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BA99TJ
09-19-2002, 10:38 AM
How are you all doing? I am finally feeling better today, aside from the fact my ear is full of fluid so I can only hear out of one side of my head which is INCREDIBLY Disorientating.

I'm doing good as well, as my scale at home said I was under 250 this morning. WHOOOPPEEE! of course I won't make it official until I meet the real scale monster at WW on Tuesday night - I didn't weigh in this week because I was too sick AND had TOM hit me. Boy, I did NOT miss TOM. I wish he would go away again.. but gotta make sure everything is working right, so I had to come off the Depo. It's not easy coming off that stuff! I'm pretty sure I'm going to lose quite a bit just because I'm not taking it anymore. I realized the other day that I gained about 30 lbs when I started taking Depo- I guess I was in denial about that.. but when I really think LONG and HARD about it, that's really the only explaination for the weight gain.

I hope you all are doing ok - onward and upward...

Jenniffer - you are STILL in my prayers - how did the meeting with the counselor go?


muelledk
09-19-2002, 12:53 PM
Hi Beth Anne.

Glad to hear you are feeling better :). I remember when I went off the Depo, and I sure missed it, but I am handling it OK now. It sure was a shocker for me. I wanted to go back on, but the doc said that I should not because she wanted to moniter the PCOS a little better. Hopefully, that will put a big boost in your weight loss.
Me, I've been doing OK lately, I guess that I came down from the high I had going on earlier this month. I was feeling just great because I was seeing such huge changes, but I've slowed down and am beginning to feel discouraged again. I know that I should not be because I'm still doing just great, but I don't think that I will make any of my goals, and I really wanted to be under 200 for my best friend's wedding in November, but I don't think that I will make it. I have slacked off on the journaling, and don't plan my days like I was, but I think that is because my dh has been traveling a lot again so my days and nights are just me and the boys. I did go shopping today and actually was able to get clothes out of the Misses section at Target. Of course it was an XL, but it fit and I didn't look like a cow.
Anyway, hope that everyone else is doing well.

Jennifer, how did the counseling go?

Apryl, is the walking to and from school giving you tons of extra energy?

Jen
09-21-2002, 06:23 PM
Hi all. things have been really weird with me lately. I knew that so much was going to change this month with Drake going to daycare and me back to work. plus I've been sick which hasn't helped. I just need a little time to get myself back together. I hate it when things change all at once even when you know it is coming. I was back at work one day and then called in sick the next day. I'll bet they were really impressed. Well I felt pretty bad that day, my cold was really worse, I even went to the dr to get my throat swabbed for strep so I have a note if anyone gets snotty about it. I dropped out of this month's challenge because I was off track for about a week and so just gave it up. I'll be back in the groove for next month though so watch out!!

BA - hope you are feeling better by now. It is pretty nasty to come down with so much stuff all at once.

Denise - I'm all out of whack too, its amazing how much some changes in your life can just derail all the good efforts up til now. It's okay though, we'll both be back at it again soon.

Hope everyone else is having a good weekend. Enjoy this nice weather we're having, next weekend is supposed to be really cold!


Jennelle
09-22-2002, 12:35 PM
Beth Anne...you're probably right about the weight gain. In my family, it seems that any type of hormone-related birth control makes us women balloon up like the Goodyear blimp. I was on the pill for a very little while, and I gained about 10 lbs. My sister gained 30 on Depo, and my mom must have gained about 60 on the pill. My doctor told me that I was wrong, that the weight gain thing was a "fallacy" and that most women gain less than five pounds on birth control. Doctors can be so frustrating...(he was a MAN no less, so I couldn't tell him to try it for a few months and see how much weight HE gained!)

Jenniffer
09-23-2002, 10:17 AM
Goodmorning everyone. Looks like everyone is still holding strong. Which gives me much inspiration and hope.

My counseling session went well actually. I felt alot stronger when I walked out of there. Down thing is, it will be a few weeks before they set me up with 1 person to see each week. I don't understand why it will take so long. But the woman that I saw explained to me she needs to bring my case before the board and they will give me the person who could help me most. I may seek another therapist because I don't think I can wait a few weeks. I have my strong days, and then I have my very weak days.

Food has been food. I haven't been drowning myself in it. But I haven't been making wise choices either. I think am going to force myself to walk today. Exercise will do wonders for me, and I know I need it more mentally than ever before.

Thank you all for keeping me in you're thoughts. It means the world to me.

