got older and placed myself on a huge diet that I stuck to religiously, an old WW diet I got from my aunt, and I lost a pile of weight and I was gorgeous - pretty faces run in my family if I say so myself. Anyway, the guy was all of a sudden attracted to me and one night he came close to whisper to me that all those insults, all that name calling, was his way of motivating me to lose weight and See? Look at the results?! I was just so relieved he'd not bother me anymore that I wasn't even mad.

Maybe I'm still rebelling with this weight. Maybe I just simply cope with food.
Whatever my deal is I'm going to have to face it. Things can't keep going like this. Thanks for continuing to fight the good fight as I know things are not easy for you out there too and we all have our "reasons" and in the end it's not the "why did this happen to me" that matters all that much, but the "how do I change this" that's way way more important.

Sorry to be so longwinded. Thanks for reading.

08-06-2010, 05:49 AM
Hi Coaches

My food was a bit all over the place today - I had different planned breakfast because I had run out of the usual. And I had a planned lunch, but I kept snacking as I prepared food this afternoon and did it standing up - distracted. I am also tired - finding it a bit wearing driving home late in the traffic which has been awful - Wednesday and Thursday evenings it took me over 2 hours to get home. Anyway today I got to work-at-home and could do aqua fit at lunch time which was terrific

I can see you are all doing great things - and keeping up with posting and commenting. Hopefully I will get to catch up tomorrow

Credits - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - No - $0
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - YES
- Limit junk food to once per day - Yes - $1
- Made food plan - Not really - $0
- Logged food soon after eating - Yes - but snacking made it difficult to know what to log - $0
- Food on-plan - No
- Posted to the list - Here I am
- Ate seated every time - NO - $0
- Ate mindfully and slowly - Yes
- Put down fork occasionally - Yes
- Weighed myself - Yes - same - 213 - $1
- Drank water - Yes
- Exercise - Yes - :swim: - $1

TALLY (only red ones earn money!) - DAY = $3; Week = $22

Working on - :running:
Staying on plan at work and when really busy

Have a good day Beckies

08-06-2010, 07:33 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It was one of those evenings where my DW says, "Make dinner appear." When she said it, she was so soaking wet that she needed my help to peel off her jeans - we'd had a cloudburst and she had been too far away from anywhere to stay dry. So, I get to make an errand out of my after-work walk. CREDIT moi for the walk and for choosing chicken and grilled veggies for dinner. Good stuff; Yay for cloudbursts.

onebyone - Kudos for taking the step of posting here; it's such a good way to weasel yourself back on track, and, I do miss you when you're not posting. And Kudos for getting yourself to all those visits to your doctor, with a Honking Congrats for exceeding their expectations on the stress test on the treadmill. I think I recall you mentioning before that you've always maintained that part of your healthy side - Congrats for that.

Just Ouch for the unpleasant experience with the BP cuff; you don't deserve that disrespect from a hospital. You've got an admiral sane response to it. Seems like it may be time for some of your small steps forward to help get traction.

CeeJay - Absolutely yes, Triple Kudos for staying on your eating plan and exercise plan for three days away from home. You are clearly moving forward.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - LOL at "The Big Skinny" for breakfast. Reminds me of the Ministry of Truth in George Orwell's Nineteen Eighty-Four.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Ouch for a two hour commute - that's a bunch of time in the car. Kudos for not spending that time snacking.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - You've given me a new goal: to be 89 and normal weight so I can eat as much as I like. Kudos for keeping your sanity with one whole lot of traveling back and forth these days.

Donna (new2me2) - Double Ouch for "HUNGRY" and "wanted to eat" with Double Kudos for standing down both!

ponee - Neat idea to de-lurk in small steps.

Houston2Command - Kudos for emotionally tranquility despite an ex-employee's departing dart. Reminds me of an instance, many years ago, when my office partner went to our boss to complain about me. Says I was staring at him. When asked what he was doing when I stared, he says, "Reading the newspaper." Talk about dumb; suddenly he found himself having to discuss why he was reading the newspaper during hours he was billing to work, LOL.

Amber (AmberPr) - Ouch for "pooped out" - can make it hard to stick to a plan. Have a nice ride.

Mikkijoe - Yep, finding the right eating plan can take a bit of hunting around. If you're interested in Paleo, there's a thread on 3FC, Primal Paleo-ish-August (

Alma (Alma4343) - Sailing in Puget Sound sounds like a real joy.

MorganleFay - Yay for being reminded that you like spending time with your DH. And Yay for HRH sleeping right through your DH's shift to wake during yours, LOL. Good luck with the three job prospects.

Readers - day 33
Eliminate Emotional Eating

Use Behavioral Techniques
Take some action in order to decrease your distress when you're upset:

. . .
Relax. Listen to an audiotape that teaches relaxation techniques, such as progressive muscle relaxation, guided imagery, or deep breathing. Or do the slow, shallow breathing described on page 131.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 229.

08-06-2010, 11:16 AM
We're going to Kansas City. We hear everything is up to date there! Part of the point of the trip is to eat in some restaurants we've heard about, so I want to behave as I would in restaurants here. Focus on veggies when I order, focus on servings sizes and estimated calories when I'm eating, be fully prepared to leave half or more of what I'm served on the plate, enjoy every bite that I eat.

I may or may not get formal exercise in, but there will certainly be lots of walking involved.

I'll be back to report on Tuesday evening or Wednesday morning. Hope you all have a good weekend!

WI: -0.25kg, Exercise: +60 375/1800 minutes for August, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: it's so wonderful to see you. I think of you often. Good job on the treadmill and I hope the doctor is helpful.

Alma4343: thanks for the exercise details -- the bodypump class sounds really cool!

08-06-2010, 12:35 PM
Really discouraged about exercise. I keep feeling like my tendinitis is getting better, so I do something like use the stairs or take a walk... and then I can barely move for a couple of days. I ended up taking yesterday off work, loading up on ibuprofen, and sleeping most of the day. The good part was that I wasn't hungry. The bad part is that I'm just so frustrated and upset with losing my mobility! I've lost 40 pounds, dammit! I shouldn't still hurt going down stairs!

Sorry to vent... *trying not to weep*

Nothing to do but say "oh, well", and keep focusing on food rather than exercise. Eventually, I pray I will be mobile again.

08-06-2010, 12:37 PM

Do NOT break a noodle!

08-06-2010, 12:54 PM


I wish I was right there for you! I SO hear the pain in your story of present issues as well as the past. Huge credit for not going off on the nurse at the hospital, I would have. That is rediculous, and your are FAR from the only person in that building that needs a larger cuff! Guarenfreakinteed! ERRR that makes me mad!

Let me walk you through a couple steps, that many people could use, to put an end to the way past things still have a hold on you. It is best to do this with the actual person, BUT that is not always possible and you can just image the person right there. Then you start with
"When you said/did ____________" " I felt like __________" "And it effected my life in many ways, such as ________" BUT you have no control over me, you have NO say so in my worth, and my value. You did NOT have a right to offend me like that, and I will NOT allow you to do so any longer. I dismiss you actions from my life, forever. I was created as a beautiful woman, and that is what I am, and you, or your comments will never take that away from me"

I may have over stepped my boundaries, but this has been so helpful to myself, I felt I needed to share this.

08-06-2010, 02:05 PM
hi all. been a tough week and i feel worn out!
had trouble sleeping last night so i'm tired today.

ate on plan - credit
worked out - credit
spontaneous exercise - credit
gave myself credit - credit
packed lunch - credit

sorry so short. just too much to do as always....

billbe - that is funny. some people just don't think!

have a great weekend everyone. stay on plan! see ya Monday.

08-06-2010, 04:23 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Well, we are once gain on the road-DH driving-destination tomato patch...and bicycle...and pool. Yesterday was quite successful, considering all the bouncing around with plans. We ended up at a Jackson Browne concert at an outdoor amphitheatre with a picnic dinner all OP. This morning I unintentionally gave another go at the hunger experiment and did quite well until lunch, which was light. *credit* for keeping my WOE on the front burner. I have yet to plan my weekend, but need to hop back on the exercise wagon.

I'm hoping it's a good moment to catch up with you all, which I'll do as my connection allows.

BillBlueEyes, *credit* for "making dinner appear" in such a healthy and spontaneous manner. lol on losing weight by airdrying with your fan.

Houston2Command, Wishing you a great weekend, too. Major *credit* for holding steady during a tough week.

Mikkijoe, *credit* for persistence in finding the right food plan. I had found my plan before starting Beck Diet Solution and Beck is the solution for me to finding long term success. Since Dr Beck encourages you to find the right plan you are headed in the right direction. lol

Synger, I'm sorry you are feeling disappointed with your tendonitis. *credit* for your 40 pound loss. My knee issues are completely gone at my current weight. At 250 I was absolutely certain I had done permanent damage. Take care of yourself in the present moment and the changes will com. :hug:

gardenerjoy, happy restaurant sampling. *credit* for setting healthy boundaries for your taste testing. *doublecredit* for appropriate actions when discovering the skinny was not skinny, at all.

Cheryl (seadwaters), *credit* for fitting in aqua fit during a day which included some distracted eating.

onebyone, I'm sorry you are feeling depressed and feel you "just stopped trying." You have posted here, which says to me that you have not stopped. *credit*. My arms did not fit in a BP cuff, either. It can be a temporary situation, as you make choices to continue forward. I miss your input and hope you are able to drop by more often.

CeeJay, major *credits* :trampo: Keep up the good work!

Alma4343, *credit* for such diligence in exercising! I believe a major milestone comes when you can learn to not be depressed when the scale doesn't move, but in fact turn to other indicators of success.

Donna (new2me2), *credit* for not overeating while hungry.

AmberPr, thanks for checking in! *credit*

MorganleFay, *credit* for finding a good calorie range. :goodluck: regarding the job opportunities.

ponee, :wave:

maryblu, thanks for sharing your "organic" adventures I think it is very interesting that I have to work so hard at control where weight and eating is concerned, but that I have no problem controlling everyone else. lol

MissVitality, *credit* for recognizing that being hard on yourself doesn't help.

Beverlyjoy, I'm so glad to hear from you amidst more medical yuk. Thanks for the Einstein quote and *credit* for willingness to keep moving forward.

Take care everyone! Thanks for accompanying me on my ride back home. I have lots of food for thought and anticipation of a health-filled weekend.

08-06-2010, 11:41 PM
Hello Everyone:

Time for a few personals tonight:

onebyone- I know what stopping trying feels like. And coping with food. But we are both here after an extended absence so that in and of itself is progress.

seadwaters- good luck working on staying on plan when at work and busy. Any helpful hints you want to share, I'd be happy to hear.

BillBlueEyes- thanks for the encouragement about moving forward. I am determined.

gardenerjoy- have fun in Kansas City. Enjoy the restaurants while eating sanely.

synger- I don't know if I have said hello to you so I am now. :)

Mikkijoe- waving hello

Houston2Command-sorry for the rough week- hope you get some sleep tonight. Nice list of credits.

Lexxiss-yay for a Jackson Browne concert!!

For me, another day on plan. What a relief.

Credit today for:

weighing in
getting up early and walking 40 minutes before work
eating on plan and healthy
reading response and advantage cards
checking in here
planning tomorrow

Off to bed!!! Hope everyone has a good weekend.

08-07-2010, 06:03 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The neat thing about buying a rotisserie chicken these days is that we get additional meals from it. Before my journey, I'd finish off that sucker in one sitting. Dinner, again, on the patio,again, was gazpacho, again, with chicken, again; CREDIT moi. The gazpacho was made from a cuke that we had overlooked until it was HUGE - but it tasted just as sweet and yummy as its smaller siblings. And gym; CREDIT moi.

CeeJay - Kudos for getting up early to take a 40 minute walk before work. So strong to read, "I am determined."

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for exploring Kansas City. Last time I was there the conference ran an event where we visited some four restaurants for all-you-can-eat KC BBQ at each. Good stuff - but wouldn't want to do that with my current (rational) eating plan. I got my kids KC t-shirts with the K and C in reverse order in the Calvin Kline logo - kinda neat. Have a good time.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Just love seeing the red dollars adding up; hope you can afford your success, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Neat that you found enough time out of your travels to take in a Jackson Browne concert. An OP picnic dinner gets a special Kudos.

Houston2Command - Ouch for loss of sleep; good weekend to you also.

Mikkijoe - Thanks for the "When you said/did ____________" " I felt like __________" "... " script; that looks powerful.

synger - Kudos for continuing to fight for your mobility; Ouch that it's such a discouraging journey. Sending positive thoughts for more stairs with less pain.

Readers - day 33
Eliminate Emotional Eating

Use Behavioral Techniques

The more you practice these mindset and behavioral techniques, the better you'll get at them. Initially, you'll find that the techniques are more effective when you're experiencing mild to moderate levels of negative emotions. As you become more proficient, you'll also be able to use them when you experience more intense emotions.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 230.

08-07-2010, 02:12 PM
Yesterday went well, other than my mobility-meltdown.

Drank too much wine (I'm beginning to think I'm using alcohol as a secondary pain-killer), but still stayed within my calories
Didn't need morning snack
Went shopping and didn't get anything off-plan
Weighed this morning and was a couple pounds down (not "official" weight, which is only done once a month, but nice to know I'm heading the right direction)

08-07-2010, 07:03 PM
Greetings all

Hope everyone is well.

I've stayed on plan today (credit!) and went to a Body Pump class this morning. I successfully challenged a bad habit I had fallen into. I have been going to Body Pump on a Saturday morning for a number of years now and in the last few months, had started driving to a local shop afterwards and buying a roll with sausage. Talk about undoing the good work! Not this morning. I packed a banana to eat after my workout and drove right on past the shop without a second glance. So pleased with myself for that. It's frightening though going through this process and discovering all the bad habits I have accumulated, however, I'm addressing them one day at a time! All in all, I am feeling good!

Synger - that's great news that the scale is moving in the right direction. Hopefully, you will get an even lower reading at your "official" weigh in. Good luck! I feel for you with your mobility issues, please try to not let it get you too down.

Bill - credit for making the chicken go further!

Ceejay - congrats on another day on plan. Credit for exercising before work. I would love to do that but I am so not a morning person and have to drag myself out the bed for a lengthy commute to Edinburgh each day. Evening exercise fits in with my routine better, except at weekends.

Lexxiss - hope you enjoyed the concert!

Houston - hope you get a better sleep tonight! It's awful when you can't sleep, drives me crazy and makes me cranky the next day.

Mikkijoe - I was taught those steps you mention before i.e the technique for addressing difficult people. Until now, I had been a bit fearful of putting it in practice. Then I started this Beck journey and realised that beyond my weight, there were other things in my life making me unhappy and I would need to tackle these to make sure I was in the right place to be successful with this journey. One difficulty was ongoing tension/conflict with a colleague at work. We sat down to have a chat and I used the technique you mentioned and I have to say it worked very well. We had a very open and honest discussion with each other and both committed to changing certain behaviours in future and making more of an effort to work well together. The discussion ended with a big hug. I now feel as if a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I am so much more positive. I recommend your technique to others, thanks for sharing.

gardenerjoy - enjoy Kansas City and all your walking!

seadwaters - i share your pain with the 2 hour commute. I have that every day to and from work but at least I can take the train and read etc. a new express train service has recently been introduced which should cut my journey down to 1 hour 20 minutes each way.

onebyone - I am sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time at the moment. Sending :hug::hug: your way xxx

Alma - your sail sounds fantastic. Enjoy!!!

To anyone I have missed, hope you are having a great day - keep smiling!;)

until next time :hug:

08-07-2010, 09:06 PM
Hi Coaches
I eventually painted that window frame in my office yesterday and will have a go at the skirtings and door frames. It is good to have the desire / energy to do it. Gee painting is messy - and keeping 3 furry friends off it is a challenge.

Bill said he hoped I could afford all my credits and I smiled, but I think I will stop the $ value and just note progress. I need to move on. I will still credit the $250 per 5 pounds lost as that is a great reward (and I certainly won't go broke at the rate I am going!). I have actually already spend a large chunk of it on weights for home use. I have also edited what I am currently crediting to reflect what I am working on.

The other realisation I had, especially now I am really pressed for time, is that logging on can become an end in itself rather that merely reflecting the days stepping stones or stumbling blocks - as if it is the program itself. So I need to invest more time in dieting and all that is necessary for that and less on reporting it and doing personals!

Ceejay - Great work being on plan for days now. And for getting up early for exercise - I will aspire to that!

BillBE - I'm not sure how Bonnie will settle when she goes home either! But go home she will. She is still getting unsettled overnight - not sure why. Yay for restraint with chicken - I could polish one off in the past too. LOL about having the chicken pizza when you felt cave-manish or paleo

Onebyone - :wave: hi. Great to see you here with us again. There are a lot of newcomers aren't there!

Synger - sorry about the tendinitis. You are sensible taking it a little at a time - slowly. Can be a long journey to fitness

Lexxiss - yay for on-plan picnicking and a Jackson Browne concert. Hope you get back on the exercise wagon - easy to slip off I know

Mikkijoe - nice formula for assertive responses. I always have to suggest they get the bigger cuff and they huff and puff and do it. I wonder how they respond when they get some muscle bound thug with biceps like thighs

MissVitality - Yay for undoing bad-habits one-by-one one day at a time. That's a plan
Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - Yes
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - Yes
- Made food plan - not a good one
- Logged food soon after eating - Yes
- Food on-plan - No
- Ate seated every time - No
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - 70%
- Weighed myself - Yes - up .6
- Exercise - no - obsessed with painting - will try weights later

Working on - :running:
Remembering that exercise is part of the plan

Have a good day Beckies

08-07-2010, 11:16 PM
Quick check in.

Good day today. Relaxed at home, cleaned up a bit, rode around on my lawn mower, helped DH sort stuff in the storage shed, made my mom a small photo album, all good cause none of it has anything to do with making decisions. :D

Credit today for:

-weighing in
-on my feet all day moving around
-did arm weights
-checked in here
-read advantage and response cards
-eating on plan and healthy
-tomorrow is all planned out.


08-08-2010, 06:21 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Several times I walked passed offerings of cookies, mini-muffins, and a candy dish that included tootsie-rolls. Passed them all with Not About Me; CREDIT moi. I even had that urge to grab some trail mix with cranberries that my DW was noshing when I'd already had my afternoon snack; CREDIT moi again.

The five year anniversary of my journey is coming mid-September and I've chosen a Tandem Skydive to celebrate - a poignant choice because the maximum allowed weight is 220 pounds and I started out above that. Besides, at weight my mind would not have considered jumping out of an airplane with an instructor strapped to my back and he with a parachute strapped to his. But mid-September is an iffy time for cloudless, warm, non-rainy days, so I jumped yesterday! CREDIT moi for choosing a grand reward for a big milestone. And even CREDIT moi for celebrating early rather than risk pouting when it became impossible to schedule myself into a clear September Saturday.

It was mind warping and fun. There's no sensation of falling - instead a feeling of peace with 120 miles per hour wind rushing by. Before the parachute opens, it feels like flying, which ... well ... of course it was. At the exit door, my brain rose up with Sabotaging Thoughts about why it's a really dumb idea to leap from a plane that's not on fire. I recommend a jump as an unusual treat to joyously embrace one's new body.

CeeJay - Yay for a busy day working good causes all even if none involved decisions. And Kudos for "tomorrow is all planned out."

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for having the "desire / energy" to paint the trim. And Kudos for assessing how to best spend your time supporting your plans and goals. My take is that there's greatest value in reporting here as often as you're able; trim down the personal responses rather than going away.

synger - Ouch for needing pain killers - either primary or secondary. Congrats for staying your path so that your body continues to drop weight.

Lisa (MissVitality) - Big Kudos for awarely monitoring your habits and then to challenge that sausage and roll. Love the image of you driving past the vendor while chomping a potassium loaded banana.

Readers - day 33
Eliminate Emotional Eating

Use Behavioral Techniques

Apply several of these techniques as soon as you start to feel upset. Once you calm down, work on solving the problem that led to the negative emotion in the first place. (I'll be addressing this tomorrow.) Instead of saying to yourself, If I'm upset, I'll deal with it by eating, tell yourself, If I'm upset, I'll try to solve the problem ... If I can't focus on problem solving, I can use my mindset and behavioral tools first.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 230.

08-08-2010, 12:43 PM
Good beautiful Sunday morning everyone! Sorry I took a small break from posting on all message boards without warning! :) Just a quick post for the time being...I need to catch up before I do personals, lol.

I've been on track and on plan...Friday's WW weigh in showed me down two-tenths of a pound even though my scale showed me exactly the same as the last time I weighed in. I'm not quite back down to my lowest weight of the last few weeks, but almost. :) Apparently it wasn't all water weight that I gained. :o

I've been exercising...Friday was 1 hour of Walk it Out, yesterday was my usual Saturday rest day, and today needed to get out to Walgreen's and wanted a Starbuck's "treat", so I made a deal with myself that I could have the "treat" if I walked 2 miles. :) I did that, then stopped at Starbuck's for my diet-friendly treat, then walked to Walgreen's. Nice! The sun was out early this morning and there's a slight chill in the air, just PERFECT!!! :D The entire country is probably in the midst of summer, be we here in this part of California are still having cool days!

One of the things I bought at Walgreen's was a larger spiral bound notebook so I can do a better job of planning my days. I also have a few other things I want to write out plans for: getting the house de-junked...I think I need some kind of schedule there, lol; paying off some bills; some kind of daily quick exercise routine that can be done anywhere I am without equipment; and whatever else I can think of. :)

I'm not sure where all this came from, but it's here and I'm going with it. :D :D

Hope to be caught up and post personals soon!

08-08-2010, 05:02 PM
Hello Everyone!!!

synger-yay for heading in the right direction.

MissVitality- credit for staying on plan and for passing by the rolls with sausage.

seadwaters- very nice list of credits.

new2me2- kuddos for on track and on plan and lots of exercise.

BillBlueEyes- LOL re the rostisserie chickens. Laughing because I made a chicken sandwich at lunch and one for tomorrow's lunch with left over rostisserie chicken. And there's still some left.

It was so inspiring to read about your five year anniversary and your plans to skydive. I would never do it because I am fundementally afraid of heights but I wish I could because it must be the most incredible feeling. You deserve a major treat like this for 5 years. Well done!!!

For me, I am on a roll. Smooth sailing today. Am away from home Monday and Tuesday night but am feeling OK about it. Just need to keep focused and stick to the plan.

Credit for:
-weighing in
-healthy eating so far and having a plan for the rest of the week
-lunch all packed up and ready to go for tomorrow
-riding exercise bike 30 minutes
-reading response and advantage cards
-checking in here


08-08-2010, 05:49 PM
Just a quick note; will report on my (surprise) weekend adventure another time. *sigh, life is good and full of surprises.

Still not straight with Beck; you, my coaches, need to know that I *am *not. Ms. Just-do-it is *not doing it, and the scale shows it. I guess I will do it when I am either *damned good and ready, or the pain gets worse than whatever *kick I am getting from NOT DOING IT.

Stay tuned, and if anyone is near enough to me to personally deliver a good swift kick in the pants, that would be appreciated...volunteers? Ceejay or are closest!!! I will travel to you...*sigh

Just wanted to check in for 2 quick personals:

BillBE, you *never *cease to *delight me! Sky-diving, no less, you wild and crazy guy...if I want to get *that scared, I go give blood!!! AMAZING. Great thing to check off your bucket list, not to mention celebrating the JOY of a NEW LIFE!!! The joy of your new and sustained good life that you share with us daily is such an inspiration. It ranges from the wry, tongue in cheek humor, to the joy of being hungry and enjoying great healthy food, to IRRATIONAL EXUBERANCE!!!!!

Onebyone, it is so good to hear from you! I was about to ask if anyone had heard from you. All any of us can do is report in and get back on plan, and I am so, so happy you did. I miss us when we are not posting! You are a better person than I am when it comes to dealing with your best friend's brother. I would have made it him pay! There is scene from Peyton Place that comes to mind.....

08-08-2010, 06:54 PM
Hi Coaches
Thought I would try morning check in before the day takes over (but mornings aren't that quiet either).

I painted more trim in my office - will slowly chip away at it. I can't believe how long it has been since I have been able to do anything around the house so it is good to get back into it.

Have some sort of plan for food for the week but I know I need more shopping. Will need to fit that in tonight or it will fall apart.

BillBE - :congrat: at 5 years - what an imaginative and terrifying way to treat yourself. Yay for irrational exuberance indeed.

CeeJay - huge credit to you that things are going so well - you are in the zone and I know it takes work to get there

Donna (New2me2) - Great to hear from you. Credit for enticing yourself to exercise with promise of sensible treats!

Maryblu - hope the pain doesn't have to get too bad to overcome the pleasure of being off plan. Your contemplation is a good sign - maybe you won't need the kick in the butt

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - No
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - No
- Limit junk food to once per day - Yes
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - Yes
- Food on-plan - Yes
- Ate seated every time - Yes
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - 50%
- Weighed myself - Yes - down 0.8
- Exercise - no - still painting

Working on - :running:
Staying calm

Have a good day Beckies

08-08-2010, 07:25 PM
I had a friend in town for the weekend which involved going out and one big party. Big credit for staying on plan! I have been a little disappointed that my effort to lose weight has not been showing on the scale. Well I have 2 pair of the same jeans in 2 different sizes. last night I put on one pair of the jeans that were a little snug but wearable. I thought they were the larger size. When I got home, I realized that were the smaller size. I tried on the larger ones and they were too big! (Taking them to the give away "box" right away). This made me feel really happy. Something is moving!

Stayed on plan
Read ARC's
didn't eat all the great food at the party
didn't drink all the great drinks at the party


Seadwaters: Congrats on getting the painting done. I have trouble with the major chores like that. (My closets are screaming at me)

Marblu: Good luck with that self kick in the pants. Posting here is a great start.

new2me: We are having the same non summer weather here in Seattle. Congrats on staying on plan and exercising in exchange for treats.

BillBlu: Congratulations on the 5 years. You are really helping me a lot and we a lucky you continue to be here for us 5 years later. I am so amazed at the skydiving and how apropos about the weight. Wow to both!

Ceejay: Does riding around on the lawn mower equal mowing the grass. Or are you just cruising on it for fun ;)

Missvitality: I do body pump too. I really have noticed a lot of changes in my body. My arms are starting to look so much better. How long have you been doing it? I started in April of this year.

Synger: Congrats on a couple pounds down (even if it isn't the official day)! Good job! Credit!

Lexxis: You road trip sounds like so much fun. Great job staying on plan during this tour.

Have a great week and thanks for being here!


08-08-2010, 07:39 PM

I have been doing body pump for almost 5 years now and I LOVE it! It has made such a massive difference to my body shape and posture (now just to get the flab away and show that off!) It has given me much more confidence. I started off going once a week and now go three times and I have gradually increased the weights I use along the way. i don't feel right if I miss a class! are you enjoying it?


08-08-2010, 11:53 PM
Hey everyone,

It was a rough week last week. Not only was I on the road for 3 days, but then we had a 4 day festival in my home town - then it was all about the three Fs: friends, food & fun. The other weird thing was that I ended up really exhausted - to the point of sleeping 10-12 hours and then taking a 2 hour nap. That happened two days in a row. My walks were shorter too. I guess it was all the traveling and the late nights (I'm use to going to bed by 9-10 p.m.)

The scale creeped up 4 pounds and I'm really hoping it's water weight, but I have a sneaking suspicion it might be a little worse than that. I don't feel like I binged or over ate, but all plans went out the window and I was mostly winging it. I boosted my tracker up to note for it - I'm so lucky, I get to go to onederland two times! :(

I do have a few credits to claim over the past week:

Lots of salads for lunch and dinner while traveling
ate a healthy breakfast every morning
had some healthy snacks
got some walks in
drank wine spritzers (wine and charge water) and limited them while socializing
some spontaneous exercises
lots of rest
planned my food for tomorrowSo, tomorrow it's back to work and back on plan. I may have slipped, but it's not the end of the world-- just a little side trip. ;)

Thanks to everyone for all the great posts and the tremendous sharing.

Good Night!

08-09-2010, 06:50 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I'd like to take a moment to check in before my day gets going here. Food and Beck strategies have been on track *credit* amidst another whirlwind of a couple of days.
*credit* yesterday for putting my bike on the rack and riding home from church
*credit* for not having the second lunch which was pushed on my at my sick friend's house. Note: It is tempting territory right now. Friends are bringing in meals and baked goods, more than they can eat, and they want to give it all to

BillBlueEyes, fantismo! on the jump! Congrats! on 5 years! Nice to do things that you couldn't do at higher weight. That would also include going to the bottom of the Grand Canyon on a mule (200 #). If you ever do that, I'll go with.

Gotta run today!

Best wishes everyone!

08-09-2010, 07:28 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Enjoyed a grilled dinner with my adult kids - a late celebration of my birthday last month. And it gave DS and I a captive audience to show our videos from our jump on Saturday. The grilled Alaskan, wild caught, salmon was superb - as it always is. To my amazement, I noted that I was satisfied, and didn't serve myself some steak - just because I didn't need more food. Also because I knew that I could have it for lunches; it wasn't like leaving it at a restaurant. CREDIT moi for eating on plan during a prime opportunity to justify eating too much. One more year we had my birthday melon instead of birthday cake; CREDIT moi for starting that birthday tradition to replace the 30 year tradition of Boston Creme Pie - my old time favorite.

Exercise was biking here and there; CREDIT moi. Whole Foods FREE samples included papaya and grilled Striped Bass - both are OK on my food plan under the category unusual. Then they offered cheese and ... I passed on that; CREDIT moi for turning down a FREE sample at Whole Foods - one is a start.

maryblu - Oh yes, "IRRATIONAL EXUBERANCE!!!!!" and "life is good and full of surprises" - can't wait to hear about yours. Sending immediate supportive kick in the kister; You know what to do, in small steps, to get back in your grove. LOL at, "if I want to get *that scared, I go give blood!!!" And thanks for your kind words.

CeeJay - Yay for being on a roll. And Kudos for already having your lunch packed for next day's lunch. Wish I'd pack mine the day before.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for chipping away at your painting. Hope you got your food shopping trip in - neat that you've got a plan for the week.

Donna (new2me2) - Kudos for buying a notebook for getting your plans organized. As you discover good ways to de-clutter, let me know; I'm in need.

Amber (AmberPr) - LOL at "the three Fs: friends, food & fun" with Kudos for the winning response, "it's not the end of the world-- just a little side trip."

Alma (Alma4343) - Kudos for staying on plan during a weekend that was "one big party" - that's a prime opportunity to slip which you avoided. And Congrats on your NSV with the jeans; good attitude to immediately bring the big ones to the give away box.

Lisa (MissVitality) - Yay for 5 full years of Body Pump; I'll have to google that and figure out what it is.

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

Today, you're going to learn how to become a more effective problem solver. Thinking clearly about a problem, even if you haven't figured out a solution, can help you feel more in control, less upset, and, therefore, less likely to turn to emotional eating.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 232.

08-09-2010, 08:29 AM
Just jumping in here. I left an introduction of sorts in the post "just getting started."

I was pleasantly surprised with my weigh in this morning. I MUST get the exercise on track this week. Need to look at my cards every day! I am too new to this to be slipping now, although I call it resistance. I actually had the conversation in my head after a busy morning and forgetting to stop and read the cards, I told myself it was ok, because I knew what they said...thanks friendly saboteur. ;-) I have always know reasons to loose weight, doesn't mean I think about them as often as I should over the years. So I read my cards this morning, and this afternoon when I do it again I will transfer them also to "notes" on my phone.

I am taking credit for a very challenging eating day yesterday at an all afternoon county fair event. The kind you are not allowed to bring your own food/drinks into. I ate a nice healthy early lunch before we went and made sure to drink lots of water! (sitting in the hot sun all day) I managed to get away with only a single polish dog and a fist full of almonds (i had smuggled in my camera bag.)

I have been doing well with sitting to eat. ;-) stopped myself the other night when I took a bite off my sons plate while cutting his meat standing at the table.

Goals: take my measurements today to have a better baseline. work on the exercise plan, transfer ar cards to phone.

08-09-2010, 09:34 AM
I got home a few days ago from a 10 day trip across the Pacific NW visiting family and friends. DH and I drove to Walla Walla, WA, the college town where we met to spend a few days with his sister and her family and see friends who still live there. Then it was off to Portland, OR to see his mom for a few days. Then up to Seattle to see my brother and his family. We took the long way back home so that we could drive through my old hometown on the NE side of the cascades and then drove the small, out of the way highways across NE WA.

All in all it was a wonderful trip and was good for my waistline as well. I was pleasantly surprised to find my weight just what it was when we left. I was allowing myself more indulgences than usual--enjoying good local wines with familly and friends and lots of eating out. All on plan, but I expected the extra calories to show up on the scale. I did keep up my running on the trip and it was nice to run in new places--I espcially enjoyed running at sea level! It felt like other than that, I wasn't getting much exercise. But when I look back on it, we did lots of extra walking and I did a lot of chasing nieces and nephews around. That must have burned off the extra glasses of wine.

I'm still trying to get caught up with everything. I got my at-home eating plan sqared away first thing, now it's just everything else. . . So no personals today. I did want to send a big congrats to BillBE for coming up on 5 years of maintenance. You are an inspiration, not just for staying thin all this time, but also for taking life by the horns.

08-09-2010, 10:54 AM
Yesterday went well. Didn't go biking with the kids (still too much tendinitis), but I did get some laps in the pool. Ate on plan and under carbs/calories. Sat down for every meal. Did a frenzy of cleaning before we had gamers over in the evening. Make lovely italian-style hamburgers for the grill -- italian seasoning, a splash of spaghetti sauce, and parmesan cheese mixed in to wonderful fresh hamburger from the local Mennonite butcher (his meat is SO fresh and tasty!).

Amber: Lots of good credits for the week! Kudos for keeping to those, especially healthy breakfasts and lots of salads, during a time of travel and festival! Remember, an extra pound of fat would mean you'd eaten over 3,000 extra calories over the week. Chances are very good that you did not eat 4X that! It's probably water weight. I always gain water when I travel.

Lexxiss: Good on you for not taking the second lunch. Sometimes it's so hard to say no to well-meaning friends, especially if they've worked hard on a meal for you. Maybe you can box up some of those extra meals and freeze them for times you don't want to cook? And great job on the bike ride home!

Bill: Isn't that realization great, when you figure out you don't need more, and say no? "The Four Day Win" book talks about how there's often a part of you who doesn't want to let go of food, as if you'll never see it again. It suggests visualizing a room full of whatever the food is, and "allow" that part of you to see the hoard and revel in it. That part of you is afraid of deprivation, and gets satisfaction from you convincing it that it will be able to have whatever-it-is again... just not right now.

Newbebop: Welcome! It's amazing to me how important those cards become. Sure I "know" what's on them... but I need to be reminded each day! Good job on recognizing that and turning back to the cards.

