100 lb. Club - #171 - Time To Get Tough

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10-09-2002, 11:58 AM
Friends, it's been a long time since I've started a # thread but I really felt the need to bring attention to this issue and starting a new thread seemed like the best way.

I posted on the 'where's BA thread' and some of it was along the idea of how busy we all get and so on and so forth. So after I logged off the computer I go downstairs and I'm on my exercise bike and it occurs to me what a big pile of steaming you know what that excuse is. I am doing the typical woman thing in that I am putting everyone's needs before my own. Next thing you know I'll be 80 years old and still weighing what I weigh now.

Now I know that my baby, my husband, my work are important things. But are they more important than my own health and peace of mind? Can I be a good mom, wife, nurse if I feel like cr@p all the time because of my weight?

I've been waffling around this for ages. I lose a bit and then gain it back. I'm not really putting a lot of oomph into my efforts into losing weight. I play at being serious, I have my journal out and buy exercise tapes but until I am using that journal all the time and actually using the tapes I'm just pretending at being serious. Even coming to this site and being supportive and doing challenges and so on is really just all talk and no action.

Okay I'm kind of getting lost in all of this. I think I'm trying to say that it is time to 'sh!t or get off the pot' as my mother's favourite saying goes. We are getting to that dangerous time of year...Halloween, Thanksgiving, Xmas and you know that we all gain weight during the winter with all these occassions that of course demand food.

Look, there are a few here that are losing weight but I think a lot of us are just waffling around. We need some serious kicks in the @ss to get us going. Maybe I am just speaking for myself here, this is how I feel about my efforts to lose weight. I'm making a ton of excuses why I can't get serious, the baby, my job, my husband.

Dyan, kudos to you for getting up at 4am to workout. That is a serious committment. this is what we need to be doing.

I ran into a girl at work who in the year I've been off on maternity has lost about 80 lbs. she just cut back on eating and started walking. Nothing difficult, nothing fancy just a serious committment to losing weight. She looks unbelievably great. It can be done, it can be done without bells and whistles. Let's just get down to it and do it!

10-09-2002, 12:48 PM
I am with you 100%. I too have been waffling, all talk and no action. On Monday I started, and have been doing just what that girl did. Sensable eating. But I also am looking for a kick in the butt if I don't keep it together. We need to be supportive, but a little tough love might be in order too.

I'm with ya Jen - 100%

10-09-2002, 01:33 PM
Jen and Sandi,

I agree wholeheartedly. I've been waffling so long, it messes with my confidence to finally DO IT. "Yeah, right" the voice in my head says when I determine that THIS TIME I'm gonna do it.

I appreciate the tough love you have for yourself. I'm sort of on a roll as this this forum is a NEW thing for me. However, I'm trying to prepare myself to fend off the excuses when they come.

Someone said to me one time, "Overeating is a problem that tells you that you don't have a problem." That's what I try to remember when the lies start talking to me.

I've even caught myself hiding eating from my husband like I used to do when I was a kid with my parents. I want to confess that crazy behavior right now! What that tells me is that I've made it about pleasing my husband, not about taking care of myself. I can't hide the sneaky eating from my HIPS or from my HEART!

So much of this process and journey requires shining a light on the lies and the excuses. We shouldn't be mean to ourselves, but we have to be honest.

So, I'm up for a kick in the butt when I need it. You have my permission!


10-09-2002, 02:25 PM

First let me say ~ THANK YOU!!! You said what I've been feeling for quite sometime. I could never have said it as nice as you did. You should see my journal! I marked it private, because I know tons of people would have been very upset. I was in a mood and I was fustrated. I had heard way too many excuses for one day. I thought "that is the lamest excuse". I should know, I excuse'd myself to 312 pounds!! NO MORE EXCUSES. I thought, what? eating right (whatever that may be for some), drinking your water and trying to get in exercise, shouldn't be that hard. Of course there are times, when we aren't 100%, maybe not even 65%, but at least TRY. Getting up at 4 am is definitely no picnic, but it appears that that's what I gotta do, if I am going to lose this weight. Trust me, there have been times when I wanted to reach into this computer and shake the person that posted :D , but I don't. I try to be supportive, because I know that some people are more sensitive than others. But see, now that people have given me permission to kick them in the tail when they need it, look out :s: !! I may have to change my "senior member" status to "Tail kicker" :lol: . My mother is a good example. If I have to hear about how she needs to lose weight one more time, I just may kick her ~ literally. I've been hearing this for years. I've offered to walk w/ her (as she only lives upstairs from me), I've offered to give her exercise videos, I've offered, and offered and offered. But yet she does NOTHING, it's one excuse after another. I just want to tell her to shut up about it, until she REALLY wants to do it and then I'd be more than willing to be there for/with her. Alas, there is nothing I can do, but move forward with my own efforts. If that's being selfish, then so be it. I strongly believe that our weight loss efforts should be THE number one priority. When we're happy, then those around us can only be happier.