Charbar
09-23-2002, 02:45 PM
Okay. .. this might sound really crazy.. but I just bought the new Eminem cd.. I LOVE IT! I know.. I'm too old and too conservative for this. But this is really good :)

Today I'm pretty in control and it feels great!!! :D

I took my daughter to Chuck E Cheese this morning.. it was her first time. What fun!! They have a new toddler area - it was a lot of fun. It's nice to be there with other kids her age since the older kids are all in school.

Tonight I have a spa retreat - can't wait. Should be fun!!

What's for supper tonight?
chicken with pasta :) :T

Dana

snowball1
09-23-2002, 04:12 PM
Hey everyone :) Sounds like we are all hanging in there & doing our best.

BA, I hope your feeling 100% soon! Nothing worse than being sick :( And I hope weigh-in is a huge success for you tomorrow (which I know it will be :))

Denise! The misses section!!! You rock!!! Way to go!!!!! :D Keep up the excellent work :)

Jen, hope your feeling better soon, too!!! Fall colds are about the worse, aren't they!

Jennifer, you have been on my thoughts so much lately. I'm glad the counseling went well, & I hope they can either get you in sooner, or you can find another counselor that will work better for you. {{{big hugs}}}

Jennelle, sometimes I don't think male dr.'s know anything. :lol: I just love when they look at you like you're full of it. Come on! It's our own body, I think we know a little bit about it! :lol:

Dana, sounds like your dd had a blast :) Have fun at the spa tonight, you lucky duck!

I'm doing pretty well. The virus I have is getting better, but the fatigue is really lingering. I still feel like I could sleep ALL the time! Hopefully this will all go away in another week or so... WW is going well still. I've done great this week & am really hoping the scale will reflect this :)

anagram
09-23-2002, 05:38 PM
Glad to hear things are looking up for so many. Now we just need a post from Bella letting us know her hubby is back.

I had a good day today - Fall and all that. And I went to my dr for the first time since I got serious here. It was nice NOT to dread the scale. The nurse asked me what I thought I weighed and I said "ONE thirty five" instead of "TWO thirty five". She started in the 2's anyway of course but she complimented me on the 16 plus pounds I've lost. I do keep thinking in terms of being in the one hundreds. Can't wait to actually start with that 1.

She was also nice about checking her records to see when I last weighed about the same. April of 1993, folks, was the last time I was this low. Their scale was within a half pound of mine but I'll wait for my "official" weigh in on Wednesday. So far, if I stay on track, it looks like I might finally post a little loss.

Jennelle
09-23-2002, 05:48 PM
hee hee hee...Anagram...it's the power of positive thinking at work! Congratulations on hitting your "lowest" point!

Sandi
09-23-2002, 10:27 PM
Hi everyone!!

I had such a GREAT weekend. Steve and I spent the weekend in Indianapolis to celebrate our 10 year anniversary WITHOUT Jacob. It's the 1st time we left him over-night. It was so nice, no alarm clocks, no agenda's. Lot's of :censored: :o ;) . I feel good.

I started fresh again today. Had a good day, over-came the 2:00 munchies. I think I am going to steel snowball's tag line...Never trade what you want at the moment for what you want most. I keep running that through my head...can I borrow it snowball? It so fits where I am right now.

Goddess Jessica
09-24-2002, 02:01 PM
I'm frustrated. I've been "really good" for about a month now and I haven't lost a single pound. I exercise everyday and have been really watching what goes in my mouth! But not a single pound.

All I can think of is that the "little binges" have been doing more damage than I expected and although my portions are much healthier than they used to be, maybe I need to cut out things I thought weren't a big deal. Part of me just wants to give up but then I come on here and read all your stories and it's inspirational.

My SO has finally agreed that he could use some exercise, so that great. However, he also found out that his company isn't doing so well and there are lay-offs on the way (which sent me to the kitchen).

I'm emotionally tired, so it's hard to feel motivated.

Jennelle
09-24-2002, 08:18 PM
Hey Jessica - don't beat yourself up. Part of your slow loss might be that you're replacing fat with muscle with all the exercise. Muscle weighs more than fat. Next month, track your inches as well as your fat.

Still, you're right that it might be the little things adding up. Try journalling really carefully and see what insights that gives you.

muelledk
09-26-2002, 11:57 AM
Jessica, don't give up. You are doing great, and Jennelle is right, you are probably replacing fat with muscle. Are you losing inches?
Also, you should measure your servings for a little while, you might be surprised about how much or little a portion really is.

Jennelle, is the school year going better for you? You seem to have a great attitude lately, I hope that that is a signal that you are having a better time at school.

