Weight Loss Support - Do you think that the beginning is the hardest time?




Cookiebell
07-13-2010, 04:50 AM
For those of you who have been successfully dieting for a while, do you think that the beginning was the hardest bit?

I've successfully lost weight in the past (a while ago!) and found that once I got going, it was a lot easier...

But I suppose I just want people to post and say YES Cookiebell, it'll get easier as you get into it!!

:dizzy:


grrrkgrrrl
07-13-2010, 05:00 AM
when it comes to dieting, yes, the beggining was the hardest.

maintenance is another can of worms ;)

Cookiebell
07-13-2010, 05:06 AM
when it comes to dieting, yes, the beggining was the hardest.

maintenance is another can of worms ;)

I don't even want to think about maintaining, the thought of it puts me off dieting to be honest!! :dizzy:;)


Rosinante
07-13-2010, 05:18 AM
when it comes to dieting, yes, the beggining was the hardest.

maintenance is another can of worms ;)

Definitely.

Beginning dieting - very difficult to get to the point of committing.
Ongoing weightloss - definitely does get easier; it gets a lot more second nature, plus the more I lose the more I think I don't want to waste all that effort.
Recovering from interim lapses - not quite as hard as beginning but pretty close.

Maintaining - for me, the Holy Grail of impossibility so far. I will plan to do better this time.

rockinrobin
07-13-2010, 06:36 AM
DEfinitely the beginning is the hardest! You're letting (forcing) the bad habits to die while learning how to incorporate the new healthy ones. There's no routine yet. You're not used to saying no to certain foods and yes to others. You're learning meal planning, what healthy foods you like and dislike. The healthy lifestyle is not automatic.But you stick with it, not allowing yourself to *cave* and those new habits get ingrained in you. And then it DOES become automatic, second nature and habitual and that's when it gets LOTS easier - even easy.

And maintenance - piece of cake (rarely :)). By the time you get there, you WILL have those good habits down pat. You will have found great healthy foods to eat. The good eating has BECOME your new normal and just what you do. And you'll be feeling soooo wonderful you won't want anything to ruin it.

JoJoJo2
07-13-2010, 08:05 AM
And maintenance - piece of cake (rarely :)). By the time you get there, you WILL have those good habits down pat. You will have found great healthy foods to eat. The good eating has BECOME your new normal and just what you do. And you'll be feeling soooo wonderful you won't want anything to ruin it.

Yes, but . . . .

...when you get to maintenance those old habits are still there. The underlying causes of your weight-gain are still there. Life, and all its stresses, is still there.

Maintenance can be done, but it certainly isn't easy for most of us. However it is worth it, it really is.

Best of luck to you on your weight-loss journey.

Cookiebell
07-13-2010, 08:07 AM
Thanks all - am feeling quite positive about it all and have taken my 'before' photos...

rockinrobin
07-13-2010, 08:31 AM
Yes, but . . . .

...when you get to maintenance those old habits are still there. The underlying causes of your weight-gain are still there. Life, and all its stresses, is still there.

Maintenance can be done, but it certainly isn't easy for most of us. However it is worth it, it really is.

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But hopefully, you've learned through the losing process how to COPE and DEAL WITH *life* and all of its stresses, joys and other food challenges.

And I think for many, at some point, the underlying causes of ones weight gain, is no longer *relevant*, for many - it just becomes HABIT. Initially, there may have been a *reason* for the weight gain, but after years and years and years - it's just what you get used to - habit.

And good habits - ONCE ESTABLISHED - are just as hard to break as bad ones.

We talk about easy? But really, how HARD is it? Does it require time, effort thought, planning, discipline - will yes, but so what? So does every other thing in this world that really, really matters - employment, marriage, kids, friendships, religion..

And if you ask me, nothing, nothing compares to the hard of being morbidly obese, obese or even overweight. THAT'S hard.

I guess it all boils down to - choose your hard. And again, I hate to even call *this* hard. I just don't think of it quite that way. Perhaps I'm getting stuck on semantics here. :dizzy:

ThicknPretty
07-13-2010, 08:38 AM
Actually, for me, the beginning is the EASIEST. That's when I have all my motivation...that's when I'm excited and positive and have visions of daisy dukes dancing in my head. I'm wonderful at starting a new diet (or lifestyle, if you prefer), but once I'm a few weeks in and the newness wears off, I start losing steam.

