Weight Loss Support - Beach Week Fiasco... and unsupportive parents?




Serbrider
06-08-2010, 11:28 PM
Ok... the first part... totally my own fault. ;) Well... most of it anyways.

And before anyone asks... Orlando was FUN!!! :D Loved it... loved it... loved it. :cool: Not somewhere I want to live... and most DEFINATELY NOT on the beach (I hate beaches with a passion... spent thirty minutes on it... and I've had enough to last me a lifetime)... but just around the place. Universal Studios was a blast. Loved the Universal Studios Florida... though... all those 3D show/rides ended up driving me up the wall. I don't like things reaching out at me... especially not with guns or sticks... so yeah. But it was a ton of fun.



I started out fine with the whole travel thing. Despite the fact that my mom refused to let me pay for, or buy (despite it being literally 1 dollar more expensive) a healthier option for lunch. But I was doing well. Family wasn't going along with it... but I was OK with that... I'd try and make it work...

Then... we went to Golden Corral. I did have a salad... but I don't like nuts... and the ONLY meats they had out were totally deep fried. So I had that. And a tiny bit of dessert. I don't think that was the bad part... it was afterwards. We left the next morning for the beach house. And... that was fine. As soon as we got there I was EXHAUSTED. I hadn't had a chance to REALLY sleep since... well... quite a while. We'd been moving and moving and moving ever since Wednesday morning. So it was nice to be able to sleep. But... I was woken up... and I'm the kind of person who... well... isn't all there for the first two to two and a half hours after I wake up. So... they woke me up for dinner. Still half asleep and thinking I still had a hamster named Harry Potter... I wolfed down a burger, a ton of cheezits, probably two cans of diet soda, and something else... don't remember what. Not quite because I wanted them... but because they were there... and it was something for me to do to try and wake myself up. :shrug:

And about an hour after that... still in lala land... I went back to sleep. And woke up again... ate again (once again... stuffed my face), watched some TV (half asleep), ate a little more, went to the beach for about thirty minutes, came back, ate lunch, slept. Woke up again, still the same day... ate some more then went to the pool. Slept at the pool. Went back to the house. Ate dinner. Watched a couple shows with a couple snacks... went back to sleep. Woke up again... ate a little more, packed, tried to go back to sleep but was dragged to the car where I gulped down probably two more diet sodas (by that point I found them disgusting... but I just kept drinking), then ended up back at my mom's aunt's house (we had been staying with her for all of the time except for the two and a half days we were at the beach house). Then while we were there a huge dinner was made... and because I was just kind of sick of myself... I ate a lot again. Yeah... haven't you noticed... genius here. :rolleyes:

So... in short... went WAY off track (at least... I'm pretty sure I did... with all that sleeping... I'm not completely positive how much I really ate... or didn't... or... anything. I had weird dreams where I'd eat breakfast or lunch... I dunno... everything's a blur). And didn't even have a chance to exercise with all of that sleeping. I did walk around and swim some at the beach and the pool... but apart from that... at the beach house... it was pretty much just sleep and eat. Needed the sleep... didn't quite need all those tortilla chips and cheezits (though... I have to say... looking back... I didn't eat as much as I would have a little over a month ago... but still... more than I should have anyways).

And then I tried to eat less the rest of the week... but was kind of in a whole "still exhausted... this is what is served... ok... why not" kind of mindset. Until the plane. Then I was thinking back... "oh... crap. I was supposed to have run twice or thrice this past week... I didn't even run at all!" and so on. I need a book. And as soon as I got home... I got on here... and asked on the Calorie Counting forum about good books for me to look at getting.

So yeah. And here I am... I weigh in tomorrow... so I'll see what the damage is. ;) I had lost three pounds... now... probably gained it all back... but... never know. :^:



But... to my second point. I don't get my parents. One moment they are all "yes... this is great... we'll do anything we can to help you"... and then they're telling me I can't get the healthier meal option... even if it was cheaper ($8 for Sweet Tomatoes vs $12 for Golden Corral). I mean... at the beginning of the week, in the airport... my mom took me and my older brother to go get lunch since we neglected to get anything at home. So... we went to this little food court area... he got something from Wendy's or something (don't remember where), and I wanted to get the sandwhich from Starbucks... that 400 calorie thing... and I know I probably wouldn't have finished all of it... since I would have tried to savor it because it wouldn't have had a bunch of strong flavors (I like bland foods... I know... I'm weird like that). It was around $6.50 including tax. Nope... WAY too expensive. But... according to my mom... the store over had a "healthy" food choice. To get JUST A SANDWHICH, it was $5.50 including tax. 550 calories of NASTY strong flavored sandwhich that my mom made me eat? And I wasn't even allowed to go buy the other thing WITH MY OWN MONEY?