Sandi, I'm glad that you had such a great weekend. As much as we all love our kids, sometimes we all need a break with our significant other just to keep the relationship going.

Dana, I hope that the spa was as wonderful as you anticipated. And I'm glad that the job is going good for you. You are probably working your butt off (literally :) ).

OK, my turn I guess. I have been MIA this week, and I really had to force myself to come here today. I am really feeling down on myself again, and not so sure why. I have a loving husband, great kids, doing great in school, but we could always use more $$ and I hate it when the DH is traveling. I think that we have seen him for about 4 hours in the last three weeks, and he is gone for another two weeks. Also, it is my TOM and I do suffer from PMS pretty severly, so that is probably a HUGE part of it.
Anyway, I've managed to stay OP, but have gotten very little exercises (besides my crunches every night). Can't get myself motivated again. Oh well, this, too, will pass. I know that once Mike is home again, I will be doing better with the journaling, meal planning, and exercise. I love tennis, and he likes to play with me!

snowball1
09-26-2002, 01:00 PM
Sandi, use that line anytime you want :) It's gotten me through MANY weak moments & continues to do so. It was the best my WW leader ever said to me :)

Jen
09-26-2002, 06:05 PM
Hi everyone. This stupid cold is still holding on. I wish it would go away so that I could start feeling human again. Mostly I am just coughing. My nose isn't too stuffy, that's what drives me nuts the most, having a stuffy, runny nose that feels like it weighs 100 lbs.

I'm back into work tomorrow and for the weekend. It will be the first time the dh has looked after the baby for so long. Should be interesting how it goes. Actually he has been doing a really good job for the times he's had to pick him up from daycare til I get home. Everything will be fine.

Have a great weekend everyone. Be good.

Sandi
09-27-2002, 10:04 AM
Hi everyone!! TGIF. Really looking forward to the weekend. Need some time off. Things with me are pretty good. Jacob has been using the potty, which is sooooo exciting. And he has been doing it all on his own, no prompting from us. Work is hectic, but I am thankful that I have a job the way things are going in this world.

Jen, sorry the cold is still hanging on. I just hate to be sick. Working when you have kids is just tough, no matter how it goes. Just hang in there, it'll be good bonding time for Dad.

Snowball, thanks!! I stole it. Now, to live by it...that's the challenge.

Denise, I'm glad you came back. If I've learned anything, it's to keep coming here no matter what. If I'm doing good or bad. I think that may be why I took up the challenges. I have to come in here because people are counting on me. I haven't done good in a while, but I keep starting over. I think that's mainly because I come here and it keeps weight loss in the front of my head. I'll see someone like you who is doing awesome and I'll think...You know, I can do it too. I know you don't feel like you have the drive you had before, but just keep plugging. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!

Jessicca, It's hard when the scale doesn't budge. Maybe try journaling for a few weeks. Or maybe spice up your exercise. Just hang in there. Follow your program and ignore the scale!!

Have a Great Weekend everyone!! For those interested, sign up for the next challenge! Starts on Monday. I am thinking that after this one, the next one should start December 30. I know how busy people (including myself) get during the holiday. Do you guys agree?

Goddess Jessica
09-27-2002, 06:39 PM
Denise - I thought of you yesterday in ballet class (I know, a fat girl in ballet IS pretty funny). I've been suffering from achilles tendonitis (from my Morris class, another dance class) and the instructor was giving me advice and she said, "You need to work on your abs."

I was totally shocked. I mean, I NEVER work on my abs, because... well, YOU CAN'T SEE THEM. She told me my whole problem was balance and that my body is not aligned because my abs are not engaged. I never thought I had "bad" posture but now I look at pictures and I throw my shoulders back and my stomach sort of juts out (my whole body in profile is like a backwards C).

Anyway, she told me I had to do crunches everyday because my abs were so out of shape it was causing strain on other parts of me. I instantly thought of you and your crunchs.

So, I'm trying to do crunchs.... everyday..... GROAN!

bella23
09-28-2002, 05:57 AM
Well my hubby is back, that is why I haven't checked in for a while. It's great having him back but it is a little stressfull. With him back, school, and 2 jobs now I feel a little weighed down. My clothing are fitting a little looser now. So I wonder if the BCP they put me on is starting to do it's job. The doc said she thought it would help on my wieght loss goals. I hope it is. I did gain a little in the past few weeks. I think I gained about 2lbs. Not bad but not good either.

Today is a good day. I am up early to get ready for a street fair. I'll be selling my Scrap In a Snap with my up line. It should be fun. My husband is taking the girls to his home coming picnic.(he has to go) The girls are excited. But they arn't going to like the long ride. It should give him a taste of what I have been going through for the last year, lol.

