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Maddie89
06-05-2010, 06:17 PM
....when it all starts to feel a bit daunting?

I'm just curious because it must be a common enough thing....most of us have a lot to lose.

I've gotten into weight loss (who knows how many times) and lost weight and I get as far as 10 or 20lbs and think....this is going to take forever. And it can be a bit disheartening. And I know that you need to celebrate all the small victories but it doesn't stop the fact that it's still very daunting.....

Anyway just wondering what keeps you going??


Hopeful8
06-05-2010, 06:24 PM
I've never posted in this section, but I saw the title of your thread and had to comment.

The idea of losing weight can be extremely daunting, I completely agree. The one thing that keeps me going and keeps me on track is telling myself that "Tomorrow, next week, & next year are going to happen regardless of whether I'm leading a healthy lifestyle or continuing to live life out of control, so I may as well do my absolute best each and everyday"

There's one poster on this board (and I can't for the life of me remember who it is) but she has a quote in her signature that says: 1 year from now you'll wish that you had started today. That quote couldn't be more true.

Just stay on track and keep fighting, the hours are going to tick by anyway so you may as well make the most of them. Good luck!

caribbeangirl02
06-05-2010, 06:25 PM
Hi Maddie89, when feeling like giving up, I tell myself if I stop now, where will I be 6, 9 or 12 months from now? Life is going to continue, nothing will stop. Now, do I want to find myself in the same place I was a year from now?
It sounds simplistic, but sometimes it gives me the motivation to keep going... Best of lucks in your journey!!!

Caribbean Girl


huntress
06-05-2010, 06:27 PM
I love that quote and it's so true!

synger
06-05-2010, 07:31 PM
I only weigh myself monthly, and measure at that time, too. That way I'm not a slave to the scale, nor is it my only measurement of progress. I focus more on the day-to-day "working" of my plan, and keep to the faith that if I eat within my plan and exercise regularly, there WILL be a result on the scale and measuring tape. But the day-to-day working is the actual goal. The scale will move because of it, but it's not my main goal. Otherwise I focus so much on the scale that I miss the rest.

I also have really begun thinking of this weight-loss journey as a road: I can either be moving backward, standing still, or moving forward, but I'm always ON it. I might as well keep moving.

In addition, I don't think of the WHOLE shebang. Sure, I want to be less than 150 pounds... but I haven't seen that in almost 30 years. So you'll notice my ticker doesn't even go down that far. For me, "long-term" is 30 pounds, and short-term is the monthly weigh-in and the "decade" I'm currently focusing on. I can't worry about 150. Or 250, for that matter. I'm focusing on the 280s at the moment. I'll worry about the rest later. When I get below 280 and I've reached that first 30 pound goal, I'll change my "long-term" goal to 250, 30 more pounds gone.

This is what has been helping me this time get ready for the long haul. Otherwise, I'd already be overwhelmed and be contemplating giving up. The 4-6 month period has always been that time for me. This time is different, because I'm not overwhelmed by the enormity of the job.

Even losing "just" one pound every week leads to a loss of over 50 pounds in a year. Next year at this time, I'll be at least 50 pounds lighter. I don't have to rush. Slow but steady can win the race, too!

Eliana
06-05-2010, 07:49 PM
Hopeful gave you the start of my answer. :D I read that same quote (A year from now you'll be glad you started today) and really took it to heart. That day, my first day here, I decided to make a one year commitment to myself. Through a little self-analysis I realized my problem was that I quit when it seemed like what I was doing was too hard given the slow the progress I made. But I DID make progress...it just wasn't fast enough for me. So I decided to give this journey one year, no matter what, just to see where it would get me. For one year, no matter what the scale says, I am on plan every day. This is the most successful I have ever been. The most I have ever lost at one time was 30 lbs. I'm up to over 50 now. :D

Also, I love my mini goals. My ticker is always set to a mini goal because seeing the entire 100 lbs I have to lose is too daunting.

Oh, and directly opposite of Synger, I am a daily weigher for the same reason. By weighing daily, I am not a slave to the scale. I find myself thinking about it way less by knowing that I get to weigh again every morning.

It's all about what works for you, but isn't wonderful that we have each other to share possibilities?!

tigerchild
06-05-2010, 07:52 PM
It's really helped me this time to compare my weightloss to someone training to become a professional or olympic athlete, to be honest. Sure, everyone notices the "big event" but behind the big event were years of every day training and decisions (and injuries and setbacks along the way).

Maybe this line of thinking is too overwhelming for some. But when I am tempted to blow off my exercise time, or the 15 minutes of planning or extra shopping or if I have a bad day and think I might as well throw in the towel...I remind myself that what I am working for, in my world, is just as hard as someone who is in hard core training to become a professional athlete.