The hardest part for me really comes after a few months. Thaaaat's when it starts getting old and I have to struggle every day to stay in a healthy, positive mindset.

pucedaisy
07-13-2010, 08:50 AM
For me, the VERY beginning is hard (and I'm starting again after slipping on maintenance!) My "new" starting weight isn't really so daunting, but I've still got this overwhelming feeling of "Get it off! Get it off!" like this 10 pounds is some kind of creepy alien insect that's suddenly latched on to me. I want it gone NOW! I am aware of it constantly.

But when I lost weight before (and it was quite a bit more) I became very motivated once I saw the scale start to dip, even a little bit. I focused more on the delicious, healthy foods I could prepare and eat and soon I didn't want the other stuff (I've never been much of a junk food eater). So I know I need to hunker down this first week, drink lots of water and choose my food wisely, and I will soon have RESULTS to focus on, rather than this extra weight that came from outer space :)

Once I get back to a maintenance weight, let's hope I stick with it this time. My weaknesses: wine and pasta!

Good luck!!

Shmead
07-13-2010, 09:02 AM
Yes, but . . . .

...when you get to maintenance those old habits are still there. The underlying causes of your weight-gain are still there. Life, and all its stresses, is still there.

Maintenance can be done, but it certainly isn't easy for most of us. However it is worth it, it really is.

Best of luck to you on your weight-loss journey.

I think this is why you want to lose weight with a plan that could be your life--I lost a bunch of weight once (ok, several times) on 900 calories a day/slimfast type plans. Those were so miserable that there was never any thought of maintaining like that: once the weight was off, I needed to invent an entirely new eating plan, and frankly, months and months at 900 calories pretty much inevitably sapped my will and my ambition to do such a thing--so I went back to my old habits.

THIS time, I am eating a lot more--and exercising a lot more so that I can--and maintenance can be a variation on the quite livable life I already have: I'm hoping to exercise once a day, not twice, to have a roll with my baked chicken breast at night, to be able to eat moderately when a social occasion calls for it, and eat a substantial meal twice a month or so. But I can vary the habits I have in a controlled way, building on what I have already done, instead of starting from scratch just at a time when my willpower is low.

But to answer the original poster: YES, the beginning is the hardest if only because, like the proverbial frog in hot water, you don't know how miserable you are now. You've learned to settle, to tolerate it. As you lose weight, the rewards pile up, and you feel better and better about yourself.

In fact, I would go so far as to say that if a plan is still making you miserable after 3 weeks, if you are having to fight to stay on it, you need to change the plan in some way because it's only a matter of time before it collapses.

chnkymonkey
07-13-2010, 09:08 AM
I'm thinking month 2 & 3 of dieting is the hardest for me. The first week might be a struggle but once you get into it the first few weeks you have the most motivation. I start struggling around the end of month 1 and starting into month 2 and 3. That is where a diet goes from fad to long term and if you aren't doing something that you can live with long term, it gets old and you start going back to old habits.

I'm starting to struggle now, and I'm a little over a month into it. Granted, life is throwing me a few curve balls - vacations, travel and work stress that I'm contending with. So if I only maintain over the next 2 weeks I'll be ok with that as progress.

Lori Bell
07-13-2010, 09:20 AM
It all sucks. LOL :D

(except for buying new clothes ;))

L R K
07-13-2010, 10:24 AM
Actually, for me, the beginning is the EASIEST. That's when I have all my motivation...that's when I'm excited and positive and have visions of daisy dukes dancing in my head. I'm wonderful at starting a new diet (or lifestyle, if you prefer), but once I'm a few weeks in and the newness wears off, I start losing steam.

The hardest part for me really comes after a few months. Thaaaat's when it starts getting old and I have to struggle every day to stay in a healthy, positive mindset.

