Beck Diet Solution - Beck Diet For Life/Solution – May 2010 – Support, Discussion, Buddy/Coach

05-01-2010, 06:32 AM
Welcome to the discussion group, support group, diet coach group, diet buddy group relating to the two books by Dr. Judith S. Beck:The Complete Beck Diet for Life ( the first bookThe Beck DIET solution: train your brain to think like a thin person. (

The Beck Diet Solution is a psychological program, not a food plan. It provides a step-by-step program to learn specific techniques to stay on our diet, lose weight, and maintain our weight loss for life. The program is based on Dr. Beck's clinical research in Cognitive Therapy (CT).

The Complete Beck Diet for Life expands the earlier work and includes a food plan with suggested menus. From the cover:With The Complete Beck Diet for Life you'll discover the 5 stages of successful dieting and maintenance. You'll learn how to motivate yourself, give yourself credit for every change you make, create time and energy for dieting, and handle hunger and cravings. Dr. Beck eases you into changing one step at a time. You'll master one task before moving on to the next. And you'll learn techniques to deal with challenging situations, such as sticking with ou plan at celebrations and dealing with "food pushers." With Dr. Beck's skills, you'll achieve a lifetime of healthful eating and lifelong motivation.

This is a place to discuss the Beck strategies and our daily efforts, to receive and provide support, and, for some of us, is where we serve as on-line diet buddy (coach) to each other.

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05-01-2010, 06:34 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - The warblers aren't here yet. Supposedly they're all perched in Delaware waiting for a favorable South-West wind to sail up here. But it matters because the trees are leafing and it's much easier to spot small warbles if they arrive before the leaves come out.

Did gym; CREDIT moi. Looked forward to my sardines for lunch - the 99 cent can. Well, there are 3 sardines in the can total, LOL. Big guys for sardines. Packed in water isn't as tasty as packed in oil - think I'll stick to the oil. I must have purchased these to save a few calories, but taste matters also. So, again, I'm full of Omega-3's; CREDIT moi.

onebyone - Yay for seeing the 20 pounds gone from the scale instead of the minor fluctuation. Kudos for remembering "persist in victory."

Beverlyjoy - Great use of your 90 minutes of waiting time to get your arms around the hard chapters in Beck. Usually when I'm in a doctor's waiting room I veg out on whatever awful magazines are sitting there. (Talk about a good source of cooties, LOL.) Kudos for taking care of your mother despite your own foot/ankle pain.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Neat that you're aware of "comforting associations between dirt, tired, and splitting a sandwich in the sunroom with my husband" since that's a unique combo. Surprised that bamboo might worm its way into your garden; my DW serves me sauteed Garlic Mustard about once a year but it'll never grow in her yard, LOL. I do think a stand of bamboo makes one good looking natural barrier.

Shepherdess - Neat choice to use "tried and true" while you recover from your week of midwifery. Kudos for running when "wind had died down to a breezy 20 mph" which seems a bit breezy from here.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for soup as nature's way of cleaning out the fridge. Ouch for exhausted and still having the energy to work your resistance muscle on that cake. LOL at your dogs eating whatever is put before them - I'd bet they'd have a heyday with your 6 punnets of strawberries, LOL. If I remember correctly, maryblu has a dog that eats her raspberries right off the bushes.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - An OP pumpkin pie without the crust sounds really yummy. Kudos for avoiding "xrated" foods, LOL.

MerinoGirl - Now that's a long history of weighing yourself, LOL. Count me as one, also, who's developed the habit of seeing the trend in the scale readings without much concern for the jitter.

Readers - day 26
Common Thinking Errors

There are nine common thinking mistakes people make when dieting:

. . .
Thinking Mistake #2: Negative Fortune Telling
You predict the future negatively without considering other possible outcomes.

Since I didn't lose weight this week, I'll never be able to lose weight.
Since I gave into that craving, I'll never be able to tolerate cravings.. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 195.

05-01-2010, 07:50 AM
Hi beck folks..coaches...buddies..

First of May! Yesterday was a healthy day - I am always grateful for that and the willingness to keep trying.

Our weekly peanut party with the neighborhood children had to changed to tortilla chips (out of peanuts!). I didn't eat any - even though I was holding the! After the snack they all wanted a story. Three year old Adam jumped on my foot in glee after the story - ouch on my already hurting foot/ankle. I came inside after that!

Yesterday was a real 'warm weather' food day. I made a cold Thai noodle salad for lunch and tuna salad for dinner. Sometimes it's good to switch it up. I kept a couple portions of ww spaghetti noodles out in measured portions to use later this week - credit for planning.

Our next door neighbor's had a baby boy. A new one to add to the fun. In a few years, Adam will have a boy to play with - rather than the seven little girls on our street. He's all boy, though - he sleeps with his play lawn mower. (cracks me up!)

wrote down my plan, wrote down everything I ate
stayed in my calorie range
tasted food - alot of the time
eated seated, no seconds - all of the time
slow mindful eating - some of the time
gave myself credit during the day
leave a bite - all of the time
read arc/rc
made some new rc
used resistance techniques
measured food

no exercise/spon. ex.

billbe - I hope the birdies arrive before the camoflauging leaves. We have 6 of our seven bird houses 'in business'. Two more families in the spruces. It's just starting to get 'noisey' - I think we have some hatchlsing in one of the houses all ready. I am trying to get excited for ya - sardines and all. Don't like can have my share. Yes...the omegas are so good. Enjoy. BTW - thanks for hosting this wonderful forum. Sure do appreciate all your time and efforts.

Lexxiss - glad you can get back to your food 'comfort zone' now that company is gone. Sounds like you did well. An op pumpkin pie sounds good.

merina - oh my goodness - on the subject of how often to weigh - it's like politics.... people have their strong opinons!! I think folks have to figure out what works for themselves...whatever is helpful to their program and journey. There should be no judgement. It's like food plans...'one size doesn't fit all' - pardon the pun. Look at all the different approaches/forums there are here at 3fc..many ways to lose weight and live healthfully.
I agree....coaches are an important component of this program.

Have a good day. Remember to treat yourself as you would a good friend.

05-01-2010, 08:45 AM
Hi Coaches
A good food day - achieved my eating goals and organised a shopping list and shopped for it. I know for most people this is an everyday achievement but for me it is a challenge to plan and only buy what I have on my list - so credit me! I bought nothing extra - except for some dog food I had actually forgotten to put on the list so they were very happy

I haven't read the pink book for a while and I haven't looked at my A & R cards for a bit so tomorrow I need to give that some time. I am also going to do some slow cooker food for the freezer. I haven't been drinking enough again. I weighed myself, gave credit, stayed on plan, walked around the supermarket for exercise (more than enough!)

BeverlyJoy - Glad you had a healthy day yesterday (and day before) and hope that the medication is helping without side effects. Ouch for jumping for joy right on your foot, You have inspired me to get back into the pink book to stay focussed and on the program - a food plan is not enough

GardenerJoy - Yay for exercise for the first time in a while - that must feel good. Not sure what a Quizno is but probably best avoided methinks - but ritual is a big draw card

Onebyone - Congrats on keeping it down to 20 lbs - that is terrific

Shepherdess - credit for running in windy conditions - but you sound like an old hand at it. Yay for moving on from snacking. I am trying to do a little gentle exercise and hopefully it will increase with time. Not going to leap in and expect miracles

MerinoGirl - your merino sheep is very fetching. Very dear to Australian hearts as it seems we grew up with them even in the city - wchool did that I think. Well done for checking in and reading the postings - I always find it helps

Ruth (Lexxiss) - Glad you have your routine back and it sounds like you get credit for staying in charge of food while they were there. Credit for salad over basketball food - has to be a better choice. Sending supportive thoughts for staying focused and reaching goal

BillBlueEyes - hope those leaves delay a bit and don't hide those tiny birds. I never know what to do with canned sardines if I haven't got toast to put them on - what do you do with them?

That's it folks


05-01-2010, 10:04 AM
Good Morning

I was reading from the green book this AM, and thought I'd share.

From the green book;

Weekend Response Card
Because I want to keep off excess weight, my weekend eating has to be the same as my weekday eating. My body doesn't know or care that it's the weekend, and if I eat too many calories, I'll gain weight. It's worth it to me to control my eating-even on weekends.

Also from the green book,

" There are about 104 weekend days a year, not to mention the numerous holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, showers, weddings, parties, restaurant meals, fairs, conferences, meetings, special occasions, and vacation days."

This put it into perspective for me. Having this knowledge is a good reason to continue to find ways to eat OP during these times. I suppose if all these days were tallied, they would approach something close to 1/2 a year.

I'm headed to our library book sale this AM. I'm hoping to find a pink Beck book and maybe some good nutrition books.

Have a great day everyone!

05-01-2010, 10:41 AM
Happy May Day, all!

It's Kentucky Derby day as well. I always enjoy the lead up stories and the excitement.

BillBE, your memory is correct, at least half-way. In fact, *both my two dawgs eat my raspberries right off the bushes. They wade right in, never mind the thorns. @##%$@^ I don't have egg-suckin' dawgs, I have raspberry stealin' dawgs.

I agree with you on sardines in water v. oil; taste *does matter.

Our incredible string of warm weather has cooled to a more seasonal norm. This is the earliest ever that the trees are so leafed out. All my plum trees are blooming; it is wonderful, but I keep pinching myself. It could easily be May 25 or later for this to be occurring normally. A seasonally normal frost would now be a *late frost, and could wipe out my apple harvest...*waiting, holding my breath. We got the rain we so desperately needed yesterday. Waiting for it to dry up enough to do some serious planting.

One day at a time staying on track with my journey back to where I want to be. It is easier now than it used to be, and it's more than just that I know how to do it and have confidence in the Beck method. It's more than that.

What makes it easier for me now is that the *pay-off is so*much* bigger relative to the time/effort it takes. It is the difference between feeling *fat and being exactly where I want to be, exactly where I look and feel best. It is a big, big pay-off and worth the effort. That said, I remember when I was losing ...I remember at 190 down from 200, feeling thin. It's all relative, and it's all a big pay off and so very worth the effort. At this point, I don't even need to read advantage cards..I just have to *hold that feeling of *being exactly where I want to be, having my cloths fit perfectly..I just need to *hold that.

Now do as I say, not as I do, Beckies! READ those advantage cards..*laffin'. Will keep posting ..I gotta gitterdun.

I can't help but wonder if I will *ever get to the point that I remain vigilant and live Beck everyday so that I don't have to do this yo-yo thang. *sigh.

05-01-2010, 11:22 AM
Happy May Day! I've lost 8.5 pounds since the first day of spring! Seven of them in the month of April! My new plan fell into place better yesterday and I'm feeling more confident. Like Beverlyjoy, I am grateful.

WI: -0.1kg (new low), Exercise: +30 1240/1800 minutes for April, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: so glad that you are feeling better and persisting in victory!

Shepherdess: good job getting a run in when the conditions weren't ideal and on finding a way to stick with the program using tried and true meals.

Beverlyjoy: oh, you and Lexxiss are inspiring me to get back to the book! I got to the "start your diet" day and have lost all my consistency since then. It sounds like there's good stuff later on that I want to get to!

MerinoGirl: yay for checking in! And for knowing your own history with the scale -- you'll make that work for you!

Lexxiss: yay for getting right on track with your company gone!

BillBlueEyes: good job for getting to the gym and for working out the best sardines for you -- a little oil that brings a lot of Omega-3s and good flavor sounds like a good trade-off.

Beverlyjoy: yay for all your credits and no tortilla chips!

seadwaters: yay for good shopping and for the only impulse buy to be dog food that you needed!

maryblu: good job on a thoughtful post as part of your efforts to get back where you want to be!

05-01-2010, 01:19 PM
Well, yesterday was hit and miss as far as food was concerned. That seems to be the trend right now. I did avoid mindless snacking in the afternoon, but I was baking brownies for the branding today and did not avoid mindless nibbling of brownie bits. I’m trying to stay on track right now, but am not beating myself up too much for the mistakes I’m making. Brandings are always a tough time. It’s tradition to make a big party out of it. We have a coffee break half way through, which is coffee and soda, and several desserts. Then afterwards, we have a big potluck lunch and more desserts. I’m skipping the one today, because I have too much to do. But I have to admit that I’m relieved to not face that food situation two days in a row. I’m just doing my best right now and plan to re-impose some serious discipline when this is all over.

Exercise didn’t happen yesterday. I am desperately trying to get my house clean so on Sunday I can have a crew of 30 cowboys track whatever they pick up on their boots across my floors. But it was snowing all AM anyways, which turned into freezing rain by later afternoon. That didn’t stop my genius Spaniel from swimming in the pond while I was feeding the sheep. I guess that little spot of pond where the outflow water keeps ice from forming was just a little too tempting. Then she sat on the kitchen floor giving me sad brown eyes while her teeth were chattering.

MerinoGirl, I weigh in daily as well. Beck recommends it in the green book (Complete Beck Diet for Life). There are different schools of thought on this and we all just need to do what works for us. I think the important thing is getting to the point where that number is just information and not a judgment on what kind of person we are.

Lexxiss, I agree with your sentiment “I loved the visiting, but will very much enjoy the return to my routine.” Great job using that resistance muscle and having pumpkin pie without the crust. It’s a healthy treat. I’m crossing my fingers that this is the last snow of the year too!

BillBE, yay for being full of omega 3s! It’s always a fine line between saving a few calories and turning a favorite food into a “why bother?” Good job trying to balance it all.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for another healthy day, even with the switch to tortilla chips. Ouch for a three-year-old jumping on your already-tender foot. All of your warm weather food sounds wonderful. It’s making me long for summer!

Seadwaters, great job getting organized and doing all your shopping. I love my slow cooker. It is so great when busy. I turn it on in the AM, have a hot healthy dinner waiting for me in the evening and there’s always plenty of leftovers.

Maryblu, I’m laughing at your raspberry stealing dog! I love those unseasonable warm snaps, but they do come with a price, when the other shoe drops on the weather. We have the same problem here. Crossing my fingers that you stay frost free and have a wonderful fruit harvest. Glad you’re back on track and finding it easier. I remember reading in Beck that the wagon doesn’t leave when you fall off; it stops until you get back on (I’m paraphrasing). I find that comforting.

Gardenerjoy, congrats on 8.5 lbs down this spring and a 7lb loss for April. You broke through that plateau with a vengeance! Here’s to a successful new month.

05-01-2010, 10:38 PM
Coaches/Buddies I was on business travel for about a week. I must say I did outstanding on food. Stopped at full every time, and made reasonable if not puritanical choices. Got in two workouts, but was shooting for three. But more drinking than normal.

A good trip. Getting back into normal today with major kid tantrums, and starting off with a run tomorrow.


05-01-2010, 11:53 PM
Hi Coaches

In my avoidance of all aspects of making things (ie.procrastination) I got a lot of other needed things done today. The annual art in the park event that my friend and I run is now well underway. We juried the applicants, I sent welcome accpetance letters to applicants, I contacted two people to do with the show that I needed to do for a while now. I did bank deposits, made dinner from scratch (credit) and then let Kitty X out and saw she wanted to escape to the neighbour's yard. I blocked the area under the fence she was using ad that made her perturbed. I figured since I hadn't cleaned my backyard, esp. the patio stone area that that was what made next door so appealing, so I cleaned the backyard. Credit spontaneous exercise. I alos cleaned off the coffee table and found my Volumetrics book. I'm taking that to bed for some reading. I recall considering that as a foodplan and I am going to take another look at it. In the end I did get some work done towards my art shows a week from today. I have been experimenting with new surface treatments of my plastic material and it's very intriguing what I am coming up with. But gee, am I working slow. I think the way I work has changed. I was a real binge worker, doing very little then working like a maniac until exhausted. Seems I am not too interested in that anymore. I think I need to adjust myself to my new desires. The binge working just isn't gonna cut for me anymore. Hopefully this is connected to the food and eating issues I have had as well. I think it is true though. even when I am off plan it is rare for me to really binge eat. I may choose food that is less than great or off plan but I don't really pig out all that often. Credit for this.

Have to get to bed.

It's May already. Can you believe it? Wow.

Have a good restful evening coaches.

05-02-2010, 12:18 AM
Hello everyone!!!

Beverlyjoy- thanks for the reminder that it is not the time line, it is the living healthy with food. My frustratingly slow weight loss was bugging me today. Good for you for devoting 90 minutes to work on Beck stuff. I really need to do that too. I need to put some time into rereading the books and doing some quiet thinking.

Shepherdess-good for you for trying to distract yourself from pre- dinner nibbling. Hope the branding went well for you. Seems like a huge job. I am amazed you have been able to continue to think about your eating and continue to exercise and post here.

gardenerjoy-interested to see your new food plan if you want to share it. I also have tiny pink one pound dumbbells. I started doing my weight workouts with these. Thought it was best as I have had tendinitis in both arms before and have very sore shoulders a lot of the time. I am now using the purple 3 pounders and one day plan to be up to the blue 5 pounders. Glad you were able to get back to your strength training. Yay for 7 pounds gone in April!

MerinoGirl-I weigh every day and the scale fluctuates all over the place. I can be up 3 pounds or down 3 pounds for nothing. It could be fluctuation or it could be the scale is wonky. I am only concerning myself with the trend.

BillBlueEyes-big credit for the use of resistance muscle. And especially for eating the insides and not the crust.

seadwaters-waving hello! Yay for resisting cake when you were out for coffee. And for making a list and sticking with it.

onebyone-like the sound of moving forward.

Lexxiss-boo for snowstorms at the end of April. Yay for eating well when you had company.

maryblu-we are getting cooler weather and like you, it is the earliest we have ever had leaves out on the trees. It finally rained here also so am much less worried about fires. Glad you are feeling that you are back on track.

wndranne-congratulations of doing outstandingly well on food on your week travelling. Really hard to do. Good for you.

For me, glad it is a brand new month. Overall last month I gained 3 pounds (or stayed the same, depending if it is scale fluctuation). Kind of a downer. I know why-- it is because I ate on plan only about half the days. On the other days, I was not being careful. I have not been binging so that is good. Mostly I am eating very healthy. Exercise is very regular. So all in all, I am going to tell myself it is all OK. I am learning things. I have not quit. I post here pretty faithfully. I continue to weigh myself daily. I continue to read the cards pretty much daily. I mostly try to use my Beck skills.

Credit today for:

weighing in
eating on plan
resisting food at many points during the day
reading advantage and response cards
checking in with my coaches

Take care

05-02-2010, 07:21 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - A glorious day! Started early chasing the newly arrived Warblers. Saw a good bunch, including a Black-throated Blue Warbler. It doesn't take much to make a birder happy, LOL. Birding is a terrific way to be outdoors enjoying the sunshine and environment while getting, unfortunately, almost no exercise. The best views come from standing quietly. But, after lunch I took a walk to Trader Joe's, CREDIT moi, to get some California Golden Raisins. When I need a walk, I can always conjure up some need to justify a walk to Trader Joe's.

And finished some household chores, including changing a passage way door knob set that had broken; CREDIT moi. Now that's not a big job, but it's easy to put off. It also reminds me that I can't replace just the small broken piece - it only comes in the full dual door-knobs set - grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

maryblu - LOL at your two "raspberry stealin' dawgs" - perhaps someday you'll make a youtube video of those rascals. My own guess is that "this yo-yo thang" always remains, the cycle just gets shorter, until we yo-yo within a few days and just look like we're constant. But,that's just my guess - check with me in about 20 years and I'll let you know.

onebyone - Yay for procrastination driven productivity - whatever works. Interesting observation about binge working - it'd be great to think that getting to eating on a regular even level would leak into all other aspects of our lives. Good luck re-delving into Volumetrics; I do like the notions in that book and think it's part of what drove me toward the monster raw salad that I do with my lunches at work.

Anne (wndranne) - Kudos for 'outstanding on food" for a whole week of business travel - I'm really impressed since I can quickly make up several reasons that I deserve food because of the deprivations of travel. Ouch for kids who need a little acting out to punish mom for abandoning them - in that regard, they're just like cats, LOL.

Beverlyjoy - hmmmmm... seems like your 3 year old friend Adam was "stotting" in the terminology of Shepherdess, LOL. Congrats for one more "healthy day." Yay for having so much business in your seven bird houses. And thanks for the acknowledgment.

CeeJay - Such clear perspective on your previous month without using the various "Thinking Errors" of the all-or-nothing type that Beck discusses in day 26. So useful to give yourself credit for leveling out your eating even if it's not yet at the 100% that you'd like. Kudos for clarity.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Congrats on the Spring loss down to your new low. And Yay for confidence and gratitude.

Shepherdess - Have a joyful Sunday with 30 cowboy guests with their boots on your floors. Good luck avoiding the platters of desserts and goodies while watching hungry men devour them all. By the by, does Wyoming have cowgirls?

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yep, Kudos for pulling off your organized assault on the supermarket. Even Generals have to learn to plan an attack, LOL. Re sardines: I eat them on Romaine Lettuce leaves, sparing myself the need to pack crackers - the carrier of choice. As kids, we'd mix them up with mayonnaise, mustard, and relish - just like canned tuna - and spread that on bread. I recall using about as much mayonnaise as sardines ... <shudder>.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for the noble task of supporting your library book sale (while serving your own insatiable desire for more books, I'd guess, LOL). Neat calculation that you easily reach half the days of the year with a reason to eat off-plan.

Readers - day 26
Common Thinking Errors

There are nine common thinking mistakes people make when dieting:

. . .
Thinking Mistake #3: Overly Positive Fortune Telling
You predict the future too positively, without considering other possible problems.

I'll be able to eat just a little bit of this food I crave, feel satisfied, and stop.
It's okay if I just estimate the amount of food I'm supposed to have instead of measuring it. I'll still lose weight.. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 195.

05-02-2010, 08:02 AM
Hi becksters....buddies....coaches.....

Yesterday was a healthy day - I am always grateful for that and the willingness to keep trying. I think, for me, willingness is key.

Every day for the last 12 years I've gotten up and written down five things for which I am grateful. Yesterday, I was kind of having a 'pity party'. I was feeling frustrated with my pieces and parts, limited mobilty, medication, blah blah blah. I didn't think I could think of any gratitudes. But, of course, I could. So once again I am reminded that, no matter what, there are always things for which I be grateful. It's a good daily task. It always puts things in perspective. I recommend it.

While in the kitchen - I just opened the fridge - thinking 'what can I eat' - Then I realized - I don't 'graze' any more. (or am working on that) I used a resistance technique, closed the fridge door, walked away, smiled and gave myself credit.

Today DH and I are going to the grocery...I will use the electric scooter. It's kind of humbling. But - of course, better than not getting out doing what needs to be done. Mom is coming over for a cookout tonight.

made a plan, wrote down what I eat, kept track of calories, stayed in healthy range, measured food
eated seated, no seconds - all of the time
fork down - some times (I really need to work on this)
read rc/arc
looked at beck book
used resistance techniques
gave myself credit
tasted food - some of the time
slow mindful eating - some of the time

no exercise/spontaneous exercise

billbe = so glad you saw the birdies! A good walk to Trader Joe's, too. I wish ours wasn't quite so far away. Love that store. Credit - working on those 'chores'.

cee-jay - no binging is a huge credit. Seems like you've taken many of the beck tasks to heart. Keep 'practicing' all the stuff you know works and aim to do what you add to it. That's all any of us can do.

onebyone - 'not pigging out' is a HUGE credit!

wndranne - so, so glad to hear your trip went well. You said - I must say I did outstanding on food. Stopped at full every time, and made reasonable if not puritanical choices. Got in two workouts, but was shooting for three Major credit!

shepardess - glad you were able to avoid one of your eating gatherings. I can see how branding would be a major happening. I don't suppose the cowboys would want coffee and veggies and healthy dip half way through. LOL Hope all goes well today.

maryblu - we watched the Derby too - always fun. So much hype!!!! You said - What makes it easier for me now is that the *pay-off is so*much* bigger relative to the time/effort it takes. It is the difference between feeling *fat and being exactly where I want to be, exactly where I look and feel best. It is a big, big pay-off and worth the effort. That says SO much - it's a real way of living with food and realizing why.

gardenerjoy - I am jumping for joy over learning of your wonderful weightloss!! I am so glad your efforts are being rewarded at the scale as well as in your day to day living.

lexxiss - thanks so much for sharing your weekend response card - it's so basic, but - such a necessary concept to tatoo to our brains. I don't have the green book...just the pink book.

I hope I got to everyone. Shout out to anyone stopping by.

05-02-2010, 10:09 AM
Just a quick check-in before my busy day begins. Had a pretty good food-day yesterday. There was a decadent dessert that probably didn’t need to happen, but it was only one. It would have been more than that in the past, so I still consider it a success. I didn’t do any formal exercise, but it was an active day So I feel good about that. I’m looking at a tough day today and I have a general plan in place. There will likely be a number of challenges that come up that I never even thought of, so wish me luck. I am looking forward to this afternoon when everyone leaves and I will hopefully get a nap.

Thanks for all your supportive thoughts. I will catch up later.

05-02-2010, 10:33 AM
Hi. Just back from vacation. I spent 6 days hiking and cycling (and eating) and the scale shows that I am the highest that I have been in a year or two. You would think that I would be dehydrated(?).

Anyways. I am here. I have to catch up on stuff (including Beck, and this message board). I will do so in a few days.

Weight 160.8

05-02-2010, 11:37 AM
Since I'm losing weight, I've decided my exercise goal of 1800 minutes in April (which I didn't meet) was more than I needed, anyway. So, I'm scaling back to see if 1400 minutes a month will get the job done. I'm going to go for more intensity, fewer minutes.

WI: -0.35kg (new low), Exercise: +40 40/1400 minutes for May, Food: 90%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Shepherdess: hope your busy weekend is going well!

onebyone: cool insights about how your work and how that's changing

CeeJay: I'll post my food plan in the recipes thread later today -- thanks for asking!

BillBlueEyes: yay for warblers!

Beverlyjoy: big credit for "I don't 'graze' any more"

hikergirl: welcome home!

Hello to wndranne, maryblu, seadwaters, ChinaMaine, bennyhannahmama, Lexxiss, and everyone else!

05-02-2010, 12:04 PM
Hi Everyone!

I've been catching up at home this AM.
-read from the book
-read my response cards
-read my reasons to lose weight
-planning my meals for the week
-had spontaneous exercise
-will eat slowly, mindfully, while sitting
*credit for all*

Weekends are harder for me. I WILL use my response cards BEFORE engaging in unplanned eating today.

hikergirl, wndranne :wave: Glad you are both back home safe!
:wave: everyone else! I will catch up later.

05-02-2010, 10:23 PM
Hello there-- I miss you guys! Not sure when it all went to #$%*, but it has :( I'm pretty sure it's absolutely no coincidence that I stopped checking in here. Thanks Joy (gardnerjoy) for checking on me and I'm sorry I haven't responded.
I had a garage sale on Friday and Saturday and preparing for that was stressful. It went very well, but of course I still have more work to do now that it's over.
I kind of feel like I've lost all my Beck skills over the past couple of week, which quite frankly sucks! Oh and on top of that, I've been smoking over the weekend :(
Right after typing that, I had my last cigarette and then threw the rest of the pack out. That helped me feel more in control. The next couple of days will be hard, but I do NOT want to smoke anymore. The only reason I even started this weekend was because Jim (my boyfriend) started again. Hopefully he'll quit soon, but I'm not going to wait for him.

I'm tired and feeling pretty overwhelmed. So, I'm going to set some goals for myself for tomorrow.

#1 NO smoking!
#2 Check in here

I think that's a good place to start. I'd like to accomplish more than the above (thinking about waking up early to do a workout on the elliptical in the basement), but if that's all I do, then I will be satisfied.

05-02-2010, 10:36 PM
Argh! Just lost my post...

okay had 3 meals, no snacks. credit.
Did have seconds of plain rice at dinner.
Worked hard all day on art stuff-managed to make some progress. credit.
Kitty X continues to linger but now she's having a tough time drinking water. This is really not good. She is still enjoying "the blue room" aka outside so ...

bennyhannamama I see we cross-posted so hello. I just went through the garage sale stress too and yep, my junk room is really torn apart but I can still see the space I made so that makes me feel better about it. Sorry about the smoking. I was a 2pack a day smoker and quit at age 18 (I loved everything about smoking but one day woke up feeling like crap so I stopped cold turkey. I do believe you get one chance at this cold turkey being easy business and if you pick it back up again it is never so easy again. Just my pet theory... I digress...) and then, every 7 years or so, I get wicked urges to smoke. I went through that a few months ago actually, who knows what triggers it? For me though my DH would surely move out if I started. Big credit for throwing them away tonight. Smoking and following a program to bring you to good health just really don't jive. Very glad you posted tonight. :hug:

Lexxiss Kudos for your credits. I agree, weekends are harder. I especially have a tough time with Friday night. More Beck needed for me too.

gardenerjoy I'm curious about your exercise minutes target. Do you workout at regular times for x minutes to get your goal number? Or is it more some weeks, less others? How do you view exercise for yourself and your weightloss plan/life? Did you always exercise? You seem so very consistent! Kudos for this!

hikergirl If you were eating out while away that weight is probably sodium. It's in everything. AND if you are dehydrated, your body is hanging onto your water and probably pushing your weight up. Could be a double whammy. Nice to have you back.

Shepherdess Is lambing season officially over then? Do you have twice as many sheep now with the newborns? How long do sheep stay with you?

Beverlyjoy I like this little bit. Reads like a poem to me:
eated seated,
no seconds -
all of the time
Good job on your loads of credits.

BillBlueEyes How big is a warbler? Bagel size? Muffin sized? 6" sub sized? I thought comparing it to a food thing would make it easy to picture but then the sizes of every food thing have metastasized in the past decade so... are they bigger or smaller than the common robin? Kudos for your walk. Oh and do they actually warble?

CeeJay Sorry for the slow weightloss. I keep doing myself in when I get on a roll. I am yo-yoing between 272-262. Have been doing that for quite some time now. Makes me doubt my resolve. Oh well :devil: thought be off with you! Ceejay you only stop making progress when you stop what you are doing. Hang in there. It's happening. Believe it.

wndranne Nice to see you around here! Hope you got your run in. It was like summer here, with the humidity too, (weird weird weird) and there were so many runners everywhere in my fair town. Everyone looked pleased but a bit shell-shocked by the onset of the dog days of summer on May 2nd.
Kudos for having a great trip food-wise. Awesome.

:wave: seadwaters, ChinaMaine, maryblu, MerinoGirl, and everyone one else lurking and reading.

05-03-2010, 06:08 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Another glorious weather day. Took a nice walk, CREDIT moi, through a park where the kids were running about like summer. Sadly, DW announced that there would be no more roasted Butternut Squash for the season because it was too hot to keep the oven on for that long. Braced up a section of fence that's in a back corner of the yard and should be replaced, but it works to drive a long metal stake in the ground and screw the fence post to it. CREDIT moi for working so hard driving the stakes that I worked up a sweat.

While eating dinner on the patio, we saw the Chimney Swifts darting above; welcome back little guys!

onebyone - Continuing to send supportive thoughts to you and Kitty X; know it's a difficult time.

A typical warbler is about 5 inches beak to tip of tail, as compared to a House Sparrow which is about 6 inches. We also call the House Sparrow the English Sparrow around here due to our tendency to name our invasive species after some place else to shift the blame, LOL.

Susan (hikergirl) - Welcome back from six days of exercise. Kinda hard to believe that you can gain weight cycling and hiking; hope a bunch of it is water and some of it is new muscle.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Yay for a garage sale for clearing out one's clutter. That's a good emotional achievement to stand on to get back on track with your eating plan. Sending you good vibes for that as well as good vibes to stick with your plan to drop the smokes.

Beverlyjoy - Kudos for "willingness to keep trying" - that's such a good reminder to me to avoid the winning/losing kind of thinking. Your five things to be grateful for is one beautiful CBT strategy for life; hats off to you.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - New low. New low. New low. New low. - I've noticed a trend, LOL. Good move rethinking your monthly exercise goal.

Shepherdess - Hope you (and your floors) survived your day.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yep, weekends can be difficult when the mind relaxes and the undisciplined thoughts of eating just appear like weeds.

Readers - day 26
Common Thinking Errors

There are nine common thinking mistakes people make when dieting:

. . .
Thinking Mistake #4: Emotional Reasoning
You think your ideas must be true even though objective evidence says not.

Since I feel like a failure for having strayed, I really must be a failure.
I feel like I just have to have something sweet right now.. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 196.

05-03-2010, 08:00 AM
Hi Becksters.....

Happy Monday! My Sunday was good/healthy - I am always grateful for a sane healthy day with food.

Dh and I went to the grocery and I got lots of fruit and veggies - so I am set for the week. Last night DH wanted pizza for dinner - he got his pizza and I ate my planned dinner (used reistance tech.) - credit.

I was able to take only arthritis strength tylenol for my foot/ankle pain - I am really grateful for that. I am going to be very careful and rest my foot/ankle this week so I can do my programs next week. At least that's the plan. Little by little am making progress.

I took lexxiss's lead and made a seperate response card for weekend planning and eating. Thanks so much for the idea.

planned food, wrote down food eaten, measure food - all the time
stayed in calorie range
eat seated, no seconds - all the time
taste the food - some of the time
feel fullness in my tummy - not much
slow mindful eating - sometimes
remember why - yes
give myself credit when I do healthy things - yes
leave a small bite of food - yes
lots of water - yes

gentle stretching, upper body weights - no
read arc/rc - just a few
beck book - no

hikergirl - glad you are home safe - credit for getting on the scale - carry on.

shepardess - credit for taking time to check in - good to have a plan for a busy, busy day. Ya know...sometimes as little extra something is better than alot of extra something.

gardenerjoy - sounds like a good idea - switching up your exercise. You said "since I am losing weight..."- that sure is a nice thing to read!

billbe - walking and working (causing a sweat!) - yes, credit. Sorry about bye bye to the squash. When DH and I went to Krogers (grocery) yesterday a cedar waxwing flew out of the tree in front. It's only the second time I've ever seen one. Go the grocery store in the suburbs.

lexxiss - thanks for the 'weekend response card' idea - I made one. You had many credits of late - carry on!

onebyone - I hate when I lose a post!! That happened to me often - so I've gotten to save, copy and post as I go along - so I don't lose it. Kudo's for having 3 meals and a snack. I am sending a few under the chin scratches to Kittyx - hope things improve. I love how you made some of my credits into a poem!

kim - glad you checked in- glad the garage sale is over (they are so much work) You hold on tight the best you can to things that will help get you through no cigs...we are here for you.

Have a GREAT day, folks. Shout out to anyone stopping by. Be KIND to yourself.

05-03-2010, 08:17 AM
Hi Coaches
A quick check in - I really should do this in the morning as way too tired at night. I am disgruntled because my weight did not drop any further than currently in my profile and ticker - in fact it is about + 0.4lb! I have been within plan except for one or two mishaps.

I am slipping with logging food immediately after I eat so I need to try to do that. With the cooking I have been doing (stews and such) it is really hard to estimate their value and short of putting in all the ingredients and then doing it on a per serve basis etc etc. Anyway I will work it out I guess

Cheers to all and have a good Monday


05-03-2010, 09:11 AM
I made a plan pre-branding and stuck to it. I had a muffin at coffee break, skipping the coffee cake, snicker doodles and cinnamon rolls. At lunch, I stuck to the salads and had only a small portion of the devilish potatoes au gratin. The problems came when everyone was left. I just started munching on the dessert trays that were left here. I tried giving as much away as I could, but there’s still quite a bit left. I remember Beck saying something about being prepared for after the event, which I wasn’t. I think I had been so vigilant and then thought I could just relax and let once it was over. Oh well, better luck next year. I have a ton of leftovers that I don’t need. I will have dh go through everything and throw away what he’s not going to eat, since I have an aversion to throwing away food.

Wndranne, kudos for making outstanding food choices on a business trip! It’s tough to get any workouts in at all while traveling, so great job on 2 out of 3. Good luck with the kid tantrums. I guess it’s their way of saying they missed mom.

Onebyone, your thoughts on the connections between binge working and eating are interesting. I think one of the key aspects of Beck is consistency and I hope that spills over into other areas of my life as well. Sorry about Kitty X, but it’s good that you are appreciating this time with her.

CeeJay, yay for a new month! A scale that isn’t moving is a downer, but you have a great attitude about it. You are learning so much and that is going to help you in the long run.

BillBE, yay for the glorious days of spring to make you want to get out doors and enjoy the fresh air. Sorry about the Butternut squash, but at least it gives you a reason to look forward to the cold months.

And yes, Wyoming has cowgirls. They’re the U of WY women’s sports teams, LOL. I always call our work crew “cowboys” because there is often such a macho attitude, but there are always women working the corrals doing all the jobs the men do. A foreman of another ranch always brings his daughter out, who is now 12 or 13 and she ropes and rides. And we get plenty of cowboys out there who wear the hat but don’t know what they’re doing.

Beverlyjoy, I love your practice of finding things you are grateful for. I can so often get bogged down in the negative and take for-granted all of those things that are gifts in my life.

Hikegirl, don’t get too hung up on the number on the scale post-vacation. There are so many factors that could be affecting it. Give it a few days and if it still is high, then it’s just telling you something needs to change. Sounds like you had a great and active trip!

Gardenerjoy, your exercise plan is a good one. If you are upping the intensity, than scaling back the total time will prevent injury. Great job making an informed decision.

Lexxiss, kudos for your determination to break old patterns! Hope you are all caught up from your week of house guests, but it looks like you are doing great on plan.

Bennyhannamamma, kudos for deciding to quit smoking and not waiting for Jim. Best of luck. Looks like you have set some good goals and are doing a great job taking reasonable steps. If you get in your elliptical, it will just be a bonus.

Seadwaters, sorry for the disappointing weigh-in, but my scale can certainly be fickle at times. If you stick with it, it will drop again. I’m sure there are lots of web sites that track calories from recipes. I use: You plug in your recipe and the number of servings and it gives you all the nutrition info.

05-03-2010, 09:13 AM
Good morning!!

Just a quick check in. Had a good food day yesterday but did not exercise due to sore foot. I am headed to the city for an overnight. I am pretty focused after last month's lack of overall progress so have a plan and am going to stick to it.

Last week I agreed to assume my manager's job for the next year or so while he is on sick leave. Not exactly sure when it will start as it begins when he has surgery and he does not have a date yet. I am telling my staff today which will be hard for all of us. The good news is I am not really going anywhere so I can help out. And I will have my job, which I love, back when this is over. One of my staff will fill in for me. I have the highest functioning, most cohesive team in our organization and we worked very hard to get there, so am a little worried about this change.

I am keenly aware that in the past changes (and yes, stress) like this has been enough for me to completly derail from any healthy things I am doing. I am going to have to be really, really careful that this does not happen. I am determined to keep on track and especially not to slip into a big round of working too many hours. I know that if I work hours like a "normal" person I can fit in all my wellness activities, if I work too many hours things start to crumble.

Thanks for listening and for your daily support.

Hope everyone has a great day.

05-03-2010, 11:23 AM
Hi there. Still in catch up mode. Great to be back to this thread.

I did get moving, I did read advantage cards, I did have a food plan and I did not overeat compulsively. I did visit this site.

Everyone, you are an inspiration.

05-03-2010, 12:04 PM
My brother took us out for Japanese food last night. I think I did okay, but I skipped my weigh-in rather than see a sodium-induced uptic.

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +35 75/1400 minutes for May, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

CeeJay: As I was writing out my current food plan (in our recipes thread), I remembered the book The Incredible Shrinking Critic by Jami Bernard. At one point in the book, she gives up sweets entirely, and reflects that at the beginning of the journey, she would have never imagined that she would do that. But by the time she did, it wasn't that big of a deal. I love bread and my current food plan has less of it than I thought I could tolerate. But having made lots of other changes, that one has come pretty easily after all. So, I recommend making gradual changes that you can right now and keeping an open mind to further ones later on.

Lexxiss: sounds like a great list of goals and a good plan -- hope it went well!

bennyhannahmama: good to see you! Great goals to get things going!

onebyone: one of the things I like about a goal of minutes per month is that I can be pretty inconsistent about things and still pull it off. I keep in mind how many minutes a day (45 this month), so I know roughly what I need to do, and I mean to exercise every afternoon. But if things don't happen that way, there's time to make it all work out before the end of the month. I've always walked, even at my highest weight. These days, I'm doing more videos because the intensity of the cardio is higher and it gets me to do more stretching and strength training. Every time that I've tried strength training in the past, I injured myself. So, I'm doing it now with tiny weights and calisthenics and I'm amazed at the difference I can see and feel. For me, the biggest motivators for exercise, though, are stress relief and as an effective treatment for insomnia (that's why I exercise in the late afternoon).

BillBlueEyes: we like squash roasted on the grill -- especially the Delicata that we get in September from our CSA box. I slice it into arches, marinate it in oil and maple syrup and DH grills it. Yum!

Beverlyjoy: Huge credit for staying on plan while DH had pizza! That's a terrific accomplishment!

seadwaters: I am also frustrated by the difficulty of adding home cooked food into a system that will give me exact calories. What ultimately worked better for me was to cut back a serving or two of bread a day and to really measure instead of guestimate the most calorically dense things I eat like nuts. But I also recommend being patient and not changing stuff in response to a few days' scale readings.

Shepherdess: good self awareness there -- I'm sure you'll do better next year. Great job getting DH to do the throwing way of exccess food.

CeeJay: (again) congrats on the temporary promotion! Sounds like you are valued at work. The last time I took a new job, I was in a mode of "Okay, how can I do this in the healthiest way possible?" And I was able to establish a habit of bringing my lunch and walking around campus that really helped. Maybe you can find a way to make this a really positive change.

hikergirl: great to have you back!

05-03-2010, 01:53 PM
Hello Beck Friends,

I need to be better at being upfront with my husband about all of my dieting activities. He's a thin guy who works at keeping his figure by basically starving himself most of the day and then eating a big dinner. While I think this is very unhealthy, he can't be convinced otherwise and points to his 30" waist as evidence.

He also thinks that people who need to lose weight essentially have a will power problem. So, you would think that someone who feels this way would be very supportive of support groups, such as this forum, or Weight Watchers, etc. But, no, actually, he doesn't even think this should be necessary. He looks down on weight loss support activities.

So, I didn't check the site this weekend, didn't read or post, all because I wasn't ready to defend myself on this point yet. <sigh> Yes, it was cowardice. So, my goal is to confess all this week and prepare him for the fact that I have some new things that will be part of my weekends going forward. I kind of sorted of started the forward momentum on this when he caught me reading Beck. I just couldn't seal the deal and give him all the news because I had enough of the "it's just a question of willpower" speech that came from the sight of me reading the pink book.

And yet, he says that he's supportive of my efforts to lose weight! I guess that's true if you define support narrowly enough.


I started reading through the posts here and taking notes, but will have to reply more later. Off now to get my dad to a doctor appointment, with many logistics involved.

Happy May to all.

05-03-2010, 02:02 PM
I can't believe how much better I felt last night after checking in here and throwing out the cigarettes. I also sent Jim a text letting him know that I threw out the cigarettes and I'm done. This way, when I see him tonight, he'll know not to let me have any of his. He apologized for making it harder on me (by starting to smoke again) and I told him I would let it go since he makes my life easier in so many other ways :cloud9:

This morning had potential to be disastrous since I slept through both alarms and woke up an hour late :stress: Somehow, I managed to get myself and the kids out of the house on time :carrot:

So far today I have:

not smoked :broc:
weighed myself :broc:
read my advantages :broc:
gave myself credit :broc:
eaten slowly and mindfully :broc:
checked in here :broc:
left over some food :broc:
tracked my eating :broc:

Today I ate my lunch at my desk while catching up on posts here and made a very calculated effort to eat slowly and mindfully. I realized that just making sure I put my fork down between bites isn't always enough to make myself eat mindfully. I decided that I need to make sure that I'm looking at my fork while I gathering my next bite and be aware of what's on my fork. This helps keep me from shoveling it into my mouth. This caused me to eat my lunch very slowly and I found that I was full before I came to the end of my food! This hardly ever happens (especially since it was a frozen, pre-portioned meal.) When I recognized the fullness, I thought about stopping before eating the full meal. This made me a bit anxious and my saboteur came up with all sorts of excuses as to why this was not a good idea (#1 I skipped morning snack, so surely I need to eat every piece of my lunch. #2 This is my first day back on track with food and I will get very hungry if I don't eat everything. #3 Since I'm going to count the full meal, I might as well allow myself to have all the calories. #4 I might not get an opportunity to eat again for many hours). Well, I decided to stop thinking and just throw the food out-- there were a couple of pieces of pasta a couple of peas left. It was hard, but I did it and it felt great!

