100 lb. Club - Anyone else feel too overwhelming?




PinkHoodie
05-18-2010, 06:32 PM
Sorry if the topic doesn't make sense. I mean, when you look at losing 100 pounds or so, do you ever just get overwhelmed? I have been stuck at the same weight range for 2 weeks now, and sometimes I just feel like its too hard and overwhelming. I have been able to push through, and keep going. And I don't want to give up this time. But I feel like its so early to hit a real plateau...


beerab
05-18-2010, 06:41 PM
I wouldn't look at the big picture. If I think "omg I still have about 70 lbs to go" I feel that way.

But if I think "okay I'm at 198 today, let's get to the 180s!" I feel like it's not so hard to do.

therex
05-18-2010, 06:44 PM
i don't have more than 100 pounds to loose, more like 52, but it can be overwhelming at times. I work so hard to lose even 1 pound, and really restrict my diet and exercise. I've already lost 35 pounds, but those came off relatively easy. At the moment, i am so motivated but i don't know if it will be like that 3 months down the road.. it's a long journey ahead of me. Right now i the only thing is do have control over, and i'm definitely not giving up.


cfmama
05-18-2010, 06:47 PM
Of course.. It's all very overwhelming. I'm still stuck at the same plateau I've been at for well over two months. Sometimes I want to give up... but I don't. When I slip I get back up and get on that horse. It's easier to keep trecking then to live with being fat. For realz.

junebug41
05-18-2010, 06:50 PM
Absolutely. In fact, I think that was my mental block for so many years. I mean, 20lbs is one thing, but 80,90,...100 lbs??? Insurmountable. I think I eventually just pushed it out of my mind. The first 30 pounds just flew off me, but I didn't know it at the time because I wasn't even weighing myself. Once I got that first big chunk off, I started breaking things down into 10 and eventually 5 pounds increments. It really is all mental, I think, for me at least.

TaraLee
05-18-2010, 06:57 PM
I'm just restarting my weightloss journey; at an even higher weight the last time I was here.

Trust me, overwhelming is a feeling everyone here at one point or another, has dealt with. While I'm not "actively" on my weight loss journey yet, I'm taking this week to make my plan. Learning what worked last time and what didn't. I hated my workouts last time. I dreaded them and I got this horrible overwhelming feeling that for the rest of my life I'd be in this phase of plugging along every workout session.

It helped me to break my goals into 10% losses. At first it was hard cause I thought, "yeah, i lose this 10% and there's another right after it!" But the closer I got to the 10% the more pysched I got. It gave me a kind of high that I think helped me along. So I know, no doubt, that this will be a very important part of my weight loss this time. I'm setting rewards to for each 10%; saving the "big" rewards or the ones I really, really, really want till the last few 10%'s.

I read an article awhile back about cycling your calorie intakes too. Have a couple (2-3 depending on your activity level) of higher calories days, cycled in to low calorie days than avg. calorie days. Like do 1 avg., 2high, 1 low, 1 avg, low (theres tons of articles out there). Its supposed to boost your bodys metabolic rate and its supposed to help break through platues. I'm not sure how effective it is but I'm sure theres some ppl here who've tried it out and might have some feed back.

Just remember platues suck but they're a good time to review what is and isn't working for you and make the adjustments you need to.

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PinkHoodie
05-18-2010, 07:27 PM
Thank you so much for all the support. It just helps to not feel alone. DH just doesn't get it. He is happy where he is at, and doesn't get the frustration of seeing the same weight day after day after day. I have really good days where I am really proud of my accomplishments so far and know I can do it, and there are days like today where I feel like I haven't changed and I will always be fat. Just gotta push through...

PeanutsMom704
05-18-2010, 07:29 PM
I don't completely block out the big picture, but I mostly focus on the small increments. Not just what's in my signature, but all sort of milestones that I keep in my head. Right now, it's to get into the 2-teens (just .8 to go!!). After that, will be to hit 45 lbs total, after that comes meeting my second 10%. Sometimes, it's a few lbs to get to one of these minigoals, but not more than 5 lbs because I can always work to get a new chickie avatar.

But I look at myself as living my maintenance lifestyle. Although it's possible I will need to reduce calories at some point, I don't plan to eat a lot more than I eat right now even once I'm at goal. The biggest change for me is that I'll be able to enjoy a restaurant meal a little more often than I do right now without worry. But for my day to day food, what I eat now is pretty much it. So even if the scale doesn't cooperate, I try to tell myself that I'm practicing maintenance. And since I plan to have several decades to live in maintenance, I can use all the practice I can get!

kaplods
05-18-2010, 07:34 PM
To keep your teeth, you've got to practice good oral hygiene. Do you know how much tooth brushing, not to mention how much toothpaste, how many toothbrushes, how much dental floss and how many trips to the dentist that means over a liftetime? Do you have any idea how many thousands of dollars that comes to?