Well I am going to get going for now. I want to read some of the other posts before my ride gets here. I'll talk to you all later.

Bella23

Jennelle
09-28-2002, 11:08 AM
Bella - Don't you hate that? He's been gone for HOW MANY months and the damn military makes a stupid "homecoming" picnic MANDATORY? That is one thing I definitely do NOT miss about hubby being in the military. The guys used to call it "mandatory fun."

I don't know what it was...if the shop got together and had a barbeque, we'd go and have a great time. The minute the word "mandatory" came into play, though, it would suck the fun right out of it. For the mandatory stuff, we'd usually end up going, staying for about 15 minutes to be sure we were seen, then leaving.

Jenniffer
09-30-2002, 09:20 AM
Morning everyone. How are you? Seems like everyone is busy busy as usual.

It's my favorite time of the year..I did alot of yard work yesterday at my cottage..and it kicked something into me.

Woke up this morning and am ready to battle this weight. 226 lbs and I refuse to go up anymore. Aiming for 199 by my bday, 12/2...I have my work cut out for me. But as long as I shake this boo-tay..I know I can do it.

Jen
09-30-2002, 10:55 AM
Well everything this past weekend was not fine. My dh is a complete idiot. He has an amazing wife and a beautiful baby and he is too selfish and childish to appreicate anything. I was working this weekend and he had to look after Drake Saturday and Sunday. He was so petulant about not being able to do the things he wanted to do. He brought home some work he was supposed to do but couldn't because of watching the baby. The thing is that he probably would have only worked a few hours meanwhile I put in 23.5 hours worth of work in those 2 days. Last night I told him he needs to get his priorities straight, that raising his son should be the most important thing in his life and if he didn't want to be a dad to Drake well then he knew what he could do. this was just the first time that he was looking after Drake for a long period of time by himself so I can understand that he isn't used to it and might be discouraged but there is a world of difference between being discouraged and being selfish and angry.

So that was my weekend. Work actually hasn't been too bad but I might have to look into another work area as I'm having to work a lot of nights coming up soon and I can see another run in. I could look into also going part-time and just working weekdays. I'd still work full-time hours because there is tons of hours to be had but this way I could pick and choose a little more. Right now it is impossible to discuss anything with him. He's just all po'd about everything.

I'm looking forward to starting the new challenge today, so far so good.

Sandi
09-30-2002, 01:21 PM
Jen - it's amazing to me how men can be sometimes. They really have no idea what it takes. {{BIG Hug}} Sorry you had a yucky weekend.

Jennifer - Glad to see you!! :D

Bella - Glad to hear hubby is home. How is your business going?

Life for me is good, even with my gain. I am moving forward. I started the new challenge today!! And am doing good so far. I also up the stakes a little. Over the weekend I bought a teadmill...got a GREAT deal on it. But hubby isn't very thrilled about it. He thinks I won't use it. So now I HAVE to use it, MUST prove him wrong.

Jen
09-30-2002, 03:58 PM
Basically it is my husband just having a hard time transitioning to a new life. He hasn't got his head around that he has to put his son first. If he will ever be able to do that, I don't know. I went and talked to my manager at work, broke down and bawled in front of her, and she is willing to be supportive and work around what is going on at home. So things are up in the air right now until the dh and I can sit down and try and talk this out. I'm wavering between being mad as heck and crying my face off. I just don't get how someone could not fall in love with our little boy and want to be with him all the time. All I"m asking is for every other weekend and a few hours during the week for my dh to look after Drake. Is that asking too much? There are people out there who would kill to have a beautiful baby like ours and my husband seems to think coaching hockey teams and working on his race car are more important.

Anyway, that's enough of that.

It is gorgeous weather out today so I"m taking my beautiful baby out for a walk. Take care.

Sandi
09-30-2002, 04:59 PM
My husband is great about helping out, but that doesn't mean his priorities are in-line. As great as he is, I still hear about how his life has changed and he doesn't have the freedom and free time that he used to and blah, blah, blah. I'm afraid that he is still getting used to the change in our lives and Jacob is almost 2. But It'll get better.

Jennelle
09-30-2002, 06:10 PM
My husband was the SAME way, Jen, when our kids were young. I was a SAHM for a few years when they were toddlers, and he wouldn't do ANYTHING to help me! He would get pissed off because I would want him to watch them for an hour or two after I'd been with them all day. It changed when I went back to work. I guess he didn't see me raising his children and keeping his house as "real" work. Anyway, he eventually grew out of it.