It's good to hear from you. I appreciate your insights and I think BillBlueEyes speculation about yo-yoing is probably about right. I know what you mean about that feeling of being comfortable with yourself, etc. I just wish I could bottle that feeling or remember it in the face of exhaustion, stress, temptation, etc.

I can't begin to express how happy I am for you that your hard work is paying off! You are also very inspiring. Hopefully as I get myself back on track we can encourage each other to keep working in the book. Thanks again for continuing to check on me and I'm sorry that I haven't been able to support you these past couple of weeks.

How'd it go? Did you remember to read your Response Cards before any unplanned eating? I don't know if I can ever remember a time that I've done that :( Something I definitely need to work on! Oh and thanks for the quotes re: weekends. Definitely another thing I really need to work on.

Thanks for your supportive and kind words re: quitting smoking. I think one of the problems I have with quitting so many times is that I tend to think, I've done it before, I'll be able to do it again. I need to stop that thought process though!

I struggle immensely with planning and shopping-- kudos to you!

I'm getting myself back on track too. I hope you enjoyed your vacation and I look forward to seeing more of your posts.

That's all I have time for right now. :wave: shepherdess, wndranne, beverlyjoy and anyone else I missed

05-03-2010, 05:02 PM
Hi my Buddies,

I have been in harmony with my food for already 5 days. I planned every meal, also a special occasion - party with our neighbours - something like BBQ - evening till night in the garden, a lot of homemade food.Every family prepared cake or pie and another delicious food. I promissed myself to eat only 1 small piece of each meal but I had only 3 small pieces of cake (3x3 cm = 1,2x1,2 inch -funny to measure in inch.) and 1/2 of sausage. And planned it as a dinner.Even when I was back at home in my bed, my stomach was rumbling I was happy that I was on plan.
Everyday I read Beck books, exercise and I feel for the first time that I live in symbiosis with food. Thanks God for every next OP day. The same I wish to ALL of you, my Beck´s friends.

05-03-2010, 10:25 PM
This afternoon I went to drop a note off on a co-workers desk and she had an open can of almonds on her desk-- I grabbed one :o After I had already put it in my mouth, I realized the error of my ways! I also ate my afternoon snack and dinner a little too quickly. However, I did leave over a piece of pizza crust from dinner :broc: I never leave over any food, so now that's twice in one day and I haven't even gotten to that day in the book :D

I have a feeling that by the time the day is done I will have consumed more calories than I've burned, but I'm okay with that.

I have succeeded in meeting my goals for today-- no smoking and checking in here. Yippee!

It's got to feel good getting a mini workout in while also doing some fixing up in the yard-- sounds like some good multitasking to me.

Kudos to you for using your resistance technique against the pizza-- I'm impressed and inspired.

Sorry the scale didn't reflect your hard work. I'm sending you some patience.

Kudos to you for doing well during the actual gathering and I feel your pain for after the gathering-- I've been there. I also have a strong aversion to throwing away food and have found something that helps at times. I try to remember that the food is going to be gone whether I throw it down the drain or into my body-- throwing it into my body is no different except that it makes me feel like $%&^.

Kudos to you for looking ahead at potential problems. I think making sure to check in here (ahem, unlike myself the past week or so) can really help keep you on track. Good luck with the changes (and stress) at work.

For all your great work: :broc: :broc: :broc:

I've been in your position with spouse/significant other that doesn't get the whole losing weight thing. I feel like there's so much more I can say about your post, yet right now I feel at a loss. Keep coming here for support and I'm sure you'll get good suggestions for how to explain things to your DH. BTW, not sure where in Northern NJ you are, but I grew up in Rockland County, NY :)

Sounds like you've had several great days-- congratulations!

05-03-2010, 11:33 PM
Dear Beck Friends,

OK, I've not taken the plunge yet and had The Conversation, but I will this week. Promise.

Credit for eating dinner mindfully, which made me feel full and stop eating more than I would have. Also, credit for not eating standing up, one of my major bad habits, despite the temptation to snack when impatient before dinner. Overall, not a bad day.

BillBE: One day my husband and I went to a local gourmet food store and purchased 6 different varieties of canned sardines. They came from everywhere - Turkey, Russia, even Finland, I think. Only one was canned in oil, and that was the only one that wasn't totally disgusting. At the end of the experiment, not only did we conclude that the only one worth while was the one canned in oil, we also decided that the best was the one found at out local ShopRite - canned in oil. It's just a sad fact of sardine life.

Shepherdess - Thanks for the weigh-in advice. I have Beck's green book in the house somewhere. Maybe by the time I finish the pink book I will have found it.

Seadwaters - You've got some great yarn down under, and some good designers. I love Jo Sharp and have several of her books of knitting patterns. I was not tuned into this when I honeymooned in Australia 9 years ago, or there would have been some sheep farms factored in (but was wonderful even without).

Beverlyjoy - Thanks for the encouragement vis-a-vis the scales. In some ways, it is harder for me to cut back on daily weigh-ins than to cut back on food.

Gardnerjoy - Happy May Day, and congratulations on the weight loss.

CeeJay - Thank you, thank you, thank you! Whenever I don't like what I see on the scale, I'll just tell it that it's a wonky scale and threaten to replace it!

Bennyhannahmama - Yes, it's tricky. The individual involved does think he's being supportive, but there's talking the talk and walking the walk. I also occasionally get lectured for "not eating enough". But, while the support could be better, that really isn't my primary problem. My primary problem are all the sabotagin behaviors that Dr. Beck lays out in her book (have only read part of the pink one so far). In fact, I think I need to make a Spouse Response Card! Will start on that one tomorrow, in the solitude of my commute from Essex County, NJ. Montclair NJ is my home for the past 15 years, but I was born in Queens and went to high school on Long Island.

To quote my favorite comic book heroine, Agatha Heterodyne (a.k.a. Girl Genius [free on-line comic w/new pages every Monday, Wednesday & Friday]): "One problem at a time. If we solved everything at once, we'd be out of work."

05-03-2010, 11:44 PM
I ran this morning. Seems like forever since I managed it. I love running. Why do I forget this?

Eating was OK today.

Sorry for the short posts lately. I'm just trying to be present and hopefully it will mature into a real level of participation again.


05-04-2010, 06:50 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - At a working meeting with shared snacks, I ate more sanely than I have in the past; CREDIT moi. I made sure that there was a demarcation between the eating time and the working time. It's so much easier to stick to my plan at home where food is served, consumed, cleaned up, and left behind in the kitchen while life moves on.

While I was doing my d*rn lunges at the gym (CREDIT moi) another guy was doing some also - with slow, perfect form. So, I let that influence me to go slower and work on my form. It was good to see that I can be influenced even if the person doesn't wear clothes like Julia Roberts like the last time this happened to me. He just happened to be holding a 25# weight in each hand as he lunged - the showoff, LOL.

Boston water no longer must be boiled; Yay for water department crews who fixed the broken water main and got the system back under control.

Anne (wndranne) - Yay for running. Double Yay for loving it. Wish I could think of you running without worrying about all those cactus spines, LOL.

Susan (hikergirl) - Getting all your ducks back in a row - looking good.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - What a great story of wrestling with your thoughts to stop eating just because you were satisfied. All packed together in one paragraph would have made Dostoevsky proud, LOL. Kudos for winning.

CeeJay - Congratulations, Boss, for being recognized. Hope you get mucho recognition for stepping forth when needed.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for lots of fruits and veggies, and Yay again for lighter Tylenol. "Little by little" seems like a good plan. Neat to see an unexpected Cedar Waxwing outside the supermarket. I've seen them in the suburbs before, but always in a large flock and usually on a berry tree stripping it back to naked branches.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Good to hear that your brother took you out to dinner - hope he's moving on his own healing. Yum for Delicata Squash.

Shepherdess - "devilish potatoes au gratin" should be banned from planet earth, LOL. Those things draw out my worst stuff about diving in and finishing up whatever size bowl they're in. Must be some old happy childhood memories or something. Interesting thought about being prepared for after the event; I hadn't thought of that before.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Ouch for the days that the body doesn't meet expectations. Seems to always happen for a spell, and always causes a bit of "disgruntled." Kudos for being "within plan" - that's your part.

nathy - Love the phrase, "in harmony with my food" - That's certainly the goal.

MerinoGirl - Yep, working out Spousal dynamics remains a lifetime task; especially since those of us of the male persuasion can be a bit hard-headed at times, LOL. Thanks for sharing the results of your review of six different styles of canned sardines. Not that's a thorough study.

Readers - day 26
Common Thinking Errors

There are nine common thinking mistakes people make when dieting:

. . .
Thinking Mistake #5: Mind Reading
You're sure of what others are thinking, even in the absence of compelling data.


People will think I'm strange if I don't drink alcohol at the party.
She'll think I'm rude if I don't try the brownies she baked.. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 196.

05-04-2010, 08:14 AM
Hi Coaches
An on plan day generally but I overdid it with potato tonight - not thinking or caring. Got home late and had the basics of the meal planned but overdid it on the potato - a weakness of mine. I entered the new recipes into the database for the food I made over the weekend and which is now in the freezer so I can log each serve as I eat it (or more usefully plan to eat it). A work day today so late home and now off to bed

BeverlyJoy - Yay for a sane and healthy day and resistance techniques. Good luck with keeping off your foot so you can keep up with what you like

Shepherdess - credit for resistance in the face of daunting piles of food. Don't feel too bad about the collapse of resistance when it was over - you will be prepared next time. I use a website called calorieking and yes it does work out the calories etc in a single serve but that requires quite a bit of input - just being lazy!

CeeJay - shame about the foot - the body can get in the way of a good exercise plan. Good luck with the change in position - it will be daunting to leave your cohesive and supportive team but you seem to be laying the groundwork now for the change so it doesn't impact on your rood plan

Susan (Hikergirl) - well done checking in and having a plan. Credit

Gardenerjoy - looks like a good day for you. I agree - entering all the data is a pain. But I only tend to enter as you say the calorie dense ingredients and estimate the rest. I will try to remain calm about the scales

Merinogirl - Hope discussions and negotiations with DH aren't too difficult. We get into patterns of responding and reacting that can be hard to shift. Going in with a different attitude can be challenging. You are clear about your goals and how to get there with the Beck program - that will see you through. I am not into crafts a lot but know that there is a very active cottage industry - maybe you can hit the sheep (and Alpaca and Goat) farms when you come againe

Kim (BennyHannahMama) -Credit for slow and mindful eating and recognising (and acting on) full - fabulous! I need that patience you are sending my way

Nathy - so many credits and such resolve. You have a really well developed resistance muscle - a good role model

Anne (Wndranne) - Yay for running and an OK eating day - hope it continues that way for you

BillBlueEyes - shame we have to taking eating out into the world - so much easier with total control and nothing in the cupboards! Glad you got to "sane" when it came to snacks. LOL the lunging show-off

05-04-2010, 09:08 AM
Hi Beck folks, coaches, buddies - Today I am doing my happy dance (in my imagination - not on my foot!) because the scale smiled :) at me this morning. It was down two pounds from last week. Even more exciting...I get to change my mini goal, too - to 204. I am very grateful.

Yesterday I had a day in my calorie plan did have a few twists and turns. I will carry on. I used a couple of nibbles to 'comfort' some frustrations. Did it help...of course not. Sometimes I have a hard head - but, it's a learning process. (that will last forever) Nevertheless.. I am always grateful when I stay in my calorie range.

Today is a quiet day. I will work in my office and go to the drive thru at the bank. I'll do my usual Beck tasks - slacked on that yesterday.

measured and logged food eaten
stayed in calorie range
lots of water
taste food - alot of the time
no seconds - all the time
fork down between bites - sometimes
eat seated - all but once
posted here

arc/rc - no
ex/spon ex - no
fullness - not much
resistance tech - a few times
made a food plan - changed it around a bit
no beck book

seadwaters - sorry those 'taters called to you...that's over. It a big credit to be preplanning and cooking foods to keep in the freezer!

billbe - good for you...managing the food at the meeting. I totally agree - sometimes it's so much easier when we are home in our 'food comfort zone' rather than out there in the world. Yes, take motivation or inspiration at the gym in any shape or form - Julia or the 'show offy' guy. Carry on.

wndramme - credit for running! And - realizing again how much you really like it!

merino - major credit for slow mindful eating and feeling fullness!! Also - not eating while standing make a HUGE difference. YAY I agree...the weighing thing can be so hard to figure out. In the first book Dr. Beck says once a week or everyday if that works best. The latest book she says every day, apparently. (i don't have that book) But, I think sometimes it's hard to figure out what works best for each person. I guess it's trial and error.
Sorry DH doesn't quite understand or has a hard time relating to the journey it takes to live with food in a sane healthful manner. It's so much more than will power. One thing dr. beck said has stuck with me. She says, when it comes to family members, say.."It would be so helpful to me if you would __________" Sometimes I say - keep your candy out of the house etc.

kim - you are doing and cigarettes is a daunting task , but you are facing it well. Carryon!

nathy - you said - I have been in harmony with my food for already 5 days. - what a lovely way to say you and food have done well. You've gotten through many challenging situations - credit!! Wonderful.

shepardess - you said - skipping the coffee cake, snicker doodles and cinnamon rolls. That is a major credit! I used to hate throwing food away - but, I've grown to learn it's better in the trash than me.

ceejay - oh no!! - I am so sorry to hear of your sore foot! Knowing that taking over this other job can be stressful (transitions/ changes always are) will help you face it without turning to food. Hold on tight to what you know works and helps.

gardenjoy - glad your Japanese dinner went well. Good idea skipping seeing a possible salt weight gain.

hikergirl - many credits yay...glad you posted.

05-04-2010, 11:49 AM
Hi everyone. Thank you for your welcome back. Yesterday I did really well with food etc until late in the evening when I was doing some homework (pattern making (sewing courses)) at the kitchen counter (peninsula) and I opened the drawer that has bread in it. It was not pretty. I did not go to the gym this morning.

I will remember my main advantage – When my eating is in control I sparkle. I am powerful when I sparkle.

Have a good day every one.

Gardenerjoy – smart move on staying off the scale for one day after soy sauce stuff

Merinogirl – I have been in the situation you are describing with regards to someone close to you who believes that weight control is strictly a matter of desire/will power. It is very challenging (and delicate?). Good Luck.

Bennyhan- Ok, I will follow you getting back into the groove and you follow me. I am challenged, but I am here (message board).

Nathy – Congrats on “harmony”. I like that word and concept with regards to food.

Wndranne – Hello!

BBE – Eating “sanely”. I like that picture. You really seem to have things in the groove.

Seadwaters – glad to read that you have said “oh well” to the potatoes.

Beverlyjoy – you Rock!

May 2nd 160.9, 3rd 159, 4th 158.7

Exercise month to date:
110 min.

Month to date -Days with out compulsive overeating 2 of 3.

05-04-2010, 11:50 AM
The middle of the day yesterday was completely off plan, but apparently I made reasonable substitutes, which is a skill I need to have, so credit for that. Today's challenge is yet another meal out, this time supper, and at a new place that I don't have a plan for. So, I'll plan to focus on veggies and decide on a reasonable portion size as soon as I see my supper, staying completely open to the idea of leaving half of it.

WI: -0.35kg (new low), Exercise: +55 130/1400 minutes for May, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

Merino: You might try this: Strategy is stronger than willpower. That sounds very Beckian, but I actually got it from a book called The Thin Comandments by Stephen Gullo. You BF has found a strategy that works for him, you're coming up with a strategy that works for you. Guys like strategy -- it makes them feel like generals :), so maybe that would help.

bennyhannahmama: yay for two posts in one day! And for all the dancing broccoli! Kudos for stopping when you were satisfied instead of when the food ran out.

nathy: yay for harmony with food -- that's a beautiful way to say it.

wndranne: good to see you running, especially since you enjoyed it.

BillBlueEyes: yay for both eating and exercise credits! Life is better without a boil order! Thanks for remembering my brother. This past weekend he went out of town to spend time with his SO's family, continuing to keep a relationship with them AND he went on a date. So, he seems to be healing in all kinds of ways.

seadwaters: I'm so impressed that you put your food in the database -- go you! I used CalorieKing at one time and thought it had the best database of any website.

Beverlyjoy: so happy you saw a lower number on the scale! Glad you coped with your twists and turns yesterday, too.

05-04-2010, 04:00 PM
Hi everyone,

I am glad you liked my "harmony with food":thanks:. As I am not native English speaker (only "studybymyselvepupil"), it ´s difficult for me to find the exact terms. In "harmony case" I wanted write -be on(in) track but I didn´t know the right preposition and was lazy to find it. Sometimes I want to write more personals but it ´s difficult for me to explain or desribe. I take a lot of interest in psychology (have state exam), psychiatry, spirituality and.....but I can´t use this information in English properly. Maybe once.....
I like very much reading English written books so I believe that I will improve my own written and spoken English. (BTW Today I have visited library and borrowed A prayer for Owen Meany from John Irwing)
Finish my language corner, now food corner.

Still OP, without overeating, reading Beck ´s book, 15 min. twist stepper and a bit walking. I noticed that I ´m so gratefull and happy without overeating that I like even doing household chores :dizzy::Dand other unpopular things. Funny, isn´t it?

05-04-2010, 05:01 PM
Yesterday was a good, disciplined food day. I wrote out a plan first thing in the AM and stuck to it. I did use my resistance muscle when DH and I were running errands and it was close to lunch. He stopped for some fries, which sounded good, but I stuck with a diet coke and waited until I got home to have my planned lunch. It feels great to be back in control.

We’re having a couple of windy days here. I was too tired to run yesterday anyways, but I did do some yoga, which was great for all my sore muscles. The forecast for today was for a “major wind event,” but DH and I were moving the last of the sheep out of the barn this AM and it wasn’t that bad. I went for a run this AM. When I started out I was scoffing at the forecast. It was windy, but it certainly wasn’t an “event” let alone a “major event.” But it did start to pick up and towards the end I felt like if I stretched my arms out, I might achieve liftoff. Now the winds are at almost 40 mph, with gusts up to 60 mph, so I will concede that this is an event. That’ll teach me to be smug.

CeeJay, I love your determination to face your challenging trip. You’ve done well before and you can do it again. It’s great that you are picking up the slack for your boss while he’s recovering from surgery. Good luck with the added work load.

Hikegirl, waving back. Great job getting right back and into the posting habit after a vacation and kudos for all your Beck credits.

Gardenerjoy, kudos for eating carefully at the Japanese restaurant. It’s nice of your brother to take you out and even nicer that he chose a cuisine where you can make healthy choices. Great job making reasonable substitutes. It is an important skill, though always difficult for me.

MerinoGirl, sorry that your DH just doesn’t understand how hard some of us struggle with food. Those who don’t struggle just don’t understand, but luckily, everyone here understands. I don’t know if it would help if he read Beck. If you think it would help him “get it” you could explain that it is something that is important to you. If not, you may just have to ignore his comments for a while and come here knowing that we’re all in the same boat.

Bennyhannamamma, so glad you’re feeling better and you have a long list of credits to be proud of! Good job surviving your potentially disastrous morning and staying on track through it all.

Nathy, great job for 5 days of “harmony with food.” That’s such a great phrase for it. Kudos for staying on plan with a BBQ with friends. That’s always a tough situation.

Wndranne, yay for running! I love it too. Great job fitting it in with your busy life. I love seeing your posts, even if brief and it’s great that you are doing what you can. A short post is better than none.

BillBE, kudos for eating sanely at a snack/work event and managing to keep the two separate. Great job for slow lunges with perfect form. When I do lunges, it’s quick and dirty. Any way I can get through them.

Seadwaters, if your only food sin was a little too much potato, it sounds like a pretty good day. However, it does go to show that those starches are always potentially dangerous. Yay for a freezer full of food that you can easily fit into your plan.

Beverlyjoy, congrats on another lb down and a chance to set a new mini-goal. And you did it even with the difficulties from your foot. Those nibbles. . . I wish I knew how long it took to re-train my brain that they don’t help frustration.

05-04-2010, 05:36 PM
And now some personals:
First of all Merino girl . I am so glad you posted but feel sorry that your husband isn´t supportive. Come to us, we all are openhearted.

Gardenerjoy - thanks for "Strategy is stronger than willpower. " It´s written so concisely and it´s a big true. I will remember it and repeated several times a day. When I want to have some meal out, my mind organization is like a preparation of Summit NATO.But it ´s worth to it.

Hikegirl -you have written .."When my eating is in control I sparkle."
I feel the same. I have described it in my last post. I wish you a lot of sparkling.

Beverlyjoy - I ´m doing happy dance with and for you. It´s interesting that first I was writting my post and reading our thread after and a lot of us have the same mood. Nice.

BillBE - credit for eating sanely at a working meeting and for gym, too.
May I ask you, Bill, something? I don´t want to be unpolite but why are you here? Do you or did you have problem with food? It seems to me that you are pattern of a healthy eater, you keep your food like Swiss watch...

Anne - credit for remembering of running

Kim - great, so many brokolli, KUDOS for giving up smoking.I am so glad you posted!

Shepherdess - I admire you that you have so many power to run even when you have to be very bussy with your sheep (and 30 cowboys, too)

Nice day to all. nathy

05-04-2010, 05:40 PM
And now some personals:
First of all Merino girl :welcome3:. I am so glad you posted but feel sorry that your husband isn´t supportive. Come to us, we all are openhearted.

Gardenerjoy - thanks for "Strategy is stronger than willpower. " It´s written so concisely and it´s a big true. I will remember it and repeated several times a day. When I want to have some meal out, my mind organization is like a preparation of Summit NATO.But it ´s worth to it.

Hikegirl -you have written .."When my eating is in control I sparkle."
I feel the same. I have described it in my last post. I wish you a lot of sparkling.

Beverlyjoy - I ´m doing happy dance with and for you. It´s interesting that first I was writting my post and reading our thread after and a lot of us have the same mood. Nice.

BillBE - credit for eating sanely at a working meeting and for gym, too.
May I ask you, Bill, something? I don´t want to be unpolite but why are you here? Do you or did you have problem with food? It seems to me that you are pattern of a healthy eater, you keep your food like Swiss watch...

Anne - credit for remembering of running.

Kim - great, so many brokolli, KUDOS for giving up smoking.I am so glad you posted!

Shepherdess - I admire you that you have so many power to run even when you have to be very bussy with your sheep (and 30 cowboys, too;))

Nice day to all. nathy

05-04-2010, 05:50 PM
Hi Beck friends :wave:

I'm really greatful today to be learning the Beck solution! It's been a rollercoaster couple of days for me. I ate off my plan yesterday and this morning decided to really try to use my new tools to overcome my emotional eating-for today. So far, so good.
*credit* I
- read my response cards
-read my reasons for losing weight
-read chapter 34 and 35 on emotional eating and problem solving
-attempted to use the 7 question technique with my situation
-determined this is a situation which is out of my control
-am staying close to my response cards to make it through today on plan.

My hurt feelings are still present, but I feel like I have been able to put the situation into a perspective where I don't need to overeat and eat off plan. I am just learning, but do recognize that if my off plan days continue that I will certainly jeopardize the progress I have made with my weight loss. I do also recognize that I can say Oh Well, to yesterday. One thought I had today was to scrimp on my calories because of yesterday and recognized that depriving myself today doesn't help.:woohoo:

BillBlueEyes, hmm...Spousal Dynamics...a lifetime task. And I agree, it is easier to stick to my plan at home. *credit* for sane eating at working meetings.

nathy, I like "harmony with food", too. I also like "sane eating". *credit* for being greatful and happy without overeating! *credit* for coming here and posting in English!

gardenerjoy, Yay! for reasonable substitutes!

hikergirl, I read your main advantage in the other thread. Thanks for posting it here! "I am powerful when I sparkle." is fantastic!

Beverlyjoy, I am glad the scale smiled! Yes, it is a learning is helpful for me to recognize that perfection is not being demanded of me. It's that All or Nothing Thinking!

seadwaters, *credit* for getting your freezer foods into your database. I appreciated your words to Merinogirl today; "We get into patterns of responding and reacting that can be hard to shift." I am there! I am trying to be "clear with my goals and trying to go in with a different attitude". Thanks!

wndranne, I'm glad you got to run. I'm always glad to hear from you-sometimes "just trying to be present" is a full time job for me.

MerinoGirl, *credit* for sharing your desire to be better at being upfront with your DH. My DH wears 32x34 pants, and I understand how you feel. We aren't able to work out together, because he pushes me from his point of view, not mine. I get up early and work on my dieting tasks.

CeeJay, congrats! on your temporary promotion. It is nice you can have your old job back after the sick leave. I have every confidence you will do well and will find the strength of planning to fit your diet and exercise along side.

Shepherdess, I have 2 pieces of pizza in the fridge I can't throw away. I hear ya! Being prepared for after the event is something to think about.

onebyone, sending kind thoughts to you and Kitty X.

Kim,(bennyhannahmama) I love all the dancing broccoli. *credit* that even when life was tough for you that you knew it would get better-and it did! You inspire me today!

Ok, time to do more planning...I need to make my SF jello for tonight's snack. Not a last minute thing...thanks for all your encouragement as I flounder down the path!

05-04-2010, 10:10 PM
Hi coaches

I thought today would be the day that a decision or nature would take is course with Kitty X. She's still here with us. She's up on the couch and I'm brushing her body and her face and she's purring so... it's breaking my heart. I feel so... helpless and hopeless. Tonight I bought stinky canned fish for her. Unfortunately she'd been trying to throw up so that's a no go. When she saw me in the kitchen she tried to get up but I wanted to spare her the effort so I took water to her and she made motions to drink and then... stopped. I alternately believe she will die right now and also think she is not really sick at all. Until she tries to move. Poor Kitty. I feel like a wretched owner not looking after her and doing everything I could. I don't have a choice $ wise and well in a few days maybe I can but gee. What is to gain by that? Anyway, enough of this. it is really making it hard to do anything toward my farmers' market opening though I did manage to paint something new. It's called Garden of Weedin and it's either the worst thing I've ever painted or the best. I honestly cannot tell. It's not done yet but I already know someone will go crazy for it. When i am finished I'll post the jpg.

I did wake up with one of my severe headaches in the middle of the night. I think I was clenching my jaw. I am really stressed. Way too many big things lurking in the background for me. We, my sister and I, are now actively planning the trip to see my father. My sister wants us to film the reunion of my mom and dad and to document the trip and then we'll make it into a short film. (My sister is a writer.) I've made a few small films and have a background in broadcasting and I know we could do it. So then she says
"we'll go in 2 months and I'll be 20lbs thinner (she's on medifast) and you, you'd better get it together. You're going to be on film." (She was saying this jokingly...cajoling me...baiting me...)
"I can't lose 100 lbs in two months."
"I'd find a way if I had to."
And the other part says "So? You're fat. Big deal. It is the truth. It is where you are right now as this is happening. Do what you can and forget about it. The story/the film is not about you and your body, it's about your mother and her journey and ours with her and with each other. Who really cares."
*sigh* why why why do I have to just accept myself. Why can't I lose tons of weight before the trip. Why can't I just change my whole way of eating and follow, say, the Dean Ornish plan(note: this is like an ultimate goal of mine to follow and enjoy a foodplan like his. I can;t ever realistically see me doing it though I want to.) Why can't I just make a big radical shift? I am unwilling to is a huge part of it. I really don't like all those foods and gee I really like to like what I am eating. And then I read Volumetrics and it seems so slow and so gentle that I think "wimp". This is the :devil: saboteur for sure. Volumetrics tells me to reduce my calorie intake by 500-1000 calories from where I am now. So at 265 x 15 = 3975 to maintain my current weight therefore i can eat between 2975 and 3475 to lose that 1-2lb a week they recommend and then they say to STAY AT WHATEVER WEIGHT YOU REACH AFTER 6 MONTH FOR 6 MONTHS before you try to lose more weight again. geez.

This is very very far from lose 100lbs in two months.

So I am decidely unsane when it comes to thinking food plans through.

That's where I am at tonight. Luckily I don't have to decide anything today.

Thanks for listening.

05-04-2010, 10:51 PM
Hello everyone:

BillBlueEyes-yay for birdwatching on a beautiful weekend. Good for you for eating sanely at the work meetings.

onebyone-thinking about you and Kitty X. Hope things are a bit better for her.

gardenerjoy- thank you for sharing your food plan. I am going to adopt a few of your things in mine and see how it goes. It was just the sound of the homemade bread, the potato hash, the nuts and chocolate chips and the fruit sorbet makes me want to add some more variety in my eating. Inspiration!!

MerinoGirl- each person's healthy is a very personal matter and I hope that you will go ahead and do what you need to do no matter what the opinion of your DH is. It is hard for someone who does not have this issue to really get it. I like gardenerjoy's ideas to talk to him about strategy. Men like a plan. Yay for all your credits- you are doing great!

bennyhannahmama-glad to hear you threw out the cigarettes. Nice list of credits!

nathy-yay for 5 days of harmony. That is fantastic.

wndranne-waving hello as you run by.

seadwaters-I know what you mean about trouble figuring out calories in stews and casseroles- I have been trying to limit these, except for vegetarian ones.

Beverlyjoy-thanks for your thoughts about being grateful even when you are hurting. Yay for being down another 2 pounds. You are so close to hitting 199. I think we will have to plan a little Beck party for you- without the cake.:D Your consistancy is such encouragement for me.

hikergirl-your vacation sounds great. Glad to hear the scale moved.

Shepherdess-kuddos for you for sticking to your plan. And especially for not eating fries.

Lexxiss-glad to hear you got back on track so fast. You are doing great today and that is all that really counts. Right now.

Ok for me I am very happy to report that I ate on plan yesterday. I brought healthy food for dinner and ate it at the hotel-a wrap and salad. I brought a healthy bedtime snack. I brought cereal for breakfast and continued to eat sanely and healthy all day today. PHEW. Maybe one of these days the major struggle I have with hotel rooms will end. It is very ingrained. For 20 years I have had many trips with work to the city and it was always a time to order either pizza or chinese to the room and have a private binge.
Credit today for:

eating on plan
reading advantage and response cards
doing weights
riding exercise bike 30 minutes
checking in here
planning tomorrow and packing lunch


05-04-2010, 10:59 PM
onebyone - we were posting at the same time. I was hoping Kitty X was a bit better but it does not sound like it. Sending you hugs.

05-05-2010, 12:38 AM
Had a busy, but good day. Rode my bike almost everywhere I had to go (and pulled my son in the trailer) and got almost 4 miles in. Also mowed the lawn. So I did great on spontaneous exercise. Did well with eating too. Now it's time for sleep.

G'nite everyone!

05-05-2010, 05:46 AM
I am exceptionally tired - but healthily so after a busy and pleasant day and given I have to get up really early to go to the Happiness and its Causes conference tomorrow in the city (on the train - quite the adventure) I will have to get organised and off to bed. I did some exercise today which has tired me and today I had coffee with dear friends who are going to the US tomorrow to study for the next few years - Harvard plus some prep language courses - and I miss them already. And I didn't resist the cake this time - too late for Oh well and only time for let's move on unfortunately.

Next time I will avoid the coffee shop and take a boiled egg I think

Keep well

05-05-2010, 06:28 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - So I did the experiment; since I had a few small Tuna sushi left over from the previous night, I took them for lunch - sushi, eaten the NEXT day. Well, I'm still alive. I've always believed that you should only eat sushi immediately after if was made by a Japanese speaking chef. CREDIT moi for being so cheap I wouldn't throw away a few small pieces of sushi, LOL.

Was out for a good walk which started with a visit to the ATM (since I'd stopped at the gas station on my way home from work and that tends to deplete my wallet these days) when the skies darkened, and I'm wearing a t-shirt with a wad of money in my pocket and I get this image of having to attach a string of twenty dollar bills to our basement clothesline with clothespins (which we have since DW pre-dries blue jeans before putting them in the dryer). So I went home and just beat the rain. But CREDIT moi for thinking about getting exercise; Ouch. [Sorry, some sentences just can't be salvaged, LOL.]

onebyone - Continuing to send supportive thoughts to you and Kitty X. Wish it was visible to you that if you had the deep pockets of Bill Gates, there's a time when we have to let our loved companions go their path. I faced the same angst you're feeling when we took our beloved Australian Shepard to the vet for the last time. An operation plan was offered, but my dog could never go outside again, and would never be herself again. It would just be pain and an ugly life. We had to let her go. I wish you well growing to accept Kitty X on her path.

Ouch for the sister dynamics that can send your neurons spinning. Kudos for processing away the notion of 100 pounds in two months. A reasonable, steady plan that allows you to focus your energy on creating art is what you sound like you're seeking - when not distracted by the old I-want-it-all-NOW thoughts. Maybe your plan should include a bike ride after every phone call from your sister, LOL.

Susan (hikergirl) - Ouch for being grabbed by seeing the bread. I hate when that happens. It's not my goal to go live in a monastery to avoid seeing food, but it would make it easier to stay on plan.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Love the notion of biking with your kid in a trailer - wish those existed when mine were young.

CeeJay - Good job of countering 20 years of city indulgences. My admiration for remembering that food doesn't beat the hotel blues.

Beverlyjoy - Joining you in your "happy dance." Also joining you in "Sometimes I have a hard head," LOL.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Kudos for "reasonable substitutes." And I join those who like "Strategy is stronger than willpower." Willpower is over-rated in my book. One can only hold their breath for so long.

Shepherdess - Shuddering at your “major wind event” - you guys know how to do weather, LOL. Super Kudos for staying on plan when your DH is chowing down fast food fries - that's a big one.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for updating your database. Ouch for the tiny spurt of "not thinking or caring" - that's the thing that concerns me when I do it because I have this dream that I'm past that.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Ouch for "rollercoaster couple of days" with Big Kudos for "put the situation into a perspective." This recovery step always seems like a big deal to me - quickly getting up as if set backs are just a part of life.

nathy - Kudos for another day "OP without overeating." Neat that being OP makes the drudgery of life enjoyable.

Re: "why are you here?" Oh yes, I'm one of us. Before I started my journey 4+ years ago, I was grazing at food constantly. After I had made the transition to my current life style and lost the 80 pounds, I could still feel the urge to go back to grazing and realized that I didn't have strategies to resist. Luckily, when I went looking for some ideas, I found 3FC and then Beck. Beck's Cognitive Behavior Therapy strategies are just what I needed and feel that I can utilize for life to stay on track, and, most importantly to me, get back on track when I wander. All you guys on this forum on 3FC are helpful to me, day by day, to zap my brain with useful notions to stay the course.

Readers - day 26
Common Thinking Errors

There are nine common thinking mistakes people make when dieting:

. . .
Thinking Mistake #6: Self-Deluding Thinking
You rationalize by telling yourself things you don't really believe at other times.


If no one sees me eating, it doesn't count.
It won't matter if I give in to my cravings.. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 196.

05-05-2010, 09:11 AM
Hi beck folks, coaches, buddies...

Well I almost made it through my weigh in day with out eating extra. Some things die hard....I did eat extra before I went to bed. But - I am grateful that everyday is a new beginning. I will carry on. I even made a response card for this sabatoging thought.

I've been feeling very frustrated. This foot/ankle stuff just is getting to me. I feel like I don't know what will happen next. I don't know when or if I'll be able to do my programs. Maybe I'll need to do the surgery earlier than fall. I am not very brave.

But - today I will push forward and make it a good day.

I'll be back later. Thanks to everyone for doing the happy dance with me yesterday as I celebrated two more pounds down.

Have a GREAT day.

05-05-2010, 09:29 AM
Yesterday was on plan. . .until after dinner when my planned dessert was much larger than it should have been. At dinner I decided at the last minute to swap my planned bread for some chips. As far as calories go, the swap was fine, but I don’t think I’m quite ready to make spur-of-the-moment changes to my plan. It just makes me get too lax. So for now, it’s back to being strict and inflexible.

I had hoped to spend yesterday in my garden, but it was just too windy to be outdoors more than I had to. So besides my run, it wasn’t a very active day, but I guess that’s all right.

Lexxiss, you’re right that scrimping on calories after a not-so-great day is not a good plan. It’s best just to learn why you went off-plan and move on. I love your line “determined this is a situation which is out of my control.” It’s so nice to have at least one area of my life that I control; I just wish I didn’t have to struggle so hard to control it.

Onebyone, it’s so hard to watch animals coming to the end of their life, but you are right not to spend the money. We have frustrating patterns with our families, of baiting and being baited. Don’t take your sister’s bait; you are doing what is right for you. You may be able to lose a lot of weight her way, but would you be able to keep it off?

CeeJay, great job eating so healthy in the hotel room. Those old, well-established patterns are hard to break, but you are doing a great job. If you keep this up, those private binges will be a thing of the past.

Bennyhannamamma, kudos for getting so much spontaneous exercise, and I bet it was a lot of fun for your son! Great job eating well and checking in here.

Seadwaters, kudos for getting some exercise, but ouch for the tired. Good job moving on from the cake and making a plan for next time, but it was nice you got a chance to say goodbye to dear friends. Good luck with your conference—the train sounds like fun.

BillBE, glad you survived your sushi experiment, LOL. Great job getting in a walk and beating the storm. Did those dark clouds make you walk faster?

Beverlyjoy, ouch for eating before bed, but I love your attitude, "I am grateful that everyday is a new beginning." Doing surgery earlier may be a good idea. It seems like the foot pain is really interfering with your life. Is there a reason you were waiting until the fall?

05-05-2010, 09:59 AM
Credit for packing my normal snack on what would have been, otherwise, a very strange eating day. I ate it, sitting down, in a cute little park with pleasant memories. When I was a shy computer programmer at my first job, I used to pack my lunch and a thick novel, like Clan of the Cave Bear or Outlander, and take my midday break at this little park in the company of delighted toddlers on swings and slides and their patient mommies and nannies.

WI: +0.35kg, Exercise: +60 190/1400 minutes for May, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

05-05-2010, 01:03 PM
Greetings. A big "ah well" to my eating yesterday. Extremely compulsive overeating.

BBE --- I laugh at the picture of the drying $20 bills. I will not give you a credit for eating day old raw fish (yuck). Glad that you did not feel the after effects.

Great posts from everyone.

"I am powerful when I sparkle."

May 2nd 160.9, 3rd 159, 4th 158.7, 5th could not do it,

Exercise month to date:
160 min

Month to date -Days with out compulsive overeating 2 of 4.

05-05-2010, 05:27 PM
Didn't weigh today because I stayed at Jim's house and he doesn't have a scale. Kind of bummed about that because I burned a lot more calories than I consumed and it would have been fun to see the effect (if any) it had on the scale. Although, I have noticed that not weighing today has helped keep me on track so that I can see some good results when I weigh tomorrow morning.

Today I have:

Read my advantages :broc:
Ate slowly and mindfully (most of the time) :broc:
Gave myself credit :broc:
Checked in here :broc:
Exercised my resistance muscle by not eating the keylime cheesecake my co-worker made :broc: :broc:
Reminded myself that hunger is not an emergency and made myself a cup of tea :broc:

05-05-2010, 06:22 PM
Hello Coaches,

Urgh! Lost my long post when I hit the 'back' button! Very frustrating. Well, I learned my lesson. Will compose it as draft in Notepad and post when finished. <sigh>

Anyway, I finally had The Discussion with my husband, and told him I had joined a really good support group which meant that I would be posting (hopefully) every day.
He didn't get bent out of shape about it. He just shrugged and said that it doesn't matter what "framework" I use to make changes, so long as I execute the changes.
Then he seemed to consider the discussion over, and turned his attention to something else.

Now, for a moment I considered following up on this with him. I wanted to make the point that the framework is actually the really important part to making sure that changes
stick, but I stopped. I'm not going to be able to turn him into a Beckian. I decided to take my victories where I can, and all I really wanted was to let him know
that I will be posting to this forum and not get grief when I do. If I have acheived that, that's enough for now. I already know that he can only offer qualified support,
at best.

So, credit to me for dealing w/spouse. And credit for planning today's meals, extremely important as tonight is dinner at a restaurant that really is not oriented towards
healthy choices (a BBQ place). I have decided a plan of action (salad and pulled pork w/no sauce), and I think I can get through the dinner without going off of my plan.

BillBE: Your sushi story reminds me of "Desperately Seeking Susan", the part where the NYC taxi driver is talking to Madonna about sushi, which was a
relatively phenomenon when the movie came out. He said, "Sushi, sushi. I don't see the big deal about sushi. I bought some the other day, brought it home and cooked it.
It wasn't bad, it tasted like fish."

onebyone: When my kitty was at the end of her days, a few years ago, the vet told me that she might be tempted with clam juice, and that did work for a while.
Cats will make more of an effort to drink clam juice than they will water. Just get some canned clams and give her the liquid. You can eat the clams - they are good
with pasta.

Oops. Will have to finish posting later. Where did this day get to?? Off to face BBQ, but I have a plan.

05-05-2010, 11:02 PM
Hello Coaches,

BBQ dinner was perfectly on plan. Ate the food I planned and didn't eat the food I didn't. The large beer was good, too. I planned to have it the minute I saw it.


OK, there is room for improvement.

onebyone: Also sending calmness your way as your family documentary situation pushes your stress buttons. I don't know what Volumetrics is, but anything to do with math pushes my stress buttons. Kudos to you for gathering your facts before making your choices.

gardnerjoy: Excellent! Thank you thank you thank you! I love it. "Strategy is stronger than willpower is my new mantra." I just have to remember that beer is part of my strategy.

shepherdess: A day when all you can do is run... that's much better than my best! I think it's a good day if I walk to work instead of take the subway.

nathy: Hi! And thanks for the support. Yes, this is a good group.

ceejay: Thanks for the encouragement! It's a work in progress.

bennyhannamama: Great spontaneous exercise. Sounds like fun, too.

seadwaters: I admire your patience for typing out your recipes. I did that for a while but found it tedious.

Lexiss: Good to know that someone else is coping with a spouse who is not entirely on the same wavelength. Since you've had great success, you are proof that it's possible to find a way to make it work.

Beverlyjoy: Condolences on your foot. I know we both have foot problems - mine is an ankle that's now weak, ever since a fracture resulted in my foot breaking off of my leg, and it sprains a lot. What is the problem with yours?

Hi to hikergirl & wndranne, and everybody else out there. All of your posts are really helpful.

05-06-2010, 06:34 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Micro steps: 1) Dinner was coming late (my gardener DW has a hard time coming in while she can still see, LOL) so I saw my hand reaching for some trail mix; I stopped myself, realizing that I don't graze anymore. CREDIT moi. and 2) I had the opportunity to have both an orange and a pear for my evening snack, and I remembered that my plan is for a fruit, not for as many as I can lift, so I didn't; CREDIT moi again.

It was sobering the other day to be reminded that 100 calories a day can change the weight by 10 pounds a year. It's time for me to get un-lazy about staying on my plan. 100 calories matter once I start doing it daily.

Susan (hikergirl) - Extreme Ouch for "overeating." There seem to be several of us here that need to get a bit more attentive to our plan.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Yep, Two Broccoli Kudos for avoiding that "keylime cheesecake my co-worker made." Love seeing your page of dancing broccoli.

Beverlyjoy - Sending supportive thoughts as you work to keep your spirits up while stretching your foot/ankle surgery until fall. I thought that your "happy dance" reference yesterday was a sign that you're winning.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - What pleasant memories with your lunch. I remember Clan of the Cave Bear - that must have sold a zillion copies.

Shepherdess - Ouch for those little diversions from plan - from a guy who understands your phrase "too lax." And Yep, those dark clouds did make me walk faster - maybe I'll think of threatening weather as my exercise coach rather than a problem, LOL.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - What a happy thought that you spent the day at a "Happiness and its Causes" conference. So much more pleasant than all of The-End-Is-Coming conferences about the environment, health, population, etc. Yep, "let's move on" should do it.

MerinoGirl - Ouch for that replanning that happens when the eyeballs spot a treat. BTDT. Kudos for making a plan before heading off to your BBQ restaurant. LMAO at the NY taxi driver's "it tasted like fish" - thanks for that one.

And Big Kudos for having "The Discussion" you needed to have with your DH. It's a victory in the Venus/Mars arena just to have the conversation and come out good enough. My take is that marriages get all in a knot when there's a stack of subjects not being discussed rather than from any disagreements about the topics.

Readers - day 26
Common Thinking Errors

There are nine common thinking mistakes people make when dieting:

. . .
Thinking Mistake #7: Unhelpful Rules
You mandate actions without taking circumstances into consideration.


I can't waste food.
I can't inconvenience my family be cooking healthier meals or getting the junk food out of the house.. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 196.

05-06-2010, 07:17 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Yesterday was a much better day *credit*. I had opportunity for reflection on my daily planning. I am back to my plan which has had long term success; automate breakfast and lunch, and OP dinner, amended to use my Beck skills and not graze or overeat. I'm recognizing that for me, too many changes=food chaos. I'm back to baby steps...and it feels good today. I did my Beck homework this AM and am looking forward to a stressless OP day. Many of the stressors still exist, I'll just work on taking control of my attitude and related responses.

BillBlueEyes, *credit* for resisting the urge to graze. Yes, small indisgressions do add up. I remember that, too.

MerinoGirl, (I smile) *credit* for knowing when the conversation is over and choosing to leave it. Great job explaining your needs to DH.

Kim, your cup of tea reminded me to have one! *credit* for all your :broc:

hikergirl, sorry you had a rough food day. I'm glad you are here.

gardenerjoy, thanks for sharing your memory. It reminded me of my first job and lunches from home. I used to walk to work every morning, too.

Shepherdess, I'm back to strict and inflexible, too. *credit* for recognizing that spur of the moment changes make you too lax.

Beverlyjoy, sorry to hear you are frustrated with your foot, but *credit* for your resolve to "push forward and make it a good day."

seadwaters, I hope you were able to get some rest. the Happiness and its Causes conference sounds very interesting. I look forward to a report.

CeeJay, such a *credit* for changing your hotel pattern to a healthy one. Sane and healthy! PHEW!

onebyone, I am looking foward to seeing your new painting. I married into a family of artists, but am not one! My Sis and I have always had a *very interesting* relationship. I love her, but have to be very careful to take care of myself. At my higher weight, it really did help me, when spending time with my family, to remember exactly what you said, "The story/film is not about you and your body, it's about your mother and her journey and ours with her and with each other. Who really cares." I enjoyed our reunions, and they were happy to be with me. They truly didn't care. :hug:

Thanks, all, for taking time to share your insights. I appreciate it very much.

05-06-2010, 11:00 AM
I ate sloppily in the middle of the day yesterday with lots of sabotaging thoughts like "I don't care" and "Just one day won't matter." If I truly didn't care, I would have weighed myself this morning. And it wasn't just one day, it's the second day this week.

The result was that suddenly candy displays interested me. I was really never close to actually buying any candy. But, for weeks now, candy displays have had nothing to do with me, like a display of dog toys since I don't own a dog. Life is better with that total disinterest and it's easier to achieve when my resistance muscle is strong.

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +20 210/1400 minutes for May, Food: 65%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

hikergirl: hope you're sparkling!

bennyhannahmama: love that you were able to use not weighing as motivation to have another good day!

MerinoGirl: I think your minimal discussion with your husband was just perfect. All you need from him right now is not to get in the way and it sounds like you got it! I get much more meaningful support from this group than my husband on this matter since we're all on similar journeys. My husband and I have many other journeys to support each other through, but it works well to have a few journeys we take on our own with the support of others. Yay for the (mostly) OP BBQ!

BillBlueEyes: good job on two credits before and after supper!

Lexxiss: yay for a much better day and back to baby steps!

onebyone: sending warm and healing thoughts as you are dealing with a lot right now!

Greetings to Shepherdess, nathy, ChinaMaine, seadwaters, Beverlyjoy, and anyone else wandering this way!

05-06-2010, 11:18 AM
Hi friends....I have been struggling since last night and it has spilled into this morning.I overate last night and this morning. I can't undo everything I've learned and accomplished these past monthes. I have many decisions to make. But, food can't make any of this easier, better or clearer. It really just clouds up everything.

Credit for checking here. I'll check back.

I will draw my 'line in the sand'.

05-06-2010, 11:26 AM
Beverley - if you're still here, have a :hug: You'll get through this. I know you will.

05-06-2010, 12:03 PM
Merinogirl – good on you for having the discussion with your husband and for moving ahead even if he may not fully “get it”. I think that someone who does not struggle with challenges with eating really can be challenged to understand what we go through.

Beverlyjoy – “oh well”. Focus on all those wonderful OP days that you have had. You will get through it.

I had another very challenging food day yesterday. I did stand on the scale this morning. Credit to me.

May 2nd 160.9, 3rd 159, 4th 158.7, 5th could not do it, 6th 161.6

Exercise month to date:
160 min

Month to date -Days with out compulsive overeating 2 of 5.

05-06-2010, 04:27 PM
Hello everyone. I am new to this site, and new to the Beck Diet Solution. I'm on day 6, and as part of my daily to do list, I'm joining a support group, lol. I heard about this site through a fitness website.

While I am 20-25 pounds heavier than I should be, the main reason for starting this book was to change my thinking about food in general and hopefully learn some techniques to counteract some of my past behaviour. So, I'm excited about doing some of these daily to do things and even after only 6 days, I've seen myself in a lot of her stories of patients. ;)

So, I'm reading my cards every day, sitting down to eat, TRYING to eat slowly (VERY hard for me), I'm giving myself credit, and now joining a support group.

I just posted a little sign where I can see it at work that says "give yourself credit" because I have a lot of negative thinking at times.

05-06-2010, 05:28 PM
Hello Coaches,

Thanks for all the support vis-a-vis husband. As for planning, I made a point of dashing out a quick plan for myself this morning - took about a minute. Have so far stuck to it 100%, even bypassing some really good free truffles from a gourmet chocolate store right here in the lobby of my building (oh, why does life have to be so cruel - a gourmet chocolate store I must pass every day!). But, as my feet began to take me in the direction of the plate of goodies, my brain kicked in and said "They are not on today's plan," and I actually walked right by. I am going to give myself a credit for that. I also liked the way I sneakily left myself open to the possibility that they might be on plan another day, so I'll take another credit.

Hello new2me2. I'm fairly new here too. Nice folks, you'll find. Welcome!

05-06-2010, 05:41 PM
That is how I feel right now. Yesterday, I was very glad that I chose to post before leaving work (like I'm doing right now), since as soon as I left work, I received a phone call from my kids' daycare that they found a couple of lice eggs in my sons hair. By the time I got to the daycare to pick him up, my daughter was there too and they said they found eggs in her hair too. I pictured an evening of treatments for both of them, having to dry all bedding, vacuum, etc. Ended up calling the place I had paid a few weeks ago to treat them and while waiting for them to call back decided to take my kids to McDonald's drive through for dinner-- I did NOT get anything there, nor did I taste one french fry :broc:

Ended up going home and eating a Healthy Choice meal before taking kids to "lice woman's" house. She checked kids and NEITHER of them had lice :mad: I was relieved but frustrated at all the stress and time wasted.

Now, I'm getting ready to leave work and sure enough there's another message from the daycare that they have found a couple of eggs in my daughter's hair :mad: I appreciate the daycare's need to be vigilant, but this is getting ridiculous and they insist that they are right.

Oh and why does this seem to always happen on the days/nights I have the kids and not their dad??? :stress:

Okay, I made it through last night without using food to deal with the stress and I'm going to do the same thing today. I'm doing well and I want to stay in this mode.

That's all I've got for now, hope you are all having a good day!

05-06-2010, 10:04 PM
Hi All,
Checking in! I've been walking at lunch, and my blood pressure is down, so yay for that! Tracked food, credit. I am working on doing my food tracking earlier in the day so I can have a clearer picture of where I am calorie wise. I am not to the point of planning everything in advance, so this is a good step to catch myself sooner in the day. I took a couple snack foraging trips today, and am still frustrated by my habitual behavior. I need to write down my sabotaging thoughts.
Have a good night.

05-06-2010, 10:59 PM

My wonderful cantankerous Kitty X went to sleep today for the last time. We were with her and she was so weak it was really fast. I picture her and can't believe she is gone. I was truly blessed to have my old vet with us. It was the right place for us to be. Kitty X had xrays and there was a mass on her intestine. She also had fluid build up in her sides that was mixed with blood and there was blood in her urine. She was, indeed, very ill with no hope of recovery.
We made the hard decision and let her go with peace but wow. I just hate making that decision.

What was freaky was when we went into the examination room they had two of my paintings on the walls in there. I went into a little bit of shock. And then I remembered the woman who bought them told me she was starting a vet clinic and they were for her new venture. And then Dr. S, my vet, said they had had a conversation about me, wondering where I was, and Dr. S told Dr. E that she had one of my mirrors that I made for her as a gift. I didn't remember but I often make things and give them to people who move me so I was glad to hear I did that. In their waiting room out front there is gorgeous huge wall begging for some art work. I am considering offering making them something for that space if they buy me the canvas. I think they do good work there and I feel like I'd like to support that. I may bring Caesar in for a check up on Monday if Dr. S is in and then while there I may broach the subject. I also want Kitty X's xrays.

Such was my day. Food was here and there. And I started reading the green Beck book last night. I am going to follow the Beck Complete Diet For Life plan. Imagine. The answer was always right in front of my face.

Thanks everyone. You're awesome, (yeah you reading this you're awesome).

05-07-2010, 12:51 AM
Onebyone - so sorry for your Kitty X.... :hug:You had to be brave and strong to make THE DECISION but I think you did well. Your Kitty X doesn´t feel pain now...Good idea for you is to make Xrays because you had prick of conscience that you had not so much money for the expensive (sugested by vet) treatment.
And thanks for picture of your Kitty...:hug:

Big KUDOS for you words:
And I started reading the green Beck book last night. I am going to follow the Beck Complete Diet For Life plan. Imagine. The answer was always right in front of my face.

It´s GREAT. Try to believe to yourself, you are strong, you CAN do it!!!I´m sure...;):carrot:

About myself I will write afternoon. It´s 5:50 AM here and I have to go to my work.

05-07-2010, 06:31 AM
Onebyone - always so difficult with pets to decide when the time is right to let them go. I have had to do it a couple of times and it is always difficult no matter how obviously necessary. You gave KittyX such a wonderful life and send-off - so hugs to you and your partner :hug:

I had a good few days - the Happiness and its Causes conference was inspiring - people like Edward de Bono (truth is a bully)and Robert Thurman (Uma's dad). Looking at - the causes for happiness! And how we can help others. A big focus on meditation and the effects on the brain and behaviour. All in all terrific. Not so terrific on the food front - forced to forage for food and of course I took easy choices because I couldn't walk far or stand for long.

I am doing some "Lite-n-easy over 50 aqua fitness" - it is nearly killing me but hopefully I will persist and benefit from it. I am trying for Mon - Wed - Frid but usually have to miss one day each week. It will take a while to improve but it feels good and I do what I can. I am knackered (is that word used in polite society in the US?) tonight - have a weekend to recover.

Some interesting discussions at the conference around the fact that our biological selves are bathed in the litany of the happy whens - "I will be happy when..." - I get married, I get a job, I get a vacation, I retire, I have a baby, the kids grow up, the kids leave home ..." etc (the idea that we defer happiness) And everything is OK until we meet the Ds and our normal coping mechanisms don't work anymore. (Depression, despair, divorce, disgruntled, debate, distress, diet! death etc). All in all worth the train ride.

Food today much better

Will catch up with some personals tomorrow - need to organise food and bed

:wave: Waving to all of you


05-07-2010, 06:31 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Yesterday I worked on baby steps and felt good getting into my old routine...until dinner with my knitting group from church. At the event, I focused on Dr Beck describing how people without a weight problem moniter their eating. I quietly asked for small portions and did not overeat.*credit* We're travelling this morning to visit my Mom and she has proposed going to her favorite spot for dinner. I'm torn between doing something for Mothers Day that she wants and spending alot of money on food that I don't want to eat(buffet at her country club). Good choices are avaliable, so I guess I'll just accept that I'm going to spend alot of money, eat in moderation and remember NO CHOICE. Beck books will travel with me and I'll have a chance for reading and planning today.

BillBlueEyes, thank you taking the time to share your personal journey. Your daily commitment to this forum really matters. I'm going to Whole Foods today and will look for another person who isn't grazing!

onebyone, thank you for sharing your last day with KittyX. Your willingness to take xrays,understand her condition and allow her to find peace honored the importance of your relationship with her. Unbelievable that your paintings were on the walls! Clearly you took her to the right place. *credit* for starting to read the green book and making the decision to follow the Beck food plan. I have perused it and it is very sensible. PS You are awesome, too!

gardenerjoy, reading your post, I reflected on how strong and believable sabotaging thoughts can be when we're in the middle of them. *credit* for recognition, and noticing that you really DO care.

Beverlyjoy, I hope you are feeling better. Great observation that, "I can't undo everything I've learned and accomplished these past months." *credit* for recognizing that food doesn't make decisions easier, better or clearer.

silverbirch, :wave:

hikergirl, *credit* for getting on the scale and posting here.

new2me2, :welcome2: *credit* for recognizing negative thinking. I am new, too, and find the books very inspiring.

MerinoGirl, *credit* for having a plan and sticking to it!

Kim, *credit* for not eating at McDonalds. Whew! I hope the situation with daycare gets resolved...very stressful for you and the kids. *credit* for the knowledge of doing well and wanting to stay in that mode.

Nuxmaga, *credit* for healthy behaviors that lower blood pressure, including tracking food earlier in the day. I am working on "planning in advance" and some days are better than others. I keep practicing my new skills.

nathy, :wave: See you after work.

ETA-Cheryl, we were simulposting...Thanks for the update on your interesting! *credit* for making an exercise plan. I started out with aqua fitness when I wasn't able to do anything else. It helped me so much both physically AND mentally. I still go 4x/week even though I am now able to do much more. Enjoy your weekend!

05-07-2010, 07:30 AM
:welcome: new2me2 :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post on 3 Fat Chicks, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about Dr. Beck's books?

And how did you find the Beck Forum on 3FC?


05-07-2010, 07:34 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - So, after cheerfully celebrating yesterday that I didn't have both an orange and a pear for evening snack, I did so last night; Oh D*rn. But, I did keep my hand out of the nuts and dried cherries that my DW was nibbling; CREDIT moi.

On my walk, I stopped in a Good Will Store and found a 2004 edition of a college chemistry textbook for $1.99. Grabbed that sucker - CREDIT moi for weight lifting exercise for lugging the 1000+ paged book home, LOL. There's so much chemistry in the news every day with discussions about recombinant DNA and the like that I need to remind myself of the basics. Modern textbooks are soooooooo much better than when I went to college. The first few chapters should get me onboard with the basics.

onebyone - Good bye sweet Kitty X after sharing your long life with grateful humans. Congrats for taking the care to let her go peacefully - I, too, have been there and know that it's difficult, even when it's the right thing to do. She was blessed to have had you as the person in her life.

Susan (hikergirl) - Yep, Kudos for the scale and posting here. Baby steps are good - just like Debbie (Lexxiss) is taking also.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Ouch for both lice and McDonald's; Congrats for having neither, LOL. Kudos for avoiding food as a way to deal with stress with extra credit since today's Beck quote includes stress as one of her Justification Thinking Errors, LOL.

Beverlyjoy - Yep, "food can't make any of this easier, better or clearer" - Kudos for being aware. Wishing you well in making your decisions.

Margaret (Nuxmaga) - Ouch for that old snack foraging; BTDT. Kudos for that walking at lunch - so good for the old brain it is.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Such an interesting insight that dabbling in eating "sloppily" leads to the interest in the candy displays. I so like your desire that the candy displays should exist in your mind next to dog food since you don't own a dog.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Neat thought, "I will be happy when..." - have I ever been suckered into that one. Good luck with your aqua fitness.

silverbirch - Waving back.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Baby steps seems like a sound way forward. Kudos for observing yourself and making adjustments.

MerinoGirl - Kudos for making the written plan and then almost immediately using "They are not on today's plan," at the FREE gourmet chocolates. Extra credit for avoiding FREE on the day that the Beck quote below lists her Justification Thinking Error about free. (Have I ever mentioned that FREE is about my worst pit hole, LOL.)

new2me2 - Well, Kudos for encountering day 6: Find a Diet Coach and coming right here. And Kudos again for giving yourself credit; you're on a roll. Yep, I also see myself in a lot of the stories Beck tells about her clients.

Readers - day 26
Common Thinking Errors

There are nine common thinking mistakes people make when dieting:

. . .
Thinking Mistake #8: Justification
You link two unrelated concepts (to justify your eating).


I deserve to eat this because I'm so stressed out.
It's okay to eat this because it's free.. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 196.

05-07-2010, 09:24 AM
Hi coaches, friends

Thanks for your support and kind words as I go through a very trying time. I need to figure out when to do this ankle/food surgery - Soon, shortly or later on. There are so many things that factor into my decision.

Someone asked "Why wait". It's a complicated surgery where they detach the tendon and split it and reattach it in two places. The recovery can be close to a year. Non weight baring for 4 months. That seems very daunting to me. I have a hard time taking medication. My mom may need surgery and I would need to take care of her. It is very costly and we don't have good insurance coverage. DH says not to worry about the cost...just do it when I need to. So alot to think about. I am pretty tired of having this 'lame' ankle/foot. I often feel like life is passing me by. I am getting ready mentally to doing this - just need to figure out when.

But - for today...I've made a plan, wrote it down, posted here, will read my arc and ac and try to carry on.

Thanks again.

05-07-2010, 10:40 AM
Credit for not eating at a meeting. My plan when I went in was "one cookie," but they didn't serve cookies this time, so I came home and ate my normal snack.

Today I have a lunch meeting, but I don't anticipate much of a challenge. One of the good things about being in a female-dominated profession is that, at least sometimes, we remember to size the portions for the 150-pound women that we are, or wish we were. There are no 250 pound men to complain that there isn't enough food. Maybe that's why most of the male librarians I've met are skinny! Anyway, this particular lunch has always been enough interesting stuff to be a treat but not so much as to be a catastrophe.

WI: +0.7kg, Exercise: +60 270/1400 minutes for May, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

Welcome, new2me2!

onebyone: so sorry about Kitty X.

05-07-2010, 10:57 AM
Coaches/Buddies Am I making excuses or is it really that much harder after the second kid? I was thinking about that this week. Not about physiological issues, but just about time and mental energy.

Migraine a couple days ago, and I'm just getting myself caught up. Went to Drive-By Truckers in concert with some friends, which was just excellent and sooo fun. But I was up waaaayyyyy past my bedtime.

Riding the bike today, and working on decent eating. Note that I'm planning pancakes! I love planning in fun food now and then. Guilt free yumminess!


05-07-2010, 11:14 AM
Hi All. I dropped 4 pounds in less than 24 hours. What the heck? Water, water. ? I did have a successful op day yesterday. I have to run. I have not been able to respond to all of your posts. Sorry.

New2me2 – Welcome.

Merinogirl – Congrats on your “triumph”

Benhama- Yikes. You had one heck of a day. Congrats on getting through it on all fronts…including the food front. Excellent.

Nuxmaga – Hi!

Onebyone – Kitty X was a very lucky kitty to have you in her/his life.

Seadwaters – Interesting and insightful thoughts.

Lexxis – good luck with the buffet. You have a plan. Great!

BBE – 2 pieces of fruit vs a bowl of nuts. Congrats.

May 2nd 160.9, 3rd 159, 4th 158.7, 5th could not do it, 6th 161.6, 7th 157.2

Exercise month to date:
160 min

Month to date -Days with out compulsive overeating 3 of 6.

05-07-2010, 12:33 PM
Morning all! I have a couple of days to catch up on. . .

We were having beautiful weather on Wednesday, sunny, not much wind. I hadn’t planned a run but did one anyways because it was too pretty not to. It felt great. We went out to dinner with a friend later that evening and I realized it was Cinquo de Mayo. Everyone else at the table was having a margarita, so I did too. Oh well. I was commenting that for the last several years, DH and I have always wanted to go out on Cinquo de Mayo, but it’s been snowing so we just stay home. I spoke too soon, and the flakes started coming down on our way home.

We woke up yesterday to an inch of snow. Just enough to be a nuisance and make a lot of mud. We got the horse trailer stuck trying to get up our hill. We were going to go buy some bulls in a little town an hour north of here, where they had 10 inches of snow. So all of that slowed us down and what should have been a half-day trip turned into an all-day trip. So there was no exercise yesterday. I did go into a sporting goods store while we were killing time in Buffalo, so I don’t know if looking at hiking boots and camping gear counts. I also picked up some trail maps of day hikes, so I was thinking about being active. Food was good. It’s a relief to do something well on a day when nothing goes according to plan. It was late and I was hungry by the time we got home, but I didn’t grab the closest thing I could snack on. I held off and made a healthy, but quick dinner. But it looks like a beautiful day today so exercise shouldn’t be a problem.

Gardenerjoy, ouch for those “I don’t care” moments, but good job recognizing that you really do care. Kudos for not eating in a meeting when your planned food wasn’t available. Yay for lunch meetings that are healthy.

Hikegirl, ouch for the compulsive eating, but kudos for posting. Great job standing on the scale after a tough day. I think it is so important for acceptance and getting back on track. When I don’t stand on the scale after a bad day, it’s too easy for me to pretend like it didn’t happen or that it doesn’t matter.

Bennyhannamamma, I’m so impressed that you resisted at the drive-thru during a tough day. I hope you and the daycare get things sorted out soon. That sounds so frustrating to go round and round with them about it. Best of luck!

MerinoGirl, sounds like you dealt well with your DH. You’re right that you don’t need to turn him into a Beckian; he just needs to understand that this is what you are doing. Ouch for passing a gourmet chocolate store every day. I guess you can think of it as practice for that resistance muscle.

BillBE, thank you for the reminder that 100 calories a day=10 lbs a year. I have had a number of small slips here and there and I needed the reminder that they all add up. I’m imagining you lugging home that text book! Credit for giving your brain some extra exercise too.

Lexxiss, sounds like your reflection has resulted in a good plan. It is so great to find something that works and then to stick to it. Kudos for getting back into the routine and facing a tough food situation like a pro!

Beverlyjoy, sending supportive thoughts while you try to figure out your surgery. It is tough to get mentally prepared. It does sound like a very tough recovery, so not something to go into lightly. Wishing you all the best!

Welcome New2me2! Glad you found us. Eating slowly while sitting continues to be a big challenge for me, but it is so important. Kudos for working at it!

Nuxmaga, waving back. Congrats on lower blood pressure! Kudos for walking and tracking and for getting to the bottom of that urge to forage. Such a tough habit to break.

Onebyone, so sorry about Kitty X, but you did make the right decision. It is so hard to let a beloved pet go, but it is the right thing to do. Sending a big hug. I liked the diet plan in the green book. I was surprised at how much they were having me eat and realized that one of my biggest problems with other diet plans is that I was trying to eat too little, couldn’t sustain it and would binge. Hope it works well for you!

Seadwaters, the Happiness and It’s Causes conference sounds so cool. It seems like we focus on anxiety/depression/anger and their causes. It seems so revolutionary to think about what makes happiness work. Ouch for the difficult food situation. Sometimes we just have to do the best we can in an impossible situation. Kudos for getting into an exercise program. You’re persistence through fatigue is inspiring!

Wndranne, ouch for the migraine and ouch for the lack of time and energy, but lots of credit for hanging in there! Yay for “guilt free yumminess!”

05-07-2010, 01:15 PM
Thank you for the warm welcome!

BillBlueEyes - I heard about the Beck Diet Solution through a fitness forum. It was mentioned by more than one poster on a thread. Also mentioned on that thread was this forum as a support network. We aren't allowed to talk diet there, so it's helpful to have someplace to talk about everything. :) I came by a week or so ago and kind of lurked for a few days until I actually received and started reading the book, lol.

Kim - Wow you did a great job with all you had going on! CREDIT big time!

Nuxmaga - congratulations on lowering your BP!

Onebyone - I'm so sorry about your kitty. I've had to make that decision twice, and it's always hard to make.

Hikergirl - congratulations on your 4lb loss!

Beverlyjoy - You are wise to consider all your options and to plan ahead.


Well, today is about preparing my work space and my home and I'm also still working on choosing a diet.

I have a severe intolerance to gluten and dairy (and a few others that are mild), and I have a stomach disorder (just diagnosed in November, and I think caused by major abdominal surgery a year and a half ago) which causes me to limit fiber, fat, some protein and hard to digest foods. That takes out a lot of foods, lol.

The only diet that has ever worked long term for me was a lower carb diet, which is what I think I'm going to try for. I'm having some trouble coming up with variety and making sure my diet is balanced. When I did the low carb diet before I didn't have to limit fat, dairy or gluten.

I can't eat a lot of veggies or fruits and if I do they have to be cooked well without peels. I've been trying to add veggies and fruits to a smoothie (blending is supposed to help), but I felt really sick the few times I tried.

I see my Internist in a week and a half, so I'll bring this up with her and ask to see a nutritionist. My gastro doctor offered back in November, but I didn't think they could tell me anything I didn't already know. :o

As far as preparing home and work...I don't usually keep much in the house or at work. Because of my restrictions, I'm not tempted to eat when I see things left out at work, and I generally don't buy many treats for home, although I do usually buy one thing when I go grocery shopping each week. It's usually a small portion and I eat it that same day, then it's gone. I might have to rethink that, but I have a couple of weeks before I actually start the diet to think it through.

05-07-2010, 10:44 PM
Hi coaches

Credit for weighing myself for my official weigh-in today: 267.8 +1.6 over last week. I did chow down on about 3 sausages before bed, yeah i did that Oh Well, and knew it would up the scale. And it did. Credit for weighing in anyway.

Credit for getting myself over to the farmers' market with my bare bones booth. Credit to my neighbours there for helping me put my lights up which are still not done but credit to them for having all the tools and materials that I, apparently, lack. DH laughed when i told him that my light fixtures screwed to a 1x2 were too rustic(!) for the farmers' market indoor craft building. Coaches, our booths are in former horse stalls, so, how rustic are you when you are downscale from that? really. My neighbours mocked my construction skills and laughed even harder when I offered to make them one and reminded them that I paint paintings and be glad I don't make furniture.

Under the smiles though I felt really fat and really out of shape. I just feel pudgy and like I am oozing out of the borders of my clothes. I don't feel very good about myself. Credit though for instead of feeling defeated this instead has helped renew my promise to myself to get healthy and to get fit. If only I could always remember how awful it feels to feel so flabby and so unfit. It's a real motivator.

I have to get to bed. I really need to get some stuff done tomorrow morning more like tracking down stock for my booth. Yikes. With the month I had I got exactly ONE new thing made for Carp opening. Hopefully my subconscious has it all figured out as I am a tad panicked but nevermind. Time for bed.

Good night.

05-07-2010, 11:17 PM
I ate a lot, but burned a lot too :) I had another good therapy session. I hope to elaborate on all of this soon.

Take care of yourselves!

05-07-2010, 11:19 PM
Hello All,
Well, I tracked food earlier in the day and thought I had a plan for dinner, and got sidetracked with dh when he suggested coffee and splitting dessert. Oh, well. Still, only 200 calories over goal, but frustrating that I am still foraging at work, which gave me very little margin. It was a long slow day at work, which is part of my problem. If I could figure out a way to knit without anyone seeing, that would be ideal!

10,000+ steps, credit. Had delicious broccoli with garlic at the Vietnamese restaurant--no gooey sauce, just garlic and soy sauce, credit. Left some of my rice, credit.

onebyone--I was sad to hear about your Kitty X--but I agree you were in the right place.

new2me2--Welcome! I hope you find a good nutritionist!

Shepherdess--I hear you on the margarita--I had one on Cinco de Mayo, at lunchtime no less. . .But it made me just loopy enough to enjoy my enchiladas and not order anything else.

wndranne--enjoy your pancakes! I am doing a craft show with dh in 2 weeks, the chief lure being all artists get a free pancake breakfast. . .

gardenerjoy--yay for not compensating for there not being a cookie! That's quite a feat, since I am quick to substitute something. I've also noticed a lot of skinny male librarians in my library career. . .

BeverlyJoy--I'm sorry to hear your foot woes are complicated, but credit for making a plan and continuing on.

Bill--Free is one of my worst sabotaging rationales. My therapist offered me chocolates this week, because he didn't want to have to finish them off himself, and I glommed onto free, and ate them. I need to talk to him about his sabotage. . .

Lexxiss--yay for eating moderately at your knitting group!

05-08-2010, 05:06 AM
I still didn't get caught up today and am rushing posting again. I haven't been doing a lot to get credit for - no reading, no cards, no exercise today (incidental or otherwise), no plan, no logging food as I ate it! But food was good - stayed within restrictions. Tried to get the green Beck book today and not available in book stores although local online book stores have it. Will have to order it soon. I want to see what the Beck eating plan looks like. I am still struggling to find a plan I want.

It is great to see more new members - I will try to check in tomorrow morning and catch up!


05-08-2010, 07:43 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Lunch was left over spaghetti with Mariana sauce. CREDIT moi for packing a right-sized serving, instead of all that I could fit into my Pyrex container.

Reading my new $1.99 chemistry textbook is so much fun - much more fun than reading to pass a test. My gratitude to the Russian chemist, Mendeleev, for putting together a Periodic Table of the Elements in 1869 using only his knowledge of how elements reacted with other elements - long before quantum mechanics came along to explain it all. In my next life I'm going to postpone college until retirement when I'm old enough to appreciate it, LOL. And, I found that I can buy this edition on Amazon for $160!!! Does this ever tweak the loves-a-bargain part of me. CREDIT moi for joy.

onebyone - Yay for helpful booth neighbors and Yay for being determined enough to go forward that you accepted their help. And Kudos for rejecting "defeated" instead of motivated.

Anne (wndranne) - Yep, it's ten times harder after the second kid. My take is this is nature's family planing since it's pretty amazing that exhausted couples ever started a third, LOL. I wrote pancakes into my food plan for today, so I'll just drop by - make extra.

Susan (hikergirl) - LOL at 4 pounds in less than 24 hours - expect to read about you on the cover of those supermarket tabloids now.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Yay for happy busy.

Shepherdess - You can't have snow, it's MAY!!! But Kudos for staying on plan when your day goes asunder. And extra Kudos for buying trail maps. Did you get the bulls and hiking boots? (Not one's usual shopping trip, LOL.)

Beverlyjoy - Greatly appreciate your demonstration that, despite "a very trying time," you can make a plan and live one day. Kudos. And continuing to send supportive thoughts as you wrestle the big decisions.

Margaret (Nuxmaga) - Yep, Kudos for good choices at a Vietnamese restaurant - leaving rice even. But whoa ... a therapist dumping his chocolate is so funny; Yep, he needs a little talking to, LOL.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - OK, so in my next life I'll be a male librarian so I'll be skinny, LOL. (And, presumably librarians have plenty of free time to read new chemistry textbooks, LOL.) Yay for a normal snack.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Well, Kudos for staying within restrictions with your food even if winging it. Glad you'll be bringing the Beck green book to Australia.

new2me2 - Good work thinking about your diet carefully. It's boggling to me that there's so much stuff in regular grocery stores now labeled gluten free and dairy free. Perhaps if you bring your diet plan in writing to a nutritionist as the starting point she'll be able to add to what you know instead of just repeating the basics.

Readers - day 26
Common Thinking Errors

There are nine common thinking mistakes people make when dieting:

. . .
Thinking Mistake #9: Exaggerated Thinking
You make a situation seem greater or worse than it really is.


I can't stand this craving.
I have no willpower.
The Beck Diet Solution, pg 196.

05-08-2010, 08:10 AM
Hi coaches, buddies, friends...

Yesterday was a healthy, on plan, day. I am always grateful for that. I pushed through and was 'willing' to use my resistance techniques to get through the day. It's always about willingness for me. I should put that word on a tshirt.

Thanks to everyone for your kind words and support these past two days as I dealt with decisions and physical pain and the stress that comes from both. I haven't made any final desicions. DH and I willl discuss a plan and strategy for what I will do next and when.

Yesterday I got that new salad at Wendy's (the test market salad - chicken, pecan, apple with pomegrante dressing). It's really good. They have a 'mid-size' version that for 340 calories for the whole thing. I emailed Wendy's and encouraged them to keep this on the menu!

So today, I will try and carry on. I have made my plan, have my journal ready to keeping track of my food and Beck 'stuff'

I was cracking up yesterday when I was talking to DS. My just three year old GS said he was thirsty. DS asked him what he wanted to drink and my GS replied, "A frappaccino".

billbe - major credit for taking a 'normal size' portion of the speghetti. It's so easy to go the other way. I LOVE Buying wonderful books and especially used books is one of the best outcomes of the internet.

seadwaters - eating a good amount of food - without all the other 'stuff' is a major credit! Good for you.

nuxmaga - going only 200 over your daily amount is a credit - it's hard at a restuarant. Many good choices during the day. It's hard to be at work with goodies. Since I don't deal with that I don't have any ideas of how to deal with it.

Kim - I am so glad therapy is going well!

onebyone - so sorry about your sweet kitty. I LOVE the sound of your 'bare bones' booth at the market!

shepardess - Ugh! - still snowing in your part of the world. You said -It was late and I was hungry by the time we got home, but I didn’t grab the closest thing I could snack on. I held off and made a healthy, but quick dinner Major Credit!

gardenerjoy - hope your lunch meeting went well! Credit for planning for the cookie - even though there wasn't one after all.

hikergirl - four pounds overnight...soon you'll have an infomercial! LOL We all love weight loss, even when it's water Credit for having your op day.

wndranne - you said. - Note that I'm planning pancakes! I love planning in fun food now and then. Guilt free yumminess! That is the best result of planning - no guilt. I like to plan for pancakes too.

lexxiss - credit for taking your beck stuff and planning ahead for the restuarant day!

nathy - hi...hope things are going well.

merino - you deserve a medal for passing by free truffles. You siad - "They are not on today's plan," and I actually walked right by. I am going to give myself a credit for that. Good thinking!

silverbirch - thanks so much for the hug...felt good.

05-08-2010, 12:04 PM
I took advantage of the nice weather yesterday and went for a run. It was also so nice I was finally able to spend some time in my garden. I finally got my cool-weather seeds in the ground (lettuce, spinach, broccoli, etc.). A week late, but at least they’re in. I had a good food-day as well. As usual, I was struggling with pre-dinner urge to snack, but I distracted myself with my mountain of laundry. If I keep this up, I might actually make some progress on my house.

New2me2, sounds like you have quite a few challenges when choosing a diet. Seeing a nutritionist sounds like a good idea. I think buying a small-portion treat and eating it right away is a great strategy. It keeps a big, tempting bag of something out of the house and out of mind.

Onebyone, kudos for weighing in post-slip-up. It’s so important. Ouch for feeling bad about yourself, but good for you for renewing your commitment to get healthy. Good luck with your farmer’s market.

Bennyhannamamma, waving back! Yay for burning a lot and hopefully the eating a lot was nourishing you for all your hard work.

Nuxmaga, LOL at stealth knitting to avoid foraging on slow days. Have you tried keeping your diet notebook at hand when you’re at work. You could try planning your meals or reviewing your diet when you have the urge to forage. It might be a way to help you re-focus on your plan.

Seadwaters, staying within your restrictions, particularly on a busy day deserves a lot of credit. Good luck finding a plan that is right for you. I liked the plan in the green book, but I still needed to tweak it. I think that’s probably true for any plan. They can offer good guidelines, but you have to individualize it so that it works for you.

BillBE, kudos for recognizing that your pyrex container is not a serving size. LOL at your $158.01 savings on your textbook. Is that so much more satisfying than free food?

And sigh, yes, snow in May. . .We can count on it, but I don’t have to like it. We get 40 degree days in January and snow in May. I need to have a talk with whoever arranges our weather and see if we can get this whole thing straightened out.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for a good day! You are right on about willingness being the key in all of this. That’s such a great way to see it. When I deviate from my plan, it’s not about a situation that’s too challenging, it’s about my unwillingness to face that challenge.

05-08-2010, 12:52 PM
Hi Everyone,
Well, a mini triumph. No compulsive overeating yesterday. I now have more days in May with no compulsive overeating than days with compulsive overeating. I will keep at it.

Shepherdess – wow, it reads like you are making great plans and choices with regards to your food and your exercise. A big credit to you. I just read your second post and wow, you really do have good resistance techniques (doing laundry vs a pre dinner snack).

New2me2 – your dietary restrictions sound like they are a real challenge to work with. I look forward to following your discoveries and successes on this site!

Onebyone – a big credit to you for finding credits where it can be difficult to find them. That is not an easy feat (in my opinion).

Benhama- Hi, back at you!

Nuxmaga – a big credit to you for making it through the restaurant scenario. Big credit.

Seadwaters – Hi, back at you too!

BBE – regarding selecting the right spag portions for a large bowl ---- I had the opposite experience yesterday. I admire your fortitude and aspire to be able to write the same thing you wrote. I will be doing that sometime in the future.

Beverlyjoy – congrats on the OP day and thank you for the heads up about a possible fast food alternative at Wendy’s


May 2nd 160.9, 3rd 159, 4th 158.7, 5th could not do it, 6th 161.6, 7th 157.2, 7th 156.6

Exercise month to date:
220 min

Month to date -Days with out compulsive overeating 4 of 7

05-08-2010, 01:07 PM
Short and late today, but I've already done some exercise and expect some more as well as shopping at two farmers markets and showing off DH's new truck to his friend. The new truck is big enough to haul top soil, so I hope to report lots of progress in my garden in the next year or so.

WI: -0.65kg, Exercise: +0 270/1400 minutes for May, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

05-08-2010, 03:43 PM
Hello all! I've decided to pay myself for all my credits, lol. This approach worked very well for me several years ago, so I'm going to try it again. When I reach a mini goal I'll go buy something for myself.

Today my I bought myself a new exercise tank top. I figured out that if I pay myself $.50 for each credit I have abou $29 now--the exercise top was less than half that so I still have some left, lol.

Credit for buying some minimally processed turkey slices that I can have as quick snacks if I need to. I don't officially "need" to start my diet until next week sometime I think, but I'm trying to get some things in place so I can start with some healthier choices before then. Credit for not buying some of the high carb stuff I had been buying. :)

05-08-2010, 10:15 PM
Hello Everyone!!

silverbirch-waving hello

new2me2- hello and welcome!!! Yay for your list of credits.

MerinoGirl-good for you for sticking to your plan 100%. Gotta love those days.

bennyhannahmama- darn those lice. Such a total pain doing all that cleaning. Glad therapy is going well.

onebyone-sending you a hug. You made the best decision for her-you would never want to put your sweet kitty through unnecessary pain. I had to make that decision with one of my dogs and it is hard.

nathy-waving hello

Lexxiss-good for you for going back to baby steps.

BillBlueEyes- yay for resisting nuts and dried cherries!

Beverlyjoy- I commend you for drawing your line in the sand. Your surgery sounds scary and no wonder you are struggling to decide when to do it.

gardenerjoy-thank you for the thought- "Life is better with that total disinterest and it's easier to achieve when my resistance muscle is strong." I am working to gain that disinterest." Funny you wrote that because I was thinking that maybe one day chips, chocolate, sugar, cheese, etc. would not occupy my thoughts so much. They would not be important or even a consideration.

wndranne-I love going to concerts, it is just so wonderful. Kuddos for doing something nice for yourself.

Shepherdess-snow again for you. Bleech. Yay for eating sanely on a crazy day.

Nuxmaga- you are doing great. Excellent that your blood pressure is down.

seadwaters- the Happiness confrence sounded interesting. Good for you for doing the aqua fitness, especially since it is not easy for you.

hikergirl- nice to have more days without compulsive overeating than with it.

For me, the first half of the week was great but Thursday and Friday were not great at all. Movin' on cause that is the only choice I am going to make.

Credit today for:

weighing in
planning the day and eating on plan and healthy
doing weights
riding exercise bike 40 minutes
planning tomorrow
reading response and advantage cards
checking in with my coaches.

Happy Mother's Day to all you mom's here.


05-08-2010, 11:44 PM
Some good choices and some could have been better. Proud of how I handled the day though.

05-09-2010, 04:57 AM
Hi Coaches
I have to catch up for 2 days and want to do some personals. I will do some tonight and some tomorrow morning. I am trying to develop HABITS - so will try to read postings and do personals in the morning (unlike today) and I have developed my checklist which I want to routinely do at the end of the day to see / show how I have done. Even if I have done none of what I am aiming for I will do the checklist to remind myself about what I am really trying to achieve. Let's see how I go with that!

I am finding the exercise a bit frustrating - never really liked exercise as exercise, even though I have always been active, but know I need it. It is going to be such a long road back and I will get very sick of hearing myself whine about it but bear with me please

BillBlueEyes - A large container is a tempting thing to fill - so credit for the restraint. What a bargain! And you actually enjoy reading it too - a bonus

Kim (BennyHannahMama) - Yay for a good therapy session - so glad you have landed in a good place finding a new therapist. Credit for a good day

new2me2 - your diet restrictions sound challenging - good luck in settling for a diet that suits all your needs. Sounds like you have good strategies to deal with treats and snacking. I like the idea of paying yourself for credits - have to be sure to notice the positive though or it could be a very meagre haul!

Nuxmaga - Well done to be within goal and with dessert as well. Credit for good restaurant choices. Good luck with invisible knitting!

OnebyOne - Ouch for 3 sausages but credit for the attitude. And credit for renewing your promise to yourself and great to see the refreshed motivation. Good luck with your projects

Shepherdess - LOL that a visit to a sporting store counts as exercise. Great effort to have a healthy dinner when rushed and late home - always something I struggle with. It was lovely to be at the conference and listen to people grappling with the positive - I am trying to hold onto the feelings. Credit for using laundry as a distraction - hadn't thought of that on instead of pre-dinner snacking

Hikergirl - It is reassuring to see your weight results and the fact that they go up and down and not always as a result of eating. I need to learn that. Credit for the result on compulsive eating

Credits :flow1:
- Read A&R cards - no
- Planned my day - no
- Made food plan - sort of
- Food on-plan - in-so-far as I sort of had one
- Posted to the list -YES
- Ate mindfully and seated every time - so so
- Put down fork occasionally - yes
- Weighed myself - yes - 220.4
- Drank water - no
- Exercise - 10min
- Resistance techniques - yes - no sweet with coffee and WANTED one
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - sometimes
Working on :woops:

- Developing useful HABITS around exercise and posting


05-09-2010, 05:12 AM
Hello buddies,

today we have the Mother´s day and my husband gave me a small box of milka chocolates.(My DD couldn´t resist and gave me gifts made by her in advance)Because my daughter was there I didn´t say nothing but after she left I asked my husband that is nice of him to remember but I don´t want to eat chocolate and ask him to hide it propearly and eat it with my daughter. Now I am upset about the whole situation, about not beeing polite and about to live under one roof with chocolate. But I gave myself credit.
And my previous days? Thursday I overeated. I try to eat chips (on plan) by moderate way and I know , it´s impossible now. I ´ll not try it for some time than my resistance muscles will be strengthen properly.

Friday - OP, 2 hours gardening, 40 min. stepper and calanetics

Saturday - OP, 1:30 gardening, short family bike trip 17,5 km( DH and DD had an icecream, me water, even if in the shop had a caramel icecream which is my best, I didn´t buy - credit. I could distinguish this thoughts: itś unfair.....but I said:Oh well.
(It´s strange but I speak to myself in english)
In the afternoon I will write personals.
Thanks for listening.

05-09-2010, 06:31 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I have had several successful days using my new Beck tools. On Friday I called Mom and suggested my preparing a meal VS spendy buffet, so Friday was totally OP.*credit* for diversion technique. Saturday was OP, too, although I had to work very hard strengthening my resistance muscle . Events were spontaneous and it wasn't possible to plan the day before. *credit* for healthy choices. Today I'm in charge of lunch but will once again need to make a "on site" choice for breakfast when we take Mom to her breakfast out-a community celebration at the Elks Club.

BillBlueEyes,... Yep, no grazing at Whole Foods. I didn't even notice any samples!?! They must have been there. *credit* for using Distraction Activites at second hand bookstores and being "thrifty", as well.

onebyone,*credit* for wanting to keep your promise to yourself instead of feeling attitude adjustment.

CeeJay, *credit* for recognizing "moving on" as your choice.

seadwaters, staying within your restrictions is a great *credit*. I just ordered a Beck book on e bay. I hope you get yours soon. BTW-I really like the Beck eating plan. I had a hard time finding an exercise program that worked. It has gotten easier for me. *credit* for knowing you need it.

nathy, sorry you are feeling upset about asking your husband to hide the chocolate. Perhaps it is not such a big deal to him. Maybe you can give him a tender hug as a positive reinforcement. I find it takes awhile for family members to change old habits, too. Funny that you speak to yourself in English when you use your Beck tools.

Beverlyjoy, very powerful-"just making it through one day." Tomorrow always comes soon enough. *credit* for being willing to use the resistance techniques.

gardenerjoy, now I know you're a librarian! I love exercise at farmers markets...none here yet, yesterday it was greenhouses and Costco.

wyndranne, I, too, like being able to enjoy a treat, as long as it's planned. Pancakes..yum.. How were they?

hikergirl, *credit* for the days you have stacked up in May.

Shepherdess, we got snow, too. I do hope it's over! Is there a great store in Buffalo? Healthy quick dinners are often a must around here. *credit* for good choices. Pre-dinner snacks are my struggle. I find having dinner earlier helps.

new2me2, my Sis has very similar food issues and intolerances. She had a bit of a learning curve but does quite well now. She has Crohns and clean eating really helps. I laughed, one of you will be rich and the other will be poor. Major *credit* for not buying high carb junk.

