Weight Loss Support - Others weight loss success
05-27-2010, 08:05 PM
So does anyone have this problem? you just feel jealous/happy for that person then it makes you sad? because YOU arent there yet?
UGH i seen some pics of someone who was alot bigger than me and shes looking AMAZING! and i'm happy for her then it just kicks in where i feel all sad and stuff :(
05-27-2010, 08:27 PM
No... I don't really experience jealousy like that. Though I do remember it from pregnancy ... seeing it pop up a lot on those types of boards or in real life people I know who felt jealous that someone else was pregnant and they weren't.
I think we're all just wired different.
05-27-2010, 08:31 PM
well.. its not the jealousy its more like "aww i wish i could be there too!" haha i guess jealousy is a bad word...
i'm more talking about just the feeling of "being down" when you see someone you know go forward and your slowly truckin. lol
05-27-2010, 10:08 PM
i do i do!!
when i first started coming on here i couldnt even look at the goals page.
05-27-2010, 10:15 PM
I know I experience jealousy! My goal seems so far off in the future and I wish I was there right now, but I'm not. It's going to take time. I can't waste time comparing myself to anyone because I need to focus on me!
:queen: Dhani :queen:
I attribute it to "being human" and do my darndest not to let it show on the outside.
05-28-2010, 12:44 PM
I know exactly what you mean . . . I see people who have the same goal as me but are maybe 3-4 lbs. closer and I turn green. I think it's natural, and as long as you are still supportive of the other person, it's okay to have those feelings at least a little bit :)
05-28-2010, 01:24 PM
Thanks ladies! I'm definitely supportive but deep down I go " aww I want o be there too"
No. Seriously, I don't. I'd tell you if I did. (I don't tend to hold back & I have been known to envy other things.)
See, the stats we give -- height & weight, and yes, even pictures -- only tell part of our stories.
It's me wrestling with my story: My body, my metabolism & genetic body shape, & the demands of the life I've created. In other words, it's all me vs. me. In all my uniqueness. Never me vs. her. There's no way she duplicates exactly my whole entire story.
That's how alone we are in this thing. So very alone that we really need to help one another as much as we can.
05-29-2010, 08:38 PM
Ok, I'll admit! I used to visit this forum and there was this woman there who was around the same weight as me. I made her my secret "competition" and was determined to lose weight faster than her. I was on a roll man, the pounds were dropping and she was moving soooo slow! Well, eventually I stopped dieting, and stopped visiting the forum. When I finally decided to get back on the train, I went to the forum and found her at 158 while I was STILL 185. You wanna talk about being sick! I wasn't mad that she lost weight, I was just sad thinking about where I could have been if I had just stuck to it like she did.
05-29-2010, 08:52 PM
LOL Thats funny! i like it. hahaha
05-29-2010, 10:40 PM
I don't experience jealousy so much. Mostly I get a little frustrated when I see people that are around my height and their before is much less than mine. I also have to prevent myself from throwing things at the TV when people in weight loss commercials talk about going from a size 6 to a size 2.
05-29-2010, 10:44 PM
I just get jealous of folks who are taller so they don't have to go as far to get to a healthy BMI.
05-30-2010, 12:27 AM
That feeling is human nature. When I was in the high 180s, I felt like I was jealous of almost everyone in the 180s thread lol. I was stuck at 187 for so long that it hurt to watch everyone pass me by. Some people even came in to the thread way later than me and marched right past me! Sometimes I'm still dealing with that feeling. It's almost like "I'm supposed to be where she is." But I realize everyone's body and plan is different. So I keep trucking along, doing my thing.
05-30-2010, 12:56 AM
Eh, I don't usually feel that way. I sometimes wish I was at goal, rather than temporarily on a weightless break, but I know that the speed of the journey doesn't matter if I am just bouncing back up the scale, whereas my weightless has been maintained, even in difficult circumstances. I am really proud of that!