Dental care would be overwhelming too, if we thought of it like that.

We're taught to think about weight loss in a way that is likely to be overwheming - so think differently.

This weight loss attempt is different than the 1800 or so previous attempts primarily in the way I think about weight loss. All those other times (over more than 35 years, as I've been dieting since age 5, with more failure than success), I dieted just like everyone else does.

I started on Mondays
If I blew it one day, I'd start fresh the next day (eating whatever I wanted in the meantime) - unless of course it was Thursday or Friday, then I'd start fresh on Monday (eating whatever I wanted on the weekend).


In essence, I got overwhelmed easily, and I let the scale rule my life.

This time (which I'd say started about three years ago) I decided that I weight loss wasn't going to be my goal - it was going to be a side effect of my real goal (getting healthier by making healthier habits). I was going to only add stuff to my life (or take a way stuff) that I could see doing for the long haul, probably forever. Things I wanted to add or subtract from my life - and I was going to do them whether or not any weight loss occurred as a result of them.

Some of the things I did in the beginning didn't result in any weight loss at all. Some of them didn't result in much weight loss, but they all made my life and health better.

They are all "brushing my teeth" behaviors. I'm doing because they have long term benefits (with or without weight loss). And I've been rewarded with a loss of more than 80 lbs, better mobility, less pain, and improved health.

And it's been easier than EVER, and it's not overwhelming at all - unless I start making it all about the weight again. When it's all about how much weight I lose - I get anxious, I start doing dumb stuff to try to lose weight faster, then I beat myself up for doing the dumb stuff or I beat myself up for not being able to do the dumb stuff, and I start to think that I'll NEVER be able to get all the weight off (so what's the point of even trying)..... Blah, blah, blah - all the stuff that is "normal" about weight loss, but entirely useless.

When I look at it rationally, it never goes down that overwhelming path. So what if the weight loss is slow, what is this a contest? Are there prizes for finishing "first" (especially when you do unhealthy and even risky behaviors to get there). So what if I never lose another pound. Weighing 311 lbs isn't the greatest thing, but it's sure a lot better than weighing 394 lbs (and a lot better than weighing the 400+ I know I will weigh if I "give up" entirely).

If I never lose another pound, and only maintain my current weight - it will still be a monumental success in my life. A success I've never had this long before. In fact, I've never maintained a weight loss before - I only have ever lost and gained (I did spend a few years not gaining or losing, by refusing to diet, but it was my highest weight. Maybe if I had found "not-dieting" earlier, I could have maintained a lower weight, I don't know. That's water under the bridge, so no use thinking about).

Learning to maintain my weight has been a much more useful skill than even losing weight was, because it doesn't matter how slow the weight is coming off, it's coming off. It could stop at any time, and then I'll have to decide what else I'm willing to do to lose more (this has happened several times in my weight loss). In fact, I just recently decided that I'd reached that point, and I had to accept my weight or do more. For a long time I mostly accepted my weight, now I've committed to doing more, but still not overwhelming - just the next step.

Steps. That's how you stop being overwhelmed - you look at the next step, not the end of the journey and all of the steps it's going to take to get there.

caliyah
05-18-2010, 07:56 PM
The end goal is overwhelming. Just focus on eating right and working out. I don't even think about goals anymore but more on just going and going and going. And being consistent. This is a lifestyle change and not something temporary. Everyday on plan is a victory. Make your goals small and incremental or else you will beat yourself up when you don't need to. Also just want 2 remind you there may be weeks you gain instead of lose make sure u never quit - I would always quit the minute I gained a pound but now I just keep pushing through.

WarMaiden
05-18-2010, 08:02 PM
I guess I really don't look at the "big picture" at all. It doesn't matter that much...I'll get there eventually, or I'll just keep trying. If I want to keep my weight down, I'll have to do pretty much what I'm doing right now anyways, so I may as well just keep doing that.

I do look ahead about 5 to 10 pounds. And I fantasize about eventually wearing this dress I own that I should be able to get into at about 170. And I do make incremental behavioral changes that are intended to improve my health and which will potentially bring weight loss. But I don't timeline and I don't get specific about when it'll happen.

I just keep on putting one foot in front of the other.

Thighs Be Gone
05-18-2010, 08:06 PM
Pinkhoodie,

Some may disagree with this antic but I never looked at myself needing to lose the overwhelming amount of weight. I was always excited for just one more pound, just one more pound, just one more pound.

As far as your stall, don't stress. Stick to your plan that has already been working for you. Watch your sodium. Up your fiber and activity and see what happens. Don't lose heart. Keep going!

caryesings
05-18-2010, 08:06 PM
Yes. Knowing that losing 100 lbs would only get me to the Overweight category made it seem like an awful lot of sacrifice so why even try.