Shepherdess: Sounds like you had a wonderful trip! Kudos on staying on plan, and getting in those runs. Sometimes travel, especially family trips, can be very difficult times to keep on track. You are an inspiration that it CAN be done!

08-09-2010, 11:35 AM
Good morning everyone!

In addition to my walk in the morning, I did 1 hour of Walk It Out yesterday afternoon. I was tired by the end of that, but I'm almost finished with this "Island" so I really wanted to get in as much as I could. I finally just pooped out, lol.

Eating continued on plan and even got some of the planning done. Nothing specific yet, just getting things down on paper so that I have it all the end of the week I will have a plan for something though. :D

CeeJay Yay for being on a roll! Major credit for feeling okay about travel and for knowing that focus and sticking to the plan are important!

maryblu Yay for life being good and full of surprises! Keeps things interesting! :)

seadwaters(Cheryl) Thanks for reminding me that things like painting doesn't all have to be done at once, lol. I need to do so much around my place that it's overwhelming and so I end up doing nothing. A little at a time is a good way to go!

Alma4343 Major credit for staying on plan with all that! Congratulations on the too-big jeans!!! :D

MissVitality I have to go back and read about Body Pump, but it's funny it was mentioned because Friday I looked up to see where I could take a class locally, lol.

AmberPr Yay for a list of credits after a tough week!

Lexxiss Great job on staying on track!

BillBlueEyes LOL on the birthday melon! Major credit! As for place is overwhelming, so I'm going to have to do it in very small chunks, lol.

newbebop Welcome!! Yes, the cards are really important, and for exercise, maybe at first just do something that isn't normally considered "exercise" that you like to do.

Shepherdess Your trip sounds wonderful!

synger Major credit for getting in some laps! The burgers sound really good!

08-09-2010, 01:02 PM
I was discouraged this morning to see a higher number on the scale. Trying to remind myself that it is just information, not a statement about my value.

Yesterday I ate everything sitting down, except for 2 strawberries.
I also read all of the Response cards I've made so far.
I'm having a hard time coming up with a diet and an alternate diet to follow, as I'm pretty much not a believer in diets. But here I am, so I guess what I've been doing (or not doing) hasn't worked, recently anyway.
I am thinking about just doing portion control and pre-planning and having calorie counting be my back up plan.
Any ideas or opinions?

The past 4 days have been very stressful with a family crisis. My schedule has been chaotic and my emotions have been blasted. However, I chose not to eat to soothe myself, or because I was very tired. I was also much more aware that my emotions and fatigue were causing cravings and I was able to let it pass. (credit)

That's it,
PS: I will try to post about today, this evening. That's my goal.

08-09-2010, 01:52 PM
Hello all, the weekend is over and once again I have time to post.

Credit this weekend: Planned and ate according to plan! No additional snacking, drank only morning coffee and water. No sugar other than fruits, no flour, no grains etc....

To work on: did not work out with Wii as was planned

My new food plan started Sunday. I am doing the Primal diet since low fat and calorie cutting does not work for me at this I say at this time because there is nothing wrong with that plan, and it has worked for me in the past, and I am sure will again in the future. I just need to change things up and get my metabolism in order. ALOT of that has to do with insulin (I am not diabetic) and the primal diet deals with whole foods, no sugar, no flour, and low carbs (not atkins effect-my-brain-function low lol)
Yesterday was quite a trip, retraining the brain that YES I could have butter, no I could not have the low fat salad dressing.......quite the trip! But I hit my targets pretty much right on spot, which was good since I was still in the process of figuring out the formulas to get my target numbers.

Skydiving????? just reading that made me want to crawl under my desk in fear (and count that as a workout too) BUT WAY TO GO, and better you than me LOL

Sounds like August travels have been great for many of you. Here is a challenge for ya.....find some kind of fresh, in season veggie you have not had before (or lately) our new favorite if rainbow chard!

08-09-2010, 02:07 PM
hey everyone. is it friday yet? (jk)

stress is high. got a lot going on at home & work.

nothing bad just a lot.

had two "mistake" moments yesterday.
credit for acknowledging them and moving on and not turning them into a day of garbage.

I don't know why but all junk was calling my name this weekend. i was feeling weak to fight the food demons. thank goodness my daughter said no to going to eat on saturday for lunch. i was so weak I wanted crap crap crap to munch on. instead we shared a small chicken quesadilla. not too bad.

i'm swamped and need / want some relief. I promise to eat on plan the rest of the week and not let work/home stress change good eating decisions. Apples & Oranges so no need to eat to peace.

I'm glad I can be accountable to y'all my internet beck coaches.

hope everyone is doing well. back to work!

08-09-2010, 05:59 PM
"Happy" Monday y'all! :p

I lost more weight this weekend, until my sabotaging thoughts kicked in and allowed me to overeat. Even so, I didn't gain or lose this weekend. It seems like just when I'm getting the hang of it, I sabotage myself and give-in to eating off plan. It happens in a span of 15-20 minutes when I've found myself in front of the open refrigerator with a half-eaten deli-flat roll or a spoon an the yogurt! I just don't get happens so quick that it feels impossible to catch. <<sigh>> The only thing I can think of to do is make out the eating plan every day and stick to it like glue.

I'm on plan today...gonna have a piece of hawaiian pizza and a corn on the cob for dinner-which should put me at the mid-point of my calories-then hope I don't falter because I'm too tired to keep alert! HRH is still waking up every three hours! My other two were sleeping through the night at 3 months...this one is four months and we're still going through "baby boot camp!"

Enough griping....thanks for listening!:^:

08-09-2010, 06:58 PM
Hi Coaches

I am trying to keep up a morning check in. Yesterday was on plan until I stopped for petrol and bought chocolate. I then ate it all on the long drive home. At least I was sitting down :). I ended up within calories as I had no snacks last night but a little over carbs I imagine. Yep - a good idea to have no food in the car and fill up in the morning I think. I did go to the markets and get the food I needed for the rest of the week on the way home so I am somewhat organised

Bonnie ate really well last night and seemed happy. This morning she seems sick and old and her breathing is not good.

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - Yes
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - No
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - Yes
- Food on-plan - No
- Ate seated every time - Yes
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - 70%
- Weighed myself - Yes - down 0.2
- Exercise - no

Working on - :running:
Staying calm

Have a good day Beckies

08-09-2010, 07:07 PM
Doing great so far this week. Haha, it is only Monday, I know. But, I am feeling confident and motivated. I am on Day 23 in the book (I have not done a chapter a day usually miss a couple a week). Counter the unfairness syndrome. This is something I worked on in the past so I really don't have this problem. I do have several friends trying to lose weight and I hear this from them a lot. I think unfairness is the fact that I did not do the right thing a long time ago so I have to do it NOW. So, it is really only an exchange within myself. I know I have a very good life and I am very fortunate. (Even if I am not thin and rich, haha)

I really have had a change in attitude with this book. I WILL keep up the work. Other programs talk about it being a lifestyle etc. However, this book has helped me say "Oh Well" to the slow weight loss. I know that this is the way I need to eat and exercise for life. There is no end to a routine of good eating and exercising. I think that is finally sinking in for me. OH WELL!

Exercised, body pump
Planned food
Ate on plan
Read ARC's (posting here reminds me to do this)

Hello All:

MissVitality: 5 years of bodypump is excellent. That is really sticking with it. I agree, when I get a layer of fat off, you will really be able to see my great work;) That thought was one of my big motivators to get ON PLAN. And, yes, I am enjoying it. It has been the best weight for me to get a good workout with weights. My heart rate monitor needs a battery, but I cannot wait to find out how many calories I burn during a class.

AmberPR: Good job on the salads. As a former road warrior, I completely understand you struggles. It is really hard to stick to a plan when you usually have no plan around times, dates etc. You have done so well though.

BillBlue: I can't believe you passed on the steak BIG CREDIT. It is great you now have a Birthday melon instead of a cake. I am going to have to find a new tradition like that. I will have to see what is in season in March

newbebop: Welcome, I recently joined here to and it is really helping me stick to the plan.

Shephardess: Your trip sounds amazing. I live in Seattle, I love it hear. I need to plan a trip like yours sometime.

Synger: I really hate to hear about your tendonitis. I have battle with plantar fasciitis for 4 years. I don't think mine is as bad. But, it really would get me down. I did learn to work on exercise that did not hurt it. One thing I noticed was moving helped a lot as long at I found ways to move that didn't hurt my feet. That took a little work.

new2me: Eating on plan and lots of exercise. Good work.

Madrikh: I don't really have any diet suggests. I count calories because I felt it was the easiest most available information. Other diets I have tried did work, but I find calorie counting the least work to think about. I do try to make the calories count by eating really healthy stuff. Fresh, whole foods, non white grains etc. Good luck. All I need was a scale and a couple websites to count calories.

MikkiJoe: I tried to find information on the primal diet. It seems there are several places that claim to be primal and are very different (one suggested raw meat). Is there a website for this? I am curious.

Houston2command: I know what you mean about days where you think you are ravished and only junk will work. I recently read "I will care later" chapter and hoping this will remind me when I get in one of those moods.

Morganlefey: Great getting back on plan and recognizing your mistakes. It is excellent you are jumping right back in and not throwing everything out the window. That is success!

08-09-2010, 07:38 PM
Alma, classifying a way of eating (lifestyle) as primal is one thing...and there are all kinds of things out there, some with everything raw.....But I just bet those extremists use toilet paper!

Anyway what I am refering to is The Primal Blueprint, by Mark Sisson. His site is There is also Paleo (I cannot recall the full title of the book, or the author, but he is a little too extreme for me, cuts out all dairy and eggs too I believe. There is a forum on 3fc under carb counters, and the first of every month they post, like Bill does for Becks, a reference to the website. Hope that helps, would love to answer any other questions you have.

08-09-2010, 07:39 PM
Good Evening Coaches

I'm on vacation. I'm in a deluxe room overlooking a lake just outside Parry Sound Ontario Canada.

BIG credits to report:
1) wore shorts in public
2) wore my bathing suit to the indoor pool, swam, and then left the pool to swim, outside, in the lake, to which I had to walk in front of the other guests, outside, in my bathing suit, into the water. Then I swam to the floating dock, climbed up and sunned myself there for a while. DH swam out to me and encouraged me to do my first (yes first) jump off a dock into the lake. After I got over the water going up my nose, I decided that yes, that was fun. (BBE I relate to your skydive! YAY to you btw...)

More later. Just checking in.

08-09-2010, 11:03 PM
Hello everyone,

Wow am I crabby today. I have no patience for anyone and it makes me feel crappy to be that way. I wish I could hide in a hole all week (yes, it's THAT week -- does it really have to last all week?)

It's 7 p.m. and it's still 84 degrees out there. I'm gonna give it other 8 degrees before I head out on my walk (what a baby huh?-- see, no patience even for myself)

I ended up have an unplanned lunch out today (I choose a salad with protein) and it seemed to throw off the rest of my eating today -- which I was adjusting on my tally. A little bit ago I decided I was wanting some cherries for an evening snack. There didn't appear to be enough for two servings, so I threw them all in a bowl - It was looking like a pretty big bowl, so I decided to write down all the afternoon calories I'd had just to see where I was at - then I weighed my cherries…. 270 calories of cherries and I had enough of a calorie deficit to enjoy those and still have a couple hundred calories of buffer for my unmeasured lunch. I'm really glad I checked so I don't have to feel guilty all night -- which could've turned into a free for all the rest of the night...

:cheer2: Credits

Weighed myself: 204 - oh the agony!
One walk this evening
Eaten my usual on plan breakfast
Adjusted for my eating out lunch
Faced up to the tally sheet even when I thought I was headed over my allotment of food
Checked in with all of you
Began to plan my day - hey, my lunch and afternoon snack are already in the fridge for tomorrow


Debbie (Lexxis): Great job pushing past the extra food. I bet there's a lot of variety tempting you.

BillBE: What an awesome way to celebrate 5 years. I remember doing that when I was 19.

newbebop: Hello! Fairs are cruel. You did well planning ahead.

Shepherdess: What a fun vacation. Sounds like you did well keeping on plan.

Synger: Hope your tendinitis gets under control, that has to be irritating.

New2me2: I'm definitely gonna get that game for the winter - nothing like exploring an island in the middle of a snowstorm.

Madrikh: I hear ya on the numbers on the scale. I'm holing my breath this week hoping my excess last week is all water weight… I've been following the plan in the Green beck book. This is the first time I've weighed and measured my food and done the preplanning. The preplanning has been key for me. (You can check back on my past posts, I've only been doing this for a month or so)

Mikkijo: Love the gals! Wow! Weekends are the hardest for me. Great job!

Houston & Morgan: I'm with ya - This week is our week!

Seadwaters: Nice job modifying your plan after a slip-up. Isn't it great when it doesn't completely derail you?

Alma: Nice work reprograming your brain. It really does seem to happen one step at a time.

Onebyone: Lake Superior? Sounds like a wonderful trip.

Well, it cooled off to 74 and we went for our walk. Humid, but cooler.

Good night,

08-10-2010, 12:08 AM
Just a word of coaching, MorganleFey,

"It happens in a span of 15-20 minutes when I've found myself in front of the open refrigerator with a half-eaten deli-flat roll or a spoon an the yogurt! I just don't get happens so quick that it feels impossible to catch."

Remember what Beck says about that, "there is always a thought that precedes the act"..I wish I had not given my pink book away..I could find it highlighted in that..not sure what it says in the green one..drat...I *know my friend is not reading it..tacky to ask for it back???? Anyway, I know what you mean about that trance-like thing, but really, now, I *know I am doing it. Obviously I am not stopping (!)..but I do have the awareness...keep working on will get there. :-)

08-10-2010, 06:59 AM
:welcome: newbebop :welcome:

And, in case you didn't get one of these four months ago, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the Dr. Judith Beck books?

And how did you find the Beck Forum on 3 Fat Chicks?

08-10-2010, 07:03 AM
:welcome: Marci (madrikh) :welcome:

And, in honor of joining 3FC this month, :wel3fc:

How did you learn about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you find 3 Fat Chicks and the Beck Forum here?

08-10-2010, 07:25 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Choose a few small slices of the leftover steak for my dinner last night (abandoned by DW); CREDIT moi for a rational portion - less than 2 ounces. It never ceases to amaze me how much I can enjoy a small portion of good food.

maryblu - Another option is to push the little button on the Amazon web site and the pink book will show up at your door, LOL. Thanks for the reminder, "there is always a thought that precedes the act."

onebyone - What a happy post. Monster Kudos for strutting about in shorts and bathing suit just like you're a human being entitled to be yourself. And Congrats for that first jump off the dock - we jumpers gotta stick together.

Shepherdess - Ten days of vacation, with indulgences, yet maintaining! What an example for all of us. It's terrific that vacation means that much more walking. Do you worry about all your animals when gone that long?

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Ouch for gas station chocolate. Kudos for getting your food for the week. And Ouch that Bonnie seems to have her good moments and bad moments.

Donna (new2me2) - Neat for visualizing that you'll have a plan by the end of the week - a plan for a plan so to speak. Yep, the de-cluttering needs to proceed in "very small chunks" - just beware of my little trick of simply moving clutter from one space to another as if that's an improvement.

Houston2Command - Yep, T.G.I.F. - must be Friday on some planet in the universe, LOL. Kudos for acknowledging small mistakes and moving on without letting them drag down your whole day.

Amber (AmberPr) - You jumped out of an airplane when you were only 19? Whatever motivated you to do that? Tell more!

Mikkijoe - Yay for rainbow chard - gotta add that to my list of veggies to try. Kudos for the weekend planned and executed according to plan. Look forward to hearing how the Primal Diet works for you; that way of eating appeals to me.

Alma (Alma4343) - Kudos for accepting, "I know that this is the way I need to eat and exercise for life." Feels good when we just accept that.

synger - Drooling here for those "Italian-style hamburgers." Thanks for the tip from The Four Day Win to visualize a room full of the food I'm currently lusting for. I like that. I frequently wish that I could think of food the same way I think of crystal clear water in the stream along side a hiking trail; I dip my cup into as much as I want without any angst about leaving a whole stream behind.

MorganleFay - Neat, "The only thing I can think of to do is make out the eating plan every day and stick to it like glue." - you've just invented the Beck Diet Solution, LOL. Ouch for HRH still waking up every three hours; that's supposed to end at some time. LOL at "baby boot camp!"

newbebop - Kudos for jumping right into identifying what's going on in your head when you're wandering off track - that's a big time Beck strategy. Just love the thought of "smuggling" rational food into a county fair, which, I presume, offered the standard fried everything of standard fairs. That nibbling from the kids plates is a shocker to discover; I was surprised to find out that all parents do that, LOL.

Which of the Dr. Judith Beck books are you reading?

Marci (madrikh) - Sending supportive thoughts as you deal with the emotions of a family crisis - it's so easy to fall into the Sabotaging Thought that food would help to resolve the tension. Kudos for avoiding that.

So good to be reminded, "it is just information, not a statement about my value" - so many of us respond to the scale like it was the final judgment, LOL. Portion control is the major component of my food plan; works for me.

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

Identify the Problem

To solve a problem, you first have to define it. Sometimes, this is easy: Perhaps your boss put a lot of pressure on you, you bounced a check, or someone made a negative comment about you. Sometimes, the problem isn't so easy to pinpoint. You might notice the emotion but not feel sure about what led to it. Consider asking a friend or your diet coach to help you sort things through.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 232.

08-10-2010, 09:17 AM
Iím happy to be back to my regular, healthy eating. It was fun to relax for a little while, but I my healthy eating is comfortable. I know Iím taking care of myself. Besides, I still eat plenty of good food. Last night I cooked a spaghetti squash I picked up at a farmerís market in Montana. It was delicious. Iíll definitely have to plant some next year.

Welcome Newbebop! Youíre right that reading the cards is important, even when you know what they say. Actually looking them over keeps them fresh in your mind.

Welcome Madrikh! Great job remembering that the number on the scale is just info. There are so many reasons for fluctuations! I think either portion control or calorie counting are good plans. Youíll figure out pretty quickly what works for you.

Synger, ouch for tendinitis, but great job finding some exercise that works! Sorry Iím a little behind, but are you seeing a Dr for it?

New2me2, yay for finding a good motivation to exercise. Great job doing some planning. Planning is such a key concept in Beck.

Mikkijo, I love that summer challenge. It is so much fun figuring out how to cook unusual veggies. Kudos for finding doing so well on a new plan. Best of luck getting that metabolism in order.

Houston2Command, ouch for high stress. Hope everything calms down soon. Kudos for recognizing minor eating mistakes and moving on.

MorganleFay, ouch for off plan eating. Youíre right that a good plan is a lifesaver. I donít know what Beck book youíre using, but the Green book has a list of questions to ask yourself when you go off-plan. It really helped me identify some thought patterns and catch them before I wind up reaching for the cookie jar.

Seadwaters, yay for organization! Youíre always such an inspiration. I can sympathize with the urge to eat on a long drive. I can only have pre-portioned snacks in the car. I can eat a whole bag of chips while driving and not really even notice.

Alma4343, yay for facing the week feeling confident! I love the attitude. Itís great that youíre finding an eating and exercising plan you will stick to for life and not letting slow weight loss bother you.

Onebyone, yay for the courage to wear shorts in public and a bathing suit. Itís great that it led you to such a wonderful swim!

AmberPr, ouch for feeling crabby. Hope your walk helps you feel better. I donít blame you for waiting until it cools down. Iím a wimp about exercising in heat. I get up early to avoid it. Kudos for figuring you unplanned lunch salad into your dayís eating plan.

Maryblu, thanks for the reminder that ďthere is always a thought that precedes the act.Ē I donít think Beck says that in so many words in the Green book, but itís very true.

BillBE, yay for discovering that a small portion can be satisfying! The animals donít need us much this time of year, but we still worry while weíre away. One of the ranch hands was checking on them while we were gone and we had to check on them first thing.

08-10-2010, 09:30 AM
Thanks for the warm welcome. I may have even just blushed a bit. lol.

I am reading the pink Beck book. A few days at a time when appropriate. I am in the middle of day 13. I have stopped and am thinking of my experiencing hunger day. (I have planned for it tomorrow, when I will be out of the house and busy with errands and running around)

I actually found 3fc a long time ago. I come back from time to time when I get to that place again. It is a comfort to be around people who know your struggles from experience, and to find some strength in others successes. I was reading a couple weeks ago when I saw a reference to Beck and did some research and ordered the book. So far I am very pleased with it. There are time when I think to myself "this is silly", then I remember how well I have done in the past, on my own, for any long term amount of time and have just decided to go with it. ;-)

I had sort of begun a healthier eating plan before I had found the book, so I have had the pleasure of some weight loss even though I am technically not to the start day in the book. I am new to giving myself credit for things and I kind of like the idea. and the idea that it is ok to go off plan, if I can acknowledge it and then get back on track, and not let a single slip ruin an entire day. I use to big a big participant in days like this...I guess since I binged, i will just start over tomorrow, and continue to binge as if it didn't matter. When you look at it it is not quite rational thought. (more my saboteur) So far, I have been doing well, but made a card that says "it is ok, we are all human. you don't need to "start over", just get back on track NOW."

Thanks again for the welcome.

I am claiming credit for the goals I met yesterday. taking my measurements, sitting down to eat, reading my cards, and checking in here.

08-10-2010, 09:33 AM
Had an okay day yesterday. Not so much pain. Worked at home, so not a lot of walking to irritate the heels. Getting really irritable, so thinking I may be coming up on TOM. Catching myself thinking of eating, not because I'm hungry but to elevate my mood. Food makes me feel better... it's probably a blood sugar/seratonin thing. Eating lower-carb doesn't give me the glucose highs I am used to, and it really hits home during this week of the month. The rest of the month it's not such a problem.

Also irritated because I asked for Friday and Monday off so we can go camping, but the others in my office have leave, so I may not be able to go. I'm really itching to get back into the woods before the summer is over (itching being the operative word... August camping is always the most-buggy). Feeling like it's "unfair".

Oh, well!

Amber: Sending "patience dust" your way... I know how crazy/irritated I can get around TOM. Congrats on dealing with an unplanned lunch and making sure your evening snack fit into your plan. I think dealing with the unexpected is a major issue for a lot of people.

Bill: I love discovering things like how "little" will satisfy me! It's like a revelation, and another tool into the tool box of coping mechanisms! And thank you for sharing your stream/cup visualization. I like to hike, so that makes a real solid connection with me. THere will be water further up the stream!

Shepherdess: Spaghetti squash are wonderful! I've never grown them, but I do love eating htem. And yes, I've seen a podiatrist for my tendinitis. He suggested shoe inserts, and some stretches, both of which I use/do. He also said the next step would be immobilization or surgery, and that he couldn't do surgery at my weight. Immobilization would be okay on the left foot, though a pain. But I wouldn't be able to drive if we immobilized my right.

Onebyone: LOVE that you wore your shorts and bathing suit in public. I know how scary that can be at first! I used to have a bunch of mumu-style coverups for the beach. THen I had a child, and now I don't bother. :) And cheers for being bold on the raft! I remember many hours on those lake raft/docks, swimming and jumping and sunning. THank you for the wonderful memory.

Alma: "Oh, well" is a powerful tool, indeed! Glad you're working with it.

08-10-2010, 09:59 AM
Hi Beck Folks - I've been MIA - the huge rash I got from the anitbiotic is red, painful and raw. I am miserable. Enough already!!

I get up with good intentions - but, can't get through the pain. I am going back to the dermatologist today with the need of him finding something else to get through this.

I am committing to check in every day.

Take care.

PS - good news...the staph infection on my skin is gone. NO spots and blotches. YAY

08-10-2010, 11:50 AM
Good morning everyone!

It is really surprising how quickly a planned day can go unplanned, lol. So, my co-worker is going crazy with baking with the new gluten free Bisquick. :) Yesterday she brought a small piece of blueberry scone and a small portion of chicken pot pie for me to try. Fortunately they were SMALL portions! The blueberry scone came just after I ate my morning snack, so I waited at least until I was hungry again to eat that, lol. The pot pie I just substituted for one of my mini-lunches I bring. And, since only she amongst her family liked the scones, she said she will bring the rest for I HAVE planned for that today. :D If she doesn't bring it, I will have my usual morning snack. Phew.

The rest of the day was on plan, plus I wasn't as hungry later in the day so was able to eat less even than normal.

So, my new plan for Mondays is to wait to see if she brings something and if not then I will eat my own snack. :dizzy: :D

I also got in an hour of Walk it Out.

madrikh Did I say welcome?! :) If not, welcome!! Very good attitude about the scale really is just information, and very useful information too. When I started Beck, that's exactly what I did...portion control, pre-planning and calorie counting. When it came time to pick a diet, I picked a lower carb diet...not a formal one, just lowered my carbs a bit. Since then I joined the Weight Watchers at Work program, more to be accountable to someone rather than strictly following the program. The only two Beck rules I decided to adopt were eat only when hungry and then only eat a reasonable portion. That works well pretty much everywhere, lol.

Mikkijoe Yay on a great on plan weekend. The primal diet sounds interesting.

Houston2Command LOL, hey "is it fridya yet" is my line! :D It's a common lament on my facebook page. :)

MorganleFay Credit for no weight gain, and credit for recognizing the sabotaging thoughts! Going off plan CAN really happen so fast...the one thing I have to practice more is trying to catch that "thought" that happens right before we do it!

seadwaters(Cheryl) Ouch, but LOL on the chocolate sitting down! Poor little Bonnie, hope she's better today!

Alma4343 Yay for feeling confident and motivated!! It's a great feeling. Yeah, I no longer have a problem with unfairness...for me, having so many dietary restrictions has helped with that a lot, so when it came time to diet, it was just "oh well". LOL!

onebyone Yay for balconies overlooking lakes!!! One of my favorite types of things! :D Congratulations on shorts and bathing suit!!! That is still something I struggle with, so I definitely understand!

AmberPr Oh I hate those crabby days!! Hope it goes better for you! Yay for not having to feel guilty!!! Major credit for checking!! Oh, and re the game...there is even a beach you can walk on, so in the Winter, you can look at a virtual sandy beach complete with ocean, sunbathers, etc., lol.

BillBlueEyes Yes, always credit for a rational portion. I am amazing myself as well that I really don't need those big portions. Oh, yes, I do that moving of clutter from one place to another, but have decided that if I put my hand on it, I MUST do something with it. :D

Shepherdess Hum, I'll have to try a spaghetti squash again...I tried one once a million years ago, but didn't cook it right I think. I love the idea of it, so usually with me that's half the battle, lol.

newbebop Hope your hunger experiment is going well! Love your response card about starting over!

synger Aw, sure hope you get to go camping!

Beverlyjoy Gosh, glad the original infection is gone, but golly the rash from the "cure" sounds terrible!!! Hope they can get that taken care of quickly!

08-10-2010, 12:37 PM
Read all posts, thinking about you all, just no time to respond individually today (payroll day again)

Yesterday was a good day: No 'unthinking eating" for quite some time now--and I will say I think I have that entirely controlled!
Found a new favorite, I heated up my left over rainbow chard and put 2 over easy eggs ontop...grossed my family out, but it was a wonderful lunch.

B- nothing ( 17 hour fast)
L- chard and eggs
D- 2 pork chops with cajun seasoning, zucchini, patty pan and toms with basil butter,
Dessert to celebrate daughters 14th birthday- fresh blue berries, half a peach, half a kewi topped with 1/2 cup homemade ice cream! (frozen blue berrys and cream whipped in the food processor) No sugar, YEAH
Snack- 1 celery stock and almond butter

Still need to work on water today, but I am feeling pretty good, have energy in the morning--WOW, I just realized, I have energy! this is an unusual feeling.

08-10-2010, 02:55 PM

What are you smokin'????

"maryblu - Another option is to push the little button on the Amazon web site and the pink book will show up at your door, LOL.

Pay *retail for a book I already *bought once???? Surely you jest. Would rather be tacky and ask for it back from my friend!!!

08-10-2010, 03:21 PM
Pay if forward......the gift of a book could be a life saver--literally!

On the other had, I would consider asking for the book back too,...depending on how much that friend was using it.

08-10-2010, 04:03 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Last night could have been the start of a large eating disaster but I stopped it in it's tracks with minimal damage.*credit* Wow! It was powerful and emotional and when everyone walked out of the room I grabbed a handful of cookies and went to bed with them. I slept almost 12 hours which is unheard of from this insomniac. Obviously, I needed it. Woke up with a new outlook on life and got to the pool and enjoyed a long bike ride through town on my way back .
Beverlyjoy,Good to hear from you and *credit* for a commitment to check in when you are absolutely miserable.
BillBlueEyes, 2 oz steak is pretty darn rational! lol
mikkijoe, lol for "grossed my family out, but it was a wonderful lunch." Credit for really having your eating under control and for trying new things.
Donna (new2me2), Wow! Best wishes sent to you for interactions with the GF Bisquick Queen! *credit* for using caution!
synger, I think food makes alot of us feel better. *credit* for thinking through just where the feelings are coming from.
newbebop, Thanks for sharing your experiences with us. Lots of *credits* already.
Shepherdess,Glad you are back from a great trip. Spag Squash grow like crazy here and everyone is always giving them away!
AmberPr, great job on persistance with measuring food.
onebyone, keep doing fun things! I truly believe it helps to find other satisfying things in life other than food. *credit*for checking in.
Alma4343, Great to hear about those changes in attitude!
Cheryl (seadwaters) I'm always happy to hear that Bonnie is happy.
maryblu, thanks for sharing from the pink book that you no longer

I have to take my Mom to the Dr. I hope to be back and finish personals later...I'll just edit this post.

Cheryl (seadwaters), gosh! I just got home and read your post. I'm so sorry that Bonnie is gone. You were so kind with her these past few weeks. :hug: Take care of yourself!
MorganleFay, *credit* for an on plan day. I have to take not avalanching into something huge as progress. Noting that it does increase cravings is a valuable thing to notice, too.
Houston2Command, Yay for dealing with stress! Good news when the scale reflects it!
Marci (madrikh), good job throwing away the food!
Lisa (MissVitality), *credit* for finding an exercise you love and sticking with if for so long.
CeeJay, always good to hear from you and glad that things are going well, too.

Thanks for posting ups and downs everyone! We are all working in heading down the path together and that matters!

08-10-2010, 04:11 PM
Thank you so much for welcoming me here! I need this support.
Well, yesterday was my first day of really battling emotional eating. I think it had to do with the number on the scale going up. I have several other health issues I deal with on a daily basis and my weight just seems like one more thing I can't control. Trying to change that thinking!!
So, today the scale was down 2 pounds, even with my 3 "mistakes" yesterday. I also didn't write down what I ate yesterday (a little rebellion), which is something I have been doing daily for about 2 months (pre-Beck).
Today so far, I have had:
B: 1 banana w/ peanut butter
L: small homemade smoothie with flax seed meal.

I leave in a few minutes for yoga class. I didn't do the treadmill this morning (as planned) because I've been having some swelling in my right foot. And I tend to be just a wee bit obsessive about exercise.

Credits (yesterday): treadmill, 4mph on incline, 45 minutes.
While driving and after eating 2 rice krispie treats I threw the bag containing the 2 remaining treats to the back of the car; when I reached my destination I took the treats to the nearest trash can.

Again, I will plan to check in each evening, but so far that's not working out.


08-10-2010, 04:31 PM
I am dealing with the stress. Funny how so many of us are ready for Friday!

Okay, today is my weigh in day and am happy to report: another lb gone! I really can't remember if that was two or three for the week but overall I keep going down and that is what matters.

lost 3 inches! yay!!!! overall lost inches in 4 weeks: 10+ yayayayayya!!!
(remember I measure like 6 places).

today a client asked how much I've lost! so it's finally noticeable. she hasn't seen me in months!

no workout yesterday.
ate on plan. Credit
spontaneous exercise. Credit
turned stress into "that happy place". Credit
Cooked food ahead of time. Credit.
ate seated. Credit
read ARC. 1/2 credit
smiled a lot. credit.

I am so excited to toss the 160s behind me. come on 2 pounds. be gone!!!

P.S. I am now a horse in honor of 20 lbs gone. I'm more than a smart monkey now! :)

08-10-2010, 05:56 PM
Hello all!

Stayed on plan yesterday (well...okay, I did have 1 paper-thin slice of deli ham and a slice of american cheese while I was making my sandwich for today). *sigh* Thanks for the coaching Maryblu! I will try to remember the thoughts right before I put the food in my mouth. Maybe it will work the next time. At least it was a small deviation and didn't avalanche to something huge. I was fighting cravings all night. "Fortunately" HRH wanted to be held for a few hours, so I couldn't snack! LOL His care giver suggested that we sit him with the other kids while they eat their breakfast and lunches and maybe he'll eat too...I'll see how that works tonight when I pick him up after work. I'm hoping if I can get him to eat, maybe he'll start sleeping through the night? :tired:

onebyone: Yay for wearing your bathing suit in public!!

Shepherdess: I Love spaghetti squash with some yummy tomato sauce! I'm reading the pink book right now. I went to B&N to pick up the book for full price, but when I was in line to pay for it, I passed a table with discounted books. Guess which book was laying right on top for only $6! It was fate!

maryblu: Thanks so much for the coaching! If I were you, I would so totally ask for the book back. However, we here in the south would do it this way..."Sweetie, I wonder if y'all aren't finished with the Becks book if you could pass it on back? I wanted to reference something in one of the chapters when I realized I let you borrow it a bit ago." Or something of that nature.

Houston2Command: YAY for the inches lost!! I love the horse!

08-10-2010, 06:20 PM
Hi Coaches

I am posting in a rush - busy day and have been up for a while. Yesterday was difficult. I decided to work at home because suddenly Bonnie was really not good at all - rang up and moved appointments. Took her to the vet twice and now unfortunately Bonnie is no longer with us. It was difficult. I didn't sleep well. She had been a loyal friend to my father

I didn't get as much done as I should and today and tomorrow are full on so I need to get organised for classes. Last night I was rummaging in my handbag and found the OTHER three pack of chocolate - I had forgotten that I bought two because they were on SALE. Anyway I took them to bed and comforted myself - can't believe it. Still under calories for the day because I didn't eat a lot but ...

I have read all the posts (can't believe I had to go back a page to cut and paste my check-list) and it is inspiring to see the progress and to bear witness for each other - will catch up with personals when I can

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - Yes
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - No (three bars at once is not once!)
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - Yes
- Food on-plan - No
- Ate seated every time - Yes
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - 70%
- Weighed myself - Yes - down 0.2 again
- Exercise - no

Working on - :running:
Posting regularly and staying away from chocolate

Have a good day Beckies

08-10-2010, 07:09 PM
Cheryl, WOW, I am so sorry you had to deal with that--so sad to lose our fur babies. Maybe there was a reason you had to deal with that while your family was away, as hard as it was for you it may have been the best scenario.