JacobsMommy - I've been trying to PM you, but I keep getting a message that says your inbox is full and can't take any more messages.

Jennelle
09-30-2002, 06:11 PM
And Jenniffer - I'm glad to see hear that your motivation is returning. Send some my way, okay? :)

Jen
09-30-2002, 09:18 PM
In my own opinion, I refuse to be a married single mom. It is completely impossible for me to take care of Drake or arrange babysitting when I'm at work when he is right there and able if not willing to do it. He wanted this baby as much if not more than I did. Also before I got pregnant we had this big talk about how he would share in all the child care. Now it is time for him to come to grips with all this. If he doesn't want to share in this then he can just get the heck out. His father is exactly the same. Puts his business ahead of family. My husband's parents own a small business and his father and older sister did not attend our wedding because of the business and when she got married last year neither father nor mother attended. there were some other issues but at the heart of it was the business. They didn't want to close down for a day or half day particularly on their busiest day (saturday). well attending the weddings of your children would take priority. I can understand that this is a difficult transition but I"m not going through another weekend where I come home and he's all miserable and po'd. I just don't need it.

Sorry for the rant guys, I just can't understand where he is coming from as much as I try.

Question about the pts challenge??? Can you get one food point for something??? ie today I think I've gone over my points but I did journal all day, I haven't finished dinner's yet, and basically I did eat healthy foods but just ate a bit too much. Can I get one point for that? Can we divy up the food points and give ourselves one if we feel that we deserved something for a true effort? Any thoughts??

icewoman
10-01-2002, 04:58 PM
Hello all,

I am just checking in. I see some are doing good and others are not so good. For those doing good keep up the good work. For those who aren't doing so good. I will keep you in my prayers.

Now for an update on my family. Starting with the youngest. She is 6 months old now and trying to crawl but rolls all over the place and gets into to much stuff already. Got her a new bed one she can move in and she seems to like it. It's a Graco play crib. One that is easily transported to other places.

The other kids are all in school now. The 3rd grader got her mid-term report and I was glad to say she got all A's. I can't beleive how she grew over the summer. Ray the only boy is doing good in Kindergarten. He can write his name now and has learned alot already.

My dear old husband. He just had knee surgury and is going through the pain. I have been running ragged keeping up with everything he want me to get him. I told him I won't baby him. He needed to use it even if it hurts. I have been working 9-5 straight to get my hours in. I have to take the baby to daycare and the 4 year old to preschool at 8:30am so I have not been able to get to work before 9:00am. I guess it has kept me away from the food. I get home from work and have to make supper and get the kids ready for bed. I feel so tired right now I don't have time for myself. My husband can't go back to work until he is off of the pain killers which means his paycheck is null until the short term disability kicks in. Then it's only 80% of his check. Well I guess that is all for now. I have about 40 minutes of work left and then I will be off and running again. I thank God for my parents. They have helped me get some things done. My dad will come over tonight and help my husband with the kids while I go to my TOPS meeting tonight and weigh in. I will either lose a bunch of weight or gain a bunch of weight tonight I am not even going to guess how I did. Take care all and I will try and check in more often.

Sandi
10-02-2002, 12:40 PM
Yesterday was going SOOOOO well, then I came home and Jacob was sick and I was trying to page the doctor and worrying about having to miss work today, hubby was crabby because Jacob was sick and the STRESS eating kicked it. It was 5:00 and I had had a "perfect" food day. Well I ended it with pizza, breadsticks and ice cream. Real mature.

But I woke up this morning and decided to make yesteday the past and am having another good day. I am going to have to learn to step back when stress kicks and not eat my way through it.

muelledk
10-02-2002, 03:57 PM
Sandi - we all have days like that. Oh well that you were didn't make it, but since you are aware that stress caused the slide, you will be better equipt for next time around. I know that you can do this.

Jen - I know what you mean about being a married single mom. I sometimes feel that way. Expecially when my dh is traveling. I try to get the kids where they need to go and sometimes I feel like I have no life of my own, that I'm just Mark and Drew's mom and nothing else. Then I sit back and realize that if I am raising these great kids, even if I feel like it is all by myself, and they are turning out as good as they are, then I am not just a mom, I am a good mom. Make sense? probably not, I can't really explain it.