I dunno... I just don't really get their logic. I mean... I can understand if it was just a saving money thing... and I do kind of understand that they don't want to go to one place, and then go to another just so I can have my "special" thing.. but when all my mom serves for dinner is Mac & Cheese and burgers... with the "vegetable" being tater tots... umm... huh?

I dunno... just... any ideas of how I can get my parents on track with me on this? I'm seventeen... I'm really not allowed to go out and buy my own meals... I've asked, I've even pleaded... nope. I have to eat what I'm served. It's confusing me because they say they'll help and do whatever... and when I ask to get more fruits and veggies... a few mandarin oranges, a bunch of bananas, lettuce, and tomatoes just don't cut it. And that's all they get. Oh... and some peppers that they fry up and are ONLY to be eaten as the fried food.

I do have only one more summer with them... but then I'm with my grandparents... and my grandma loves to cook... but it's stuff like brisket, and very strong flavored foods... and like I said above... I like very watery bland foods... strong flavor makes me feel sick... and I end up wolfing it down because I'm trying to avoid that flavor in my mouth... :( I'm weird... I'll be happy to admit it. I do have issues... but... how can I get my parents to work with me on them... instead of serving me all these high calorie foods (and only that am I allowed to eat), and then making comments like "I thought you were calorie counting, why are you eating that".

I'm just all confused. :dizzy:


tryhardforlife
06-09-2010, 01:11 AM
Eat less of the high calorie food. Portion control. Learn to cook and get creative with the food thats available.

Shytowngal
06-09-2010, 01:17 AM
Maybe you need to make a rule for yourself that you never eat until you have been up for 2 hours. It sounds like when you're groggy you turn to mindless eating. If you wake up and are hungry drink water first, maybe go for a short walk to wake up a bit and then decided on a healthy meal, and count EVERY bite.

As far as your parents not supporting you. I'm sorry for that! Do you have to consult your mother on your lunch purchases? If you have your own money and want a healthier choice, just buy it and don't mention the price to her.

Good luck, you can do this!


Glory87
06-09-2010, 02:42 AM
I know it's hard because you are young and are not totally in control of the food that is available AND it's doubly difficult when you are on vacation and outside of a set plan, but try to have a plan.

At this stage in my healthy eating, I know what I'm eating for breakfast tomorrow. If I were vacationing, I would still plan to have a healthy breakfast option.

This beach house has a microwave? A big thing of oatmeal is super cheap. I often bring a plastic baggie with 1/2 cup of oatmeal and 1/4 cup of dried blueberries. All I need is a little water (and a bowl/cup) and I have a healthy breakfast. I would also bring a tea bag, since I love hot green tea in the morning.

Once I eat my healthy breakfast I am more likely to continue my healthy plan for the day.

I agree, your parents are very confusing. You are young and overweight - why they aren't helping you is a mystery. You are 17, can you get a part time job so you have pocket money to buy your own healthy food? It's sad you would have to spend your own money on food, but having your own money would also be empowering.

Serbrider
06-09-2010, 10:18 AM
Thanks guys. :)

The idea of not eating until two hours after I'm awake if I'm groggy/whatever is a good idea. It wouldn't have worked while I was still in school (usually had only an hour to get ready... at the most... I liked to sleep in as much as possible), but now that I'm out... is a definate good idea. I know that this morning I had breakfast because I woke up refreshed (very rare for me... maybe all that sleep DID help some... :p ), went downstairs, weighed (only two pound damage... not too bad IMO), and then went into the kitchen and measured out (I made sure to measure... something I never wanted to do before) 1 cup of cheerios and 1/2 cup of milk for a breakfast of 175 calories. And I'm probably going to run by starbucks and grab a coffee/frappucinno on my way to Half-Price Books to get my calorie counting book and maybe a few other books (I love books... ;))

I know I can do this... and I was really annoyed at my own actions this past week... the mindless eating... and yes... it very much was mindless... I just grabbed things and stuffed them in my mouth... a couple of times quite literally.