10-09-2002, 02:46 PM
I'm glad that people are taking this in the way that I intended it. I don't want to offend anyone but I think we all need a huge reality check here. For a lot of us what we are doing just isn't working even though we think that we are doing what we can to lose weight. The plain and simple fact is that we probably aren't. If you do think that you are putting in 100% of yourself then this isn't applying to you. When I saw that Dyan was getting up at 4 am to exercise and I posted on the other thread 'oh I could never do that' combined with some other stuff that I've been reading and thinking about I realized that I've been really lame about all this and then wondering why I am gaining weight. Well I think I can figure it out really easy.

So I went out to lunch with my friend and despite what I posted in #170 I pigged out big time. Can you go to a Chinese buffet and not pig out?? Big mistake picking that place on today of all days. When I got there I decided that I would let myself go and eat what I wanted and that was sort of a 'last supper' for me. I'm so full right now I'll probably have carrot sticks for dinner and still make my points. Talking about pigging out what does everything define pigging out as? Let me tell you what I had and you can tell me if it was pigging out or not. A bowl of hot and spicy soup with 2 breadsticks, 2 plates of food consisting of: 3 meatballs, 2 chicken balls (I didn't eat the breading, it was quite yucky), 8 garlic spareribs, about a cup and 1/2 of fried rice, 3 mussles, 1/2 cup breaded mini shrimp, 4 pieces of lemon chicken strips, 1/4 cup really fine noodles, brocolli, 2 very tiny squares and a small dish of chocolate ice cream with syrup and m&m's. that to me is definately pigging out, your definition might be different. we saw a guy walk by with his plate heaped up about 4 inches but then my friend could see him eating and said he ate like a pig too. so that was my last pig out, I'm walking the straight and narrow from now on. Can any of you WW'ers give a guess as to how many points that would be? I'm thinking about 20 points or so.

I realize the huge contradiction here. In the first bit I am talking about making excuses and then I got out and eat a huge lunch. that was definately a last hurrah. I knew when I was eating it that was going to be it for feeling like a beached whale after a meal. It was actually a good thing because I really wanted to have lunch with my friend, we had a good time talking, I ate as I pleased and drank tons of water. If the guy hadn't kept filling the glasses every 5 seconds I would have a better count of how much I drank. I'm going to count it as 32 oz though I think it was probably more than that.

Okay so I've probably written enough today, time to get my rear in gear. I bought a 'yoga for dummies' tape that I've heard is a good workout so I want to try it out.

Take care all.

10-09-2002, 02:59 PM
Jen~ Just read your comments from #170, and let me tell ya...it ain't easy..... I'm usually up until DH gets home. We spend some time talking about our day, what the kids did, what we need to do the next day, etc.... So it's usually around 11:30pm that I get to go to sleep and trust me! as SOON as my head hits that pillow, I am OUT. There are days that I feel so bad for DH (he wants to do what? when?? :o ). Sorry babe, sleep is way more important at the moment. Luckily he's VERY understanding.

People are always asking me how I do it. Take care of 3 kids, age 3 and under....I tell them by the grace god, a good husband and ear plugs!! Kaleigha the 7 month old, was a total surprise! I took clomid to conceive the first 2. So imagine my surprise, when Lucas was 4 months old, to find out I was 5-6 weeks pregnant. :eek: :yikes: . At first I just shook my head :no: , then I started to cry :cry: "a little". Then I called DH into the room to show him the test. While he was doing that I was checking out the box/ the wrapper, anything....because I just KNEW it had to be BROKEN. AHA!! The test had expired :stress:, whew . DH dashed out the door to buy another test. He came back, I did what I had to...and 2 VERY dark lines (as the first one showed to faint lines)showed up immediately, then I completely lost it! I was laughing so hard, I nearly peed myself :lol: . DH was looking at me like I crazy. Between giggles, I was like, it's either laugh or cry! Okay...how I got on this subject, I don't know. I do have a tendency to ramble.....Needless to say, I wouldn't change a thing! :smug:

10-09-2002, 03:26 PM
After having one myself I truly believe that a baby is a blessing. I wish I had started having babies a long time ago. I just thank goodness that I did have one, I would have missed out on so much. I'm not saying that everyone is cut out to be parents or that your life is incomplete if you don't have a child but they really do add something special to you life.

10-09-2002, 03:35 PM
Originally posted by Jen
Talking about pigging out what does everything define pigging out as? Let me tell you what I had and you can tell me if it was pigging out or not. A bowl of hot and spicy soup with 2 breadsticks, 2 plates of food consisting of: 3 meatballs, 2 chicken balls (I didn't eat the breading, it was quite yucky), 8 garlic spareribs, about a cup and 1/2 of fried rice, 3 mussles, 1/2 cup breaded mini shrimp, 4 pieces of lemon chicken strips, 1/4 cup really fine noodles, brocolli, 2 very tiny squares and a small dish of chocolate ice cream with syrup and m&m's.
Wow. When I go to the Chinese Buffet, I try & have 2 bowls of hot & sour soup & an eggroll. Maybe 2 eggrolls. It's VERY hard to do. Especially when they have crab rangoons. :(

BTW, what are 2 very tiny squares????

