Weight Loss Support - OUTRAGED!!!!!!!!! (long, sorry, total rant!)




jynx
05-12-2010, 02:34 PM
OMG!! I never thought one of my friends could be so insensitive!! I'm sorry ladies (and gents) but I really must vent. I was walking to my Italian class today and at uni we have these doors with buttons you can press to open them. Anyway, I pressed the button to open the door and my "friend" comes out with "you see that's why I'm so thin, I would open the door"....*stunned face*....I turned round to him and gave him the biggest glare ever and was like "excuse me?!, you mean to day that I'm fat and you're thin because I press the flipping button and you don't!?" He then made a few erring noises and actually said "well..yeh kinda, I mean you said yourself that you don't like your body" :?: YEH KINDA?!?!?!?!?!?!? Seriously who says that?! I even gave him the chance to back pedal out of it but NO! He knows damn well I've been trying SO hard with food!! We threw him a big surprise birthday party on Monday with loads of nibbles with chips and dip and even hand-made him a huge chocolate cake..I didn't have ONE BIT and sat there with my apple and my soup!!!!!! He also knows I go to the gym 3 times a week and do classes so WTH!!!!

At the time I kinda laughed it off and acted like I'd taken it as a joke but it's really gotten to me over the day and keeps going round in my head. My other friend who was with us was totally shocked too and came to see if I was okay later which I wasn't. He knows that I don't need negativity right now and he didn't even apologise. Gah.

Anyone else need to vent? Feel free to vent on me, it's good for you :)

Love you chickies x


Onederchic
05-12-2010, 02:58 PM
Ugh, that was so rude, insensitive and uncalled for. I am so sorry he said those things to you. You just keep doing what you're doing and don't let jackasses get you down :hug:

JamieJo
05-12-2010, 03:00 PM
Men are dumb.


sotypical
05-12-2010, 03:05 PM
I think that what he said was totally uncalled.

But I also ask - why did you push the button the first place? Were your arms full? Were you unable to open the door? Or were you just being lazy?

If you arms were full or you were pushing a buggy or you are physically unable to open the door then I would have explained that to him.

I am going to be totally honest here, where I see people (who are able to open a door) push a button to open a door I kinda laugh. It takes so long for the door to open that way; I would rather just open it - I guess I am always in a hurry. Especially the doors at my work, there are double doors so then they stand there, wait for one door to open - stand there and wait for another door to open.

Sorry if that seems harsh, but when I read your post I just wonder why you didn't just open the door. If there is an obvious reason I am missing; I am truly sorry.

aliquot
05-12-2010, 03:08 PM
Ugh, I know how you feel. Yesterday I was watching the Biggest Loser with my 125 lb 6'0'' male roommate who has never been over 130 a day in his life and he busts out with "You know, I really don't understand having to count calories and watching what you eat. I just eat good stuff and I don't gain any weight." WELL WHOOP DE FRIGGEN DO. GOOD FOR YOU.

Then later, he says that they should make the selling of shirts over size XL illegal, so people won't get fat.

ThicknPretty
05-12-2010, 03:09 PM
[QUOTE=sotypical;3288514]

But I also ask - why did you push the button the first place? Were your arms full? Were you unable to open the door? Or were you just being lazy?
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I was wondering the same thing...but still, that was kind of rude. He definitely just let that fall out of his mouth...if he'd thought about it, there's no way he would have said that.

tea2
05-12-2010, 03:10 PM
Arrgh. :(:(


I can see it now on your goal report/pics. Q: How did you get such great arms? A: I opened 37000 doors in one day. :hug:

sotypical
05-12-2010, 03:11 PM
I was wondering the same thing...but still, that was kind of rude. He definitely just let that fall out of his mouth...if he'd thought about it, there's no way he would have said that.

It was incredibly rude! In no way did he have any right to say that - he should of kept his mouth shut.


I can see it now on your goal report/pics. Q: How did you get such great arms? A: I opened 37000 doors in one day. :hug:

LMAO!!!!