Kim, :wave: *credit* for being proud of how you handled your day.

Nuxmaga, knitting at work! lol The Denver Public Library has an in house knitting program which is quite successful. *credit* for recognizing old foraging habits and having a desire to change them.

Have a good day everyone.

05-09-2010, 08:23 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Happy Mother's Day to all of you who were of woman born, and to those of you with kids alike. My plans are uncertain because I volunteered to make dinner appear if the kids would come over - and both agreed - so now I have to get to some place like Whole Foods where I can select dinner. DW will be happy with anything so long as she doesn't have to make it. Going out to dinner around here is early impossible on Mother's Day. The kids will come with me so we'll have a father-kid moment where we surprise mommy with our selection.

Miserable rainy day all day - it rained on a big event at our local water department, forcing everyone inside in what was planned as an outdoor, fun, celebration. The good side was that the guy who tunes bicycles for free was standing around rather bored. In prior years I've been jealous of those who got free bicycle tune-ups but was never willing to wait in the loooooooog line. So I drove home, rode back in the rain on my DS's bike, and got it tuned; CREDIT moi. Then returned, in the rain, on my own elderly-but-in-good-shape Raleigh 10 speed which he was happy to tune also. CREDIT moi for getting two bicycle tune-ups that were both needed. Drank a half glass of off-plan apple cider that was being pressed before my very eyes - Macintosh Apples make some good cider.

Susan (hikergirl) - Kudos for a good eating day, and for being ahead for the month. Yep, stick with your Beck strategies and you'll see those days of right-sized portions accumulate.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Yep, a good day has some good choices and some not so good.

Shepherdess - Yay for seeds in the ground. Our lettuce was in the ground on time a few weeks ago, but stayed there, LOL. We replanted on Friday. It's possible that my estimate of a quarter inch might have been too deep for the little guys. I feel bad thinking about them struggling to the surface and running out of food before their starter leaves can get sun.

Beverlyjoy - Kudos for "willingness" and Yay for Wendy's producing a joyful salad. Also LOL at your GS wanting "A frappaccino" - that's too much.

CeeJay - Yep, "Movin' on" is the way to go. Kudos for 40 minutes or riding your exercise bike.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Congrats for having a DH who buys a new truck to carry your topsoil. How can you have farmer's markets in May? Seems early; I'm jealous.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for "trying to develop HABITS" - when it's not a habit, I'm an expert at thinking of reasons not to do it.

nathy - Ouch for the milk chocolates, but Kudos for handling it so well with your DH. It takes a little time to retrain a DH to bring something on plan, like a basket of oranges or a pair of diamond earrings, LOL.

new2me2 - Neat idea to reward yourself for credits that you control instead of scale readings that your body controls. And extra Kudos for rewarding yourself with exercise clothes.

Readers - day 26
Common Thinking Errors

what are you thinking?

Try not to get self-critical as you identify your errors in thinking. If you do become critical of yourself, create a Response Card.

Sabotaging Thought: I must be stupid for making thinking mistakes.
Helpful Response: There's nothing wrong with me. Everyone has distorted thinking from time to time. It has nothing to do with intelligence. It just means I'm human. The important thing is to learn what to do about my thinking mistakes. I'm taking the first step right now by identifying them.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 197.

05-09-2010, 09:11 AM
Hi folks...coaches....buddies.....becksters...

Happy Mother's day to all the mommy's - of people, pets and women that have certainly nurtured others along the way. I am so grateful that I have my mom and stepmom still alive. Also, that my DIL is such a good mommy.

Yesterday was a healthy day - I am grateful for that - and another day of willingness to try. :)

I stayed home and staying off my foot/ankle has improved that situation a bit. I was suppose to drive 4 hours to spend Mother's Day with my family - however, my foot/ankle is too sore for that. :( DH is there...he had business there and stayed. But - I'll celebrate with my Mom today. I told her I'd make a beautiful salad for our dinner - with chicken and all the trimmings.:)

I am grateful that the pain in my ankle/foot has improved. However, I am beginning to accept that I can't sit in a chair the rest of my life or quite so much. This is be part of the equation of when I do this surgery.

With all this 'sitting around' I've become a music video junkie. We get 8 channels with them in every genre of music. Sometimes I get tired of reading or writing stories - so these videos are like a mini musical. Better than eating peanuts!!

I did my Beck tasks yesterday. I feel like I am back into the swing of things. (knock on wood) I have planned for a healthy day today.

read arc/rc - yes
planned, logged, measured food
eat standing up - tasted when cooking...oops
no seconds - yes
tasted food - alot of the time
slow mindful eating - some of the time
gave credit

fullnes - not so much
no exercise
no beck book

billbe - sounds like you'll have a good mother's day. Even better that you'll have control of the dinner! Enjoy this time with the kids, too. Whole foods has the best ready to eat take out counter that I've ever seen!

lexxiss - major credit for making good choices in a situation where you didn't have a clue what foods would be there. I am glad you've been able to arrange things in favor of your plan as much as you have. It's good to have so many on plan days!

nathy - well done - so many on plan days with exercise is a major credit. It's hard to have chocolates...I am glad you were able to give them to DH and daughter to enjoy the rest.

seadwaters - credit for making a check list - I think it's one of the best Beck tools she suggests. Well done.

kim - glad you posted - and made some good choices you were proud about.

ceejay - so many postive credits...well done. Also - 40 minutes on the exericse bike is awesome!

shepardess - things sound like they are 'calming down' in your world. Gardening is good exercise. Everything sound so good...credits!

new2me2 - clever way to handle the credits. I wish you lots of money in your 'credit account'. I always do something special when I reach each five pound mini goal.

gardenerjoy - glad you could get to two farmers' markets. Freshest veggies are fun. A pick up truck is awesome....enjoy!

hikergirl - you said -No compulsive overeating yesterday. I now have more days in May with no compulsive overeating than days with compulsive overeating.... this is fantastic - major credit and carry on!

Shout out to anyone stopping by.

05-09-2010, 11:54 AM
Yesterday included lots of exercise, both walking and yardwork, and lots of fresh farmers market produce.

Today's challenge is Mother's Day. We offered to take DH's mom out to eat but she didn't seem very excited about that. He kept talking and listening to her and eventually figured out that what she really wanted was for us to stop by the church and pick up BBQ to bring to her house. OK, we can do that. I'm pretty sure they'll have a cole slaw from an old German recipe that has no fat in it, which will be good. Otherwise, as I recall, it will be a big slab of meat and some white bread. But, I'll use that bread to help me with the serving size of the meat -- anything that's too much to fit in a sandwich will be left behind or taken home for a future meal.

WI: -0.95kg (new low), Exercise: +105 375/1400 minutes for May, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

new2me2: great idea to pay yourself for credits! What fun!

CeeJay: good job moving on and getting a great list of credits

bennyhannahmama: terrific to be proud of how you handled your day! I'm loving your one-line posts as a way to keep in touch with us and your goals. Kind of like haiku.

seadwaters: yay for all the things you are working out for yourself, habits and checklists and exercise. Let us know if you want suggestions for exercise ideas. What are your sources of frustration? Are there things you would like to do that are being stopped by something? Maybe we can help you brainstorm a path around the obstacles.

nathy: LOL that you tell yourself the Beck advice in English. Great job with the Mother's Day chocolate. There was no way to handle that situation in a way that made everything feel good. At least, you handled it in a way that didn't include eating it!

Lexxiss: great job rearranging things to suit your program and being flexible enough to make healthy choices on the occasions that you can't make the arrangements.

BillBlueEyes: Our early May farmer's markets usually have asparagus and radishes, but we're having a great spring, so we already have strawberries and lots of greens available. Your Mother's Day plans sound fun -- hope you all have a great day!

Beverlyjoy: good job making Mother's Day work for you even it you've had to go to Plan B. Do you chair dance to the music videos? That can count as exercise -- with enough arm movements above your head, it will even get your heart rate up.

Hello and Happy Mother's Day to everyone else who stops by today!

05-09-2010, 12:26 PM
Good morning all! Well, let’s call yesterday as a learning experience. . . I spent the day cranky and irritated at my DH and anyone else I could think of. Started grazing in the afternoon. I did pull it together by the evening and tried to find a constructive way to deal with my negative emotions, so I am taking credit for that. I told DH that next Saturday, after we have moved the cows we have to move, we’re going to go somewhere else, spend the night and do something Sunday that does not involve cows and sheep. When you live where you work, it can be hard to get a mental break. I’m just tired and a little overwhelmed with everything I need to do and everything I want to do.

Today is looking up. We have to gather and sort the sheep today. Our range lambers are going to start lambing this week—I guess it’s Mother’s day for Sheep as well. But I should have my afternoon free and will try to get a run in.

Hikegirl, kudos for a good day and great job on more days in May without compulsive overeating. You have a great attitude to keep working at it.

Gardenerjoy, kudos for an active day. I am imagining a day with not one, but two farmer’s markets, and in May, no less—the farmer’s markets around here don’t open until mid to late July. How wonderful to have coleslaw from an old German recipe with no fat. Sounds like a great way to celebrate Mother’s Day.

New2me2, it’s always a great idea to reward yourself for all your hard work! Kudos for making some healthy changes before your “official” diet begins. There is often a tendency to have an “on-diet/off-diet” mentality that can be so sabotaging.

CeeJay, good job moving on from two lousy days. Those bad days happen, but getting back on track quickly is the key.

Bennyhannamamma, yay for a day you can be proud of! It’s great that you recognize that a day doesn’t have to be perfect to be good.

Seadwaters, I love those check lists! It’s so easy to forget all of those things I’m sure I’ll never forget. Great job staying committed to exercise. Getting started is difficult, but once you develop the habit, it becomes enjoyable.

Nathy, it’s difficult when well-meaning people give food as gifts. Good luck with working chips into your plan. I have a tough time with chips as well. It’s so tough to quit once I start.

Lexxiss, those spontaneous days are always a struggle. Great job making healthy choices on the fly. Best of luck with more to come!

BillBE, sounds like you have a great Mother’s Day in store for your DW. Ouch for fun outdoor event getting rained out, but yay for getting a bike tune-up without the wait. The apple-cider sounds wonderful. Kudos for keeping it to half a glass.

Beverlyjoy, great job on a healthy day. Yay for being back into the swing of things. Ouch for foot keeping you home from a family celebration, but it’s great that you get to spend mother’s day with your mom.

05-09-2010, 04:40 PM
Thanks to all for your support. Today we had a short bike trip again (15 km-9.3 miles) and after that we 3(DH,DD) were in bed reading our english books. But I took a notebook and was reading your reactions and I couldn´t resist not to show the Bill´s answear to my DH.Me and my DH have very close relatinship and we have the same sense of humor so it was possible. And then I showed him every reactions.He asked me to show him my post about "the gift" . I did and he apprecciated me for my english improvement.We made agreement that he will not give me food. He is clever but can´t imagine what craving is. Whole his childhood was very slim and on our wedding day he was 6´1´´ /135! Now he is still slim but not so much.But I can´t understand when he is eating chocolate , after 2 small pieces he fells too sweet and can´t continue eating. Amd me? After 2 whole chocolate I can continue to eat another one...

New2me2 - welcome! I am glad you posted! The more Beckies the better...
And credit for your money motivation. If it´s works it´s super!

Shepherdess - credit that you could distinguish your negative thoughts and found the solution.

Gardenerjoy - happy dancing to your new low and credit for sooo many movement.

Beverlyjoy - 7 credits for yesterday and the 8th for celebration in a healthy way! I am glad that your ankle has improved.

BillBE - thanks a lot for answering my question "Why are you here?". You did a lot of work and improvement for 4 years. KUDOS for it.
And 2 credits for tuning 2 bikes!
And as the earings. Can you believe me that I told myself 3 weeks ago that after reaching 500 credits I can buy SWAROVSKI earings. Diamonds are too boring for me ...LOL

Lexxiss - I´m thinking of you - you are near your goal. So many credits for your right eating and thinking.

Seadwaters - credit for developing the HABITS, it ´s important.
You has written that you don´t like exercice for exercise. And what about walking with friend(s). You can spend nice time and the time runs off quickly.

KIM - I am really so glad that in the last days you are doing well!

Ceejay - you have written: the first half of the week was great but Thursday and Friday were not great at all.
It means that 3 days OK and 2 days KO. I can see that more times you did GREAT - credit for it!
And thanks for that: I was thinking that maybe one day chips, chocolate, sugar, cheese, etc. would not occupy my thoughts so much. They would not be important or even a consideration.
It ´s my aim as well. I think we are in the RIGHT way. I believe...

Hikegirl -".......a mini triumph. No compulsive overeating yesterday. "
WHAAAT? A mini triumph for so much work??? BIG KUDOS for you!

05-09-2010, 06:19 PM
Happy Mother's Day to all the moms! I'm feeling really crappy today (emotionally). Can't really put my finger on it. I wanted to check in here. Hope everyone is having a good weekend.

05-09-2010, 06:49 PM
Okay, so I didn't do very well with the schedule thing, lol. I am soooo not a scheduler. I may revisit this if I find myself wasting too much time, but generally I make time for stuff like this. What I DID do is make a list (I AM a list maker, lol) of all the things I needed to accomplish today, and *credit* I've finished them all.

I've been using Sundays to cook my lunches and work food for the week for several months now, and it's worked great. But, I'll give myself *credit* for cooking a week's work of chicken and hard boiling some eggs anyway, lol.

Today's chapter was exercise. Fortunately I LIKE exercise. I successfully lost 50 pounds and was quite fit from 2003 to 2006/7 until some physical issues crept up.

In 2006 they found a tumor on the bile/pancreatic duct. It was benign, but the cells looked different so it would need to be checked periodically. Then in 2007 my foot started to hurt really badly. Long story short, that pain in the foot seriously reduced the amount of exercise I could do. In 2008 I finally had surgery to fix my foot, and about 2 months after that major abdominal surgery to remove the tumor which had turned precancerous. The abdominal surgery is what caused the stomach condition I think, or maybe I always had it but that made it worse, I don't know.

Then in November I was diagnosed with the stomach condition AND with arthritis in my neck. Sheesh, right?! LOL!

So, that's where I am today. For the past few months I've been struggling to gain my fitness back and get control of my weight. I need to do more intense exercise, but my body just can't seem to handle it yet. I HAVE been exercising at least 45 minutes to 1.5 hours every day, but haven't seen much change. I mostly do exercise videos at home, and when the weather is nice, walk. I also have a couple of active games for Wii that I love and are fun.

I think in addition to the nutritionist, my doctor will probably also refer me to someone for the arthritis in my neck.

bennyhannahmama: Credit for being proud of yourself for handling your day!

Cheryl: Habits are so hard, lol, but I know from personal experience that once you've got it they can work. I used to HATE exercise, but through habit and finding the right kind, I grew to really like it. I DO think I whined in the beginning, so I will gladly bear yours, lol.

nathy: Wow, I think you were amazing to turn down the chocolate, and I love that your DH laughed about the comments later!

Lexxiss: Wow, major credit for your good choices--buffets are hard, lol.

BillBlueEyes: LOL on selecting dinner! Bet it was a good one. It rained here too! But, major credit for riding in the rain! OMGosh, that apple cider sounds wonderful!

Beverlyjoy: Credit for your healthy day, and trying is always a credit in my opinion! I'm so happy the pain in your foot has improved a bit! Hoping it will improve a lot!

gardenerjoy: OMGosh, I LOVE the idea about sizing the meat to the bread, lol. I can't tell you how many times I've had mega meat on the tiny little gluten free breads they make, lol.

Shepherdess: You are my hero...dealing with negative emotions is hard! I am definitely an emotional eater. Mother's Day for sheep--very cute! :)

05-09-2010, 06:51 PM
Happy Mother's Day to all the moms! I'm feeling really crappy today (emotionally). Can't really put my finger on it. I wanted to check in here. Hope everyone is having a good weekend.

I'm so sorry you're feeling emotionally down! *credit* for checking in anyway!!

05-09-2010, 09:54 PM
Hi Coaches

Checking in this morning to read and post personals. Hope you all had a great Mother's day. A sad time for me still as Mum died a few years ago

BeverlyJoy - A shame you weren't up to joining your family because that foot. But I am glad you can share it with your mum. The planned surgery for your foot sounds complicated - and staying off it for so long will be challenging. But you are off it now it seems. Great list of credits so go you.

BillBlueEyes - Clever ploy to use the weather to get your bikes tuned. Hope you managed to surprise mommy and have healthy fun as well. Sounds like a spontaneous apple cider is the sort of thing that one might and should go off plan for - one can't predict these sorts of opportunities. Mind you I can turn anything into an opportunity.

CeeJay - A good list of credits. Ouch for a difficult Thursday and Friday - and credit for moving on. I would also love to lose interest in foods that didn't nourish and only fed my desire - one day maybe. I have met people who only ate to feed their body and who had no real interest in food - not sure I liked that but it would be an easier place to be

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Hope Mother's day went to plan - credit for diversion techniques and for having a plan.

Gardenerjoy - The new truck sounds cool. Hope Mothers Day went to plan. Congrats on the new low!Credit to you. The source of frustration for the exercise is that it is just so hard (and I am a woos) - with knee and other joints degenerated and an appalling level of fitness because of virtually zero activity for a year. I can't exercise much on land at the moment to get my aerobic fitness up as my joints are so bad but this will improve if I get some strength in supporting muscles i hope! So hence the water activity. Just being impatient I think. At the moment if I do anything vaguely energetic I get really puffed (walking 100 metres) but in the water it is better

Kim - Happy mother's day to YOU! Hope you feel less crappy soon and credit for checking in

Nathy - Congratulations on resisting the caramel ice cream (a favourite of mine too) and credit for making your needs known to your DH - a difficult thing to do. I know what you mean about restrained eating of something that is very desirable - there is no bag of chips I could leave unfinished, no matter the size. Just caught up with your next post and I am glad your DH is able to see the humour and begin to appreciate the differences between you. I can't walk any great distance yet until I get a bit stronger in the legs to protect a pretty gammy knee. But soon. I agree it is a great exercise

new2me2 - Well done with the list - I too am a list maker and need one! You are struggling with a lot of physical issues and I sympathise with trying to get your fitness back - as I say to myself it WILL happen with time. And yes - maybe I will learn to love exercise - anything is possible LOL. But if it becomes a habit that will be good

Shepherdess - I hope you get your break away from the farm as it sounds like you have identified a need. Happy mothers day to northern hemisphere sheep

05-09-2010, 11:35 PM
Hi All,
We went to brunch buffet for my mother-in-law, and I didn't have seconds, yay! I did have a big calorie day, but I tracked it anyway, and oh well. If I had skipped dinner I would've been on target. . .Well, off to bed.

05-10-2010, 05:46 AM
Hi Coaches

My second check-in today as planned - this time to go through my check-list and reflect on the day. Today in the water felt good - I had more stamina and managed to work quite hard which was good. Now I am tired in a good way. I have ordered (from an Australian company - Amazon takes a bit of time) the green book - got it free postage and 20% off ! I do like a bargain.

Credits :flow1:
- Read A&R cards - Once
- Planned my day - Yes - I have ticked everything off my list but the ironing (grrrrr) which I am "saving" for later
- Made food plan - Yes
- Food on-plan - So far
- Posted to the list - Twice
- Ate mindfully and seated every time - think so
- Put down fork occasionally - No - darn
- Weighed myself - yes - 219.4
- Drank water - not enough
- Exercise - YEP - 1 hour in pool
- Resistance techniques - haven't been craving yet
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - sometimes - feeling good with myself so yes

Working on :woops:
- Reading the pink book and HABITS - of mind, of exercise, of the program
- Not playing computer games!


05-10-2010, 07:01 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - It was a stellar Mother's Day since it started with spotting an American Redstart - a warbler that's not frequently seen around here. CREDIT moi for getting out on a cold and windy Sunday morning.

The kids and I did select dinner from Whole Foods. They're a delight to shop with. Both have definitive tastes and strong opinions, but buying a meal is easy since I'm willing to just buy some of each. Yep, we surprised mommy who was delighted to get in another hour of her precious gardening until we got back home and put it all on the table. My eating was good through the meal - one plate, lots of veggies, only half my serving of broiled salmon; CREDIT moi. The surprise in the grilled Caribbean veggies was to bite into mango - double yummy. Then I had the dessert that was so carefully selected for mom even though I usually don't do desserts. So skipped my evening snack as a token offering to the metabolic processes within that don't know about special occasions.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Hope today is bright.

Shepherdess - Yay for figuring out that you're not a cranky person, but just in need of a mental break. How do "range lambers" pull off the kind of care and individual pens that you do in the birthing barn?

Beverlyjoy - Kudos for being realistic about what your foot/ankle needs; Ouch that you missed the family gathering. LOL at "music video junkie" - so much stuff to get into.

Margaret (Nuxmaga) - Yay for no seconds even if calories had their day.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Super Kudos for listening to your DH's mom until you figured out what she wanted. My take is that that's just so difficult when you have a grand event in mind and she wants something so simple and unobvious as a church BBQ take out. Neat idea to limit the huge meat serving.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Sending supportive thoughts in memory of your Mum - can understand that it makes for a difficult Mother's Day.

Gotta laugh though that you put your finger right on the dilemma with "Mind you I can turn anything into an opportunity." Yep, opportunities to eat off-plan abound.

nathy - It's great that you are able to share your post about your DH's gift with him and resolve the notion of giving food. Neat that you're planning on Swarovski crystal earrings; I am a BIG Swarovski fan - of their binoculars that is. Yep, I know about being able to eat two whole chocolates and then continue, LOL.

new2me2 - Kudos for persistence in finding an exercise plan and food plan to fit your own body. List making works for me, too - when I do it, LOL.

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

You now have the list of sabotaging thoughts and thinking mistakes. Today, you'll create additional Response Cards to help you more effectively reply to these thoughts. You'll read these cards at a set time every day, ideally when you read your Advantages Response Card. You'll also pull them out whenever you need them. Over time, as you practice these ideas again and again, you'll begin to automatically respond to your sabotaging thoughts, even without the cards.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-10-2010, 07:57 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

It's a travel day here. I've been packing tomato plants and getting the house organized. This afternoon we'll leave our tidied yard and head home. I'm looking forward to getting back into my post holiday/travel routine. I'm still working on baby steps. One thing I've been noticing is that I'm really starting to be AWARE of my daily habits, both desirable and ones needing improvement. For me, its a very big step. I've read my resistance cards this AM and will get some more Beck reading in before heading to the yard to finish my projects. My diet coach and I are nearing the end of our "first" six weeks and are in communication as to our plan for continuing to work on our Beck learning together.

BillBlueEyes, your father-kid dinner selection sounded yummy. *credit* for extreme biking in the quest for a free tune up! (X2!) I would love to see apple pressing in action!

Kim,*credit* for checking in even though you were feeling emotionally crappy. Your statement, "can't really put my finger on it" is perplexing to me, too. I wonder why one day something seems very second nature and the next day it seems more difficult. *credit* for noticing.

Shepherdess, *credit* for recognizing your emotions and gettin back on track. A mental break sounds like an especially reasonable request. I hope you got your run in.

Beverlyjoy, thanks for recognizing us "pet mommies". They don't cook or clean or bring me flowers, but love me unconditionally. *credit* for feeling "back in the swing of things"...and for another healthy day!

Nuxmaga, *credit* for not having seconds! I think it's great to recognize that a big calorie day is better than skipping dinner.

gardenerjoy, I enjoyed your recollection of BBQ, "a big slab of meat and some white bread." It occured to me that an accurate description of food could be used as a very effective resistance technique. Good that you both cared to find out what Mom really wanted and fullfilled her desire on Mothers Day. :cp: on yet another new low!

seadwaters, *credit* for exercise at the pool and a legitimate dancing carrot! *credit* for planned check-ins, especially during a day with sad feelings missing Mum. :hug:

nathy,*great credit* for sharing your Beck program with DH. How fortunate you are to have such a supportive and understanding spouse. lol for skinny guys who can stop after 2!

new2me2, thanks for taking the time to share with the group the many medical issues that you've been through. It's very heartening to see how hard you are working to regain your fitness and take control of your weight. *credit* for heading in the right direction. I really wish I were a better list maker-I'm working on it.

I'm looking forward to a mindful day...enjoy yours everyone!

05-10-2010, 08:45 AM
Hi Beck folks - Sunday was a healthy day - I am always grateful for that.

My mom ended up not feeling well enough to have our Mother's Day supper. So we will celebrate when she's better. It made me feel sad to not be with any family on Mother's Day - but, then I snapped out of it and felt grateful that I could talk to everyone on the cell phone. This morning my DS posted this on his facebook page: Realizing, and believing that happiness is a conscious decision may be the most liberating discovery of my life. It is so true and a wise lesson from my son.

Today DH is coming home after being gone a week. YAY.

Gardenerjoy suggested I do some 'chair dancing' or above the waste exercises while watching my new love on tv - music videos. (as a sit and rest my ankle/foot) I've doing upper body weights - but, this is a good idea. I did it yesterday afternoon and I had a small cardio moment. CREDIT Thanks to gardenerjoy.

Also - thanks to everyone for your get better wishes and thoughts to my foot/ankle. I surely appreciate it.

planned, logged and measured food - all the time
lots of water
slow mindful eating - most of the time (better than it has been lately!)
feel fullness - sometimes
leave a bite - all the time
read arc/rc - yes
stayed in calorie range
gave myself credit a few times

did not do spontaneous exercise
did not read beck book

lexxiss - sounds like you are moving forward in Beck tasks and awareness. Credit. Yes, it will be nice to be back home in your food comfort zone.

billbe - sounds like a wonderful mother's day! Major credit for skipping your evening snack because you had some dessert. Glad you got to see the redstart!

seadwaters - Hugs to you - it's hard to have Mother's Day without your mom. Major credit for checking here twice and having a 'good kind of tired.'

nuxmaga - credit for no seconds and keeping track of your food even when it's more than you ususally eat - that makes it very real.

kim - glad you checked in....I hope you are feeling better soon.

new2me2 - I am sorry to hear of your many health challenges - that's alot to deal with. Credits for making a list and checking off when you do your tasks. I always find the list very helpful. Planning and cooking ahead is so helpful...good credit.

nathy - it's wonderful that you could share your post here to your DH. And that it helped explain to your husband how being given chocolate is a struggle for you instead of a joy. My DH is similar to yours....he forgets to eat. I can't even imagine.

shepardess - good for you - letting DH know that you need a break. It's not always an easy task to get one's own needs in the forfront and out in the open. I hope you get your break soon. I am glad you could pull is together in the evening...despite the grazing during day. It's like Dr. Beck says - draw that line in the sand.

gardenerjoy - glad you and DH could finally figure what your mil wanted to do on MOther's Day. I hope your bread and slab of meat were tasty and could be figured into a healthy day. Thanks for your idea of chair dancing when I listen to the music.

05-10-2010, 09:18 AM
Good morning:

(A little rant- here it goes):

Today just really needs to be better. Regrouped Saturday, dive bomb on Sunday. Trying to figure out why the rebellion is rising up inside. "I don't care" is just way too prominent. I have 4 days work this week and then am off for Friday and all of next week. Really want to go into this time off strong and already in a healthy mode instead of having to use the time to get back on track. I want to be on track already. I am so sick of doing well for a few days, then not so well. The giant human yo-yo. Means no weight gone.

Trying to think about what Dr. B. says about doing what I need to do, not what I feel like doing....

I wish you all a great Monday and thanks for listening. Will check in tonight and report good news, I hope.


05-10-2010, 10:21 AM
CeeJay I find that when the Beck techniques aren't working well, one reason is that my plan is just not OK with my body. Too many calories restricted, not enough fun food planned in, or inflexible timing. The hunger experiment shows that you can on occasion do these things, but I'm willing to bet after 20 days in a row, it wouldn't work anymore. Eating is such a primal drive and if we get too out of touch with our biology, bad things happen.

Anyway, good run and bike yesterday. I can really tell about the long layoff due to travel and sickness. Spent some time visiting a friend in the hospital yesterday; it was good to see her.



05-10-2010, 10:22 AM
PS, maryblu, the next Michael Scott book _The Necromancer_ is out May 25. Gotta reread the series to get ready!

05-10-2010, 11:55 AM
Had a great day yesterday—all crankiness out of my system. I did switch my afternoon snack to chips, which would probably have set me up for an afternoon of snacking, but I was heading out for my long run. I guess we’ll call it carbo-loading and it did seem to work. I was hitting my paces pretty comfortably. It may also have had something to do with the beautiful weather we were having. It felt really good to do a long run. They’re always intimidating, especially when I haven’t done one for nearly a month. But once I’ve finished one it feels like such an accomplishment.

Nathy, you’re bike trip sounds like a wonderful and healthy way to get some family time. It’s great that your DH is so supportive and that you have such a close relationship that you can share all of this with him.

Bennyhannamamma, sending you a big hug and hope you are feeling better. I had the same feeling the other day and it’s not fun. Hope you sort through it all.

New2me2, ouch for all of your physical ailments. It sounds like you have been through a lot! Kudos for being so committed to exercise with everything you have been dealing with. I understand the scheduling thing. I try to schedule my days, but promptly go off schedule—stuff always comes up.

Seadwaters, sending a hug for a sad mother’s day. Kudos for working hard in the water. You have such a positive attitude! I’d love to hear your thoughts on the Green book vs the Pink book. I’ve been curious to look at the pink book to see if anything sticks that I didn’t notice in the Green book.

Nuxmaga, kudos for skipping seconds. Ouch for the big calorie day, but great job looking it straight in the eye and tracking those calories. Honesty is so important, good or bad!

BillBE, yay for an American Redstart as a reward for getting out in lousy weather. Kudos for a healthy, yet festive mother’s day meal and forgoing a snack to have a small indulgence.

RE range lambers: All of our first-time mothers lamb in the shed and we pick out some veteran lambers to teach the new girls the routine (and they get to enjoy what we call the sheep Bed and Breakfast). Our range lambers are veteran mothers so they know what to do. We would get a better lambing percentage if we shed-lambed all of our ewes and that is one our long-term goals, but right now barn space and labor are our limiting factors. Before DH and I came back to the ranch 4 yrs ago, hadn’t shed lambed in years because they didn’t have anyone with the time or energy to do it. So we are slowly working our way up.

Lexxiss, great job recognizing those habits, both good and bad. That is so important to making changes. Are you putting in tomato plants already? Do you have to cover them at night or is it getting warm enough down there to start them?

Beverlyjoy, kudos for raising such a thoughtful son! And what a tribute on Mother’s day. Sorry you couldn’t spend the day with your own mother, but great job staying positive in the face of disappointment. Yay for your DH coming home!

CeeJay, sending supportive thoughts as you are dealing with a tough time. I feel like I’ve been on the yo-yo recently. I think it may have to do with energy levels. I have high energy levels and go all out for “perfect” days then run out of energy and can’t keep it up. I also liked Nuxmaga’s idea of journaling sabotaging thoughts. I’m working at those right now. Best of luck!

Wndranne, yay for a run and a bike in the same day! I think your observations are spot on. The hunger experiment is great to show us that when we are an hour away from dinner, we can tolerate the hunger, but the long-term effects of hunger can be a serious problem. Thanks for your great observations!

05-10-2010, 12:00 PM
Eating went well yesterday. I couldn't get myself to exercise, so I researched Wii Fit instead! I think I'm going to set that up in my office for a birthday present using money from MIL and expertise from DH. I believe I will play that instead of computer games on low energy days like yesterday. I looked into this at Christmas and thought it was maybe too easy, but the new Wii Fit Plus has more challenges, plus I realized that I mostly need this for those 0 minute days, not the days that I'm willing to walk an hour and do some of my exercise DVDs.

WI: -0.1kg (new low), Exercise: +0 375/1400 minutes for May, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

seadwaters: So glad you got to exercise in the water. I like that, especially for recovery exercising. But I do understand how frustrating it is -- much less convenient than taking a walk or doing a video at home. Great job getting yourself to do it!

BillBlueEyes: your Mother's Day event sounds wonderful -- complete with surprise mango!

Lexxiss: yay for achieving awareness. I think that's really key.

Nuxmaga: glad you were able to exercise restraint at a buffet, that's a difficult skill.

new2me2: I imagine you can make lists work as well as schedules. Cooking on Sunday for the week definitely deserves credit, even if it's a habit (or maybe extra credit because it's a habit!) Thanks for sharing your history. Are you able to do any strength training? I've noticed that making a big difference for me. I have chronic shoulder/neck problems, but mine are in the soft tissue. I was able to do 10 minutes a day with 1-pound weights for the arms day using the video 10-Minute Target Toning for Beginners. After several months, I'm now moving into more Bootcamp style videos and occasionally even using 2-pound weights.

bennyhannahmama: hope you're feeling better today.

nathy: glad you were able to resolve the chocolate dilemma in such a loving and productive way!

Shepherdess: good job finding a way to deal with floating negativity.

Beverlyjoy: so glad the chair dancing produced a good moment for you! And big CREDIT for finding happiness on a Mother's Day that didn't go anywhere near to plan. You are a resilient woman!

CeeJay: reading my advantages cards helps me remember that I do care. If that's not working, it's time for me to add some new ones! And I like what wndranne said as well. Hugs! Hope you are doing better today.

wndranne: yay for good exercise!

05-10-2010, 07:49 PM
Hi Coaches

Taking the opportunity to read and post some personals

Anne (Wndranne) - Yay for good exercise. And sage advice. Now I have to go and see who Michael Scott is - sounds like the sort of series I would enjoy!

BeverlyJoy - Glad your Mother's day was healthy and full of credits even though sad for you. Credit for bringing up such a wise son and keeping him in your life. His sentiments are very in tune with the message from the Happiness and its Causes conference. Enjoy having your husband back home

BillBlueEyes - Mother's day AND an American Redstart - wow. Very cute indeed - had to go and have a look at one in google.Credit for a well planned and retrained meal

CeeJay - I wish you success for today - an on-track day that satisfies your needs. I think Anne's comment is useful - that the food we eat needs to please us as well and that needs to be built into your plan. Hope you had a good day - but you are committed to this and it will click for you

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Congratulations on 6 weeks of Beck and coaching. Sounds like a good start to today. Good luck for your travel day - hope things go smoothly. Thank you for noticing the weight :)

Gardenerjoy - I am very taken with the idea of a Wii Fit but will wait to see how active I get. They look good for yoga etc too. Congrats on a new low and for eating well.

Nuxmaga - Credit for no seconds and still tracking when it was over your plan - I find that one difficult

Shepherdess - Yay for crankiness gone by having a great day and then kicking its butt with a good run. I hate feeling scritchiness descend and know I need to work hard to send it on its way. Your runs sound exhausting - carb loading or not. Thanks for the explanation of who gets to lamb in the b&b and who gets to do it on the range. I like the idea of wise old rams in the role of doula LOL

:wave: Hi to my coaches ChinaMaine, FutureFitChick, Hikergirl, Kim (BennyHannahMama), Maryblu, MerinoGirl, Midlifecrisis57, Nathy, new2me2, OnebyOne, SilverBirch and everyone else I haven't mentioned. Have a good day!

05-10-2010, 09:41 PM
Good evening everyone! Today's chapter was "Set a Realistic Goal". So very important, lol. I ALWAYS focus on the end goal instead of the small ones. So, I'm setting my first goal for 5 pounds. I was 162.8 this morning. I like the idea in the pink book that one of her patient's had of buying a small charm for a bracelet for every 5 pounds. I think I might do that. That way when I wear it, it will be a nice reminder of what I've achieved.

My Credits today:
1. Setting my first goal, lol
2. Reading Advantage cards twice (and also all the post-its I have all over the house with one advantage on each)
3. Resisting the urge to eat because the plumber was coming--I was afraid I'd get hungry while he was here and then wouldn't be able to eat, lol. I resisted. BIG CREDIT, lol.
4. Spontaneous exercise: pacing...and more pacing, waiting for the plumber to get here, lol. In the afternoon, parking farther away from the dentist (okay only half a credit here because I WOULD have parked closer if a spot was available) :o
5. Spending less time on Facebook
6. Spending an hour on a Wii game called Walk it Out before my appointment then coming home and doing 15 minutes of a kickbox workout.

Nuxmaga: Huge credit for not having seconds!!! And, more credit for tracking it! That's something I need to work on...tracking EVERYTHING, even if it's off plan.

seadwaters (Cheryl): I ALWAYS "save" the ironing for later, lol. Yeah, computer games and Facebook are big time wasters for me. :(

BillBlueEyes: Good for you getting out on a not so nice weather day! And, very impressive that you skipped your evening snack! I don't think I'm there yet, lol. (yeah, I don't always follow my list either, but I usually give it a good go.)

Lexxiss: Big credit for recognizing habits, good or bad!

Beverlyjoy: I LOVE your son's post! There is a PBS fitness show called Sit and Be Fit too...all done sitting in a chair I believe. They have DVDs too I think.

CeeJay: Trying to think about what Dr. B. says about doing what I need to do, not what I feel like doing.... Yeah, that's a big problem for me as well!

Shepherdess: Great job on the run!

gardenerjoy: I have Wii, and I use it for a lot of my activity. I have one "game" that I've been using for the last month and a half to get me up and moving everyday. I haven't used Wii Fit for a while, hum, maybe it's time I did. I also just bought Wii Fit Plus, but haven't looked at it yet.

As for the weights, I do do some weights. I saw a physical therapist for 3 years and they gave me some band and weighted exercises to do. Unfortunately they stopped helping, but I continue to do the exercises anyway. I am going to look for the 10 minute Target Toning for Beginners. The muscles on both sides of my neck are always sore and tight, stretching helps that a little. My doc said I have bone spurs, which is probably why everything is so sore.

05-10-2010, 10:33 PM
Still struggling a lot emotionally, but hanging on with food and exercise.

05-11-2010, 07:05 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Yay for leftovers!!! We didn't finish the mound of food from Whole Foods for Mother's Day dinner, so I make my lunch from some and then DW used them for dinner for us both last night; CREDIT moi twice again for eating good salmon and veggies. There's enough for lunch today also. I'm finally getting myself to the notion that a small portion of protein suffices; my old idea was that a meal was a HUGE chuck of meat and some minor side dishes.

Today is the day I uptick the counters in my signature for staying the course another month; CREDIT moi. During maintenance, the adrenalin from watching the scale recede isn't there, so I get my jollies by watching my tickers tick.

Anne (wndranne) - It amazes me how quickly the body can forget previous exercise with a layoff. There must be some ratio like we are set back 3 weeks of exercise for each week of layoff. After one week it probably goes exponential, LOL.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Ouch for struggling; Kudos for hanging on and posting.

Shepherdess - Yay for the long run - particularly since the roads must still be a bit slushy from your recent snow. Thanks for the range lambing explanation; it's neat that the experienced moms show the new girls how to do it. How are all the new lambs doing? After being booted out of the "sheep Bed and Breakfast" do they just grow up on their own?

Beverlyjoy - Yay for "small cardio moment" - neat phrase. And Kudos for raising a DS with perspective.

CeeJay - Yep, the old "I don't care" raises up when we do, in fact, care a great deal. Beck does have a section about responding to that particular Sabotaging Thought. When I've experienced it, it masks out absolutely ALL reasonable thinking - usually about stuff that matters a great deal to me. Good luck pursuing that.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - I love it; researching Wii fit instead of exercising - now that's something I would do. I do recall curled up on my couch reading a book about walking, LOL.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Waving back; hope all is going well.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Neat that you're becoming more "AWARE" of your daily habits. Yep, that's a big step.

new2me2 - Good idea to set small goals with immediate rewards. LOL at the Sabotaging Thought that you'd better eat because you might get hungry while the plumber was there; that's a classic. I'll give you a full Kudos for parking far away from your dentist even though there wasn't a closer spot; your body didn't know that, LOL.

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

How to Make Your Cards

As you look through your notebook and examine your common sabotaging thoughts, reflect on each one by asking yourself, What do I wish I could remember the next time I have this thought? Write down your response using the technique below. Not all questions will apply to every sabotaging thought, but write down responses to the ones that do.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-11-2010, 07:24 AM
Hi Beck folks - Yesterday was a healthy day - I am always grateful for one of those!

Glad DH is home. We've talked about my foot/ankle surgery stuff and I will get more details from the doctors. I also have to address some things that showed up as a result of my yearly physical. I must have a colonoscopy - some questionable symptons. My mom, grandma and grandpa (her parents) all had colon cancer - so, I must be dilgent about this. However - my bloodwork was good! Everything was normal except my triglycerides but, they are down. Still working on them.

I am thinking about a summer surgery instead of fall. I can't spend the rest of my life sitting in a chair - even if it means no foot/ankle pain when I do so. This means not working this summer. I was hoping to be able to get in summer work - doesn't look like this can happen. I am self employed - no work means no pay. This is a hard thing to see - but - ya gotta do what ya gotta do. Thankfully, I have many storyteller friends that can cover for me and I know they will do a good job.

planned, logged, measured food - ate one unplanned caramel
ate slowly - alot of the time
tasted food - alot of the time
no seconds - all the time
eat seated - all but one taste cooking
did strengthening exercises

no beck book
arc/rc - no

AACK -My personals all disappeared - I copied and saved them along the way - but somehow I still lost them - I thank you all for your thoughts, support and comments. I just hate when this happens.

05-11-2010, 07:25 AM
Hi Coaches

Check-list time
Credits :flow1:
- Read A&R cards - Once
- Planned my day - Yes - a morning list, middle day list, and evening list
- Made food plan - Yes
- Food on-plan - Yes - except a sneaky piece of chocolate
- Posted to the list -Yes - twice as planned
- Ate mindfully and seated every time - think so
- Put down fork occasionally - never!
- Weighed myself - yes 200.00!
- Drank water - not enough
- Exercise - not today - work
- Resistance techniques - On the way home (late) - went for petrol (a danger time) and REALLY wanted a bag of chips. Telling myself I was starving (hunger is not an emergency I said). I tried distraction and diversion. Didn't try drinking water. I don't know why I will spend any amount of money on rubbish but refuse to buy water which in Australia we tend to think should be free. Desire resisted fortunately
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
Working on :woops:
Still on Habits

05-11-2010, 09:33 AM
Hi everyone- just a quick check in before work. Thanks for all your helpful comments and support.

I did have an onplan eating day yesterday. Yay. I think I am just tired out, not sleeping enough. lots of stress at work, working late pretty much every night and breaking the cardinal rule of no work on weekends, and lots of stress provided by the sister from ****. Well that sounded pretty dramatic, but I think I did see little horn sprouts on the top of her head. :devil: :D:D:D

So my resolve is to breathe. Simple but it works. Calm down.

I am off to the hotel tonight-and am armed with a eating plan. I did it last week and I intend to do it this time. Check back in tomorrow night.

Hope everyone has a great day!

05-11-2010, 10:53 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

We traveled yesterday and arrived home safely. My disorganization combined with computer woes have me running behind this morning. I hope to get back later with personals. Busy mornings are great moments to recognize that I do have things I need to do for me despite the flashing sign that says hurry up!
So: Before I leave for planned exercise I will:
have breakfast-done
plan for lunch-done
post hellos at 3FC-done
read resistance cards-
preview todays lesson-
email my diet coach-
give myself credit for making dieting and exercise a priority-done!

05-11-2010, 11:19 AM
Ordered Beck diet solution book off ebay today :) will arrive on Monday probably and I'll go from there. Excited :) xx

05-11-2010, 11:22 AM
So, in real life I was completely brainlocked. Not getting anything done. Just totally overwhelmed. So I made a list. A to do list. It worked. I mean, duh.

Putting that in place on the food/exercise thing. Otherwise known as Beck techniques and planning. Duh. I crossed a red line this morning and that is just not acceptable.


05-11-2010, 11:36 AM
Lousy weather completely changed my plans yesterday. ChinaMaine had pointed out I have a pattern of eating badly when bad weather leaves me trapped indoors (thanks ChinaMaine and waving in case you read this). So once I saw that my planned project for the day was going to have to be put on hold, I recognized that I needed to find a way to keep busy. So that worked well. I killed two birds with one stone and got some things done that I have been putting off and I was able to avoid a day of mindless snacking. So I just need to keep this up for a few more days while this storm blows through.

I also did weights yesterday, which I haven’t done in quite some time. I discovered which muscles I used during lambing and which ones I didn’t. I’m still reminded of those underused muscles today, but it’s good to get back to weights.

Gardenerjoy, Wii sounds like it is a great solution to your low-energy days. It doesn’t have to be the perfect workout; just something to get you moving on those days you really don’t feel like it.

New2me2, I agree that those mini-goals are important. Reaching the end goal takes time and your mind needs the reward along the way. The charm is a great way to keep a reminder of all you have accomplished on those days when motivation is flagging.