Right now, I'm doing OK. I did have McDonalds last night, but knew it was coming, so I ate low point foods before dinner so I could have some fries. I just need to STOP going out to eat after soccer practices. I should probably take advantage of the timer on the stove, and have dinner ready when we get home. The DH is out of town for the next week. The kids are off school for that next two weeks, and making me crazy!!!!! I'll get over it though.

anagram
10-02-2002, 08:21 PM
I'm relieved to be down a tiny .8 this week. I don't think I'll be weighing for a while. dr. called this week, said blood tests showed thyroid low and I've started on Synthroid. I figure it will take my system a while to get adjusted and I'm going to be away a lot the next two weeks so I think I'll just do the best I can and let things settle down. Hopefully, I'll maintain and then I'll really give it a solid whirl again.

Jen
10-02-2002, 09:03 PM
Well I don't think it is right that we women should be expected to do it all. If I have to work full-time then child care should be shared. The thing is that we talked about this before I even got pregant and he said that he would do his part. Now I feel totally betrayed. I'm also having second thoughts about having another baby. I was actually considering it in a couple of years but right now I say forget it. It is bad enough having to be a single mom with one baby, I"m not going to add to it by having another one. Don't get me wrong I love my son more than anything else on this planet and don't regret for a second having him but when it comes right down to it, there is a lot of work involved and I don't want to add to that my having another child. I don't know, maybe things will change by then but I"ll be thinking really hard about it then.

Sandi
10-03-2002, 11:30 AM
Jen -

Wasn't it his 1st time really having Drake all by himself. Isn't there a chance that he'll come around? Or get used to it.

Jenniffer
10-03-2002, 01:52 PM
Wow. Looks like we all have our share of some stress factors in our lives at the time.

I am doing okay. Having an "ugly fat" day. But I am getting by. OP all day so far. Won't mention the Hershey Kisses I gave into yesterday. Couldn't just have 5. Then my tummy hurt. I will learn one day, I hope.

Jen..Have you and hubby been able to sit down and talk. Does he know how you feel? I am thinking of you. It can't be easy..

JacobsMommy..Hope Jacob is feeling better soon.

anagram..Stay strong chickie. You have been doing so well...in no time you'll be yourself again.

muelledk..McDOnalds...Hate to love it and love to hate it. 2 weeks and no school? I am sure they are keeping you busy!!

icewoman..I am just tired from listening to you're post. You must be in a coma state when you finally crawl into bed. God bless you...and you're energy!

Jennelle..Motivation? Where did ya see that? Yeah, I was feeling good,,,but then something happened and I ended up digging into the Hershey Kisses. I am getting tired of this.

MIA Chickies..come out, come out..whereever you are.

icewoman
10-03-2002, 05:45 PM
Hello all,

Today is going better. I feel pretty good. My kids school is selling frozen cookie dough. I think tonight may be a good night to go around selling with the kids. They will have fun selling I think. I have had little time for myself. Even the evening walks have not been good. Yesterday was a day from H**L. I worked 10 hours and did laundry and cooked supper and went grocery shopping and dishes. I did ger alot of help yesterday though. My dad came over and cleaned the kitchen up to the dishes. He didn't konw where anything went so he thought I should do them which was great. Cleaned the garbage out of the bathroom and hallway by the washing machine. I really apreciated him doing this on his day off. He is also having someone come to fix the kitchen refridgerator. It won't make ice anymore. The baby fell asleep at 9:30 last night and I was zonked by 9:45. :)

Jenniffer--thanks lately I have been so zoned out I don't know if I'm coming or going. You are also in my prayers with everything you have been through lately.

anagram--my thyroid has been wacky since I was 18. I had it removed then and ever since I have been on medicine and there are days that I can tell when I have forgotten to take them. Take care I hope it gets better.

Has anyone seen PNG? Is she on vacation or just MIA?

Take care and hope to see you soon with a lose. Oh yah with everything going on I must have done some stress eating and not realized it. I gained 1.5 pounds.

anagram
10-03-2002, 08:02 PM
BA's been MIA too.

Jen
10-03-2002, 09:07 PM
Okay, I understand that it was his first time looking after Drake full-time. Say he was frustrated because he couldn't get Drake to have a nap or eat or something like that. That I could all understand. That is not the problem. He is saying that he is upset because he has to watch Drake and not do all this other stuff ie coach hockey with his best friend or work on his race car or do work. The plain and simple fact is that while all those are important things I too have to work and if I have to work weekends then it is his turn to look after his son. It felt to me that he was saying that all this other stuff was more important than looking after his own son. right now I have got a lot of support from work and they are willing to accomodate me (for now) with giving me weekdays only. Still it makes me angry that he has this attitude. He is missing so much of his child growing up. It goes by so fast, he'll look back someday and regret it I know but I can't get him to see that.