08-10-2010, 11:03 PM
I know many of you will laugh, but it's been close to 90 and humid as heck. Suppose to get a thunderstorm tonight/tomorrow.. I think August comes around so that you're ready for the cool off of fall.

Had my annual doctor appt. today. My blood pressure was good, my thyroid was down and actually will be decreasing my dose, and I told her about my
TOM and how crabby I get every month (perfect timing) and she said "well, you know, you really don't have to have that every month." So, for the sanity of my household (and me too), I'm going to give it a go - 91 day cycle.

Day went pretty on plan. I didn't have a plan after my afternoon snack, but I stayed within my calories (I think). Hubby made hamberger gravy and mashed potatoes. I had a big salad and then a small plate with lots of cooked veggies. -- I didn't know how to measure the hamberger gravy, so I just didn't do it, but guess-timated. I know, bad.:nono: Oh well, some times I like to be bad. :D

Headed on the road again tomorrow. Planning to bring lots to drink. Not stopping for donuts - maybe the fruit stand. Will have a good breakfast. Lunch is to be provided, so that will be interesting. Dinner I should be able to navigate. Will also bring grapes and an apple -maybe some carrots too.

"See" ya all later! Have a great Wednesday!


08-11-2010, 12:05 AM
OMG, MorganleFay, LOL!!! What a great way to *ask *for *my *book *back....especially when I know it is not being read!!!!!!!!!! I will *remember that *southern inflection when needed. Not sure I can deliver it properly with this *Fargo accent of mine, but I will definitely give it my best shot.

That said, it is no laughing matter, and some of my long-standing, dear Beckie friends know the truth..a dear, dear person totally lost in the oblivion of over-eating....I have given her The Zone, the Omega Zone, Overcoming the Female Fat Cell, You on a Diet, ... I forget the others...You can lead a horse to water...

AmberPR...I have another basement full of water...quite the summer! That said, it is still *summer. Looking forward to tomorrow night..and especially to
Thursday night for the Perseid Meteor Showers..hope for clear skies!

08-11-2010, 12:31 AM
Good Evening,

A lot of great stories from everyone. Thanks for the entertainment. (Sorry for those of you in pain.)

Kudos to me:
I am on plan and have been for quite a while (credit).
Exercise planned
Exercise unplanned
Read ARC's
Read chapter in book.

I am TRYING to avoid getting a glass of wine, it was not on my plan (but, I did mean to put it there) and I don't have enough calories left for it in my daily limit. I am hoping posting will help me forget about the lovely tasty red stuff I want to drink :) Just ONE glass. Haha. I will report in tomorrow on if I accomplished this. Tomorrows plan will definitely include wine!

Hope everyone is doing well, it is one day closer to Friday for all the Friday wishers (me included.)

08-11-2010, 05:47 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Made my excursion to get blueberries by choosing to walk (CREDIT moi for the walk) to a far away store that doesn't give samples instead of Whole Foods or Trader Joe's where the FREE samples call my name (CREDIT moi for that choice). Added cauliflower, Romaine Lettuce, and cukes to the 4 pints of blueberries. Felt like an advertisement for Whole Food Eating, LOL.

maryblu - You got me; no way to buy a book twice. Can't beat MorganleFay's sweet southern way of asking for it back. When you Fargoize sweet Southern, would you mind posting it on YouTube? I smell a big hit.

Shepherdess - Oh Yes, Spaghetti Squash is the greatest. What a gift from the gods.

Beverlyjoy - Congrats on conquering the staph; Big Ouch for having to deal with the rash. Sending supportive thoughts as you seek you way through a Job like abundance of body issues.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Sending my condolences on your loss of Bonnie with supportive thoughts for dealing with your loss and telling your family. Ouch for chocolate "on SALE" - there oughta be a law.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for 12 hours of sleep - obviously your body had a message for you. With Kudos for stopping a disaster before it happened.

Donna (new2me2) - Yay for a loving friend and new tastes; Ouch for a regular source of baked stuff - however gluten free it is. Kudos for recovery from the unplanned.

Houston2Command - Congrats to a horse and Congrats on inches gone. Ouch for having to deal with stress.

Amber (AmberPr) - Yay for the plan to stop at a fruit stand instead of donuts. Thinking that I'm better off not knowing what "hamburger gravy" means.

Mikkijoe - Your menu has me drooling. Gotta try that eggs over rainbow chard. Then Patty Pan Squash with basil butter. Then homemade blueberry ice cream with fruit as celebration food. Good stuff. Happy Birthday to your DD; May you both survive year 14.

Alma (Alma4343) - Kudos for recognizing that you have a choice with the glass of wine.

synger - Kudos for using "Oh, well!" in the way that Beck uses it - instead of the way a lot of us sometimes us it to mean "Oh D*rn, I ate too much." Hope you get your desire to get out camping.

MorganleFay - hmmmm ... I suspect that HRH has figured out that life is good just the way it is and that this growing up business is ultimately the pits. Advanced thinker you have on your hands - which will lead to its own set of challenges later. Just a thought for you to ponder in the middle of the night, LOL.

newbebop - LOL at, "There are time when I think to myself 'this is silly.' " Yep, that was my first reaction. And I still have to push myself to give myself credit - as if I were three years old. But it works; there's something to this Cognitive Therapy stuff.

Marci (madrikh) - Kudos for going right into "really battling emotional eating" - just seeing that is a big start. As you make your Beck strategies part of yourself, it'll be easier to let the "little rebellions" slide away as no longer needed.

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

Identify the Problem

Once you've defined the problem, be sure to identify the negative thoughts running through your mind. Then use the Seven Question Technique to respond to your negative thoughts. Think about the following that you learned on Day 27 (pages 199-203):
1. What kind of thinking error could I be making? (See Day 26 on pages 195-198 for help.)
2. What evidence is there that this thought might not be true or might not be completely true?
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 232.

08-11-2010, 08:20 AM
I managed a very nice walk last night and am a little sore for it this morning. ;-) but the good kind of sore, the kind that reminds you these sore muscles are the ones you have NOT been using. It is both good and bad that my treadmill has been broken for a while now. The good is I love walking outside much better, but the trouble is finding the time when the little man is supervised and the heat index is reasonable. This week I have also been fighting rain. The terrain makes for a good workout, there are some very steep hills along the way (and I don't usually do that on my treadmill since the incline is manual and you have to get off to raise it.) Last night when I was still a mile from home and good and winded getting ready to climb another big hill, I thought this would be about where I would bargain with my self and cut an indoor walk short. lol can't do that when you still have get home. ;-)

Today is a busy running all over kind of day. Eating a good breakfast before I head out and planning a healthy hearty dinner for when I return. Today is my Beck planned hunger experience day. yikes!

08-11-2010, 10:25 AM
Home safe. We enjoyed our vacation! My eating choices got worse as the trip went on, accompanied by the sabotaging thought "I don't care -- I'm on vacation!" Not as bad, though, as it would have been in the past. And I did a lot of compensating by skipping snacks and walking every chance I got.

WI: -0.1kg (new low), Exercise: +50 595/1800 minutes for August, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

BillBlueEyes: I'm so impressed and happy that you did a Tandem Jump. That is so cool!

Welcome newbebop and madrikh!

seadwaters: so sorry for your loss of Bonnie, especially with her ties to your father.

08-11-2010, 11:10 AM
Celebrated my birthday last night by going out to dinner. Ate over my calories, but in a semi-planned way. Ate under my carbs, even with the extra calories. Drank too much.

Had a lovely lobster tail dinner, with Caesar salad and grilled zucchini. Ate "three bites of bliss" of chocolate mousse for dessert, and was satisfied. In fact, it was almost too sweet!

Got my leave approved, so I WILL be going camping this weekend. Yeah!!

08-11-2010, 11:46 AM
Sorry, quick post this morning...the computer is excruiatingly slow today...they must be running a program in the background or something.

Yesterday was a great on-plan baked goods, lol. And, I was rewarded for that by getting back down to my newest recent lowest weight, lol.

Exercise was 50 minutes of Walk It Out. Today I'm in the mood for some kickboxing, so I think I'll pop in one of my videos.

Cheryl, I was so sorry to read about Bonnie!!! I'm so sorry!

Synger, Happy Belated Birthday!

08-11-2010, 12:58 PM
I am posting early today because I am so excited about my 2.2 lb weight loss! :carrot:

It only took 6 weeks to hit the 5 lb mark. I have now officially lost 7 lbs. And, I did end up resisting the glass of wine last night. Amazing ;)

Not much more it is still very early on the West coast

new2me: Good luck with the kickboxing and the newest lowest weight ;)

Synger: Happy Birthday! And, have fun on your camping trip.

newbebop: I love that feeling of sore muscles because you did the right thing. Almost makes you enjoy the pain.

Gardnerjoy: I have the same issue on vacation. I am really working on the "I will care later" phrase which I love. I am on a weekend trip with friends this weekend. So, I am going to see how it goes. But, hey, you did better than the pre Beck days so that is great!

BillBlueEyes: Credit for walking and credit for getting good stuff. You do sound like and ad for whole foods eating.

MaryBlu: I am thinking of your new found southern/fargo accent and laughing. Meteor shower will be wonderful

AmberPR: Sounds like a great trip to the doctor!

Seadwaters: So sorry to hear about Bonnie.

Morganlefey: I have a feeling that sleeping through the night must be your biggest wish these days. No one is more sleep deprived than a mother of an infant. good luck. Sending sleeping vibrations your way.

Houston2command: :cb: I thought another pound gone deserved a dancing banana. CongrAtUlaTioNS

madrikh: Congratulations on your 2 lbs and lot of exercise

Have a great day everyone!

08-11-2010, 04:32 PM
Hi all...

I'm sulking in my deep well of self-pity today:sumo:. First, I gained two pounds back (probably from the large dinner I had last night). Second, I'm bored to tears with this temp job-the only challenge I have is trying not to sleep in my cubicle! Third (and final), I'm either in "radio silence" or I don't have everything the employer's looking for in the positions I'm trying to get. It feels like I'm never going to get back into my field and certainly not at my level ever again! I just want to hit the spare change in my car and raid the vending machine in the break room! Grrr!:mad:

*sigh* I'm hoping this vent will make me feel better. I'm hosting a networking meeting tonight and need to be positive. LOL

08-11-2010, 04:34 PM
Hi Becksters:

We got back from our trip last night. On the way home we *spontaneously* made a stop at Golden Lake so I could get out of the car and take a dip in the lake. *CREDIT++*

Sheer joy. :D

The sun shining through the water made lime green highlights. Very odd, but pretty. The water was so warm. I'm so glad I am letting myself swim outside again. *credit*

I also hopped on the scale this morning. *credit*

I've decided to simplify my life. I have to get back to throwing things away and clearing out our rented townhouse. I have approx. 12 spaces to deal with in this place (give or take a few). I have a 6 month deadline (self-imposed). So I can spend 2 weeks/per space and if I just do that, my entire townhouse will be dealt with. I start today in the living room as I need to clear the floor area so we can hook up the Dance Dance Revolution dance mats to the wii so I can dance my a*s off...and I mean that literally:dancer:

I'm going to clean based on flylady suggestions of just setting a timer for 15 min and going for it. 15min x 14 days = 3.5 potentialI][/] hours of cleaning just by doing that.

I am looking to see myself be consistent and stay on task with this cleaning business and these are the same skills I need for the losing weight business. Day after day, week after week, month after month. Stay focused and keep moving toward the goal.

It is a very worthy goal, the cleared out house, which means we could move out of here much lighter, and not to mention the thinner more fit me who could just simply move around and actually be and feel lighter. Moving and :carrot: [I]moving. Keeping my eye on the prize from here on in. I am newly committed Becksters. Thanks for supporting me.:hug:

08-11-2010, 05:44 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

A good planned day, so far. I've made healthy choices; offered and split a veggie omelet w/Mom at I usually eat myself. Cruised the grocery stores without even thinking of things that don't belong in my basket. Put my bike on the rack this AM and rode home from town even though I didn't feel like it...6+m. *credit* for all.

That said, I am trying to start to accept that I am coming into a period of my life that is going to have lots of ups and downs and on a regular basis. I know I have to learn not to eat over emotions. I have come a long way, and I know I have a long way to go. Yesterday, something came up with my Mom which was EXTREMELY painful and is a continuation of her unacceptable behavior which I have lived with my entire life. I keep thinking this will change, and on her 89th BD I think I had better start to accept that it probably will not.

So....keeping that all in mind, I sat down with my Beck notebook before finishing my post today. Started at Week 4..."Now it's time to anticipate and plan for the harder times, when you will inevitably feel a sense of unfairness, deprivation, disappointment, or discouragement." I read and reviewed thinking mistakes; "Emotional eating is not okay. I need to tolerate my distress or solve a problem." I read and reviewed the seven question technique. I read and reviewed Day 33, Soothe Your Emotions Without Food and reminded my self that I can learn I don't need to eat just because I'm feeling upset. I read and reviewed Day 34 Do Problem Solving.
I felt comfort reading Day 36, Believe in Yourself. The Believe It Chart is printed out and all these pages are bookmarked with yarn.

Thanks, all, for hearing me out.

BillBlueEyes, *credit* for walks to far away stores who don't give samples.
Alma4343, *credit* for resisting the wine. I'm curious, did posting about it help in your decision? Congrats! on your weight loss!
Donna (new2me2), *credit* for no baked goods and Congrats! on getting back down to your newest recent lowest weight!
Synger, Happy Birthday! What a nice way to celebrate by focusing on not totally going overboard with the celebration! *credit*
gardenerjoy, Welcome home and *credit* "....Not as bad, though, as it would have been in the past" is a good thing. I have started looking at the effects of some small decisions over the long run. " It would make a difference in the long run if I didn't TOTALLY blow it every time I went on vacation."
newbebop, I hope your hunger experiment went well. *credit* for walking outside and being persistant.
maryblu, you could always tell your friend she can have it back any is hard for me seeing other people struggle.
AmberPr, *credit* for picking fruit stands, especially after having a good breakfast....great news that you are having medications decreased.
Cheryl (seadwaters), sending supportive thoughts your way. :hug:

Ok, off to print out my "Believe It Chart" and head to a friend's house. I will say no choice to unplanned eating while I'm there.

Thanks for posting, everyone!

08-11-2010, 11:40 PM
Hello Everyone,

Had a pretty good trip today. Was humid and rained off and on -- did get home in time for dinner, so I feel less beat. Food selections were o.k. had an egg salad sandwich at the event and did bring along and eat my banana and apple for snacks. I'm fairly pleased with the days eating since I couldn't really plan much of it, but still made fair choices. Picked up some "peaches and cream" corn from the farm on the way home and had some for dinner. Wasn't too bad, but they were a little inconsistent in ripeness, color and kernel size - odd.

My weight was down a couple pounds this a.m. - that water weight I put on last week is coming off - gotta like that.

--------------------------:cheer2: Credits---------------------------------

Weighed myself: 202 - much better!
Heading out to walk this evening
Made good food choices
Brought home donuts for the family and I didn't have one

Maryblu: Yuck, sorry about your basement! Thanks for reminding me about the Meteor Showers. Do you know what time they are suppose to start?

Alma: Congratulations on 7 lbs!

BillBE: Really??? You've never had Hamburger gravy? Well Sir, you are missing out on a Midwest delicacy. Hamburger gravy is just that. You serve it over mashed potatoes, noodles, rice or toast. Add your veggies and it's an instant hearty (usually winter) meal-- really sticks to your ribs!

Let's see if I can remember this correctly - It's been almost 20 years. I was nineteen, living in Switzerland with my relatives. The one thing I wanted to do before I left was go parasailing. Toward the end of the snow season we visited Chatuex Deux (I think that was the place) and a friend and myself signed up. We took one of those enclosed ski lifts to the top of the mountain and then walked to the jump off spot with our guides. They hooked us to them, gave us a few instructions and off we went. I'm pretty sure we pretty much "took a flying leap" (meaning we ran and jumped) off the side of the mountain. We landed in a snowy field. It was pretty cool. I would do it again.

Newbebop: Hope your hunger day goes well! Good for you for fitting in some walking time for yourself! It gets easier.

Gardenerjoy: Glad you had a great vacation! You know, at least we are more mindful of our bad choices and we can view them as choices. I think that is another kind of progress.

Synger: Happy Birthday to you:gift:!
Have a great camping trip.
New2me2: Congrats on being back to your low. :belly:

Morgan: Hope your day is going better. Sometimes you just have to be open to new possibilitiesÖ like a new connection at your networking meeting! Good luck.

Onebyone: Sounds like a very doable goal! I think that could even count as exercise!

Lexxiss: I don't know anyone who is as willing to work the program as you are. It shows every time you post and I can feel your strength in your commitment. You go girl!

08-12-2010, 05:29 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I don't tire repeating this - like a guess in the board game, Clue: dinner, on the patio, with gazpacho; CREDIT moi. Harvested tons of tomatoes from our public garden; they're now coming in like the cukes did a few weeks ago. Did gym; CREDIT moi.

onebyone - Oh Yes, Kudos for a spontaneous dip in Golden Lake. Just love that when an artist goes swimming they see "lime green highlights," LOL. Neat plan for your clutter. If you post your progress, perhaps I'll join you a bit; I so need it.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Kudos for fighting the Sabotaging Thought, "I don't care -- I'm on vacation!" And Congrats for reaching a new low while doing so.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Ouch for the reality of facing an "ups and downs" period of your life, with Monster Kudos for realizing that your 89 year old mother is not likely to change. Sending supportive thoughts for you to find a way to deal with her painful behavior.

Donna (new2me2) - Trying to visualize, "I'm in the mood for some kickboxing" - standing back a bit, LOL.

Amber (AmberPr) - OK, I guess I've had hamburger gravy - just have never heard it called that. Your parasailing in Switzerland story is intriguing; now that's been added to my bucket list. With the landing in a snowfield.

Alma (Alma4343) - Congrats for a kilogram gone from the scales. With Kudos for posting about that glass of wine and them declining.

synger - Yay for getting the leave for camping this weekend. Your lobster tail dinner sounds delish.

MorganleFay - Venting is good. Kudos for networking - more people I know seem to find exciting jobs that way.

newbebop - Hope your planned hunger exercise went well. I also love when my muscles signal that I've actually used them.

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

Identify the Problem

Once you've defined the problem, be sure to identify the negative thoughts running through your mind. Then use the Seven Question Technique to respond to your negative thoughts. Think about the following that you learned on Day 27 (pages 199-203):
. . .
3. Is there an alternative explanation or another way of viewing this?
4. What is the most realistic outcome of this situation?
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 232.

08-12-2010, 09:37 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

As I read posts this AM, I found that somehow I missed onebyone and MorganleFay. Oh, well! I must admit I'm only semi-computer literate. I stuck with my plan yesterday, which included turning down ice cream, twice. I reviewed my "Believe It Chart" this AM. Throw away leftover or tempting food is so not me, but I have frozen the rest of the OP cake...just a small piece and I don't need it today. After posting, I'll simplify the rest of the refrigerator, too.

onebyone, I'm glad to hear from you! Many credits and I'm glad you're feeling newly committed. If you started a declutter thread I'd join's how I found you Becksters in the first place. That said, I do find that my cleaning up my eating is easier when I am cleaning up my surrounding environment, too. It is about simplification, I think. I've tossed a few things lately that just don't need to take up space here anymore.

MorganleFay, I hope today is feeling better for you. I think one of the most helpful things for me has been to let go of the emotional entanglement with the scale. Don't get me wrong, I think it is important to recognize the significance of a large dinner on long term weight loss. Taking the information and moving on is much easier on the heart, especially since you are feeling job stresses, too. *credit* for posting and for knowing you needed to get positive for your networking meeting.

AmberPr, *credit* for bringing home donuts and not having any. I am not that strong.

BillBlueEyes, if I were closer, I would love to try your version of gazpacho. I have never acquired a taste but must admit I've never tried. I just think it is wonderful when we find healthy and satisfying foods that keep us interested in our food plan. I sense you have found that in

Have a good day, ya'll!

08-12-2010, 10:26 AM
I met my next mini-goal -- weighing what my driver's license says I weigh!

I harvested my first tomatoes yesterday! I ate one bite standing up in the kitchen, still warm from the sun. So good.

We have contractors about to arrive to look at bathroom remodeling projects. I need to do some cleaning!

WI: -0.5kg (new low), Exercise: +0 595/1800 minutes for August, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

08-12-2010, 11:57 AM
Good morning Beckies! The computer seems to be moving much better today, lol.

Another good on-plan day yesterday, although I WAS desiring chocolate more than normal. :dizzy: Fortunately I had written in a piece of chocolate for my day, so I had it.

My kickboxing mood held until I got home so I did one of my shorter fun DVDs, TurboJam. It's 20 minutes, but a nice good workout in that 20 minutes. Later I did 30 minutes of Walk it Out.

My weight is still down this morning...hoping I can keep it there until tomorrow's WW weigh in.

I have a little note posted by my workstation that says "Give Yourself Credit" of our secretaries noticed it yesterday and really thought that was a great idea. :)

Alma4343 HOORAY for 2.2 pounds gone!!!! And, more credit for resisting the wine!

MorganleFay So sorry to hear about the job situation...I mostly like mind, but it does indeed get boring at times, and it has nothing to do with how busy I am, lol. They won't let me sleep here! Bah! LOL! :D Seriously though, sure hope you find that right one who will be the perfect fit. Put down the spare change and back away!!! :)

onebyone FUN!! A dip in a lake sounds very fun and a nice spontaneous thing to do! :) Yay for scale hoping! :) You've reminded me about the flylady approach and I think I need to adopt that for myself!

Lexxiss Yay for going through the grocery store without thinking of things that don't belong in your basket!!! Major credit for rereading relevant chapters in the book! Turning down ice cream twice? Amazing!!! :D

AmberPr Major credit for being pleased with your day!!! Yay for getting rid of water weight...hate that stuff, lol!

BillBlueEyes LOL on standing back! Yes, I actually LOVE to kickbox, but sometimes lack the stamina. I took Karate for 4 years, and got to brown belt level, but then dropped completely out. Kickboxing gives me the best of that little world without the drama that can come with a sensei (teacher). :)

gardenerjoy Yay on reaching mini goals!!!! :)

08-12-2010, 12:19 PM
Hello Beckbuddys

Life here is good...for the most part. I have allowed myself to postpone some serious planning for our camping trip till the last minute. But I am aware of the stress I caused myself and I will not turn to food! I leave for camping in one week, and I am meal planning, shopping and cooking for everyone----which means about 60 people. Now I have done this for 4 years now, so I pretty much have it down, BUT I still have yet to make my grocery list. $1000 of groceries takes a little bit of silly of me to put this off!

The other thing I realized is that at my job I work twice as hard before AND after I get back from vacation, so actually is it a vacation from work? hmmm

Sounds like everyone is doing great for the most part, keep up the credits, give yourself a pat on the back, and take time to enjoy the life around you

08-12-2010, 01:47 PM
Congratulations, GardenerJoy! I am really excited for you.

08-12-2010, 04:30 PM
hey everyone. i'm going to be quick b/c of my shame.

have not worked out all week. got much work done at the office though.
have mostly eaten correctly and on plan.
ate dinner out last night. my first meal out in over 4 weeks. yikes. had a small salad w/ vinaigrette dressing, no croutons, no bread. ate seafood skewers with veggies and spaghetti squash.

i guess i'm retaining water b/c weight is up today or it could be the 4 drinks i had. yes 4 drinks. today I am tired and bleh from them. what was i thinking? well, to make matters worse I have a wine bar date w/ my friend tonight and a happy hour plus dinner tomorrow. my goal is to make every other drink a sparkling water and to watch what I eat.

i promise to get back on the workouts next week. i'm not falling off the wagon, just dangling my legs for a moment. ;) okay, i need a good yelling at me.

why the drinks? b/c my ex-husband drives me nuts!!!! he literally broke my front door last night. yay. cuckoo man. now I need a whole new front door and someone to put it in.
i promise i am not a drama queen. we are still in the I hate you phase. so awful. this too must pass.

i'm sure my new skinnier self is making him mad too. ;) just kidding.

08-12-2010, 06:01 PM
Again, thank you so much for the welcome. It may seem like a small thing, but I truly appreciate it!

Lexxiss: what is a "believe it" chart?

I am encouraged by reading as many of the posts as I can. It helps to know I'm not alone in this and I learn a lot too.

Well, even though I'm not to the "eating on plan" part of Beck, I thought I would try it just to see how I'd do. Wow! What a great thing to be able to say to myself "I'm not going to have that because it's not on my plan, maybe I'll have it tomorrow". Feels freeing to me.

2.5 days of eating on plan
saying no to food not on my plan
exercising as planned
awareness of my "need" for food, when I'm not hungry
sitting down to eat most of the time

Today I was super rushed and had a smoothie prepared for breakfast. I grabbed it and headed out the door, drinking it in the car. I realized that I wasn't focused on my food, so I put the smoothie aside, drove to my destination and sat in the car to drink it. Not ideal, but an improvement over sucking it down while driving. Credit!
My in-laws are coming in to town today, which is major fuel for emotional eating. My plan is to read my Response Cards throughout the day and post here.
WI: 164.4 (Day 1 of TOM)


08-12-2010, 06:25 PM
So, I guess not much has happened in the past couple days because I am not thinking of anything to report ;)

Hope everyone is doing well

Exercise, spin class
At on plan
Spontaneous exercise: walked to a friends to pick stuff up instead of driving
Read ARC's

MorganleFey: Sorry about the boring job. Sometimes I think boring sounds so nice, but I know that truly I would not like it either. Hope the networking event went well

Onebyone: A spontaneous dip in the lake sounds so lovely. You motivated me to get to my closets and dresser drawers. I have been thinking, I will just wait until I am down a size then I can purge a whole lot more stuff. Well, I already have a huge garbaqe bag of clothes to give away. It will be easier to do when I am down a size. I still have quite a bit to go. But, on my way ;)

Lexxis: Good job and big credit on splitting the omelet. You have done so well. I think that posting here did help me not drink the wine, mostly because of the distraction which greatly reduced the craving. The other aspect was that I didn't want to have to tell everyone I had failed ;)

AmberPR: Congratulations on the weight going back down. I cannot wait to hit Onederland. Last time I hit 199, I quit being on plan and went back up! Not sure why that happened. I feel I am learning not to let this happen again. But, I am the true definition of yoyo dieter. I have gained and lost the same 15 lbs 5 times in 6 years! UUGGH

BillBlueeyes: Gazpacho on the patio sounds so nice. So do the tomatoes.
Is the public garden like a pea patch? I have never heard of that.

Garderjoy: Congratulations on getting to drivers license weight! It will be a while for me and I used a higher number on my most recent drivers license than I usually do. I usually put goal weight thinking maybe manifest destiny will occur. You are there!

New2me2: i previously did WW and really like the program. I use a lot of the principals in my calorie counting. So, why are those weigh ins so stressful? Good luck!

MikkiJoe: I cannot imagine buying all those groceries, planning and cooking all of that. Your family is so lucky you are doing it. I know what you mean about double work before and after vacation. Never thought of it as meaning, no vacation though. I will try not to think of that ;)

Future fit chick: Hello, I love reading your ARC's

Houston2command: Hey, you are at least posting. I am trying to really commit to posting. I am usually all or nothing. So, my goal is to post through good and bad. I think it says a lot that you are posting. Also, doesn't sound like you are eating too bad.

Madrikh: congratulations on recognizing that you weren't focused on food. I think the small realizations of behavior are a lot of what make this Beck process work.

Have a great weekend.

I think I FINALLY got my tracker. Will see when this posts ;)

08-12-2010, 07:52 PM
Quick hello to all...

AmberPR, tonight anytime after dark for the Perseid Meteor Showers..that is if you aren't in the monsoon path. Another round of torrential rain..I have lost track of how many times I have had water in my basement. Am thinking I should go into the bait business and raise minnows down there. Based on the forecast, I pulled up a lounge chair last night and got a great preview. It was the perfect night for star gazing. Just perfect, and there were some extraordinary shooting stars. It's clear right now, so still hopeful that I will get some good viewing.

Have to say it has been a great summer overall.

Am plunging into the green book...will highlight all the wisdom there..still missin' my *pink book..*mumble, mumble.

Headed out for dancing tonight to a GREAT band, and only 10 mi. away. New owner to a local pub, and man, has he got music connections. Have 3 nights of great bands/dancing ..and all venues within 10 miles. Life is good.

My big surprise last weekend was a bucket list, mind you, I have *nothing on my bucket list that even *resembles sky-diving. And it seems much of the *must do list for DBF and me is food! hmmmm....see a reason here for weight gain? He did outdo himself last weekend, though. He asked me to hold Aug. 6 for something ...a surprise. I got one guess per day and got it narrowed down to a male comedian, over 50. Well, there is only one comedian that I really, really would be excited to travel to Podunkville, South Dakota to see, and I didn't think he was touring. I could not all the way to the venue-- the couple with us distracted me so I missed the marquis...just as we were going around the block, I SAW it!!!


Gallagher. The great philosopher, Gallagher. I mean, "Everywhere you leak the world hangs a bucket." Now, *that is deep!!!

So, there I was in the 5th row, behind the plastic, thinking, never did I think I would be in the watermelon section for Gallagher. Great fun. He is not 30 years older, he is 30 yrs better. 2 and 1/2 hours and he just got funnier.

*sigh. Gallagher.

08-12-2010, 08:06 PM
seeing Gallagher would be awesome! what a great surprise from the BF!

08-12-2010, 08:23 PM
I run my marathon on Sunday. I'm totally excited and terrified all at the same time. I guess all of life's great experiences are that way. My running is cut way back this week so I can run on fresh legs on Sunday. It's in my plan, but I'm feeling pretty lazy. I'm still keeping active on my non-running days, but have to keep it light if I'm going to pull 26.2 off on Sun. The good news is that eating has been pretty easy since I cut my mileage back. It's funny how that extra mileage put my appetite into overdrive.

Just a few personals today.

Beverlyjoy, ouch for the rash and the staff. Hope you are feeling better soon.

Seedwaters, hugs for missing Bonnie. It's so hard to lose our four legged family members.

Gardenerjoy, congrats on another mini-goal. Your record of goals met is really impressive.

Lexxiss, kudos for finding some constructive ways to deal with all the personal turmoil.

BillBE, savor those dinners on the patio enjoying summer's fresh bounty. Summer doesn't last long enough!

Maryblu, Gallagher sounds like a blast. Enjoy the meteor shower.

Waving to everyone else!

08-12-2010, 10:04 PM
Hello everyone!!!

Quick check in to report that I actually stayed on plan for 3 nights in the hotel, meaning 4 days away from home. YAY YAY YAY.

I ate healthy, I avoided junk, and I messed up eating only once (it was a cinnamon bun and I did not react except to say oh well, carry on, no more of that.) I walked the treadmill at the hotel each night and took my arm weights and did those. I read my cards.

I cannot be happier about this. I am planning on a weekend of more of the same. Was not able to weigh at the hotel so tomorrow I am really hoping the scale moved a bit this week, we'll see.


08-12-2010, 11:16 PM
Hi Coaches

Have 3 days of working at home (Friday plus weekend) so no travelling and time to regroup. My other "fur babies" (thanks Mikkijoe) are adjusting to the loss of Bonnie. They didn't like having competition for my time but they seem to miss her.

Thursday was a bit off plan as was Wednesday - I didn't log food as I went as well because some of it was not planned or appropriate. When things get derailed they stay derailed until I get serious again. I am trying to get serious today.

I worked in Jakarta for a year or so and currently have a doctoral student from there. Wednesday was the start of Ramadan and I met with this student for an adviser meeting and had coffee and an unplanned cake! I found it fascinating during Ramadan while I was in Jakarta that people fasted all day for 31 days. They got up incredibly early to break their fast before work and didn't even take water during the day. Of course it never crossed my mind that I might fast as well - but organising food was interesting. I was on of the very few non-Muslims and the only non-Indonesian around. What a way to take a disciplined approach to food - and I found one day of "fasting" - of missing lunch - really difficult. I will have to remember Ramadan.

Alma (Alma4343) - Waiting as I read to see if you "avoided" getting a glass of wine... YAY you resisted it and lost lots of weight as well
AmberPr - Like your planning for travelling - it gives me ideas.
BeverlyJoy - I am so glad that the staph infection has cleared - and ouch for the allergic rash! Hope it clears up soon
BillBlueEyes - Your shopping list reads like healthy summer - and all those tomatoes. Not hard to be healthy with food like that. I have decided not to tell my sister about Bonnie until she comes back - hope it is the right choice
CeeJay - You are doing so well - it is great to read it. Have a successful weekend
Debbie (Lexxiss) - Thanks for you thoughts about Bonnie. I did enjoy looking after her and seeing her happy. Glad you got some quality rest. Thank you for your post of yesterday - it was useful to read about emotional eating and how to avoid it. Ouch for situations we can't change - sending supportive thoughts to help you accept what you need to and move on
Donna (new2me2) - great to have friends who can cook gluten free - a bit of a blessing if you can count it in to your plan
Futurefitchick - Waving - hope you are good
Gardenerjoy - Glad you had a good vacation and YAY for a new low even with what you call bad choices
Houston2Command - Great to see your progress, both inches and pounds. Ouch for difficult relationships that end with difficulty - as you say this will pass so hang in there. Consider that the group have given you the good yelling at you need and then supportive hugs to move on
Madrikh - Good response to mindless eating (well smoothie drinking). It starts with small steps
Mikkijoe - Good luck with planning and shopping for a monster camping trip - I am so impressed that you can cater for 60 people. And you are already anticipating how to manage your own eating which is great
MorganleFay - Sorry to hear your job is getting you down - hope it improves soon
Newbebop - You make a good case for walking on the street rather than the treadmill. I do a lot of that bargaining with myself on the stationary bike - not sure I could negotiate hills yet though
Onebyone - What a lovely post to read - Huge credit for going about in shorts and bathers just like a person has a right to do. It sounds like it was so freeing. And stopping on the way home to keep the fun going. It was a great vacation
Shepherdess - Glad you are enjoying being back home and on plan. I keep hearing about spaghetti squash but never find them in Australia. I will hound the people at the farmer's market to see if anyone will plant some. (My yard is not suitable). I am excited for you in the marathon and look forward to hearing about it
Synger - Glad you are getting to go camping this weekend - and Happy Birthday! Yay for controlled dessert eating

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - No
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - No
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - No
- Food on-plan - No
- Ate seated every time - Yes
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - 50%
- Weighed myself - Yes - up 1 pound
- Exercise - no

Working on - :running:
Getting serious

Have a good day Beckies

08-12-2010, 11:40 PM
Hello everyone,

Hope you had a great day!