Bennyhannamamma, great job hanging in there with food and exercise while struggling emotionally and great to see you posting.

BillBE, congrats on another successful month and another month closer to that 5 year mark! Love those leftovers that keep giving. If only I could remember when faced with a mountain of food that if I don’t devour it all in one sitting I can enjoy it for another (or several) more meals. The lambs are doing well. We check on them when we can, but once they are on the range they are on their own.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for another good day. Sending supportive thoughts while you make your decision on when to have your surgery. We were talking to a retired rancher recently. He and DH were comparing knee surgery stories. The rancher said that he had been putting off his knee replacement as long as he could, but after the surgery couldn’t remember why he had put it off so long. I don’t know if that helps, but it just struck me as funny. It reminds me of so many decisions that I wrestle with.

Seadwaters, I am so impressed with your organization: an AM list, a mid-day list and a PM list. Wow, I could use a bit more organization in my life! Great job resisting the urge for chips. Always a weakness of mine. LOL at resisting buying water because it should be free—I feel the same way.

CeeJay, great job on an OP day! Ouch for all the extra work that is leaving you tired and stressed. That is a deadly combination for my diet. ChinaMaine had said that during those time, just keep focused on the basics. I think that is great advice. Don’t try to be perfect when you have so much on your plate. Just keep up those skills that are beginning to become habit.

Lexxiss, great job sticking to your Beck skills while feeling rushed and disorganized—although your disorganized sounds like my most disciplined day, LOL.

05-11-2010, 02:49 PM
Hello Coaches,

OMG! Has it really been 4 days since I logged in?? Hectic days at work, hectic weekend at home with visitors in from out of town. Funny, though, that I mostly managed to stay OP through the weekend and company, but today, not 30 minutes ago, nibbled on some goodies a co-worker brought back from Italy!

I'm not even halfway through catching up on reading, but I do want to give sympathy to onebyone for losing Kitty X. I'm sorry that it was her time but the best thing for her was to be surrounded by love through the end.

I have used being busy in the past as an excuse for not dieting/exercising/taking care of myself, but I'm not going to do that any more. Time to get Beck on track (ha ha).

05-11-2010, 04:55 PM
Hi, everyone.

Welcome to the new people.

I made it through the semester.

A little worse for wear, I'm trying to recover now. I am down a few pounds though.

I've missed you all and look forward to being able to post regularly during the summer.

05-11-2010, 11:23 PM
Good evening everyone!

The weather was fantastic today, so I went out on my lunch break for a 15 minute walk. And, I just finished an hour on my Wii counted somewhere around 8,000 steps I think.

And, most exciting, I was down a pound this morning. I'm not really sure why, but I'll take it, lol.

Something else I did today was practice my hunger thing, lol. That's tomorrow's chapter, but I decided to wait longer each time before I ate so that I could feel the hunger more. I didn't actually skip a meal, but I did wait until I felt hunger to eat each of them.

Today's chapter was knowing the differece between hunger, desire and craving. I'm not sure I got that...I think I get the hunger, but desire and craving kind of blur together for me.

Credits for today:
Reading my Advantages cards x 2
Walk at lunch
Practiced hunger sort of
Got to the stairs and realized I didn't pick up the piece of chocolate I was going to eat on the way home from work, and then did NOT go back and get one, lol

bennyhannahmama: You're doing a great job of staying on track when you're struggling so!

BillBlueEyes: "my old idea was that a meal was a HUGE chuck of meat and some minor side dishes" - yeah, unfortunately I have that idea about a lot of things, lol. Congratulations for another month of maintenance!!!

Beverlyjoy: sounds like you're doing a great job of planning things! Glad your blood work came out well, and hope your colonoscopy shows only good things!

seadwaters: Great job on resisting a known trouble spot! :)

CeeJay: I am a big stress eater...I must remember to breathe!

Hello to Lexxiss, Anne, Shepherdess, MerinoGirl and anyone else I might have missed.

Welcome jynx hope your book comes soon!

05-11-2010, 11:28 PM
Still feeling overwhelmed this morning. Had an appointment with a psychiatrist (first time in about 6+ years) and felt much better afterward. She's going to have me try a mood stabilizer in conjunction with the SSRI (zoloft) that I'm already on. It will probably take about a month to see if it's helping, but I'm hopeful. She also spoke to me about things like cutting out caffeine, etc. to help. I need to go up to bed because I'm feeling hungry and I don't want to eat anymore tonight.

Thanks for the continued support, everyone!

05-12-2010, 05:21 AM
Hi Coaches

Anne (Wndranne) - Aren't lists amazing! I can't believe I didn't even think of using them to organise my day as well given I do it for shopping etc. Hope things get better for you and credit for posting

BeverlyJoy - Hope the decision making process goes smoothly. Sounds like you have strong genetic predispositions that need attention - diet, tests and otherwise. So credit that you are aware and mindful of all this

BillBlueEyes - Congratulations on tickers ticking and being a dab hand with leftovers. I am a butcher's daughter and a meal was MEAT with a few other things so becoming a vegetarian was an interesting change in focus. I still eat way too much protein

CeeJay - I can relate to the family members from **** - they not only know which buttons to push, they created them. So reframing a response can be a tricky exercise! Yay for an on-plan day and recognising that you are not listening to your body. Hope your travel plans go well

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Waving back - Glad you are home and hope your day matches your plans

FutureFitChick - Nice to see you here and I am glad the semester is behind you. Will be nice to see you posting regularly and well done for being a few pounds down given the distractions

Jynz - Welcome! Hope you get the book soon and good luck

Kim (BennyHannahMama) - Hope the change in medication goes well - sounds like you are having a tough time but you are being really proactive and open about it. Sounds like you are on top of things so hope you are OK

MerinoGirl - Glad you are back and credit for staying mostly on plan - hope your life settles down for you

new2me2 - I found it hard to focus on 5 lb but good thing I did because that is all I seem capable of losing! Small goals do add up. Credit for all the exercise. And congratulations on 1 pound down! For me desire is - I just want it - the kid who hates deferring gratification and wants it NOW just because I want it and it is there in front of me. Craving is stronger and very focussed on getting something specific that may not even be present - and I will go through seeking behaviour to find/get it. A very strong "need" as it were. Well done on preparing for the hunger exercise - it is interesting

Shepherdess - Credit for your insight into your weather related eating behaviour and a great plan to overcome it. I am discovering many underused muscles at the moment so can empathise

Check-list time
Credits :flow1:
- Read A&R cards - oops
- Planned my day - Yes - as someone suggested lists make it SOOOO much easier for me - I found the whole schedule thing impossible because my life is run by my diary but if I plan the day around the to do list (and yes, and am, pm and sort of midday breakdown) it all goes smoothly. Astonishing really. And I did EVERYTHING on my list
- Made food plan - Yes
- Food on-plan - Yes
- Posted to the list -Yes - only once - absolutely forgot (hmmm maybe the list needs tweaking)
- Ate mindfully and seated every time - yes
- Put down fork occasionally - no!
- Weighed myself - no!
- Drank water - yes
- Exercise - yes - forced myself to go to the pool. Really didn't want to go so I was really proud of myself and told myself so
- Resistance techniques - yes - didn't eat cake at coffee
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes I did. I found myself telling myself I was a good girl when I was fighting to get dressed after the swim - it can be really difficult to get legs lifted etc etc and I found I was encouraging myself and giving praise. Really weird actually but it worked
Working on :woops:
Still on Habits


05-12-2010, 07:02 AM
:welcome: jynx :welcome:

And, in case you didn't get one of these last month when you joined, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about Beck's books?

And how did you find this thread on 3FC?

05-12-2010, 07:02 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Got a haircut so I'll look presentable this weekend; CREDIT moi since I'm capable of going without a haircut like it was still the 60's, LOL. But I did walk there, so that's a justification for the credit.

Was served more pasta with basil pesto than I needed, but ate it anyway - Ouch. I'm still slow at leaving food on my plate. It would have been easier if it had been something I would put in the fridge for leftovers, but a half serving of pesto would just get tossed. Gotta work on my ability to tolerate tossing food.

Anne (wndranne) - Yay for lists; they work for me when I make them. They don't work for me when I don't make them. With that remarkable insight, you'd think I'd always make them, but, alas, I still don't, Ouch.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Kudos for continuing to post; keep the faith - you'll move through this one day at a time.

Shepherdess - Yay for weights, and Yay for making alternative plans rather than just moping away the day.

Beverlyjoy - Ouch for medical realities. Glad that your DH is home so you have a sounding board to work it all out. Continuing to send supportive thoughts for your decision making process.

FutureFitChick - Congrats for conquering your semester, and Congrats for surviving over-busy with enough on plan to drop a few pounds during the process. Are you doing your independent research now?

CeeJay - Ouch for family's ability to get under our skin. Kudos for heading out with an eating plan - may it work again as it did last time.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Kudos for standing down that bag of chips - sounds like quite a wrestling match that you won. Ouch for "sneaky piece of chocolate" - they are a bit sneaky, LOL.

Kudos for forcing yourself to go for a swim, and BIG Kudos for giving yourself credit after wards - you're doing your Beck stuff. LOL at the daughter of a butcher becoming vegetarian. My guess is that you've had your lifetime need for meat already, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for "making dieting and exercise a priority" - seems to be an important part of success.

MerinoGirl - Ouch for "hectic", and Double Ouch when temptations arrive from Italy which seems like permission to indulge off-plan.

new2me2 - Yep, desire and craving can blur. I experience mostly desire - I see food, I want it. Beck describes cravings as calling for a specific food, as in, I. WANT. CHOCOLATE. NOW. Kudos for all that exercise with your Wii.

jynx - Hope your book arrives promptly. It'll be nice to have additional GB perspective around here. By the by, congratulations for forming a new government. It's always a relief to see a picture in our US newspapers of the new Prime Minister meeting the Queen. Makes me feel that all's right with the world.

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

The Seven Questions Technique

1. What kind of thinking error could I be making? (Review Day 26 on pages 195-198 to help you figure out the answer to this question.)
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-12-2010, 07:26 AM
Billblueeyes: helloo! Thankyou for the warm welcome :). Yes, the election was an epic event over here, lol! Glad Gordon Brown is gone but only the future will tell of our new joint-government will be any good! I actually first heard about Beck right here! I spotte your thread and thought hmm that looks interesting! It caught my eye at first because when I see the name "beck" I always think of CBT which was, ofcourse, her father (I'm a university psychology student btw lol) I know that my issues with food are behavioural rather than knowledge (or lack of) based so this looks like a good option. I've been obsessed with calories since the age of 13 and know what I should be eating so this could be the fundemental change I need :) xx

05-12-2010, 09:54 AM
Coaches, I was stubbornly refusing to buy the BDSL (green book) because I thought the first one was brilliant and plenty good enough. I was also agonizing over which of the two to give my friend who needs the help. Well, problem solved at Barnes and Noble, where the green book was on sale for $5.98 plus another 10% if a member. Well, I couldn't pass on that, now could I?? BillBE, I know you understand!!! And yes, wndranne, I ordered The Necromancer!

Gave the pink book to my friend last night. She has really been struggling. Sometimes I wonder if a diagnosis of binge disorder or some such diagnosis is a help or a hindrance. Just dunno. For her it seems to be a sentence; it seems to be proof that there is no way that it can be any different. I think most of us here would say we have binged...however we define it, that we have eaten way beyond full and didn't stop..I don't know, coaches, but it sure hurts to see someone so limited by excess weight and seemingly unable to gain control. I am not talking just limits, I am talking about suffering and life threatening stuff. It hurts to be so helpless.

On another thread someone pointed out that if we are admitting to a weight gain, then we should update our ticker. Made sense to me, so I did. Credit moi.

05-12-2010, 10:04 AM
I set a goal on St. Patrick's Day, when I weighed 215, to get to 200 as quickly as I could, maybe by my birthday, which is today. I made it to 205 and I'm thrilled. I've never lost ten pounds in eight weeks before! Plus, now 200 actually seems like a doable goal.

We ordered my Wii, but it will be June before all the bits and pieces are here and ready to put together. There's a devilish impulse in me to not exercise until then, LOL. I'm working on how to defeat that little guy.

WI: -0.25kg (new low), Exercise: +30 405/1400 minutes for May, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

seadwaters: good job doing everything on your list -- I love days like that! So glad that you found a way to talk nice to yourself and that it actually elicited the behavior and state of mind you were seeking. That's inspiring!

BillBlueEyes: I can sometimes hear my mother's voice saying "There's not enough to put away" which is what she said while she was trying to get someone to eat the last bit of something. I've put "There's always enough to put away" on my Responses list. Even if it gets thrown away later, at least it didn't go in my stomach!

jynx: welcome! Sounds like you've got a great headstart on following Beck, the younger, for weight loss.

bennyhannahmama: I'm so impressed with your persistence in posting while you go through all this. I hope everything is falling in place for you.

new2me2: I'm so glad you're getting some time in with your Wii -- that's encouraging to me. Congrats on losing your pound!

FutureFitChick: great to see you! I'm so glad you came back to us. Congrats on keeping things together enough to lose a few pounds!

MerinoGirl: Good job on recognizing that busy-ness is not a good enough excuse to not take care of yourself. That was a key for me.

Shepherdess: Way to go defeating your pattern on bad weather days!

wndranne: glad you're finding that lists really work for you

Beverlyjoy: Good job on all the follow up for medical issues and thinking your way through what's going to work best for you with your surgery. You know you have us as a cheering squad no matter what you decide.

CeeJay: yay for an on plan eating day, and for breathing!

Lexxiss: good job getting things back on track the instant you get home from a trip

maryblu: hope your friend finds Beck helpful. I agree that it's sometimes better not to put a label on things, especially if we treat it like it's a permanent part of ourselves, like eye color. Maybe your friend could think of it like a cancer diagnosis, something that you treat using multiple approaches including psychology, diet, and exercise?

Greetings to onebyone, ChinaMaine, hikergirl, nathy, Nuxmaga, and anyone else who wanders by today.

05-12-2010, 10:38 AM
Hi Coaches

I'm almost recovered from last week's events. Physically I am still sore from selling my artwork outside on Sunday in the following weather conditions: strong northerly wind, -7C (windchill) temperatures (we hit a balmy 2C for the day;it had been 25C a few days before :mad:) and snow flurries. I was in full winter gear: big fluffy hat, mitts, snowboots and socks, two layers of pants, 4 layers of shirts, winter coat. Oh yeah. I did profit a bit but boy was that money hard won. Your body just tightens right up when you are outside in that kind fo weather and geez are you achey afterwards.

Coaches, it may come as a surprise to you, but I am not as young as I used to be.

The weather for the opening of the farmers' market the day before was worse! Again cold cold air, downpours all day long of rain, hail, and even some snow flurries. Strong north winds. Luckily at the market I am indoors but as the temperatures dropped all day long it got pretty cold by noon. I had several run-ins with food at the market. I was pretty sad over Kitty X and pretty stressed over just getting one thing made specifically for the market; everything else was old stock (sigh). I went hunting for my market favorites and found them and ate them. I had been moving so poorly the night before when I was there trying to get my booth set up. I have never felt so achey and so unable to do what I had to do. It was very distressing. So on Monday I decided to start using the scarsdale diet plan as my basic "what do I eat today" guide but I am allowing myself to tweak it here and there. I am comfortable with this plan and it will serve me in that it will get me to be on a plan again and I can go from there.

Many and varied credits since Monday including:
following a plan, having breakfast 3 days in row, shopping/planning/cooking in advance, having leftovers that I eat:yay:, weighing myself daily again (today I saw my recent low: 263.2:yes:),
resisting all food at the movie theatre yesterday. That last one felt/feels so good coaches! When the coffee kiosk was closed :mad: and I had no other choice there (I don't drink diet stuff) DH offered to buy me a bottled water as we passed a machine on the upper level where we were to see our movie. $3.50:yikes: He paid it. It was worth it. I'd do it again if I forget to bring something with me or the coffee kiosk is out of order once more. It was so expensive I valued that water like crazy. geez.

I have been having a lot of trouble eating standing up at the stove. Man. I made DH some meals separate from mine and I started eating a mini-meal from the frying pan more than once. I didn't stop when I caught myself either. But, had it been on a plate it would have been 1/5 the portion I would have had had we shared that meal. I think I have eaten at the stove 2 days in a row. This is day 3. No eating standing up so far. I can't recall now if I shoved a small piece of fruit in when I was cutting it up fro my breakfast? Hmmm. I think I didn't but it was close. I'll make that my task for the day: no eating standing up.

I missed checking in coaches! :wave: to everyone.

update: I ate while standing up at the kitchen counter this evening. Mostly I was having "a little taste" of each thing that went into my giant salad. Part of my low resistence was feeling too hungry, feeling blue, and feeling lonely and "out of sorts". I do want to give myself a giant credit for having a giant salad for dinner. I knew I'd eat all of it and I wanted to. It had more protein than I should have had, but today it's okay. The sources were lean and yummy and 1/2 were leftovers. Awesome credit to me for using up the veggies this week that I bought instead of throwing them out cause they went bad. Food is done for the day.

05-12-2010, 11:37 AM
Beautiful mountain bike ride this morning with a friend that is coming back from injury. I had it together with my food intake yesterday too. Love love love feeling like I have my ducks in a row.


05-12-2010, 01:40 PM
Hi beck folks - coaches - buddies -

Yesterday was a healthy day - I am always grateful for that! Today is my weigh day. I gained one pound from last week. Kinda bummed about it. However, last Wednesday and Thursday were crazy days with food ( bad foot/ankle pain those days)- and even though Friday through yesterday were very healthy the scale showed a slight gain. But, I am not worried about it. It should go down next week. As Dr. Beck says - it's just one moment in time.

DH and I have been talking about the foot/ankle surgery alot. I've decided to go ahead and do it this summer. Even though the outcome is uncertain and the recovery is complicated - it's just too stressful having to deal with trying to work and live and not know if/what I can do what I want to do. I am thinking of July. I've gathered a list of other performers to give to the places I have scheduled to work at. That way I won't leave them in a lurch.

DS is best man in a wedding at the end of June. It's a friend I've know for over 20 years. I don't want to miss that wedding. So the surgery will be scheduled after that.

Yesterday was a very hard depressing day for me. But, today I woke up feeling positive about things and ready to move forward. DH is one of the most positive people I know - so, he'll help me along the way as I face all this. I've already heard from family and friends that will come and 'help' if necessary afterwards. I am grateful for that. I know I'll have up and down days as I face this...that's life.

I have some other health things to look into before then, too. I am singing..."The old gray mare just ain't what she used to be" (although I dye any gray!) I don't know if any of you even remember that silly song.

planned food, wrote down, measured, counted caloreis - but, I switched it around alot after dinner
ate seated - most of the time
no seconds - all of the time
did stretches and strengthening
slow eating - some of the time
feel fullness - alot of the time

no beck
didn't read arc/ar

I appreciate all the positive support, thoughts and ideas you have given me. Thank you.

05-12-2010, 05:48 PM
Hello Coaches,

I didn't write down a plan today, but I spent a (very) short amount of time thinking about one. I decided to do a "standard" work day meal plan. That consists of the yogurt and two pieces of fruit I always bring from home, plus a salad from the company cafeteria. Yogurt is breakfast, salad is lunch, and fruit are snacks. Dinner at home is more variable, but I plan to have 4 ounces of the protein du jour (I know it will be chicken tonight) plus veggies.

So, I was running around, going to meetings in different buildings, and stopped off at the coffee shop for my usual afternoon coffee, and I felt like I was just "starving". And I thought, "Oh, I'm out of my food from home, but I'm so tired and stressed, I just need a little something to tide me over." But then, the Dr. Beck in my head said to me, "No, wait. Food is not an emergency. Dinner is a few hours away, and you can wait." So, I got my coffee and left all the cookies and candies and sandwiches, etc. behind.

Then I got back to my desk for the first time in a few hours, and discovered that I had not eaten my second piece of fruit! Instant reward for good behavior - sweet!

Beverlyjoy: Congrats for taking the plunge and making the decision to go ahead and have the foot surgery. That kind of problem is not easy to deal with, and it's great that you are ready to tackle it head-on.

new2me2: Sympathy from a fellow injured Beckian. Mine are chronic, and seem to be multiplying like Shepherdess's lambs, but I am determined to heal up and continue to get healthier and stronger.

BillBE: When you learn the secret of tossing unwanted food, please share it with the rest of us.

Shepherdess: I love your lamb stories. It's probably not very romantic or exciting to you, but to someone who loves the end product (wool) and has not experienced the hard work that it takes to get it, I'm totally fascinated.

Ah, another meeting. More later.

05-12-2010, 06:57 PM
Morning Coaches

Morning check in for personals - I like checking in in the morning as it sets me up well for the day. Coming back at night keeps me accountable. Off to work again today

Anne (Wndranne) - Nice to have one's ducks in a row - enjoy

BeverlyJoy - Those scales seem to have a mind of their own - but they will move as you have been on plan. Glad you are making a plan about your surgery and preparing for resolution - and getting prepared to accept the help you will need. Just think in 6 months ...

BillBlueEyes - Always difficult to leave something of what I like on the plate - very easy if I don't like it. Can feel superior then and believe I am sacrificing it to the trash can and not my body

Gardenerjoy - Congratulations on another new low and reaching 205. And HAPPY BIRTHDAY! I am sure you will beat the exercise demon - and be all ready for the Wii when it comes

Jynx - Great that you are aware of CBT - it will set you up well for the book.

Maryblu - I am looking forward to my green book coming - it might inject some novelty into the process. Hope your friend finds help in the program

MerinoGirl - Credit for resisting all those temptations in the canteen and strengthening that resistance muscle. I have to keep recalling that hunger is not an emergency and if I just wait a minute it will go away

OnebyOne - Nice one to use that resistance muscle at the movies where you have mentioned struggling before. It does seem a lot to pay for water I know - liquid gold! I would appreciate it too. Ouch for eating at the stove - always a hard one - so wishing you success to beat it.

05-12-2010, 11:20 PM
Hello everyone!

Well, today's chapter was Practice Hunger Tolerance. I've decided I'm going to do it on Saturday. I have a women's retreat, and pretty much can't eat there anyway, lol. My friend and I will eat breakfast out before we go. I'll skip lunch, then if they have anything I can eat at dinner, I'll have whatever they have. I am going to take a gluten free nutrition bar with me for dinner just in case they don't have anything. This is what is hard for me...finding portable foods that don't require refrigeration, lol. I could make a little sandwich which would work too I guess. So, it will be a true hunger tolerance day since I usually eat 6 small meals a day (because of my gastroparesis), lol.

Thanks to Maryblu I ordered the green book today from Barnes & Noble! Yay, and there was another book I wanted, so got free shipping! Woo hoo, lol

I was down .2 today (yay for digital scales that weigh in .2 increments, lol).

Credits for today:
setting my hunger tolerance day
reading my cards x2
taking the stairs from the parking garage up to the second floor
walked 15 minutes at lunch
resisted eating candy when I started feeling sorry for myself (it was busy at
work, lol)
resisted getting tea which would have involved honey, lots of honey, lol
doing a DVD workout when I got home--30 minutes walking at about 4 mph.

bennyhannahmama: Hoping the new medication and the diet changes will help!

Cheryl: So "seeking behavior" might go something like this?: tearing apart drawers and moving stuff and generally making a lot of noise until your co-worker asks what the heck you are doing, and you say, looking for a stray M&M and if I find one I'm eating it? :o True story, as sad as it is. That was definitely a craving, and it was bad, lol. She hurled a piece of some chocolate at me, and that took care of it. That was several years ago...apparently my issues with food go way back. :o Good job on getting your list completed!

BillBlueEyes: I'm getting good at tossing food, but not when it's on my plate. :( As long as it doesn't make it to my plate I'm good. :p

I think I have mostly cravings. Seeing food doesn't seem to trigger it. I crave mostly chocolate. Well, that would be about the only one really, lol, the rest are probably desires.

gardenerjoy: Congratulations on your 10 pound loss! That's fantastic! Happy Birthday!

onebyone: wow, that weather sounds miserable. My muscles get all tensed up when I'm too cold for too long! LOL on the spring chicken have company then!

Beverlyjoy: You sound like you have a great support system in place!

MerinoGirl: Wow, fantastic job on talking yourself out of that little something to tide you over, and extra credit that it was fruit you turned to!

My aches and pains seem to be multiplying as well, lol. Good for you in being determined!

05-12-2010, 11:27 PM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

:welcome2: jynx, my Beck book arrived via ebay today:cp: I've been using a library edition.

BillBlueEyes, I, too, need some tickers to tick. I do think there is something very real in the lack of adrenalin when maintaining that truly can be difficult...the words don't come out right but my brain seems to understand.*credit* for finding stimulating opportunities in maintenance.

CeeJay, :wave: see you on the flip flop!

wndranne, I so wish I was a list maker. I have 3 weeks by myself as DH heads North-perhaps I can try....I'm pretty automatic with food/exercise it's just the rest that finally drives me nuts! *credit* for having a red line and noticing!Quack Quack Quack!

Shepherdess, we just had a big hail storm-lightning and all. Wondering what's happening to the N and E...tomatoes will go under visqueen for a week or so, but I would like help with planting before I'm by myself. *credit* for getting things done instead of mindless snacking.

Beverlyjoy, "Realizing, and believing that happiness is a conscious decision may be the most liberating discovery of my life." a true and wise lesson from DS was worthy of a repost! I'm glad to hear you are coming to conclusions regarding your foot/ankle. *credit* for attention and willingness to do what needs to be done.

new2me2,*credit* for skipping on spontaneous exercise in pursuit of chocolate.

Kim, thanks for being here! even when you're overwhelmed. *credit*

seadwaters, I am very impressed! *credit* for super-organized Beck tasks and for dancing carrots! How long have you been a vegetarian? I'm moving in that direction. When I started exercising, I got those sticky stars from grade school and color coded-one for aqua aerobics, one for walking, really helped to look at the stars at the end of the month.

MerinoGirl, *credit* for mostly on plan with a hectic days. Beck on track-you are very coy! I automate breakfast and lunch and like it alot. I tried tweaking lunches last week and went back to the old way.

FutureFitChick, welcome back!

maryblu, I like the green book. I'm actually considering officially calling Dr. Becks food plan my alternate. I think it is very sensible and I'm actually incorporating some ideas even though I follow South Beach. I'm going to see if I can get one online at that price. It is so hard seeing friends who seem unable to gain control. *credit* for sharing the book and caring.

gardenerjoy, ther you are...I've been looking for you! :bday2: *credit on the consistent weight loss. I think Dr Beck is correct in saying you will lose weight if you follow a sensible plan-and there are many.

onebyone, WOW! freezing cold's supposed to be warmer than that! We've had it, too. Congrats! on a recent low!...and credit for healthy choices at the movies! BTW-I just read your update..I was in the same place-hungry, making salad, wanting to munch....I sliced 1/2 tomato and sat down and ate it, then resumed dinner preparation. It seemed to work well.

Me: Long, busy day, and I need to move on. It took me a long time to read and digest tonight, but I learn ALOT when I read everyone's posts! If I missed anyone, it wasn't intentional.
Today,*credit* for mostly OP, and *credit* for getting right back on track! Read my resistance cards before leaving this AM, bagged my bike ride to the pool, and then CHOSE to get on the stationary bike and ride my 2.83 miles anyway. *credit* .I'll read from my book before bed. I see progress!


05-13-2010, 07:09 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Getting ready to travel out of town for the weekend. I have to look nice one day so I have to find real clothes. I hate packing and planning. CREDIT moi for just thinking about it, since I've been known to start the process on the morning of.

Food was good for the day. I left one tiny toasted slice of a baguette that we were using as dips for our bean soup for dinner; tiny CREDIT moi - but it's a start. Ouch that eating the baguette as tiny toasts was only because it was leftover from Sunday and growing harder by the day. When I'm emerged, I'll toss the baguette immediately after it's served its purpose and not try to incorporate it into my food plan for a week.

maryblu - Yay for books on sale - a clear sign from the gods that we're meant to buy them. Unfortunately, I used that same interpretation of the heavens to justify mounds of after-Easter candy on sale, LOL. Kudos for facing your gain so you can address it. And good luck supporting your friend; I hope she's one of the ones who can make the transition.

onebyone - Yep, Kudos for the big salad and for using all your veggies for the week - that's quite a transformation for you from when you started. Ouch for the pain from the weekend of selling your art. Glad that at least it was profitable. Both Ouch and Kudos for the pricey water at the movies.

Anne (wndranne) - Yay for ducks in a row, Mack, Nack, Quack and all the rest, whose names I could once spit out. I just reread your review of Refuse to Regain and your dialog with the author, Barbara Berkeley - that was good stuff, thanks for doing that. So nice to be reminded that there's a book out there for maintaining.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Thanks for the Response Card "There's always enough to put away" - apparently our mothers went to the same demonic school for surviving the oncoming famine. Congrats on your great scale achievement. Have you chosen a reward?

Beverlyjoy - Yay for feeling "ready to move forward." Kudos for sounding like you've reached a decision about your surgery and are making your plans.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Kudos for that nice demonstration of executing the lists.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Kudos for getting on your stationary bike. Good luck keeping your tomatoes warm.

MerinoGirl - Kudos for the Food is not an Emergency behavior with a juicy instant-reward at the end. Yep, when I get there I'll write the book, Tossing Food for Dummies, LOL.

new2me2 - Yep, chocolate cravings seem to top the list; it probably needs its own word. Your story of chasing after an M&M is priceless; that needs to be published in some book about sane eating to remind us all what the challenge is. Good luck with your hunger experiment on Saturday.

jynx - So great that you're already familiar with Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) via Dr. Judith Beck's father, Aaron T. Beck; that's a head start. In her second book, she uses CT instead of CBT. Do you have a clue why the change?

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

The Seven Questions Technique

. . .
2. What evidence is there that this thought might not be true (or not completely true)?
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-13-2010, 07:43 AM
Hi Coaches

Check-list time
Credits :flow1:
- Read A&R cards - once
- Planned my day - Yes -missed some work I wanted to do because a few urgent things cropped up
- Made food plan - Yes
- Food on-plan - Almost - small off plan blip tonight
- Posted to the list -Yes twice as planned
- Ate mindfully and seated every time - found myself eating at the sink - and not something good
- Put down fork occasionally - nope
- Weighed myself - yes - 219.00
- Drank water - yes
- Exercise - not today
- Resistance techniques - yes
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
Working on :woops:
Still on Habits and planning

night coaches

05-13-2010, 08:08 AM
Hi beck folks, coaches, buddies - hope you all doing well! Yesterday was a healthy day - I never ever take a good day for granted - I am grateful for all the good days. I got my stretches in and strengthening exercises, upper body weights and even a cardio moment. Last night I did NOT overeat - this is a major accomplishment/CREDIT for me because yesterday morning was my weigh day.

Gotta get the house picked up for the cleaning folks...a Mother's Day gift from DH! I think Mom is feeling better - I hope we can have that Mother's Day dinner.

Phone calls for work. I've started to let my summer jobs know I won't be there. I've offered them a list with other performers. It's a relief and a sadness at the same time.

Thanks to everyone for your support and understanding and caring ways.

yesterday -
eat seated only - all but one moment
plan, measure, log, write down, food - yes - but, changed my evening snack
no seconds - all of the time
fork down between bites - some of the time
leave a bite - all of the time
slow, mindful eating - sometimes
TASTE the food - enjoy! - alot of the time
feel fullness - yes
stretches and strengthening - yes
lots of water - yes
remind myself that food doesn't cure pain or stress - yes
used my resistance techniques - a few times
gave myself credt - a few times

no spontaneous exercise
no beck book
did not read arc/rc

Seadwaters - good for you…checking in morning and evening! You have many credits…that’s wonderful.

Billbe - I think that throwing out food instead of saving it because you think you’ll eat it later is a hard task and hard to learn to do on a consistent basis. Good for you - starting to plan for packing ahead of time!

Lexxiss - glad you own book arrived via amazon! You’ve got a lot of great exercise in and are making great strides - credit!

New2me2 - glad you’ve figured out a strategy for the hunger experiment. I am glad you book arrived. You said - resisted eating candy when I started feeling sorry for myself - that is a major credit!! Carry on.

Merino - major credit for not getting food at the coffee shop and using the words of Dr. Beck to help you resist!!!! Glad you ended up having your usual fruit available.

Wndranne - glad you could get your bike ride in!

Onebyone - sorry about the cold weather at the market…makes it hard. Sometimes when I want to taste at the stove, I make myself put that taste on a plate and actually sit at the table. It helps me to ‘think’ about the action itself.

gardener joy - major credit for your weight loss. Happy Birthday! It will good when your wii arrives. I am getting close to onederland too- I know what you mean. So close - but, yet so far….but, doable!

Maryblu - such a great price on the book! I don’t have the green book - just the first two.

Shepardess - credit for realizing how important keeping busy is for yourself - those aha moments are important. I’ll remember what your rancher friend said about his knee replacement. Good reminder. Thanks

Kim - so glad the trip to the doctor was helpful!

Jinx - Welcome….. So glad you posted.

Futurefitchick - credit for that weight coming off! I hope you’ll be able to post more often soon.

05-13-2010, 09:44 AM
I made it through two snow days here and it stopped falling sometime overnight. Now I just have to wait out the muddy mess while it melts off, but the end is in sight. We were all getting cabin fever yesterday, but I did make it through without mindless snacking and managed to stay on plan. That feels good. Yesterday was tough because our phone and internet were out, which drastically cut the work I could get done. I’m taking a page out of Beverlyjoy’s book and saying, “I’m grateful for being willing to try.” Exercise was jumping rope and yoga and I am looking forward to getting back outdoors to go for a run.

Welcome Jynx! Glad you’re here. I think you’ll find your psychology studies will serve you well.

Wndranne, sorry I missed your post yesterday. It is so hard to take time to do the planning. It always feels like it’s taking time away from actually doing the stuff. But you are right that it is necessary and will save a lot of time and energy in the long run. Kudos for recognizing what needed to be done and doing it. Yay for having all your ducks in a row!

MerinoGirl, great job getting through a hectic weekend on track. Oh well about the goodies from Italy. I don’t think I could resist exotic treats. Good job getting “Beck on track,” LOL. Great job remembering that “hunger is not an emergency.” That’s always a tough one for me.

FutureFitChick, great to see you again! I’ve missed you. Glad you made it through the semester in one piece and I look forward to seeing you regularly around here again.

New2me2, congrats on being down a lb and sometimes it’s better to take the positive weigh-in and not ask questions, LOL. Kudos for all the exercise—glad it is spring somewhere! Sounds like you have a good plan for practicing hunger tolerance, but ouch for the difficulty of finding foods you can have on the go.

Bennyhannamamma, hugs while you’re feeling overwhelmed. Glad you are looking for constructive solutions, though if anyone told me to cut out caffeine, I would be out the door faster than you can say, “latte.”

Seadwaters, kudos for making a list and doing everything on it! I’m so impressed. Great job getting to the pool even when you didn’t feel like it and for giving yourself the credit you deserve.

BillBE, yay for using a haircut as an excuse to get some exercise. Just for the record, I’m a fan of men with shaggy hair. Great job taking small steps to start throwing food away. That’s a tough one for me as well.

Maryblu, glad you found such a good deal on the green book and were able to pass on your other book to a friend. I have a family member in a similar situation. I have mentioned Beck to her, but need to give her a bigger nudge. I hope the book works well for your friend.

Gardenerjoy, congrats on reaching 205! And the important thing is that you have done it sensibly and it is something lasting.

Onebyone, I would have a hard time resisting food if I had spent two days out in nasty weather. Ouch for feeling achy and looking forward to more nasty weather at the next show. But it sounds like you have a good plan in place and lots of healthy food in the fridge.

Beverlyjoy, great job putting a disappointing weigh-in in perspective. Having such a great attitude probably helped you avoid the post-weigh-in eating. Glad you are feeling better now that you have made a decision about your surgery and are doing the necessary preparation for it.

Lexxiss, great job staying OP during a long busy day, and for getting back on the horse after minor spills. Kudos for not skipping your bike ride altogether.

05-13-2010, 10:50 AM
It feels really good to get caught up and read everyone's posts. Still having ups and downs emotionally, but that is to be expected and I know I can ride it out.

Got back to writing down what I have eaten, so that will be a + for me.

Take care!

05-13-2010, 11:49 AM
BillBlueEyes: I have no idea why she would change to CT without reading it :) I'm only in my first year and haven't delved too deeply yet, however I will keep my eyes peeled for reasons she may have done that! Perhaps it's something to do with the fact that she may have wanted to focus more on the thoughts instead of the behaviours? Since I guess binge eating and over eating in general tend to have obsessive thoughts behind them. That could be it but I can't pretend to know for sure :) xx

05-13-2010, 12:02 PM
This is a crazy thread :)

Anyway, I had picked up the second Beck book a while ago in a thrift store and had looked through it and halfheartedly started the program. I didn't follow through though.

I decided though I really need to jump into the program and I bought the original book and I'm starting it. This is something I really need because I know what to eat but I just eat go back and forth between binging and having 'good days'. I've been having less and less good days lately though.

05-13-2010, 12:18 PM
I allowed a few birthday indulgences, but was careful to keep it to non-triggering foods and non-triggering situations. I'm glad I could do that. But, I think once a year is enough! I don't think I'm a good candidate for a cheat day a week. I need more control than that.

WI: +0.1kg, Exercise: +30 435/1400 minutes for May, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

onebyone: yay for jumping back in -- love your jumping guy for leftovers that you actually eat!

wndranne: good job herding your ducks!

MerinoGirl: love your story with the instant reward of forgotten fruit!

new2me2: great plan for Practicing Hunger

Lexxiss: yay for seeing progress!

BillBlueEyes: LOL about the school for surviving the famine. My reward for 205 is a massage, which I need to schedule now. My reward for 200 is a trip to a health spa! Both reward and, I hope, a way to blast through what has been a troublesome number for me in the past.

seadwaters: lots of credits and lots of awareness in your list -- good job!

Beverlyjoy: sounds like your in a good place for getting things in place for your summer. Glad that it comes with a sense of relief. Yay for not overeating on weigh-in day!

Shepherdess: glad your seeing light at the end of your bad weather and that things went reasonably well for you.

FutureFitChick: good job getting caught up and riding things out emotionally

Glad to hear from jynx and nelie this morning.

05-13-2010, 07:42 PM
Evening Coaches

I woke up early this morning thinking I was going to make it to the school and to the ceramic room, but I didn't. And I feel bad about that. And I feel blue on top of that. It was exactly a week ago I had to put Kitty X to sleep. I'm sad about that today and missing her purrs.
I think today may be the first complete day I have been still enough to feel it for most of the day. I just miss her.

And I feel completely stressed about getting stuff made for my market booth. April was such a write off I got nothing made for the farmers' market and now it's already week 2 on Saturday. I'm sitting here with 7 unfinished paintings and 20 unfinished mirrors, all of which need to be finished by Saturday 6am when I get ready to head to the market. Since I skipped the school today I have to spend most of the day there tomorrow, (if I want any kind of a paycheck next week that is), and that leaves most of the finishing work to be done tonight. I guess I'd better get to it. All I want to do is go to bed.

Foodwise I've had trouble once again eating over the crockpot this time and then over the sink as I carried "tastes" over to the sink on my fork. Wow. what's with this behaviour all of a sudden? There is a table and chairs in the kitchen, mere feet away from the stove and the counter and the crockpot but it's FILLED with everything that has nothing to do with a kitchen: papers, books, art stuff. And there are boxes piled high, waiting for me to go through them. I can't believe living like this is okay with me. I have never had a really clutter free home. I am used to the obstacle course and I seem to want to see every little bit of everything I own at all times. Today is not the day to deal with this but maybe, just maybe, it's getting more important for me to get rid of stuff so I can have a more comfortable living space. DH would like that as would my cat Caesar. I'll bet the fish and the plants would be happier as well.

Other than the taste tests credit for:
not having seconds
eating vegetables
having three meals a day loosely guided by the scarsdale food plan
weighing in this morning (263.2)
planning ahead and creating: leftovers for tomorrow.
getting spontaneous exercise this morning by walking to the mall and back

Bye for now coaches. I need to paint before the sunlight is gone.

05-13-2010, 10:43 PM
Today’s chapter was…oh, heck, what was today’s chapter, lol I didn’t finish reading it this morning, but will finish it when I'm done here. OMGosh, I just looked it up…Overcoming Cravings, lol. I must have a mental block on this one! :o I think when I read it later I’ll start from the beginning of the chapter again, lol.

Credits for today:
Reading: my cards x2, Beck
Spontaneous exercise: stairs at work
Planned exercise: Wii Walk it Out for 1 hour
Eating: mostly on plan...had some tea with a little honey, but I'm still within my calorie allotment for today.
Probably lots of others but I need to figure out a way to write them all down quickly when it happens or I forget.

Lexxiss: Great job on getting on that stationary bike!

BillBlueEyesDiet: Well, at least you’re planning for future bread issues, lol! I’d say that’s a credit.

Beverlyjoy: Yay, big credit for not over-eating!

Shepherdess: I can’t believe the weather you’re having!! Wow! Yeah, it’s Spring here, but it’s just as likely to pour rain tomorrow, lol. We’ve been having crazy weather here lately. You being willing to try is a huge credit in my book.

FutureFitChick: I find writing stuff down really helps me too!

nelie: I’ve been in the same place…I know what to eat, but I definitely have issues with doing it.

gardenerjoy: I agree, I don’t think I could do a cheat day every week. Maybe once I have finished the Beck books and theoretically my thinking is changed, I might be able to handle it, lol.

onebyone: I've never had a clutter free home either, but like you, lately I've been getting rid of stuff. My home is still cluttered, but slowly but surely I'm letting go of stuff.

05-14-2010, 12:55 AM
Afternoon Coaches

I am getting myself psyched to go to the pool again - chilly with brisk wind and soooo much warmer at home. Oops - I am back as I had to suddenly get moving and get out of the house so I have done my water exercise

BeverlyJoy - Well done on restraint on a weigh-in day! I too have trouble on that day. Credit for clearing the path for your surgery

BillBlueEyes - Hope your weekend trip goes well and that you are spick and span. Sounds like you are getting it together regardless of hating the whole packing thing so credit. Good luck on emerging - is that like evolving

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Glad your book arrived - still waiting for mine. It's nice when you see yourself progressing isn't it - so well done. I was a vegetarian for 15 years - which given I love meat was interesting. I started eating meat again about a year ago because of health issues but I am debating not eating it again. I prefer to eat vegetarian but it can make low carb a bit difficult

FutureFitChick - Credit for writing it all down - I struggle with that. Sending thoughts your way for your ups and downs - stay well

Gardenerjoy - Well done for your birthday - so well thought through. Shows great insight into yourself to understand your triggers - I am still learning that.

new2me2 - Yep - I think you have nailed seeking behaviour and craving. Hope your hunger tolerance goes well. Great list of credits and plans for today

OnebyOne - Hope you get some space back. A great list of credits and I hope you got some of your work done

Shepherdess - Sounds like staying on plan was a major achievement given the snow. Life without phone or internet! Not sure what that would be like without snacking mindlessly so bravo you. Credit for finding exercise that fitted the circumstances

Now for a well earned late lunch


05-14-2010, 06:26 AM
:welcome: nelie :welcome:

And, <keeping a straight face> just in case you didn't get one of these 12,384 posts ago, :wel3fc:

05-14-2010, 06:27 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - I packed my lunch with mostly left over veggies - CREDIT moi - but the protein was two small, shriveled buffalo wings from Sunday - plausible a credit for being only two, but wings aren't calorie friendly. But for dinner, I bought home one order from my new favorite take out place and split it with DW; CREDIT moi. We're cleaning out the fridge even though we'll only be gone for three days.

By the by, I plan to have a laptop with me and internet access, but if I'm AWOL for the weekend, just know I'm walking a beach in southern Florida gawking at the local shore birds and whatever else habits Florida beaches. Eating is going to be a challenge since there'll be lots of extended-family time centered around celebration foods. I'm prepared for all sit down events, it's the walking appetizers that have me worried.

onebyone - Sending cyber hugs as your process your warm memories of Kitty X. Yay for "walking to the mall and back" to get the productive juices going for your painting.

Shepherdess - Without internet or phone, you really are Little House on the Praire, LOL. Time to make your own soap out of beef fat and ash. Ouch for cabin fever - hope your weather breaks.

FutureFitChick - Clear thought, "I know I can ride it out" - good reminder that that applies to a lot of situations.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Happy Birthday!!!! May you have 39 happy more and then 39 after that. Terrific idea to keep your indulgences in the non-triggering category. That spa trip sounds like a motivating reward.