At least this time around, it's really given me strength to NOT rely on "snapshot" moments (weight on any given day, an overindulgence, illness, ect) but on needing to keep on training to get to my goal and beyond. It's also given me permission to guard my time for exercise and food shopping/prep/planning. When I was "just" dieting, it was easy for me to just toss that aside to take care of someone else. But now I am training my body, and working towards my health.

Even the most talented natural athletes still need to practice and train. It's just how it is. In order to make and keep my body fit, I'm going to need to do the same too. Even after I get to "goal weight", I know that I'm not "done". But that's okay with me now, and I understand that, I've made peace with the process. I'm sure I'll have total freakouts every once in awhile, that's who I am too. :) But that image is really helping me.

ANewCreation
06-05-2010, 08:38 PM
I think I finally have my head wrapped around the whole idea of this being a life style. And, I have a friend who refers to her new lifestyle as 'training for old age.' So, in a weird way that takes off alot of pressure. I'm not losing wt for a reunion, wedding or some other important event. Eating healthy moderate portions of good foods and exercising is just a way of life now. If I make a mistake, and I do, I just get right back on the wagon.

Because of the change in attitude, the weightloss is no longer the focus. It's a lovely side affect of life style changes I've made and intend on keeping till they put me in the grave.

Anyway, that's how I'm doing it for the long haul.

GirlyGirlSebas
06-05-2010, 10:33 PM
When this gets daunting, I go to the goal section,the maintainer section and right here on the 100lb club I read the stories and posts of the people who were once in my shoes and they are finally doing it! I tell myself that, if they can do it, I can too. I also come here everyday and make myself accountable to everyone. Hang in there. There is no reason why this can't be your time to get it right. And, keep trying. Don't give up!

caliyah
06-06-2010, 02:03 AM
It's really helped me this time to compare my weightloss to someone training to become a professional or olympic athlete, to be honest. Sure, everyone notices the "big event" but behind the big event were years of every day training and decisions (and injuries and setbacks along the way).

Maybe this line of thinking is too overwhelming for some. But when I am tempted to blow off my exercise time, or the 15 minutes of planning or extra shopping or if I have a bad day and think I might as well throw in the towel...I remind myself that what I am working for, in my world, is just as hard as someone who is in hard core training to become a professional athlete.

At least this time around, it's really given me strength to NOT rely on "snapshot" moments (weight on any given day, an overindulgence, illness, ect) but on needing to keep on training to get to my goal and beyond. It's also given me permission to guard my time for exercise and food shopping/prep/planning. When I was "just" dieting, it was easy for me to just toss that aside to take care of someone else. But now I am training my body, and working towards my health.

Even the most talented natural athletes still need to practice and train. It's just how it is. In order to make and keep my body fit, I'm going to need to do the same too. Even after I get to "goal weight", I know that I'm not "done". But that's okay with me now, and I understand that, I've made peace with the process. I'm sure I'll have total freakouts every once in awhile, that's who I am too. :) But that image is really helping me.

beautifully said! great way to think of it

kendra
06-06-2010, 02:21 AM
The first thing that keeps me going is this board! It has been my lifesaver lately.

The next thing that keeps me going is I look in the mirror and I cannot stand to look at myself being this size. :( I know I am healthier than I was but I still have a long way to go.

The last thing that keeps me going is I know that I can accomplish this goal!

time2lose
06-06-2010, 08:16 AM
I am another one who looks at the year, with a slightly different saying. I tell myself that a year is going to go by regardless and I can choose to weigh more, less, or the same.

I think it also helps that I have accepted that I had to make permanent changes. I am developing a diet that I can eat the rest of my life.

Like GirlyGirlSebas, I look at the success stories to remind myself that this is doable. Others have lost large amounts of weight, so I can too. In addition to the success stories here, I look at the Joy Fit Club stories on the Today show Web site.

Lyn2007
06-06-2010, 11:59 AM
I tell myself the truth. It is ok to decide to stay fat, if I want to.

Then I go, "No way, I don't want to!" and I stay on plan.

(It isn't always easy, but I have been fat long enough and want to be healthy, so I use that as motivation).

Mellington
06-06-2010, 12:24 PM
For me Its a song a song I just found But its from the Broadway show Wicked And it was preformed on Glee .. The Song is called Defying Gravity I am sure its not meant the way I am hearing it but thats the wonderfull thing about music it can mean different things to different people


You can find it on You Tube Check it out I know for me its a Amazing Song
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mM1fQBZKwzM&feature=related

dragonwoman64
06-06-2010, 01:40 PM
I think I finally have my head wrapped around the whole idea of this being a life style....
Anyway, that's how I'm doing it for the long haul.

lots of great things written here I agree with. the biggest thing for me is accepting it as a lifestyle. I can't say I've conquered all my weight loss and eating :devil:s, but I've come a long way and am much healthier.