Weighed in this a.m. and I was down again another pound, one more pound and I'll be back to where I was a week and a half ago - Crazy fluctuations.

Did pretty well today, one slip, but I was able to modify the rest of the day to compensate for it. Also a little short-tempered again. Makes me feel like an idiot when I let myself react to every dumb thing - must be like reacting to the cake on the plate….hmm...maybe I can "plan" my outbursts… 9 a.m., be ready for action!


BillBE: Yeah, I don't think I'm a gazpacho fan.. Although I've never tried it. I know I don't care for V8 and I guess that's what I figure it tastes like.

Lexxiss: It's funny how the freezer works. I've got muffins and cookie dough in there and I'm just not as tempted as when they are in the fridge or on the counter.

Gardenerjoy: Yeah for hitting a goal!! :flow1:

New2me2: Hope your weigh-in goes great!

Mikkijoe: No kidding, my work is still my work - I feel your pain. This year, when you make your plan, keep it. Then most of the planning will be done for next year.

FuturefitChick: Hello!

Houston: I hope it is making him mad! I see no reason not to enjoy that just a little bit. :club:

Madrikh: Way to stay mindful!

Alma: Yep. It sure is frustrating when the scale goes up, but I am feeling like I'm understanding more how to get it to go down with every new attempt. Seems like I need a new trick every 6 months or so and that just adds to my arsenal. We're gonna do it this time!

Maryblu: I'm going to go see what I can see after I post. Someone told me it wasn't going to start until about 1 a.m., but now I'm more hopeful.

Wow, that has to be a heck of a fun show. Being sprayed by watermelon is certainly bucket-list worthy!

Shepherdess: I can't imagine running 26 miles. That is amazing.

CeeJay: Way to Go! You've mastered the traveling trick!

Seadwaters: Ya know, I've heard the word "Ramadan" but I never really knew what it was.

08-13-2010, 07:08 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Was part of a group luncheon at a nice restaurant to celebrate completion of a year's activity. Ordered baked haddock over Mediterranean veggies, CREDIT moi, and skipped the decadent desserts being pushed. Who needs dessert after lunch? When I got back to my office, I had some raw carrots because I missed having my man salad with lunch. Yay for raw veggies. The tomato salad with dinner was the best of the year. Our yellow cherry tomatoes are sweeter than candy; Whooping Yay for summer plenty.

maryblu - Just WOW on you seeing Gallagher in person - behind the plastic no less. LMAO at "Everywhere you leak the world hangs a bucket." Now, *that is deep!!! That makes my day.

FutureFitChick - Waving back. Hope studies are going well.

CeeJay - Honking Kudos for getting it all right during a four day hotel trip: eating, weights, treadmill, and recovery for an evil cinnamon bun. "I cannot be happier about this" is well deserved.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for the first tomatoes. And Congrats on reaching your drivers license weight.

Shepherdess - It's exciting to think of you running a whole marathon on Sunday; will keep my fingers crossed all day for you. By the by, I'm not accepting references to summer being finite. Denial rules!

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Such an interesting situation being non-Muslin in Jakarta during Ramadan. My take is that it's pretty thoughtful of you to wait until your sister returns to tell her about Bonnie.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - LOL at not wishing to throw away tempting food; Yep, freezing is a great alternative. I bet if you drop by, my DW's gazpacho will make you a believer.

Donna (new2me2) - Can't be anything better than on-plan chocolate. What kind do you do?

Houston2Command - Your restaurant food is one fine order; Kudos. Wishing you the best for wrestling with the drinks, since they do contribute to poor choices. Sending supportive thoughts as you pass through the "I hate you phase" - so smart to think of it as a phase so you remain open to allowing yourself to feel calm in the future.

Amber (AmberPr) - Kudos for the rapid recovery from a slip. LOL at planning your outbursts. You need to post your plan so your colleagues can duck in advance.

Mikkijoe - "Life here is good" just makes my day - lovely thought. The thought of buying $1000 worth of groceries overwhelms me, even though I've bought millions of dollars of computers; that's a lot of groceries.

Alma (Alma4343) - LOL at the thought of nothing happening for a few days; BTDT. Yep, our community garden is the same as the Seattle-only name "P-Patch" (according to Wicki, where 'P' originally stood for Picardo - Yay for Wiki).

Marci (madrikh) - Kudos for being aware that you were about to drink your smoothie while driving; And Kudos again for responding to that. Do you do the same smoothie every day?

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

Identify the Problem

Once you've defined the problem, be sure to identify the negative thoughts running through your mind. Then use the Seven Question Technique to respond to your negative thoughts. Think about the following that you learned on Day 27 (pages 199-203):
. . .
5. What is the effect of my believing this negative thought, and what could be the effect of changing my thinking?
6. What would I tell my friend if she were in this situation and had this same kind of thought?
7. What should I do now?

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 232.

08-13-2010, 08:48 AM
quick post this morning. Stuck today now that I have reached day14/15. I have now realized on plan means specifically what you have written down to eat for the day, not just anything allowable by the eating plan you have chosen to follow. I don't even always know what I am making for family dinner till after 3pm or later. This part is a little intimidating and will take some work. It will be good for me and our busy schedules if I can get this idea put to action. Is everyone pretty specific in what they write as a plan, day by day. Are there times you can be more broad, say if eating out or at someones house?

Side note on the hunger experience. I think I could not eat all day if I was busy enough. I may not have taken enough pauses to sit and analyze how my body was feeling. But I know there were a few times when I said, how can I not be hungry when I based it on time since i ate last. I did notice the hunger when i stopped at the grocery store. (I know, what was I thinking) But this time it was conscious hunger and didn't effect the shopping, (thank goodness I was only in for a couple of things and not my big wandering trip.) I did notice though after eating my dinner. I "felt" like I was still hungry. I fought off the munchies pretty well, although I believe a late night apple was involved. ;-)

08-13-2010, 09:29 AM
Good Morning Coaches

Well I'm officially back in the game here.

credit: official weigh-in 275.4
credit: solidly maintaining a 10+lb loss
credit: made a decision to :mag: focus my effort on losing 10% of my weight only & changed my ticker to reflect this

I got a last minute appt with my dr. yesterday afternoon. I've grown a bump, the size of a dime, on my forehead above my left eyebrow, but hiddden by my bangs thank goodness ;). It's reddish and sometimes sore/itchy like when you scratch a mosquito bite too much. So he saw it and said "I'm going to need some help on this one." There are 3 dermatologists in our city of 1 million+. When I had my checkup I requested an appt with the dermatologist (pre-bump) so I have one on Feb 3, 2011. The dr. is going to try to pull a few strings to get me in to see someone else sooner if he can but I caught him pre-vacation so I'm not expecting to see anyone anytime soon. I may bug the dr. I have the appt with to let them know I'll take any cancellations they have.

He did say that the rapid growth of it does not indicate that it is a cancer so that's good. I, personally, do not feel it is a cancer either. It's some weird thing that is a physical manifestation of the extreme stress I've been under lately and especially that week when I got it. 4 physical things broke down and gave me grief that week. (I was organizing an art-in-the-park event for 60 artists on top of a mother with alzheimer's who had a bad week, a part-time job I was neglecting, plus suffering through the absolute worst selling season at the farmers' markets I sell my artwork at that I have ever had in 19 years of making and selling things, plus just still not knowing if/when or where we may be moving to which makes me procrastinate MORE about clearing out this place not less.) None of these factors have changed, except that the art event has come and gone. We learned that if we do it next year the word VOLUNTEER will be key for us.

So I went in and had my checkup and I got bloodwork done and this, Becksters, is the good part:cheer3: My bloodwork came back perfect. None of my fears manifested: no borderline diabetes, no high cholesterol, no kidney/liver/thyroid problems. Nothing. No heart trouble due to the stress test I did and the ECG I took. Nothing.

:woohoo:IT'S JUST MY WEIGHT.:woohoo:

This is such good news to me. I can do something about it. I need to bring the bp down and that means bringing the weight down. Bringing the weight down eases the stress on the joints and the organs of my body and that will relieve my other body symptoms. Losing weight=feeling better emotionally and so my stress level will drop. I even have fun way to start moving my body as DH got Dance Dance Revolution 1, 2 & 3 for the wii for his birthday from his DB. They have some really good songs to dance to. I need only clean the space by the tv, on the floor around it; get rid of the rug there, throw out boxes of magazines, sort/put away art stuff. That's it. But for today it has to wait as I have to take care of business for me by getting my artwork done for the Garlic Festival weekend I have ahead of me. I am working on 4 garlic themed paintings plus 2 more extra large canvases. Everything must be done by our opening tomorrow at 8am. No time for cleaning just yet. This is my second last art event with the last one over Labour Day weekend.

But that's another post.

Anyway, all that to say that inspite of stumping my Dr. with my new bump, I came away from that visit very hopeful. I just have to follow through with my plans. That's where youn guys and Dr. Beck come in.


TGIF Becksters. Have a good Friday.

08-13-2010, 11:14 AM
Wow! We're a busy group right now. Go us!

Credit to me for a mostly on-plan day even with a meal out and for getting back to exercise in spite of a bit of lethargy leftover from my trip.

WI: +0.3kg, Exercise: +70 665/1800 minutes for August, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

new2me2: Love your Give Yourself Credit post-it and that you're sharing Beck ideas with it!

Mikkijoe: yeah, I hate that aspect of vacation, that it puts so much stress on the days before and after. I hope yours is relaxing and rejuvenating enough to justify it.

FutureFitChick: Thanks! How are you doing?

Houston2Command: keep in mind that your restaurant meal probably had more sodium than you were used to and would contribute to a temporary gain. Hope you find your way to a healthy way of dealing with the alcohol. BTDT with the "I hate you phase" -- no fun at all there.

madrikh: yay for recognizing the liberation inherent in having a plan! That's a big deal for me.

Alma4343: yay for days seeming ordinary that include credits for exercising and staying on plan. Congrats on your tracker!

maryblu: sounds like a wonderful surprise and show!

Shepherdess: good luck with your marathon -- that is very exciting!

CeeJay: great job following your plan during your hotel time! Way to go!

seadwaters: thinking of you and your family (including the furry members) as you adjust to Bonnie's absence.

AmberPr: yay for another pound gone!

BillBlueEyes: great choices for the restaurant meal!

newbebop: good job with the hunger experiment! I planned my meals as Beck says for the first several months of this journey and it was very helpful. I was quite specific for most things. If I know I'm going to a restaurant, I check the menu on-line and choose my order ahead of time. For more spontaneous restaurant meals, I've pre-selected what I will order at our favorite restaurants and I simply swap out my written plan for lunch for the pre-selected meal at that restaurant. For things like potluck meals, I wrote on my plan "Eat lots of veggies. Take only small portions of everything else." It is a plan and I follow it!

onebyone: yay for the healthy bloodwork! Getting off bp medication has been the most motivating of my reasons to lose weight. I put a card on top of my pill case that says "I want to lose weight to get off my blood pressure medication." I remember that advantage first because I read it the most often. Hope the mysterious bump goes away as quickly as it came!

08-13-2010, 11:47 AM
Good morning all! Another on-plan day yesterday! I think my WW weigh in will be a good one today, lol.

Exercise was 45 minutes of WIO. Tonight I'm planning on an exercise DVD but haven't decided yet which one. I ordered a new set called looks tough but fun.

Mikkijoe :dizzy: WOW, $1000 of groceries! Wow, lol. I have a hard time just with what I get for me. I know what you mean about work and never fails that when I go on vacation, they try to work me to death the days before.

Houston2Command Nothing to cause shame that I have eaten mostly correctly and on plan, that's very good!!! Ouch on the drinks though, lol. That could cause water retention for sure! The exercise...that will fall into place too! But, Yikes on the front door! That's a bit scarey!

madrikh Wow, what a huge credit to stop drinking your smoothie and finish when you had time to enjoy it. That's amazing!

Alma4343 Nothing to report can be good too, lol! LOL, the WW weigh ins ARE stressful. We have a large group of women, and believe me, if we could draw the blinds, I think we might have some interesting weigh-ins, lol.

maryblu Wow, Gallagher! Even *I* know who he is, lol.

Shepherdess Good luck and strong muscles for your marathon!

CeeJay Yay and major credit for staying on plan in a hotel!!!

seadwaters Fasting for 31 days, all day?! Wow. I don't think I'll ever complain about missing a meal again, lol! The longest I've gone without food was for my major surgery in 2008...I had to fast for two days before, then couldn't eat after for 7 days. Now, that I'm thinking about that, I wasn't really as hungry as I thought I would be. The first two days before were actually the hardest...after that I don't remember feeling hunger.

AmberPr Yay on that scale moving downward!! LOL on planned outbursts!

BillBlueEyes I usually have Dove Dark Chocolate with Almonds, but someone brought me some Belgium chocolate (from Belgium, lol), so I've been having that instead.

newbebop The planning is still hard for me, even after all this time. I write it down, but still have problems sticking to that strictly.

onebyone YAY for being back in the game!! Congratulations on maintaining that 10 pound loss and for having a great checkup! WW focuses on small goals like that. Our first goal was only 5% of our body weight, the next one is another 5%. Hope they can determine what that bump is quickly!

gardenerjoy Ouch on the lethargy, but yay for a mostly on plan day!!

08-13-2010, 12:37 PM
hey everyone. thanks for all the great comments. I got lots of laughs and smiles from your comments.

Credit to the group for being such good coaches & supporters!!!

so day 2 of the crazy party week is now behind me. My friend and I both "fought" to see who would eat less of the chicken pizza we ordered. it was seriously the smallest pizza ever and I had 3 slices and she had 2 which left half the pizza uneaten and we both left it on the table. With no exaggeration, I would have easily eaten that whole pizza just 3 months ago in the privacy of my home. so crazy to think of that.

so although pizza and 3 drinks were not on plan, they are not part of my routine and my mindset is still in the "losing" game.

so happy hour with clients today to get through and tomorrow I have to be in class all day and packing a lunch may not be in the cards but I will strengthen my out to eat and still eat right muscle.

At this point, I'm actually excited to go back to the gym next week. I feel bleh!

good job to everyone just for being here and sticking with it! Have a fabulous weekend!

08-13-2010, 12:41 PM
Just popping in to say that you fast during the day during Ramadan but eat after nightfall. And pregnant women and children are exempt. I gather dates are a good food to break the fast with.

Not very Beckian here. When there's next to no time in the schedule things tend to slip. Not badly but they slip to a point where I definitely don't lose weight. And therein lies the problem.

08-13-2010, 03:32 PM
So I got on the scale today –not my official weigh in. BUT I have a 5 pound loss already. I am also keeping in mind that I went from a low cal, low fat diet with plenty of water into the Primal diet with plenty of water….so I am not considering that to be all water weight. I am counting it as ‘fat be gone!’ Daughter has lost at least 6 and DH at least 9!

But my official weigh will be this weekend. I may even have some additional water weight since I ripped my shoulder (torn ligaments and muscle) and I have some inflammation. But none the less. I am wearing my sling and it is helping a little with the pain. Hard not to use my right arm.

Super busy this weekend planning for our trip. We had a short night last night, we all got up at 2am and drove about half an hour to the bass of the pass over the cascades (in order to get away from city lights) to watch the sky show! It was fantastic. We got back home about 4am, and I went back to bed for a bit, then got up for work.

08-13-2010, 03:55 PM
Hi! I'm a fan of the Beck plan, too. I think it's the solution to my long battle with weight issues. It's hard to change one's mindset, but that doesn't mean I should give up! I'm looking forward to offering and receiving ideas and support on this forum. :)

08-13-2010, 04:18 PM
D'ya like my new term, Beckies? Beckian.

Listen to this, from my second most admired, listened-to, in-awe-of Fat Chick. (any guess on who my first might be???)

This is from Rockin' Robin:
"It's more than that I was ABLE to stick to my plan - it's that I was WILLING to. Of course we're all able to. We DO have the ability to, we are more than CAPABLE of it - but it is a choice. You have to be willing to. By saying that you are unable to - you take away the power. Don't ever forget that you DO have the control over this. No one forces you to eat that cake and drink that beer. You make a conscious effort to do so, and if you like, you can make a conscious effort to NOT do so. Your choice, your doing. You. You. You."

How Beckian is *that????

08-13-2010, 05:15 PM
Bill, I drink a smoothie for breakfast 3 or 4 times a week. I use it as a way to get in fresh produce, but because I have IBS I can't drink one daily. Today's was almond milk, banana, flax seed meal and a spoon of cocoa powder.


08-13-2010, 06:19 PM
maryblu! You and I are kindredly Beckian in coining this term (see my post above)!

If we have such great minds thinking alike, we should be able to buckle down. Just do it, in fact.

Beck on, brothers and sisters!

08-13-2010, 09:15 PM
It's been a good day! Food OP and exercise as scheduled, plus 60 minutes of spontaneous exercise this afternoon as I headed out for a bus and shop. I haven't done any reading today so will commit to sit down with "Nourishing Wisdom", by Marc David.

gardenerjoy, congrats! on your being in synch with your drivers license....and joining the "eating one tomato from the garden while standing up" club.
BillBlueEyes, Yay for tomatoes and knowing that dessert doesn't go with lunch. Tonight it's dinner-fresh from the garden!
Donna (new2me2), hope your weigh in was satisfactory!
Mikkijoe, congrats! on finding WL with your new food plan!
Houston2Command, I hope you are strengthening your muscle.
Marci (madrikh), I took the Believe It Chart from the workbook; Day 36. It reminds me that I have lost weight because I have done THESE things-and also reminds me what I need to work on.
Alma4343, Nice ticker! not much going on days are great times for me to plan.
maryblu, very Beckian! Yay Rockin Robin! Glad you enjoyed the light show.
Shepherdess, Best wishes for your marathon!
CeeJay, Great news!
Cheryl (seadwaters), I hope you're finding success in "getting serious".
AmberPr, great job not taking your fluxuations too personally. Glad it's coming down.
newbebop, day14/15 is hard for me, too. I do find that I follow my plan much better when I just do it!
onebyone, thanks for sharing your good news! It was just that news that really got me motivated. I knew it wasn't going to last forever. Glad you've found a small space to clear.
silverbirch, best of wishes for your fasting.
AnneofGreenGables, :welcome2: This is a great coaching group!

Well, it's time to have dinner and read from my book. Take care everyone!

08-13-2010, 10:52 PM
Hello everyone,

Had an interesting day today. It started at about 1:30 this morning. I awoke to my dog (a shepherd, rottweiler, collie mix) growling and barking out of my 2nd story bedroom. I had left my window open to cool off the bedroom and she had smelt/see something out the window. Something more then a bunny or a deer. As I woke up from a deep sleep, I watched my dog leap out of my window - pushing out the screen as she went.

She seems to be fine. No limping, no blood. We think it was a bear.

Eating wasn't the best today. Not crazy, but not how it should be to lose weight. Need to go shopping and plan the weekend....

Catchup with ya all later! Good Night!

08-14-2010, 03:15 AM
Hi Coaches

Just to correct what I said yesterday - the fasting period for Ramadan is a lunar month which is 28 days - still a long time! And when I said fast all day I mean they can eat before dawn and after sunset. So vaguely like the hunger experiment for 28 days!

I seem to be struggling at the moment - even ate bread yesterday which is definitely not on-plan and today is not so on-plan either. When I get to this point finding a new diet often helps with the enthusiasm but the trouble is I need to reorganise foodstuffs to change plans which means the next week is a danger period as I have the sabotaging thought that it doesn't matter what I eat because I am starting a NEW diet soon. I need a severe talking to

AmberPr - Startling way to wake up! Just a little bear wandering past...
Debbie (Lexxiss) - Hope you got in some quality reading time - that book looks interesting. Yay for a good day
Donna (new2me2) - Good luck with your weigh in tomorrow
Gardenerjoy - Credit for your usual well planned day that includes exercise regardless of how you feel about it. That is the type of routine and commitment that I need.
Mikkijoe - Yay for the weight loss. I have been doing a more-or-less Primal diet. I actually ordered the book when Borders had an online sale so it should arrive next week. But it is clear enough to follow from the website. And it has good results for me - when I follow it of course. Hope your shoulder heals - the light show sounds spectacular and worth getting up for
Newbebop - A great realisation early on - that what you eat is what you planned to eat - only. Took me a long while to get that and understand why it was important
Onebyone - I am pleased for you that the results of your physical was so positive - and that working on your weight will solve any other issues. Hope you get into a dermatologist soon. Sending energy for the decluttering

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - No - but will!
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - No
- Limit junk food to once per day - No
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - No
- Food on-plan - No
- Ate seated every time - Yes
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - No
- Weighed myself - Yes
- Exercise - no

Working on - :running:
Eating on plan

Have a good day Beckies

08-14-2010, 07:13 AM
:welcome: AnneofGreenGables :welcome:

And, even though you've been on 3FC for nearly two and a half years now, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about Dr. Beck's books?

And how did you find the Beck Forum on 3FC?

08-14-2010, 07:20 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Apparently I'm a failure as a gardener. After declaring that the cukes were done - no more on the vines - DW went with me to the garden yesterday after dinner and picked 10 monster cukes. Ooooops. The little buggers hide well. Gazpacho's coming for a few days, LOL. Food and exercise were on-plan; CREDIT moi.

Beckian maryblu - "If we dump anti-freeze down the drains why are we surprised the poles are melting? Duh!".

onebyone - Congrats on the excellent results from your physical; that's so encouraging to know that you're healthy. Wishing you the best getting to see a dermatologist. I just assumed that I was dying when I had something growing on my forehead. My dermatologist laughed, sliced it off with a razor, and sent me off with a band aid. Hope sales pick up for you.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Congrats for confronting "lethargy" - trips do seem to require recovery time.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Ouch for your struggles, with Kudos for responding to them with a change in direction. Good luck with the transition to keep your mind from wandering into the it-doesn't-matter Sabotaging Thoughts. Neat to remember that observant Muslims do the Beck hunger experiment for 28 straight days during Ramadan.

Beckian silverbirch - Ouch for way too busy - hoping you find some relief soon.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for spontaneous exercise.

Donna (new2me2) - "TurboFire" sounds like a real workout - at least by its name. I join those who believe that dark chocolate is good for you.

Houston2Command - LOL at fighting to see who eats the less; now that's the kind of friend to dine with.

Amber (AmberPr) - Good grief! A dog jumping out of a second floor window - through the screen no less. Wonder what it would have done if it met up with the bear?

Mikkijoe - Congrats on your 5 pound loss. What a hoot to take a midnight ride out of the city to see the Perseid meteor showers.

newbebop - Interesting to observe that you can be busy enough that you could not eat all day. That happens often to my DW when she's working on her garden. And Yep, your eating plan has to have some general guidelines for restaurants and eating with friends. Beck, herself, allocates an extra 10% of calories for these occasions - I'm more generous for myself since I'm more worried about a BIG binge than overeating.

Marci (madrikh) - Getting your produce from morning smoothies sounds like a good strategy. Your recipe looks nutritious.

AnneofGreenGables - Yep, the Beck strategies work to change our mindset. Sounds like you're right on track already.

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

Identify the Problem

"What should I do now?" will help you solve the problem. Think of various solutions. Weigh the pros and cons of each. Pick one solution to try and see how it works, just like Dena, a dieter I counseled, did.
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 232.

08-14-2010, 08:49 AM
I am really enjoying reading here each day as part of my motivation. I have enjoyed the stories and can share the feeling from some of your struggles. I hope to post more directly next week now that I am getting more of the hang of this.

Yesterdays victory. I just let go and had some fun with my youngest son. I took him to the beach, which = swimsuit. Then instead of hiding in my chair he begged me to build a castle with him. So I sat right at the waters edge, at a crowded beach (in some very unflattering positions I am sure) in just my suit and built a huge sandcastle with my 6yo. Then with some resistance I also accepted his request for some catch and we stood in the water and tosses a ball for at least 20 minutes. and it was FUN!

My goal today is to "get over it" and sit down and write out my eating plan for the tomorrow.

08-14-2010, 08:59 AM
We leave this AM for Spearfish, SD and by this time tomorrow, I will be starting my marathon.

Eating was not so great yesterday. No plan. Not having a plan has been working pretty well lately because I have so many meals that I can just grab and not have to think about. That works fine when Iím out of the house and busy, but is a disaster when Iím working at home all day. Gotta remember that home-days need to be much more disciplined. . .

CeeJay, great job doing stellar at the hotel! Hereís to a weekend with more of the same.

Seadwaters, thanks for your thoughts on Ramadan. I love religious rituals regarding food (or religious rituals of any kind!). Itís a great reminder that what and how we eat is not a trivial matter. Itís always hard to deal with flagging enthusiasm for your diet. In the Green Book, Beck suggests keeping a memory box. You make a card for every diet victory and then review them when you lose motivation. It might help to look back over the past and see how well your diet has worked for you so far.

AmberPr, LOL at planning your outbursts! Great job getting back on track after a slip and making up for it later in the day. It should be a natural reaction, but itís so interesting that so many of us let one slip lead to another. Yikes for your dog leaping out the window to chase a bear. Glad sheís OK.

BillBE, it must be a sign of a significant change in mindset that you miss your ďman salad.Ē You didnít miss the decadent dessert, just the raw veggies. Thatís amazing. Love those hidden cukes. The vines that just keep giving.

Newbebop, there are times when planning exactly what you are going to eat is not possible and in those cases itís a good idea to just have some good rules to follow. Sticking rigidly to a plan can be so helpful. Iíve been rebelling against it lately, but should do more of it.

Onebyone, yay for getting back in the game! Focusing on 10% at a time sounds like a good strategy. They are manageable chunks and each 10% comes with significant health benefits. Itís great news about your bloodwork results. You donít need any more stress in your life!

Gardenerjoy, great job kicking that post-trip lethargy and getting that exercise ticker counting again!

New2me2, yay for a good WW weigh in and for all that hard work paying off!

Houston2Command, great job leaving pizza on the table and for having your head in ďthe losing game.Ē

SilverBirch, any thoughts on why dates are a good food to break a fast? Just wondering if it is practical or religiously significant. Youíre right that planning is key. Why is it so hard to do?

Mikkijo, congrats on 5 lbs gone and for taking your family with you! The light show sounds lovely! Ouch for torn ligaments. Hope they mend soon.

Welcome AnneofGreenGables! I love those movies. Changing our mindsets is never easy, but it helps to have good support. This is a great place for that.

Maryblu, I love that Beckian quote (and the new term you coined). I have to remember that when I slip up that it was conscious. No mysterious powers out there, just me and an unwillingness to stay OP.

Lexxiss, yay for a good day and for 60 min of spontaneous exercise.

08-14-2010, 09:26 AM
Off to walk with a friend and visit the Farmers Market! We're going early to beat the temps on yet another day of upper 90s, lower 100s.

WI: -0.25kg, Exercise: +105 770/1800 minutes for August, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Welcome AnneofGreenGables!

Hello to everyone else, including Beverlyjoy, who I saw on another thread had some renewed hope about her latest medical difficulties.

08-14-2010, 12:06 PM
After 3 nights of meteor showers, I find my behavior regarding shooting stars alot like my behavior about food..just one more. Was hard to bring myself in each night..I would say to myself, I'll stay out until I see just one more...hmmm...

Two nights in a row of GREAT dancing.. Thur. night was JIMMY THACKERY..CeeJay???? the tiny little town ~300 people..10 miles away. Course it in *lakes country, but still, *Jimmy Thackery. Last night was my favorite local band and they were characteristically awesome. Back to the other little town tonight for a street dance from 6P til 1ish. Yay for exercise that is joyous great fun.

I have been outdanced two nights in a row. The good news is one of the wimmen lives close and we bonded. She will be at alot of the events coming up, so I have someone to dance with. Turns out she works for my organization and even my division--we just hadn't weird, as nothing around here is all that *big. The other woman, the one last night, danced to 3 of the 4 sets *by *herself with *all out WILD abandon. Pretty much looked like something from Woodstock. We all marveled at her, and two of us wished we had burned as many calories as she must have.

Silverbirch, I was re-reading posts this morning and saw you had used the term "Beckian". I must have picked up on it and thought it worthy of us! Love the "Beck on", too. The way you play with the English language, you could be Gallagher says it.

AmberPR, even for northwoods Minnesoda, a dawg jumping out a second story window is pretty amazing stuff. Glad she is OK. Such an interesting mix..I love mutts, much prefer them.. wonder which part of her is the "jumper"????

shepherdess, will keep thinking of you in your marathon. You go, girl.

BillBE, interesting NPR discussion yesterday on the way interest groups use a tiny bit of science that backs up the point of view, tobacco, coal, big oil, etc..and spins is to created doubt about the prevailing science. One site recommended for straight talk on the science of global warming was Have not been there yet, but it was easy enough to remember. Not sure I wanna know, as some of the prevailing science is we are past the tipping point. *sigh.

Lo to all my Beck buddies/coaches.

08-14-2010, 04:40 PM
Beckies, a quick break from the sun and fun of gardening..back out shortly. Glad my Beck buddies are too tied up with weekend fun to post.

Just want to give a shout out to some favorite Beckies whom I miss: Annwonders, kuhljeanie, ChinaMaine, Bennyhannamama...I am sure I have missed some dear ones..

BillBE, only found one ingeniously hidden cucumber, but added to several others and have done my favorite brine with water, vinegar, a bit of sea salt, dill and garlic..those refrigerator pickles will last until Thanksgiving..make them from the season's last, and the crop is always abundant, so a great late fall treat.

08-14-2010, 04:52 PM
Maryblu wrote: "The way you play with the English language, you could be Gallagher says it."


You wouldn't say that if you heard my ac-cent!

Sorry to report I've been eating when standing up today. That way trouble lies. Tomorrow is, yes, another day.

08-14-2010, 08:31 PM
Hi Coaches

Well, I was surprised by how today went for me at the Garlic Festival. I had my best day so far this year today. I even sold a "mirror of positive affirmation" (I'll attach a jpg of one-it's one of the things I make) that I made in 2006! I had to keep my eyes and my demeanour very business-like when I saw that mirror finally meet its new owner.

Good things come to those who wait: buyer and seller alike;)

I was also surprised by our neighbour last night. We have a parking spot out front but we don't own a car. We rent ars every weekend so I can drive to the farmers' market to sell my artwork. This is usually a good financial bet - this year it's been not so good. But I digress. So the neighbour has a van for his family and a Harley for himself. We let him use our spot when we don't have a car. At least if he's in it we know who's there and can ask him to move. It's good for both of us. So last night, around 10pm, he came to the back fence and gave DH a plate of Lebanese food including my all-time favorite garlic dip. Yowsa! And get this I didn't have any until lunch today at the market. On the platter were two bbq kebabs each of chicken, beef and ground beef plus the garlic sauce, hummous and Lebanese samosas (not sure what they are really called). So, since it's garlic festival, I picked up a small braid of Red Russian garlic to give them in return. DH says he'll be bringing the plate back tonight and will pass the garlic along. So, while his oldest son (about 11 or so) is kind of a maniac, the parents seem okay. And they, as has been mentioned here already, are observing Ramadan. In fact my neighbours are almost all Muslim and there was a lot of bbq going on after the sun went down-and a lot of activity too.

So I ate decently today and it worked out so well my lunch is already planned for tomorrow. Is this sanity or what? Hello?

Oh and I almost forgot: I wore my bright orange SHORTS to the market today and nobody died. Amazing.

Okay I attached two things: a painting I made specifically for the Garlic Festival "Carpe Allium" (Latin for seize the garlic [a take on "carpe diem" of course]. Technically garlic is allium sativum but allium is the onion family it belongs to sooooo.... and a mirror of positive affirmation with a dragon on it. Caption reads: whoa. cool.

Enjoy your Saturday night everyone.

Billblueeyes I look forward to my dematologist's razor. This self-conciousness about the bump is really tiresome.

maryblu I'm going to get DH after he's done work at 10 and take him out to the park and we'll see if we can't see at least one meteor. maybe I'm too late but I have to try. So happy you found another kindred spirit to dance your a** off with!

shepherdess I'm thinking of you crossing the finish line at the marathon tomorrow. Can't wait to hear how it goes... :hug:

newbebop OMG I LOVED reading of your swim suit bravery! I just went through that as well and you know what? I am actually over it now. It's just so much more important for us to live our lives and do what we need to do to be happy than to worry about...what? We aren't supermodel thin? Someone might have a passing thought? Who cares?! So much more important to play with your boy in the sand! AWESOME.

wow need to go and finish some stuff before it's tomorrow already.
A big HELLO to everyone I missed... will get to full personals this week.

08-15-2010, 01:20 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

We got invited to a cabin in the mountains for a few days-pups included. I have food planned out as best as I'm able. My Cocker Spaniel had an incounter with a skunk tonight so my internet time has dwindled...he is bathed and smelling better. I'll be back Wednesday. Have a thoughtful week, everyone!

08-15-2010, 05:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Dinner. On the patio. With gazpacho. Credit moi. Discussed with DW that we were eating better than the King of Spain in the 1500's.

My triumph for the day happened while waiting at a car dealership with DS. It came to be an hour past my normal lunch time and I had spotted a box of "granola bars" sitting next to their coffee machine. Note those were FREE granola bars. Even just happened to pick one up and read that it had 190 calories. Then I remembered this thread discussing Ramadan and observant Muslims fasting for 28 consecutive days, year after year. Then I remembered that I had the year's best tomatoes waiting for me at home for my lunch. So I passed on the "granola bars;" CREDIT moi. . . . Boy, was that a good tomato sandwich for a late lunch - with real mayonnaise, on toasted whole grain bread.

maryblu - I haven't heard of Meteor Showers Anonymous - but you could always start the first one, LOL. Such joy to read of all your dancing. Good stuff on - thanks for the tip. You must have a spare fridge for storing refrigerator pickles until Thanksgiving.

onebyone - Bright Orange Kudos for wearing your shorts to the Garlic Festival. Yay for accepting you. Thanks for the pictures; your stuff is so neat

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for Farmers Markets for making it fun to shop for eating well. Kudos for 105 minutes of exercise.

Shepherdess - Sending supportive thoughts for your marathon run today in Spearfish, SD. Yep, they are "The vines that just keep giving." LOL.

silverbirch - Perhaps we could have accent fonts so we'd better visualize each other.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for a few days in the mountains for a break from your frenzied schedule. Ouch for the encounter with the skunk.

newbebop - Monster Kudos for enjoying life with your 6 year old and overcoming the Sabotaging Thoughts of "bathing suit" and "unflattering positions." And even more Kudos for the goal "to get over it" - what a day!

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

Identify the Problem

Tired from a full day of work and from all of her mom responsibilities, Dena would invariably flop on the couch and begin thinking of all the chores she still had to do. The thought, I'll never get everything done that I need to, led her to feeling anxious. To decrease her anxiety without eating, Dena used the Seven Questions Technique, as shown on the following page.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 232.

