Weight Loss Support - Anyone else "not believe" when they lose weight?




Gold32
04-20-2010, 05:06 PM
So first I was like, :eek:
Then I was like, :D
But then I went back to, :eek:
And I want to be more like, :carrot:
But I'm not. :(

Ok, I had entirely way to much fun playing with smileys. Sorry about that. Ok, not really. :D

Seriously though, after a week or two of my weight stalling, I got on the scale this morning and it was 2 pounds lower. Making it the first official 10 pounds lost. But for some reason, my brain was just didn't believe it. Like, how can that be? Is that possible?

Maybe I just don't want to believe it, because the second I do, I'll get lazy again. I've done it so many times. Like somehow, because I lost weight, it's permission to eat more. It doesn't make any sense.

But yeah, even with that, I just don't believe that ME, I, MYSELF could ACTUALLY be LOSING weight.

I'm probably weird, I'm sure everyone else was or will be like, :carrot: when they hit the big markers. Did the, "not believing it" happen to anyone else?


Arctic Mama
04-20-2010, 05:33 PM
It took me awhile to believe I was actually 'doing it', since I had hver really set out to lose weight before. But trust me, be consistent and your own progress will make it real to you :)

pihlaja
04-20-2010, 05:49 PM
I empathise so much with you, Gold32! My S.O. is constantly tell me I look like I'm losing weight, and occassionally the measurements I take reflect this, but the scale is not really budging that much. And I know (on a logical level) that just because the scale doesn't move doesn't mean I'm NOT losing weight, and the measuring reflects this, but I still don't believe it. I don't feel like I've lost anything at all (except when I wiggle into my Spanx, but that's another story entirely :rolleyes: ).

Congrats on the 10lb mark! You're doing great! :hug:


JennieLovesKisses
04-20-2010, 05:56 PM
I know how you feel...I still can't believe I dropped almost 100lbs. It feels like just yesterday I was laying in bed 300lbs thinking to myself "how am I going to lose all this weight..." I almost have to remind myself I'm not 300lbs anymore, and I think wow...in another year, maybe less, will I be thinking this same thing about my weight now? I really can't wait for that moment! haha

Congrats on your first 10lb loss, you will be at your goal before you know it!

Aclai4067
04-20-2010, 06:00 PM
I get bouts of not trusting the scale like that, especially after a stall or on weeks when I feel I "didn't earn it." Give it time to catch up to you. You'll be doing this :carrot: eventually. And until then, keep working hard because it IS paying off!

angelskeep
04-20-2010, 06:07 PM
I always feel that way on the scale. In my fat pants, which are now sliding down m backside whenever I am walking through walmart or somewhere else, not so much. :rofl: I guess I believe my clothes more easily than I do the numbers. And I feel like I have such a long way to go. Each one or two pounds doesn't seem like very much to me. BUT it does all add up, little by little. And thankfully, the total looks *bigger* to me than the weekly amount. It's really crazy, huh? I can't even bear to think about how long it will take to get to goal, just keep moving through it day by day for now.

Barb

motivated chickie
04-20-2010, 06:24 PM
I know exactly how you feel. When I see a loss on the scale I think "I'm dehydrated." The scale is broken.

I can't believe I am really doing this. In the past, I my weight would go up and down & now it is really going down.

I am starting to believe that I might hit goal. But I get really scared that this is all a dream.

Aubrey87
04-20-2010, 06:28 PM
i feel the exact same way!! especially the whole losing weight and eating more thing! like this morning i was down 2 lbs and had a doughnut! why?! bc i'm losing weight so i can indulge? sometimes the brain works in funny ways!

wfonseca3017
04-20-2010, 06:51 PM
I had lose 40 pound and stillnot belive it. So I guess it is normal to fell like that. Just keep going.
Congrats in yours 10's

Gold32
04-20-2010, 08:04 PM
Thank you everyone!!! It is so good to know that I'm not a freak. (At least in this anyway! :lol:)

Seriously, you all are AWESOME. I am continually thankful for finding this website, with so many helpful, wonderful ladies (and a gent or two ;)).

juliastl27
04-20-2010, 09:16 PM
yes yes yes yes. i still think this all the time. i hold up my own clothes and think, these are too small, they wont fit, i must have shrunk them in the dryer.

i wonder if it ever goes away because i still have total fat girl self esteem. maybe the last few will help.

caryesings
04-21-2010, 08:56 AM
You'd think after losing 80 lbs. in a year, I'd believe it, wouldn't you? Nope, every month (except the one that I only lost 1 lb), I think I just happened to catch a good day...