Oh well.

I think the points challenge is going well. I feel really confident about it. Take care all. Have a nice weekend.

Jenniffer
10-04-2002, 01:45 PM
Not being a wife any longer...and never being a Mother..this may not be my place to jump in.

BUT...Jen...I completely agree with you 100%.

He is not only you're child. He is just as much responsible for him as you are. Not all ppl think like this though.

You are working to better you're family. The last thing you need t do is come home to a whyning husband because he had to babysit the baby. Uhm. When it's your child, you are never babysitting nor watching. You are raising him.

I really do hope that he sees it soon, before Drake gets much older. He is missing out.

Do you think it could be anything else? Or is he just used to you taking care of everything?

SuchAPrettyFace
10-04-2002, 04:57 PM
Went to the dr yesterday for this throat thing--he said my BP is almost perfect!!! :D :D :D :D :D So maybe he'll take me off the meds now. It's been 5 months.

Also confirmed that my weight is 290, like it was 2 weeks ago @ my friend's house, so I'm expecting at least a 2# loss in 2 weeks when I go back to be "formally" checked for my BP, b/c it's my TOM, so at least 2# of that's gotta be water, right?!?!?!?!?!?!? I think I might just make the Halloween goal early!

gbo
10-04-2002, 10:09 PM
Well with the prempro(hormones) I have begun taking my weight has shot up 3 pounds but I am unconcerned as so has my swelling!!!! I haven't been swollen like this in so long. I was shocked but ok so another little challenge comes my way. I shall adjust myself accordingly!
Pam

Jennelle
10-06-2002, 01:01 PM
weight loss not going so well, but I'm okay with it. This is PMS week, so I crave carbs and sweets to the point where I'm ransacking the kitchen...

On the plus side, I must have walked four miles yesterday at the football game. We had to park a mile and a half from the stadium and walk because it was so crowded. And we beat Florida, best of all! :D

I will weigh myself later this afternoon and post it.

Jen
10-06-2002, 01:35 PM
Jenniffer - I wish it were something else but frankly he is used to me looking after everything. Unfortunately I'm one of these take charge kind of people. I just can't stand back while people waffle over decisions. Of course this past year with me being off work I've been the one to look after Drake all the time while my husband did his own thing. I hate being the typical nagging wife so I don't do it. I'll ask him to do something once or twice and if he doesn't want to do it then I don't push him. He'll just get resentful. Things are better right now. Of course he'll have Drake this weekend coming up so I hope it goes well. I don't know when I'll be going into the part-time position, could be at least a month.

Jenniffer
10-08-2002, 09:24 AM
Our dailys have been real quiet. Come out, COme out whereever you are!

Jen..am thinking about you and you're hubby. It's gotta be tough. Rootin for you as always.

Jennelle..4 miles! Wow. I am going to give it my all to walk today. Bit chilly ou, but best time to do it. I know I can, I know I can. Exercise is key to my weightloss success. And I plan on being a success again.

As for me..am doing alright. Today is a good day, don't know why, lol.

Court is tonight at 6 PM. I am nervous. I am anxious. Please think of me.

Hope everyone else is doing well.

Dyanm1
10-08-2002, 01:40 PM
I'll be thinking about you Jenniffer! Just be strong!! I'm sure it's easier said than done.

Just thought I'd drop in and say Howdy! Nothing much going on in these neck of the woods. I got all my water down before 7am!! and walked 2 miles this morning. I've eaten 400 calories, so I'm right on target.

I've been pretty pleased w/ my weight loss so far. Of course I wish it would just melt off, but no such luck. Started a new workour program yesterday. Bought Kathy Smith's book "Lifting Weights to Lose Weight". In the book we do weights 2-3 x's a week and cardio 3 x's. I've opted to lift weights 3 times a week. I started yesterday and am feeling it today. I coughed ealier and whoa! I definitely felt it in my tummy.

I've decided to get up early and get my workout out of the way. So as of yesterday I'll be getting up 4:30 am! Aren't ya'll jealous? Yeah right!!

My "baby" girl ! Kaleigha turned 7 months today!! She's not crawling yet, but will be, before months end. Last night I looked down at her and she was on her hands and feet. Not knees! And she was looking through her legs! She's just too adorable. Can you tell I'm a proud mommy? :D

Lucas will be 19 months on the 20th and boy does he have a temper!! He is such a big boy. He is really starting to talk very well. I was in his way (accidentally, of course) and he says "cuse me". My heart just about melted! He's also learned "see ya" and he waves. He knows a lot of words, but these are his latest.