However once I decided that I wanted to develop healthier habits even if it didn't get me to a "perfect" weight, I got started with a plan I developed for myself that did not include stepping on the scale for 72 days. When I did finally weigh in I found it was working and so kept on going.

I know this makes many people's heads explode but I feel a major part of my success has been weighing only once a month. As I only lose around 6 lbs a month I suspect daily weigh in would be too discouraging for how much effort I put into this.

I just keep plugging away and goal weight is now in reach. But there is nothing about my plan I expect to change once I see that number. The habits I have now are the ones I need to have for a healthy active future so while I'm a bit annoyed at myself for not getting this message sooner, I actually have to thank my body for giving me the "gift" of having to lose 100 lbs.

mready
05-18-2010, 08:08 PM
Yes right now it does feel a little overwhelming, I just restarted a new plan and I am looking to get rid of about 120 lbs. but I won't let the number bully me, I'm just going to take it a pound at a time!

Hang in there...you can do it!

Cherry in STL
05-18-2010, 08:15 PM
I had been feeling that way, but once I got my ticker set up today, I realized that I'm about 25% of the way to my goal. I was surprised. If I could lose this first chunk, I could do it a few more times and be at my goal!

Michelle98272
05-18-2010, 08:24 PM
When you look at losing 100 pounds or so, do you ever just get overwhelmed?


Yes, yes, yes!! 100 lbs to me sounds just so "un-doable". Looking at such a large number of pounds in one lump sum has led me to start and quit past weight loss efforts due to the sheer impossibility of it. I would lose 5, 10, 20, 25, even 70 lbs in the past but give up if I back slid or slipped, cheated, plateaued.

I had to break the 100 lbs down into more manageable chunks, hence the mini goals in my signature. I can't lose ONE HUNDRED POUNDS, but I have found losing 20 lbs to be quite easy.

I also like to look at the weight I've lost and the lessons learned on the journey instead of the huge # of pounds I still need to lose. It's called "walking backwards"...looking at the road I have traveled and the accomplishments I HAVE achieved vs. the long road ahead of me.

Hang in there, sweetie! :hug:

PinkHoodie
05-18-2010, 08:44 PM
Wow!! You ladies are inspiring, and have helped me greatly. I think I do become a slave to the scale. So, I think the suggestion to weigh in once a month may help me. That way I'm focusing more on changing my behaviors and feeling healthy then the number on the scale. Thank you!!!!! :)

Tai
05-18-2010, 09:42 PM
I felt so overwhelmed by needing to lose over 100 lbs. It just didn't seem possible to me that I could accomplish this. I'm not a very strong person and success does not come very easily to me.

I broke it down into smaller chunks and initially just focused on that. At first I wanted to reach 250, then 233, then under 200 and so on. I rewarded myself with small things for every ten pounds lost. At times I wanted to cry it was so difficult. I understand and remember the frustration of doing everything right and not having the scale budge. I too took the attitude that it was good practice for maintenance and it was! The one thing I knew I'd never do this time was give up.

It's okay to feel overwhelmed; it doesn't mean you won't succeed. Give weighing once a month a try. You won't be a slave to your scale and you'll know by the way your clothes feel if it's working. Most of all, keep posting so we can encourage you.

Terre
05-18-2010, 10:05 PM
I think everyone has spots in the change that will make us feel overwhemedand discouraged. But that's why everyone is here. I know its harder for you and anyone with PCOS to lose. I have it. I know when I was a teen I could lose 30 lbs in 30 days.....not anymore. It's alot harder now. I have medical problems, I am older, and well I am lazy. lol

But everyday I get up and know that its my choice to do this. Its a bite by bite program. A step here a walk there. But I know at the end of the day that I am the only one that it matters to in the long run. No one else knows that I dont drink enough water, or eat a frozen treat...only me. And that's who is making the decision to keep doing this everyday.

It's hard, very hard. Just know everyone is here to support you and will help.

JustBeckyV
05-18-2010, 11:21 PM
Of course but every lb gets you that much closer. You have to just keep it in perspective and know that the journey is a long one and about your entire life not just the goal of the 100 lbs.

Beverlyjoy
05-19-2010, 06:39 AM
I am sorry you are dealing with a stall in your weightloss...this is very frustrating.

Yes, it can be overwhelming to look at the whole picture....the big number of pounds to lose. It is discouraging, for me, to look at that number. As you can see in my signature, I break it down into five pound mini goals. I can't tell you how thrilled I am when I get to change that mini goal to the next five pound mark.