I pulled a blouse out of the closet today that was a size 28. I buy 16s now. I threw that puppy in the garbage (it was a little raggedy too, ha). Persistence and faith helped me get to this point. Yeah, it's time and work, but most things worth having and doing take time and work.

sterbear
06-06-2010, 04:09 PM
I'm pretty new to my weightloss journey, but when I feel like bingeing or not exercising I tell myself, "what could be better than a new body?!" it really keeps me going, I always wished that I could be thin, but I have complete control of it, so why should I deny myself that gift!
also, 3FC helps me out a ton, I see all their progress & support and I want to give back as much as they give me!
I hope this helps, and you are doing amazing! :hug:

PeanutsMom704
06-07-2010, 08:44 AM
There's one poster on this board (and I can't for the life of me remember who it is) but she has a quote in her signature that says: 1 year from now you'll wish that you had started today.

The quote I've seen several times is actually "A year from now, you'll be glad you started today." So it's not about looking back and thinking if only I had done this, it's about making the commitment TODAY and being able to look back in a year with a wonderful sense of pride and accomplishment. Some people manage to lose all their weight in that year, others don't lose that quickly but can still make so much progress in a year.

So either way, if you start today and keep going, you'll be able to look back and be so much happier and healthier a year from now, instead of looking back and wishing you had started sooner but still be a year away from where you want to be.

mizb1978
06-07-2010, 09:22 AM
For me, it is a couple things.

First when I begin to think it is too hard and I want to give up, usually I say it out loud and my SO is in the room. He has been saying recently, "I won't let you quit." He has been effected by my weight loss, as he now has lost some weight.

Second, I come here. I look around at not the goal pages, the ultimate successes, but the people who have made their mini goals. The 25, 50 or even people who are halfway to goal. I think "They are here with me, they are doing this, so can I." Just as an example the poster above me. I see her ticker says 43.8 lbs gone! I think "That could be me in a few months! I got this!"

I do weigh in everyday, one reason is that the only scale I have is the Wii Fit one and I hate the annoying whine when I don't do a body test everyday. Second is I like to monitor. I didn't weigh for close to 9 months and I gained 25 lbs. I don't want to lose focus. If the scale goes up, I exercise a little more that day, eat a little less or more veggies, more water. Usually the next day it goes back down. I know one day didn't do it, but that drop in the scale keeps me going.

synger
06-07-2010, 11:28 AM
I think I finally have my head wrapped around the whole idea of this being a life style. And, I have a friend who refers to her new lifestyle as 'training for old age.'

"training for old age" is actually a big part of my mind-set this time, too. As I'm hitting my mid-40s, I'm seeing more and more of my friends who are beginning to have health problems. I've been dx pre-Diabetic. My tendinitis is constant, rather than just flare-ups. My husband is beginning to have knee and back problems due to his weight. My best friend is using a cane.

I do NOT want to go into middle age already limping and in pain due to excess weight. As I look toward the next 20 years of my life, until retirement, I don't want to struggle every day with weight-related access and health issues. I don't want my husband or daughter to have to care for me because I haven't taken care of myself over the years. Even a little bit of exercise regularly helps my mobility and pain issues. I can do that!

When I work through a mental "health topic" online course through my doc's office for weight-loss, it had me choose a sentence that best reflected what my goal was. Without a doubt, the sentence was "I want to be fit and healthy." Skinny will be secondary. Healthy is much more important to me. When I focus on that, instead of just the number on the scale, this seems much more do-able to me.

It's really helped me this time to compare my weightloss to someone training to become a professional or olympic athlete, to be honest. Sure, everyone notices the "big event" but behind the big event were years of every day training and decisions (and injuries and setbacks along the way).

I really like this allegory. I think my next journal entry will be on this idea; it has the potential to be a very strong motivator for me, especially in light of the "fit and healthy" goal I mention above. Thank you for sharing this!

MissNibs
06-11-2010, 10:22 PM
It's really helped me this time to compare my weightloss to someone training to become a professional or olympic athlete, to be honest. Sure, everyone notices the "big event" but behind the big event were years of every day training and decisions (and injuries and setbacks along the way).

Maybe this line of thinking is too overwhelming for some. But when I am tempted to blow off my exercise time, or the 15 minutes of planning or extra shopping or if I have a bad day and think I might as well throw in the towel...I remind myself that what I am working for, in my world, is just as hard as someone who is in hard core training to become a professional athlete.

At least this time around, it's really given me strength to NOT rely on "snapshot" moments (weight on any given day, an overindulgence, illness, ect) but on needing to keep on training to get to my goal and beyond. It's also given me permission to guard my time for exercise and food shopping/prep/planning. When I was "just" dieting, it was easy for me to just toss that aside to take care of someone else. But now I am training my body, and working towards my health.

Even the most talented natural athletes still need to practice and train. It's just how it is. In order to make and keep my body fit, I'm going to need to do the same too. Even after I get to "goal weight", I know that I'm not "done". But that's okay with me now, and I understand that, I've made peace with the process. I'm sure I'll have total freakouts every once in awhile, that's who I am too. :) But that image is really helping me.

I agree with your logic. I've thought as much myself.
We'll probably never come close to training as hard as they do.

MissNibs

LotusMama
06-12-2010, 12:56 AM
Hi Maddie89, when feeling like giving up, I tell myself if I stop now, where will I be 6, 9 or 12 months from now? Life is going to continue, nothing will stop. Now, do I want to find myself in the same place I was a year from now?
It sounds simplistic, but sometimes it gives me the motivation to keep going... Best of lucks in your journey!!!

Caribbean Girl

I completely agree with Caribbean Girl.

I also agree that the quote "a year from now, you'll be glad you did this" has been incredibly helpful. There was actually a post that used that quote in the title the day I joined 3FC (and the day before I started my weight loss journey) last summer. The post was so inspirational and helped me to think long term. And, you know what? It is true--I am so glad I did started last year. It is worth it.

Cheers,

J

gshillitani
06-12-2010, 10:30 PM
These are all really good thoughts. I'm just beginning my weigh loss journey, and I'm glad I found this thread! I'm still in the "new thing to do" excitement phase, but I'm sure that will wear off at some point LOL I'll have to adopt some of the thoughts posted here when I start getting discouraged.

Gina

Trazey34
06-12-2010, 11:27 PM
I'd figured that toying with weight loss had consumed way too many of my 42 years, so i said enuff's enuff and dealt with all the issues that MADE me fat and KEPT me fat and said "F YOU FAT!" ha, and when it go overwhelming I gave myself a talking to - I told myself that I was NOT a victim, I did not need PITY, I did this to MYSELF and it was up to ME to fix it -- no one else cares, it's all on ME. Excuses are just that. The time will pass no matter what I do, and I'd rather be lighter on the other side of it.

Onederchic
06-13-2010, 12:38 AM
lots of great things written here I agree with. the biggest thing for me is accepting it as a lifestyle. I can't say I've conquered all my weight loss and eating :devil:s, but I've come a long way and am much healthier.

I pulled a blouse out of the closet today that was a size 28. I buy 16s now. I threw that puppy in the garbage (it was a little raggedy too, ha). Persistence and faith helped me get to this point. Yeah, it's time and work, but most things worth having and doing take time and work.


I agree and it's the same for me.

proudmommy09
06-13-2010, 05:45 PM
I'd figured that toying with weight loss had consumed way too many of my 42 years, so i said enuff's enuff and dealt with all the issues that MADE me fat and KEPT me fat and said "F YOU FAT!" ha, and when it go overwhelming I gave myself a talking to - I told myself that I was NOT a victim, I did not need PITY, I did this to MYSELF and it was up to ME to fix it -- no one else cares, it's all on ME. Excuses are just that. The time will pass no matter what I do, and I'd rather be lighter on the other side of it.

So True I like that!!!

TimeToTryAgain
06-18-2010, 01:25 PM
Oh you guys, you may have saved me today! I am so frustrated, I feel like I'm working and working for nothing. I am going to go tape that quote to my scale, my bathroom mirror, and my fridge, and then I'm going to change my ticker to a much more manageable goal, and then I'm going for a walk. Thank you Maddie89 for asking the question! Because I sure know that I didn't have an answer.

DhaniCauldwell
06-18-2010, 01:38 PM
I tell myself that if I can overcome hard classes in college, then I can lose the weight! Something tells me kinetics is a whole lot harder than losing the last of my weight. : )

:queen: Dhani :queen:

Ashenvenus
06-18-2010, 11:52 PM
Hey Maddie~

I completely understand where you're coming from...and I've gotten kind of lucky...when I'm having one of "those" days (like today, for example), I've managed to find a few really good friends who force me to get out and do something to make me feel good.

Like today...work sucked in the biggest way...and I ended up having to take a 5.5 hours to transport some animals back to the shelter they came from, and I was cranky because I was supposed to walk today but wouldn't be home until late...so when I contacted my walking partner and was all down and cranky, so told me not to stress...that it would work itself out...and when I got home, she was sitting on my porch waiting for me...and forced me to go for a short, 2-mile walk.

My suggestion is to find a supportive group who will help bring you up when you're feeling like giving up...support is the key to any success.