08-15-2010, 06:03 AM
Hi Coaches
I can't help but think that Shepherdess is probably preparing for her marathon as I write this - my thoughts are with her. I hope she really enjoys herself and achieves whatever goal she is following. It has been an intense preparation

Today was pretty well on plan - "tasted" somewhat more of the zucchini and turnip soup than I probably needed to when I salted it (I have discovered turnips and love them!). But I had a plan and stuck with it. I have prepared veggies for the working week and thought about what I will eat so all is not lost. By the end of the week my new book will have arrived and I can plan and shop and adjust my method. I am thinking of trying the Dukan Diet - which is something like what I have been doing (Primal) but a bit more structured (I need lots of structure).

BillBlueEyes - I seemed to have missed you yesterday and today we cross posted - I always mean to post earlier. Hope the monster cukes were good. Glad the Ramadan story inspired you to deal with hunger as a non-emergency. It is inspiring stuff
Debbie (Lexxiss) - Have a great few days in the cabin with the pups - sounds good
Gardenerjoy - Waving - hope you stayed cool
Maryblu - Sigh for the " sun and fun of gardening" - sounds good
Newbebop - Yay for a day at the beach in a costume doing what we all have a right to do and having FUN - I was so impressed
Onebyone - Yay for bright orange shorts to draw attention to a girl having a good time. Your mirror looks gorgeous
Shepherdess - Thinking of you during the marathon - can't wait for a report
SilverBirch - Eating standing up must be catching - and indeed that way lies trouble

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - Yes - just did or I would have had to say NO
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - Yes
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - No
- Food on-plan - Yes
- Ate seated every time - No
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - Yes
- Weighed myself - Yes - 213.6
- Exercise - no - but will do weights before bed

Working on - :running:
Sweeten up that plan - make it more appealing, make some food laws...(wish I new where the whole quote came from)

Have a good day Beckies

08-15-2010, 10:53 AM
Hi Everyone:

I was just reading an article in the Aug 2010 Psychology Today called "The New Quitter: Falling off the Wagon-Whether by Bakery Binge or Drug Bender-Doesn't Mean Total Defeat. In Fact, Relapse is the Best Teacher."

This is long but thought you might be interested. Many of the points in the article will sound very familiar to Beckians.

-relapsing is the rule, not the exception
-when it comes to major behavioural changes-anything from losing weight to quitting hard drugs-few people do it perfectly the first time. For most, it's a long and winding road.
-many people do eventually overcome their bad habits
-if handled the right way, a relapse can actually open the door to lasting success
-relapse is no longer seen as a catastrophe
-all-or-nothing perspective doesn't square with the facts
-the trick is to view an episode of backsliding as a chance to learn, an opportunity to develop better techniques for anticipating and avoiding or overcoming urges.
-black-and-white thinking can turn a minor lapse into a major one--it leads the quitter to conclude he just doesn't have the willpower to succeed
-backsliders should view lapses as errors rather than defeats. Instead of stewing in guilt, the quitter should think analytically about how it occurred, dissecting the circumstances. What was he feeling? What happened earlier that day? Who was around?
-a recovering addict can learn to identify the situations that are likely to push him into a relapse
-this mentality can help prevent the lapse from spiralling into a full-blown crisis
-one of the reasons relapses are so common is that temptations seem to emerge out of nowhere. In fact, many invisible pressures, psychological and circumstantial, may build gradually, then suddenly combine to push you over the edge
-one researcher found that the number-one predictor of lapses was emotional: the level of "negative affect" during the four to five hours leading up to the lapse. Anger, anxiety, depression, and upset are the most powerful potentiators, especially a bad mood that ramps up over a period of hours.
-identifying the factors behind a relapse is only the start; the crucial step is to make an explicit plan to counteract or avoid them
-the plan should be concrete
-cognitive tricks are another way to prevent relapse- "urge surfing"- learning to mentally detach yourself from the craving by monitoring the way your desire builds and then recedes
-another trick is cultivating a vivid memory of the past you are trying to leave behind. People with a stronger "past-harm appraisal"- an enduring painful memory of the damage done by their addictions-were less likely to relapse
-look for diversion, distracting yourself, escaping the situation or focusing on the consequences of giving in. Doing something is essential; people who use some kind of coping techniques in response to an urge are 25 times more likely to resit the temptation than those who just try to just gut it out
-develop meaningful life goals, which may have been forgotten or cast aside in the obsession of addiction. Quitters need to reconnect with parts of life that provide pleasure, enjoyment and meaning-so called"emotional future goals"
-the work of kicking an addiction may never be fully complete
-continued "booster shots" of treatment or reevaluation may be necessary months or even years after stopping

08-15-2010, 11:03 AM
And speaking of relapse....:lol:

After a string of many, many good days...Friday was not great and yesterday was just terrible. I am beginning to face the fact that my eating behaviour is based partly on my very bad lifelong habits, but also on a need to comfort myself in stressful, emotional situations. Yesterday it was all about that.

Today, I have to acknowledge that yesterday I was feeling overwhelmed and a bit out of control and I reacted by not dealing with my feelings, but instead stuffing my self with food (numbing? "if I have to deal with this *&%^ then I am going to eat", who cares, etc.). I am thinking of the Beck card that says something like: eating won't help this problem, overeating just leads to two problems.

So I have a plan for today and I am going to get right back to where I was at 2 days ago. I have 3 nights in the hotel this week and I am planning on repeating last weeks success.

Hope you all have a great week.


08-15-2010, 11:04 AM
Friends took us out to supper last night, unexpectedly. Mexican. I special-ordered a side of zucchini and yellow squash instead of rice and beans, then took one of the three enchiladas home. That felt about right. But I didn't weigh myself this morning because I feel bloated from the salt and from the water I drank all night trying to get rid of the over-salted feeling.

Today is my one-year anniversary of joining 3 Fat Chicks. As of yesterday, I weighed 189 pounds, meaning I lost 52 pounds in 52 weeks. I can't tell you how many times in my life I planned that, thinking that if I started today and lost at a modest rate of a pound a week, I would be 52 pounds lighter on this date next year. I didn't have that plan this time, because it never worked in the past. But, here I am, and it's great and I'm grateful.

I'm particularly grateful to BillBlueEyes and to all of you who participate here in our Beck group. Posting here and reading your posts have been a key to my success. Thank you!

maryblu: yay for falling stars and dancing!

silverbirch: hope you find a seat!

onebyone: cool that you got a plate full of ethnic food and saved it for your lunch. Sounds delicious. I love your Carpe Allium picture!

Lexxiss: have a wonderful and relaxing vacation -- you deserve it!

BillBlueEyes: what a great mini-observance of Ramadan that helped you truly appreciate a good tomato sandwich!

Shepherdess: thinking of you this weekend!

CeeJay: excellent points, thanks for sharing what you learned from that article. Some of those are getting to be second nature and some of them are still things I'm learning.

08-15-2010, 12:09 PM
Good Morning!

Last night, my right eyelid was red, greesy (weepy?) and was a little tender. I wanted to put something on it, so thought perhaps neosporin. I put some on both lids even though just the right was sore (but both were weepy.) This morning I awoke to my right eye lid being swollen and sore. I've put a warm compress on it and have done so again, this time with epsome salt. Yuck, I feel like the "elephant eye." I had an instance of emotional eating this morning because of it -- blah! At least it's the beginning of the day and I should be able to adjust myself for the remainder.

Yesterday was a busy day. Walks, visits and projects. Eating seems to be o.k., but I'm feeling guilty because I'm not writing everything down, everyday. I know I have breakfast down and I know how many calories are in my snacks. Lunches are usually similar. Dinner is usually meat and salad and another veg.
I know I would feel better if I made myself some recipe cards based on the diet - I would just feel more accountable.

So, New Goals:

Go through my past meals/snacks that I did write down and transfer them to cards so I have something to reference.
Create new cards when I have different meals.
Question for all of you: I picked up the latest Prevention magazine and they had an article on herbal remedies. One that was mentioned is called: rhodiola. Have any of you tried this or know of anyone who has? (It's not for weight-loss)

------- :cheer2: -------

Two walks in!
Ate lots of fresh fruit & veggies
Weighed myself
Considering my food choices and amounts
------- :write: -------

BillBE: Way to love them veggies! I've been getting donations of cherry tomatoes and cucumbers ( the garden variety really are much better then the store bought.)

Newbebop: Planning ahead of time has been the best trick for me. I think you'll find it works for you too. Summers are too short for us Midwesterners - I'm glad you're out enjoying the water!

Onebyone: Sounds like a really tough week. I'm glad your appt. went so well. We are always given the gloom about our weight and I know (having just had my appt.) how great it is to know that our bodies are still healthy and doing great. BTW- I love the look of the dragon - can see why she wanted it.

Gardenerjoy: Yeah for getting right back into the exercise after your trip and hitting the market early. I went to our little local market yesterday and got some Blue - Barb jam - sounded like an interesting mix.

:encore:Congratulations :encore:
on your one year anniversary
and to the changes you have made to your life!

New2me2: Good luck with the weigh in!

Houston: Neat way to measure progress - in pizza slices!

Silverbirch: Have a great day today!

Mikkijoe: Awesome! 5 lbs is great!

AnneGG: You can do it!

Maryblu: Yep, very Beckian, and timely for me. I keep promising myself I'll check for the meteors, but it's been cloudy before I go to sleep- sounds like you are getting a heck of a show not to mention the dance exercise. (I believe it's the shepherd in her that gives her the extra jumping oomph - I think of the police/attack dogs I guess)

Lexxiss: Tell us how you like "nourishing wisdom" I haven't heard of that one. Congratulations for staying on plan. Have a fun trip!

Seadwaters: I'm feeling myself slip too. I think I just need to make it easier for myself. I know when I eat all of my meals, on plan, I don't even feel like snacking.

Shepherdess: Go! Have a great run :running:

ceeJay: Thank you for the run down on the article which emphasizes the huge undertaking we are all pushing forward toward, our journey of change. Loved it! I'm so with you in the emotional eating. My week was just that - I do so good, and then a few slips. It sure is easier to get back on the wagon than it use to be though! :bike:

Catch ya all later!

08-15-2010, 12:58 PM
Thanks for posting that excerpt, Ceejay. I found this part particularly good:

"One of the reasons relapses are so common is that temptations seem to emerge out of nowhere. In fact, many invisible pressures, psychological and circumstantial, may build gradually, then suddenly combine to push you over the edge."

As you may have noticed, I've been posting for ages about how busy I am. Life with a business, a partner, a child and a parent in her 80s is full. Today I am doing nothing much, for the first time in I don't know how long. There's more room to reflect than I usually have. Luxury, really.

Psychological and circumstantial pressures. Yes, I am no stranger to these.

08-15-2010, 01:27 PM
CeeJay! Thanks for the review from Psychology Today. Every single line was so directly the equivalent of Beck. Every single point. I will highlight the one that I have always thought was the number one biggest problem for those of us who suffer along with the weight and are seemingly "unable" to lose it:

-black-and-white thinking can turn a minor lapse into a major one--it leads the quitter to conclude he just doesn't have the willpower to succeed

That all-or-nothing mentality is to me, the biggest reason we don't succeed. It is such a *trap,. Now, we could say failure to plan, etc..but much of that is a daily act, a behavior we need to execute. That all-or-nothing mentality is an attitude so maddeningly, deeply rooted in so many of us.

I think that is the reason Beck is adamant that we give ourselves credit, and I have to give my Beckies credit here..I see lots of that behavior going on.

I have to (grudgingly) admit, I am finding the green book very was meant to be that I would be "forced" into was on *sale...and I had given the pink book away!

Out to the garden..perfect, perfect gardening day...hope the sore muscles loosen up quickly..not sure if it is 3 nights in a row of dancing or the marathon gardening yesterday, but these old muscles are sore!

08-15-2010, 05:28 PM
Just a quick post today.

The weigh-in on Friday went very well...down 1 pound from last Friday.

Saturday was on plan. It was a rest day so no formal exercise, although did a little spontaneous exercise.

My company is really all about health these days, so on Friday we each were handed a little backpack bag thingy with a few health related of which was a jump rope. So, that was a little spontaneous exercise as I haven't tried jumping rope in years and just had to try it.

Had a nice 1 hour massage yesterday...heaven as usual.

Today I was determined to do some weights. I haven't been interested in them for a while now which is very strange since lifting weights has always been my preferred exercise over cardio. So, I picked my favorite weight DVD and popped it in. Great muscles are very nicely worked and feeling a bit wobbly even a few hours later, lol.

I've been trying to figure out how to make what I eat everyday just a bit more healthy, and still not aggrevate the gastroparesis. I opted for ground turkey instead of ground beef for my pseudo chili, lol. I'll try some of it later.

08-15-2010, 07:49 PM
Hi Everyone.
Well, this is no surprise, but when my in-laws are visiting I want to eat all the time!! I haven't, I think because I've been planning and sticking to it, for the most part.
This is still pretty new to me. I'm wondering, if I am struggling to learn the new lesson of the day (Beck: pink workbook), do I stay on that day until I get it, or do I move on? I'm assuming I keep going because she says to circle areas that are still a struggle.
Anyway, I have realized that I frequently (always?) take another bite before I have finished chewing and swallowing what's already in my mouth. And this is hard to stop!!

Planning and sticking to it
saying no to off-plan eating'
no emotional eating w/ in-laws in my home
sitting down to eat
focusing on my food (not reading, etc, while I eat)

We will be visiting the beach in a few days, so using Beck principles while not at home will be new and different. I think I'm up for the challenge.


08-16-2010, 05:23 AM
Hi Coaches

I left very early this morning so no time for posting. I had a plan - to buy a salad - but ended up at a different building with different food choices. My plan being thwarted meant that I threw it out the window and got a roll (horrible), then a spinach slice (also awful and with pastry which is not on any of my plans). I didn't finish the slice and was going to take the rest home to eat later - thankfully I threw it out.

The summary that CJ put up was really useful as a precis for the whole Beck approach. My all-or-nothing thinking at the moment isn't helpful and I am off plan big time. I am not responding well to change and can't adapt when things go wrong so everything goes out the window. I can't start the new plan I want to until I shop so I keep thinking - go on eat whatever you like. Somehow this new diet will miraculously make everything right. I love the "all-or-nothing perspective doesn't square with the facts". The fact is that I can maintain my current plan and then switch later but I want an excuse to "backslide" and eat what I want. Today I had the opportunity but didn't really enjoy any of my choices - so a waste really. If you are going to backslide - at least enjoy it!

My book on the Dukan diet arrived today so I will read it tonight and write shopping lists etc. At least that will keep me amused

BillBE - two check-ins in one "day". Hope those veggies are holding up. I am still really impressed with resisting FREE Granola bars even if inspired by Ramadan

CeeJay - thanks for the summary as it was really helpful. I have copied it to my iPhone to read occasionally when I am in relapse mode. Hope things went to plan today.

GardenerJoy - Happy birthday for one year! (can't do smilies except those I cut and paste - Firefox is playing up!) And what an achievement to achieve what you have always predicted or thought possible

AmberPr - Ouch for an eye problem - what a nuisance. Flexible to be able to adjust your plan to account for a lapse. Hope you managed to make your cards for your go-to meals. That has saved me on many an occasion

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - Yes and I copied CeeJay's summary to a "card" on my iPhone
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - Yes
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - No
- Food on-plan - No
- Ate seated every time - Yes
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - Yes
- Weighed myself - Yes - 212.8
- Exercise - no - didn't do weights as planned

Working on - :running:
Sweeten up that plan - make it more appealing, make some food laws...(wish I new where the whole quote came from)

Have a good day Beckies

08-16-2010, 07:26 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Fell into a bowl of peanuts. Again. My consistency here is unnerving. Hopefully, if I keep writing about it, I'll make the decision that open bowls of nut are 100% verboten. I did find the opportunity to give away the remainder so that this particular source won't cross my path again.

When riding my bike, CREDIT moi, I chose the left turn because there was less uphill to get where I was going. Then I spent the next ten minutes trying to figure out why my brain could possibly believe that there was less uphill between two points by taking a different path - doesn't compute. Finally figured out that the preferred path climbs up in zigzags so that I never see all of the uphill at once. There's a life lesson hidden in this somewhere.

maryblu - Yay for sore muscles, whether from dancing or gardening. Sore muscles are a good sign of living life. Sending condolences that you find the green book helpful after being "forced" onto it. Yep, it wouldn't have been on sale if the cosmos didn't mean for you to buy it; I'm a firm believer in that.

CeeJay - Thanks for "Relapse is the Best Teacher" - that's an encouraging thought right there. Good stuff with good phrases: "urge surfing," "past-harm appraisal," "emotional future goals."

Kudos for getting right back on board with a plan. It'd be a great success to repeat last weeks three days on the road.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Congrats on 52 down in 52 weeks - a stellar success at an admirable rate. With Kudos for "zucchini and yellow squash instead of rice and beans" - just one more little decision like the ones that got you where you are. And Thank You for the kind words.

Shepherdess - Waving toward Spearfish; hope the marathon went well.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - "zucchini and turnip soup" sounds really good; will be dropping by for dinner. Glad that "spinach slice" was awful to help snap you back onto your path. Good luck during this week of transition. It seems to me that by squarely facing up to what's happening in your head you're making it OK to respond rationally.

silverbirch - Oh yes, "Psychological and circumstantial pressures" of the sandwich generation - a bunch to deal with all at once.

Amber (AmberPr) - Ouch for this "elephant eye" nonsense - hope that clears up. Kudos for being able to see how your eating responded so that you can get a different response going. Can't help, I've never heard of rhodiola.

newbebop - The mind boggles at a company that distributes jump ropes to its employees. I hope you all did a massive, Chinese-like, group exercise to show your loyalty, LOL. Congrats on one more pound gone.

Marci (madrikh) - In-laws are a convenient way to stir up emotions to get to face your desires for emotional eating - good luck working out your strategies to respond to those. My take is that you pass your checklist for a day and then move on. Many of the new strategies will take a long time before you feel that you've mastered them.

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

You Can't Solve Every Problem

You also need to be realistic. There are some things that may be beyond your control. Your partner could have an alcohol problem. You could have a serious health condition. You're likely to be very upset. What can you do?

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 233.

08-16-2010, 09:01 AM
Great morning! today was weigh in day for me. -3 for the week! ;-) I know it is about more than the numbers but when you get to see numbers like that it is very nice. :carrot: I also managed a good walk outside this morning. It has been my intention that if I get up early I can get a walk in before any of the kids even wake up. (their dad is still home with them, just sleeping) But the intention rarely makes it into action. The difference today...not turning on the computer first. ;-)

The weather has finally lightened up a bit and things are not so humid and miserable. I am enjoying it while I can. spent an hour and a half in the garden this weekend and am going to have to find more squash recipes. ;-)

I have written down all of my food for today and left a big "no choice" post it on the top. We will see how it goes. I was looking at the example in the book, and mine is deffinatly more vague, I didn't write down specific measurements of my food choices, but for starters I am just glad to have written one. A nice plus? Since I had to decide what I was having for dinner, I now have meat already pulled from the freezer and a plan in my head so family dinner will not be a last minute frenzy as usual. This could turn into a VERY good thing!

ceejay- Thanks for posting that bit on relapse. I have taken several bits and written them in my journal.

seadwaters- Best of luck on your new diet choice. A little switching it up may be just what you need.

billblueeyes- Well done on passing up the free granola bars! I must say that tomato sandwich sounds like it was worth the wait. in both flavor and personal victory. I also sat and savored a veggie sandwich straight from the garden this weekend. nothing like it! and I think you are on to something, that there surely is deeper meaning to learning that we think it is easier when we aren't seeing all of the uphill at once. ;-)

oneboyne- The garlic fest sounds like fun. I use to do the art fair circuit with my mother and always thought it was funny how every small town has their own food product they like to celebrate. And Kudos to you for having the strength and control to hold of on the neighbors gift of dip. It sounds delish.

matyblu- Boy do I wish we lived closer! I love to dance. I rarely get the chance to get out and let lose on a dance floor.

shepherdess- looking forward to hearing about the marathon. I am thinking of biting the bulled and setting a goal of signing up for a fall 5K. I have never done one but always wanted to.

mandrikh- sorry to hear about the emotional power of the in-laws. I am fairly new to this too. Do you like the workbook? I just have the hard cover pink book. some days I will read just one at a time, others I will group if I can complete the task or thoughts together. Then I may skip reading (at least further ahead) for a day to make sure I am really putting it to action before I move too far ahead.

gardenerjoy- just have to say 52lbs in 52 weeks. amazing! well done.

08-16-2010, 11:39 AM
Good morning all!

Not much to report...I have very sore muscles from yesterday's workout already, so by the end of the day I will probably be nearly unable to walk, lol. My goal is to get up every hour or so and walk around some part of the building, without drawing attention to myself in an attempt to kept somewhat limber, lol. We have three quadrants I can walk around, so I should think no one will notice much if I alternate them. :D

I am up a pound today, but I'm pretty sure that's the muscles trying to hold on to whatever water they can find, lol. That should go away in a day or so.

madrikh If you move on in the workbook, you could write those areas that you are struggling with in your journal, or if not keeping one, write them on 3x5 cards so you can remind yourself that they need work. And, re the taking another bite before finishing with one...I have done that too...not so much lately though, but I think that's something I'll have to watch for for a long time to come. {{sigh, lol}} Great job for realizing all that!!!

seadwaters Wow, credit for throwing out that slice! I still do have trouble with that!

BillBlueEyes Ouch on the peanuts. Great job on removing the temptation!

[B]newbebop[B] YAY!!! Congratulations on your 3lb loss!!! The computer is a HUGE time waster for me and I'm trying to do something about it, but it sure is HARD!

08-16-2010, 03:26 PM
Hello Beckies,

Well my weekend away with friends was so much fun. Unfortunately, I did TERRIBLE in the food/drink department for 2 of the days. I did get back on track on Sunday and I am looking forward to being on track all this week.

I went with a crew I knew were eaters and drinkers. For my next trip, I am going to work out some "rules" to follow so I don't just go nuts. Luckily, It is a while before I have a multiple day outing with friends. I am OK on a night out or a day out, just seems that I give in on multiple day trips. So, something to work on. I was doing so good and my weight on Friday and I was even down again (even though I don't count that weigh in). Now, I am really nervous about stepping on the scale on Wednesday. I really don't think the food was worth the anxiety I am feeling now.

It was a beautiful time at the Oregon coast though. The sunsets were incredible and the weather was great. I am looking forward to reading all of your posts later tonight and getting on track. Plan, Plan, Plan


Did have one on plan vacation day
Fell off but back on

Have a great day,

08-16-2010, 05:07 PM
Hello everyone,

Thanks for all the well wishes last week. My networking event did go over well and I was constantly reminded that "this too shall pass" and I will be back in the HR saddle again. This past Sunday's sermon was directed towards me yet again when the minister talked about not living for tomorrow, but making today the kingdom of heaven.

I haven't lost weight recently, but I haven't gained weight either. I find myself still munching while cooking dinner or getting lunches prepared for the next day. It's not too terrible, but that extra slice of swiss cheese is just me using my "giving in" muscle. I identified last night what I think just before I eat off-plan. It's "I'm so tired and I don't have the energy to care about my diet right now. It's only a little bit and it's healthy food anyway." I'll have to come up with some sort of response card for that. Have any of you ever found yourself saying that and what do you do to stop it? I'm just trying to compensate by putting in an "cushion" of a couple hundred calories every day but I know I shouldn't do it at all.

Alma4343: good for you for getting back to your diet. I fall off all the time. A good mantra a friend told me was "no food tastes as good as being thin feels". Maybe that will help you when you're out with friends. Maybe...there is another in your crew that is secretly struggling like you and would be grateful to have someone else there to help them resist!

new2me2: try an epson salt bath's good for sore muscles.

BillBlueEyes: I absolutely LOVE your take on things "fell into a bowl of peanuts!" You make me smile whenever I read your posts! Look on the bright least peanuts have "good fat" in them and it wasn't a bowl of fried doughnuts!

maryblu: Hold on to that green book with white knuckles! Don't go giving that away like the pink one! Next time your friend wants to borrow your diet book (you know, the one who "borrowed" your last book), just tell her she can come over to your place to read the book! LOL

08-16-2010, 06:21 PM
So much for not eating standing up/while preparing food. Dropped an olive on the floor but practically caught it on the first the mouth it went. Style point for beating the dawg to it. I *was quick!

MorganleFay, I think just recognizing the sabotaging thought is *huge. I think many of us feel that sometimes the behavior is just trance-like and we even *say we don't have a thought or recognize it, but *of course we do.

I know you will come up with the right response to is way cool you have identified the thought that precedes the eating.

I know people who have trouble munching while cooking chew gum. Worth a try? As you may know, Beck herself plans and eats raw veggies while cooking..another way to get more veggies in..

Off to a political fund idea what the food will be...depends on the funds raised *last time, I suppose!

08-16-2010, 08:03 PM
Quick and late today. We had the nephew for yardwork. Much weeding. Now I'd better do some yoga so that I can move tomorrow! Food was great. I made watermelon frozen yogurt from the yellow-fleshed watermelon that came in the CSA box -- very refreshing!

08-16-2010, 08:55 PM
Hey everybody!

Had a good on plan all day today, and then my daughter walked in with Chinese left-overs from her trip to the Big City (we don't have a Chinese restaurant locally)-- I melted and ate some (gasp) standing upÖ when will I ever learn?

I did start to make some recipe cards with my main meals written down. I think I'll work on that tonight too.

More Bear news: It was on our deck last night trying to get the bird seed out of a trunk. He ended up dragging a bag of garbage into the woods. Our neighbor down the road saw the bear - he said it was the biggest bear he's ever seen - must be 400 pounds he said. He said his dog ran him off his property too... Hope he says scared of dogs.

------- :cheer: -------
Two walks in
Lots of fruits and veggies
Mostly on plan
Started my vitamin D supplements

08-17-2010, 06:06 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Dinner. On the patio. With tomato sauce made from our garden tomatoes. CREDIT moi. Had to jump up from dinner to run to the garden as the days are getting shorter and shorter. Since when did the days start getting so short in August? Must be Global Warming.

At gym - CREDIT moi - there were handouts of individual boxes of Kashi GO LEAN Crisp! Toasted Berry Crumble cereal (190 calories, 9 grams protein in the 1.8 oz [51 gram] box ). Good stuff for breakfast, but excellent stuff for servicing my FREE food thing. I take the box with the same smug satisfaction as I get from samples from Whole Foods, but it becomes a welcome item in my plan for the day instead of an unplanned addition.

maryblu - Oh yes, style point for beating the dawg to an errant olive. Can't say that I'll ever advance to a stage where I won't scarf an item I'm saving from rolling away.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for "watermelon frozen yogurt" - sounds yummy.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Hope your reading on the Dukan diet is going well.

Donna (new2me2) - Good walking plan there. Don't mind me, but I'd spend my walking time looking for the missing fourth quadrant. It's gotta be there somewhere.

Amber (AmberPr) - Yay for daughters. Ouch for Chinese left-overs. And Kudos for "Lots of fruits and veggies."

Alma (Alma4343) - Yay for sunsets over the ocean. We don't get those in Boston, LOL. But drop by some day and I'll show you sunrise over the ocean. Kudos for getting right back onto your plan and working on that multiple day thing with friends.

MorganleFay - Thanks for "this too shall pass" - I do need that from time to time and oft forget about it. Super work identifying your Sabotaging Thoughts just before going off plan so that it's possible to design your own response card. I share your experience that I'm diverted by a somewhat minor pain/irritation until I've spotted it and named it. Something like, I've got enough energy to love myself.

newbebop - Congrats on the reaffirming scale reading, and Kudos for knowing that "It is about more than the numbers." And another Kudos for pulling off the meal plan with meat defrosting in advance!

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

You Can't Solve Every Problem

First, you should feel bad about these kinds of things. You wouldn't be human if you weren't upset. If you're drawing an unrealistic conclusion about these real-life problems, however, you might be able to respond to your negative thinking. For example, you might have the thought, Because of this problem, I'm going to have a miserable life. The Seven Questions Technique might be useful in this circumstance.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 233.

08-17-2010, 08:59 AM
As you know, I pop in and read but don't post. (I'm still feeling very guilty about not getting deeply into the Beck book.)

Today's quote really hit me as yesterday was a "debilitating" day but I'm now feeling much better. The Beck book is now back on my reading table.

Thanks Bill and the Becksters! (Sounds like a singing group.)

08-17-2010, 09:12 AM
Ok so the writing things down ahead of time did not kill me. And it was SO nice to not have to think in the late afternoon, "omg what will I cook for dinner." I ran into a few snags, since I had not written down ANY snacks. oops. I also made sure any and all adjustments were noted and in a different color than the original list. To help me when I look back at it. I am sure I will get better at it when I have had more practice.

Today I will fill in my planner/calendar and schedule some exercise in pen! maybe it will get done if it is in there instead of a thought and intention in my head.

credit claimed for eating sitting down, eating slowly, experimenting with new flavors, and being here. (thanks for letting me be a part of this supporting community.)

new2me- love your plan to stay limber by walking throughout out the day. I love feeling the effects of a good workout, but hate it when one seemingly puts me out of commission for the day.

Alma4343- For a two day vacation there is some credit for getting back on track and acknowledging that your "plan" did not go as planned. You will now be better prepared for the next time.

morganlefay- not gaining and maintaining is still worth being noted. It is frustrating when we get to that point, or have those days out of nowhere, and really get to thinking this is more work than it is worth. It may be time to go over your AR cards and ask yourself at each one, "do I have the strength to fight for this one?" For some renewed energy and motivation have you thought of switching focus from your "diet" and food choices to a new activity or exercise? (still following a food plan of course) a fun class like yoga or kickboxing, or even a new workout dvd that you commit to might be just what you need to pull you from your slump.

maryblu- lol on your quick reflexes. Yes "style points" should count for something.

gardenerjoy- that frozen yogurt sounds yummy and refreshing.

amberpr- I hope that bear stays afraid of dogs too. yikes.

billblueeyes- I hear you on the shorter days. After dinner had been the only time cool enough lately to head out to work an something outdoors, but now the time is limited. (I even tried to send kids to bed the other night because it was dark and I thought it was later than it was.) Today's cooler temps are another quiet reminder that soon this season will turn to another. I am hoping for a nice long beautiful Fall.

08-17-2010, 11:05 AM
The yoga helped and I'm feeling pretty good today. Although, I think I will count yesterday as a strength training day and stick to aerobics for today.

Dealing with some ambiguous goals and, occasionally, ambivalent behavior. I stated that I wanted to slow down my weight loss in order to reduce hunger and crankiness and increase energy. I added two fruits to the plan and that hasn't really done the trick.

So, there's lots of conflicting thoughts going on.

A part of me says "eat more, sweetie!" and promotes the kind of behavior that kept me overweight. I want to lose weight more slowly, but in a controlled way not by going back to old habits.

Another part is saying "Are you NUTS?!!!! This is working! Keep doing it! Do it more! Just think how fast you could get to your goal if you keep this up! Or past your goal!" Silencing that crazy, exclamation-pointed, voice is another argument for slowing down the weight loss. But, for now, it seems to be keeping me from making the plan that would really slow down the weight loss.

So, I think I'll try yet another new plan (my fourth) since that seems to keep me amused and engaged in this process. I've now learned that low-fat exchange plans are most natural to me. (One of the reasons I'm losing weight so quickly right now is that I lowered my carbs, but after years of low-fat indoctrination, I didn't increase my fat and protein servings enough to compensate). That's not really the trendy diet right now, so it seems the only person really pushing it is Richard Simmons. I'll order his Food Mover today.

Okay, that was long. But I was working out what I wanted to do as I wrote it, so thanks for listening to my brain work!

WI: -0.9kg (new low), Exercise: +60 960/1800 minutes for August, Food: 100%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

newbebop: yay that planning didn't kill you! That's actually been a large part of this journey, realizing that lots of things are easier than the first appear if I just try them a few times and tweak things and make them work for me. And, after awhile, here comes the pay off of dropped weight!
I frequently plan my exercise on the calendar, too.

Ruthxxx: great to see you! Thanks for highlighting that quote. A reminder that I haven't actually ever finished the pink book, either. I probably should get back to it...

BillBlueEyes: yay for free food that can be worked into the plan!

AmberPr: wow -- loving the continuing bear saga. Good job with the recipe cards.

08-17-2010, 11:21 AM
while misery loves company, i'm afraid the fact that a few of us are struggling is of no comfort. i wish we could all just high five our tremendous accomplishments and voila!

I too have not done well. the drinking was not good for sticking to my plan. it's not even that I eat badly when drinking. it's that the next day, i don't cook, pack meals and feel like snacking. i just ignore it. then it gets worse and ... then my face hits the proverbial pavement while the wagon pulls away.

So with my good Beck company, I"m back on track as of last night. meals prepped. Will get back to the gym today.

I need to figure out my "trigger" for why I don't go to the gym and why it dominoes from one day to seven.

I know I cannot drink anymore. It just doesn't work for me outside of a single glass of wine. So I think that's what I need to stick with for now. No drinking in general.

My other problem is stress and work overload. So many projects need done but to balance single mom, work and gym while cooking, cleaning and tons of other crazy house issues is at times overwhelming. All this while smiling and wearing high heels!

Okay sorry to sound like a complainer, if I do. Just trying to work these things out on paper because I really want this to be permanent. I don't want to be overweight forever and don't want to bounce back ever again. I want to cognitively change.

Hope everyone is having a strong willed, Beckian day. :)

08-17-2010, 11:21 AM
Hey guys! ive been invited to join by BillieBlue, i hope thats ok!
Im currently just starting the Beck diet solution, and am working on 4 key things:
Reading my advantages/response cards
giving myslef credit (hard!)
im technically on day 4, but im giong to skip a few days, only because ive already got a food plan/prepared my home/looking for a diet buddy/developed exercise, etc.

Im giving myself time however, to try and instill the sitting down to eat thing. i am SUCH A GRAZER. In her book, judith mentioned if we were to take all the food we grazed on and lay it out on the table, wed be AMAZED by how much it is!
i believe it
anyway, hoping to find support and accountability here

08-17-2010, 11:35 AM
I am going to dub Mondays as the GF baking frenzy day! :D Not one but BOTH of my gluten-free co-workers baked cupcakes and brought them yesterday. I didn't know they BOTH did (and they didn't know they both did, lol), so when the first brought hers, I enjoyed it with a cup of coffee. When she walked past to go back to her desk, she brought one that the other lady baked. :dizzy: So, new plan for Mondays. I will only SAMPLE what someone brings in. If no other goodies appear, I may or may not enjoy the rest. If BOTH bring in, I will sample a little of each and discretely throw the rest away. :D That's my plan.