Beverlyjoy - Yep, Honking Kudos all right for breaking that cycle of over-eating after weigh in. Ouch for having to pick up the house for the cleaning folks - I get told to pick up all my stuff on the night before the cleaners arrive, and I hate it. In my next life there will be house cleaners who pick up as their first step.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Kudos for planning to post twice to keep yourself accountable, and then doing it. And Kudos for going to the pool for your water exercise even though home was "soooo much warmer." Yep, emerged is like evolving; in my parlance it's the place I never reach, but am striving for.

new2me2 - LOL at having a mental block about Overcoming Cravings. Did you know that overweight people have 37 words for chocolate? <I read that on the internet.>

jynx - Alas, yes, you have to read the book before explaining it, LOL, and it has to arrive first. Are you just about coming to the end of a semester?

nelie - Kudos for starting up on The Beck Diet Solution - here's hoping that you find it helpful. The first sections of that book are some of the best read on sane eating that I've ever seen. There's extra points around here for buying books at thrift stores and on sale, so you're already at the head of the pack, LOL.

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

The Seven Questions Technique

. . .
3. Is there an alternative explanation or another way of viewing this?
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-14-2010, 07:37 AM
Hi Beck coaches/buddies - Yesterday was a healthy food day - I am always grateful for that. I stayed right with my plan all day - no changes (amazing) Credit. I had someone over working on an outdoor project yesterday. So - I didn’t eat dinner until 7:30 pm. This is where the hunger experiment comes in handy. It was a late dinner and I wasn’t “in a panic” about it. Credit.

Today I have to call more places I was to work this summer. This is one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do - to say I can’t come to their program. I am feeling so sad about it. I have to do what I have to do.

DH wants to go out to dinner tonight. It sounds like fun. Then it really hit me - I don’t have an income now. Ouch. Time to revamp the budget. Of course, I knew this - but, now it’s something I/we will have to consider in what we do. Realities of life are hard sometimes. Hmmm. We will work it out…we always do.


slow, mindful eating - some of the time
feel the food and fullness down in my tummy - some of the time
no seconds - all of the time
eat seated only - all by one time
fork down between bites - a lot of the time
lots of water - yes
plan, log, measure food - all of the time
leave a bite - most of the time
gave credit - yes
Read arc/rc

No beck book
No exercise/spon. exercise

Billbe - have a nice trip with family and seeing some different birdies. Sounds like you have a strategy for facing all the food. Dr. Beck says it’s good to face those situations knowing what you will do. Of course, it’s hard when you don’t know what food will be available. Do the best you can. Your “two shriveled chicken wings” - lol - I hope you enjoyed them even though they were shriveled.

Shepardess - yikes - snow again!? Good for you getting through the cabin fever, snow, internet problems, cabin fever, etc. Credit! I agree - it’s always good to be grateful for getting through those hard times and being willing to try. Credit for your exercising too.

Seadwaters - I am so glad you could get your swim in. That always makes you feel good! It’s fun exercise.

Futurefitchick - so glad you posted. Credit for writing down your food.

Nelie - WELCOME!! - so glad got the Beck book. It is a very helpful and useful way to learn to ‘live’ with food.

gardener joy - you said - but was careful to keep it to non-triggering foods and non-triggering situations. This is a huge credit! I am glad you could enjoy your birthday!

New2me2 - many good credits! I find the cravings chapter very powerful - I aim to write down some of those bullet points in my journal every day to remind myself of how to deal with cravings and desires. You are moving along well.

Onebyone - :hug: hugs to you and your lingering sad heart with the passing of Kitty x. I still really miss my Bandit kitty who passed away last Thanksgiving. Lately, when I want to taste something cooking…I make myself take a taste from a plate sitting at the kitchen table. At least it makes me think about those tastes…and helps to keep them at a minimum.

Shout out to everyone that stops by..TGIF!!!

05-14-2010, 08:35 AM
:eek: Coaches!

I just :goodscale: stepped on the scale for my official weigh-in and I saw
261.8 (-6!). :crazy:

25lbs off.

Amazing what eating your vegetables will do for you. Wow.

Have to run but wanted to report my good news.

TGIF & have a good day.

I will persist in victory

05-14-2010, 09:47 AM
Oh, onebyone, great work! 25#s is a lot not to have to carry around. :hug::hug:

05-14-2010, 10:02 AM
Well, the sun was out yesterday. I tried to get out to do some yard work, but way too muddy for that. So it was more indoors activities. This is actually a good thing because I’ve been able to get some work done that I had to put on hold during lambing and I was afraid I would have to put on hold during May, but I just wanted to get out of the house. Yesterday was the hardest day yet. I was just feeling lazy and wanting to snack or whatever, but I did resist all day. Then I was waiting for DH to get home, I didn’t know how long he was going to be or any of that. Finally caved to crackers. I guess it was just one thing too many. Oh well. . .

I was having a tough time getting motivated for exercise. It’s funny how a day of inactivity can be so exhausting. I just couldn’t bring myself to jump rope another day, but I did finally do some weights, so credit for that.

All the weekend weather has changed our weekend plans, so we’ve got some planning to do. We may or may not be getting away. Gotta go figure it all out.

FutureFitChick, ouch for the emotional ups and downs. You’re still recovering from a stressful semester. Kudos for getting back into writing everything down. I think that is one of the most important habits to establish.

Jynx, waving back. Thanks for taking a stab at CBT vs CT. You gave me something to ponder.

Welcome Nelie! Glad you joined our crazy thread here! Beck is great for helping us when we know what we should be doing, but just aren’t doing it. She helps us identify those sabotaging thoughts that keep us from doing what we know we should be doing.

Gardenerjoy, enjoy your well-earned massage and look forward to the spa day coming soon. . . I’m so impressed with your well-controlled indulgences.

Onebyone, hugs as you continue to mourn the loss of Kitty X. Ouch for eating over the sink, but getting a clutter free place to sit down and enjoy food is key. It’s something I’m constantly working at. Best of luck finishing your projects before your Farmer’s Market. Huge congrats on 25 lbs down! Hope you have a nice reward in mind.

New2me2, I know all about that mental block on overcoming cravings. It is worth it to sit down and take your time with this one. Great job getting all that exercise.

Seadwaters, kudos for psyching yourself up for the pool and then doing your workout. Seems like it would be hard to get there with “brisk and chilly.”

BillBE, kudos for splitting a single order with your DW to avoid leaving food over the weekend or eating it all so you don’t have to. Best of luck dealing with a difficult food situation. Have a wonderful time in sunny Florida and enjoy all the different birds you’ll see. I’m not jealous at all. I’ll be here making soap, LOL.

Beverlyjoy, ouch for the suddenly changing budget situation, but kudos for recognizing it and planning for it. Great job putting that hunger experiment to use and waiting for dinner.

05-14-2010, 11:16 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

If I don't stop by in the AM, I'm finding I don't check a quick stopby before heading out on my bike-destination pool. *credit* for exercise. I have a busy weekend-DH leaving for Alaska on Sunday and many tasks to complete inbetween including having one of my dogs evaluated tomorrow for our pet therapy program. Bing is a Cocker Spaniel we rescued last fall when the love of my life, Lexxiss, succomed to cancer. Thus the history of my username. Lexxiss was my "chowhound"-she loved to eat. RIP.
I read my response cards this AM*credit* and worked in the kitchen doing advance preparation for OP meals. *credit*.

Have a great day everyone! Wish I could say hi to each and every one today but exercise rules!

onebyone, Congrats! on scale success! For me, it's a motivator to stay close to plan and not have to lose those again...start fresh with the next mini goal.

BillBlueEyes, have a great trip!

Nelie, :welcome2:

05-14-2010, 12:13 PM
Quick check in!

WI: -0.25kg, Exercise: +60 495/1400 minutes for May, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

05-14-2010, 01:44 PM
I reread the Overcome Cravings chapter, lol. Very good and very needed. I wrote out the bullet points on 3x5 cards…just the bullet points so I can have them at work today. *credit* Sunday I’ll rewrite one or two points per card so I can write out the explanations too. I’ll bring those to work and leave them here (where my cravings seem to be the worst) and I’ll carry the others in my purse.

Today’s chapter is “Plan for Tomorrow”. Officially I am supposed to start my chosen diet tomorrow but I’ve already been doing what I intend to do, lol. My diet isn’t really any set published plan (yet), it’s kind of my own customized lower carb plan to work with my health issues. I won’t have an actual plan until I get to see a nutritionist. Whatever I’ve been doing is apparently working because I’m down another pound today. Yay.

I weigh everyday usually, but my official weigh in day will be tomorrow or Sunday. I also plan to take some “before” pictures at regular intervals. I did this when I first starting working out several years ago. Sometimes we don’t notice the small changes when we look in the mirror (I sure didn’t) but holding two photos side by side, one can see lots of small changes. A slightly flatter stomach, a little better posture, etc. I think I took them two weeks apart, but may only do it monthly this time…we’ll see.

Cheryl: good job on getting out and getting in your water exercise!

BillBlueEyesDiet: Ah, but all that walking on the beach will help with the extended-family time centered around celebration foods thing—it will give you time to think about responses! :)

Hum, I only know one word for chocolate…must look up the 36 others, lol.

Beverlyjoy: Great job on sticking with your plan and very impressive on the hunger tolerance!! I’m sorry you are feeling sad about work…just keep in mind that you’ll be able to help them more when you are healthier!

onebyone: :carrot: CONGRATULATIONS!!!! Great job! It’s so rewarding when we see the results of our hard work!

Shepherdess: I find that the more I am inactive the more I want to be inactive…it’s crazy. Credit for doing your weights!

Lexxiss: Sorry for your loss of Lexxiss! :hug: Good job on making exercise a priority, even if it means not saying hi to us all individually!

05-14-2010, 07:25 PM
Hi Coaches

Since I hit the 25lb mark and I was asked what my reward was I have to say, I haven't thought about it. I've rewarded myself before and then re-gained the weight but it doesn't feel the same this time. So I will figure out a 25lb reward. Methinks it will be for something worth $25.

And I am giving my next mini-goal thought and I think I would really love to reach 10% off. So I started at 286.8, 10%=28.6, so 10% off would be 258.2, and this is 3lb from now. I'm just going to focus on the next 3lbs.

10% is supposed to really help your body out so it's a worthy goal. I can't think too far ahead. I lose my way when I do that.

Have to get back to work for the market tomorrow, but I am making progress there too. Have a good evening Becksters.

05-14-2010, 08:12 PM
Hi Coaches

I didn't get to do my check-list last night because I am having huge computer issues at the moment. Hopefully I get to finish this and then I will try to read the posts and do personals
Credits :flow1:
- Read A&R cards - once
- Planned my day - Yes
- Made food plan - Yes
- Food on-plan - Almost but again had problems in the evening - will need to look into that
- Posted to the list - no - drat computers
- Ate mindfully and seated every time - except for one over the bench incident
- Put down fork occasionally - nope
- Weighed myself - yes - 218.08
- Drank water - yes
- Exercise - YES!
- Resistance techniques - yes
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes
Working on :woops:
Still on Habits and planning

Thanks coaches

05-14-2010, 08:15 PM
Hello all! So my book arrived today :) yay! I already started on my weight loss journey and have lost about 7lbs already, but, regardless, I'm still starting from day 1 and doing everything properly :) I'm NOT slipping up this time for any reason!

BillBlueEyes: I read up on the CBT vs CT thing and it says in the book that they both essentially mean the same thing, "Cognitive Therapy" is just another term for "Cognitive Behavioural Therapy" since they both take the same approach. :) Oh and yes, I am coming to the end of a semester (or "term" to us brits!). I have horrible exams until June 18th but then I have 3 months off uni to earn some cash and have some chill-out time. Woop woop!!

Also, thanks everyone for all the wonderful support I have already received on this thread! I have high hopes for the future and hope to be just as supportive to others :)

So, starting from day 1 (15/05/2010):
- Created my "Advantages" response card - created flash cards on my phone
- Recorded advantages elsewhere - made it so an advantage a day pops up on my phone :)
- Implemented a reminder system - Phone reminds me when to look at my cards

I know it's all currently on my phone but I have it with me 24/7 and it's the most convenient and accessible thing I have :)

05-14-2010, 09:23 PM
Hi coaches

A fine Saturday morning for planning and doing some personals

BeverlyJoy - Yay for an on-plan day. It is a shame you need to put off work and disappoint people but it is important to get organised

BillBlueEyes - Good luck with your walking appetisers - always cunning little beasties.

OnebyOne - Congrats on 6lb down - that is so good. And 25lbs total - amazing. I like your collection of beasties that celebrate your weight loss with you. The 10% idea sounds good - I might use that too

Can't get any more done - the computer keeps crashing - may not be back until Monday when I can get it seen to


05-14-2010, 11:04 PM
Hello All,
Surfacing to check in. I have a craft show coming up and generally feel frenzied. Today I tracked food, credit. Came in under calorie goal, yay! Walked at lunch(not as much as I had planned, but I got myself out there), credit. I declined chips with my sandwich at dinner--credit. I added up my calories before getting an evening snack, and chose not to snack, since there wasn't enough calorie room, credit. Several eating out occasions this weekend, so I need to plan for that. I've noticed I don't grasp the idea of a treat very well--I'll have several of them in a day, so that it's more the "norm" than a "treat."
Have a great weekend.

05-14-2010, 11:13 PM
Onebyone! Nice!

Three and a half hour bike ride today. Such fun! I continue to improve on the mountain bike. The weekend warrior approach to fitness might kill me though. Not much to be done about that, though. Catch what I can during the week and use the time when I have it.


05-15-2010, 06:40 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I have another busy day ahead. My coach is super busy, too. Since we're both new to Beck, we are focusing on having a plan for sticking with the basics and checking in with each other. So far, so good.
Sticking with the basics
-Honestly evaluate if I'm really too busy or am just not making time.
-Read Response Cards and Reasons to Lose Weight -1X in the morning
-Using other response cards when needed
-Focus on staying OP (NO EXCUSES)
-Planned exercise, no matter how short
-Eat Slowly and Mindfully, While sitting down.(I notice I get to a point where I'm running around shoving food in my mouth when I get busy.)
-Post quick hello on 3FC

Kirks annual trip has traditionally been a very difficult time for me. I get pretty swamped with responsibility and finances get super tight. In the past, my feeling overwhelmed has led me to behaviors unacceptable any other time of year.

I see progress. I have many new habits, thanks to Beck. I have willingness. I'm using some of the tools in other areas of my life to plan ahead for a sane three weeks. *credit* for that.

BillBlueEyes, Facing South and East :wave:

wyndranne, 3 1/2 hours is very impressive! *credit* for making time for activity you enjoy.

Nuxmaga, *credit* for using Beck tools and staying with your food plan when feeling "generally frenzied".

seadwaters, *credit* for tidy list making and progress on the scale. Hope your computer gets fixed soon!

jynx, *credit* for starting on day one, and the loss of 7 pounds! Good luck as you work towards finishing schooling for the summer.

onebyone, great new mini-goal! *credit* Persist in Victory!

new2me2, *credit* for working on cards especially for work since you acknowledge it is where you experience your worst cravings.

FutureFitChick, sending good thoughts to you as you deal with emotional ups and downs. *credit* for knowing you and ride it out.

gardenerjoy, I'm not a good candidate for cheat days, either. Actually, it seems more sensible to just work on sane eating. *credit* for allowing indulgences while sticking with non triggering foods.

Shepherdess, *credit* for resisting during your "hardest day yet". I hope the weather starts cooperating!

maryblu, :wave:

Beverlyjoy, *credit* for knowing things will work out. That knowledge does make the realities of life much easier.

05-15-2010, 07:40 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - So I called the front desk to find out where to get early morning coffee since there was no coffee maker in the room. "Oh, it's in the armoire" the friendly voice drawled. Huh? I was so taken aback, I had to ask - no one has casually used "armoire" with me before. "The big chest under the TV." And there it was! I never open drawers in a hotel room; solves the problem of leaving stuff in them, LOL.

Flight down to Florida was filled with adventures. Was at the same terminal leaving Boston as Steven Tyler of Aerosmith - neat because we're not used to celebrity spotting. Then our flight flew over Cape Kennedy just as Space Shuttle launched with the pilot banking left so we could watch the launch from 30,000 feet - just awesome, a site I never expected to see.

All of which is to distract from admitting that eating has been off, for all the standard reasons. The waitress didn't bring dinner until nearly 9pm, at which time I was so famished (no afternoon snack) and annoyed (from staring at the bread basket and dips) that I wolfed down the whole thing - blackened grouper and asparagus though it was - still a monster portion. Purchased a grilled chicken salad for lunch on the plane and discovered a fresh baked, still hot, crusty, oil covered bread in the bag; "just a taste," he thought, then down it went. CREDIT moi for eating both sitting down <he claimed with a straight face>.

onebyone - Congrats on the big 25! Yay veggies.

Anne (wndranne) - Three and a half hours is some serious bike riding. Would seem hard to avoid the weekend warrior thing while remaining gainfully employed.

maryblu - Waving back. Your tomatoes in the ground yet?

Shepherdess - Ouch for cabin fever. LOL at your "funny how a day of inactivity can be so exhausting" - BTDT.

Margaret (Nuxmaga) - Interesting that it isn't a "treat" if it's daily. That's a good reminder to me. Good luck on the upcoming craft show.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for 60 minutes of exercise.

Beverlyjoy - Wish I had your not “in a panic” about late dinner last night - Kudos to you for achieving what I needed to achieve. Double Ouch for "Realities of life are hard sometimes."

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Ouch for computer issues. Incantations and incense don't really work as well as techies but they're more fun to try. I'll keep "cunning little beasties" in mind this evening when the walking appetizers will be numerous.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yep, Kudos for prep work for OP food. Thanks for telling us about Lexxiss - who lives on as your Avatar. RIP Lexxiss.

new2me2 - Neat idea to do the comparison pictures - wish I'd done that. Kudos for bringing your cards to work where the cravings live. One thing that works for me when hit by the vending-machine-desires at work is to get up and make a faux-vending-machine trip by walking at a brisk pace down the three flights of stairs and loop through my building. When I return, the desires are gone, blood is again flowing to my brain, and I get back to work.

jynx - Congrats on the 7 down. Will be sending brain waves for your end-of-term exams - so Ouch but so predictably part of the process. Thanks for pursuing CBT vs. CT - appears that that's an issue I can just ignore for now. Getting Beck integrated with your phone sounds like super way to get the stuff in your face each day. By the by, do you recognize the name Steven Tyler? I'm never sure when the oldie names still have meaning - especially across the Atlantic.

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

The Seven Questions Technique

. . .
4. What is the most realistic outcome of this situation?
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-15-2010, 08:05 AM
Hi beck folks, coaches, buddies - Yesterday was a healthy day - I used a lot of my beck tasks. (always grateful for the willingness to keep trying). DH and I went to our favorite Chinese restaurant for supper. I got my favorite fresh ginger and soy steam sea bass. I took only half of the fish and veggies and a small portion of brown rice. Credit. I brought home the extra for today’s lunch. Credit. I ate very very slowly at the restaurant, fork down between bites and tasting/enjoying every single bite. Credit.

Today I’ll be bossing dh around in the garden. Since I can’t walk on the grass because of my ankle/foot problems - he will do the ‘stuff’. Hopefully, next year I’ll be back to gardening.

Lots of water
Did my stretches and strengthening
Ate seated only, no seconds - all of the time
Fork down between bites - most of the time
Feel fullness - some of the time
Slow mindful eating - a lot of the time
Tasted the food - a lot of the time
Planned, logged food
Left a bite of food - all the time
Measured food - most of the time

Did not read beck
Did not read arc/rc
No spontaneous exercise

Billbe - glad you found the coffee pot! Oops on the extra eating on the flight, etc. Glad that is over and done. Move forward the best you can. If you can,read the chapter/arc on traveling. That has been helpful to me in the past. Enjoy your visit!

Lexxiss - you said: I see progress. I have many new habits, thanks to Beck. I have willingness. I think ‘willingness’ is absolutely key. You are making good progress in your beck ‘tasks’ with many credits. Carry on!

Onebyone - WOW - down 6 more pounds and 25 total. :carrot: That’s wonderful. Carry on. Three cheers for veggies.

Maryblu - Hi!!

Shepardess - sorry you are having a hard time doing the exercises and with the extra crackers. I hope that you get your getaway soon. Sounds like it would be so good. Glad you could catch up on the paperwork.

gardener joy - glad you checked in. Hi!

Seadwaters - I hate when the computer acts up. I’ve grown to rely on it so, so much. So many credits- you are doing well with the beck tasks! Credit.

Jinx - so glad your book arrive…plus already down seven pounds is awesome! :carrot: I’ve been doing beck for months and am not through the book. I am glad to see your credits already.

Nuxmaga - many good credits….plus, NOT eating the chips. Wonderful. Carry on!

Wndranne - wow - that’s a long bike ride..major credit.

Have a GREAT day.

05-15-2010, 10:14 AM
Hello all!

I didn't have a chance to come here yesterday, was a busy day. We are going on vacation and early tomorrow, we will be flying to Miami and then onward to central america (Belize). I love vacation, I always lose weight on vacation, I hope I do this time as well :) My biggest record was 2 weeks in China resulted in a 6 lb weight loss breaking a 3 month plateau.

Anyway, I'm taking my Beck book with me and blank cards as well as the cards I've already created. I'll also be taking some other books as well.

I want to say that I'm amazed that the book is already helping me and I've only read up to day 3 (day 4 is today). I read the part about sitting down when eating yesterday and thought "I don't eat standing up, really I don't". Then we go to the inlaws (they are going to take care of our cats while we are gone), and I'm cutting bread for dinner and I almost pop an end piece into my mouth. I mean, its just a little end piece, right? When we go to my inlaws, we tend to have bread as part of the meal and I usually eat many slices of bread in between the slicing of it and waiting for the meal. Yesterday, I had 3 slices (counting that end piece as 1 which I had while sitting at the table eating dinner).

This morning, I also had the issue which I had yesterday, I wanted to eat, I wasn't hungry but I wanted to eat. So I ate breakfast, then started roaming the kitchen for more. Told myself I wasn't hungry so sit my butt down. Know what happened? I then had a sudden feeling of fullness. It was so strange.

Anyway busy day prepping for our super early flight tomorrow morning. Probably won't check in until the week after next. Hope everyone has a good week :)

BillBE - Thanks for the welcome :)

05-15-2010, 04:57 PM
Hello all! Fun day today and still on track (although only day 2! lol!)
BillBlueEyes: Nope Steven Tyler doesn't ring any bells with me, but then again, I'm rubbish like that anyway! :) Well done on sitting down, despite the bread-wolfing! hehe :) Positive thinking for the win! ;)

Nelie: Welcome! (from a fellow newbie!) I did the same as you and thought "but I always sit eating down"...then dinner came around and mum was making a salad (I'm home for the weekend:)) and I went to pick at a pickled onion (lol) and suddenly thought....oh yeah...maybe I do pick without really noticing! lol. I immediately sat down and waited for my yummy jacket potato and salad :)

Went shopping today and got myself some running shoes that actually fit me and suit my foot type! Yay! The ones I was using were bought in Florida when I was 11 *embarrassed face*! Also bought some new joggers so naturally I had to "wear everything in" and went for a good old run cross-country around where I live :). It actually nearly killed me since I'm so used to the tread mill but I really enjoyed it all the same and was so proud when I got back home. Credit to moi!

So anyway...
Day 2
Read my cards twice: yep, this morning and will read again before bed
Looked at my reminders: popped up on my phone :)
Chose a diet and a back-up: Calorie counting in general for now since that's what generally works for me and gives me flexibility, back up is to join a Rosemary Conley group where they give you all sorts of help and also a fitness class :)

Good day today, well done everyone on all your successes!

05-15-2010, 06:32 PM
Today's adventure was an all day seafood cooking class that began by meeting the chef at the seafood store! I'm a seafood skeptic, so this was really an adventure for me. I borrowed today's mantra from Julia Child and decided to be fearless. Which meant that I was the only student who stuck a knife through a lobster's brain today. And the very first thing I ate was a raw oyster. I suspect that I'm more likely to repeat killing a lobster than eating a raw oyster a second time, but I'm glad I did it once.

There were some actual successes for me. I'm sold on yellow fin tuna -- raw in tuna tartare or seared in a deconstructed salad nicoise that was amazing. We'll probably try halibut at home, too -- we had it today braised in a tomato sauce. The salsa we made alongside grilled salmon is a keeper, too. And, I liked the sea scallops and the crab cakes.

I ate all day, lots of it standing up. But we'll likely skip supper entirely tonight and at least I know I got enough Omega-3 fatty acids.

In other news, my Wii came earlier than expected. I played for over an hour last night and still have lots more things to try for the first time. Pretty much everything I did has much room for improvement. One of the cool things about the Wii is that improvements are quantifiable and it keeps charts and numbers so I can prove it to myself.

I'll try for a more normal post tomorrow.

05-16-2010, 08:04 AM
Hi Beck folks, coaches, buddies - Yesterday was a healthy day :) - I am always grateful for that.

DH did alot of spring garden clean up and mulching. Looks so pretty. I did alot of nicely bossing him around. ;) It was all I could do to stay out of the gardening - as it irritates my ankle/foot injury. :(

DH grilled marinated chicken breasts and crusty bread with evoo. I cut, measured and put on my own measured amount of evoo on my bread. DH said...'I won't put much on.' But, I measured it all - CREDIT :)

My mom is coming over for dinner. DH and mom are having a burger on the grill - I plan to have a morningstar gardenburger.

eat seated only - all but one bite
no seconds - all of the time
fork down between bites - some of the time
plan, write down, measure food - count the calories - all the time
leave a bite - all of the time
Lots of water
gave credit
use resistance techniques - yes
read arc/rc
used beck book
taste the food - some of the time
slow mindful eating - some of the time

stretches and strengthening - no
spontaneous exericse - no

gardenerjoy - big credit for learning to cook fish! That is such a positive step towards healthy eating. I am glad you could adjust your food for the day - as a result of the cooking class. It's a credit that being out of your routine didn't cause a binge or overeating for the day. Glad your wii arrived.

jynx - so glad to see you are getting into the 'swing of things' with Beck! Credit for getting new shoes and preparing for putting movement and exericise in your day. Carry on!

nelie - have a safe and fun trip. You said that you always lose weight on vacation. Wow - for most it's the opposite. It's wonderful. Credit for feeling fullness in your tummy and walking away from unplanned food.

billbe - hope you have a safe trip home!

05-16-2010, 08:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Eating was a little better, CREDIT moi, but still not as on-plan as I would have liked it to be. I left a serving of superb mashed potatoes on the plate, but that was after eating my carrots, Patty Pan Squash, Mahi Mahi, and steak. Ouch for the total. Tiny CREDIT moi for ignoring the basket of good looking rolls. At breakfast, I had a bowl of granola instead of the huge buffet - no one needs that much breakfast. Waiter was annoyed that I insisted on a banana for my granola - as if that were an odd request - but produced it (some were visible on the buffet so I knew they had some).

And last night I danced the night away, so CREDIT moi for some exercise. Danced, of course, in the outer perimeter reserved for those of age or of ethanol, LOL. The inner core was occupied by the wedding party and other age appropriates with increasing loss of inhibition and footwear as the evening progressed.

Saw Brown Pelicans doing their ugly/beautiful flying and diving. And snorkeled in the warm Gulf of Mexico, being conscious that the Gulf could become unswimable if the oil spill doesn't get contained.

maryblu - Thought of you while dancing - knowing that you'd be right in the center with the athletic performers.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Yay for the fearless chef!!! That cooking class sounds like mucho fun. Can't wait to hear what new recipes you try. The Mahi Mahi last night was covered in a mango salsa - an amazing combo.

Beverlyjoy - Kudos to your DH for being a willing gardener assistant. Thanks for the reminder that Beck has advice for travelers that covers the very stuff in which I'm wallowing.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for using your real-life Diet Coach to help stay the course. Ouch for the difficulty of eating well when super busy.

jynx - Kudos for picking your diet plans - that's a big step forward. Yay for new running shoes; Yep, the old ones sound ready to be passed on, LOL. Running cross country sounds fun. Do you think you'll add more outdoor running to your regime? The DJ played Walk This Way by Steven Tyler and Aerosmith for one of the dances last night. I was told that everybody knows that one when they hear it - although, perhaps, not by name.

nelie - Great story of talking yourself down when "roaming the kitchen for more." Have a wonderful vacation in Belize; I'm super jealous - they have extraordinary birds there. Bring back pictures and stories.

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

The Seven Questions Technique

. . .
5. What is the effect of my believing this thought and what could be the effect of changing my belief?
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-16-2010, 11:42 AM
Today's schedule is all about packing for a couple of nights out of town. I'm going to bring lots of food so we at least have the option of eating in.

WI: NAkg, Exercise: +60 615/1400 minutes for May, Food: 40%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

BillBlueEyes: Love your story about seeing the space shuttle from your plane -- that is so cool! good job finding some spots of sane eating on a wedding trip and finding fun ways to exercise.

onebyone: rooting for your 10% weight loss! That's a big deal.

Beverlyjoy: great job coping with the pleasures and pitfalls of grilling season.

jynx: yay for making it through Day 2! Hope Day 3 has gone as well. Good job on the outdoor run.

nelie: hope you have a wonderful vacation.

Lexxiss: good job thinking through what is traditionally a bad time of year for you.

Hello to everyone else!

05-16-2010, 02:27 PM
Hello fellow Beckies!

Well, my hunger tolerance test didn't go so well...well, actually not at all. :o My friend and I went for breakfast, and I had two scrambled eggs with shrimp, scallops, crab and green onions and instead of hash browns (which are dangerous for me because of gluten) and bread/pancakes had a small serving of melons. That part went well, lol. When we broke for lunch, it was buffet style and the dish was stuffed pototoes. I wasn't even very hungry yet, but I was so excited that they had something I could eat that I decided to have a little. So, I had half a small potatoe, a speck of sour cream (honestly, not more than a couple of teaspoons because of the dairy), 4 black olives, and a tiny bit of chicken/artichoke salad. I didn't eat much of that either because it was in some kind of mayo sauce thing, and not knowing how they made it I was afraid it might have some gluten somewhere. So, credit for not overeating I guess, but really shouldn't have eaten at all, lol.

Today is a new day and the chapter is 15 Monitoring your eating. I've done this for a few years now, so it's not a new thing, but what IS new is planning what I eat a day early. I tend to eat the same thing everyday with just a few variations, so it seems silly to write it down, but I'm going to do it, lol. Credit I guess. :)

I bought an iPhone a couple of months ago and one of the Apps I downloaded is called Lose It! It is a food/exercise log and you can put in your age, weight, goal weight, etc. and it will figure out how many calories you need to eat in order to lose weight. It also gives you a choice of how fast you want to lose. It's basic, but I've been enjoying doing that instead of the written journals I used to keep. It's also handy to have with me so I can put in what I eat fairly quickly. It has some brand name items already in it, but since I eat mostly from Whole Foods, I've had to enter a lot of my stuff.

Credits so far today: reading the Beck book, reading my cards, following my written food plan, making my lunches/snacks for work for the entire week, sitting down for every bite, resisting buying any "treats" today at the grocery store, and gosh, credit that all that and it's only 10:00 am here, lol. No exercise yet but I'll so some before the day is out.

jynx: Congratulations on your 7 pounds! That's great, and extra credit for wanting to do everything properly! Good for you for getting some good running shoes...they make a big difference!

BillBlueEyes: Very cool on spotting Steven Tyler. I always did like Aerosmith. Funny about the amoire! :) And, even cooler to see the shuttle launch!!! Wow! I'll have to try a walk around the building if those cravings ever hit again. LOL on your description of the dancing!

Nuxmaga: Wow, extra credit for choosing not to snack because there wasn't calorie room...I have a hard time with that if I'm hungry especially. Yeah, sometimes my treats are the norm as well.

nelie: Hope you are having a great time on vacation. Good for you for taking your Beck book and cards! I think we all underestimate how much we really do some of the things she mentions in the book, lol. I know I do.

gardenerjoy: OMGosh, your cooking class sounds wonderful! :) I lived in Hawaii for 6 years, so I tend to like raw tuna, lol. :) I'm so happy your Wii came and that you dove right in!

05-16-2010, 04:25 PM
BillBlueEyes: Yeah I know that song :) I am notoriously bad with names so I'm the worst person to get a general idea of what people know! lol! When I go home for the summer I will be doing much more outdoor running since there are some lovely routes where I live. Not sure whether to pay for the gym over the summer or just do extra runs. Although I guess the gym works more muscle groups with varied machines and weights etc. I'll just have to see what I can work into my day :)

So...on to:

Day 3
Read response cards: Several times today *credit*
Created a response card to encourage me to sit while eating: yes *credit*
Sat down when I ate: all the time :)

Today, I also had a much smaller Sunday lunch than I would normally have (my mum is evil when it comes to piling on the food on a Sunday, even though she watches her weight herself, it's like she wants to offload her food cravings on to others, lol) *credit*

Back at university now, resisted unplanned pineapple from a friend (I know it's only pineapple but it's the behaviour of spontaneously snacking that needs cutting out, right?)*credit*

Another good day :)

05-16-2010, 05:07 PM
I've been doing much better at getting back on the recording food bandwagon. A seven-year habit I need to keep.

Hill repeats on the bike this morning, followed by a 3.5 mile run. I'm too tired to nap. Does not bode well for the afternoon. I'll try to be just cranky, instead of cranky and overstuffed.


05-16-2010, 11:38 PM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Monday morning begins early with a forced march to the Miami airport, so I'm posting tonight. Visited the Everglades today and saw a Smooth-billed Ani - said to be rare bird even for Southern Florida. Saw many Anhinga's, including four nests with young screaming for parents to feed them. Alligators were as common as American Robins back in Boston.

The good for my eating was buying cereal, milk, banana, and strawberries to have breakfast in my room. CREDIT moi. It avoided the monster buffet. Split a sub sandwich with my DH for the second day for lunch while out, CREDIT moi, even though it wasn't a low cal sub, it was split. Somewhat behaved myself at dinner tonight by only having bites of someone else's key lime pie, by ignoring the bread sticks, and by ignoring the rice served with my fish. But it was a large platter and I ate all the fish and veggies. I've done better on travel, even to big events with family. More work to be done here before I slip back into mindlessness.

Anne (wndranne) Yay for being cranky when that means you weren't also overstuffed, LOL. Happy trails.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Smart move to bring food; hope your nights out of town go well.

new2me2 - Yay for iPhone apps that fit your needs; Apple seems to have a lot of those. Kudos for not buying treats at the grocery store.

jynx - Yay for avoiding "evil" food pushers - especially when they're your mom, LOL. And Kudos for being so clear that it's the behavior - not the pineapple - that mattered. It's not called Cognitive Pineapple Therapy is it? LOL.

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

The Seven Questions Technique

. . .
6. What would I tell [a close friend or family member] if he/she were in this situation and had this thought?
. . .

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-17-2010, 08:19 AM
Hi Beck folks...coaches....buddies....

Yesterday was a healthful day - always grateful for that - never take it for granted. I stayed with my food plan - even though DH changed what he ate for dinner I stayed with my planned meal. Credit. Sometimes I'll change my dinner if DH or circumstances merit the change..but, not yesterday. We got more done in the garden - actually, DH. The cutie kids from two doors down came over to play - we had a 'pretzel party' - I did eat one - oops - but, counted it in my daily talley of calories.

I've had eleven days of staying on my plan - that's a good stretch. Credit and gratitudes, both.

Today I have to get another key made for my car. I've looked for weeks for it...can't find it. It's one of those 'fancy' keys with auto door and trunk locks etc. It will cost about $50 - yikes!!


eat seated only - all of the time
no seconds - all of the time
fork down between bites - some of the time
plan, write down, measure food - all of the time
feel fullness - some of the time
TASTE the food - some of the time
slow mindful eating - some of the time
lots of water - yes
count my calories - yes
read arc/rc - yes
read beck book - yes
recorded and wrote about any unplanned eating
leave a bite of food - alot of the time

no spontaneous exercise

billbe - hope you are home safe and sound. I am glad you got to see so many nice birdies. Credit for making many good choices with your food as you progressed in your family visit! Travelling is so hard. Passing up 'goodies' and other tempting food is very hard - glad you could make many choices.

wndramme - credit for recording your food and a good bike ride!

jynx - well done with reading your rc several times. Big credit for not eating the pineapple...yes, even eating an unplanned healthy food defeats the purpose of not eating any unplanned food. YAY

new2me2 - I think that planning is one of the most 'freeing' things we can do. We don't have to have those food thoughts 'spinning around in our heads' if it's already planned. You can do your hunger exercise another day.

gardenerjoy - big credit for planning ahead for you out of town trip!!!! I know that will help.

Shout out to everyone that stops by! Treat yourself as well as you'd treat a good friend.

05-17-2010, 09:43 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I wanted to say hi, and I'll be back later to catch up. My hubby is in Alaska and I'm exhausted but really committed to staying OP and working on my weight loss. Computer is still slow and after finally getting signed on, I have about 8 min. to get out of here if I want to make a 7am aerobics class. *credit* for willingness....and for planned exercise.

See ya'll later!

05-17-2010, 10:50 AM
With the help of my new Wii, I made it to the mid-point of my exercise goal in the middle of the month.

We're traveling today and I'm not sure when or if I'll exercise today. Tomorrow, though, should be lots of walking in a small town tourist destination that is most easily seen on foot. We come home on Wednesday and I expect that I'll use my Wii for exercise when I get home.

No computer this trip, so I'll see you all on Thursday morning!

WI: -0.15kg, Exercise: +100 714/1400 minutes for May, Food: 70%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

05-17-2010, 10:55 AM
I could have used an intervention yesterday when I tangled with a pan of brownies. I know to keep them out of the house, but baking was a special thing with the kids. Not ready for that kind of exposure yet.


05-17-2010, 11:39 AM
We got back last night from a few days out of town. We didn’t go far, just down to Cheyenne and Laramie, but it was a change of scene. I stopped at a yarn and fibers shop in Laramie to show them some wool. I was excited when one of her customers had seen some of my stuff up in Casper and went back home raving about it. So I guess it was still a work trip, but a positive one. We did our favorite things, poking around through bookstores and taking back routes we’ve never taken before. I had wanted to stop at a state park outside Cheyenne and run some trails, but it was raining too hard for that. So there wasn’t much more exercise than meandering through shops.

The food was much more rich and indulgent than my day-to-day food plan, but I was careful with portion sizes. My biggest food challenge was this amazing black bean burger at a fancy bistro in Laramie (it’s the university town so they have more culture than we do). They made the patty and the jalapeno roll on site, with a chipotle sauce and fresh avocado. I was tempted to eat the whole thing, but saved the second half for later. I’m afraid it didn’t weather the trip well, but I could only leave it if I thought I could have it later.

I thought it might be hard to get back to my normal eating plan, but we came home last night to a healthy, low-cal dinner. It’s actually nice to come back to my normal meals, because as fun as indulgent food is, I have to be constantly vigilant. My normal routine is much more relaxed.

Lexxiss, good job recognizing the potential difficulties of your DH’s trip and for preparing for them. Kudos for staying committed to Beck and exercise during a busy time.

Gardenerjoy, kudos for being fearless with seafood! My DH spent 2 months in Japan, where their favorite game was “What weird food will the white guy eat?” Like you, he found some keepers, but there were a few things that just make a good story. Great job planning for you trip. Yay for the wii as a new motivation to exercise.

New2me2, keeping the bullet points of “Overcoming Cravings” sounds like a great idea. That’s one of the more difficult Beck concepts for me. Oops on the hunger tolerance test, but the great thing about Beck is that if you don’t get it on the first try, you can always come back and try it again. Your iPhone app sounds handy—whatever makes your life easier.

Onebyone, yay for feeling like this time is different! You definitely deserve a reward. You have done some hard work for dropping that weight. Hope you did well at the Farmer’s Market.

Seadwaters, ouch for computer issues, but great job popping by anyways. Hope it is all sorted out soon. Evenings are always tough for me too. My resolve is strong in the morning and then fades as the day goes on. I am experimenting with timing my meals and snacks so my AM’s are light, when I’m stronger and my PM’s have more calories.

Jynx, yay for your book arriving. It’s always exciting to embark on a new journey. Kudos for starting at Day 1 even though you have already lost some weight. That beginning foundation is so important. Kudos for getting some running shoes that fit and going for a run—my favorite form of exercise.

Nuxmaga, kudos for surfacing and checking in when your life is frenzied. Great job skipping your snack when you realized you didn’t need the calories.

Wndranne, yay for the improving weekend warrior! 3.5 hrs is an impressive bike ride! Kudos for getting back into the recording habit. Ouch for tangling with a pan of brownies. I don’t suppose the kids would be interested in cooking health food, LOL.

BillBE, Steven Tyler and a shuttle take-off—sounds like an exciting trip. Ouch for waiting for dinner until 9PM. All of my resolve would have been gone by then as well. Ignoring a basket of rolls deserves more than a tiny credit. Yay for dancing the night away, and as a bonus, you got to enjoy the center show. The trip to the Everglades sounds wonderful. I’ve never been there, but it’s one of those “got to do that one day” things. We met a rancher from Florida once who said he loses cows to alligators. Makes our predators seem downright friendly.

Beverlyjoy, ouch for foot/ankle keeping you out of the garden, but LOL at “nicely bossing” your DH around. Great job staying on plan when your DH changed his and if a stray pretzel was the worst of your food sins, than you had a great day!

05-17-2010, 04:18 PM
Spring is just great joy, isn't it, Beckies?

Took today off on account of weather, and will prolly take tomorrow and Wed, too. Had to put out a minor fire at work this morning, but doable long distance, so no worries.

Am gardening myself silly, and with my usual reckless abandon. The only way to get over being stiff is to do more gardening. And, no BillBE, my tomatoes are not in. Concentrating on flowers and herbs right now.

Took my first hike of the season up the big hill in my nearby park. Was impressed that I was not winded at the top considering what a couch potatoe (had to put that e in there, BillBE; we are prolly the only two DQ fans to appreciate it..and no, not Dairy Queen). Guess dancing is better exercise than I thought. Even better for the spirit, though.

wndranne, it never ceases to amaze me how much writing it down gets me back on track. It is the first line of attack, and it *always stops the madness. Your post made me commit to it here and now, 'cuz I am not behaving the way I must. Those of you who know my story know my wt. came off following 3 rules: no alcohol, move more, eat less. So far, the moving more is going well....*ahem.

Part of the problem is not enough pain from the excess pounds. Tried some pants on at The Gap, bought one size 4 pair, and the other 4s were a bit big. Vanity sizing has come to The Gap. No, I don't usually shop there at *my age, had never even been in one before, but I had a rather substantial gift card a gentleman had given me for Christmas, so thought I had better use it before it expired. Turns out they *never expire, so now I can do my usual bargain- shopping and enjoy it for a long time. When I get the pounds off, will have to go back and try for a size 2!

Have avoided the mid-day sun long enough. Time for more sunscreen and more gardening. Great joy.

05-17-2010, 05:13 PM
Hello all :) Another good day, day 23 binge-free in fact :) *credit* Working on giving myself credit today since I'm on day 4 :) Nothing really eventful today, been revising for an Italian oral exam tomorrow, eek! So...

Day 4
- Read all response cards - check *credit*
- Ate sitting down - all the time *credit*
- Remembered to give myself credit for positive behaviours - check! *credit*

The chocolate and jelly-sweets came out today, had many sabotaging thoughts and just spoke back to them. Had this been out loud I would have looked schizophrenic but hey it seems to work. I can feel my will power growing and I am already beginning to respond differently to cravings (usually my major downfall). So...major credit here! yay!

Oh! And I got my ticker today! WOOOOOO! Exciting!

05-17-2010, 06:49 PM
Hi! It has been a very sane food day.*credit* I am grateful for that.(thx Beverlyjoy) All the bad food left with DH and I feel committed, at the moment, to taking advantage of staying on track without all the daily temptations. I'm feeling peaceful and healthy.*credit* for willingness amidst opportunity to eat "whatever and whenever".

BillBlueEyes, :wave: N and E. I have enjoyed reading of your adventures with family, food, shuttles, birds, dancing, alligators and rock stars. Your observation of the huge buffet, "no one need that much breakfast" is one I'll remember-how true! Ahh...there's no place like home!

jynx, major *credit* for 23 binge free days! It certainly makes weight loss easier! Good for you "talking back" to those sabotoging thoughts. Nice ticker...I love mine, too.

maryblu, Yes! Spring is just a great joy! We share the 3 same rules; no alcohol, move more, eat less. I haven't had a cocktail since Aug 09. Enjoy your gardening.

Shepherdess, glad to hear you had a getaway! I love poking around bookstores!....thrift stores...antique stores...yarn stores...*credit* for taking half a burger with you even though you knew it wouldn't survive.

wndranne, "brownie intervention" lol I'll remember that!

gardenerjoy, have a great trip! *credit* for Wii exercise!