10-09-2002, 04:40 PM
Originally posted by SuchAPrettyFace
BTW, what are 2 very tiny squares????

Like dessert squares, they were about 1" square. So I guess you are saying that was a definate pig out?

Just finished the yoga tape. I'll tell you that it isn't a practice that will cause you to sweat like crazy but my muscles are feeling it. It is hard work to keep good posture and stay in the poses. I liked it. :)

10-09-2002, 05:33 PM
Waffling is my MIDDLE name!!!

I am seriously serious. I have had 2 complete OP days in a row with EXERCISE. Yes, I said exercise. It may be too early to say, but I really think I have my motivation and determination. I am angry..and am going to use that emotion to my benefit.

I am with you.
I can hear you.

And am going there too!

10-10-2002, 11:07 AM

I am so glad to hear that more and more of us are really starting to get serious about our weight loss efforts. We knew coming in that it wasn't going to be easy, that it was going to be a grand journey with low valleys and high peaks. The motivation comes and goes, and hopfully comes back. For every we excuse we make, we are really only hurting ourselves. Why do we hurt ourselves? Don't really know. Especially now w/ the holidays approaching, we need to buckle down and do whatever it may take, go get where we want to be.

I want to be 75 pounds lighter by the end of the year. Need to lose 27.5 more pounds to get there, That's a little over 2 pounds a week. And ya know what.....:sssh: it's a secret.......come closer....:listen: I AM GOING TO DO IT!!! I have the drive and determination to get where I want to be. Come **** or high water, mark my words.....I WILL DO IT. (It's now in black & white, so there's no turing back).

10-10-2002, 11:26 AM
W O W - I want your attitude Dyan! You can only win with thinking like that :)


10-10-2002, 11:47 AM
GOD I NEEDED THIS POST!!! thankyou thankyou thankyou. I've been having a great pity party here and to all who suffered through my earlier post, thanks. I recently cleaned out the bookshelves and found what I believe to be every book ever written on the subject of weight loss. If reading about weight loss was aerobic exercise, I'd be thin as a rail. The bottom line for me is that I want to have my cake and eat it, too. Losing weight DOES require some sacrifice. Sure on WW you can have cheesecake...but you pay for it elsewhere. That's the reality that I don't want to accept. Ah well..thanks again for the kick in the rear--it got me moving in the right direction!!


10-10-2002, 12:00 PM
Ok Dyan...you've inspired me. My walking has been terrible, never any time. I've always said "what do you want me to do get up at 4:30 am and do it?!?!?!" Ok, if you can, I can too. Here it is in black and white.

Starting Monday I will get up @ 4:30 and walk. OMG!! There it is in black and white!! :D

10-10-2002, 12:52 PM
YAY SANDI!!! You can do it girl!! Like I said, the trick is NOT to think about it. Just get dressed in whatever your gonna work out in, put the video on or walk out the door (which you are doing). I always rewind the tape when I'm done, so I just have to turn it on. Then while it's going through the whole FBI: WARNING, I get my water and whatever I can do or get done before it stats. The first 5 minutes, I'm still half asleep, but man, by the time I'm done, I feel awesome. Knowing that I'm doing what it takes, to reach my goal.

I'm rooting for all of us! Dana and Barb, ya know what it takes, so let's do this together, that's why we're here right? oooohhhh Dana, it's tough love time.....I noticed that you haven't been going to your weigh-ins, because your afraid to see a gain. It's time to be accountable for our actions. TOM is right around the corner, and I totally hate to weigh in when it's TOM, but I do it anyway....why? because I have to be accountable. Although last month I still saw a loss, right smack in the middle.

Okay....now see what cha'll did? Ya went and opened a can of worms, or should I say "whup ***". Ya'll had to go and give me permission to keep tail. :devil:

I hope everyone has one of the best day's ever! Sandi I'll be looking for your post regarding your early morning work outs!


10-10-2002, 12:58 PM
Wow Dyan!!!! You are one motivated woman on a mision! I know that you will make your goal! You keep up the can-do attitude.
Dana, Dyan is right! You can do this. Don't be afraid of the scale. Don't give up now! Besides, you don't want Dyan coming after you! I sure know that I don't.
Sandi, Keep on chugging! You can get up at 4:30 and exercise!

10-10-2002, 01:34 PM
I'm estatic to see everyone fired up. This is what we really needed.

I'm having a really great day, I've got so much accomplished already today. Tomorrow I'm back at work and that will be the real test to see if I can stick with it while I'm at work. I can do it! I've got to do it that's the plain and simple truth.