I had to throw away one of the Belgium chocolates...there were three left. I ate two, and the inner voice was saying...there's only one more, just eat it. So, in the trash it went. Wish I'd done that after the first one. Oh well. Lesson learned. Fortunately they were not large.

My muscles were quite sore by the end of the day, but the walking helped to keep them from getting too sore, and fortunately I had a project that kept me walking up and down the stairs or down the hall to one or the the other color printer.

Someone mentioned the all or nothing thinking...that really hasn't been a big problem for me in quite some time, but in the last two days it's really come back with a vengence. It just reinforces that I will always have to be is just too easy to slip backwards for me.

I did one hour of Walk it Out. Today I'm in the mood for step aerobics, so I will plan for that.

Alma4343 Yay, major credit for "looking forward to being on track all this week"! Again, I say YAY, lol! And, "I really don't think the food was worth the anxiety I am feeling now." Yes, it is so very true isn't it?! Glad you had a good time!

MorganleFay I think I may try the epsom salt bath you suggested this evening...muscles are still sore today!

AmberPr Ouch on the standing/eating. Wow, yes indeed, I hope that bear stays scared of dogs!

BillBlueEyes LOL! Our fourth quandrant is leased out to a subtenant, so it's a no-go area for us. :)

Ruthxxx Glad you pop in once in a while! No need to feel guilty, but glad the book is back on your reading table.

newbebop Very nice list of credits!

gardenerjoy Glad the yoga helped. I have not seemed to "bond" with yoga, lol. I know it would be so beneficial for me, especially with the tight muscles in my neck from the arthritis, but I just can't seem to make myself do it. Perhaps I should try to find a beginner class so someone can show me the correct way...I have videos but it hurts when I do them so I think I must not have correct form.

Hope your new plan is the one!

08-17-2010, 01:34 PM
Hey guys, last day this week of work for me. Tomorrow starts vacation until next Tuesday! And tomorrow is shopping for 60 people for 3 days.......then coming home and organizing everything into individual meal ingredients, getting them packed into coolers and boxes and into the trailor to leave the next morning. WHEW!

Doing well with NO stand up eating, and NO eating without planned meals, for over a week now. We eat two meals a day and a snack of berries and coconut milk, and one square of 82% chocolate at night. This is working out great, so satisfied and not thinking about any other eating. I would say that I dont think I have ever been in this situation before, I have never allowed myself enough fat and protien to feel full and not having that nagging hunger that makes me forage like a bear.

Newbebop--if you need some squash recipes I would love to help you out. I remember a cartoon a long time ago. Showed an older man buting some zucchini at the grocery store. Caption said "Man who buy squash in summer is man with no friends"

onebyone--garlic festival sounds like so much fun, I cook with tons of it! I made garlic jelly this summer, yum

OHH shoot I wanted to get personals posted but work is calling loudly~

08-17-2010, 02:44 PM
Hey everyone,
Thanks for the ideas on moving on before I've reached perfection with each new Beck tool. I have obsessive issues, so can often feel like it's not good enough until it's perfect.

Yesterday/ credits:
ate on plan
exercised on plan
no emotional eating
read in my workbook

Newbebop: I do like the pink workbook; it's just right for me as my summer has been quite chaotic. I had read about 1/2 the green book before starting the workbook.

Tomorrow it's off to the beach and unknown food territory. I so don't want to gain any weight back. I will read my response!!


08-17-2010, 03:27 PM
Back from camping and having a hard time getting back into the swing of work! Getting up at 5:30 again for my long commute is a real pain after a weekend of going to bed fairly early, sleeping myself out, and waking up to bird song.

Planned lots of yummy lower-carb meals, and had no real problems with eating. Had my planned one pancake and planned beans with my hot dog, and everything else was low-carb. Enjoyed my square of dark chocolate as the kids made s'mores. Did a bit of swimming. My big achievement is that I was able to hike three miles... not the whole five miles around the lake, but more than half-way! And I am definitely getting stronger... I was able to do much more lugging and moving of stuff during both set-up and take-down than I have done before.

I had a great weekend!

08-17-2010, 05:58 PM
Howdy Becksters!

I did it...I was able to conquor the cravings last night! I wanted a spoonful of peanut butter so bad I could cry - but nope - I resisted!:carrot: I ended up drinking about three bottles of water flavored with crystal light, but it worked! I think maryblu's reminder that Judith Beck eats carrots while cooking really helped. Thanks!

I went down a pound this morning...I guess I just needed that extra "je ne sais quois" to get the scale moving.

No time for personals today...almost 5 and gotta run. I got caught up in a political debate online (REALLY boring day at work today) and realized I didn't post here yet. See you all tomorrow!

08-17-2010, 11:28 PM
Hello everyone -

Weather has cooled off to the high 50's in the a.m. Felt motivated to try some jogging! I didn't go too far, but I sure did get my heart rate up!

Felt like mixing it up a little today and tried cutting back on some of my calories. Had a protien shake for breakfast and one for dinner (sandwich for lunch). That worked o.k., but I ended up needing a snack tonight and since I hadn't planned it, I started to graze... Lesson? I need a snack after dinner if all I'm gonna have is a protein shake!

Fellow travelers, what works best for you to stay on track?
I hit the road tomorrow for two days. For my trip I'm gonna:

have a light breakfast, because...
pack a bag of healthy, munching snacks for the 2.5 hour drive
Have a salad w/protien for lunch
some nuts for an afternoon snack
Here's where I fall off the wagon. Dinner. Do you do another salad?Well, I'll check back before dinner tomorrow and see what you have for suggestions! :idea:

Have a good night,

08-17-2010, 11:55 PM
Jut a quick check in Beckies. I won't have my computer back until tomorrow and this is difficult on my phone.

I am on plan every second day it seems so need to get on track this weekend. I will shop for the new plan on Friday and get started.

Credits: I exercised yesterday and have increased incidental exercise, I weighed myself, and have tried to eat mindfully

Have a good day


08-18-2010, 07:10 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I am home from a very nice 2 1/2 days. Humans and doggies all got along great and food was very healthy and enjoyable. My task today is to integrate back into my routine. I read posts last night and will hopefully get back later.

Amber, safe travels. I find dinners to be quite easy on the road. I just look for a healthy protein then ask if they can do a little substituting. I don't eat white rice or potato and they will usually substitute extra veggie or salad.

08-18-2010, 07:22 AM
:welcome: mkroyer :welcome:

And, in case you didn't get one of these a year ago, :wel3fc:

How did you happen to find out about the books by Dr. Judith Beck?

And how did you happen to notice the Beck Forum here on 3FC?

08-18-2010, 07:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Super victory. At Fenway Park last night (American baseball, for those of the wicket mentality) I ate not a single kernel of kettle corn, nor of pop corn, nor a single peanut. CREDIT moi. In fact, nothing passed my lips during the whole game. And, the Red Sox won 6-0, perhaps suggesting that if I curtail recreational eating, my favorite team might make the playoffs, LOL. I'm dancing because the last time I went I OD'd on peanuts and the time before that I OD'd on kettle corn. Once I start eating from an open bag, my concept of a portion vanishes.

Exercise was a long walk to the subway after the game - in the cool evening air. Boston is a fun city at night. At 11pm cafe's are bustling with outdoor tables and many stores are open.

maryblu - Waving. Just play ball or don't play ball already. I shouldn't have to read the flight plan from Mississippi to Minnesota as sports news!

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Wishing you good luck finding the balance in your eating plan; don't have any easy answers to offer.

Ruth (Ruthxxx) - Ouch for a "debilitating" day - so glad you've recovered. Sending permission to read or not read Beck as is your want without guilt. Us "Becksters" aren't going away.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for eating mindfully. Hope your computer returns in good health.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Glad that you had a couple of days out of your routine.

Donna (new2me2) - LOL at your gluten free baking day - apparently GF baking is contagious. Kudos for tossing that Belgium chocolate.

Houston2Command - Kudos for "back on track as of last night" - the overload of a working, single mom is real. You're on the right track by grousing a bit with your Coaches/Buddies, and then heading right back, in Martha Stewart style, to cleaning your house in high heals, LOL.

Amber (AmberPr) - "high 50's" doesn't sound like summer to me. Kudos for continuing to tweak your eating plan. Re: "Do you do another salad?" Oh yes, I wish I'd get over my inhibitions and have salad for breakfast also.

Mikkijoe - Yay for "vacation until next Tuesday" - Monster Ouch for preparing food for 60 people for that time. ($1000 worth of groceries, you had written.) Kudos for finding the right eating plan that you can avoid "that nagging hunger that makes me forage like a bear" - bears are big on the Beck thread lately.

synger - Waking up to the sounds of birds - what a good life. Congrats on your improving physical stuff.

MorganleFay - Yep, no calories in "je ne sais quois" - Kudos for standing down that peanut butter craving.

newbebop - Kudos for "experimenting with new flavors" - it's one of my favorite notions that we don't give up foods on our new journeys, we adopt exciting new foods and the old one's just drop out of our lives.

Marci (madrikh) - Don't we all get stuck in that need to be perfect. Thanks for bringing that up.

mkroyer - Yep, it's OK to join right in. This "GRAZING" thing is a prime target to dislodge. It's a silent killer, all right. Kudos for recognizing it and challenging it face-to-face. Thanks for the Judith Beck image of laying all our grazing food out on the table. I need that image the next time I'm thinking of reaching into an open bag of kettle corn.

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

You Can't Solve Every Problem

Whether or not you've drawn unrealistic conclusions, though, make sure to seek support. You need to talk to other people. Ask them to listen. Tell them what they can do to help in practical ways. For example, they might have some idea of what you can do to make your life better, given these uncontrollable circumstances. If you find that you're still having a hard time dealing with your feelings, consider seeking help from a mental-health professional or spiritual adviser. Reach out.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 234.

08-18-2010, 09:57 AM
We're off to volunteer after missing a couple of weeks. The ragweed pollen count shot up a couple of days ago and I've been having a rough time of it since. Last night, it was difficult to sleep. Hopefully, I'll be tired enough to remedy that this evening. In the meantime, my mantra is "eating does not fix tired."

WI: +0.25kg, Exercise: +75 1035/1800 minutes for August, Food: 85%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

AmberPR: I often will do a second salad with protein for supper. My plan allows a few carbs, so I will sometimes do a side salad, a grilled chicken sandwich (usually leaving half the bread on the plate). If available, I would get a side of fruit or hot veggies with that. If neither of those are going to work, I just focus on ordering veggies, and will often leave behind half or more of the starch and half or less of the protein.

Welcome, mkroyer! I've noticed your posts in other areas of 3FC -- great to see you here.

Greetings to all!

08-18-2010, 10:10 AM
Hi Beckfolks - friends - Life has been so challenging. The ulcers on my tummy and thigh are finally responding to a new medicine. I have dealt with the stress, pain and uncertainty with food. I really need to crawl out of this mountain of food around me. I've had a healthy breakfast

Seems like all I could manage to do at 3fc these last couple of weeks is my daily gratitudes.

I will try again today. Tomorrow I'll see the derm. to get the results of the culture and new biopsy. Did I tell you that my derm. asked if I had been to a third world country when he looks at my skin. Yikes.

I have no idea of when I'll have my surgery. I don't know when I will be able to get back to work - this is stressful too.

I must carry on with food sanity the best I can.

lots of water
fork down between bites
clock myself - 30 seconds between bites - this should help me 'think' about it
eat sitting only
plan, log, measure, count calories
give credit
use resistance techniques

Have a good day, friends.

08-18-2010, 10:59 AM
quick check in this morning. I won the exercise battle and took my walk this morning. It was a true test of strengthening my resistance muscle for sure. I was almost in a full argument in my head on why I should/should not go out today. lol. I think I will try the walk in the other direction later this week. I really want to start the couch to 5k program but the hills the way I usually go would surely kill me if I was trying to run it. I really need to have the treadmill fixed or replaced. I started this once before, a year or so ago and made it a few weeks in before it somehow it just stopped happening. I have always secretly wanted to be a runner. I don't know if my body and my knees are up for the challenge, but I am in the right frame of mind so maybe I can convince them. ;-)

Getting ready for bed last night I realized I hadn't written out my plan for today, and I am taking big credit for sitting down at the table and writing it out before I went to bed. :carrot: I really want to make habits out of these new behaviors before I head back to school in 2 weeks. (I am a full time nursing student.) Early mornings and late nights and running kids the moments I am home will be a huge hurdle and I am trying to be as mentally prepared for it as I can.

Here's to a great day for all. Lets all give that resistance muscle a workout today.

08-18-2010, 11:32 AM
Good morning all!

Phew, yesterday was a MUCH better day, lol. No gluten-free baking in sight!! :D Stuck to my plan, and all was well.

I did change my exercise plan though...I was totally out of the mood for step by the time I got home, so I did Zumba instead. The step required too much set up, and Zumba was right there in front, requiring no set up, so that was the choice. Next time I wake in the mood for a specific type of exercise, I think I'll do most of the set up before I leave the house in the morning, that way when I get home all I have to do is change my clothes and go. I soooo wish I could have a room dedicated to a home gym, lol. Today's goal is to repeat the weight workout I did on muscles are still a little sore, but MUCH better than yesterday, so I should be fine.

Mikkijoe Hope your packing is going well and that you have a great vacation!

madrikh Good for you for planning in advance for what to do at the beach!! Reading your response cards is a great idea.

synger Oh YAY for your 3 mile hike!!! I've had plantar fasciitis and I remember when I was finally able to do a little more walking--it was a huge deal!

MorganleFay Wow great job on resisting the peanut butter! That's a hard one for me!! Congratulations on your 1 pound loss!

AmberPr Re traveling...I find it really hard to plan food while traveling because one never really knows ahead of time what will be available, so on my last cruise, I allowed myself some freedom in what I ate--at that time I wasn't on a "plan" yet (just eating a bit lower in carbs), but tried to keep to two basic rules...only eat when I am hungry and only eat enough to take the hunger away. Those two things I can do anywhere with any food.

seadwaters I don't even know how you can do this on your phone, lol! Major credit to you for even trying!! :D

Lexxiss Welcome back!

mkroyer Hi and welcome!! Glad you've joined us! :)

BillBlueEyes Wow, no peanuts at Fenway park...indeed a major credit!! And, isn't it so true that portion size seems to disappear when eating from the package or bag!!!

gardenerjoy Great mantra!!!

Beverlyjoy Wow, wonder what the derm thinks you might have picked up in a 3rd world country!?

newbebop Oooh, I've had that same argument in my head! I hate it, lol. Good for you for getting out and walking!

Hello to everyone else!

08-18-2010, 12:50 PM
Hello Beck Coaches,

Thanks for being here. The past few days have been sunny and hot in Seattle. Also, I had a cold. A COLD in August, who knew that was even possible. So, I missed workouts on Monday and Tuesday. Today, I am back on track and already went to do weights this morning. I DID however stick to my eating plan. I am happy to report today is my official weigh in day and I am down 1 lb. :D Being happy with slow weight loss is an interesting new concept for me. But, I think I am learning.

I am on day 27, Mastering the 7 question technique. I am a little stuck here, maybe I just don't want to do the work. But, I have not really been good at identifying my sabotoging thoughts either. The only one that really seems to come to mind is "I just don't care". So, I may need to work on this task for a couple of days. If anyone has suggestions, let me know


On plan
Read ARC's

new2me2: Congratulations on doing zumba, that is a major calorie burner. I would love a room dedicated to home gym too. I have weights, dvds, steps, bands and balls stashed in strategic places all over my house.

Beverlyjoy: I am sorry you are dealing with so many things and so much stress. However, you have accomplished some major weight loss. MOST people cannot do that, so Congratulations to you.

Gardnerjoy: That mantra "eating does not fix tired" is a good one. Tired is one of my MAIN trigers for eating I realized since starting Beck.

BillBlueEyes: Major kudos on not using a celebration as a reason to celebrate with food you shouldn't eat!

Lexxiss: Hello

Seadwaters: Did you decide on a new plan? It is always interesting to hear what is working for people. I am calorie counting.

AmberPR: You statement about calories a few weeks ago really made me re evaluate mine. I increased them and the weight seems to be coming off more steadily now, still slow, but at least some loss every week. Thanks.

MorganleFay: Ah, the battle of the peanut butter. I love that stuff. I usually have it on an apple every day for a snack. But, a big spoonful was tempting me last night too.

Synger: It always takes me 2 days at least to recover from relaxing and settle back into my routine :) Glad you had a fun camping trip. Good job on planning. and, Congratulations on the 3 mile hike. Isn't it so nice to be getting stronger?

Madrikh: Hope you are having fun at the beach!

Mikkijoe: I am sure you are having a great time on vacation. Congratulations on learning how to eat in a satisfying way this time.

Mkroyer: Welcome to Beck board, I am fairly new too. Congratulations on the marathon too!

Houston2Command: I find I tend to have the same problem as you if I miss a day, I miss 10. I think it is part of the "all or nothing" mentality for me. But, you sure do have a busy life so that makes it even harder. I try to remember, just do 20 minutes and that is enough. You don't have to do a full sweaty hour every time.

newbebop: I agree, I have found the writing the plan before really does save me time and it allows me to plan for a needed trip to the grocery in advance instead of rushing when I am too busy or substituting bad foods.

Ruthxxx: Hello, thanks for saying hello!

08-18-2010, 01:08 PM
good morning.
stayed on track yesterday and worked out. CREDITS
ate 100% on plan. CREDIT

need to work on writing my food down.

yet another employee quit without notice yesterday. I did not use it as an excuse. I did not take it out on myself. I went to the gym at lunchtime instead of waiting until the end of the day. I used that grrrrr energy to my advantage this time. It felt good and when I returned to the office, I was mentally still on track! Then it felt really good. The rest of my day was amazing. I got so much done and have 2 new people starting right away.

I really try to view these life challenges as "this must be a good thing and how will reveal itself at some point." I wish I could see the challenge of dieting that way.

I think I went through "it's not fair" last week and this weekend as well as "what difference does it make?" For all my hard work, a few pounds gone. So what? So I picked up the Beck book again last night and read and there it was in black and white. "It's not fair!" Hah! I knew it! Then, "oh well." That's all there is to it. so annoying! I want it to be more than that. But as she writes, a lot of other things are not fair and in my favor. so....

have a great day, everyone.

08-18-2010, 04:56 PM
I successfully completed the Leading Ladiesí Marathon, my first, and had a great time. It was a beautiful course through Spearfish Canyon. If you are ever in SDís Black Hills, I would definitely recommend visiting; running the canyon is optional. It was a great race, well organized, great atmosphere. And I also had a half marathon PR! After the race we visited Mt. Rushmore and the Crazy Horse memorial. We had such a great time DH even started planning our trip for when I run the marathon next year. He wants to see the Badlands.

Iím still recovering. DH and I went for a walk yesterday, which felt great. I tried to go for a short run this AM, but itís still too soon. So walking and yoga are my exercises of choice for now.

Welcome mkroyer! Itís great to have a fellow runner, and with such an impressive list of PRs! Iím definitely further back in the pack, but just crossing the finish line seems like a major accomplishment.

AmberPr, yay for trying jogging! Itís good to start out slow, but youíll build distance.

Waving to everyone else. Thanks for all your support. It definitely helped!

08-18-2010, 05:57 PM
Hello there! Okay, so I did give in a bit with a small handfull of angel hair pasta as I was putting away the leftovers...but I stopped right after that and even stopped myself in the middle of breaking off a small piece of parmesan cheese to munch on. I'm actually down a half a pound today! I'm at my lowest weight in years!:carrot:

We had an ice cream social at work today. I worked out the calories on my online calorie tracker and had a couple of scoops of chocolate ice cream with all the fixins! I figured about 400 calories for the whole thing - so it basically took the place of my lunch. I think I appreciate it more when I know it's okay with my food plan.

AmberPr: I would have some shrimp or an egg white omelet with hot veggies (like a bed of spinach or something) for dinner. Something not-salady but low in calories.

BillBlueEyes: Go you with avoiding Fenway food! I couldn't do it-hope you had a great time! Oh yeah...GO METS! LOL

gardenerjoy: I LOVE your mantra "eating does not fix tired"...I'm going to write that on a response card. That's my greatest downfall and since my baby won't sleep through the night yet, I'm ALWAYS tired!

newbebop: I would suggest prep everything ahead of time. For example: I take the hour before going to bed to set out everything for the next morning - including pouring the kids' cereal. That way, I'm not scrambling the next day. Have you seen flylady. com? She has a whole slew of suggestions.

Alma4343: Boy, do I know about the "I don't care" thought! That's one that I battle most of all! For me, it helps sometimes to say "yes, I may not care right now, but I will care later on when I look at the scale and it hasn't moved!" Then I try to bring up that disappointment I always feel after I've given in, and it helps me to put the food down.

Houston2Command: Please don't feel bad when someone quits. It's not your fault. Being in HR, I see a lot of people who quit without notice. It's their decision - not yours. Maybe if you try to think of it as them making a decision to move on to a different opportunity it will make you feel better. If they walked out, they were probably not happy where they were and what's worse than working with someone who hates their job? Besides, there are enough of us out of work or underemployed that someone else would be thrilled to be in that position. Just give it time.

08-18-2010, 06:28 PM
Hi everyone!
I'm new to the Beck Diet Solution, but I've been on 3FC since July-ish. I've lost 6.6 lbs (on weight watchers), but the last two or so weeks have been maintaining weeks for me (tomorrow is my meeting day/weigh in, and I'd bet on a gain). I think at first my body was losing weight so easily because the changes were so drastic, even though I have not had a 100% on plan week at all. Long story short, I ran across these boards and bought the book on Monday (the pink book along with the workbook). I've always known I have issues with my relationship with food, but I never thought anymore about how to handle it. I figured I'd get on a diet plan and over time it would become my lifestyle. Obviously I need more support than that. Because I have been dieting for 6 weeks or so now, I'm moving along days 1-14 in the book more quickly. I am planning on starting day 15 on Monday. I already have found a diet coach. And I know I'll be able to finish the tasks leading up to day 15 in order before Monday. I'll be shopping for a notebook after work (already have note cards, sticky notes, etc.) and getting my ducks lined up.
So I just want to say "howdy!" and I look forward to getting to know you all! Have a wonderful Wednesday!

08-19-2010, 12:04 AM
Hi Coaches

Just a quick summing up of the day before I head to bed.

weighed myself
did not eat over my very high weight
left some food on my plate at dinner
ate some grapes I wasn't letting myself have (this is a bad old habit)
ate sitting down
did a little bit of walking
decided on a foodplan-->caloric cycling
decided on an official start date: next Monday

I'm not putting 100% into my work at the school these days. I just sort of get by there right now, doing the minimum. The lack of hours really shows on my paychecks but $ never really motivated me that much.
Crazy I know.
I have a few things to make for some customers at the farmers market for the weekend. My plan is to work on them tomorrow and to start working on my sculptures for the Lumiere Festival which is in a little over two weeks: Sept 4th to be exact. I have lots to do if I am going to be on time with that.

My brother is also in the festival making his first ever fine art piece. He can't wrap his head around being paid to be an artist and not necessarily needing to "make a product". The world of fine art is an odd one. My really good artist friend, and best friend in general, says that if you want to be an international artist you really need to make big things that no one would ever want in their home. His favorite example is Joseph Beuys' Fat Chair. He's always bringing up the fat chair as an example of what is Art that gets you into a gallery space, an international gallery space, and up and out of the local scene.
But since the fat chair has been done I'll have to continue to think on what I can do. But that's not tonight. Instead I offer you this very interesting page of chairs made my artists that I just found cause I wanted to show you the fat chair. ( Some of these are pretty neat.

:wave: Good Night All.

08-19-2010, 05:40 AM
:welcome: Ashley (ade903) :welcome:

And, even though you've been here for 2 months already, :wel3fc:

Neat that you found out about Dr. Judith Beck's books by stumbling upon these boards on 3 Fat Chicks

08-19-2010, 05:47 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Assembling dinner from left overs last night to dine alone, I accumulated four veggies and went looking for a protein. Opened a can of crab meat I'd bought thinking it would add a touch of flavor to a meal someday. Well, I ate it - CREDIT moi for a nutritionally responsible dinner - but it wasn't chunks of crab, it was ground up crab for making crab cakes. Just Ugh! However, the left over kale with onions was superb as always, the sauteed summer squash exquisite, and the three bean salad (green beans from our garden) still crisp and wonderful. Fourth veggie: I sliced a garden fresh cuke and poured something from the fridge on it. Still loving the bounty of summer.

Gym was gym; CREDIT moi. They keep giving me single serving boxes of Kashi Go Lean cereal. It keeps making me happy. Someday when I get bored enough I'll go to a psychoanalyst and find out why that makes me so happy.

maryblu - Waving. Our company has a policy against discrimination against the elderly and physically disabled, for which we salute the open minded state of Minnesota.

onebyone - I want the black hole chair. Will have to move everything else from the living room, but it'll be worth it. Kudos for all your list but especially for leaving food on your plate at dinner - that's such a tough one.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Thanks for "eating does not fix tired." Nor stress. Nor boredom. Nor put-upon.

Shepherdess - Congrats on that personal record on the first half of your marathon, and Double Congrats on finishing the whole thing. Will add Spearfish Canyon to my bucket list - walking, not running, LOL.

Beverlyjoy - Continuing to send supportive thoughts that you get to your surgery soon. Kudos for staying your path while wrestling all the alligators, especially for actually clocking yourself between bites.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Which Plectrum do you use with your phone?

Donna (new2me2) - Neat idea to set up your exercise in the morning; then you can be looking forward to it all day.

Houston2Command - Ouch for getting hit with another evaporating employee. Hope you can get a dynamite replacement. Kudos for working the "it's not fair" Sabotaging Thought; neat to be reminded that a lot of the good stuff in our lives isn't fair either.

Alma (Alma4343) - day 27, Mastering the 7 question technique, was one of my least favorite days of the Beck program. I worked on my addiction to FREE food. I can declare that it helped since I've had some success and before I'd had no successes whatsoever. My recommendation is just bite the bullet and do it - "I just don't care" is a great Sabotaging Thought to wrestle with.

MorganleFay - Congrats on the new low. LOL at the ice cream lunch; I figure that part of staying on my path is accommodating such things as ice cream when the body needs Vitamin IC.

newbebop - Yay for entertaining the notion of doing Couch-to-5K - good challenge there. Good luck figuring out how to fix/replace your treadmill. How much longer do you have before you get your nursing degree?

Ashley (ade903) - Congrats on 3 Kgs gone from the scale already. Yep, it's a challenge to keep the faith and stay the course when the initial loss rate plateaus for a spell.

Neat that you have a real life Diet Coach. Let us know how that's working; it does seem like the ideal situation if you can set it up. Glad you're here.

Readers - day 34
Solve Problems

Once you recognize that food
won't make your problems go away,
dieting will be easier.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 235.

08-19-2010, 05:59 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I'm up early today and am dealing with my imperfections, breathing deep and trying to "move on". I had an off day yesterday. I had a plan, decided to change it and ended up depriving myself....then went through some unplanned eating. It wasn't about the calories or eating tons of "bad" stuff, either. The numbers worked out at the end of the day, but I wasn't happy. Today, the plan is to stick with the original plan for yesterday....

I was planning on working on personals but I am agitated about my environment this morning and need to work on that a bit. When my environment at home isn't comfortable, my food isn't either. Actually, that could have been part of the problem yesterday.

Have a good day everyone!

08-19-2010, 09:26 AM
My plan of leftovers for dinner last night was way sided by my hubby bringing home surprise pizza! I was able to have a big salad with some of the weeks left over veggies and a single small slice of pizza. Part of me take this as a victory and the part that just read the "stop kidding yourself ' chapter wonders if it was a test of my resistance, and I should have had none at all.

Another small victory came after a very stressful encounter with my teenage son. (who decided to pierce his own tongue!!) Instead of it ending with my face in that full container of candy bar whirl ice cream in my freezer, I finished some reading in my beck book, along with a nice stiff (calorie free) beverage and went to bed. Although I know there are healthier alternatives, at this point it was very late at night and bed sounded best.

Forging forward, a halfway through the week weigh in shows more progress and I am inspired to find and add in a weight workout today. ;-)

Billblueeyes- excellent restraint at the ball park! you are so right about portions when it comes to open bags. Well done on your healthy dinner with left overs. That can be a challenge sometimes. I will graduate as an RN in May. can't wait!

gardenerjoy- you are right "eating does not fix tired". I also have to remind myself It does not fix boredom, anxiety, stress, in-laws, or teenagers. ;-)

Beverlyjoy- ouch on the ulcers. Hope the new med is still working and you can soon find some relief. We do seem to turn to food for dealing with all things. It is like a dear friend to some. It is a long process, but we have to learn to turn elsewhere for more positive results. Other people, 3fc, exercise has been a good stress reliever for me.

new2me2- I would LOVE a room just for exercise! it would eliminate many of my top excuses.

alma4343- sorry to hear about your cold. not that being sick is ever fun, but summertime sickness seems extra cruddy.

Houston2command- great plan to attack a stressful day at the gym. It sounds like it worked. I like the way you look at life's challenges. Very similar to my outlook. I have been through a great deal the past year and a half and I know it would have done no good to lie down and just let it consume me. I dealt with what I could, endured the rest, and tried to have faith that the it would eventually subside and leave us better for having gone through it.

sheperdess- well done on your marathon!

morganlefay- yum to the ice cream social! part of my plan includes being able to work in foods that I love. I have learned the hard way that making any food forbidden, is a sure way to make me want it more. Guess I am a rebel that way. ;-) I have seem flylady. some of her routines are a little hard core for me, but I use lots of ideas and tips from her site.

ade903- welcome! you have come to the right place for that extra support.

oneboyne- love your friends advice on being an artist. It is SO true! My mother use to do the craft shows and then got into fiber art. She says the difference is making less of items and charging more for them. ;-)

08-19-2010, 11:16 AM
Slept a bit better last night, except for the moment in the middle of the night when I woke up sneezing! It probably won't help that today's project is the cabin. We've decided to sell it since we haven't used it in several years now. We're meeting with the real estate agent today to figure out what needs to be done to it before we sell. We hope to put it on the market in the spring.

I'll probably take a walk while we're out there, allergens and all. I've learned from past years that exercise helps my allergy symptoms, even if I do it outside.

I'm packing our lunch, so that will be good. Oops! DH just said "let's go to the country club instead so we can get out of here faster." So, going to give that a shot. I'm challenging myself to order whatever gets me the most veggies.

WI: +0.2kg, Exercise: +45 1080/1800 minutes for August, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Welcome Ade903!

Yay, Shepherdess! Congratulations on completing such a wonderful goal!

Beverlyjoy: so sorry for your continued health concerns and for the stresses they are causing in your life. Sending healing and calming energies your way!

onebyone: yay for all your credits! Add one for posting here!

MorganleFay: yay for lowest weight in years! That's a great feeling -- and it keeps getting better!

Houston2Command: good job choosing exercise over food to make yourself feel better -- so much more effective!

Alma4343: way to go sticking to your plan while sick. "I just don't care" is definitely a good thought to work with! I didn't find Beck's response to that as helpful as I needed and had to go through several drafts of my own response to get one that worked for me. And, it could still use some improving, so let us know what you come up with!

new2me2: good idea to set up your exercise when you're in the mood so that it's ready when you scheduled the time.

newbebop: I failed at running, but I still encourage you to try. You can always go back to walking or other things if it doesn't work and it will be awesome if you can do it! I'm going to try again soon. I'm hoping that my problem (Ilio Tibial Band Syndrome) might have gone away with the excess weight.
Ouch for teenager problems and unplanned pizza. It sounds to me like your way of dealing with the pizza worked well for you, so don't beat yourself up about it.

Lexxiss: good job working out what went wrong yesterday and working on fixing it today! Very Beckian!

08-19-2010, 11:22 AM
Another on-plan day yesterday! Yay, lol. I was rewarded by the loss of all that water retention weight I gained after that grueling weight workout Sunday, lol. YAY! :) I did the same workout last night, but had to lighten up slightly on the weights. That's okay...muscles were still a bit sore and a little "weak", so the slightly lighter weights were still a good workout.

I have another small victory/credit today...I'm wearing smaller pants, lol. That feels nice in more ways than one!

I think today's exercise will just be as long a session of Walk It Out as I can stand, lol.

Alma4343 CONGRATULATIONS on your 1lb loss! I struggled with the 7 question technique as fact I don't think I ever did get around to doing it...hum, perhaps I need to reread that chapter. Yeah, I have all the stuff for a home gym -- weights, dvds, steps (and enough risers to stock a small class, lol), bands, balls, barbell, body bars...some of the small stuff is hidden, but the rest is strewn all over my living room. {{sigh}}

Houston2Command Yay, major kudos for on plan day!! Very major credit for the way you handled the unexpected stress!!! Very good!

Shepherdess Congratulations on finishing your marathon!! Although, my couch potato mentality can't quite connect marathon and fun, but glad you had fun! :D

MorganleFay Yay for being down to your lowest weight!!! That is so exciting!!! Major credit to you for tracking the ice cream BEFORE you ate it! Yay!

ade903 Hello and Welcome! I'm on the WW plan too, many of the ideas I hear in the meeting directly corresponds to the ideas in Beck's book.

onebyone Again, nice list of credits!

BillBlueEyes Ummm, sauteed squash sounds very good!! LOL on the free boxes of cereal!

Lexxiss I know what you mean about not being happy at the end of the day when going off plan. It's a strange a new feeling for me, lol.

newbebop I think you did very well with the unplanned dinner! YIKES on the son!! WOW, lol. I am in awe of the way you handled that, great job!!!

08-19-2010, 01:42 PM
Ok, feeling better about things now. It's amazing what exercise, nutrition and organization can do for me. lol

BillBlueEyes, now actually eating that nutritionally responsible dinner would have been hard for me (crab) although the veggies did sound very good! I'm glad the FREE Kashi Go Lean makes you happy!

:welcome2: Ashley (ade903), Howdy back! Great that you have found this group. Beck and these Becksters have helped me lots!

:welcome2: mkroyer, Glad you've joined in! Beck has really resolved my grazing...if I do, I always catch myself and stop.

Beverlyjoy, I am always happy to hear from you during this unbelievably difficult time. Carry on with food sanity the best you can and know we are always here for you.

Cheryl (seadwaters) Amazing job checking in on your phone!

Donna (new2me2), great job on the weights! I love smaller pants! I'm wearing some today, too.

gardenerjoy, enjoy your walk today. Thx, too, you just reminded me to log my exercise! Our CC has great veggies!

newbebop, I'm glad the pizza was at your house, not mine. lol I think you did great with your choice. If you feel like it is a victory-then I would say take it. (roll eyes) piercing one's own tongue does not sound fun. Bed seemed a very healthy choice.

onebyone, a very nice list of credits. Thx for the chair link-it was very interesting....I am glad the 1500 chairs between 2 buildings is not my project.