I agree with ThicknPretty - getting started is easy for me. I lose and I feel motivated but then somehow it becomes boring to me. Then I have to re-commit again.

rockinrobin
07-13-2010, 10:25 AM
It all sucks. LOL :D

(except for buying new clothes ;))

Oh cut it out you, it all doesn't suck.

I bet you can tell us a whole lot about how much it ummm, sucked to be super morbidly obese. ;)

nelie
07-13-2010, 10:45 AM
I actually thought the beginning was the easiest because I was highly motivated and didn't let other distractions get in the way. As time goes on, you need to learn how to tweak, tweak, tweak.

time2lose
07-13-2010, 10:50 AM
YES Cookiebell, it'll get easier as you get into it!! At least, it was for me. I had such cravings at first but they got much better. Just 2 or 3 weeks made it easier.

caryesings
07-13-2010, 11:31 AM
Yep, for me the beginning was the hardest part. And I knew from previous attempts that I really want to give up week 2-3 because scale is not moving as fast as my perceived effort. So this time I did not allow myself on the scale at all the first 10 weeks. I wanted to make sure I had my new habits in place before I faced the number on the scale.

Lori Bell
07-13-2010, 11:40 AM
Oh cut it out you, it all doesn't suck.

I bet you can tell us a whole lot about how much it ummm, sucked to be super morbidly obese. ;)

:) Yeah, I was just kidding. It doesn't all suck, it feels pretty darn awesome to be a normal weight. BUT, I can't lie and say every day is a bed of roses, because even though I didn't find any of it "hard", I did find that the world is full of temptations. There were many rough patches in the road from the very beginning to even a year into maintaince. Some days are super easy and some days well...they suck. Learning how to deal with the bad ones make the good ones so much sweeter.

Wild Vulpix
07-13-2010, 11:55 AM
I think the beginning... the VERY VERY beginning (not the beginning this time, or last time, but the FIRST beginning) is the hardest, certinally.

At the very first beginning... you have SO MUCH to learn! I can not believe how much I had to learn in the first two years and where I am today. You have to learn which 'diet' is for you, what calories are, what type of weight loss to expect (when I started, I thought a pound a day was the acceptable rate :lol: ), you have to learn that eating 300 calories a day is NOT GOOD (again, I made this mistake too ;) ), if you want to eat healthy, you need to figure what that is too! (I've almost got a hang of that one.) And then you have to use what you've learned on your own to go back and decide if certain pieces of common information are fact or fiction (1200 calories a day for women, starvation mode, eat more to lose weight).


I don't know how difficult maintenance is (unfortunately for me :) ) but I can't imagine it's harder than going into battle the very first time without any weapons at your disposal. (At least I hope it's not!!!)

Thighs Be Gone
07-13-2010, 12:01 PM
The beginning was difficult for me as well. I would say the first week was the hardest. Then it definitely became easier. Maintenance has also been tricky. The VAST realization that I must do (to a large extent) exactly what I did to take the weight off in the first place is still hitting home for me.

I really agree with RR that all things in life that are worthwhile ARE this way. Marriage, kids, occupations, education, etc. They all require attention and ongoing maintenace or they suffer.

It is OH so friggin' worth it though.

Hamoco350
07-13-2010, 03:11 PM
The beginning was the easiest for me. I was SO motivated. I had wandered beyond my breaking point with my depression, anxiety, and general weight related problems and I was ready. It was time for change.

That being said, even though it was the easiest, it was not easy. I just think plateaus are more difficult. Tweaking and adjusting as you lose weight (especially when you've never been a normal weight) is a PAIN. It's new and scary and so much more intimidating than poking your foot through the door of it all.

duckyyellowfeet
07-13-2010, 03:55 PM
I feel like it just changes. The start is hard because of cravings, of having to break old habits, of just trying to figure the whole lifestyle out.
But new challenges come up...holidays, birthday, sick days, sad days. They all have their challenges.