I did have a part-time job... and around 2000 saved up for anything. I could use it to buy those running shoes I need... but I was hoping to use it to buy a horse... but then... don't know if I can even do that... but... oh well. $1000 of that is in savings and is not coming out... The rest... I can do what I want with... I guess. I had to resign from my part-time job due to the fact that I am moving this summer... and just don't have more than a day here or there to devote to it... and that wouldn't be fair for them. So yeah. I DO have the money to pay for my own meals... my parents just won't let me. >.< And when I do go and buy my own thing and don't eat theirs (yes... I have done it a couple times before), I get all these glares and rolled eyes and all... so yeah. I dunno... we're at home now... so hopefully that'll help me be able to get to more fruits and veggies. It's mainly annoying because even if I'll go to the grocery store with my mom and point out some fruits and veggies I'd like, we can't get them because they're "too expensive". and yeah... a few of them are... but not all of them!

so yeah... I'll have to figure something out. I'm probably going to spend a couple hours playing Wii Fit later today... and then go for only one run this evening. :)

Like I said... thanks guys!

Shmead
06-09-2010, 10:33 AM
Go see a doctor. For one thing, that sort of sleepiness, for days, is not normal. Talk to the doctor about thyroid problems and talk to the doctor about diabetes and talk to the doctor about sleep apnea. Say these words, don't wait for the doctor to think of them. You may also want to bring up PCOS and insulin resistance. Eating leading to a cycle of exhaustion and more eating suggests something being off with your blood sugar.

Next, tell the doctor you need his support with your parents. He needs to give you orders and he needs to talk to your parents about why it is so important to get your weight under control now.

If your parents won't let you go see the doctor about your weight, lie and say you have a UTI. You just have to get alone in the room with the doctor.

Serbrider
06-09-2010, 10:48 AM
Really? Could this be something wrong with me... or is it just being tired and not really having a full night of sleep for several weeks due to school and other things? And then a sudden change from healthy eating to eating... well... crap? Kind of like a play hard work hard then crash type of thing? I don't think it was because of the eating... since I had been moving non-stop until those few days... but... I was extremely tired the entire time... I dunno.

Neither me nor my parents can really afford a doctor's visit at the moment... unless it's an emergency. And I'm not regularly sleepy like this... but... I don't know.

I dunno... I might really not have a choice but to wait until we go back to Serbia partway through July because that's where we have our regular doctor (even if she is a pediatrician, she treats all of us... young and old). She doesn't charge us an arm and a leg for a checkup type thing like almost all of the doctors that are approved with our insurance plan.

Shmead
06-09-2010, 10:51 AM
You can wait until July, but yes, I'd go see a doctor. Eating leading to exhaustion and waking up ravenous and groggy really sounds like a low blood sugar thing to me. And if you have sleep apnea, you have no idea what normal feels like. You've never had a good night of sleep in your life. It's worth getting checked out.

Serbrider
06-09-2010, 10:54 AM
OK... I looked up some sleep apnea symptoms... and... apart from possible exhaustion or lack of sleep at times... I don't fit any of them. I don't snore... I don't sweat at night (unless the house is REALLY REALLY hot and the entire household is sweating buckets)... and I don't think I've ever had trouble breathing in any way, shape, or form while I'm asleep. I don't move around when I sleep... I do have VERY active dreams when I sleep though. Even falling asleep for ten minutes (or nine), I can end up having a lengthy dream. Is that something to worry about? Very rarely do I have a night where I fall asleep and then just "wake up" with no memory of dreams...

Rebound
06-09-2010, 10:56 AM
I did have a part-time job... and around 2000 saved up for anything. I could use it to buy those running shoes I need... but I was hoping to use it to buy a horse... but then... don't know if I can even do that... but... oh well.

I have horses, and I wouldn't recommend using the last of your money to buy one. Especially if you aren't financially backed by your parents. How are you going to pay for board? Training/lessons? The inevitable $700 vet bill when the horse colics or scratches its eye or requires stitches?

Horses cost a lot of $$ and if you have $2000, $1000 if which is going to remain in savings, I would NOT recommend buying a horse.