10-10-2002, 01:44 PM
Denise, you cracked me up! I think it was because your right. If ya'll lived closer I may have to knock on some doors :jig: , hehe. I think it's human nature to want to go through things w/ someone. Whether it be happy times or sad times. You know the saying....Misery loves company! Well, I think that applies to everything, not just misery. When your on a roll, you want someone to be on a roll with ya. Ya know?

Jen~ I agree, it's so great to see the excitement come back into people. To see their motivation and their drive. I'll be thinkig about you tomorrow, knowing that you are doing what you need to.

10-10-2002, 02:50 PM
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!!!!!

3rd Completely OP day for me. Going to fill up on my water right now.

You all rock!!!

10-10-2002, 03:25 PM
Hello all,

Dyan--I can relate to the 4 kids but not under 2 years. Mine are 9, 5,5,7 mo. My little girl is doing the same thing your baby is doing. She is trying to crawl but kicks those feet up under her and sticks that butt straight in the air. She did something new yesterday. She was sitting in her car seat and rolled over and pulled herself up to her knees and sat there and smiled. It was so cute. She sat that way for the longest time just holding herself there. My baby is growing up to quickly.

The first 5 year old is in preschool and will actually only turn 5 on the 21st. She is so stubborn. She has a whole closet full of clothes and looks at me and says "I can't find anything to wear". That really drives me crazy.

The other 5 year old is in Kindergarten he is my other pride and joy. He is my child along with the baby. The other 2 are my step kids but I love them just like my own. Now the 5 year old has a personality that swings from happy one minute to anger the next. I have to watch him carefully. But he has no problems at school. He loves it and his teacher hasn't had any problems with him. I think he is very jealous of his sister the other 5 year old. She just moved in a year ago. She is invading his territory. I trieed to make the adjustment as easy as I could for her and him but they are always fighting.

The 9 year old is in 3rd grade. She is a joy to have around. She is going through the confusing time right now because she wants to be with her mom and her dad all the time. She is with us all the time and her mother twice a month. She is really blossoming into a young lady already. She takes on alot of responsibilities. She likes to do laundry and vaccumming. I wish that would stay like that so I would not have to fight later in life on it.

Now I deffinetly don't have the energy you have. Going to work full time and coming home and being a mom full time. I never have time for myself. I try to make it and something always comes up. Well I have rambled enough.

Jenniffer--I am glad to see you using your anger for good. Keep up the good work. I am routing for you.

10-10-2002, 03:49 PM
Everyone, it is wonderful to see so much motivation & determination. I'm a firm believer that there is NOTHING we can't do if we'd only put our mind to it!!! We have to make a decision & then act on it. Not just think about it, but actually decide to do it & take the plunge! Just reading all these posts has helped me make my resolve for myself stronger.

I am committed to getting these pounds OFF!!! I am committed to becoming a healthier, stronger woman who is in control of her eating!!!! :strong:

Thanks for the kick in the arse, Jen. It is just what a lot of us needed :)

10-10-2002, 04:18 PM
Man, Icewoman! We have alot in common. My step daughter is also 9, but we get her every other weekend. She lives w/ her mother (But she's a whole nother ball of wax). Adriana, wants to help out with the kids, but sometimes, she's just not as helpful as she thinks she is. She'll change a diaper and then just leave it on the floor or wherever she changed it. As far as cleaning goes....forget about it. She left this past weekend w/o making her bed. I hate that, because now I have to look at it while she's gone. Now I could make it, but then that's not teaching her anything. She's an only child at her mom's then she comes to her dad's and she's the oldest of 4. I do take pride in the fact that my kids love each other very much. The other day Lucas (1 1/2) was climbing all over Cheyenne (3 1/2) and she just sat there taking it. Finally I told him to stop. She smiled at me and said "It's okay mommy, he does it cause he loves me." That just melted my heart. Then I thought, yeah, we'll see how long that lasts.

Okay, I think someone smacked me with a "silly" stick today. I've been singing and dancing all day. Could the exercise really be giving me this much energy? If so, cool. But I have a feeling that when I get home I'm gonna crash and burn! Ah well.....I'll take it while it lasts.

Jenniffer, you go gggrrrllll!!! 3 days and counting.....

10-10-2002, 04:50 PM
Originally posted by Jen
So I guess you are saying that was a definate pig out?
Hey, I'm not here to judge. Like I said, I **try** to stick to soup & eggrolls. Then the cheapskate in me thinks, Screw this, I paid $7 for the buffet, I'm gonna eat as many crab rangoons as I can. It's $5 for 4 of them!

My friend & I usually get together & pig out quite often. (Doritos, baby quiches from Sam's Club, desserts, etc) She's lost 30# & I've lost 40, so we're going to try & be good tonight--having salmon, rice & green salads. Then we'll go for a walk around her block--up a big hill & down it in this crazy city.

