General chatter - Question In need of input. Regarding a Visitation/Funeral

06-05-2010, 07:44 PM
My best friend (whom I've known since we were 4)'s Elderly Aunt passed away this morning. The visitation and funeral is on monday. I was just looking for opinions on wearing a brown print skirt/plain brown top/or plain cream top in lieu of wearing the traditional black.
I am willing to go shopping tomorrow if I am in need of a black dress/pants. Unfortunately my plain black dress pants are in need of hemming, and the material they are made of makes me nervous to hem them by hand myself, and my tailor is closed, and not open again til monday.

Here is a link to the skirt I have. I just don't know if it is too bright. It is the raspberry radiance one.

keep in mind it will be paired with a plain cream or brown shirt.

06-05-2010, 07:56 PM
Everyone has their own ideas about funerals but I think as time goes on it is quite acceptable to wear clothes other than black...

When I die I expect all my friends and family to be wearing shorts and tank top/T-shirts to the party!

and if I die in winter....

they'll just have to wait to celebrate!

06-05-2010, 07:57 PM
The most recent funeral I went to (for my grandma) I wore a white dress. Only a couple people were in black. Nobody really cares what you wear, really, as long as you are there.

06-05-2010, 08:28 PM
One of the last funerals I went to, my friend wore lavendar because it was her mother who had died and that was her favorite color. I agree with everyone else. You can wear pretty much whatever you want to a funeral these days. The most important thing is being there for your friend.

And, btw, you can buy sewing tape or sewing glue to hem your pants. Just for future information..... ;)

06-05-2010, 08:39 PM
Thanks everyone. You are all amazing.

06-05-2010, 09:15 PM
Wear whatever you like. Nobody will even notice unless you show up in a baremidriff or bikini.

06-05-2010, 09:41 PM
I think that skirt is too busy, but that's me. Similar style in a dk solid would be better. Black, dk grey, navy, etc.

I go very conservative to funerals and pick solid black or dk grey if possible.
Even if I end up the most formally dressed I'd rather do it as a mark of respect for the dead and the surviving family than be underdressed.

Here's a good tips article:


06-06-2010, 01:28 PM
I think it depends on where you live.That skirt would be fine where I live. I generally do wear black or brown to a funeral, but I have noticed that here in California, people generally seem to wear solid colors but not necessarily neutrals. They dress more formally than usual too.

06-06-2010, 01:34 PM
For me, that skirt is too bright and cheerful for a funeral. But, you would know the family/friends better and what would be appropriate.

As far as hemming the pants, what about double sided tape? It doesn't have to last for days, just a couple of hours.

06-06-2010, 08:35 PM
Thanks for all the suggestions. Going to look through my closet and see what else I can find. I'm going out for lunch after the visitation, and will take the skirt/top for that. I do have a plain brown dress that I can wear a shrug or sweater over. I think I might go with that.

I don't have any double sided tape, or hemming tape, and won't be out early enough to get some before hand (I don't drive).