That being said, for me, it can't just be about that number on the scale. For this to be a life long change in the way I 'live' with food....I am also concentraing on the behaviors I have around food. Every day, in my journal, I write down things to actually work on and think about: eat only when seated, fork down between bites, no seconds, taste the food, slow mindful eating, leave a tiny bit on food on the plate, plan/log/write down all foods for the day, lot of water, exercise/movement etc. At the end of the day (most of the time) I check in with myself on these tasks.

xMeaganx
05-19-2010, 08:17 AM
I feel overwhelmed all the time! I know I have accomplished a lot, but my journey is far from over. I look at other people and see they have lot weight quicker then me and I think that maybe I'll never reach goal. But then I realize that while it may seem overwhelming and it might take a long time the end results will be worth it. Just keep on and you will reach goal!

matt_H
05-19-2010, 08:27 AM
It does feel very overwhelming when you think of it as a total amount. I've been trying to not think of it as even weight loss, but of health attainment. You can have a weight you would like to achieve, but it doesn't help to dwell on that number. Every day should have the goal of being just a little bit healthier than the day before. There will be occasional days when that goal might not be met, but for the vast majority of the time I follow through with that.

At one point I had about 250 pounds to lose. That number was scary and depressing. Breaking it down to smaller goals and celebrating the small victories was very important.

duckyyellowfeet
05-19-2010, 08:34 AM
I only feel overwhelmed when I am overwhelmed in other aspects of my life. Like right now. For the record, its 4:29am in California, and yes, I am awake and online. Because its finals week. And my entire college career and future plans rests on one project. And I'm trying to organize a move with someone's whose financing keeps falling through. And I haven't gotten my own financial aid because they thought I was a boy and avoiding the draft. And I have to go to a funeral in Mississippi Thursday. And my house is a mess because I'm the only one who cleans it. AND i'm still fat! (this was a mini rant that went a little too far...)

When the rest of my life is calm (busy is fine, I like busy), I can handle this. I can focus on the "just 2 lbs is all I have to think of right now" mindset. But when I'm too overwhelmed to grocery shop, let alone cook, sometimes, its hard to think about anything but how much 100 lbs. sounds.

But I'm just like that...good until I hit my breaking point, and then its alllll downhill

Shmead
05-19-2010, 08:41 AM
I didn't realize at the start how quickly I would start to feel better: it felt like I needed to lose 100+ lbs before I'd see any improvement at all, and that was depressing.

But I gotta tell you, even when I was only half way to goal, my life was already 1000 times better.

Matilda08
05-19-2010, 09:22 AM
Yeah its always overwelming especially for someone like me who loses 20-30 lbs and fall off plan. Ive gained 35lbs back that I lost back in 08. I havent given up though. " sometime you have to fight a battle more than once to win it" a quote that keeps me going!

synger
05-19-2010, 10:03 AM
I didn't realize at the start how quickly I would start to feel better: it felt like I needed to lose 100+ lbs before I'd see any improvement at all, and that was depressing.

But I gotta tell you, even when I was only half way to goal, my life was already 1000 times better.

This!

I'm not even halfway to goal, but that first 20 pounds makes a heck of a difference in the little things... in going up and down stairs, in getting up out of chairs, in bathing and gardening and getting into and out of cars... Every little bit helps!

I have a picture of a water drop dropping into a pool hanging above my computer monitor. It's there to remind me that drop by drop, water can carve huge channels into rock. Day by day, I can make healthy choices. In time, they make a REAL difference.

Kaplods put it VERY well (I've bookmarked her response for when I need encouragement later!); it can't just be about losing the weight for me. It has to be about becoming healthier and making healthier choices, and the weight coming off needs to be more secondary. That's what's making the difference for me this time.

renstwin
05-19-2010, 10:26 AM
Yes, it can be very overwhelming to think of losing 100 pounds or more. Even more overwhelming for me is pondering the consequences of NOT losing the weight. Sometimes we just have to pick our poison.

Vladadog
05-19-2010, 10:31 AM
I love this site because in real life I don't personally know anyone who has lost a huge amount of weight (or even 20 or 30 pounds) let alone anyone who has lost it and kept it off. But I can come here and I'm surrounded by folks who have done it, who are doing it. And that really helps makes this whole journey so much less overwhelming to me.

I'm still a fat chickie but I'm less fat than I used to be and every day I come to this site to remind myself that next week, next month, next year I'll be even less fat. And more healthly.

Like synger says: every drop of water is wearing away this canyon of fat (I'm kinda paraphrasing here). A drop of water is easy, I can do that! I can do this! And you can do it too! Just take it one day, one drop, one pound at a time.

TXMary2
05-19-2010, 10:38 AM
I can easily get overwhelmed and discouraged so that is why I am choosing not to think about how much I have left. Instead I just keep picturing my new slimmer, healthier body and I picture myself wearing the jeans hanging in my closet. I picture myself doing awesome workouts (since I don't really care for working out) so I can pysch myself up for them!

I love the concept of mini goals and having reached my first one today it helps to feel a sense of accomplishment along the way!