Good luck to everyone!!!!

10-10-2002, 05:30 PM
Tamara -

I know what you mean, I work full time and have little Jacob. Now I know you feel as if you have no time. But if I said I'll give you $100.00 every time you work out for 30 minutes. How many days a week do you think you'd get it done. 5...7? The money would make it worth it. Tamara, YOUR worth it!! Exercise gives you MORE energy to deal with your day. Can you find 15 minutes twice a day? Even 15 minutes once a day would be better than none. :D

10-10-2002, 08:00 PM
Man, what a GREAT THREAD! I am the original Queen of Excuses :queen: , so I definitely needed that kick in the a-double-s!

My mom's favorite saying: "If you'd spend as much time just DOING it as you do *****ing about it, you'd be done already." Ain't that the truth? :D

10-10-2002, 09:39 PM
Here I thought having 1 child was rough!! BTW I need to ask a question about bowel movements, anyone grossed out might want to move along. Drake has been having very soft, almost loose yellowish stools about 5-6 times a day in the past couple of weeks. Not always does he have that many but they are still very soft and yellow. I thought at first it was because of his cold but he's been over that for over a week. He's started on milk over a month ago, no formula at all. He's eating a wide variety of foods. My initial thought was that he was getting too much milk/yogurt. Now after looking through the internet a bit I am wondering if he's had some kind of intestinal flu. He's had no other symptoms except for the past couple of days where he's been a bit cranky but he is teething. He keeps chewing on his fingers all the time, particularly in the afternoon. He seems very healthy otherwise, not dehydrated at all. I'm still concerned about these bm's as he was quite regular before. Any thoughts or opinions? If it hasn't cleared up by Monday I"m taking him to the dr for sure.

10-10-2002, 09:55 PM
I had a somewhat similar problem with my son at one point. He had had some type of flu and was left with very light bowel movements - lighter than yellow (how technical can I get?). His doctor said it was some effect on his liver from the flu, gave him something for it and situation promptly reversed. Said it was something that could have caused damage long term.

Don't mean to be scary and don't remember all the details anymore. Just think you'd be right to take him to dr if there's no improvement soon. Doesn't take much for the little bodies to be thrown off.

10-11-2002, 10:59 AM
When Cheyenne was teething, she had loose stool that many times a day. I couldn't tell you how many sets of clothing I went through a day. I can't remember the coloring of it though.

At the begining of the year, Lucas was sick. He had the temp, and all. We took him the ER due to loose bright yellow stool and they thought he had some type of virus. They took the test and they couldn't anything. Said it was a stomach virus. Plus, let me add, he was puking everywhere.

So I'm gonna say, call your doc if your seriously concerned, but I'm guessing it could be from teething.

10-11-2002, 11:21 AM
Goodmorning and TGIF! Rainy and dark Friday here. I am not sure why, but I love when it rains. I'd prefer a rainy day over a sunny day. Hmmmm. Should I analyze it? lol

I am doing okay. Peeked at the scale this morning and saw no change. So I started to get a little discouraged. BUt, after 3 days of being OP, what in the world was I expecting? I feel better, eating OP and getting in some exercise. That is what matters. I vow not to weigh again till next Friday.

Busy busy weekend planned for me. I have 5 birthdays to celebrate this weekend. $$$$$$ My neice Ariana, out in Cali turns 1 today. I can't believe it's been a year. My sister told me the other day that she is starting to throw temper tamptrums already. She began walking when she came home last month, but now she's running around. She said that when Ariana doesn't get her own way, she will just drop to the floor, begin to scream and cry like she is hurt or something. And she's only 1! My sister is in for it!!!! I really wish they would move back home to NY, maybe someday.

Have a great OP weekend everyone. Stay strong and smile!!!

10-11-2002, 01:07 PM
Thanks for the info ladies. The ladies at daycare also think it is from teething but I am taking him to the dr on Tuesday if the situation is still the same. Better safe than sorry.

10-13-2002, 05:28 AM
Jen, maybe it's a guy thing, but your buffet eating i thought was reasonably controlled. Now, I can tell you about pigging out. I would have ate at least three full plates of food, no dessert probably, and no soup either.
you ate soup, so that would fill you up. I think bearing in mind it was buffet that you came out reasonably okay.

I can eat and eat, however over the past year my appetite has waned a little , esp for dessert, but unfortunately my waist line ain't decreased.

Don't torture yourself over it, you enjoyed it, it was with your friend, life will go on!!!!

10-14-2002, 07:27 AM
I did it!! Up at 4:30 am and walked a mile on my treadmill. Let me tell you, when that alarm went off - pretty early. But now I feel good. If anything it's motivation to work out at night so i don't have to get up this early!!! :D

10-14-2002, 09:25 AM
What a marvelous way to start your week!

10-14-2002, 10:15 AM
I was thinking about you this morning Sandi!! So glad you did it. You may find over time, that it's very invigorating to get get and get your exercise out of the way. You've already given your metabolisim a boost, don't be surprised if you find yourself full of energy!

10-14-2002, 10:34 AM
4:30 AM???? WOW!

At 7 am ..I was still layin in bed cursing Monday's!

I ate too much this weekend with all of the birthdays. Not the best food choices. Today is a new day..and am feeling determined.

How was you're weekend?

Goddess Jessica
10-14-2002, 01:04 PM
I agree with Jenniffer. 4:30am is so crazy early! This weekend I ate like a freakin pig.... and I watched as the scale said I gained 2 pounds. This week is going to be different though. I'm going to go for a walk EVERY day this week. No really, I mean it. :)

10-14-2002, 02:27 PM
I spent 12 hours working out! HA, went to storage, and lifted, pushed, pulled, sorted, rearranged and threw things out. We were there literally 12 hours. from 9 to 9pm. Drank my water, only ate once and definitely worked out :D

10-15-2002, 10:01 AM
Yes, it IS crazy early!!! :D And I did it again this morning! FEELING GOOD!!!

10-15-2002, 10:31 AM
GO SANDI GO!!! I'm right there with ya! You what they say.....The early bird catches the worm....but in our case it would be burns the calories!

10-15-2002, 12:11 PM
Wow Sandi, I am impressed!!! You have more determination than I.
My inlaws left this morning and I am up 2 pounds from where I was last Thursday when they got here. But I'm still down a pound and a half from my last official weigh in. The visit was OK except that I love to cook wonderfully rich foods for them. We finally did some sight seeing in Arizona. Pretty sad that I've lived here two years and only just made it to the mountains that are only 2 hours from the house. We went up and saw the fire damage from the forest fires this summer. It was very devistating. I never really realized how horrible it really was until I saw it for myself.

Hope everyone is doing well.

10-15-2002, 12:50 PM
Feel like I'm somewhat back on track. I keep telling myself that I don't want to gain back all the weight (and maybe even more) that I worked so hard to lose. One day at a time, right?
Today is my husband's birthday - and I think I've come up with a plan so I don't binge on cake. Instead I made cupcakes - put aside what we will have tonight (just 3 of them) and then decorated the rest for halloween to take to work. I figure if I have one cupcake it's better then 10! :lol:


10-15-2002, 02:07 PM
Your cupcake plan is very clever! Portion control in cute little paper cups. . . What a great idea. Birthdays are an excuse for free-for-all in our house, usually, so I'm going to use this idea.

I'm proud of you for thinking ahead!


10-15-2002, 05:31 PM
Dana - Great idea about the cupcakes!! Way to go! I am glad to see your back on track. It's so hard when you are in "I don't want to do thisville" and all you can remember is when you were so motivated and on track and you just want to be back there. I kNOW you can do this.

I am doing very well after my root canal. Just a tiny bit of soreness. And let me tell you how young and cute my dentist was. OMG!!!:cloud9: I couldn't get the grin off my face (of course he wiped it out the minute he started drilling!)

Hope everyone is well.

Bethanne, I see you posted, glad to see you still hanging around.

10-16-2002, 12:17 AM
Great job everyone. I have to get up every work day at 5 a.m. I don't think I could get up any earlier to do exercise. It's hard enough getting up at 5 a.m. Unfortunately, I won't be able to do much exercising for awhile. I was in a car accident on Thursday. I was hit from behind while waiting for a light. My back is killing me. I do start physical therapy on Thursday. Today my dr. gave me some exercises to do. So that will be my start in the exercise department. On Thursday, I will be grocery shopping without my son. He usually distracts me and I end up getting the wrong things to eat. It's going to be all healthy this time. Thanks for all the motivation and keep up the great work. I'm so glad I found y'all.

10-16-2002, 09:05 AM
I'm so sorry about your car accident - I pray for your speedy recovery. I've been noticing your posts around the board and want to say "welcome!" from another newbie - this is a fun place to be and it looks like you are getting the hang of it quickly.

I hope you find encouragement and kinship here - I'm sure your posts have already been an encouragement to others.

10-16-2002, 10:03 AM
Lanie -- two suggestions that might help:

Grocery shopping: believe me, I know how it is with a busy lifestyle like yours, but make a shopping list and stick to it! If your son's with you and pesters you to buy something unhealthy, tell him it's not on the list and will NOT go into the cart. One timesaver for lists is to make yourself a rotating menu for 2-3 weeks so you'll generally be buying the same things every other week or so -- and keep a list on the fridge for those things that run out from time to time.

Exercise: take advantage of your PT to talk about the benefits of lifting weights and how you might be able to incorporate some simple exercises into your schedule, once you're able. Talk to him/her about how you'd like to get in better shape, beyond the work on your injury, and perhaps he/she can give you some ideas -- Even 30 minutes 3x a week can really improve your energy level. (your son's getting old enough to start lifting weights, too, I believe!)