I still think its worth it. even when things aren't going awesomely for me, like right now, I'm happier that I'm at least doing 80% better than this time last year. I'm healthier, thinner, and happier overall. It could take a while for the "this sucks" mentality to die out. But thats ok...because I'm still a better person while making those changes stick 100%

Cglasscock1
07-13-2010, 04:27 PM
For me, the first month of giving up my favorite high calorie sweets was the hardest. It was kinda like being on withdrawal. I was able to keep myself on track by substituting some low calories sweets that I like. Still, every day is a challenge but not nearly as hard as at first. After 13 months of changed eating, it has become a "no arguing" with myself new normal.
YES COOKIEBELL, it will get easier IF you put in the hard work of retraining your mind and body to eat in a healthy manner, and if you commit yourself to making this a lifelong change.

ubergirl
07-13-2010, 04:30 PM
And I think for many, at some point, the underlying causes of ones weight gain, is no longer *relevant*, for many - it just becomes HABIT. Initially, there may have been a *reason* for the weight gain, but after years and years and years - it's just what you get used to - habit.

Agree!

And yes, the beginning is hard, although most of us are bouyed along for a while by whatever strong motivation made us start.

Haven't tried maintaining yet, but for me, the hardest part, besides getting started is hitting the first big stall... in the past, I could always stick with something for a week or two, but as soon as the scale stopped moving down, or (gasp) bounced up, I was done.

I've been at this for more than a year and the good habits feel like habits now....

MissKelly
07-13-2010, 05:22 PM
These days now are easier for me.....Im more in acceptance that some days Im the bug & some days Im the windshield.

mandalinn82
07-13-2010, 05:36 PM
I think all different phases of weight loss have easy and hard parts about them...here's how I see it, and my strategies for overcoming the pitfalls in all three phases. FWIW, the middle part, particularly my 6 month plateau, was the hardest for me.

At the beginning, you get lots of motivation from quick water losses, and you are doing things that are new and different, which is both exciting (good) and scary/difficult (bad). Changing habits and getting over previous food addictions is difficult. In this phase, I found it most helpful to focus on what was new and exciting, finding new recipes and ideas, doing new things, etc. This kept that good "newness" going as long as possible.

In the middle, you have some advantages and disadvantages as well. On the one hand, you've got habits developed, new skills, and you're getting better at the strategies that result in maintaining healthy habits. On the other hand, the losses slow down (or even STOP in a plateau), your routine is no longer exciting, and your losses might be falling short of your expectations. In this phase, I found it was most helpful to reward myself for good BEHAVIOR so I'd have something to work toward...I had an exercise chart, and got a sticker on it for every workout/OP day. Stickers added up to rewards for myself, which motivated me to keep going no matter what the scale was deciding to do (unlike some here, I DID plateau for 6 months or so, and this trick singlehandedly got me through).

At maintenance, you have the benefit of lots and lots of practice and routine. You most likely know how to order in a restaurant, turn down trigger foods, and plan your meals like a champ. You likely have an infrastructure in place for exercise, and you have the benefit of all of the knowledge you gained throughout your weight loss. On the other hand, the permanence of it (I'm doing this FOREVER) can get a little dull and bothersome, and you don't have ANY scale motivation to drive you to stick on plan. For me it's all about creating that newness/excitement again, just like at the beginning - I eat seasonally, try new foods constantly, make up new recipes, try new exercises, and push myself toward new goals (for example, a sub-30-min 5K, or heels on the mat in downward dog).

prepping
07-13-2010, 05:53 PM
For me, the VERY beginning is hard (and I'm starting again after slipping on maintenance!) My "new" starting weight isn't really so daunting, but I've still got this overwhelming feeling of "Get it off! Get it off!" like this 10 pounds is some kind of creepy alien insect that's suddenly latched on to me. I want it gone NOW! I am aware of it constantly.

That's hilarious!!! so TOTALLY what is in my head. LoL

I would say re-starting is the hardest. You've already done so much to learn what you should be doing and then out of nowhere it seems that you've reverted to your old ways and are back to where you started. So when you RE-start you're doing the same things the last time. And.it.doesn't.work. Then what??? You have to take all that knowledge and almost go by trial and error to figure out what works this time around.

Maybe that's just my opinion because that's where I am right now and it is friggin hard! But I guess it's still considered to be a beginning so can look forward to it getting easier too. So to the OP, yes it does get easier! it better! :p:D