You've got $1000? Buy running shoes. Buy your own food and put it in your fridge. Perhaps if your parents see that you are determined this time they will start to support you. You say that you've been on a diet for most of your life -- perhaps your parents are not being supportive because they've seen you get all excited about a weight-loss-plan only to see if fizzle out in a month. You have to show them that THIS TIME it's different or they probably WON'T be supportive. Spending your own money to eat well and get exercise may be a good way to do that.

Serbrider
06-09-2010, 11:09 AM
Rebound... I have definately considered all of those things. I'm not an idiot... I'm not going to just go out and "buy a pretty pony" without having the finances to back the care and all. I'm getting a job (most likely going to do the DCP program at school, so I get out early, which gives me more hours to use at a job and in caring for an animal) at my new place with my grandparents, and they have 42 acres and a donkey that would love a new "family member".

I can afford all of that... I'm not a ditz who is just wanting a pretty pony to put in the backyard. Trust me on that. I just didn't feel like going into the whole shabeal here on this forum... since I've gone over it fifty+ times on a horse forum I'm on. I know what I'd be getting into. ;) And to be honest... I'd rather use my $1000 that's not in savings for something I ENJOY rather that something that my parents have promised to pay for anyways... and that they get compensation for with their company (my parents are missionaries and we get a budgeted amount of money each month... and food, gas, and non-personal extras are all covered by the company).


Maybe I'm just being silly, stubborn, and stupid. But it's got me this far... which might be a good thing... and it might not be.


I dunno... I'm off to Half-Price Books to invest in a few things. :) See ya!

Shmead
06-09-2010, 11:16 AM
Remember, too, that even if a doctor doesn't find anything "wrong", she can still tell your parents "your daughter must lose weight. If she does not there is a good chance she will develop diabetes or heart disease later in life. She may have trouble conceiving or carrying children to term. It is an imperative that you provide her with good, healthy food, such as the ones on this list. Under no circumstances should you allow her to eat fried food or sweets more often than [whatever]."

Obviously, your parents can't control your eating, but telling them they can't allow YOU to eat these things also tells THEM they can't have these things be the only thing available to you.

Natalia
06-09-2010, 11:47 AM
I'm sure you know this, but the skinny latte's from starbucks (tall) are only 90 calories!! And they have a new base for frappuccino's, so you can get a nonfat, sugar free frapp for also about 90 calories!!!
If you like latte, I recommend the skinny cinnamon dolce latte. Sooooo good!

As far as your quandry, a couple things. (Please take it or leave it, no need to get defensive)
1. I'm with the person who says once you show them THIS time is different, they will likely back you and be supportive. That comes with being assertive, spending your spending money on healthy food and things conducive to fitness, and overall attitude. (This may take a bit of time to prove that this time is different.
2. In the meantime, you have spending money so you have some control, even if you are only 17. With the airport scenario, I would have just gone to Starbux and order my meal , no need to ask permission since you are 17 and using your own money. Just tell them you'll be right back, no need to go into details. With the amusement park meal, if your mom is paying I would just say what I wanted to order. If she had a problem with it, remain firm. "This is the only thing I want. I can pay the difference, or I can buy it myself" If she persists, so do you. "This is the ONLY thing I want, I don't feel like hot/greasy/fried etc food at the moment. If you won't pay for it, I will pay myself."
As far as cottage food, think if things you enjoy eating tghat are healthy. Make a list, pick them up, and pack them.

With the grocery/supper dilemma, ask mom to keep a shopping list on the fridge. Every week, you can add a few foods that are healthy and that you are interested in eating. It doesn't imact them if they don't have to eat it. You don't have to change the world all by yourself. If she doesn't usully prepare veggie or salad, that can be your contribution . She does the meat; you do the salad. And everyone can benefit.
Good luck and stand firm! No excuses. Where there's a will, there's a way.

Petite Powerhouse
06-09-2010, 11:58 AM
Really? Could this be something wrong with me... or is it just being tired and not really having a full night of sleep for several weeks due to school and other things? And then a sudden change from healthy eating to eating... well... crap?

Could it be something wrong with you? Yes. But I suspect it is just as you say. I've been there. When you run your body into the ground, it will eventually force you to make up for it. You can sleep for a LONG time, even most of a weekend, because the body needs what it needs. And, definitely, the wrong food can contribute to a lack of energy and sleepiness.