Kae
05-12-2010, 03:17 PM
Wow, what a jerk... seriously! I would have killed him with my eyes. LOL.

jynx
05-12-2010, 03:20 PM
lol actually it's rare for me to push the button but i did have my hands full of folders and papers which I would have had to juggle about and those particular doors, anyway, are SUPPOSED to be opened by the button, it's not a wheelchair feature. People have actually broken the mechanism of those doors by trying to force them open by hand, however he did not know this because he doesn't spend any time in the languages department (which is a new building compared to the rest of the university).

pink sparkle
05-12-2010, 03:22 PM
That was so rude of him. One thing I'd like to ask you, though. You mentioned he said you've said you don't like your body. Do you say things like that (to or around him) often? I've found that when people point out things they don't like a lot, other people eventually begin to comment (either trying to be helpful or just plain mean). Example: my mom is overweight and she's always talking about how fat she is, how she's tired of her stomach, etc. Then if my dad makes a comment telling her she should go for a walk or maybe she shouldn't drink so much soda, she gets offended. He looks at it like he's trying to help her. Although your friend was really rude, maybe he was trying to help you (in his own way).

birdtostone
05-12-2010, 03:24 PM
Wow, you were much kinder than I would have been.
If that guy is really supposed to be a friend, I would have a serious chat with him about making comments like that when you've clearly already made it plain that you are doing what you're supposed to alter your life. Not to mention it's none of his flipping business whether you flex your index finger for two seconds or flex your biceps for a few seconds longer.

Really? Ugh.

It shouldn't matter if there was an obvious reason or not that she pushed a button or yanked on a door handle. We are all different and so are our days. Personally, I HATE those doors and I silently pray that they'll break so I can open the door normally without having to pull with extra force so it opens faster. (Obviously there ARE people who really need to use these doors, so I usually look for a normal door first.) I've still had days wear I've pushed that button and waited though, nothing in my hands, just because my day was a little off or I felt like it.

Anyone who looks at me and laughs because they don't think I should be waiting for what, maybe half a minute extra out of my life, for a door to open can shove off.
Perhaps that just hits a tender spot with me because lately I find that people can't seem to mind their own business, particularly when it comes to the most infintisimal details of somebody elses life.

That's then end of my vent. I really wasn't expected to get so worked up. :o

Ilene
05-12-2010, 03:28 PM
"You know, I really don't understand having to count calories and watching what you eat. I just eat good stuff and I don't gain any weight." WELL WHOOP DE FRIGGEN DO. GOOD FOR YOU.:frypan:

Then later, he says that they should make the selling of shirts over size XL illegal, so people won't get fat.Men are dumb!! Specially skinny ones!!

I push that button all the time and I am neither lazy nor weak!

jynx
05-12-2010, 03:31 PM
@ pink sparkle, I have mentioned it but I never go on about it to him because I am conscious of that exact thing. But obviously he asked why I wasn't having cake etc or eating biscuits when offered and I just said I was trying to get back in shape cos I feel down about it. That's all, I'll only mention it when asked about it.

pink sparkle
05-12-2010, 03:36 PM
Oh, well sounds like he was just being an insensitive jerk.

jendiet
05-12-2010, 05:38 PM
that was rude of him, not knowing the situation. But i feel he was trying to be motivational. Like really trying to say "thin people are movers and shakers..not button pushers". Sometimes we need our thin friends to spur us on with anger and indignation.

he picked the WRONG time to do it. At least you know you have a true friend that doesn't sugar coat things...that is a plus. I hate it when people agree with you about everything.

my SO loves me being thick. I was craving munchy foods and was totally avoiding them...and he was like "I like it when you crave munchy foods...then there will be more jen-jen for me to squish and love".

i was like ummmm..are you saying you want me to be fat??? slap! but at least he is honest.

bargoo
05-12-2010, 05:54 PM
I always push the button else the door won't open.

schubunny
05-12-2010, 07:55 PM
Men are dumb.


I'm with JamieJo here. Men can be really stupid!! Worse than that they think they are smarter than women and will take any opportunity to 'try' and prove that.

(no offence to any of you nice guys on 3FC, this is just what I gathered from all my past relationships/guy friends LOL)

vertigoskyy
05-12-2010, 08:04 PM
Men can be so insensitive. Maybe in his own way he was trying to help, if he has heard you say something about losing weight before. My guy friends try to be helpful, but sometimes they don't understand and come off so insensitive. Either way, that would have made me really upset too! Especially after you gave him a chance to backpeddle!

Ciao
05-12-2010, 08:24 PM
How mean. :( I hope things get better for you.

I HATE when scenes in my head just keep
replaying. Whenever someone says something rude to me
I just let them know how offensive that is in the nicest way
possible. A simple (and sincere), "That was incredibly rude."
and nothing else said can say it all, explain it all, and can let
them know how you feel without stooping down to their level.

Ilene
05-12-2010, 10:33 PM
Oh, well sounds like he was just being an insensitive jerk.It's a guy thing :lol3: