100 lb. Club - so angry @ myself




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matt_H
05-30-2010, 10:37 PM
I went on vacation and just did not do well at all. Truthfully, even the week or so leading up to vacation wasn't that great either.

I could come up with excuses for my behavior, but that doesn't change the facts. I weighed in tonight and the number actually shocked me. I expected a big gain but no where near that.

Right now I feel so deflated.

I have 30 days till my birthday. 30 days to try to get back some of the ground I lost. 30 days to get back into the habits that have worked for me. 30 days to find my old self again and that would be a great B-day gift to myself.


Onederchic
05-30-2010, 10:40 PM
You have done so well and we all know you can get back on track. Forgive yourself, brush it off and move on :hug:

cfmama
05-30-2010, 10:55 PM
Oh my friend. It's happened to me too. It happens to EVERYONE. I would totally commit to a 30 TOTALLY ON PLAN thread if you want to start one!!!


ubercast
05-30-2010, 10:59 PM
It happens to the best of us. It looks like you've been doing amazing, so don't be so hard on your self. ^_^

Lori Bell
05-30-2010, 11:06 PM
Come on Matt...you can do this. Day one starts NOW. You can't go back to were you came from. No food on this earth is worth going back.

calluna
05-30-2010, 11:50 PM
I'm with cfmama...use a 30 day TOP thread to refocus and back to a place where you're happier.

LotusMama
05-31-2010, 12:02 AM
You have come so far; going backwards is not an option. Get back on track and this slip up won't matter in the larger scheme of things; it is just part of the journey.

Keep on keeping on--

J

rockinrobin
05-31-2010, 12:03 AM
Hunker down and get back to dieting one oh one so to speak. Just suck it up and jump back in with both feet. I know within a few days you will be feeling relieved and thrilled to be *back where you belong*. Because I know all too well that where you are is NOT a comfortable place to be. And luckily you don't have to stay there. You can and will get back to where you belong, I have no doubt in my mind. :hug:

Cglasscock1
05-31-2010, 12:23 AM
You have done an amazing job with your weight loss. So you gained a few back on a well deserved vacation... you know from experience what to do next. Get back to doing the things that you know will work. Good luck!

Sandi
05-31-2010, 07:51 AM
So you took the first step, and came back here and posted about it. Next step, do something about it. What's your plan?

Tai
05-31-2010, 08:02 AM
You can do this Matt! Just get back on track and I think you'll feel much more in control and less defeated in just a few days.

We're all behind you.

Vladadog
05-31-2010, 08:28 AM
Matt, don't beat yourself up - then you'll just be too sore to exercise. Even once you reach goal, even once you're past goal and maintain for ages, there are going to be times when your weight goes back up and not just water weight. You're going to have to wrestle them back off every time. So this past weekend is just practice for the rest of your life. Now get to work on that birthday present to your self!

PeanutsMom704
05-31-2010, 09:16 AM
fwiw, most people gain weight on vacation, even those who have never had a weight problem. It's a time to be indulgent and pamper yourself and I hope you had a great time.

And yes, now back to reality, back to taking off the vacation pounds, just like most people have to do, and then getting back to the job of finishing up the weight loss journey. No need to beat yourself up and let it be a trigger to keep staying off plan. Just consider it a reality check of how easy it is for weight to go on. But fortunately, you've got 200+ lbs and 2+ years (more I think?) of proof that you are stronger than the ability to gain weight.

(and no, I'm not suggesting that people deliberately should gain on vacation - it's awesome if you can stay on plan and maintain or even continue losing. But I don't think it's a sign of any larger failure if you don't).

nelie
05-31-2010, 09:21 AM
Of your entire weight loss experience, your vacation and the time leading up to your vacation is only a short snippet in time. I can understand those times when we have difficulties and gain a few lbs but really, we have an entire lifetime of maintaining our weight loss and it is unreasonable to expect that there won't be challenges and times when we temporarily gain a few pounds. It is only temporary though.

Karen925
05-31-2010, 09:38 AM
I wouuld also take this unpleasant feeling and make it work for you. Next time you travel, look back at this time, write it in a journal if necessary, and devise a workable plan to avoid the gain.

I travel and this is exactly what I did. I get better with each trip how to handle it. The excursions involve different situations but I use the same underlying principles from losing at home. So I continue to lose on the trip. Soon I will turn my focus to maintaining while on a trip.

I like neither debt or weight gain after traveling.

TaraLee
05-31-2010, 10:49 AM
:hug:

You're only human ;) You've acknowledged the unwise choices. You know what it takes to get where you want to be, so point your feet in that direction and take the first step :) You've come so far. Your a huge inspiration!

saef
05-31-2010, 11:41 AM
Seriously, Matt, don't let old voices saying unpleasant things obscure the amazing thing you've done. You're not going back.

Think of it this way: Your whole effort weight loss effort has been like a a big science project, with you as the experimental subject. It has required research. It has required field work. You have put in hours & hours, like for a second job. During your vacation, you experimented with another way of being. Which meant seeing if you could eat a certain way. Results of your experiment? You've concluded you cannot. It's not an emotional thing. It's a neutral fact. Really, as they say a "learning experience." And you know what does work. So return to the actions that have gotten you good results.

And no self-recrimination. This is how we learn. (Or re-learn, for those of us who've been fat for a long time.) It's okay to try things, to conclude they don't work, & then to try something else or go back to a previous method.

You're gonna be fine. You didn't lose everything you've done for such a long time through one small vacation. Look again at Nelie's post about how brief that time offplan will look in retrospect.

ubergirl
05-31-2010, 12:19 PM
So many wise words here, I'm just going to add that I KNOW you will get back on track immediately.

harrismm
05-31-2010, 12:28 PM
Cheering for you Matt!!

dragonwoman64
05-31-2010, 12:44 PM
you are light years away from your starting point, not just physically, mentally and probably spiritually as well. to my mind, you've gotten to something of a fine tuning phase, how to handle vacation blips, etc. Don't psych yourself out over an amount of weight that actually may end up coming off very quickly once you're back on plan. This is a lifetime deal, so there will be other blips, gains, triumphs, goals met, new habits formed, and so forth.

maybe this is a good time too, with as little self recrimination as possible, to think about how you might have handled things differently. maybe indulged here, but held back there, added more activity here. then you can be more mentally prepared next time. it's all balance.

ps, plus wear form fitting clothes while your on vacation, heh heh, will remind you quickly if you consume too much (!)

eclipse
05-31-2010, 01:55 PM
Matt, I really think these are the times that separate long term maintainers and those who gain it all back. Most maintainers have or will experience a time like this where they realize they haven't been as on top of their weight and health as they should/could have been. You can choose to forget everything you've learned on this journey and wallow in shame and gain it all back, or you can get your butt right back up and keep doing all the things that helped you lose in the first place! And I KNOW which one you'll choose ;). You've come too far to throw it all away.

Also, I don't know how much you gained, but if you ate the way people usually eat on vacation, I would bet you that a huge portion of it is fluid retention from too much salt. So start eating clean and making sure you're getting your water in, and I bet most of it will come off fast. And if it doesn't come off fast? Oh well. Then it can come off slowly. Either way, it comes off.

chicpanda
05-31-2010, 02:05 PM
I am so with you right now. I just regained 12 pounds in one month. Thanks for being honest, so I can 'piggy back' on the support letters sent to you.

Liliann
05-31-2010, 02:08 PM
Wow! Look how much worked you did...:bravo: on your efforts and don't let the slip up get you down..am sure you will be back in action.

matt_H
05-31-2010, 10:39 PM
I felt like I needed to say something to get my a$$ in gear and start back on plan again. Today is day 2 and so far so good! I helped a friend move today so I got my exercise in and I did a bit of walking (and made good food choices). I'm glad that I'm back home and can start back into my old routine.

Thanks for all the supportive comments!

loveit
06-03-2010, 12:38 PM
matt its ok . everone falls off somedays. but the good thing is u know u did wrong and ur determeine to make it right thats what you have to look forward too. dont beat ur self up. take the 30days to stay on track u be ok

findingfawn
06-03-2010, 12:44 PM
How are you doing now Matt?

toomuchmoxie
06-04-2010, 09:10 PM
Well, you can just give up. Then you can be back where you were before and face that mountain again. Which is where I am, @#%$#^#$^.

You are so, so close. You're almost at the frigging top of Mount Everest. Man up. I'd like birthday celebration photos!

ORSewmama
06-04-2010, 10:05 PM
Glad to hear that you're back on track, and didn't let the negative talk in your head drag you completely down. I know that negative talk for me can be very persuasive.

I just want to reiterate what someone else posted - even people who have never had a weight problem and/or keep on top of it gain weight on vacation. I know my good friend who maintains her weight very well came home from vacation months ago, and hopped on the scale, and she said she nearly fell off! But with her, there wasn't really any negative talk, she just said for the next few weeks whenever we went out or anything that she was still recovering from her vacation and just being cautious till she dropped the fun weight. It's just the way she lives, and I think it's healthy and great honestly.

PaulaM
06-05-2010, 10:17 AM
Thanks for your timely post. I'm leaving in a few days for home where I will be for three weeks. For a minute I thought how fun, I can just enjoy myself and eat whatever I want to, plus no tiring gym to go to. You reminded me I don't want to lose the ground I've covered already.

I know you will re-lose the weight. This just shows once we have those fat cells they love to try and fill themselves back up again. I guess eating all we want will never be an option for us.

Judy Lynn
06-05-2010, 10:31 AM
Just wanted to chime in and say I hope you are still doing well and kicking that vacation weight to the curb! In the grand scheme of things it is such a small blip on the radar. Remember "It's the Climb."