Beverlyjoy, *credit* for healthy eating and knowing when you can make a change in your plan...and when it's better to stick to the original one. 11 days is a good stretch. *credit*

new2me2, *credit* for being open to writing down your food "even when it seems silly". I am trying to follow the rules even when I don't think I need to...reminded of the saying, "My best thinking got me here."

nelie, *credit* for taking response cards AND your Beck book all the way to Belize. I, too, was amazed at how often I would take bites of food while standing.

:wave: everyone else!

05-17-2010, 09:31 PM
Hi Everyone- yup I am still here! :D

Lexxiss- yay for a very sane food day. I liked reading that you are feeling peaceful and healthy. What a great thing that is- to be treasured.

jynx- 23 binge-free days is really a celebration. :cool:

maryblu-good for you for taking days off to enjoy the nice weather. It is so fun to get back to the garden. We planted most of our stuff yesterday, about 2 weeks earlier than usual.

Shepherdess-nice that you got away for a break- you have certainly earned it. You get big credit for eating reasonable portions on your trip.

wndranne-sorry about the brownies. They can break down the best of us.

gardnerjoy-so happy to read your news that you are down to 205- that is awesome. The seafood cooking class sounded like fun.

Beverlyjoy-it must be a bit of a relief just to have the decision made to go ahead with your surgery. BTW-Eleven days on plan is excellent.

BillBlueEyes-hope you are having a wonderful trip. Birding in Florida must be wonderful. I wouldn't be so crazy about the gators though. I like it up here in Canada with no scary reptiles.
Cool that you saw Steven Tyler. Were people bugging him or just staring? LOL. Aerosmith was a great band in the 70's. Saw them way back then- 1977 or 1978 (a bit of a blur :dizzy:) and then saw them just a few years ago and they were seeming a tad bit tired.

new2me2-very nice list of credits. Yay for avoiding hash browns.

nelie-hello and welcome. Enjoy your holiday.

Nuxmaga-nice to see you. Waving!

seadwaters- hate computer issues. I have problems with resisting eating in the evenings too. Wish I could just go to bed at 7:00. LOL.

onebyone-yay for the 25 pound mark. A $25 reward is a great idea. I have been trying to get to the 25 pound mark forever now. Will think about your motto -Persist in Victory.

FutureFitChick-welcome back. Glad you are here.

MerinoGirl-yay for staying OP with visitors. That's a real toughie.

bennyhannahmama-hope the new med helps you to feel better.

For me, have not posted since ?? I think about a week ago. I have had a great week though. Just super busy. But eating on plan.

Credit today for:

weighing in
doing arm weights
yard work all day
read advantage and response cards
eating on plan and planning tomorrow
checking in with my coaches.

We are off tomorrow for 5 nights in a cabin on a beautiful lake. Will be trout fishing some days and ATV riding the other days. I cannot wait for tomorrow. I will be walking every day and am bringing all our own food so will be eating healthy. Even packed up the weights and the response and advantage cards.

Take care

05-17-2010, 11:03 PM
"Cool that you saw Steven Tyler. Were people bugging him or just staring? LOL. Aerosmith was a great band in the 70's. Saw them way back then- 1977 or 1978 (a bit of a blur)"....

*laffin'. I *resemble that remark!

05-18-2010, 03:59 AM
Hi Coaches
Still got huge PC computer problems - go to work on Thursday and they will look. They think it is terminal hard disk probs - lasts 5 minutes and crashes!

I have been having a few problems in the evenings still - like what CeeJay said about wishing bed could be at 7 pm! Totally relate. Frightened to read more until I post. And a bit of off plan eating unfortunately - not being able to log on is affecting me. Need to start a paper food log to substitute

Green book arrived today so will have a look at eating plan which looks sensible. Wish me luck with the computer and will try to now read all posts before the inevitable


05-18-2010, 06:40 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Felt like a stranger at my gym (CREDIT moi) - even though it was just a four-day weekend away, I hadn't been to the gym since last Monday due to the crunch of preparing. Yay for gyms and all the familiar faces.

For three days and nights at the hotel I ignored some junk food that was part of an arrival gift along with sun tan lotion and sun burn lotion for innocent Yankees who don't know about Florida sun, LOL. CREDIT moi for that; but it ended up in DW's backpack and I split a candy something on the flight home as I fumbled about without a lunch since we boarded just in time after traffic delays on the drive to the airport. Purchased a Boston Chicken "Turkey Carver" sub for my lunch, with only minor credit for ignoring half of its monster sub role. It tasted no more like turkey to me than Pringles taste like potato chips; I imagine the turkey being re-hydrated back into a loaf for carving, LOL. I love exciting places, but for staying on plan, it's good to be home.

maryblu - Kudos for having danced yourself into shape to climb your big hill. And thanks for making me go google for: "What a waste it is to lose one's mind. Or not to have a mind is being very wasteful. How true that is." DQ

Anne (wndranne) - Kudos for being a good mommy; gathering up the crowd to head to Arizona for a Brownie Intervention, LOL. The next door neighbor was a good mommy and stuffed a pair of cupcakes into our ungrateful hands last week. I managed to pull off splitting one with DW. I have no idea why I felt it necessary to eat part of a cupcake to support a little girl learning to cook - it's not as if she'd even know what I did once out of her sight.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Waving back even though you can't see this while you're on vacation without a computer. Kudos for that huge hunk of wii exercise. I just read in the newspaper that the American Heart Association has acknowledged that its campaign to get Americans to exercise hasn't produced much results so it's now going to recommend the wii.

CeeJay - Have a relaxing five days with fishing and hiking. Kudos for preparing on-plan food for the trip. Yep, I'd expect that after some forty years of performing hard rock that ol' Aerosmith "were seeming a tad bit tired." Some of us of that era are seeming likewise, LOL. Only one person asked to have their picture taken with Steve Tyler - most of us just basked in his nearby presence.

Shepherdess - I hear ya that staying on plan is easier with the old familiar food. But you got me drooling for that black bean burger. I had food on my plate several times that I would have left if I could put it in the fridge for later. I'll have to remember your trick to take it with me and then to discover that it isn't traveling well.

Beverlyjoy - Yay for eleven days in a row on plan. Ouch for a $50 car key; doesn't seem fair. I rented a Chrysler that was operated by a huge plastic blob that was inserted into an indent above the ignition - didn't even get a key; think I've read that it costs like $400 to replace - OUCH. Hope it isn't on all cars when I need to replace what we're driving; I like a simple key that doesn't honk the horn when I lock the door.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Sending techie vibes to your hard disk before it gives up. Nice of it to give you a little warning to get your backups up to date, LOL. Good luck with its repair.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for staying on plan and Kudos for being grateful for it. Ouch for losing your DH to Alaska - presumably he took the dogs and is running the Iditarod; hope he wins.

jynx - Oh yes, Major Kudos indeed for talking back to jelly-sweets and putting them in their place. Perhaps you can swear at them in Italian and make then shrink back. Ciao.

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

The Seven Questions Technique

. . .
7. What could I do now?

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-18-2010, 07:02 AM
Hi beck folks - yesterday was mostly good with many credits. I stayed in my calorie range. Credit However, DH brought home dark chocolate m&m's. I swapped out part of my evening snack for a smalll portion of the chocolate. I ate them very slowly and savored each one. I was still in my calorie range - luckily it didn't lead to over eating. I told DH to get them out of the house, please. He said and laughed that he knows I'd throw them away if he didn't keep them out of my sight. At least he now knows this!

We/he finished digging up the plants for the swap. For the past 9 years I've organized and hosted and plant swap with a pot luck at a local park/shelter. It has really grown over the years. Last year we had 150 people from 4 states and over 2500 plants for trading. It is great fun. It does involve food that I need to start planning ahead about. I will take something healthy to the potluck. I plan to make other good choices, no seconds, & one cookie - that is what I am thinking now. We will have friends from Michigan coming - we always go to a neat diner on the Friday night before. I figure I can do grilled fish, rice, and a salad there.

We always get our tomato starts at the swap. I hope Tomato Dave comes again!

eat seated only - all of the time
no seconds - all of the time
fork down between bites - some of the time
plan, write down, measure food - all of the time
feel fullness - some of the time
TASTE the food - some of the time
slow mindful eating - some of the time
lots of water - yes
count my calories - yes
read arc/rc - yes
read beck book - yes
recorded and wrote about any unplanned eating
leave a bite of food - alot of the time
did my stretches, strengthening, cardio moment

no spontaneous exercise

Billbe - so glad you could get back to the gym and your routine. There’s a lot of comfort in the familiar routines - exercise and your own ‘food comfort zone’. You made some good choices - traveling is hard. Yikes…a key that costs $300 - I guess my key is a bargain!

Seadwaters - phooey on computer troubles. Yes - I agree it’s a challenge when you can’t log on. I am so glad your new book arrived. Hang in there.

Ceejay - have a great trip. Sounds like you are well prepared!

Lexxiss - glad to hear of your on plan sane food days - always a reason for gratitude, indeed. Credit for getting the ‘tough’ foods out of the house while dh is gone and using this opportunity to concentrate on healthy sane eating!

Jinx - credit for addressing that chocolate and jelly sweets!! Dr. Beck is right…when you can pass it up it really does strengthen your reserve for the next temptation. Twenty three binge free days is awesome!

Maryblu - OMG - size 2 ! - even if it is a vanity size. Awesome.
Gardening is such great exercise!

Shepardess - I am so glad that you and DH had a nice get a way! You did very well faced with the uncertainty of eating out - credit. Plus - being healthy when you returned home…more credit. YAY

Wndndrane - ouch on the brownies. Ya know…this is all a learning process. Hop back on your plan and you’ll be fine.

gardener joy - have a wonderful trip. Sounds like you’ve got many of the tools to help you get through it in a healthful manner.

Hope I didn't forget anyone. Shout out to anyone that peeks in. Have a great day.

05-18-2010, 09:50 AM
Hello Coaches,

Still trying to get into a rhythym of reading and staying in touch with the forum. Part of the problem is that I'm ALWAYS on my computer for work, so I don't feel like turning to it when I come home. And, lately, I have physical therapy 3 nights/week plus my Pilates session, so my evenings are scrunched down to not much time.

However, though not reading more Beck book, I am reading my cards every day, and making quick eating plans in the am. Also, I decided that I need to put more thought and energy into weight loss, because after losing some, I've been kind of stuck for a while. I wrote a card for a 10-lb weight loss. My card says:

I am going to lose 10 lbs.
My target number will end in a 9.
I will stick to ALL of my rules during this time.
The changes I will make to lose these 10 lbs are:
I will drink more water
I will drink much less wine
I will control my dinner portions, especially the protein
I will exercise more
(open space for two more items if/when I think of them)
It does not matter how long this takes!

Since I made that card, I've lost 2 lbs. :carrot:

And it really does help to keep me motivated when the going gets tough, which it does several times a day.

So what if 4 of those 10 lbs are going to be re-lost to get back to my low of last year. Forward progress is what counts, right?

Only a few replies, as I have not caught up to all postings:

BillBE: You ignored free junk food. You are my HERO!

Maryblu & Lexxiss: Rules! Yes! I am a new fan of rules!

Ceejay: You packed up your weights to take with you on a vacation!! Awesome!

05-18-2010, 11:11 AM
I couldn’t drag myself out of the garden for anything yesterday. I’ve spent a few hours here and there over the past few weeks, but no big Spring push to yet. So I blew everything else off and spent the day liberating my strawberry and asparagus patch from crabgrass and thistles. It was just too nice of day to do anything else. So gardening was the only exercise I got. I skipped my afternoon snack since I didn’t get my vigorous exercise, but it was worth it to get to spend a day with my hands in the dirt.

Maryblu, yay for gardening yourself silly. I love the first hike of the year, and kudos for all that dancing so you are not winded. Good job remembering to put on sunscreen. I missed that spot on my back that gets exposed when I’m bent over. Can’t forget that again.

Jynx, good luck on the Italian oral! Congrats on 23 binge-free days. I’ve read that it takes a month to establish a habit, so you are nearly there.

Lexxiss, yay for the bad food leaving the house; ouch that it took your DH with it, LOL. Great job on a “sane” day.

CeeJay, yay for planting 2 weeks early. I’m trying to decide if it’s safe to put some plants in. It seems so pretty, but stuff changes. Great job on a great week even though you’ve been busy. Enjoy your time away.

Seadwaters, ouch for continued computer problems. Ouch again for it negatively affecting your eating. I love keeping a paper log so that I can refer back to it to find meals that have worked in the past.

BillBE, kudos for getting back to the gym. It’s funny that a week between workouts makes you feel like you’ve been gone forever. For some of us, a week between workouts would feel like it’s starting to become habit. Yay for being home, where food is predictable.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for sanely enjoying some m&ms! You’re plant swap sounds wonderful and it sounds like you have a great plan in place. Great job thinking ahead and setting some ground rules.

MerinoGirl, congrats on 2 lbs gone! Those cards are powerful tools. It’s difficult to get into a rhythm, but it’s just like anything else on the Beck plan. You just find something that works and make the time for it.

05-18-2010, 11:18 AM
Yesterday was merely a little off, but after the *brownie incident* on Sunday, it seems really good by comparison. A victory, or a defeat in disguise?? Either way, it's Tuesday.

Ran this morning. Didn't want to. Did anyway. Smacked that inner adolescent and did the right thing. I've decided to take my inner adolescent to work and let her run amok there. Bwa ha ha ha ha.


05-18-2010, 11:58 AM
Good morning fellow Beckies!

Well, I don't know what to call yesterday, lol. It was a mix of ooops and triumphs. ;)

I made my plan and stuck to it for one meal, lol. I have two other co-workers who are gluten intolerant, and one of them bakes. She doesn't do it often and when she does she brings only a small serving for me and the other lady. When I started the Beck Diet Solution I had in the back of my mind that I would allow myself this ocassional treat. Well, yesterday was the day. So, I had that (gluten-free blueberry/peach cobbler).

Then my friend (who I usually travel with) sent me a little goodie bag of stuff because I didn't go on this one with her. In the bag where a couple of chocolates that they leave on your pillow. Um, I ate those too. :o

And, to top things off, I had to go to a birthday dinner last night. I had pretty much made up my mind that I was only going to have an appetizer, but with the intention of having my evening protein shake before that. When I got home, I wasn't very hungry, so I skipped the shake. Yay, credit!!! AND, I actually stuck to my plan for the shrimp appetizer. Yay, more credit!!! I was a little hungry when I went to bed, but I did not snack, lol. More credit.

Sorry, I'm way behind on reading/posting, so just a quick post for now.

05-18-2010, 06:33 PM
Hellooo! Not much to report today, pretty average. Italian oral was HORRIBLE but I suppose I scraped a pass...flipping hope so since I worked so hard! Going into hospital to have my nose operated on (I have a "deviated septum") so I won't be posting tomorrow unless I can get on early in the morning :(

day 5 today so concentrating on eating slowly and mindfully, noticing every bite. Did okay at this, however this is a major problem area for me...not tasting food and just wolfing it down. There was the odd moment when I was talking to friends that I was mindlessly eating, however, I quickly snapped back and continued tasting. I must say it is a much more satisfying way of eating so I believe that deserved credit for making the effort :)

Also went for a spontaneous run today since I randomly felt that I had too much energy to be sitting around *credit*...felt much much better afterwards and completed day1 week 6 of C25K :)

Checklist Day 5
- Read response cards: yes *credit*
- Ate slowly and mindfully: most of the time *credit*
- Ate sitting down: all of the time *credit*
- Remembered to give myself credit: yes *credit*

See you soon xxx

05-18-2010, 09:07 PM
Hi Coaches
I find that I can log on from phone but a fairly unsatisfactory experience. But at least I can post if not read confortably. It has the advantage of iPhones predictive texting which is cool.

I have been reading the green book and calculating my calorie allowance which seems very generous but I will give it a go. I can see why it is not on the shelves in Australia yet as there is no attempt at metric measurements which is unusual. Lots of conversions to be done.

I have been continuing with aqua fitness (supposedly light and easy!) second daily and yesterday saw an exercise physiologist who I will see weekly until problems sorted out. I can actually feel improvements in strength and stamina which is great. Hopefully I will get good enough that I can actually burn some calories with my feeble attempts at exercise!

My weight is holding even with some major off plan eating over the weekend. Now to the green book and pen and paper until my PC gets sorted out. And yes I am very grateful that I am getting the opportunity to back everything ip in five minute chunks. Hope there are few typos in this.


05-18-2010, 10:31 PM
Just wanted to say a quick hello to all of you (and thanks again Beverly for checking on me!) I'm doing pretty well. I've been spending a lot of time writing in my journal and that's taken up my message board time. I'm okay with that for now, but hope to update you all more soon and catch up on what's been going on with you.
Hope everyone is doing well.

05-18-2010, 11:49 PM
Hello All,
I am going to have to try Bill's faux-vending-machine trips, in addition to faux cafeteria and drug store trips! I did stay under my calories today, in spite of the junk, so that is kind of a credit. I went to the gym after work to walk since it was raining, credit. DH is at a baseball game, and usually I get squirrelly with my food when he's not home for dinner, but I measured out a portion of gnocchi and did not go foraging for treats, credit. I spent time in the studio, and that was fun.

seadwaters--the calories seemed high to me too, but I'm finding I can actually meet my goal a lot of the time, and for now, that is good enough. It had never occurred to me that if I ate what seemed like a "big number" that it was still less than what I was doing without monitoring or paying attention!

new2me2--yay for passing on your snack, and sticking to the shrimp appetizer!

wndranne--my inner adolescent seems quite active lately. Kudos for settling yours down.

shepherdess--yay for gardening! and yay for having such memorable wool!

merino girl--credit for recommitting!

beverlyjoy--credit for rationing the m&m's and telling dh to get them out of the house!

Bill--yay for all your vigilance on this trip! Don't underestimate how hard it is to walk away from breakfast buffets.

Lexxiss--kudos for a sane food day, even with dh away. That is great!

Waving to everyone else as it's time to go to bed.

05-19-2010, 06:09 AM
Hi Guys,
Just learning these forums and was wondering about this post that appears each month. Do you chat on here instead of adding new threads. I talked about TV eating and what others did last night but didn't post it on here should I have put it here.
Is this thread created each month and do you just do your daily and weekly achievements on here. Sorry just learning.

05-19-2010, 06:23 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Got to the supermarket so I'll have my full complement of raw veggies for lunch today; CREDIT moi. Blueberries were at a lower price than last week, but still sold in the small 6-ounce clams. I didn't grab them yet, but I'm beginning to drool for them.

Not much exercise, seems to take me forever to recover from a trip.

Anne (wndranne) - I needed your reminder, "Didn't want to. Did anyway." It's easy for me to forget that not wanting to isn't an emergency.

Kim (bennyhannamama) - Waving back; journal away.

Margaret (Nuxmaga) - Kudos for "measured out a portion" - eating feels sane for me when I serve myself the planned volume without letting my brain announce how much I desire. Is approaching summer a busy selling time for you?

Shepherdess - Kudos for carefully skipping your afternoon snack since you didn't get exercise. That's the kind of instant response that Beck suggests that thin people do all the time, but I've yet to learn. Are the lambs still nursing? How long until lamb childhood ends?

Beverlyjoy - "2500 plants for trading" is a lot of plants; my DW would go crazy. Hope "Tomato Dave" came with your tomato starts. How does the swap work - does each person swap one-for-one? My DW goes to a garden club where plants people bring to give are placed on a tarp and tickets are sold; you choose your plant in the order your ticket is drawn. You can sit there and watch the plant you really want being passed over by the early choosers and then grab your darling. And sometimes the other way, LOL. It's hard to believe how many plants a gardener can stuff into a small place.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Kudos for posting from your iPhone. Ouch that your computer is down for restoring your hard disk - hope everything comes back together. I wish the US would get its act together in moving to metric; the government declares we're going metric every few years but it's happening sooooooo slowly. In my work, we are required to label each dimension on drawings in both English and metric units, but we just let the computer calculate the metric and nobody reads it. All equipment goes in "19 inch" racks because that's been the standard for some time now.

MerinoGirl - Like your sound perspective, "It does not matter how long this takes!" Yep, it's the journey that matters.

new2me2 - Kudos for "but I did not snack" - apparently it's stellar on-plan today on the Beck thread. Yours is the first post I've ever read of a co-worker bringing in thoughtfully small portions of a treat.

jynx - Yep, definitely credit for noticing that you were distracted from tasting your food. Beck, like everyone else, recommends eating with friends to slow down the process and enjoy it more. But sometimes I can let that distract me from noticing how much I'm eating. Good luck with your operation and recovery.

Readers - day 27
Master the Seven Questions Technique

Over time, as you practice these ideas
again and again, you'll begin to automatically
respond to your sabotaging thoughts,
even without Response Cards.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 199.

05-19-2010, 07:08 AM
Hi folks....yesterday was a healthy day - always grateful for that. My string of healthy days showed at the scale this week as I am down two pounds from last week when I weighed. :):) I am happy and grateful for that too! (as you know, it doesn't always show up on the scale)

Yesterday I had one of my favorite dinners - Thai noodle salad (ww noodles with a spicy peanut butter sauce) I'll post the recipe. I am grateful to be able to eat fun tasty food and still lose some weight. I made this meal early in the day and thought about it all day long...really wanted to eat it before dinner time. I used my reisitance techniques to wait until dinner. Whew.

Today I am going to have dinner again with my mom. She's not been feeling very well and I think it will cheer her up.

slow mindful eating - some of the time
fork down between bites - some of the time
TASTE the food - alot of the time
feel fullness - some of the time
no seconds - all the time
eat only when seated - all the time
plan, log, measure, count calories - my food - all the time
lots of water
gave credit
used resistance techniques

stretches and strengthening = no
beck book -no
arc/rc - no

Billbe - as for how the swap works. I've adopted a round robin type of swap method. When folks get to the park, they sign in with their amount of plants/trades. We have areas sectioned out with plant types/signs (groundcovers, sunnies, shade plants, tall grasses, daylilies, herbs/veggies, annuals, shrubs, garden ornaments/doodads etc) Folks put out their plants in the right 'spot' and start looking around. After the potluck we do the swapping. We do it in rounds - round one everyone take one plant, round two everyone take two plants, round three - three plants and so on. Folks are asked to take the amount that they brought. There's always so much extra that folks usually get more than they bring. It's all done on the honor system. Mimi and I are not the 'plant police'. If folks steal/take way lots extra , shame on them. Most people are pretty honest about it. I know most garden clubs are much more strict about a plant for plant trade - we are more casual at this swap. It is always so much fun. So many of the same folks come every year. I put up a notice at the same internet garden forum with the information every year.
The berries are looking so good lately...especially the blackberries!

this time. - welcome! I think people do a little of both as far as posting goes. There’s always the monthly chat/support thread. But, also - folks post other things too. You could post your question in both spots and see where it gets answered. So glad you joined us. As far as eating in front of the TV goes - in the Dr. Beck’s first book she suggests that you learn to eat away from the tv and distractions - but, also learn to eat with distractions because that’s how life is. So, I do a little of both - tv on & tv off. In a perfect world we wouldn’t eat in front of the tv. If I did that, I wouldn’t ever eat with DH. He likes to eat with tv on and doesn’t budge from that. (he has no weight concerns) So when I eat with hime, the tv is on. ( I’ll put this info at your thread too!)

Nuxmaga - many good credits! - the gym and managing your dinner well while dh was at the ball game. Excellent

Kim - so glad you checked in. Journalling is so, so helpful. Take care now.

Jinx - I hope your surgery goes well. Will be thinking of you. You said - talking to friends that I was mindlessly eating, however, I quickly snapped back and continued tasting. I do that too! I think we just need to keep practicing.

Merino girl- so glad to hear of your two pound loss!! Yes…sometimes it’s hard to make time for all this beck ‘stuff’. But, in the long run - it’s so helpful when we do. Great list!

Shepardess - gardening is exericise. I am glad you got to spend time in the garden and were able to forgo your snack. Carry on!

Wndramme - the brownie incident is over - we all make mistakes with our food and then we learn from them, forgive ourselves and move on. Credit for getting that run in when you didn’t really want to!

New2me2 - so many temptations jumped up from out of the blue…that’s hard. Dr. Beck says to ‘save them for later when they are planned”. I find that very hard to do, usually. Big credit for staying with your shrimp plan and forgoing a snack before bedtime. Excellent!!!

05-19-2010, 08:53 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I've had a bit of a poor start to my day and have decided to switch gears and start over. I've been working like crazy for a benefit for a departed friend on Sunday. I started baking cookies yesterday(8 dz) and planned on continuing. I'm usually able to bake without a problem(I tasted 1 yesterday) This AM, I was going to start packaging for the sale-it was time for another legitimate taste test and they are super hard-not the product I was hoping for...disbelief...taste another...well 4 cookies confirmed they were *cr*p* and already a serious threat to my sanity. So, I've moved them to the freezer for later decisions, packed up the supplies for return and am changing my plan-hard for me; I'm such a perfectionist. *credit* for recognizing this.

Start over-I had a good day yesterday, ate healthy and stayed busy....exercised and actually got a good night's sleep. I'd like the same for today. I realized I was overbooked for today, so opted out of a gathering at the sewing shop and will go to the pool instead. I think I'll do some Beck reading this AM instead of cookie baking.*credit*

BillBlueEyes, I'm like you, drooling over blueberries in excruciatingly small containers. I passed them up, too. *credit* for focusing instead on raw veggies for satisfying lunches.

CeeJay, glad to hear from you and now you're off again. :wave: I'll think of you walking, eating healthy and pumping weights while DH

seadwaters, I DO go to bed early. My DH starts munching the minute dinner is finished and since we have a small house it's either sit next to him on the couch and endure or go to bed and read. I fall asleep early, and have early mornings to myself. I hope your computer issue is resolved quickly. Lots of *credits* today!

Beverlyjoy, (I smiled )that DH knows to keep his food out of your sight! Thanks for sharing about your plant swap. We had a great one in Alaska, and I need to check out the one here. I'd like to meet Tomato Dave. *credit* for thinking the event through with respect to food choices. Your post today reminded me that I used resistance techni ques yesterday! *credit* to both of us. Hope your mom starts feeling better.

MerinoGirl, with me, "rhythm" still comes and goes. I just keep practicing. I find if I don't check in early, I don't get here. *credit* for setting your mini goal. I like your card for 10#.

Shepherdess, *credit* for a Spring push in your garden and skipping your afternoon snack.

wndranne, *credit* for running when you didn't want to. (Love it! Bwa ha ha ha ha.)

new2me2, "oops and triumphs" For me, that is life, as I walk through the process of learning new life habits. When you have lots of food restrictions, a special GF treat is nice...rerouting chocolates that came in the mail...practice, practice.

jynx, I love an "average day"! Hope your surgery went well. I caught myself mindless eating last night. *credit* for snapping back into food reality.

Kim, glad to hear from you. *credit* for extensive journaling and checking in.

Nuxmaga, *credit* for staying within your calories, and for deciding to give Dr. Beck's recommendation a try. When I eat on my plan(similar to Dr B's), I find the calories don't add up nearly as fast when I choose sensible foods. I love reading labels and was suprised that a bag of Doritos that I could mindlessly eat in an hour contains 1800 cal. and 96 g of fat. Talk about a diet buster!

ThisTime7, :welcome2: All the sub-forums are different-I post on the South Beach forum and they start a new thread every day, others, including Beck, do a monthly. I read your post this morning and will respond here. *credit* for making the decision to desist with TV eating. I'm interested to hear your observations as you learn to live without that combo.!

Ok, cookies are in my past, and I'll feel grateful for the opportunity to "get back on track" TODAY!

Have a good day, everyone!

05-19-2010, 11:10 AM
Thanks for welcome guys. I'm from down under and we are metric is there a conversion table on this site. My starting weight was 128.5kilo's and so far I am down to 125.3kilo's
I have been on the Becks for 4 weeks but haven't move onto stage 2 yet. My counselor went to a Beck's Lecture in the States in December 09 and came back with getting me started on it. I had a few other body issues to deal with but now we are into the book. This it the first time I am thinking of me and not the food. I have to report into him once a fortnight and also email him each day to keep me on track. One of his task was for me to get a buddy on line so that I would keep motivated. I love this site as you all have so much information and its good to hear others doing the same thing.
Can't weight to get my ticker
Cheers ThisTime7

05-19-2010, 11:16 AM
Yesterday I was able to get a run in, dig around in the garden and get some work done. What a great day. I did have a late, unexpected meeting in the afternoon, missed my afternoon snack and was pretty hungry by the time I got home. I should have just waited for dinner, but I succumbed to the chips my DH was munching. I did stick to a single portion, a minor victory for me since my brain tells me that those 15 chips are too small. I usually think a serving is whatever I can stuff in my face before feeling disgusting. I did decline when DH asked me if I would like the ice cream I brought home and had planned to have after dinner. So I guess it all worked out.

Wndranne, having a better day after a slip-up is still progress. You caught the mistake before it started to grow. Kudos for going for your run even when you weren’t feeling like it. LOL at taking “my inner adolescent to work and let her run amok there.”

New2me2, a day of “oops and triumphs” sounds like a normal day to me. Kudos for sticking to your plan at a birthday dinner and for recognizing when you weren’t hungry. I think it’s fine to allow yourself the occasional treat. The trouble that so many of us run into, like Nuxmaga pointed out the other day, is that we have several occasional treats a day. The challenge is how to enjoy them while still keeping them occasional.

Jynx, ouch for a horrible exam, but hope it turns out OK. Best of luck in surgery tomorrow. Eating mindfully and slowly is a tricky one, but it is important and worth working at. I still struggle with it. Kudos for getting out for a run. There’s no better form of therapy.

Seadwaters, yay for giving the diet in the Green Book a go. I had thought the calorie allowances were too large, but I slowly and steadily dropped weight on it. I realized that earlier programs I was on had me chronically under-eating, setting me up for failure. So great job trying it. The scale will tell you whether or not it is working.

Bennyhannamamma, great to see you again. Hope all is well and the journaling is good for the soul.

Nuxmaga, kudos for staying under your calorie limit even with the real vending machine runs. I love the idea of faking a run because what you’re really looking for is a break. Great job measuring your gnocchi and skipping another potentially dangerous food situation.

Welcome ThisTime7! We’re all on the Beck Diet Solution or Beck Diet for Life plan and we come here to keep ourselves accountable. I check here everyday, as do others, just to report successes and failures, get encouragement from a great group and find solutions to things I’m struggling with.

BillBE, yay for a fridge full of veggies for healthy lunches. I love those fresh blueberries. I guess if something is going to call to you, it might as well be full of anti-oxidants. The lambs are still nursing. Lambs can eat grass after just a few weeks, but they are just building up the enzyme in their stomachs to digest it. They can be safely weaned after 8 weeks, but we don’t separate the lambs from the ewes until September. They might still be nursing a bit, but by then, they can get all their calories from grass.

Beverlyjoy, congrats on another 2 lbs down! Thai noodle salad sounds wonderful. I love spicy food because it can be so satisfying in small portions, but it would be hard to know it was in the fridge and wait until dinner.

Lexxiss, yay for starting over when your day wasn’t going so great! Sorry about the cookie disaster. I’m a perfectionist when baking cookies as well, so I understand your frustration. Kudos for putting it behind you and doing great after hitting the reset button.

05-19-2010, 02:39 PM
Good morning Becksters!

I finally practiced my Hunger Tolerance, lol. :carrot: Not so much by choice, however. :o I had my annual physical today and had to fast for bloodwork. But, instead of taking a snack with me to eat in the car on the way home, I decided I could certainly wait another 20 minutes to eat. Then, when close to home, decided to go to the bank. Once home, I decided to get some laundry going. I'm only now am I having my usual morning protein shake. The normal pattern would have included a lot more than that, lol. On a usual morning, even with Beck, I'd have eaten two times already, lol. So, yay, credits galore!

The exam went well I think. My pulse was 60, BP 100/70, they weighed me at 160 with all clothes on, lol. I talked to her about my neck which has been hurting a lot more lately. Last year she wanted me to to vigorous exercise 3 times a week and weights 2 times, but today she said that if it's making my neck hurt more so that I have to take more anti-inflamatories, that's not good. So, I'm going to look into either joining a gym or getting some kind of equipment at home. She suggested a recumbant bike. Used to have one of those--don't any more, LOL. :D I won't go to a gym, so I think a bike is probably in my future.

Later today, eye exam, so I'm trying to do everything that involves my eyes now, lol! :cool:

Oh, and my green book came yesterday. I don't think I'll start it until I finish the pink one though!

jynx: Hope your surgery went well and you recover quickly. I tend to wolf my food down too, I'm really trying but having a hard time breaking that old habit!

seadwaters: I haven't tried logging on from my phone...may not now that I've read your post, lol.

bennyhannahmama: Glad you are doing well!

Nuxmaga: great credits you had!

ThisTime: WELCOME!!!! I think you can post a thread if you want...this one is nice for some encouragement though! Sorry, I don't know of any quick conversion tables.

BillBlueEyes: Yeah, takes me forever to recover from a trip as well. I'm lucky to have some great co-workers. This one is very mindful of all my OTHER restrictions as well.

Beverlyjoy: Congratulations on 2 lbs down!!! Great job on waiting until dinner for your noodles! Hope your mom feels better!

Lexxiss: Ouch...your cookie tasting sounds exactly like something I would do! Wow, major credit for realizing you were overbooked!

Shepherdess: I had to laugh about the stuffing comment, until I realized that's exactly what I do! :o Yeah, the problem with me is that the ocassional becomes commonplace. :(

05-19-2010, 07:55 PM
Hi Coaches
I am taking a chance on using the computer for this so will be brief before it crashes! It goes to hospital today so who knows. I hate not responding to all your posts - but I read them to stay on track

Credits :flow1:
- Read A&R cards - Yes - daily
- Planned my day - Yes - still using lists
- Made food plan - Yes - wrestling with the new unfamiliar Green Book plan
- Food on-plan - Yes
- Posted to the list -Yes
- Ate mindfully and seated every time - a few nibbles at the sink!
- Put down fork occasionally - surprisingly no
- Weighed myself - yes 118
- Drank water - more than usual
- Exercise - yes - Mon, Tues and Wednes
- Resistance techniques - yes - often
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - Yes

Working on :woops:
Habits, exercise, and a sensible plan with MUCH higher calories than I usually admit to

Keep at it

05-20-2010, 07:16 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Was looking at a diagram in a textbook that included adipose tissue (body fat) with the notation that it gets created by the body in response to an excess of food and never goes away - just expands or shrinks. Ouch. I knew that, but it hurts every time I'm reminded that I added tissue to my body that healthy eating keeps in its shrunken state but is eager to store anything extra to help me out. It's a reminder that the Previously Over Weight (POWs) have a different metabolism than the Never Over Weight (NOWs). Maybe we can take away the stigma of obesity by referring to people of weight as adiposed instead of fat, LOL.

Gym and eating, OP and OP; CREDIT moi and CREDIT moi.

Shepherdess - LOL at "I usually think a serving is whatever I can stuff in my face before feeling disgusting." That's the best argument for eating quickly, you can get more in before you realize that you gotta stop. Thanks for the update on the lambs.

Beverlyjoy - Congrats that the scale noted your string of "healthy days" - Yep, sometimes that scale doesn't.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - LOL at typing quickly to beat the computer crash. Do you have any tips for converting the Green Book recipes to metric? Wondering if Beck has done that on her website - she's got readers in a lot of metric countries.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Kudos for "switch gears and start over" - good reminder that that's a possibility instead of the old might-as-well-continue-in-the-dumps kind of thinking.

new2me2 - Congrats on the good numbers from your annual physical. And Yep, Kudos galore for executing the Hunger Tolerance exercise. How much hunger did you feel?

ThisTime7 - It's just fine to post here or in a separate thread. I tend to think of this thread as serving as Diet Coach/Buddy where we report to each other for accountability and other threads as topics of interest. But there are no hard rules - feel free to try both ways until you decide what works for you. And Yep, this thread starts anew each month. Again, there isn't a compelling reason that it isn't weekly or daily. The argument for weekly is that it might feel more welcoming to new people faced with its huge size. The argument for monthly is that it tends to stay on the first page of a Google search and easier for new folks to find.

Congrats on the seven pounds (3.2 kg) lost already. Some folks convert kilos to pounds by multiplying by 2.2; others double the pounds then add 10 percent of that. My preference is that you somehow convert the US into using metric, LOL.

Readers - day 28
Get Ready to Weigh In

Tomorrow marks the end of your second week of dieting. When you get up in the morning, step on the scale. Wear the same weight clothing as you wore last week. Calculate your change in weight, add a new dot on your weight-loss graph (page 174), and connect the dots.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 204.

05-20-2010, 07:17 AM
:welcome: ThisTime7 :welcome:

And, in honor of your first month on 3 Fat Chicks, :wel3fc:

How did you find out about the Beck books?

How did you find 3FC and this Beck thread?

05-20-2010, 07:50 AM
Hi beck coaches/buddies..

Yesterday was my weigh day and I got through it without overeating. CREDIT That is always hard for me - I made a response card for this action and did the Seven Question thingy too with my thoughts of "I can make it up later". I am grateful for the willingness to this. I used my resistance techniques to not overeat last night.

Had dinner with Mom. She didn't feel well enough to go, the got the new Wendy's salad I"ve been talking about (chicken, pecans, apples, pomegranete dressing) and brought 2 salads over to her apartment. She loved and it was a healthy meal. Credit.

I ended up getting my new car key done yesterday because they didn't have the 'blank' for it when I went on Monday. I mis-heard them about the price. The key was $145 not $45 dollars as I thought. Plus - $75 dollars to program it. I almost fainted. But, it was my 'lucky' day - Wednesday is Ladies Day at the dealership and I got out the door for $185 only? I am lucky I happened to be there on Ladies Day.

I got a copy of Dr. Beck's second book...the workbook one. I spent my 90 minutes waiting for my new key looking at that new book and redoing some of my response cards to include some of the same information said in a different way. As far as I can tell, one of the main differences is that in the first book, Dr. Beck says to weigh every day or once a week. It seems to me she suggests every day in the second book. I think I'll stay with my once a week, however. (maybe twice)

Today I have much to do to get ready for the Plant Swap on Saturday. Appointments, office work, and a hair cut.


slow mindful eating - some of the time
fork down between bites - some of the time
TASTE the food - alot of the time
feel fullness - some of the time
no seconds - all the time
eat only when seated - almost all the time (but once I didn't - darn)
plan, log, measure, count calories - my food - all the time
lots of water
gave credit
used resistance techniques
beck book -yes
arc/rc - yes

exercise/spontaneous exercise = no

I will be back later for personals. Have a GREAT day.

05-20-2010, 09:19 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I'm up and at em, focusing on a healthy planned out day. I have a full schedule which starts soon, so I need to keep moving. *credit* for cleaning out the fridge and organizing the freezer this morning. I find I eat better when everything is tidied up. I got some cherries yesterday for an after dinner sweet tonight. My mini goal for today is to stick to planned eating 100%. I did great last night until after was headed downhill, so I retired early. *credit* for recognition that I'm doing far better on my own this year making decisions regarding healthy VS not. :cp:

Have a great day everyone!

05-20-2010, 09:43 AM
We had another boring day stuck inside the house watching it rain, but I didn’t eat out of boredom, so I’m taking credit for that. I was also stuck inside with a cranky DH who once again had to postpone moving cows due to muddy roads. I managed to resist the chips that DH was snacking on, so it was a good day. It was too muddy for outdoor exercise so I did my weights. That was my planned workout anyways, but if the weather was nice I probably would have skipped it for something outdoors. I’m hoping for roads to dry out today so I can get out and about.

I’m posting a link to an article I read about the importance of eating mindfully. It’s something we Becksters already know is important:

New2me2, great job on your impromptu hunger tolerance exercise. It is an eye opener when you realize that hunger is not an emergency. Yay for the good exam, but ouch for the continued neck pain. Kudos for finding an exercise that you will do.

Seadwaters, sending your computer get-well wishes. Best of luck wrestling with the Green Book plan. It seemed complicated at first, but it doesn’t take long before you don’t have to think about it. There are some rather odd things in those lists. One of my options for a meal was 3 eggs. I had that and don’t recommend it at all! I also enjoyed the list of 50 calorie vegetable options. I never did try 1 cup of raw leeks or even 1 ½ cups cooked. So it does take some tweaking.

BillBE, kudos for a day with food and exercise OP. I was thinking of you while I did my lunges and tried to actually do them with good form. Thanks for the reminder that POW people have a different metabolism than NOWs. LOL at saying adipose instead of fat.

Beverlyjoy, great job using the 7 questions to resist over-eating. That “I can make it up later” excuse is a killer. Ouch for your $185 deal. I’ll have to look into our local dealership to find out if they have “ladies day.” Great job using your down time to get some Beck work done.

Lexxiss, kudos for getting organized and ready for a busy day. Ouch for your eating plan going down the drain in the PM. Evenings are hard for me to, but great job moving on.

05-20-2010, 10:25 AM
Thanks BillBlueyes,
Love my welcome sign. Thanks once again.
I got on to Becks Diet for life through my physiologist. I have been overweight for years and have suffered panic attacks since early teens. Over the last 35 yrs I have lost 25 -40 kilos or 80lbs a few times but every time I lose it I don't like myself and then end up putting on more than I have lost.

So my psychiatrist who treats my panic attacks( Had some childhood issues) put me on to a psychologist and he has been working with me on learning to love myself. Then in December he went to a conference in America and saw Judith Beck. He was so impressed with her lecture, that when he came back and said he had found the answer for me. Once we had deal with a few more issue we would start on her program. You see I use Food as my Drug of Choice when I am feeling down. I use this saying a lot now because I realize this is what I was doing.

So 4 weeks ago I started on stage1. I am only allowed to do stage 1 at the moment because I really need to change my eating habits. I haven't been allowed to read stage 2 yet.He was the one who said I needed to find a one to one buddy on line. I only found this out by Googling " Diet Buddy wanted". I also have to report to him on line everyday.
This is a great site and thanks to all of you for making me feel so at ease on here.

05-20-2010, 11:13 AM
Our trip started with a family event that managed to be both boring and tense and ended, unexpectedly, with a family crisis. But, in the middle, we had a lovely day on Tuesday. In the morning, we took a 3 mile walk carrying packs with camera equipment around a picturesque, hilly, historic town, ending with lunch at a winery. In the afternoon, we relaxed in our condo with a hot tub and good books.

The family crisis is maybe going to turn out all right and we helped a little bit to push it in that direction. My eating went downhill as the family crisis ramped up, but I should be able to get back on plan today.

WI: -0.15kg, Exercise: +25 860/1400 minutes for May, Food: 40%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: no

Welcome to ThisTime7 and hello to everyone else!

05-20-2010, 11:28 AM
Hi Beck folks - am back to catch up with folks.

Thistime7 - I am so glad you are talking about your program so. It is such a good reminder to me about distracted eating - especially the TV. I need to remember to turn that tv off when I eat. It will help me be more mindful of food, taste, and fullness. I was much more committed to doing this when I first start Beck - sometimes, basics are good! Congrats on your wonderful weight loss!

Shepardess - yes, not eating when bored is a major credit - well done. Good job on the weights. Thanks for the article. Hope the weather improves soon so you can get outside! Good job NOT eating dh’s ice cream. Sorry the chips jumped up at ya.

Lexxiss - good job getting (re)organized! It is so helpful, indeed. Having a plan to stay with during the day can be very ‘freeing’ - you don’t have to have those ‘what will I eat now’ thoughts spinning in your head because it’s already planned.

New2me2 - I am glad to hear you had a good check up….blood pressure, etc. I hope you can get your neck pain relieved quickly. Good that you got your hunger exercise done. You’ll be amazed how often you can draw on this experience.

Seadwaters - I am glad you are going to get your computer fixed! Many good credits and your honesty about what you are working on, too - is very good. You CAN do all this.

Billbe- good credits on food and exercise! Coincidentally, yesterday I was looking some info on the internet information about adipose tissue myself. It’s discouraging that those darn fat cells just deflate and don’t go away. They are ready to fill up with fat easily. Ugh.

Hope I didn't forget anyone. Shout out to anyone that stops by. Have a GREAT day.

05-20-2010, 03:40 PM
Well, my day ended as well as it started yesterday. I did my planned exercise and even skipped a meal because I wasn't hungry.

This morning I'm down 1.2 pounds from yesterday. I know that was probably mostly water, but I'm going to try like the dickens to NOT gain it back, lol.

So far today I'm on plan. I have a meeting later...I've never been to one of these so I don't know if they serve snacks, but I have a really great boss who often thinks of us gluten intolerant people, so it's possible there might be. I wrote that possibility on my food plan for the day, and to make up for it, I've cut a little off my other meals. If they don't have snacks, I'm that much ahead, lol.