Cheyenne my 3 year old, is still and will always be a fire cracker. Last night after her bath, she was swinging her hair around and trying to make it "pretty". She really does have some beauiful hair. It's almost down to her bum (When we wash it, it is. It floats in the tub). She has long brownish hair that's both curly and wavy and in the sun, it has blondish highlights. Just beautiful. The down side is combing it. It's pretty thick and she loves to toss it back and forth. Last night we had to cut out a hair band, due to her silliness. Oh well. I refuse to cut it. When she's ready I'll let her make the choice.

DH is DH! Love him to death. I wish he could go to your house Jen and have a talk w/ your DH. My DH is wonderful w/ the kids. He works swing shift so that he can watch the 2 ones. Yesterday he calls me at work and asks if Cheyenne can stay home from preschool. He was telling me how they have fun and how he misses her. Basically he sees her in the morning long enough to get her ready and get her to school. By the time he gets home (after 11pm), she's already asleep. And that's the way it goes Mon-Fri. He only gets to spend time w/ her on the weekends (the lucky dog! hehe, just kidding). Dh is only 29 and has 4 kids!! # w/ me and 1 from a previous thing. My Step daughter is 9 and we get her ever othe weekend. SO needless to say weekends at our house can be very hectic!

KittyMilk
10-08-2002, 09:31 PM
Good luck Jennifer I certianly will be thinking of you. When I was sexually assulted a few years back I had to pick the man out of a lineup. I was shaking the whole time. The worst part was meeting two school girls he had abducted and raped for 3 days after being released on bail after being charged with my assult. I somehow felt responsible like I had made him angry or something by going to the police. All I can say is it gets easyier with time and going to court is part of the healing process. Good luck.
3 children under the age of 4? Wow Dyan you must be supermom! Babies are so exhausting I'm amazed anytime I hear of anyone having a second one! Good luck on Thursday though they often can't tell until the actual operation I think you'll have a very good chance of the keyhole surgery. The only reason my dh had to have the big operation was because his was an emergancy being infected an all, not booked like yours will be.
Jen my heart goes out to you. Babies are so much work and your working a day job?! Your hubbie needs to get with the program and grow up! No wonder women somtimes complain of having two babies - one big and one small! Reminds me of a joke I heard after having my baby. Woman says to her husband ... Honey I have to tell you there is someone else..... he's short , bald and incontinent but I love him dearly. :)

Jen
10-09-2002, 09:40 AM
Thanks so much everyone for their support. It means a lot to me that people understand what I am going through. I've post on another site that is just women with new babies and it sounds like I am definately not alone in this. there seem to be a lot of dads that don't get really involved until the baby is a bit older and more 'interesting'. I think it is a crock. The dh has been really good with the baby this week, now he's got the baby again this weekend. I'm hoping for the best. If he would take the baby out more and follow the same sort of schedule I do then I think he would manage much better. Being cooped up in the house for 2 days I would probably go nuts with the baby as well.

Jenniffer - hope things went well, let us know how it's going.

Kitty - you were in no way responsible for what that man did, the same thing would have happened even if he hadn't assaulted you. I hope this a--hole was put in jail for a long time?

Dyan - where do you get the energy to get up at 4am??? I'd have to go to bed at 7 or 8pm to get up that early. I don't even get up that early when I have to be at work for 7am. I get up after 6. Before the baby I would get up at about 6:45 as we live very close to my workplace. I'd get up, get dressed and be out the door in about 2 minutes.

Take care all, Happy Hump Day.

Charbar
10-09-2002, 09:56 AM
Jen.. did you watch Oprah yesterday? I thought of you. They discussed what true motherhood is like.

I've just started taking time for myself... ie. scrapping and yoga.

Since I've started working part time Jim is beginning to realize all that I do.. we are starting to work better as a team. We only have one child. I don't have a clue how parents do it with more!

btw, Sara is almost 3.. I've had the house to myself a total of one hour since she was born. Sure, I can go out by myself.. but what I really want is my house to myself!

Dana

Jen
10-09-2002, 10:46 AM
Dana - I know exactly what you mean!! I always used to spend a lot of time alone and in this past year I've had Drake with me 24/7. I miss him a lot when he's at daycare but I also miss my 'me' time. I wish I had seen that Oprah, it sounds good. BTW I've got all kinds of scrapbook stuff, just haven't got to the actual scrapping part.

Whew 4 pages!!

I'm starting a new thread. Be prepared for some tough talk!