MorganleFay, one of the most exciting things for me since starting Beck is to catch myself putting food in my mouth and stopping! It is such progress. Congrat! on your lowest weight in years-it is all downhill from here.

Shepherdess, :cp:

Houston2Command, great when you know what you need to do, "need to work on writing my food down." You helped me to write down what I need to do. Thx. Great job powering through a tough day with such positive actions.

Alma, I have found the Seven Questions extremely helpful when I get in situations that are "not about my eating" but actually are because my old habit is to eat over the "situations", if that makes sense. I have alot of extraneous "stuff" in my life right now and I have specific pages in the book that I refer to and this is one.

Synger, I was happy to read your report in from camping. Healthful and planned food, and a 3 mile walk is great credit!

Marci, :wave:
Mikkijoe, :wave:

Hi to everyone else! I need to go prepare that lunch I deprived myself of, yesterday.

08-19-2010, 06:56 PM
Hi Coaches:

It's almost dinnertime here.
Truthfully, I've already had food that was supposed to be for dinner.
I cooked up the two yellow zucchini squash (credit) that my brother gave me on Monday fresh from his garden before they went bad in my fridge (credit). And I will claim another (credit) for eating a veggie even if I did fry it in bacon fat. Sorry folks. It's true. Did the good part just cancel out the bad part? Not sure but I'll take the "I ate a veggie" part as still a good thing.

I think this episode pretty much sums up where I am at. I'm a little willing but not completely. Oh well. It'll come. Or not. But I'll have to do it anyway. I'm frustrated with my level of procrastination. This is serious. I'm going to have to set my timer for 15minutes to get started on my artwork even though I know that once I start I'll wonder why I put it off.

Ah I am remembering something. With me, I have to get good and fed up with myself before I make a change. aha! I'm definitely getting to that point for sure.

Wish I had something more positive to say Becksters.
It ain't in me today. :(

Oh well. This too shall pass :bike2: and there it goes...

Bye for now.

08-19-2010, 07:26 PM
Hi everyone! Thank you for the warm welcomes!
Today I have my weight watchers meeting. I'm not looking forward to it, but I'm going anyway (credit). Not to take away from the positive thinking, but it has been a seriously off plan two weeks for me, so I'm expecting a gain. But I'll take it with a smile. Because I know it is not permanent and in the past I would have given up weeks ago. I also spent my lunch hour (well, part of it...after I sat down through my meal credit and ate mindfully credit) going through some tasks my the book (credit). I've printed 7 daily activity sheets because my school and work schedule is so crazy that I need one for each day. I got about half way through the week and I'll be finishing the other half after work/before my meeting. I've also filled out the charts in preparation for the hunger task I'll be doing tomorrow. I feel pretty good about this all. I read through my ARC several times (credit). And now I'm feeling a little credit happy lol.

BillBlueEyes - I like the quote. Food does not make my problems go away. (taking not of this on one of my note cards now).
newbebop - he pierced his own tongue????? OUCH! Bed is definitely more productive than murder (and ice cream), so take it as a win ;)
gardenerjoy - how did the country club go? Any good veggie dishes?
new2me2 - congrats on small pants!! and being on plan!
Lexxiss - glad you are feeling better! It's sad that I know nutrition and exercise effect (affect? I can never get that one down) my mood, yet my whole life I've done nothing to change it!
onebyone - it's better than eating bacon fried in bacon fat ;) hope you feel better soon!

08-20-2010, 05:59 AM
Hi Coaches

I have had a few off track days because I am reorganising my plan tomorrow and of course there is the associated sabotaging thoughts: one last try of this; have to take the opportunity to have that; too tired / lazy / busy to get food that will not match next plan so eat anything. Not only is it all-or-nothing thinking it is sort of gallows thinking - last meal sort of stuff. It will be a relief for tomorrow to roll around and get myself in line and on plan.

It has taken quite a while to get my laptop sorted out - work replaced the hard drive and things seem better. I have had to reinstall and get things working the way I am used to again so a lengthy process. You would think there was a way of transferring all the settings I like! Computers can be very irritating

I notice there are new people and lots of posts and much activity. I will make a few personals tonight and catch up later. Farmers market tomorrow - lots of food to be got! And spaghetti squash to be requested

Alma (Alma4343) - I agree that identifying sabotaging thoughts isn't straightforward so credit for trying. Yay for 1 pound down. The new plan I am trying is the Dukan diet (French) - which is similar to what I have been doing which is low carb and higher protein - but with low fat and skim dairy products. I was getting a little concerned about the fat and also not really losing. This diet is a bit 'interesting' but I will see how I go
Ashley (ade903) - Welcome - hope you get the help you need. This is a great place for good ideas
BillBlueEyes - Imaginative use of leftovers - sounds yummy but perhaps a little cool for here at the moment. Had to look up Plectrum - no - just use my useful fingertips on my iPhone. A useful little beast it is. Eating definitely doesn't fix put-upon - shame that.
Debbie (Lexxiss) - Glad your day improved. I hate it when my environment is out of whack. Have been obsessing over the computer so I am glad it is sorted out
Donna (new2me2) - Yay for smaller pants - a definite sign of progress
Gardenerjoy - Hope you survive the country club food and the allergens in the country - sounds like a fine outing. Selling property can be stressful and I hope yours isn't
Houston2Command - It's not fair that Beck knew we would think it was unfair! And even developed a response to it! Great response to frustration fueled exercise - I will have to remember that
MorganleFay - Huge credit to stop yourself in the middle of snacking - great resistance muscle work
Newbebop - Yay for restraint in the face of pizza. And huge credit for staying out of the freezer after an encounter with your teenager - great restraint
Onebyone - great list of credits. Thanks for the links to the chairs - they were great
Shepherdess - Glad you are back and finished the marathon - huge credit and a personal best! Hope you have recovered

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - Yes
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - No
- Made food plan - No
- Logged food soon after eating - No
- Food on-plan - No
- Ate seated every time - Yes
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - Yes
- Weighed myself - Yes - 214.8
- Exercise - YES - :swim:

Working on - :running:
getting prepared

Have a good day Beckies

08-20-2010, 06:57 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Conjured up an errand for DW at Whole Foods for my walk (CREDIT moi) - she needed dried cherries and especially likes theirs. Spent the walk there designing a plan for the FREE samples. Came up with a compromise: I'd indulge in half and skip half, particularly skipping the cheeses that are usually available. Then, I followed my plan, CREDIT moi. I had the samples of grilled shrimp in a lemon-something sauce and no cheese samples. A good start on my battle with FREE foods.

Tomatoes continue to ripen in our garden - picked three more HUGE ones and a dozen more cherry tomatoes. Yea tomatoes.

onebyone - Yep, Kudos for "I ate a veggie" - it doesn't have to be a perfect veggie. Good luck getting into the art work production for your upcoming event.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for sleep. That's a conundrum that exercise outdoors helps your allergies to the stuff that's outdoors. Kudos for planning for your lunch.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Ouch for "gallows thinking" - that's a new one to add to the list of Sabotaging Thoughts. I've never understood the notion of the special event of being allowed to choose one's last meal on the way to being executed. Maybe it's a distraction.

LOL at "Had to look up Plectrum" - it's my new word that came with my new cell phone. Since mine looks like a guitar pick, I tried it out on a professional musician friend. He'd never heard it before, nor had my DW or kids. Have to chase down where it comes from.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Ouch for "agitated" leading to food. Food does seem to be the ending to a lot of scenarios. Kudos for working your way out of that.

Donna (new2me2) - Congrats on your reduced pants size. All that exercise seems to be doing its thing.

newbebop - Monster Kudos for surviving your son's self tongue piercing - with both of you alive and neither in a giant bowl of ice cream. Kinda puts the battle with "surprise pizza" in perspective.

Ashley (ade903) - That is a busy schedule to need seven different activity sheets. Kudos for balancing work and school while staying the course with eating and exercise. Good reminder that food also doesn't fix busy.

Readers - day 35
Get Ready to Weigh In

Tomorrow marks the end of your fifth week using the Beck Diet Solution. If you've been following all the steps in this book, chances are good that you'll see a lower weight tomorrow.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 236.

08-20-2010, 11:28 AM
The country club meal was okay, but not a lot of selection if you're aiming for healthy (lots of selection if you want fried chicken) and the service was very relaxed. Maybe that's an appropriate level of service for most people who eat there, but we had an appointment to keep! We ended up not staying out there long enough for me to take a walk, so I came home and did my Wii Walk It Out instead.

WI: -0.05kg, Exercise: +65 1145/1800 minutes for August, Food: 75%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

seadwaters: thanks for noting the possible stress in selling property. Our first meeting with the realtor went remarkably well. He thinks will get more than we expected and that we'll need to do less than we expected to get it fixed up to sell. Hope your new plan goes well! I find switching up plans now and then useful -- keeps me engaged and gets me through plateaus with less fretting.

BillBlueEyes: excellent strategy for negotiating the free foods at WF!

ade903: yay for all those credits and for planning with such a busy schedule!

onebyone: veggies count! That was definitely part of my transition--any way to get myself to eat a veggie was a good way. And, frankly, I still don't eat them steamed very often. Raw, roasted, and sauteed all work for me.

Lexxiss: glad you're feeling better and that you identified the cause as exercise, nutrition, and organization -- yay!

new2me2: you're doing great with your exercise!

08-20-2010, 11:29 AM
Good morning! Well, mostly good, lol. My weight is still down...that's good. I got in an hour and 20 minutes of WIO...that's good. I've decided that my vague plan of de-junking isn't all, so I'm going to write 1 thing in my plan every day that I want to de-junk. Today's plan is the couch. Yes, my couch is full of junk, so that goes and I plan to put on a slipcover that I bought a couple of weeks ago. That's good, lol.

The not so good...while brushing and flossing last night before bed one of my crowns fell off. VERY fortunately, that was a tooth that has a root canal, so no pain or sensitivity, but the tooth has very sharp edges. I'm hoping to get into the dentist today because eating is now a bit more difficult. I chew on that side because the other side has a tooth that is on the borderline of needing a root canal and I've been trying to avoid that as much as possible, lol. :D :D Frankly, I'd like him to pull the tooth that needs the crown and when the time comes pull the one that needs the root canal, but I can't seem to convince them I mean it. :dizzy:

Lexxiss So glad you are feeling better about things!! Congratulations on YOUR smaller pants!! :)

onebyone Aw, hoping your day is better today!

ade903 Good luck at your weigh-in...mine is today as well!

seadwaters(Cheryl) Glad the laptop is working better...I really dislike having to redo happens to me a lot at work...they've had to replace my CPU about 5 times for various reasons.

BillBlueEyes Excellent plan for WF! I have never once seen free samples...I think because I go very early...but last week they actually had some...I thought of you as I passed them by, lol.

08-20-2010, 01:48 PM
Hey everyone.
thanks for all the positive thoughts.

morganlefay - it's hard not to take it personally on some level but in general I don't. your words are very helpful. thank you.

so the new contract worker has done more in 2 days then my ex employee did in a week. huh? i'm still reviewing the work so we'll see what the accuracy level is. if it's good, then my blessing has already revealed itself!

been eating right all week. CREDIT
did some work outs but not as much as I should. 1/2 CREDIT

my weight is stagnant and I'm trying not to let it bother me. Stress is very high and I'm not pigging out or freaking out so stagnant in this environment today is just fine. patience. the positive side to stagnation is that it gives me time to practice daily good eating habits not just being on a "diet".

hope everyone has a good weekend.

08-20-2010, 03:12 PM
Hi Becksters...

Okay...I was doing so well- of course I had to sabotage myself. Yesterday was our son's school's open house. I wasn't going to be able to eat until after we returned (around 8pm) and I came home to find an empty house. DH and the boys were away at karate and wouldn't return till 6:30-after which we would have to leave. I had 30 minutes to myself. So...what happened? My stomach growled and I told myself I needed a light snack (100 calories or so) to tie me over. I had a deli flat bun and figured I would allow myself a teaspoon of peanut butter- since I had been craving it. I was spreading the peanut butter, i licked the knife. After that...I just kinda lost it. I ate the snack, took a spoon out and ate a HUGE spoonful of peanut butter, jumped in the fridge and drank a few large gulps of whole milk to wash it down, then proceded to pour chocolate syrup in my mouth-which made me run to the pantry and grab two marshmallows- drenched them in chocolate and stuffed them in - followed by another couple of gulpfuls of whole milk. I think I finally stopped myself at that point. (I just wrote that intentionally as a run-on sentence to indicate just how quickly this all happened). I think this lasted all of five minutes before I could get a hold of myself. I'm completely freaked out by it and really pissed that I did this to myself just as I was on a roll!:mad: To top it off, I was still hungry after I got home from school (I guess what I ate was empty calories), so I ate dinner with the family. I made a three egg white-1 egg omelete with a slice of ham, onions, a tablespoon full of frozen shredded potatoes, and a cup of feta (which was supposed to be my dinner).

Of course this morning, I was a full pound heavier :( I always do this to myself. I think its leftovers from an eating disorder (bulemia) I had when I was younger. I'm so tired of this...but all I can do is to get right back on my diet today (which is what I'm doing). I now have to cut and paste this in an email to my "real-life" diet coach, DH (which is something I dread). I'm so disappointed in myself.

Thanks for having this forum for me to post this. Maybe writing it down will solidify my disappointment and make these things happen less often (or maybe not at all someday!).

08-20-2010, 05:13 PM
Quick post, somehow the day has gotten away from me. i had a very productive day in town today with all three of my boys. Shoes, school stuff and so much more. I knew I would be in town most of the day and had planned lunch out. Things went pretty well. Usually after a family trip shopping I am ready to come home and drown my stress in calories. Either they were all on better behavior that usual or I am finally starting to have a little better control over this eating stuff. (A little of both I am sure) I still give some credit to this being new enough to me that I call it the honeymoon stage of healthier eating. ;-) But I am paying attention. It honestly use to sometimes just be mindless eating. at some point we ended up with doughnuts in the car. I got a whiff and was a little worried that there might be an incident... big credit to me for knowing it just wasn't worth it and waited till I got home for my planned afternoon snack of healthier home made zucchini bread.

another walk this morning nearly gave me a heart attack when I spooked 5 deer from the ditch. ;-)

Didn't get to those weights yesterday, they have been added to tonight's goal list. Should be a busy weekend ahead, If i get lost I'll be back Monday. ;-)

08-21-2010, 04:19 AM
Hi Coaches
I went to market and bought lots of grass fed meat so I am all stocked up. The fact that I get to snack on protein and dairy means I need a lot! Have made two litres of skim milk yoghurt and turned half of it into yoghurt 'cheese' by straining it. So getting organised.

At the market I didn't eat the banana bread or the fairy floss or the fruit or all the other things I wanted so credit me! I did lots of walking so got my gentle exercise in as well

BillBlueEyes - great triumph over FREE food and good compromise choices. When you find out about plectrum let me know!
GardenerJoy - glad the house selling looks so good. It will be a relief. The plan I have switched to is keeping me amused and of course that is half the battle as you say
Donna (new2me2) - good luck with dejunking the lounge - an interesting idea. Teeth are a bother when they play up there is no denying that so hope things work out
Houston2Command - Yay for a great contract worker - you got lucky. Great attitude to seeing stable (stagnating) weight as an opportunity to "practice daily good eating habits".
MorganleFay - What a great description of a bit of a feeding frenzy - totally capable of it myself but not as capable of the objective view you have used here. Really nice observation and self reflection. You will move on from this.
newbebop - Yay for "honeymoon stage of healthier eating" - that's why I have changed plans because it is a real boost to motivation

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - No
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - Yes
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - Yes
- Food on-plan - Yes
- Ate seated every time - No
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - Yes
- Weighed myself - Yes - 215
- Exercise - No

Working on - :running:
Being positive

Have a good day Beckies

08-21-2010, 04:19 AM
One way to beat BillBE to the morning's post is to stay up all night! My daddy always said if you stay up all night it'll dawn on ya. Too wound up from a great night of dancing to sleep anywho.

Have been vacationing, AGAIN..what a great summer in spite of all the rain and storms and such..great fun.

BillBE, enough already..He's baaacckkk. Unthinkable that he wouldn't be...just one more year..that's all we could ask for.. ..

Shepherdess, congrats..and WOW, just wow on your marathon. WOW.

MorganleFay, for a (relatively) newbie, you are one good coach!

Thoughts and well wishes for those of us who have struggles...and yea to all who have had successes.

08-21-2010, 06:56 AM
Hello Beck Friends:wave:

I've spent the last few days with computer issues-mostly the operator. I just ordered Office 2010 for Dummies off Amazon. I still can't figure out how to transfer my Outlook files from the old computer. Frustrating, but I won't eat over it. I've decided to let it rest until the book comes. I did decide, however, while spending lots of money on software at Costco, that BBE would not want to work there. Perhaps it's just my store-in the middle of nowhere-and not very busy, but they were really pushing the FREE samples yesterday....which I kept my fingers out of.

I did reflect on the way home, how Beck principles have helped me to overcome some of the old habits which might not matter once-but add up over a lifetime....the giant bag of chips in the back seat don't call for me to open them on the 30 min ride home anymore.

I have lots on my agenda and have a healthy plan today. Take care, everyone!

08-21-2010, 07:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Sane dinner at an upscale Italian restaurant with friends last night: "Veal scaloppine, radicchio, smoked mozzarella," no table bread, no appetizers, no pastas, no desserts, no liquid calories. Was with old friends, so we each swapped samples of the other three dishes - quadrupling our eating joy for the evening - whether Martha Stuart approved on not. Came back to our house for tea and dessert of mixed fruits. CREDIT moi. Was probably a weight neutral evening.

Gym beforehand. CREDIT moi. The FREE Kashi cereal will be my breakfast this morning.

maryblu - Just love reading of your great nights of dancing. There just can't be a better exercise in the world for someone who loves good music. I'm already looking forward to football season - since my Red Sox lost to the Toronto Blue Jays 16-2 last night.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - You'd think that a country club would spare you the fried foods scene - Ouch for the confrontation, Kudos for making good choices anyway. You're generous to use the word "relaxed" for slow service.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - I do like the sound of buying all that grass fed red meat; that's taking your meat buying seriously.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - You're now my hero for stiffing the Costco FREE food pushers; Kudos, Kudos, Kudos. Can that giant bag of chips get sent into some private corner of the basement that only your DH knows about?

Donna (new2me2) - Yay for root canals for sparing sensitivity; Big Ouch for losing the crown. I've recently learned that my dentist expects to replace crowns from time to time; I had thought they were lifetime fixtures.

Houston2Command - Kudos for a week of eating on plan, with extra Kudos for giving yourself credit without tying it to scale readings. You're doing the right stuff; your body will follow.

MorganleFay - Yep, write it down and move forward; Kudos for doing that. It might be useful to try the Beck strategy of asking yourself what you were thinking before you did your extra eating.

newbebop - That's a neat success to have donuts in the car and resist them; Kudos. Love the notion of jumping five deer while out for a walk.

Readers - day 35
Get Ready to Weigh In

Before you step on the scale in the morning, remember that whatever number it shows is just information. If you're nervous or expect that you've gained weight, reread Day 28 (pages 204-205) before you weigh yourself.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 236.

08-21-2010, 12:56 PM
Hello everyone!

I've been reading everyones posts, but haven't had time to reply lately. Work has been keeping me busy. BTW: I really appreciated the responses to dinner choices out-of-town. It helped allot! I didn't put on any water weight even! :D

I picked up another diet book when I was in the "Big City" - the Flat Belly diet. Mostly just to see how I could change things up from time to time. It was interesting and I did like how all of the meal plans are 400 calories (I think I'll make a few recipe cards from it) but I don't think I'll follow the plan because I like more food and would rather get the majority of my calories that way vs. from healthy fat.

Jogging has been good. I kinda like the challenge to see if I can really increase my endurance. I've never been a runner - even in high school I was one of those walking most of the mile - darn teacher never told me it would get easier the more I tried. Need new running shoes!

More on the bear: Haven't seen sign of the monster bear. However, the bear hunters were down at the end of our road (about 2 miles away) putting out bait. I suppose he wont be around too much longer... mixed feeling about that, but I will feel safer. Did I tell you I had a girlfriend who was attacked by a bear in her garage? The garage door was left open and a momma bear and her cub came in after the bird seed. My friend came into the garage from the house (it's attached) and got between the two and the momma bear attacked her. It was right on to of her and my friend was hollering at it and hit it on the nose and it finally got off her and left with her cub. She has scars on her arm and chest... she was so lucky.

:cheer2: credits:

Been walking and jogging - more jogging steps everyday.
Weighed myself. Back down to 199! (198.4 after jogging -- I just love seeing a lower number)
Bought lots of healthy foods at the grocery store
plan to cut up all my veggies and have good, healthy meals all weekend instead of grazing.
Mixing up a big glass of ice tea in the a.m. for increased water consumption and energy
took my vitamins and my new supplement -- I'll let you know if I think it's working ;):write:

I'm too far behind to catchup! I'll touch in with all of you as the week/weekend progresses. Looks like we're all making progress on progress, which, as long as we don't give up, is better than we were before!

Welcome to the newest members!

Hugs to you all! :hug:

08-21-2010, 01:08 PM
I had a great big grilled cheese sandwich at the Farmers Market this morning for breakfast. My friend and I both went to the Market without breakfast first and kind of talked each other into it. Gotta watch that! The sandwich only fits in my plan if all I have for lunch is veggies and fruit. It could happen. The darn thing was quite filling and I'm now realizing that I no longer enjoy being this full. This is a good change to notice.

WI: -0.45kg (new low), Exercise: +60 1205/1800 minutes for August, Food: 85%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

seadwaters: I love yogurt cheese! I'm glad to know that you're making it from homemade yogurt. That's been one of my reasons for hesitating to make my own yogurt was I wasn't sure if it would work for yogurt cheese.

maryblu: love your late night post! Glad the dancing was that energizing.

Lexxiss: yeah I'm loving noticing things that just don't seem like me anymore. I'm not the kind of person who snacks in the car. I used to be (a lot), but not anymore. Hope the book helps with your computer problems.

BillBlueEyes: good job on the sane dinner at an Italian restaurant and home for fruit and tea -- very elegant!

newbebop: yay for both better behaved boys (I'm sure you get some credit for that, too) and for more mindfulness in eating. Good job avoiding donuts and focusing on your planned snack instead.

MorganleFay: good job moving on from the incident and getting yourself right back on plan. That's what makes the difference.

Houston2Command: way to go with not eating over stress, including the stress of stagnant weight!

new2me2: hope your couch is looking lovely in its spiffy new slipcover! And I hope all goes well at the dentist.

AmberPR: so glad that you did well with your eating in the city! Way to go!

08-21-2010, 01:50 PM
Just want to introduce myself to this forum, and offer MUCH appreciation for all the thoughtful, funny, and practical feedback being shared here.

I am very new to the Beck Diet, although I have been working on changing my eating habits for nearly a year. I am a graduate student, which tends to equal weight gain, but I have decided that I will actually write a better dissertation if I am taking care of my whole being. So I was working with an occupational therapist for six months on changing my way of thinking. Although this was a great way for me to begin the process of long-term and permanent weight loss, I realized I needed more.

Here I am! Almost two weeks into the Beck Diet and struggling with the usual: sticking to my food plan, planning ahead, completing all the success skills. I definitely plan on using the monthly threads as a primary form of support, but I'm also scouting for a Diet Buddy -- let me know if you are, too.

A bit about me: I live in Southern California, with my partner, step-kids and step-grandkids, 3 dogs, and 2 cats. I am completing a dissertation for a PhD in English Literature and Gender Studies. I also am a poet, and received an MFA from the University of Michigan. I spend my formative years in Louisville, KY, which means I will never stop missing thunderstorms!

Anyway -- much appreciation to ALL for running such a wonderful forum. Looking forward to getting to know you. Be well!

08-21-2010, 03:48 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

We decided early this AM that we'd cruise over to our other house and get some chores done. We're already heading's a 2 hr drive on I-70. We just went through the Eisenhower Tunnel ( , (1.69m) which was built in 1973 and goes under the Continental Divide at 11,158 ft elevation. When I was a kid, this same drive took twice as long. I ended up in the passenger seat with a pile of cookies, of which I had 1/2. *credit* Far better to wait for that healthy tomato/cucumber salad which is mine for the picking as soon as I get home. I am really greatful for my newfound Beck habits. However, I did also think it would be nice to stop for pizza.....Not!

BillBlueEyes, your dinner sounded spectacular! I love dinners where everyone feels comfy enough to it's back to guess anyway. BTW-How isthat FREE Kashi cereal?

MaryContrary, thanks for sharing a bit about yourself! What a healthy perspective you have! I look forward to seeing you on the threads.

gardenerjoy, good job recognizing what you need to do to incorporate that grilled cheese. Yeah, I'm finding that formerly satisfying foods just aren't quite as desirable anymore.

AmberPr, glad your trip was successful! a great list of credits! Thx for the positive note in your post. Persistence is the key for me!

maryblu, cute saying, your dad had! I thought of you this AM as we were discussing music...always meant to ask why S & G cancelled their tour?? We saw them in Denver in 2003, then Art did 2 solo shows with the Denver Symphony...all were great!

Cheryl (seadwaters), Moo! I noticed you are getting that junk food to 1x/day. Good job! Yes, being positive helps...thx for the reminder!

newbebop, :lol: at somehow we ended up with donuts in the car...just struck me very funny today...perhaps because I'm riding in the car with DH's cookies lodged against my thigh...better than in my esophagus. I really believe that the "honeymoon phase" is where those new healthy habiits are being formed. My mindless kitchen eating now feels so foreign. I don't like it anymore.

MorganleFay, I hope you are a bit more cheery by now. You have come along way *credit* from your eating disorder. Dust yourself off and move forward. Ouch at having DH for a coach...I must be married much longer than you, and would never entertain that idea.

Houston2Command, *credit* for a positive attitude during stressful times!

Donna (new2me2), congrats on the idea of becoming more proactive with dejunking. I find it has alot to do with the way I view my you notice any similarities?

Ashley (ade903), I hope you are still feeling "credit happy"...also wondering if you tried the hunger experiment.

onebyone, :wave: I am always glad to hear from you....declutter thread...bug in ear....

Take care everyone... We are just about to enter our beautiful canyon 15 miles from home. Interesting, this AM when we came through we saw at least 20 headlamps-runners on the bike path. Now it's 83 degrees and the bikers will be cruising...Ah, *credit* for spontaneous exercise today...I hopped on my bike and rode to the post office (yardsales) and back. At 7500 ft I figure it's a good breath of fresh air!

08-21-2010, 03:54 PM
Welcome MaryContrary! Love that name, lol.


(Apologizing in advance because this is LONG!!)

Well folks I am celebrating again today...and celebrating several things:

First of all, I made my 5% goal in Weight Watcher's. I've lost 5% of my starting weight since joining in June. And, I've lost almost 9% since starting Beck! So, another charm goes on the bracelet this weekend. The scale showed I lost about 1.5 pounds from last week.

Next, when I stepped on the scale this morning I weighed 1 pound less than yesterday! A new low! Yay! :) Although, I'm not quite sure why the sudden big drops after several weeks of .2 losses here and there, I'm not too worried about it. ;) I'm eating, and eating as healthy as I can, so I think it's just a natural body thing, lol.

AND, getting dressed this morning, I had three pairs of jeans left in my closet. One pair was brand new but look like it needed to be washed (the dye warning label further solidified that fact, lol), the other was also new, but was a little snug last time I tried them on, so I went for the third pair which I thought was one of the ones I took on my cruise in June. They fit pretty well, but felt a bit snugger than I remembered...afterall I haven't worn them since June and I've lost weight since then, so how can they be snugger?! Well, because these AREN'T the ones I thought they were, these are a pair I bought about 4 years ago, but was not able to wear because I gained weight right afterwards and they were toooo snug!! :D They are a size 8!!! I'm wearing them now, and have been since early this morning, lol. I think this calls for another charm on the bracelet!

And finally, I did my planned tasks of dejunking the couch and putting the slip cover on. That spawned a spontaneous decorating urge (I NEVER feel like decorating, lol), so when shopping in Target and seeing two throw pillows on clearance which matched the cover, I bought them. It looks like a new couch, lol. Now I'm looking at the wall behind it and thinking I could paint one wall a weekend and have a whole new room. :D Oh, and I also bought two small totes that I can put my exercise DVDs that I use often into and they'll be neat and not quite as "obvious".

Exercise was 1 hour and 10 minutes of Walk It Out. Today is a rest day, but may do a little WIO later...not sure yet.

My dejunk goal for today is the coffee table and the counter that separates the living room from the kitchen.

My dentist appointment is Monday. I'll talk to him when I see him about the pros and cons of trying to repair the crown or just having what little is left of the tooth pulled and an implant put in.

So, if you've read this far, God bless you!!! :D

Houston2Command Wow, hope that new worker is truly that good! :)

MorganleFay I give you credit for posting! And, I notice you said you got right back on today, so that is also very good! How are you doing today?

newbebop Good for you for paying attention!!! I have to LOL at "was a little worried that there might be an incident"...that just made me laugh, mostly because I know the feeling, but love the way you worded it! :D Mucho credit for not partaking!

seadwaters (Cheryl) Umm, your shopping haul sounds good! Yes, credit for not eating the market goodies!

Lexxiss Hope your computer issues get ironed out soon!

BillBlueEyes How was your FREE Kashi breakfast, lol?! Yes, crowns actually DO need to be replaced ocassionally...this one was #3 for me on this tooth. {{sigh, lol}}

AmberPr Yay for not water weight gain!!! Running gets easier? Huh, maybe I haven't tried hard enough, lol! Hopefully your monster bear has moved on and won't need to be trapped.

gardenerjoy Wow I LOVE this: "and I'm now realizing that I no longer enjoy being this full. This is a good change to notice." Major kudos to you and I totally agree!

08-21-2010, 07:41 PM
It is another great summer day. Hi to all.

Welcome, MaryContrary..thanks for the bio. In the past year, some of the smartest people I have met are English majors..guess when you read alot, you get smart. Who knew? If the Beck community here isn't enough of a diet coach for you, send me a PM and we can buddy up. Heaven knows I need all the help/reflection I can get. I can't think of myself as a grad student, even though I am getting my master's online. I guess it's cuz I have a day job!

Lexiss, I will tell you why S and G canceled if you will tell me *how you got rid of the skunk smell on your dawg. 35 plus years ago I had a Doberman..(short hair)..get into a skunk and it took many, many cans of tomato juice..can't even imagine trying to get the smell outta a German Shepherd cross, and a Lab-cross, and given that I live in the sticks, it's just a matter of time before it, spill! S and G canceled cuz one of them had throat/voice problems..I assumed it was Art, but not sure. on the bear news. Am eager to hear how things go. Great job on the gonna start...soon...soon..

new2me..great, great news on your 5%..and a percentage is the way to think about weight, I do believe. We all have to use the scale as the quickest, easiest way to measure progress, but percentage is so much more pertinent than the # of pounds.

MorganleFay, you did a great job of stifling that lil mini-binge and having a sensible got right back on track. Dunno about *your binges, but what you described, even though it was that auto-pilot-must-eat-without-thinking-thang...was minor registered it, and reported here and to DH..good for you. That said, you described it so vividly, all I could think of was a Homer Simpson-like episode!

Am gonna take an evening off..a forced one, music anywhere in, after a great day of playing Beckie Homeckie and doing household stuff, am gonna cuddle up with Beck (green book) and get smart.

Shout out to all!

08-21-2010, 08:04 PM
maryblu, here's the article with the potion; Skunk Potion (

You can always find the recipe on the web, but I ALWAYS have a qt of hydrogen peroxide in my cupboard just in case. This works FAR better than tomato juice which is what we all used in the old days.

08-21-2010, 09:55 PM
Hi Coaches

Stayed on plan yesterday and got all my farmer's market bootie put away - will need to make some meals today for the week and for lunches. I was 2.7 pounds down today which is a bit extreme but no doubt a quick response to the excesses of last week.

AmberPr - Thanks for the bear update - so alien to us Australians. Hope the bear just moves on. The only scary things here are our insects/spiders,snakes... and things in the water come to think of it. Credit for staying in onederland territory

BeverlyJoy - Sorry that "Life has been so challenging. The ulcers on my tummy and thigh are finally responding to a new medicine" I am really glad that things are starting to resolve. Hope you got some food sanity in your life and that soon you have a surgery date

BillBlueEyes - Huge credit for mastering eating out - and at Italian. I find it so hard and it will be even harder on this new plan. Should start thinking about possible dishes now although "no table bread, no appetizers, no pastas, no desserts, no liquid calories" sounds like a good place to start. Keep enjoying that FREE kashi cereal

Debbie (Lexxiss) - That tunnel looks pretty neat. Credit for resisting cookies on a long drive; surely a temptation to build the resistance muscle

Donna (new2me2) - :bravo: Lots to celebrate that is for sure. You are certainly losing weight steadily and to hit 9% is a great outcome. Nice that you can sustain enthusiasm through small losses. You will have to share what charms you got.

Gardenerjoy - Yay for a new low and ouch for the irresistible cheese sandwich.

Dealing with some ambiguous goals and, occasionally, ambivalent behavior. I stated that I wanted to slow down my weight loss in order to reduce hunger and crankiness and increase energy. I added two fruits to the plan and that hasn't really done the trick.

I went back to your message on ambivalent feeling about losing weight too quickly (a problem many would wish for!). And this coincides with your one year anniversary of losing 52 pounds in 52 weeks which is the picture of consistent healthy weight loss. It interested me. There are some theories around the fact that as weight loss progresses it can become faster because your body feels "safe" enough to give up the extra weight and famine metabolism reduces. Your loss is inspirational because when I look ahead at week after week after week of consistent planning and eating it freaks me out. And there you are doing it. One day at a time as they say
MaryContrary - :welcome3:- you have come to a really supportive and wise place. People here are so helpful. Great insight in "I have decided that I will actually write a better dissertation if I am taking care of my whole being". Work / life balance is something many of us struggle with so good luck

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - Yes
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - No junk food
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - Yes
- Food on-plan - Yes
- Ate seated every time - yes
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - Yes (mostly)
- Weighed myself - Yes - down 2.7 pounds!
- Exercise - No

Working on - :running:

Have a good day Beckies

08-22-2010, 03:16 AM
Hello All,

Went to see Inception with some friends tonight. I thought it was pretty good, the end was a bit lengthy in my opinion. Great day in Seattle, went to body pump (credit) and walked with friends (credit), then a nice boat ride and movie. And, I did not eat popcorn (credit). Popcorn use to be the main reason I went to see movies.