I have been trying to make sure I get rid of clothes as they get too big, BUT have a hard time judging the "too big". My beau and a male friend often have to tell me it's time to retire something from the closet. And I can't tell you how many items I missed the chance to wear because I didn't try them on, thinking they'd still be too small.

BeachBreeze2010
04-21-2010, 09:23 AM
It is a very weird process. These last few weeks especially for me. The faster the weight comes off, the more confused I get. On one hand, I see that I am down 35lbs and think GREAT! Then, I look at myself in recent pictures and still see a fat person. I see myself looking thinner in the mirror. I have dropped two sizes, but its still hard to wrap my head around it. I guess for me, I had two black and white dichotomies - I am either fat or thin. There isn't a middle. Well, now I am in this middle and not sure what or how to think about it. I will say that I am SUPER excited about the next 35lbs!! At that point, I will think of myself as thin. It's still not goal, but it will mean so many awesome things.

That first 10lbs was such a great feeling. It was the, "Oh my gosh, I am doing this!" feeling. It was starting to sink in that all of my goals really were possible. There were so many great things floating through my head and I just loved seeing the clothes fitting differently. I probably felt more beautiful then than I have this past week. All of the possibilities and wonder and expectations swept me away. Maybe I'm just in a bit of a lull now, I'm sure that will come back soon.

CONGRATS! on those first 10lbs! You CAN do this!!!

beansmama
04-21-2010, 10:22 AM
Totally!

I haven't had batteries in my scale for about 6 months. On occasion I would use the doctor's scale where I work...in the afternoon, clothes on, shoes on...Anyway, I just started CC a few days ago and hubby put new batteries in the scale last night. When I saw 212 this morning I was like :?: I moved the scale to five different locations throughout the house :dizzy: with the same results. I feel closer to my goals. YAY

Aunty Jam
04-21-2010, 11:53 AM
I know how you feel, I'm still there! I apparently have lost 25 pounds, had to get new clothes, people tell me I look good, hubby tells me I feel different when he hugs me... but I look in the mirror and all I see is fat! The logical part of my brain is slapping me upside the head for being a dummy, but the emotional part is screaming FAT!!! I know I am still over weight but the emotional part of my brain still thinks I'm 185 insted of 160. I wish I knew what the cure was for this.

mateosmama2005
04-24-2010, 01:02 AM
Ive lost 25 and dont believe it...well i mean i believe it because i see the number on the scale but i dont feel it...and I have the exact same problem, sometimes when I weigh in less, for some stupid reason im like ok i can eat this n that because I lost! Than i'll gain it back, and be SO MAD at myself!

PinkHoodie
04-24-2010, 01:09 AM
I think I think about it too much. I will put on some clothes and be like, wow these look better then they have in years. But then I look at myself in the mirror awhile later and just see all the rolls, and the huge belly. Its hard not to do negative self talk. Every pound is a reason to celebrate...its just training yourself to think that way, and I'm trying to figure it out! :)

sweetnlow28
04-25-2010, 08:29 PM
Wow, I am so glad I am not the only one who feels crazy about this whole process :dizzy: I also have to do the scale dance and try it in three different positions before I believe I actually dropped another pound or two. The whole thing still feels surreal and I am constant shock that "I" can actually do this. I have seen others lose weight but I never imagined I could do this as well. I also catch myself eating a little extra after a loss which really scares me. After 45 recent pounds, 71 pounds altogether, I still frequently see a really fat person with occasional glimpses of my thinner self. It's a crazy ride, that's for sure ;)

Regera Dowdy
04-26-2010, 02:31 AM
Wow, I am so glad I am not the only one who feels crazy about this whole process :dizzy: I also have to do the scale dance and try it in three different positions before I believe I actually dropped another pound or two.

:yes: I can relate to that, but add an "Oh, the scale broke" in there...

"This scale is broken, I'll try again."
Try again, and the same weight comes up.
"I was standing crooked that time!"
Try one more time, and the same weight comes up again.
"Hmm..."

I fancy myself an intelligent person, but it took me an embarrassingly long time to connect pants falling off, even the ones that used to fit well, with weight loss. :rolleyes: I still don't feel different from when I started, but I hope that by the time I'm in the low 200s I won't be able to deny the difference. I intend to dance like that crazy carrot.