10-16-2002, 12:12 PM
I over slept (got up at 5:15am) and wasn't able to get my weight lifting in this morning! I was so bummed. I'll do it when I get home, but I was really starting to get into the early morning routine. There's always tomorrow.....

Sandi, where's your early morning exercise post?

10-16-2002, 12:43 PM
Y'all seem to be doing great lately!
Dana the cupcake idea was great. Talk about portion control.
Sandi glad to hear that the root canal isn't so bad. I've never had to have one (knock on wood).
Lanie, Pen is right. Make a list and STICK to it.

I'm doing pretty good today. I actually had a long talk with the neighbors last night (first time in 2 years that we have lived here). I think that we could get along pretty well if only we take the time to talk. I usually just see them leaving for work or coming home (I'm outside all of the time, and they are never out).
I've got a pretty busy couple of weeks coming up and I'm not too sure how often I'll be loggin on. Probably not at all after Friday until right before Halloween, just in time to throw a big Halloween party. I'm going to go to my parents house in St. Louis for a week. I'm throwing a bridal shower for my best friend and taking care of some final preparations for her wedding in November. I'm very anxious to see how big that dress is when I get fitted! I've lost about 35 pounds since I ordered it. Well, I've got tons to do still have to write two papers for class on Saturday and finish putting together 25 party favors for the shower. So I better get cracking.

10-16-2002, 01:48 PM
Well, I didn't exercise this morning. I would give you my "very good" excuse, but I know that we are no longer acdepting those here!! :D

Tomorrow I am going to the covered bridge festival, so that will be several miles. I'll be back on Mornings on Friday. NO MATTER WHAT!!!

10-16-2002, 03:19 PM
:) Thank you everyone for the warm welcome I've received. I am so glad I found this website. Y'all are wonderful. Also, thank you for the great advice. I am definitely going to start my grocery list today and stick with it when I go shopping. I have always been bad about food planning. Besides exercise, that's one of things I don't always do. It doesn't take much for me to avoid the food planning and just go day by day. :o In alot of the groups and chatrooms I've been in, that was one of the main things done, besides exercise, that helped people in the new healthy lifestyle change. So that is one of the first things I'm going to change. I am going to plan each week in advance and stick to it even if I'm too tired when I get home from work. I'm determined to make this work. Again, thanks everyone for you help, motivation, and inspiration. :)

10-16-2002, 03:31 PM
Lanie, it IS hard, especially when your working most of the time, a single mother (you are, right?) -- all that stuff that does make you tired all the time! (a little exercise can help with that, it's just finding a LITTLE bit of time and getting started!!)

Small changes, a little bit at a time! Best wishes ...


10-16-2002, 03:40 PM
I need some time to do food prep. Buying healthy foods doesn't help if I can't make the time to fix them.

10-16-2002, 08:29 PM
That's right MzPen. I am a single mother. I get up every morning at 5 a.m. Have to leave the house by 6 a.m. to be at work at 7 a.m. I commute to work 42 miles each way. I'm suppose to get off from work at 4 p.m., but it's usually between 4:30 and 5 p.m. The drive home takes longer due to traffic. So I'm usually home between 5 p.m. and 6 p.m. As soon as I get home, I start on supper. By the way, did I tell you I hate to cook. Sometimes it's just easy to get fast food or pizza delivery, but I'm getting away from that. No more for me. I will treat us once a month only. So it looks like the best time for me to exercise is between 7 p.m. and 8 p.m. Now if I can just get my son to let me have that time to exercise or get him to join in, I will be doing good. I also have to stay away from the kitchen in the evening. That is another downfall of mine. I'm fine during the day. I'm too busy at work to snack. So that's a good thing. Well, this is a day in the life of Lainie. :) :) :)

10-17-2002, 12:15 AM
I salute all the single moms out there.. how do you do it? you are all amazing!!!


10-17-2002, 12:29 AM
Hey, Dana - how's the job going?

10-17-2002, 12:53 AM
Since having my baby I have complete respect for single mums, twice the work and yet they get so much flack sometimes. Sorry to hear about your car accident Lainein, hope your feeling better soon.
Ive been keep my eating plan this week but havnt been exersizing enough, so much harder when the weathers colder.


10-17-2002, 10:42 AM
Got up and walked 2 miles this morning. I ended up getting so depressed yesterday, and I believe that part of it had to do w/ the fact that I over slept yesterday, and wasn't able to lift in the morning. I didn't do it when I got home either. Which got me even more depressed, so I ate, like there was no tomorrow, and got even more depressed. It was such a terrible cycle...... But I'm back on track as of this morning.

10-17-2002, 11:20 AM
Good for you Dyan for not getting trapped into the no-exercise-overeating cycle. That is a nasty one to get in. I am glad that you were aboe to get up this morning. You have more dedication than I, I probably would have just said forget it after sleeping in one day!