I have been so tired lately. I feel like I have such fatigue in the afternoons I can barely stay awake. I went to the doctor to see if there is a problem. No results back yet. But, I guess I am wondering if it could be due to losing weight. Has anyone experienced this due to weight loss? I am working out, sleeping well at night, eating plenty of protein etc etc. But, I am more tired than I have ever been. I know a lot of you have MUCH busier lives than me, but I really don't have a good excuse for being so tired.

I hope Everyone is doing well.

Seadwaters: Congratulations on the weight loss.

Maryblu: I hope Beck keeps you warm tonight. Haha, I had a laugh at your cuddling up with Beck Book. And, I love your Dad's quote. Mine Dad would tell us "You can't soar with the Eagles if you stay up all night and hoot with the owls".

new2me2: Great job on the weight loss AND the clothes loss ;) You are really doing so well.

Lexxis: Are you and DH retired? You always seem to be going somewhere. Sounds like a lot of fun.

MaryContrary: Welcome! I haven't been here very long either. It is really helping. One thing about the planning ahead that you are struggling with is that I have noticed it actually started to save me time. I usually plan tomorrows meals while I eat lunch (OK that might be a Beck no no, but it works for me). Then, I know ahead of time if I need to pick up something from the grocery store. Also, I came up with 3 breakfasts, 3 lunches and 3 dinners. I usually just rotate between the selections and try and change it a little. Good luck and welcome.

Gardnerjoy: The farmers market food sounds very good there ;)

AmberPR: Great job on the jogging. that is one exercise I don't know if I will ever like. I admire anyone who does it. And, don't job around that bear ;)

BillBlueEyes: I do not know anyone who runs into more free food that you do. I don't think the grocery stores in my area give out nearly as many free samples.

newbebop: Excellent job passing up the donuts and recognizing that you could wait until you got to a healthier option.

MorganleFey: You recognized your problem and got right back on track. Give yourself credit for that. You didn't let a 30 minute binge turn into a 3 day binge. Good job and great posting here in good and bad.

Houston2command: I hope the replacement employee keeps up the good work and great job not letting the stress turn into an excuse to eat.

Shephardess: A MARATHON! Amazing. Congratulations, that is a HUGE accomplishment.

Have a great week

08-22-2010, 07:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Lots of dancing last night, CREDIT moi, at a party, with multi-generational line dancing, square dancing, and the like. Love being reminded that live music is the best thing ever. Had many opportunities to graze on good foods, but, CREDIT moi, stayed on what I'd planned. Yay for the invention of dancing. Split a small, planned, piece of celebratory cake with DW; CREDIT moi. Learned to use balsamic vinegar on a chicken sandwich instead of mayonnaise - so good, who'd have thunk?

My off-plan eating was at a yard sale. She was six years old, drop-dead-cute, and selling lemonade. So I drank, standing up, off-plan, a cup of lemonade with a slice of hand squeezed lemon. For a quarter! Then she explained to her younger brother that a quarter was bigger than a nickle. I was smitten. I probably burned up the calories just laughing at how much it cost her parents to make that lemonade for her to sell for 25 cents.

Beckie Homeckie (maryblu) - Now you got me caught up in the chicken-egg conundrum with, "guess when you read alot, you get smart. Who knew?" Was going to suggest you write a book with that insight. Then got stuck on the notion that it'd only be read by those who read a lot.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Congrats on the new low, again. Ouch for large grilled cheese sandwich for breakfast, but Yay for it reminding you that you don't like feeling that full anymore. Good NSV, that. It used to be that I thought feeling stuffed was the only signal possible to stop eating.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Thanks for the reminder that Australia has its own flora and fauna. It's high on my bucket list - for a visit long enough to see a good chunk of it. I'm always dazzled being reminded how big it is - and I have to get to New Zealand also while I'm down under. Congrats on that 2.7 pounds - all in one swoosh.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Just love reading about so many people out exercising in Colorado - no wonder you're always at the top of the most healthy states. Kudos for yearning for your "healthy tomato/cucumber salad which is mine for the picking" rather than the cookies in your lap; you're getting your mind in a great place. My Kashi cereal was crunchy and tasty, although maybe any cereal would seem tasty with the amount of fruit I cover it with in the morning, LOL.

Donna (new2me2) - Congrats on your new low scale reading, as well as for your NSV with the 4 year old jeans. Kudos for the decluttering victory; keep posting about that - I need the inspiration for my own stacks of stuff.

Amber (AmberPr) - Scary bear stories; understand the ambivalence about your big bear, but think I'd also feel safer if she wasn't around. Kudos for cutting up all your veggies for the weekend.

Alma (Alma4343) - Kudos for avoiding movie popcorn - truly one of life's non-necessities. I don't have any insights into tired being associated with weight loss. Good luck tracking that down.

MaryContrary - I, too, am inspired that you're addressing your "whole being" in preparation for writing your thesis. Kudos for starting your journey with such perspective. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - day 35
Get Ready to Weigh In

After you weigh yourself, calculate the change in your weight, place a dot on the weight-loss graph, and connect the dots. Contact your diet coach to tell him or her how much your weight changed. If you've lost a half pound or more, great! If you haven't, don't get discouraged. Just remember to review your eating plan with your diet coach if it turns out that you've stayed the same weight or gained weight for two weeks in a row.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 236.

08-22-2010, 07:53 AM
:welcome: MaryContrary :welcome:

And, in honor of your first posts on 3 Fat Chicks, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the Judith Beck books?

And how did you find the Beck Forum here at 3farchicks?

08-22-2010, 11:58 AM
I guess I compensated fine for the treat at the Farmers Market since I hit another new low this morning. Credit (and gratitude) for being willing to approach the problem in that way instead of giving up for the day.

WI: -0.05kg (new low), Exercise: +60 1265/1800 minutes for August, Food: 75%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

welcome, MaryContrary!

Lexxiss: yay for picking cucumber/tomato salad over cookies!

new2me2: congrats on the scale moving down in significant ways and for fitting into old jeans! Great job on the decluttering!

seadwaters: you could be right about my body being physiologically more willing to let go of the weight more quickly. I've been mostly thinking that it's getting better at the Beck skills of having a plan and following it and not allowing hunger to be an emergency. And, maybe especially, getting right back on plan after slips and sometimes even compensating like I did yesterday for things going off plan. Practicing those skills have really made them come more and more easily to me, so that I'm applying them more and more often. But, I'll take an accompanying physiological response any time!

Alma4343: I have periodic bouts of fatigue and attribute some to lowered calories. Like everything else with weight loss, just when I think I've figured it out, something changes and I'll experience low-calorie, high-energy days.
This may well not apply to you, but I've been realizing that I have certain habits of tiredness just like I used to have habits of overeating. I'll say to myself in the late afternoon "I'm so tired" and then go on to over an hour of exercise and another hour prepping supper. In the past, I know that I've been so tired that those two things weren't possible. How tired am I really? So, I'm starting to try to parse "I'm so tired" -- sometimes it means I'm thirsty, sometimes it means my eyes are dry, sometimes it means I need to stretch. It doesn't always mean that I'm tired, just like "I'm so hungry" didn't always mean that I was hungry.

BillBlueEyes: the dancing sounds like a blast -- and so did the lemonade stand!

08-22-2010, 12:12 PM
Hey everybody!
Hope you're having a great day.

All this talk of organizing got to me. Yesterday I must have spent 4 hours reorganizing my computer files, looking for a new desktop wallpaper, and installing virus protection. I was glad to get some of it done, but the new wallpaper was a bit of a joke. I was looking for a particular wallpaper without any luck for hours -- UPDATE: Just Spent another half hour looking for something serviceable and found a site I like. The things we obsess on!

Eating yesterday wasn't too bad. I never did get around to cutting up the veggies, but I did roast 2 pounds of green beans for a small dinner get-together. They were de-lish! Went out and listened to music afterwards (my husband is in a local band) and only had a glass and a half of wine - didn't even feel like had to finish it. Danced just one time, but had a lot of fun!

DH set me up with a t.v viewing option. As some of you may recall, my Tivo's hard drive went by-by and I've been without summer reruns for the past 3-4 weeks. (It actually hasn't been all that bad.) When I was out of town he had me swing into Best Buy to get a thing that will allow me to not only watch the programing froom the downstairs t.v., but also contol it, so I can change the channels and record programs as I like. The downside is that both t.vs will have to watch the same program. So far I'm good with that because I know last winter I watched an awful lot of CSI. :dizzy:

Today I need to start my plan out for next week. I'm sick of hovering around 200 and this is a good week to do it. No traveling, no PMS, just straight plan.
Food Plan, jogging, weight/floor work.

:cheer2: It's early yetÖ.

Drank a glass of tea
Had protein in my breakfast
Checked in with you all
Found that desktop wallpaper
Planning to plan:Write:

Gardenerjoy: Love a good grilled cheese sandwich. Congrats on the new low! What's working the best for you?

MaryContrary: Welcome to the group. There's tons of support here. I'm up for the buddy thing!

Lexxis: That is one heck of a tunnel! Great job on the cookies.

New2me2: Wow! 5% is awesome - You are doing great! I love the idea of a charm bracelet for hitting goals.

Maryblu: Hope you had a great "Day off" with your little "Beckie Weckie." :book2:

Seadwaters: I love when the scale goes back down quickly - then I know it's something less sinister then actual fat.

Alma: Busy day yesterday! Sounds like fun. A couple of weeks ago I had a worn-out tired couple of days myself (sleeping 14 hours a day - including naps). It was right after I increased my protein/calories and the weight dropped off. I think my body was recuperating too. You'll have to let me know what your results are.

BillBE: Looks like you found a new trigger. Watch out for those little cutie-pies! Sounds like you had a great evening.

Talk to you all later! Have a great Beck Day!

08-22-2010, 01:46 PM
Good morning coaches/buddies!

It's a gloriously sunny Sunday morning here! My low weight from yesterday held this morning, yay! :)

Credit for successfully de-junking the coffee table and the counter. Today's goal is to dejunk the end table next to the couch (LOL!) and to organize the piles of exercise DVDs on the floor by the TV. I don't expect either one of those to take long...they're not in that bad of shape really. I think it's helping to focus on very small areas instead of trying to organize a whole room at once which is what I usually try to do and usually get overwhelmed and do nothing instead, lol. I'm finding that a couple of small areas can really make a difference.

Got home too late to do WIO last evening, and I haven't done anything yet today, but I will definitely do something as soon as I finish here.

maryblu I've watched a few episodes of biggest loser and they use percentage, and that was the first I'd heard of it, but yes, it's a much better way to go I think!

seadwaters(Cheryl) Ha, yes, my day today will also include making my lunches/meals for the coming week. CONGRATULATIONS on being down 2.7 pounds! As for the charms...I'm still working on the ones I bought in today I think a little eskimo and a bear. :)

Alma4343 Sounds, indeed, like you had a great day in Seattle! Lots of credits too! Yay! Hum, re the fatigue...I've certainly had that extreme fatigue as well. In fact, had it a few weeks ago. I never really did figure out why, but it seems to have left.

BillBlueEyes Kudos for passing up all those grazing ops! Oh, you reminded me that I wanted to pick up some balsamic vinegar yesterday! Dang, lol! Cute lemonade story! :)

gardenerjoy YAY on another new low!!!!

AmberPr Ummm, roasted green beans sound so very delicious! Glad the TV situation has found a solution.

08-22-2010, 04:33 PM
DH and I just got back from a 3-day conference. The state fair was going on at the same time so we did make it over there in the evenings to hang out with the rowdies. We had a great time. Food was OK, but not great. No big eating mis-haps, just little extras here and there that add up to weight gain in the long run. But Iím back on the Beck wagon now. Iíve got a fridge full of veggies and I actually wrote out a food plan. Iím going back to some stricter rules just to enforce some discipline on my eating.

Iím celebrating the first zucchini Iíve picked this year! Somethingís been munching all my other plants, but apparently they donít like zucchini.

Welcome MaryContrary! Sounds like you have a full plate with writing a dissertation, but kudos for recognizing that you need to take care of yourself in order to get it done.

Lexxiss, I love the Eisenhower Tunnel! Great job avoiding munching your way through a long drive.

New2me2, yay for pulling on a pair of jeans that used to be too tight! You do deserve another charm for that one! Great job on all the de-cluttering. Thatís my project for the day.

Maryblu, yay for using your forced night off for digging into the green book! I know itís never easy for you to put away your dancing shoes. Hope thereís some good music in your neck of the woods soon!

Seadwaters, itís always so much easier for me to stay OP when my kitchen is well-stocked with good food. Kudos for getting to the Farmers Market and stocking up. Congrats on a drop in the scale!

Alma4343, kudos for skipping the popcorn at the movies. Itís always hard to resist when you walk in the door and the smell of popcorn hits full-force. Ouch for the fatigue. I hope you get some answers from your doc.

BillBE, yay for dancing all night and skipping the grazing opportunities! I love the lemonade story. I think it may be the one legitimate excuse for going off plan.

Gardenerjoy, kudos for finding a sane way to compensate for a food indulgence and its great to hit a new low as a reward!

AmberPr, mmm, roasted green beans. I was just telling a meat-and-potatoes man this weekend that veggies can be so delicious if cooked right. Kudos for sticking to a glass and a half of wine. Realizing you donít have to finish the glass is sign of progress.

08-22-2010, 07:55 PM
Life is sooooo good...well, *ahem...'cept for a minor detail called my total out of whack mindset, behavior...I do great all day, then BLOW it all the old days..the old, old days..before my 80 # loss. Am hopeful about today..will report back to my Beck coaches.

Amazing great summer day. It was forecast to be unbearably hot, but it never went above 85, with a great breeze. Lovely gardening day. I weeded the weeds. Yup, I did. I weeded the weeds, otherwise known as my vegetable garden..or one of them..the one with tomatoes, beets, cucumbers, peppers. *sigh. I have been through all 9 of my flower gardens two, three times..not so with the veggies..they have to fend for themselves and out compete the weeds..that hasn't been working out too well.

Came in for a bit of supper only to find a Jimmy Buffet concert on TV..hard to walk out on *that!

Lexxiss, thanks so much for the skunk smell recipe. I bookmarked it for future reference.. Feels good just having if I have it, I will never need it..the same way I carry the snowstorm emergency kit in my car all winter; if I have it, I will never need it.

Alma4343, our dads sound alot alike! Loved your dad's wisdom on dad was a bit practical and down to of his favorites about partying too hard was, "If you're gonna be out barkin' with the big dogs, don't whine like a puppy the next day". Great truth to that!

Re: fatigue..dunno what it's like in Seattle for mosquitoes and ticks, but this time of the year I always wonder about Lyme Disease (ticks) and West Nile virus (mosquitoes).. the other logical suspect is doc told me that with we wimmen of a certain age, it is very common..*sigh, I was tested..NOT the culprit with my wt. gain. *That I can find blame for by looking in the mirror!

I just realized Jimmy Buffet is pretty buff! All that island living, apparently.

BillBE, what a touching story about the little girl and the lemonade stand. I can only imagine how much you must anticipate the joys of grandfatherhood. Am surprised but glad to hear you did not stay at the stand waiting for the explanation of the dime..."it's smaller than a nickle, but..."

AmberPR, will hold a good thought for you this week as you approach onederland..what a great, joyous #!!! I know, I know, I always preach, it's just a #...but still, *this is quite the number!

Sorry, guys, gotta go..Margaritaville...the *Song, not the actual..!!!

08-22-2010, 09:06 PM
what a weekend. Ever wonder how it can feel so busy and yet at the end of it all not feel like much got accomplished? I did manage to get some vegetables harvested from the garden and am going to try my hand at canning. A little daunting, but I hate seeing all of that hard work go to waste, no way we can eat it all fresh.

Took the family to see an event at our fairgrounds to kick off the county fair. We have 2 other events we have committed to as well as a day for the kids to do rides. Oh my the smells! I will have to do some careful planning this week and some serious strengthening of my resistance muscles. I hope I am up to the challenge it is that TOM for me and it is gonna be a tough one.

kicking up the exercise this week! and will figure out how to post a ticker. ;-)

08-22-2010, 11:39 PM
Hi again MaryContrary, BillBlueEyes and Lexxis... :wave: and looking forward to meeting the rest of you!

I stumbled on this forum about a week ago and was so impressed I immediately ordered 2 of the books (the workbook and the green one). Cool to find out that Judith Beck is the daughter of Aaron Beck. The name sounded vaguely familiar, then I read in the intro that he's the inventor of Cognitive Therapy. :cool:

I'm an at-home mom; we just finished up 9 years of homeschooling (Kevin's off to a private school this fall). We were go-with-the-flow, arty-creative, hippy-dippy homeschoolers :lol: It was a great experience but it has been very hard to focus on my own health. Now I'll have time and energy to work on it. I'm excited to have found a group of people who are so focused on living well. That kind of attitude is contagious :D

I have a question about hunger. -- I'm a couple days into the pink workbook and I'm reading ahead. Day 12 has an exercise where you don't eat anything between breakfast and dinner. I think I will have to modify that because of hypoglycemia -- going that long without food would make me lightheaded to the point where I couldn't drive safely, operate heavy machinery etc :dizzy:

Do any of you have to deal with hypoglycemia? How does this affect sticking to your food plan?

Keep up the good work, Beck People :angel:

08-23-2010, 12:35 AM
Hello All,
I am resurfacing. I think I haven't been on here since July! My dh left for an 8 day trip today, and my eating gets squirrely when he's gone, so I decided to check in here. I also tracked my food today for the first time in a month. . .credit. Went to the gym, credit. Came here, credit.

I am still unemployed, but I have been making mosaics, and working on my blog and getting the business organized, while I keep an eye out for library jobs. I have a craft show on Saturday--fortunately it's just up the street and a friend is covering me for my lunch, and I can go home and eat something besides festival food.

I am looking forward to catching up on how everyone is doing!

08-23-2010, 06:46 AM
Hi Coaches
Another good day which makes me happy - no cravings and no real opportunities to stray (yet!). A bit stressful work-wise - just keeping up - but I am managing. Need to get organised for early start and taking food - it really shouldn't be this difficult as people battle far bigger problems!

BillBE - such a push over for a knock-out selling lemonade. And I am nor sure that exercise is meant to be enjoyed quite as much as all you dancing people seem to - you are supposed to suffer for your health I am sure. Hope you get to the Antipodes and spend lots of time here - one day I might even get to see it all.
Alma4343 - sorry you are so tired. It is always worth while to get these things checked out. But a change in diet and habits can bring it on. LOL having a movie with your popcorn - a good habit to break
BeverlyJoy - Yep - it is definitely about "getting better at the Beck skills of having a plan and following it and not allowing hunger to be an emergency. And, maybe especially, getting right back on plan after slips and sometimes even compensating like I did yesterday for things going off plan". And doing that consistently enough and in a practised way for long enough that you bring about change and make it habitual - huge kudos.
AmberPr - computer maintenance can be a real time waster - I am still trying to sort mine out and get it back EXACTLY as it was (minus the viruses and hard disk errors of course). Good luck with it
new2me2 - you are doing so well with the dejunking - I had a go at some of the kitchen cupboards over the weekend. And organised kitchen makes it all so much easier
Shepherdess - Yay for "No big eating mishaps" and for being back on the Beck bandwagon. It is a relief to get back on plan isn't it
Maryblu - You make summer sound so attractive. Hope you didn't blow it last night. You certainly have wonderful insight - how are you going to translate it into action?
newbebop - Canning? I am impressed. Let us know how it goes
Starling - Welcome - LOL at "hippy-dippy homeschoolers" - love it. I guess it is a bit of a clichť for home schoolers/ My neighbours homeschool - 10 children!! So I am familiar with the commitment. Sorry can't give any advice about hypoglycaemia.
Nuxmaga - Glad you posted. Sounds like you are making sensible plans re food. Hope you go well at the market. Nice to get back on track - credit you!

Progress - :df:
- I motivated myself by reading A&R cards - No
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
- Limit junk food to once per day - No junk food
- Made food plan - Yes
- Logged food soon after eating - Yes
- Food on-plan - Yes
- Ate seated every time - yes
- Ate mindfully & slowly & put down fork occasionally - Yes
- Weighed myself - Yes - down 0.7 pounds!
- Exercise - No

Working on - :running:
Still on lunches and being organised for dinners

Have a good day Beckies

08-23-2010, 06:54 AM
:welcome: Carol (Starling) :welcome:

And, in case you didn't get one of these two years ago when you joined, :wel3fc:

Neat that learned about Dr. Judith Beck when you "stumbled on this forum" - Yep, it's a supportive group all right.

08-23-2010, 06:58 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Dinner. Inside. With gazpacho. <sigh> . . . this fall-like weather seems inconsistent with the abundance of cucumbers and tomatoes that's making gazpacho possible. CREDIT moi for eating good food.

Snuck in a walk (CREDIT moi) between the rain and threats of rain. Made a point to stop in a store that sells Arctic Zero ice cream that only contains 36 calories per half-cup serving because it's made of whey protein. Yep, it's real, was in their freezer. Now I know where it is next time the ice cream cravings need servicing.

maryblu - Weeding nine flower gardens plus your veggie garden is one whole lot of weeding. Kudos for that much exercise. Perhaps the solution to your evening eating is to purchase a miner's headlamp so that you can keep going after dark until you just drop, LOL. Also LOL at the thought of the 6 year old explaining the size of the dime.

Margaret (Nuxmaga) - Kudos for using your time well to organize your business and produce your mosaics. Good idea to avoid that festival food - obviously the theme of the day on this thread.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - You remind me of Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, "New Low, New Low, it's off to work we go."

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for another good day. Hope the work stress stays under control. LOL at the notion that exercise means to "suffer for your health" - had forgotten that I used to believe that. Neat to be reminded that I know the word 'Antipods' - can't wait to get there.

Shepherdess - You did well to make it to the State Fair and not indulge in all the tempting smells. LOL at the thought of "hang out with the rowdies."

Donna (new2me2) - Kudos for breaking down your de-cluttering goals into small steps. I gotta remember that when facing my overwhelming stacks.

Amber (AmberPr) - Happy Geek day there - getting your computer files organized as well as rewiring your home TV network. Big Yay for two pounds of roasted green beans. And Kudos for not finishing a glass of wine - that's real sane thinking put to action.

newbebop - Do keep us informed on your canning progress. I've always wanted to try that, but never taken the steps.

Carol (Starling) - Congrats for completing nine years of home schooling. Must have been pretty successful since your DS was accepted into a private school. Sending supportive thoughts for both of you in making this rather major transition.

Yep, the hunger experiment isn't a good fit for hypoglycemia - I don't have any experience with that to offer any help. Glad you've joined us.

Readers - day 35
Get Ready to Weigh In

Consider carrying your weight-loss graph around with you to look at every so often to remind yourself of your progress. One dieter I worked with made a miniature version of her weight-loss graph on the back of a business card that she saw every time she opened her wallet. Looking at the graph made her think these positive thoughts to herself: Look what I've done! I love how the line on this graph keeps going down! I'm so proud of myself! It's totally worth everything I'm doing.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 236.

08-23-2010, 09:41 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Yesterdays' credits:
planned healthy for a potluck and stuck to it
rode my bike home from the potluck even though I didn't feel like it
no off plan snacking

I did change dinner plans; a friend showed up with two boxes of recently foraged wild mushrooms. It was a very special event and was worthy of celebration. We sauteed mushrooms, shared one King Salmon steak and had fresh tomatoes. *credit* for not overeating, and *credit* for thoroughly enjoying a healthy unplanned meal.

Carol (Starling) I did the hunger experiment when starting Beck, but I had been on my chosen food plan for over a year. Previously, I had drastic swings in my blood sugar level. I would shake uncontrollably and be sick if I didn't eat. My food plan eliminated all white sugar/white flour and my BS is very stable now. I have had several days where something happened and I didn't eat and did just fine. I don't think that really helps you regarding the hunger experiment, but might give a little insight into possibilities for stabilizing your hypoglycemia.

08-23-2010, 09:48 AM
OMG, Seadwaters:

"You certainly have wonderful insight - how are you going to translate it into action?"

You sound like my psychologist! And you certainly asked the right question. You are a GREAT Beck coach!

I know *what to do, just wondering why I am *not doing it. I think BillBE is onto it..a miner's headlamp so I can just keep going after dark.

Actually, took a nice swim ~dark last night, then talked to my sis and DBF on the phone for a lonnggg time..kept me pretty much in check.

Shaping up to be another great summer day here..too bad I have to work for a living. *sigh.

Have a great day, Beckies.

08-23-2010, 10:15 AM
Hi Beckfolks - well I finally have some answers to the latest 'saga' of my health stuff. I now know why skin started to ulcerate, etc. I had a toxic reaction to the rx ointment the dermatologist gave me. Any ointments closely related made my skin start to disinegrate. It got worse and worse became an explosion of injured skin. Now I am making progress in healing the ulcers and tyring to get the area healed. The doctor did a biopsy and culture. He says it's a very rare occurance. (I'd rather NOT be rare.)

But...I am feeling some better, it's starting to heal with 2 new meds., and I don't feel so frantic. It appears I won't have my ankle/food surgery until late September. The skin must be totally healed.

I've made plans for today - I am willing to try today. I've made my plans to follow and have my journal ready.

Thanks for thinking of me, missing me and wishing me well.

08-23-2010, 10:35 AM
My Richard Simmons Food Mover showed up. It's kind of like a game with little windows that you open in the morning, then close as you eat that portion. And it's purple! My favorite color. Yesterday was on plan except that I skipped a fruit serving.

I had an exciting development in the Wii Walk It Out game yesterday -- I collected all the songs! I've barely built any of the island because I decided I wanted the biggest collection of songs while doing it, so I went after them first and I completed my collection last night!

Another new low. After telling seadwaters it was all Beck skills, I'm pretty sure today that it's physiological because the Food Mover had me eating more food yesterday. I know that set points have been discounted by science, but my body seems a whole lot more willing to lose at some weights and stick at others.

WI: -0.25kg (new low), Exercise: +60 1325/1800 minutes for August, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Nuxmaga: great to see you! Excellent idea to buckle down the Beck habits on the day DH leaves town. I would struggle with that, too.

Starling: the hunger experiment mostly teaches that hunger is not an emergency. Which, in the case of hypoglycemia might actually not be true. I suggest that you focus instead on other skills like the written eating plan and habits like always making sure that you have an on-plan snack with you when you're out of the house. Those things really work for me and are more appropriate for your condition.

AmberPR: I really think what works best for me is posting here! Someone wrote here a few months ago that the group becomes a kind of Greek chorus in your head that encourages making better decisions throughout the day.

Hello to Shepherdess, maryblu, new2me2, seadwaters, BillBlueEyes, Lexxiss, and Beverlyjoy. I wanted to do more personals today, but the nephew is on his way for yardwork. Hope you all have a great day!

08-23-2010, 11:01 AM
Hi Coaches

I wanted to post before I ate my breakfast so I'm going to make this short:rofl:

I shopped last night according to a list for my foodplan which I am starting today (creditx2)

I already had a sabotaging thought:mad:

As I was cutting up my 1/2 a LARGE grapefruit, my :devil:brain said "There's no way you can keep this up" (I HAVEN'T EVEN STARTED YET!!!) and I told my :devil:brain "I only have to do this for today. I don't have to do this forever."
GeezLouise! Pre-breakfast, day 1. Wow.

I have a challenge today as well, as my friend and I are heading out to my brother's to discuss lighting options for our sculptural pieces at the festival on Sept 4th (my brother is an electronics genius) and my brother has been feeding me everytime I go out there. Last time: fried chicken and homemade potato chips and he sent me home with clam spaghetti in cream sauce (double cream he emphasized). But he does get the foodplan I am following as it is his go-to plan when he feels he needs to get his weight in line. It's all I really have to say, I just have to be willing to say it! I need to remember to flex my resistance muscle...which, hopefully, is not the same as my right rotator cuff which pains me these days.

That's it. Time for food.

My foodplan is offiically 2 weeks long. My goal is to follow it for the 14 days, use Beck to help me do that, report daily to my coaches and then re-assess.

Happy Monday Becksters...

UPDATE: arrived home after my visit with my brother. I DID NOT GO OFFPLAN (credit) in spite of being offered a "real juice drink" that looked enticing but was not on my plan for today. (credit) I am now patiently cooking my lunch which will have leftovers for tomorrow's lunch (a turkey breast). I'm hungry and it's later than I would like to have my lunch but HUNGER IS NOT AN EMERGENCY so I can wait. I made myself a coffee and put creamer in it, my only change to my foodplan ie. the creamer. I want the coffee so I NEED the creamer for now. credit for planning my changes to my foodplan so I don't have to feel bad about them thereby opening the door to overeat to feel better. ;)
It's all good.

UPDATE#2: Just had my lunch. Well worth the wait. Ate to fullness but feel very satisfied. Have resurrected my "no seconds" rule. So, in spite of the foodplan telling me I can have "unlimited x" I am altering that to "you can pile your plate sky high if you want with x, but you cannot go get seconds. NO CHOICE". I have found in the past that a plate can only hold so much; usually it's much less than *two* platefuls.

Also an observation: DH and I went grocery shopping at 10:30pm. I was already under the covers and could have stayed there to sleep the night away when DH said he wanted to go. Our rental car goes back Monday morning so DH wanted to get it done with the car. Now, I love car rides and I superlove grocery stores, but I was sleepy. Still. DH NEVER asks to go grocery shopping. I am always dragging him along and he rarely buys what he likes or needs. So at the 24hr store, at 11pm, I was *almost* completely uninterested in food but I had my shopping list and I easily stuck to it in spite of the abundant 2-for-1 deals that are a rare occurrence around here re:good deals. I really just didn't care (!) about food and DH was happily buying this and that for himself and today feels good he's stocked up on his favorite canned goods. This may be our shopping routine for the near future. It may become a behavioural rule even, nevertheless it was a remarkable experience for me. We left the store without even one snacky thing causing DH to ask if it'd be okay with me if we were to stop at the drugstore so he could get some snacky things there. So we stopped. I ended up with a snacky thing, the "last hurrah" before you start a new diet you know? But really it didn't de-rail me. credit.

Anyway, sorry to write a book here today. I'm mostly just grounding myself with words here and taking credit for following through on my plans. I even de-cluttered a bit. credit
So far, so good.

08-23-2010, 11:11 AM
Good morning coaches!

Weight is still holding, yay! :) I see the dentist today at 1.

The DVDs are organized and the end table de-junked. Today's goal is the floor next to the couch where a nice pile of papers has collected, lol. I kept it very light today because if the dentist pulls my tooth, I may not feel like doing anything except laying around with an ice pack. :D If he doesn't pull it, then I may do another area as well.

Exercise yesterday was weights with my fav DVD, then later in the evening 30 minutes of Walk It Out. Exercise today will depend on my tooth I think.

Shepherdess Great job on getting back on plan!

maryblu Hum, what you said about fatigue...I did have Lyme disease at some point (although it was never treated), but haven't really been bothered by it in a while, and sometimes I wonder if that isn't the reason I get so tired from time to time.

newbebop GOSH I know that feeling of feeling busy but getting nowhere, lol.

Starling WELCOME!!!! Nice to "meet" you! I don't have hypoglycemia although at one point it seemed like I very light headed and shakey and downright cranky if I didn't eat regularly, but testing didn't confirm that. It eventually went away. Wish I could give you some insight about that and the hunger experiment.

Nuxmaga Good to see you back, and great job for realizing you needed to check in when DH is gone!

seadwaters(Cheryl) Yay for a good day!!!

BillBlueEyes Great ice cream find!!! Whole Foods sells a coconut milk ice cream, which is very WW point friendly, and they actually have one of my favorite flavor combinations of all time...chocolate with peanut butter...fortunately for me ice cream is not one of my trigger foods. :D

Lexxiss Wow, very impressive unplanned healthy dinner!!!! Great job!

Beverlyjoy So happy you finally got those answers and are healing!

gardenerjoy CONGRULATIONS ON YOUR NEW LOW!!!! Your WIO post made me smile! Congratulations on getting all the took me a long time! I'm on my 5th island and my game strategy this time was to open all the routes, songs and time capsules first, although I still don't have all of any of them except the routes, lol.

08-23-2010, 12:07 PM
I was having a great Beck day yesterday, using that resistance muscle and sticking to my plan. . .until evening. It was too hot to go to bed and for some reason, I thought nibbling was the appropriate response.

I am taking credit for beginning to get my house in order. Itís so much easier to stick to my plan when the house isnít in chaos. Iíve made progress cleaning off my dining room table so I wonít have to sit there and look at stacks of books and mail while I eat. Iím also taking credit for getting in a weight workout yesterday. I havenít done weights in a while and am a bit sore this AM, but itís a good sore. Lets me know I did something.

Maryblu, that late night weakness is a killer. My resolve always plummets as soon as the sun begins to setóthatís going to be a problem now that the nights are getting longer. Kudos for getting all that exercise and liberating your vegetables from the weeds. Gardening is a lot of time and hard work. Iím so impressed with those that actually get it done.

Newbebop, if you got some veggies harvested and canned, Iíd say you got a lot accomplished! Best of luck at the fair. When we were at the fair, a friend knew one of the food vendor inspectors who had said not to eat fair food. Maybe that will help.

Welcome Starling! I love the ďgo-with-the-flow, arty-creative, hippy-dippy homeschoolers,Ē but it does sound like a lot of work. Kudos for taking care of your health now. I donít have hypoglycemia, but I do have a few thoughts. Maybe just fast as long as it is medically appropriate. You can learn to tolerate low levels of hunger, but not so much that it adversely affects your health. As far as the food plan goes, for all of us itís a matter of trial and error. We all have to find what works for us, and for you, hypoglycemia is just another part of the equation.

Nuxmaga, good to see you back here! Kudos for recognizing your dhís trip as a potential eating problem and checking in here. Great job finding a good solution to the craft-fair-food problem.

Seadwaters, I love those days when staying OP is effortless. For me, they are few and far between. Hope your work stress eases soon, but great job doing all the necessary planning for it. It is a lot to think about.

BillBE, yay for summerís continued bounty, even with early fall weather. I was worried last week that summer was over for us. We had some cool weather, but it got hot again. I hate the heat, but will take it because it doesnít last long.

Lexxiss, kudos for sticking to your plan at the potluck and for getting your biking in even though you didnít feel like it. Yay for the foraged mushrooms and for making it into a healthy celebration.

Beverlyjoy, glad you are figuring out your medical problems and your skin is starting to heal. Ouch that it has delayed your surgery. Your attitude is so inspiring! Itís great that with all of this going on, you are still making a great Beck effort.

Gardenerjoy, itís great that youíve found a fun way to track food and get some exercise. It seems like the games are a great way to keep the diet fun and interesting.

Onebyone, great job giving that sabotaging thought a kick out the door. Taking it one day at a time is a great strategy. Best of luck with your brother. Itís great that he understands what you need to do.

New2me2, yay for your weight still holding. Hope all goes well at the dentist today, but kudos for taking that into consideration.