Seeing a doctor is a good idea, but I imagine you really were just making up for lost sleep and eating poorly.

synger
06-09-2010, 11:59 AM
I'm not sure how much luck you'll have changing the main course of your family's meals, but you may be able to change some of the side dishes. I had some experience in a household with a vegetarian and some non-vegetarians. We made a meat dish as our main dish, and always had some side dishes that the vegetarian could make a meal out of.

I'd suggest that you ask for one new veg this week, especially something that can work with what your family already eats, and is inexpensive. You say they have tomatoes. Ask for zucchini or cucumbers. Make a salad with the cucumber/tomato, or cook up the zucchini/tomato. Maybe your family will enjoy the new dish, too.

Once you have introduced a new side dish, and your family has eaten it enough so that it's no longer "new" and frightening... introduce a second one. Maybe even the same veg in a different way. Zucchini pancakes are a fun side dish (like potato pancakes only less carb-y). Sure they're fried in a bit of oil, but the veg may offset the fat, depending on your plan.

Over the months, as you introduce new foods and new dishes so that they become "normal", you'll end up with more options.

If you post the sorts of things your family already likes/eats as side dishes, we may be able to suggest similar foods that can be made more healthily. The good part is that we're coming into the summer months, and fresh, tasty food is only a farmer's market or fruit stand away.

luciddepths
06-09-2010, 12:38 PM
I dont know... if you have that much saved up, buy a small fridge. With your saved up money, looks like you will be able to fill that mini fridge :)

Mind you i'm a bit of a rebel. When it comes to what goes in my body, I decide. No one else. I'm 23, been 17 before. I starting making my own meals at about 14. Time you start doing the same, specially with money saved up and possibly starting a job at your grandmas.

Rebound
06-09-2010, 01:47 PM
Rebound... I have definately considered all of those things. I'm not an idiot... I'm not going to just go out and "buy a pretty pony" without having the finances to back the care and all. I'm getting a job (most likely going to do the DCP program at school, so I get out early, which gives me more hours to use at a job and in caring for an animal) at my new place with my grandparents, and they have 42 acres and a donkey that would love a new "family member".

I can afford all of that... I'm not a ditz who is just wanting a pretty pony to put in the backyard. Trust me on that. I just didn't feel like going into the whole shabeal here on this forum... since I've gone over it fifty+ times on a horse forum I'm on. I know what I'd be getting into. ;) And to be honest... I'd rather use my $1000 that's not in savings for something I ENJOY rather that something that my parents have promised to pay for anyways... and that they get compensation for with their company (my parents are missionaries and we get a budgeted amount of money each month... and food, gas, and non-personal extras are all covered by the company).


Maybe I'm just being silly, stubborn, and stupid. But it's got me this far... which might be a good thing... and it might not be.


I dunno... I'm off to Half-Price Books to invest in a few things. :) See ya!

1) Well, I couldn't have known how much you post on other horse boards, now could I? All I know is that you have apparently astoundingly unsupportive parents and that you said you wanted to buy a horse with your only available $1000. I think my response was pretty appropriate, really.

and 2) Did you even read my last paragraph? I think you need to show your parents that THIS time it's different.

But take what you want from this discussion.

parkedout
06-09-2010, 02:20 PM
Being one of the handful of the 'cross overs' from that other mentioned board-- I have to say that when serbrider started that job, she did so with the intention of buying a horse. Instead of going out and picking up a cheap (or even free) junk horse and winging it, she put a plan in place-- worked-- and has weighed the decision.

Onward.;)


SR, I am glad that vacation didn't do you totally in, and having read for months the sorts of things (diet wise) your mom has put y'all on, I can only think that you have to assert yourself in this matter. Buy a mini fridge, and put veggies in it. Remember the low carb kick she was on last year? Just tell her it REALLy stuck with you and you need constant veggies! :D


I'm here if you want to chat!:)

Natalia
06-09-2010, 02:45 PM
curious minds want to know.. whats a "junk horse"?
One that's fit for the pit? Ready for the glue factory? 2 hooves past it's prime? I've never heard that term before.