Yes, you know the one. --> :carrot:

I'm not a very tough person, and I haven't been trying hard. I've got it in my head that weight loss is supposed to be hard if you do it right. Maybe I feel like I haven't earned it because it has been smooth sailing so far. It's not something stressing me out, though, because I feel like I've made important changes in how and what I eat. I'll see how I feel when I reach my first mini goal, which is just 9 lbs away.

Gold32
04-26-2010, 12:14 PM
Maybe I feel like I haven't earned it because it has been smooth sailing so far. It's not something stressing me out, though, because I feel like I've made important changes in how and what I eat.

You have a great thought here. I had not considered that first one, that because I don't feel like I've earned it, I don't believe the weight loss. It's true though, this process hasn't been overly hard for me, so it's hard to believe it's working. Good point!

You have another interesting point there, that though you also don't believe the scale, you aren't stressing about it. I'd hazzard a guess that most of us feel that way. I feel good, I'm proud of the changes I've made, even if I have hard time believing their working. Now that doesn't make much sense at all, does it? If I'm proud of the changes, then of course they should work! Gosh, isn't it interesting, the psychological processes that go into weight loss!

Regera Dowdy
04-27-2010, 01:30 AM
...because I don't feel like I've earned it, I don't believe the weight loss. It's true though, this process hasn't been overly hard for me, so it's hard to believe it's working.

I think it was easy to find foods that work for me, healthy things that I love to eat. If that had been a struggle, it would feel like more like progress than just eating what I like. I'm not really complaining...but I'd feel more comfortable with the weight of accountability on my conscience. (Grass is always greener, etc.) When I work more on exercise/portion control, it will feel different because those are hard for me. I'm procrastinating that stage. :o

If I think about it another way, I feel like I've accomplished something. I've eaten too much of a good thing, but I haven't eaten something "forbidden" or that I knew was bad for me. No cheat days and I've been hyper-vigilant about reading labels. That has to be worth a few pounds of weight loss. :D

Gosh, isn't it interesting, the psychological processes that go into weight loss!

Isn't it? Sometimes it makes me think we're crazy. :dizzy:

(Oh, man, I'm in love with these smilies!)

dayoneagain
04-27-2010, 03:59 AM
I think I think about it too much. I will put on some clothes and be like, wow these look better then they have in years. But then I look at myself in the mirror awhile later and just see all the rolls, and the huge belly. Its hard not to do negative self talk. Every pound is a reason to celebrate...its just training yourself to think that way, and I'm trying to figure it out! :)

This is something that happens to me an awful lot. Sometimes I'll have a good day where I look in the mirror and feel GREAT! I'll even say to my SO "OMG, I look so good today!"...... only to find myself all grumpy about how I look half an hour later.

I think it's because I spend too much time dissecting how I look and thinking about every little thing. Although I do think that the more weight I lose, the more time I will be in the the "OMG :D" stage rather than the "blah :mad:" stage.

Eliana
04-27-2010, 09:55 AM
It is the strangest thing, isn't it? It depends on how I catch myself. Sometimes I still wake up and feel like all 235 pounds are back. Then there are days I feel like I'm at goal! :D

The best reminder I have is putting back on some old pants I have. THEN I know how far I've come.

ma26
04-27-2010, 10:04 AM
Ha ha! I love the fun with smileys!
First of ten pounds! You Rock!! :dance:
I definately can relate! It's like you chickes are magical. Even sinceI have been getting on here and posting, and posting daily weigh ins, I have been steadily losing weight! This morning I saw a two pound drop from yesterday. How is it that I could work whard for so long and barely see the scale budge, and in like a week I see three pounds? No way. I'm waiting for it to jump back up any moment. Of course I'm not changing what I'm doing! I live seeing the scale inch towards my goal. But yeah I become quite a skeptical when I see those drops though. But I'd LOVE time to show me how I shouldn't doubt ;)

Veil
04-27-2010, 10:18 AM
I loved reading through this whole thread. YAY US!!!
Yea, I have a love/hate relationship with my scale. It's like it is alive and has an attitude! Some days it is happy, lose 1 pound! Some days it is pissy, gain 3 in water & salt!!

Just a simple "I AM DOING THIS!!!" can help me be a believer =) Yea, I talk to myself ALOT...

Gold32
04-27-2010, 10:33 AM
I loved reading through this whole thread. YAY US!!!


Me too! :D I have to admit that when I started it, I didn't realize it would become that way. But it's like ma26 said- this place seems to be magical. To the "Three Fat Chicks," thank you a million times over!

:goodvibes:

May we all continue to stare in disbelief as the scale slides downwards!