BillBlueEyes: Yes, I like adiposed much better than fat, lol. As far as the hunger, I felt it probably about the hungriest I’ve ever been except right before my surgery when I had to fast for two days basically. Still during the exam, it sort of diminished a bit, and then on the way home was definitely manageable.

Beverlyjoy: Good job on not overeating!! I’m beginning to see already the helpfulness of changing the way I think about food. I think that’s all Beck asks for, lol. The fact that you read your cards and did your questions is really great!

Lexxiss: Wow, credit for going to bed early, lol!

Shepherdess: Great job for a rainy day!!

gardenerjoy: Your walk around the historic town sounds wonderful!

05-20-2010, 11:10 PM
Last two days have been OK. Walking the line. Mostly.

Epic day tomorrow, with a mountain bike ride, trail run and then an open water swim.


05-21-2010, 05:12 AM
Hi coaches

a quick check in.

I have read my A&R cards; made a plan for the day; planned my food sort of (still organizing Beck menus etc); exercised twice today - one with physio and once in pool (I am now pooped); weighed myself (219 lb); and messed with the Beck green book.

Regarding doing conversions, I have an iPhone ap which converts weights, energy etc. So I have photocopied all the relevant pages and am writing translations on them. When I have my computer back I can post it for other metric folk

that's all I can manage on this phone coaches. Hello to all


05-21-2010, 06:53 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Flexibility bad news: At a fitness fair I was tested for flexibility. In that voice reserved for small children, idiots, and old people, the guy carefully explained which was my right hand, which my left and how to try to connect them behind my back. Ouch - they didn't touch, which he measured carefully with his ruler; I have some limbering up to do. Flexibility good news: In the same voice he carefully told me how to lower myself, "If I could." "Like a squat?" I asked, then squat right down on his silly ruler. "Oh," he muttered, and then in a human voice, "That's pretty good." My lunges and squats have paid off in my lower half; CREDIT moi.

Had a foil pack of tuna with my raw veggies for lunch; CREDIT moi. Noticed that an older pack was 3.0 ounces, the newer one was 2.6 ounces. Am I supposed to be less hungry these days? The package isn't marked NEW SMALLER SIZE WITH LESS CALORIES FOR THE SAME PRICE, LOL.

Anne (wndranne) - Well then, Kudos. Mostly. Hope epic day goes well.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Your photography hike sounds really fun. Ouch for family dynamics with Kudos for helping it to resolve.

Shepherdess - Ouch for rained out tasks, but Kudos for switching to an indoor workout. And Kudos for resisting the chips being munched in sight. Thanks for the article on eating mindfully - it's always good to read it again.

Beverlyjoy - Seven Kudos for doing the Seven Questions Technique on the Sabotaging Thought, "I can make it up later" - that's an insidious one. Ouch for the $185 car key; I'll be suing the dealership to make them instate a Gentleman's Day, LOL. Let's start a protest movement, STOP the adipose.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - typing quickly to fit the small screen of your iPhone, LOL. Kudos for double exercising.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yep Kudos both for making more healthy decisions and for giving yourself credit for it. Drooling for your cherries - I can have a hard time limiting myself to a modest serving of those.

new2me2 - LOL at having a boss who "thinks of us gluten intolerant people" - I guess we all are as in too-much-gluten intolerant, LOL. Hope your new meeting went OK.

ThisTime7 - Neat that you're working with a guy who was directly influenced by Dr. Beck. Like the thought, "Food as my Drug of Choice" - I can use that one.

Readers - day 28
Get Ready to Weigh In

Don't even think about trying to skimp on food today in order to have a more favorable outcome tomorrow. You need to squarely face whatever number you see on the scale. And eating too little today might set you up for going overboard in the following day or two.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 204.

05-21-2010, 08:40 AM
Hi Beck coaches///buddies!

Yesterday I did stay in my calorie was a struggle at the end of the day - but, I pushed through. I am so grateful that I could do so and had the beck tools to help.

I saw a friend yesterday for lunch. She has a PHD in psychology and works at a health center associated with a big hospital. Part of what she does in her work is with folks who are part of their weight loss program. They have a brand new approach to their weight loss programs - they have adopted many of the behavior principles of Dr. Judith Beck! She knows that I have been doing the Beck approach. It was very enlightening to discuss this with her. I told her what I have learned and try to incorporate into my daily life. I asked her about why the first book of Dr. Beck says to weigh weekly or daily and the other books encourage daily weighing. Of course, she said what I knew she'd say - 1. desensitize ourselves from the daily fluctuations of our body's weight 2. folks who weigh daily, in the long run, maintain their weight loss. 3. research on successful people in weight loss do weigh daily. Wow - this is a hard thing for me to swallow (excuse the pun). It kind of depressed me in a way. So, I will try and weigh more often - 2 or 3 times week and accept it. This is hard for me - it goes against all that I've learned or done over the years. Not weighing daily was one way that helped me to get rid of my scale addiction and all that goes with it. this was many years ago. But, I'll try and see how it goes.

I printed out the information from shepardess' link on mindful eating. (thanks so much for that link!!) I put it on a response card. I am going to try and read it daily...maybe right before I eat. I did last read it yesterday and before dinner - and dinner lasted 25 minutes.

I have much to do to get ready for the plant swap tomorrow. It's suppose to rain - but, we have a covered shelter. We've done several swaps in the rain over the years. We will put the plants out on the grass and use the shelter for the potluck. We aren't sissies!!! Yes, We have swapped in the rain before.


eat slowly, mindfully - alot of the itme
turn off the tv when I eat - some of the sime
fork down between bites some of time
eat seated only - all the time
no seconds - all the time
plan, log, measure, count calories - foods - all the time
lots of water - yes
stretches and strengthening - yes
remember why - yes
give credit - yes
leave a tiny bit of food on my plate - yes
taste the food - alot of the time
made new response card on mindful eating

no spontaneous exercise
arc/rc - no
beck book - no

I'll try and get back later for personals. Have a great day.

05-21-2010, 08:46 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

For the next 3 days I'm making a commitment to check in every morning and stay as close to plan as I am able. Several different dog related groups are coming together on Sunday to host a huge fundraiser/Pooch Parade to benefit a woman who lost her battle with cancer. We are finally down to the wire and its taken priority.
*credit* for making it to the pool yesterday and today for water aerobics.
*credit* for not engaging in mindless snacking.

Yesterday was someones birthday and they brought suprise cupcakes-the worst kind. I thought, I'm going to resist because the icing is dyed crisco. When the tray came around there were three apricots-the purchaser had remembered me. No one else took them, and I enjoyed them as an afternoon snack.

Have a great day everyone!

05-21-2010, 10:36 AM
After lunch yesterday I noticed I was feeling full—not overstuffed, but definitely more full than usual. I realized my lunch had been bigger than usual. If I had been eating mindfully, I would have noticed, but I was engrossed in a good book. Oh well, I skipped my afternoon snack—wasn’t hungry for it anyways. So it all worked out and everything was on plan besides that.

I had a nice run yesterday. A killdeer was doing it’s melodramatic broken-wing act that struck me as funny. She was trying to get my dogs’ attention, but they were much more interested in splashing through every mud puddle along the side of the road. It’s a nice little reward to get a show with my workout.

ThisTime7, it’s smart to take some time in Stage 1. I, like a lot of people, was eager to get to the dieting and rushed through it. There’s a lot of important groundwork that sets you up for long-term success. I keep thinking I need to go back to the beginning and work on that early stuff.

Gardenerjoy, ouch for the family crisis and ouch for the stress eating that it brings. Glad to hear the crisis is coming to resolution. Kudos for getting back on track so quickly.

New2me2, great job getting your exercise and for paying attention to those hunger cues. Yay for 1.2 lbs down, water weight or whatever, it’s still nice to see!

Wndranne, good job doing the balancing act and walking that line. Yay for the weekend warrior’s epic day. Sounds like a lot of fun.

Seadwaters, great job with two exercise sessions. No wonder you’re pooped. Looks like a good day with lots of credits.

BillBE, I thought these days portions were all growing. Too bad the healthy stuff is shrinking and the junk is getting “value sized.” Yay for all those lunges and squats giving you good leg flexibility. The upper body flexibility can be a summer project.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for using those Beck tools and getting through a tough day. Good job experimenting with the weigh-ins. I like the daily weigh-ins, but in the end, you’ll have to do what works for you. Yay for a plant swap that ain’t for sissies.

Lexxiss, the Pooch Parade sounds like a great event. Great job getting in your exercise on a busy day. Yay for someone remembering you and bringing a healthy treat. LOL at dyed Crisco—my favorite kind. I wish I could resist as easily as you!

05-21-2010, 10:53 AM
Bill - my understanding is that if you've fab upper body muscles, it's difficult to touch hands over and under your shoulders. This is based on info supplied by my tennis partner* 20 yrs ago who'd been playing for years. *partner is a very grand word for it. We used to knock about a bit. So that's probably what's going on.

Have had a blinding insight based on a post elsewhere on the site. I overeat when I feel Resentment. Now I've managed to Name That Feeling I can work on the eating, incident by incident.

:wave: to all. Your posts are so helpful. Thank you.

05-21-2010, 11:19 AM
Yay, this morning I reached my first goal. I have now lost 5 pounds since starting the Beck book! I'm trying to decide what charm for my bracelet will best represent that. :cool: My friend and I decided on a whim to go on vacation in just over a week, so maybe I'll look for something there. Maybe an eagle to symbolize freedom.

Speaking of vacation, I'm already planning how to manage that. I definitely want to keep my Beck principles so I'm going to take the book, my diary, cards, etc., and I'll do a quick check-in here as many days as I can. I think this will be an EXCELLENT chance to practice my hunger tolerance, lol.

There was no snacks at the meeting yesterday, so I was that much ahead, and had a pleasant surprise when I was hungry later in the evening, then realized that not only had I not had that snack in the meeting, but that I had written a little protein snack for the evening on my plan and would get to eat it. Yay, credit, lol.

Exercise: 30 minutes of kickboxing (DVD)
Response and other cards: yes, twice and wrote them in my notes on iPhone
Made and followed my food plan: yes
Spontaneous exercise: walking up the stairs to my floor at work
Ate while sitting: mostly (still find myself taking that first bite of my meal before I get to the couch, lol)
Ate slowly and noticed each bite: still working on this, I did slow down and at every meal put down my utensil(s)

Shepherdess: credit for noticing though! Sometimes I eat automatically, without ever noticing.

Lexxiss: ooh, good way to think of that frosting, lol! I like it! Yay, for co-workers who think of us!!! Great job on eating the apricots instead of the cupcakes!

Beverlyjoy: Wow, you are my hero, lol. I don't think my dinner has ever lasted 25 minutes. That will be a new goal for me!

Bill: Ouch on the flexibility, but great job on the lunges and squats! :)

Cheryl: 119?!!! Wow, that's great! Great job! Good job on all that exercise!

Anne too, wow, the exercise you do amazes me!

05-21-2010, 11:41 AM
Still don't have my food where it needs to be to lose weight, and so I'm stuck. But I know what to do to get going -- a better place to be than the last time I was stuck.

WI: +0.25kg, Exercise: +60 920/1400 minutes for May, Food: 50%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

wndranne: hope your big day of exercise and adventure goes well

seadwaters: glad your doing well with food and exercise and even managing to post from your phone

BillBlueEyes: LOL at your description of the fitness fair "expert."

Beverlyjoy: what a great experience to talk with a professional using Beck techniques in her work

Lexxiss: good job on going for apricots over cupcakes

Shepherdess: love the show you got during your run!

silverbirch: that's a powerful insight to be able to name an emotion that leads you toward overeating

new2me2: congrats on your first goal!

05-21-2010, 01:08 PM
Hi Everyone,
Had another good day today and only ate planned foods. Now gone 4 nights and no food in front of the TV. Though I did give in last night and had an apple in the family room (no TV on) but this eating it with my left hand is hard to get use too.
Credit- Refused mud cake in art class today.
Went out with friends for tea and only drank water.

New2me2 Well done on your first goal.

Shepherdess: Good thinking to go without your afternoon snack, glad it worked out

Lexxiss, That great your friend remembered will have to teach my friends. Are you involved in the dog world as I am here in WA

Beverlyjoy, Good on you for staying in your calorie range. The scales are a problem of the opposite for me; I want to get on them a few times a day when I am dieting. Have them where I pass them all day. Have been learning to do it only once a day and the temptation to get on again at night is strong but I have resisted. I find it funny recommending to weigh in everyday as most diets say no, but my counsellor said it would make me see that your weight fluctuates up and down.

Gardenerjoy: Well done on your 3mile walk that would have counteracted the downhill slide

BillBlueEyes: Yes we have that same problem in Australia packets going down and prices going up.

Seadwaters Thanks for looking at the conversions, I probably could use my phone I was just being lazy and seeing if there was a key on here when you filled out you Ticker.


05-21-2010, 03:04 PM
I have a pocket of time to sit while I ice my foot/ankle. It's a good time to catch up here.

New2ne2 - wow, skipping because you weren’t hungry is major. Good for planning for a possible snack at work. So glad to hear about your being five pounds down! You said - Speaking of vacation, I'm already planning how to manage that. I definitely want to keep my Beck principles so I'm going to take the book, my diary, cards, etc., and I'll do a quick check-in here as many days as I can. Major Credit for planning ahead! It was helpful to me to do that when I traveled last winter.

Wndranne - walking the line is better than being off the line. Enjoy your outdoor time!

Seadwaters - you’ve done so much! Many credits to you. I am glad you are able to keep in touch via your phone. Credit for making it work for you!!

Billbe - In that voice reserved for small children, idiots, and old people, the guy carefully explained which was my right hand, which my left and how to try to connect them behind my back. Sounds like this guy was the ‘idiot’! Glad your lunges and squats were good. All that work at the gym really does pay off. I’ve also noticed that many foods are changing quantity but not price. That has come into play a couple of times when making a recipe that calls for a ‘can or box’ of this or that.

Lexxiss - your pooch parade/fundraiser sounds so good! It’s nice to be part of something special like that. WOW - how nice to have the apricots available instead of gooey cupcakes. Credit to this person and you for letting this person know.

Shepardess - credit for skipping your snack because you ‘just weren’t hungry’. I think it’s a major step in a healthy approach to food to be able to do this. Well done! I’ve seen a killdeer to the ‘decoy dance’ too. It’s fun.

silver birch - being able to ‘name that feeling’ is so good and important. I am glad you stopped by!

gardener joy - even though you are stuck - I am glad to hear it’s a better place than last time it happened. Try and plan for a healthy day - I think it’s all we can do while we figure things out.

Thistime7 - I am very intrigued by you eating with your left hand. I think, of course, it would make you eat slower and more mindfully, I guess. Keep us posted on how that is going. How long will you need to do this. Credit for not watching tv while eating. You are inspiring me to be more careful about this! Thanks.

05-22-2010, 01:11 AM
Hi coaches
I am amazed at how much I can eat on 2000 cals. Let's see if I lose weight - today I was up .8 lb but that doesn't mean a lot. I will see how it goes over the month. I agree with Shepherdess - it is probably better to keep a
paper journal for planning and logging food as I will have a reference for future meals so the computer dying may be a blessing. I am also forced to find other things to do with my time - don't realize how much time I spend at the desk. Today is a bit off plan and I am having no exercise. The rest is nice. I am planning meals and shopping so hopefully the rest of the week will go smoothly

ThisTime - I too am from Australia and I have decided it is easier to do weight and signature in lbs - shows changes more quickly too! But the Beck green book meal plans are all ounces / pounds / calories which is a bit challenging. even a US cup is different! Most books these days have metric and imperial. Maybe the next edition. Certainly not on the website but I might email her.

That's as much mini typing as the fingers can cope with coaches.


05-22-2010, 01:51 AM
Hi seadwater,
Yeah it certainly sounds a lot more in pounds I think I will stick to that on line once I get my Ticker, still got a couple of weeks to go. Yes the recipes in pound is a bit of a hassle, like you say the normal have both in international books. Going to find a conversion chart and put in the back of my diary for quick references. Like your carrots for every 5 lbs I might have to follow you in that as it looks great.
Cheers ThisTime7

05-22-2010, 06:30 AM
Hi all :) Out of hospital now, thank goodness :) Bit of a bum though, I'm not allowed to so much as go out in public in case I catch something and get an infection for a while...argh! Also, I'm not allowed to do exercise or anything that gets my heart going for 2 weeks :( meh. On a lighter note, looking through my Beck book it looks like I have been doing the tasks in days 7, 8 and 9 naturally through dieting anyway, for example, as soon as I started dieting I changed the bowls I was using to smaller ones so my portions looked more satisfying. I also naturally plan ahead and have oodles of time for dieting (being a student n' all!). I think I'll pause my progress through the book now until I can get back to exercising in a few weeks and just keep up with the tasks so far.

Still steadily losing weight (yay :)) so I'm all good at the mo.

Will check back soon, hope everyone is well.

Jo x

05-22-2010, 07:17 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Spent two hours at an evening meeting with a table of snacks in front of me having planned in advance to use NO CHOICE, which I did. I kept telling myself that it was pretty mediocre food and that I had a California Navel Orange at home for my evening snack; CREDIT moi.

At gym, CREDIT moi, I worked harder on form in my lunges feeling rather pleased that I had aced the lower body flexibility test the previous day. However, I didn't do anything about the upper body flexibility - gotta get myself back into a Pilates class or something to work that.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Ouch for stuck; Yay for knowing what you have to do this time around.

Shepherdess - LOL at the Killdeer doing its broken wing thing while the intended audience ignores it. Good job having an immediate response to a larger lunch; my take is that's what Beck suggests thin people would do; maybe it's creeping into your brain.

Beverlyjoy - My take on the weighing daily is that it's a personal choice. I do it daily because I have to see a string of numbers before I believe I can estimate the right value. A single reading doesn't particularly move me one way or the other since I believe (read it on the internet) that about 13 pounds of matter goes in and out on an average day and that most days aren't perfectly balanced. For folks who take each reading very seriously, less often than daily would seem appropriate.

Yep, we've been hit with the "many foods are changing quantity but not price" mucking up our recipes. DW had worked out her recipe for cranberry relish based on one pound bags of fresh cranberries. They re-sized to 3/4 pounds and oranges don't come in 3/4 units, LOL.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yep, 2000 chosen calories can be a lot of food. Congrats on finding the silver lining for a failing hard disk.

silverbirch - "Resentment" is such an insidious feeling; Monster Kudos for outing it and giving it its name. I have that one big time and don't usually spot it until I wonder why I've already eaten in a situation that I usually pass without difficulty. For me, it's the little bitty resentments that have impact - the big ones I can see and know to wrestle with. And thanks for the suggestion that one contributor to inflexible upper body is muscles; I'll savor that for a spell, before I look in the mirror, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - I am so stealing "the icing is dyed crisco" - that's priceless. Yay for dried apricots - real food - with Triple Yay for having only three, since a whole bag of them is also real food but not likely on-plan, LOL.

new2me2 - Yay for your 5 pounds mini-goal with Kudos for planning a reward. I'm a big fan of the soaring Bald Eagle. Planning your eating before a vacation is so Beck!

ThisTime7 - Huh? "Refused mud cake in art class today." What does are class make mud cake out of? Yay for continuing to eat with your left hand - that would sure get my attention.

Readers - day 28
Get Ready to Weigh In

Once I learn to use the scale
as information to guide my efforts,
dieting will be easier.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 205.

05-22-2010, 07:54 AM
Hi beck folks -

Yesterday was on plan - am grateful for that. I am off to to the plant swap. It rained all night - but, looks like we might dodge the rain today. Time will tell.

I've planned to have only ONE take at the potluck table - make healthy choices and have one cookie -if anything like that. NO CHOICE to things I don't NEED. My friend is making a hot pasta dish. So I can have a spoonful of that and my healthy veggies.

Have a great day.

05-22-2010, 09:20 AM
I'm totally new here....I've got the books, got the desire and am going to dive in. I'm not even on day one yet, but will get myself in gear and post here.

May take me awhile to poke around and see where to post what, but count me in !

I'm a 66 year old grandmother of 2 boys, teach horseback riding as my retirement job, live in Pacific Northwest ( Eastern Washington), married 40 years this July, and generally of a happy disposition. I have type 1.5 diabetes, which complicates the dieting, but makes it more mandatory than ever.

I'll figure out how to get an avatar and get a signature line later I guess.


05-22-2010, 10:04 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

Lost my entire post! Oh, well (Beck technique). I read everyones posts, and I'll retry from memory-a condensed version;
*credit* to everyone today for continuing to practice tasks designed to help us lose weight AND keep it off!

ponee, :welcome2: Books and desire to dive in are a winning combination! I've been here just long enough to get through the individual days just once, and am finding the steps very helpful. Best wishes to you. Do you live in fruit country?

BillBlueEyes, I'm enjoying my navel orange right now! Love them!

Beverlyjoy, good luck on your plantsale/potluck

ThisTime7, thanks for sharing your tasks. Great that your counselor got to hear Dr. Beck and bring her ideas back to you. What dog activities are you involved in? Mine go to the hospital for visits and I work with a rescue group.

jynx, sending patience your way for quick recovery!

seadwaters, great job with exercise and posting from your phone.

gardenerjoy, *credit* for noticing your better place.

new2me2, where are you going on vacation? *credit* for your first Beck mini goal.

silverbirch:wave: I love blinding insights and happen to be looking for one right now! :lol:

Shepherdess, enjoy your weekend! Your weather must be improving-ours is! What is your altitude? I'm at 5500 and BTW consider you to be right over that North hill!

wndranne, how was your triathalon style workout? Epic, I hope.

I hope I didn't miss anyone, I'm finding a little distraction factor as it gets nicer outside. I've already had two mini walks this morning, one with each pup, the first was also a pre-dawn lilac raid. I don't think my neighbors mind. :lol: Our whole valley smells of lilacs and fruit trees and I'm going to enjoy a bike ride up to a yard sale very soon. Eating is mindful and not too bad during a very hard time. My friends memorial is later this afternoon. I will do my best today.

05-22-2010, 11:04 AM
I basically got myself back on track yesterday, even if the scale didn't show it. And today I have a written plan -- one that does not include eating anything at this morning's Flowers and Food Festival that I'm going to with a friend. I'll shop the flowers, but window-shop the food.

WI: +0.3kg, Exercise: +75 995/1400 minutes for May, Food: 80%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

ThisTime7: great job resisting mud cake. Around here, we have something called Mississippi Mud Cake -- I wonder if it's the same thing. At any rate, the stuff is practically lethal, so I'm very impressed that you resisted.

seadwaters: thanks for continuing to check in despite your computer challenges.

jynx: glad you are out and doing well! Could you do some low key things that make you feel like you're exercising but don't raise your heart rate -- some light stretching or easy yoga poses?

BillBlueEyes: yay for using NO CHOICE -- I'll think of your example at the Festival this morning.

Beverlyjoy: hope your plant swap was goes wonderfully -- it sounds great!

ponee: welcome!

Lexxiss: sending you warm and healing thoughts today -- good for you for seeking out distractions in nature.

05-22-2010, 11:10 AM
My run yesterday was made more exciting by a new pair of running shoes. I don’t know why a new pair of shoes can boost my motivation to run, especially since they are the same make and model as my last two pairs of running shoes. I guess it’s just seeing clean shoes on my feet.

We had a celebratory dinner last night with DH’s family. I avoided the appetizers and desserts that people kept insisting I needed and stuck to a salad for dinner. I would normally allowed for something extra, but DH and I were meeting friends afterward for a glass of wine. I followed my plan for those two events. We got home way past my bedtime and I was pretty hungry. It was a legitimate hunger since the salad was smaller than my normal dinner. I wound up overdoing it on crackers and hummus. I’ve decided to make a rule: “No eating if it’s past my bedtime.” Even if I do have a legitimate reason to eat something, like last night, I am too tired to make rational decisions about food.

SilverBirch, great job naming that emotion. I should pay more attention to my emotions and find patterns like that. I’m never good at paying attention to my emotional states.

New2me2, congrats on reaching that 5 lb goal! Your vacation whim sounds like fun. Kudos for planning ahead so you stay on track.

Gardenerjoy, it’s great that you know what you need to do to get unstuck. I think that’s one of the long-term Beck benefits, that getting back on track becomes easier and easier.

ThisTime7, great job on 4 days staying on plan and for no more eating in front of the TV. It is so easy to overeat with the TV distraction. Kudos for skipping the mud cake. I’m assuming it’s different from the mud cakes my nieces and nephews like to make, LOL.

Seadwaters, it’s great that you are being so rational about your weigh-in and are giving the diet some time to see how it works. One thing I like about the Beck approach is how it encourages experimenting. It’s not about the quick weight-loss solution; it’s about finding out what works best for your body.

Jynx, glad you’re out of the hospital and giving yourself the time to recover. Yay for already doing the Beck tasks and I think you’re smart to stick to what you have been doing so far until you are fully recovered and ready to move forward.
BillBE, kudos for sticking to that “NO CHOICE.” It’s a powerful response if we’re willing to use it. Yay for the fitness fair giving you an extra motivation to do those lunges. Thanks for the encouragement that I may be picking up some thin thought patterns.

Beverlyjoy, kudos for multi-tasking and posting while you’re icing your foot. Crossing my fingers that you will have clear skies for your plant swap and hoping you bring home lots of fun things for the garden!

Welcome Ponee! I love that you’re so eager to jump in. I grew up in E. Wash in the little town of Brewster, so you’ve just made me very nostalgic. It’s a great part of the country! What is type 1.5 diabetes?

Lexxiss, ouch for losing your post. I’ve had to start writing my posts on Word and cutting and pasting them to the website because I lose my posts on a regular basis. We’re at about 5500 ft. here as well. The city of Casper is just over 5000 and we’re just a bit higher out here, which makes our everything out here bloom two weeks later than in town. Sending you a hug while you attend your friend’s memorial.

05-22-2010, 12:52 PM
Hi guys,
Hope everyone had a good day. Went to dog show today and didn’t take my food, managed to get a roll for lunch, even though I was freezing and the hot food at the shop looked inviting. Use my thoughts to steer away from it. Got another show tomorrow so have made lunch already so that I can’t say ‘I don’t have time for an excuse in the morning. “
Have gone 5 nights now and no eating after tea in front of the TV. I can’t believe that I have managed to go that long and only one night I had a planned apple.

BillBlueEyes: Well done on not eating the meeting snacks. Love that mud cake in art I didn’t realize when I wrote it, they did have clay there to. LOL

Beverlyjoy: What is a plant swap probably will ask question like this a lot as our terminology is different down under.

Ponee: Welcome. I have only just joined recently too and found this forum great and informative. It makes me accountable to online buddies and coaches.

Lexxiss Good on you for keeping yourself distracted, the dogs would be good for that. Thoughts are with you as you go to your friend memorial. Annoying you lost your post. Just going into winter here in Perth, I would love to be in your valley with the smell of the lilacs and fruit trees. I am involved in showing Labrador Retrievers and in the guide dog program.

seadwaters: Where about in Sydney are you. Have you been able to buy a calorie book here in Australia as I only have a very old one and all the rest are kilograms. Hope you sort out your computer problems.
jynx, Hope you’re on the mend. Good time to get into the books while you are laid up.

Shepherdess That’s one of one of my bad habits Shepherdess going out and doing the right thing, then I come home late and get into crackers and dips. I call myself a cupboard eater as I am so well behaved when I am socializing then come home and go for it. This is one of the reason my counsellor has me eating with my left hand and in the family room if I want after tea snacks. I call myself a cupboard eater like the Alcoholics I do it when no-one is watching.

Gardenjoy Yes our mud cake is lethal, I think it would be the same as Mississippi Mud Cake.

Cheers ThisTime7

05-22-2010, 04:21 PM
Thanks for the welcome. I am in wheat and lentil country, south of Spokane.
Very rural and no humidity in the summer !!

Type 1.5 diabetes is LADA....Late Autoimmune Diabetes of I am insulin dependent, not insulin resistant. My Mom got this at age 41, and I got it at age 58.

So far today I've not read while eating breakfast, left a bite on my plate ( for the chickens), and kept track of calories. This is a first for me. I have to monitor so many things, but I can do it !


05-22-2010, 11:29 PM
Good evening all! Had a great day today! Was down almost half a pound, had a great massage and my neck feels MUCH better after a painful couple of days. I stuck to my food plan, even had to cross something off, lol. Every Saturday I spend the morning with my mother and aunt. We always go to the same store, and that store has a Starbuck's in it. I wrote one on my food plan for today, but as fate would have it, today they wanted to go to a different store, lol. So yay, cross off. :) I could have stopped on the way home, but just decided I could wait for another day.

No exercise today...taking a rest day to give my neck a good chance to calm down.

gardenerjoy: You said: But I know what to do to get going -- a better place to be than the last time I was stuck. Wow, that's a huge credit!

ThisTime7: You are doing so well with no food in front of the TV!! Great job! And, OMGosh, huge credit for refusing mud cake!!!

seadwaters: I hear ya on the wasting time at the computer thing... :o

jynx: Glad you are out of the hospital and hope are feeling good. Congratulations on steadily losing weight! That's the best way, lol.

BillBlueEyes: Wow, wonderful job at sitting in front of the snack and sticking to no choice!

Beverlyjoy: Your plan sounds like a good one. Having a strategy for potluck is a really good idea! :)

ponee: WELCOME!!! I've only been here a couple of weeks myself. Great job on leaving a bite and keeping track of calories!!!

Lexxiss: I'm going to Alaska on a cruise. This will be my second time there. We went in September of last year and I loved it even though it rained most of the time, lol. The forecast is cold and rainy this time too, but I'll be prepared. Your lilacs sounds WONDERFUL!

Shepherdess: I find new workout wear motivating I think. Maybe it's a little symbolic to me of starting fresh, even if I've been steadily working out. Great job on resisting the food pushers!! Ouch on the crackers, but now you know and you've got a great plan!

05-23-2010, 06:52 AM
:welcome: ponee :welcome:

And, on the occasion of your first post, :wel3fc:

How did you find the Beck books?

And how did you find 3 Fat Chicks and this thread?

05-23-2010, 06:55 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Was out on my bike for a spell, CREDIT moi. Yay for that kind of weather. And finally got the tomato plants into the ground with DW.

Encountered a street vendor selling Italian Sausages - one of my favorite foods since forever. The good news is that ignoring them wasn't a huge wrestling match; they just weren't about me. Prior to my journey, I'd have had one, unrelated to any meal, or struggled with not having one. I'll take the CREDIT moi even though it wasn't a struggle.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Kudos for having a written plan in advance of your Flowers and Food festival. The word festival enters my sub-conscious as permission to overeat or why else would they be having a festival, LOL.

Shepherdess - Yay for the joy of new running shoes, especially since they provide new motivation. Good job handling the expectations of others by sticking to your plan when eating with the in-laws.

Beverlyjoy - Hope the plant swap went well and that you brought home no more than you have room for. Kudos for planning your strategy for the potluck in advance.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Yay for good walking weather. This is yard sale season around here also, so I walk with a backpack so I can indulge. A yard sale bargain makes my heart soar, but lately I've gotten an even bigger high from self righteously NOT buying stuff I didn't need, LOL.

new2me2 - That's a big deal to decide that you can skip the Starbucks rather than to make it up; Kudos.

jynx - Glad you survived the hospital and can start healing. Ouch for a two week quarantine, that's no fun. Kudos for inventing the smaller bowls strategy on your own - you might just be intuitive about this stuff.

ThisTime7 - I googled mud cake - actually, I hadn't heard of it; just from reading the recipes you deserve Kudos for turning that down. And Kudos for continuing to avoid eating after tea.

ponee - Yep, just diving in is the way to go. Which Beck book are you going to read first? And Kudos for leaving a bite on your plate already; that's a hard one for me. I like your idea of leaving it for the chickens; my DW says that I can leave it for her pet worms in our compost bin, LOL.

Selecting an Avatar is easy: [User CP] --> [Select Avatar] then just choose one of the zillion available or to the picture on your own computer to be uploaded. The site doesn't allow a ticker for 20 days and 20 posts - bummer, but it's one of those things required to deter SPAM - so you don't have to think about that part for three weeks.

Readers - [B]day 29
Resist Food Pushers

Many of the dieters I've counseled have told me they "had to eat" to avoid hurting someone's feelings, even though they knew it meant straying from their diet. Bill, for example, told me that he felt he had to eat whatever his wife prepared for dinner. Allison told me she always ate a piece of whatever baked goods her coworkers brought to work. Melissa never refused the desserts her mother-in-law made. They all were certain that even a polite refusal of food would offend the other person.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 207.

05-23-2010, 07:54 AM
Hi Beck coaches/buddies/friends...

The plant swap was a huge success - some 130 people and about 2300 plants. It only rained for five minutes (yay). I've been nervous about the potluck. However, I started to plan early in the week my strategy. I knew that I would bring some healthy veggie dish and my friend was bringing a hot Italian pasta dish. That is what I planned to have with any fresh fruit or veggies available. I allowed myself a cookie, if I wanted it. So when I was faced with 5 huge picnic tables of every kind of food you could imagine....I took what I planned, sat away from that area and had no second helpings. Credit On the dessert table there was a sea of homemade cookies, pies, bars, candy, etc - and one smiling bowl of fresh stawberries. I looked past the others and had some of the berries - Credit I had DH take charge of helping to set up the food- so I didn't have to deal with handling or setting it up. Credit

I couldn't have had more than 400 calories. This is a HUGE victory for me. I am so grateful.

Today is a quiet day - DH will get things planted and we will relax after that. I think my mom will come over for dinner.

thistimeseven - a plant swap is a designated time where folks get together and trade their extra plants for some new ones. That way people get rid of their extra plants (from self seeding or dividing large plants) and then get some new plants for free.

05-23-2010, 08:39 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

I'm so grateful for 3fc and newfound friends. Posting every day has meant I never have to be alone in this journey. This morning has been good...the memorial was very soothing and I am sinking back into my comfort zone of clean eating habits. Cookies are headed to the dumpster (thanks Beverlyjoy) when I walk to the lilac grove, and healthy OP treat will go in the oven upon my return. ..white bean and kale soup will be finished as well. I still have the hurdle of the Pooch Parade fundraiser and will attend knowing I'll be way too busy to eat, but that a healthy dinner will greet me upon my return. *credit* today for persisting in healthy habits. My plan is to actually be ready and get to the pool this AM before heading to the park.

BillBlueEyes, my inclination would be to give *credit* because resisting sausages was not a struggle. I am finding that certain foods that used to turn on the drool mechanism just don't appeal to me anymore. As to "festivals", after I had started my journey we ended up at one and DH was so excited to share a funnel cake with me. After casually explaining he was welcome, but I just wasn't able to share he ate one himself and has never ordered one since-it was the sharing that was pleasurable to him and we've since found better choices for "sharing". I have a worm bin, too. Perhaps we're related through

gardenerjoy, I hope you got some wonderful flowers! *credit* for window shopping the food ! I'll remember that-it's very cute.

Shepherdess, I love new shoes-just like the old ones, too. The problem is keeping the new ones nice. *credit* for resisting food pushers who meant well because you had a plan. *credit* for making a new rule.

Beverlyjoy, *credit* for "a HUGE victory" at the potluck. lol for planning a week ahead! It worked!

new2me2, "just decided I could wait for another day." *credit* Such a powerful decision! September is beautiful in Alaska, and cold and rainy is just how it is.

jynx, :wave:

ThisTime7, *credit* for recognizing your habit of doing fine at events, but making detours to kitchen cupboards upon returning home. My habit, too, which I'm working on changing. Hope your 2nd show went well-I have a hard time comprehending the time difference AND you reminded me, the opposite season. BTW-My very close friend has close ties to the guide dog community here.

ponee, "wheat and lentil country" reminded me of Contrary do your lentils grow? I eat lots of them on my food plan. *credit* for leaving a bite for the chickens...Yes, monitoring is quite a task when starting out. *credit* for recognizing you can do it.

Ok, lilacs and doggies are calling my name!

05-23-2010, 10:34 AM
I found myself resenting yesterday how little bread I get to eat and still lose weight, but all is forgiven this morning with a new low. I'm not completely sure my emotions should be that dependent on the scale number, but, for this morning, I'll take it.

WI: -0.75kg (new low), Exercise: +40 1035/1400 minutes for May, Food: 95%op, Read my Advantages and Responses: yes

Shepherdess: glad you're enjoying your new shoes and that they make you want to run!

ThisTime7: great job on fixing lunch when your experience showed that would be better for you.

ponee: way to go with counting calories and keeping track of things!

new2me2: so glad that the massage worked well for you

BillBlueEyes: yes, indeed, about "festival" as a food occasion. Good job on making the sausages not about you -- that definitely deserves a credit, struggle or not.

Beverlyjoy: so glad for the big success of the plant swap. And great job on handling the pot luck.

Lexxiss: good to see that much is going well for you in the midst of a challenging time.

05-23-2010, 11:46 AM
Hi Everyone,
Been to dog show again today and took own food for lunch this time. Went well until the other girls brought out the dip, cheese and bickies was weakened here and should of moved my chair but hand just kept reaching out. Realized what I was doing and moved my chair. Need to make a new response card tonight on this

Credits - 6 nights still no eating after tea.
Refused wine at show and stuck with Pepsi max

BillBlueEyes Well done on the bike ride and resisting the street vendor. I hope I can get like that when the aromas are drawing me into the vans.

Gardenerjoy Glad you had a drop this morning. Those bloody scales can really get our emotions up and down. Even when you have had a really good day they just don’t seem to budge. My counsellors says that’s why Beck get you to weigh every day so that you realize it can go either way then you get the big drop. I walk past mind and want to 2nd weigh but now that it’s allowed only once a day it’s a real test for me, as I want to get back on and check Ha Ha

Beverlyjoy Ghee plant swap sounds great haven’t seen this done is Australia but then maybe the gardening clubs do. Well done on on strategy with the food you planned well and stuck to it.

Lexxiss Yeh it’s not only time difference but seasons too I am still getting use to what time you are when I am posting. Well done for not letting your sad day take over your food plan. Have fun at the pooch parade I have just got home from a show.

new2me2 – Great will power on missing Starbucks and losing half a pound.
ponee – Well done for leaving a bite on your plate. I found this hard too as you always eat everything on your plate no matter how full you are.

Cheers ThisTime7

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05-23-2010, 05:47 PM
Good afternoon everyone! It was a beautiful morning, and I needed some things at the store, so I walked. It's only a few blocks, and instead of coming back the way I came I walked around the other way which is a bit longer. I also did 1 hour of my Wii game Walk it Out, and a little lower body toning.

Today is day 22, Say, Oh, Well to Disappointment. A couple of things really stood out to me, so I wrote them on a 3x5 card and as soon as I get my signature, I'll put them there too, lol. I plan to review these everyday:

1. It takes time to change a mindset that took years to form. (for when I feel impatient)

2. Oh well means "I don't like this but I'm going to accept it and move on!"

3. I can struggle with what I have to do and feel bad or I can accept that this is just the way it is! (for so many areas of my life, lol). I've already done this with the gluten/dairy stuff and it's helped a lot when eating out with friends and situations like that.

Today was also my official weigh-in...1 week after starting the diet part of it. So, in this one week I've lost 2.6 pounds, yay, and a total of 5.6 pounds since starting the book 22 days ago.

BillBlueEyes: Wow, great job on resisting those sausages! Major credit.

Beverlyjoy: Very impressive and great job on passing up 5 picnic tables full of food!!!!! And, great job on no second helpings and having berries for dessert!

Lexxiss: Yay for you taking the cookies to the dumpster!!

gardenerjoy: Congratulations on your new low!!!

ThisTime7: Credit for moving your chair!!! There's a sentence somewhere in the pink book about giving yourself credit for stopping at any point!

05-24-2010, 05:44 AM
Hi Coaches
I picked up the computer today and they didn't have to replace the hard disk which means I don't have to spend days reinstalling everything so I am happy!

I will do a quick check-in tonight and tomorrow morning will try to catch up with your posts.

Credits - :flow2:
- Read A&R cards - once
- Planned my day - YES
- Made food plan - YES
- Food on-plan - Definitely
- Posted to the list - Yes
- Ate mindfully and seated every time - YES
- Put down fork occasionally - Will try tonight
- Weighed myself - YES - 217.8lb - I actually accidentally put 119 a few days ago and was congratulated on my fabulous weight loss by some very observant coach - I went back and corrected it. LOL - if only
- Drank water - More than usually
- Exercise - missed today because had to get laptop
- Resistance techniques - Yes - very hungry today and panicked a little but held firm and used the "I will be eating in ..." technique. Resisted chocolate biscuits at lunch - which I didn't resist one day last week
- Consciously gave credit for positive eating / exercise behaviours - I did
Working on - :woops:
Exercise, planning, habits, getting a dancing broccoli by first Sunday in June


05-24-2010, 06:38 AM
Diet Coaches/Buddies - Nibbled from a buffet lunch spread; Ouch, Ouch, Ouch. Exercise was chasing birds; CREDIT moi. It's interesting to be out for several hours and NOT see a single Northern Cardinal - they're nesting and don't want to be seen. So, a large, bright red bird can choose for me not to see it and I don't. There's a lesson in self control for me there, I suppose. If a show off bird like the male Cardinal can choose not to be seen, I should be able to control my nibbling. OK, I admit that there's no logic in the prior sentence, but I need a kick in the pants, LOL.

Joy (gardenerjoy) - Congrats on a new low. LOL at your ambivalence about it inducing a good mood - Yep, revel in it. My DW reminded me recently that the peasants at the time of the French Revolution were eating about 4 pounds of bread each day - and nothing else, of course.

Beverlyjoy - WOW, 2300 plants for 130 people to take home means that everybody gets some 17 plants! Congrats for that success. And Kudos to your DH for fronting for you on the food and then planting your stash from the event. And Kudos to you as well for avoiding all the home made pot luck stuff. You're a more realistic example for me than the Northern Cardinal, LOL.

Cheryl (Seadwaters) - Yay for computer resolution without having to reinstall everygthing; BTDT and don't like it. Ouch for the accidental gain of 100 pounds, LOL.

Debbie (Lexxiss) - Good stuff to have visions of your healthy, on-plan foods. Yep, we're wormmates all right. No doubt they're relatives; mine send greetings to yours - kindly convey.

new2me2 - Thanks for the neat stuff from day 22, Say, Oh, Well to Disappointment - I'm particularly in need of the Oh Well to accepting that I can't just nibble without limits, as if nibbling were an article in the Bill of Rights.

ThisTime7 - Yep, Kudos for continuing your string of not-eating after tea. And Kudos for moving your chair - good strategy, that.

Readers - day 29
Resist Food Pushers

Do you have a similar problem? if so, you probably have two notions that get in the way: The first is that other people's desire to have you eat their food is more important than your desire to lose weight. The second is that it's wrong to stick up for yourself (at least where food is concerned), especially if it means disappointing someone else. I'd like you to think about these two ideas in a different way:

You're entitled to work toward your goal of losing weight as long as you're not maliciously trying to make someone feel bad.
it's okay to disappoint others. Disappointing is a normal part of life. Their disappointment most likely will be mild and fleeting.

The Beck Diet Solution, pg 207.

05-24-2010, 08:05 AM
Hello Beck friends:wave:

My busy day gave me opportunity for another hunger experiment and strengthening of my resistance muscle. I did bring a sandwich for lunch *credit* so was able to turn down free "Subway", and afterwards the free champagne . *credit* I was too busy to eat, and instead had my egg sandwich with a salad for dinner. *credit* for deciding I didn't need a big dinner at 8pm but that it would, in fact, be a good thing to eat the sandwich. Wow! All in all, a good OP day!

Bill, ouch! Oh, well...I love Cardinals, and don't know if they're not here or if I've just never seen them. I saw them often in Hawaii and never tired of looking.

Gardenerjoy, when in doubt, refer to response card #19. Celebrate! I should celebrate each half pound loss! BTW-Congrats!

ThisTime7, I had to look up bickies-got it-cookies. *credit* for extra steps taken to resist. I'm really happy for you, that you have a counselor who is so knowledgable about Beck. I like your temporary ticker, too.

new2me2, *credit* for Sunday exercise..and congrats on WL!

seadwaters, glad your computer is cooperating. I'm going to start looking for a new one. Congrats! on your WL and *credit* for biscuit resistance.

I'm feeling tired. Good to identify and not confuse with hunger. I'll hit the pool this AM and take a break this afternoon.

05-24-2010, 10:09 AM
Thanks Bill.... lets see, found the first Beck book some years ago and did a lot of it, but had no support, except for DH, who is himself a therapist. Got the second book last year and it sat around until I decided to try again. Then I googled Beck diet and found count me IN.

Used to live in Boston/Cambridge/ Sommerville in the 60's and 70s.