Serbrider
06-09-2010, 02:51 PM
Thanks so much guys. :) I have a bunch of things I need to do today (and like... in the next few minutes), so I don't have time to give individual responses to everyone. Rebound... I'm sorry for practically blowing up in your face on my last post. I have been given the "make sure you know what you're doing" type of lecture thousands of times from family members, friends, and strangers... after a while... I just get tired of hearing it and end up getting defensive and end up blowing up at people who do not deserve it. So I apologize for my actions on that.


To everyone else... I'll have to look up prices of mini fridges. I know that in my college dorm room I'll be in after this upcoming Senior year there is a microwave and a mini fridge. But until then... I'll have to see. :) I know I can't get one now... we're moving around a TON.

I guess... I think it's mainly the whole low carb mindset my family has been in for years that makes them not get as many fruits and veggies and get more and more meat. And... I don't like meat. :p

I just got back from Half-Price books with a bag full of new CDs (Rascall Flatts!!!!) and books... and the books include:

Skinny B****
Biggest Loser calorie counting guide... or something like that. I don't have it right next to me... can't think of the name.

And a few others. I'm looking forward to finishing Skinny B****... I've read part of the first chapter... and so far... really liking it. :) I've always been interested in the vegetarian and vegan lifestyles... I've never been a huge fan of dairy products, meat, and those kinds of things. :) So yeah... I'll just have to read through it and see.

As for my parents... I dunno... they confuse me. One day they are all on board and my mom is out buying different fruits and vegetables (still not a huge variety), all "organic" or low carb or low calorie things... and then the next day the ONLY things in the house are chips (tortilla chips, our family rarely eats potato chips), candy, majorly high calorie things, etc. I've been eating fine today... and next time my mom or dad balks at the food... I'm gonna put my foot down and either pay for it myself or tell them it's that or nothing.

I know how to cook and make my own meals... I have since I was 12 or 13. My parents aren't always at home... so it was kind of out of necessity. I LOVE cooking... I just hadn't always had time to do so... maybe I can convince my mom to let me cook my own meals... at least for now.

And as for my Grandparents... the mini fridge probably is the best idea. :p

MissKelly
06-09-2010, 03:05 PM
How is it that you are able to bring in a bunch of books & CD's into the house...with your own money (especially a book like Skinny B&^ch..which is up & down profanity & not age appropriate for a 17 y/o)....but you cannot sneak in healthy non-refrigerated items to stick in your room?

Serbrider
06-09-2010, 03:11 PM
Misskelly... exactly what I'm confused about myself. My mom didn't ask about my books... but the minute I buy any kind of food... she needs to inspect it. I think it also has to do with my past... because I was on so many diets... and like I said... half of them inflicted upon me instead of my own choice kind of things... I would sneak food into my room. But then I'd sometimes forget where I put it... or I wouldn't be smart about it... or something... and I'd get in huge trouble because of it.

But books... my mom doesn't mind books. She probably wouldn't approve of Skinny B****... but she does trust me with what I read and/or listen to... I just am not trusted with anything else. Which is confusing. I have always had internet blockers and monitors (even ones that would act like viruses against my computer) because the internet is a dangerous place. My mom has to have her hand in everything... that's just the kind of person she is. It's just that with my reading and with my music... she generally stays out... maybe it's because she doesn't care... or because she's not interested in what I read/listen to... or what... I really don't know. It's extremely confusing. >.<


ETA: And part of it is that... I myself don't want to have even healthy non-refrigerated items in my room... because I do get into the habit of mindless eating VERY quickly... and if I brought anything like that into my room... it'd be gone in two hours... it's much easier for me and my sanity (and my stomach's sanity) if I have it all downstairs and away from my eyes most of the time... especially at night when I'm playing Sims 3 or watching a movie. ;)

chnkymonkey
06-09-2010, 03:14 PM
You are in a tough situation being young and living at home under your parents rules.

I can tell you though - on the O-town vacation. First of all Sweet Tomatoes is not necessarily healthier or better for you than Golden Coral. Sweet Tomatoes can be a huge calorie hole. With eating out any any restaurant its all about what you make of it. I'd much rather have a salad at Wendy's or McDonalds than the temptation of Sweet Tomatoes (which is one of my favorite restaurants by the way.)