10-17-2002, 10:06 PM
Hi all. Sorry I dropped off the face of the earth this past week. It has not been a good week. Monday was Thanksgiving here in Canada and it really threw my whole week off. Tuesday I decided that I had to rearrange the furniture so that took most of the day, Wednesday the baby and I were sick plus the dh decided to have a fit on me and today I was back at work only I had to leave early to pick up the baby at daycare because the dh's truck broke down on the way home. so the house is still a mess and freezing because I finally went to turn the furnace on and guess what? it didn't want to start. I spent about 45 minutes on the phone this am trying to arrange for someone to come and look at it. Someone is coming tomorrow, meanwhile I got the fireplace blazing and it has warmed the place up a few degrees, it's up to 62 now. The baby is wearing his pj's, socks and a blanket sleeper with 2 blankets on and the vaporizer is going. I hope he stays warm enough with all that. I don't even want to go into all the sh!t that the dh put me through yesterday, I just can't believe his attitude sometimes. Somedays I wish I was a single mother, basically I feel like it now but I have to put up with his attitude as well.

Anyway tomorrow is another day...

10-18-2002, 10:31 AM
Sorry to hear about your week Jen. I wasn't having a good one myself.

Denise: I couldn't wait for a new day, so that I could start over! I want this weight off, and for the most part am willing to do whatever it takes. As you can tell, I slipped up, but I jumped back on the wagon the very next day. I think I'm getting to the point, where I don't want to give up after a bad day. I just get more determined. Don't know if that's good or bad (bad in the since that I really do beat my self up that day).

Got up at 4:30am and lifted. I am in much better spirits today than I was yesterday.

10-18-2002, 01:51 PM
Hello all,

I am not feeling so great today. I ate supper last night. Normally I can eat 2 helpings of spaghetti with no problems but last night I got done with the seconds and within an hour it came up. Today I am still feeling sick.

I have done a few positive things this week. I went swimming Wednesday after work. I also eat fairly good on Wednesday but Thursday I didn't do quite as well. Today with the way I am feeling I don't think I will go to the pool and swim. I hope I feel better tomorrow.

My baby has 2 teeth now. She will be 7 months on Tuesday. Boy time flies. She started to cruise at crawling yesterday. She saw what she wanted and instead of rolling she crawled. Now she is trying to pull herself up on the lower furniture. I have to watch her carefully now because I don't want her to crack her head open.

Jen--I can relate to the husband issue. Mines been home for a month after surgury and sits around the house and does nothing but eat and sleep and play on the computer. I have just learned to live with it. I don't like it but I can't change him. He will change himself when he is ready. I know that is not the attitude to take but I guess it works for now.

Dyan--I wish I could get myself up that early to exercise. My system just won't let me get up that early. I am suppose to be at work at 6AM and am lucky if I make it at 7am. Oh well it will get better. When Steph starts going to bed before 11 PM.

Well take care all I must get back to work here.

10-18-2002, 03:03 PM
Icewoman: I have to be at work at 6am too. Kaleigha, if she's doesn't take a nap at 5pm, will go to bed around 8:30pm and sleeps through the night. If she does take a nap she may be up til 11pm (when DH gets home from work), so I hand her over and hit the hay. I'm very lucky that all my kids slept through the night at a fairly early ages. Cheye slept through the night at 3 weeks, Lucas at about 4 months and Kaleigha somewhere between 3-4 months. Lucas will however wake up in the middle of thenight because he can't find his binky. We pop it back in, and he's out. I'mnew to the whole binky thing. Cheyenne wanted nothing to do with. Kaleigha didn't want it either inthe begining but DH kept shoving it in her mouth :mad: . So now I'm gonna have to figure out how to get those friggin things away from the kids. We were able to get Lucas off the bottle at 10 mos, but this is going to be a whole nother ball of wax!

10-18-2002, 06:13 PM
It seems you are all doing just great.
I just thought that I'd let you guys know that this will probably be the last time that I post for a couple of weeks, so don't send out the dogs! I'm going to visit my parents and get do some things getting ready for my best friends wedding in November. You know, buy shoes, get fitted for a dress, throw a shower and bachelorette party, etc...
So, I'll be back in about two weeks.
Everybody keep up the great work and keep that motivation flowing!

10-20-2002, 10:13 PM
Things are quiet here this weekend. Hope everyone's out having fun. Seems to have been so much stress for everyone lately.

DD came today with two little ones. She's just here until tomorrow but wanted to get away from stress of being in "sniper country" for a tiny bit. Took the kids to the playground and did they have a ball! The older one is locked down in school (no recess). DD took them to one of their local playgrounds the other day but noticed a woody area and decided not to get out of car. She said they just needed to get out somewhere. And we're always so glad to see them.

Been a little "off" last couple of days but am looking forward to a tough OP week.