As for the sleepiness while on the trip. If it continues, I'd have it looked into by a doc. But - you are 17, you have teen hormones to deal with. You have just finished up your school year and are coming off that stress, you were on vacation and go,go,go and Florida is hotter than hades this time of year. The beach, the sun and the water will wipe a healthy active floridan out in a heartbeat. For someone not used to this weather, its really gonna take its toll. (I live here - I know first hand. A morning on the boat, I'll nap for 3 hrs that afternoon).

For many people - when you are tired, you lose will power, so I can understand your mindless eating. Just chalk up a week of vacation to just being vacation, get back on the wagon (or in the saddle) and start again now that you are home.

Someone said that you can eat the fried crappy food but just in smaller portions - well, I will disagree with that. the smaller portion could leave you not feeling satiated and the added sugars and fats can cause further cravings - both of those being a catalyst to a viciouse downward spiral into binging on junk food. Combine that with exhaustion and it explains what happened to you.

Your biggest hurdle to get over is your parents support and getting food into your house that will help you lose weight. You need to find a way to change your parents. If they are not diet, nutrition or health concious people, then you are in for a struggle. (and from what you said, they aren't).

Something you may try is - create a meal plan for 1 week. Then make a grocery list of what you need in order to have this plan. Sit down with mom and tell her your goals for weight loss and how you need to go about doing it and show her your plan and the list. Then go shopping together for the items. Get what you need, enough of what you need so you don't have wasted food.

Offer to cook dinner one night - or cook with your mom. Try to make it a time to spend with her. In the end, your small changes and influences on her might make her healthier too.

good luck to you.

parkedout
06-09-2010, 03:15 PM
I hope you find a solution that works for you all!


Have a nice day!:)

Serbrider
06-09-2010, 03:19 PM
Thanks so much everyone. :) chnkymonkey... the meal plan sounds like a good idea. :D I think I'll go work on that... turns out I didn't have as much to do this afternoon as I thought I did (something I thought would take an hour or two ended up only taking five minutes. >.< Figures)... so I could go ahead and type something up. Unfortunately for me... my parents headed to the grocery store just like... an hour ago... meaning they probably already got everything that they're gonna want to get for a while. But I will still look stuff up and come up with a meal plan for myself at least. :)

Thanks so much guys... I really appreciate it... and all of the advice, even lectures and reprimanding has been very useful... and I appreciate all of it and have gleaned so much info and... well... advice from this. :D

MissKelly
06-09-2010, 03:29 PM
Misskelly... exactly what I'm confused about myself. My mom didn't ask about my books... but the minute I buy any kind of food... she needs to inspect it. I think it also has to do with my past... because I was on so many diets... and like I said... half of them inflicted upon me instead of my own choice kind of things... I would sneak food into my room. But then I'd sometimes forget where I put it... or I wouldn't be smart about it... or something... and I'd get in huge trouble because of it.

But books... my mom doesn't mind books. She probably wouldn't approve of Skinny B****... but she does trust me with what I read and/or listen to... I just am not trusted with anything else. Which is confusing. I have always had internet blockers and monitors (even ones that would act like viruses against my computer) because the internet is a dangerous place. My mom has to have her hand in everything... that's just the kind of person she is. It's just that with my reading and with my music... she generally stays out... maybe it's because she doesn't care... or because she's not interested in what I read/listen to... or what... I really don't know. It's extremely confusing. >.<


ETA: And part of it is that... I myself don't want to have even healthy non-refrigerated items in my room... because I do get into the habit of mindless eating VERY quickly... and if I brought anything like that into my room... it'd be gone in two hours... it's much easier for me and my sanity (and my stomach's sanity) if I have it all downstairs and away from my eyes most of the time... especially at night when I'm playing Sims 3 or watching a movie. ;)

You'll find a way. Sounds like you have your big girl panties in hand & at the right moment you'll slip them on & show 'em all. Is what's going on with this situation (the parental control you feel that binds you) leaving you feeling stressed & defeated..possibly provoking your cravings to feel comforted? I think it may run a bit deeper than what food is actually put front of you. I say this because as you know from having been here in FL...we have a water shortage & it's difficult to find to drink. ;) If yes & sugar is your escape...I agree you'll have to somehow tackle this soon. Just don't let go of the panties.

Serbrider
06-09-2010, 03:39 PM
Haha... thanks MissKelly... I'll keep those panties close by. ;)