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vixxi
04-17-2010, 09:51 PM
Well, I must say I've never gotten this before. My boyfriend and I were out for dinner at a favorite chinese restuarant and the waitress totally thought I was pregnant!!! :no: I ordered a bowl of chicken rice soup, so she told me as she put it down in front of me that its good for the baby! Lmao, my boyfriend looked at me after she walked away and said "did she just say what I think she said"? Yes, yes she did!! This obviously didn't make me feel good, and my bf tried to play it off that she must of thought I was pregnant because he calls me "baby" a lot, ya, righhhhhtttt. This is the second time in less than a month that someone has mentioned my weight, it's either im twice their size (my wonderful stepfather), or that I'm pregnant! Ugh, well I guess this gives me a little more motivation to lose the weight but at that point I said F*ck it, I'm eating for two lets get some chicken fingers!! Has anything like this ever happened to any of you ladies? She told me "Good Luck" as she put the bill down, and I was just waiting for her to ask when my due date was! I just want some chocolate now! Thanx for listening ladies! :dizzy:


latinhips
04-17-2010, 10:00 PM
yes I have and people can be so rude but I just take it with a grain of salt and ignore stupid people, you where to nice I would have loss my cool,

candy love
04-17-2010, 10:18 PM
someone did that to me, my friend got this new flat so i went to visit her, and her friends mum was round helping her move in, she turned round looked at me never even asked my name and said in an undermining voice "are you pregnant?" I actually felt like crying I was so upset that I quikly made up an excuse to leave and ran as fast as I could home I was in a bummer for ages after it which just made me eat more... I wish I couldav thought of something to make her feel as bad as she made me feel :(


latinhips
04-17-2010, 10:24 PM
well sometimes you just cant help and be mean Im so tire of being the nice fat girl you can use as a punching bag well the next time someone ask me if Im pregnant Im going to say do you know the father? jajaja

mmccurdy
04-17-2010, 10:35 PM
latinhips I love your answer...so funny, I would say something like noooo I just ate a watermelon, hahah but people are stupid..I never being pregnant, but when my sister was, people would ask her are you pregnant duuuhhhh... she would smile and I say no just a little bloated. Cheer up f. them, they are going to feel worse for such an impertinent unrequested opinion.

astrophe
04-17-2010, 10:48 PM
I don't think she meant in in a mean way -- usually people enjoying babies and are trying to congratulate you. They are assuming the best rather than the worst. I mean, I'd rather have the waitress go "Good luck on the baby!" than "Jeez you are incredibly FAT!"

But yes, it can hurt when you really aren't pregnant that people mistake you for it. I've had it happen to me.

A.

Angihas2
04-17-2010, 11:26 PM
It did, we were living in Los Angeles and came out of a supermarket, it happened to be Mother's Day of all days, this total stranger in the parking lot, petted my belly and said, "Happy Mother's Day", i promptly patted her head and said, "Happy Village Idiot Day" and went on about my business. Funnily enough, I actually was pregnant and didn't know it. But I was like, 3 minutes pregnant for the love of asparagus!!

ValentineNicole
04-18-2010, 12:30 AM
It did, we were living in Los Angeles and came out of a supermarket, it happened to be Mother's Day of all days, this total stranger in the parking lot, petted my belly and said, "Happy Mother's Day", i promptly patted her head and said, "Happy Village Idiot Day" and went on about my business. Funnily enough, I actually was pregnant and didn't know it. But I was like, 3 minutes pregnant for the love of asparagus!!

RIGHT when I got pregnant, people started asking me if I was. I don't know HOW they knew. I didn't even know. FWIW, I was only about 130 at the time, so I don't think it necessarily means you look bloated/heavy. I think sometimes people just *know.* If only I'd taken it as a sign! A lady at the grocery said, "It's pretty new, isn't it? When's your due date?" and my friend Greg said, "Oh my God, you're pregnant, aren't you? I know you are." within like...a month of conception? LOL

Gelene
04-18-2010, 02:03 AM
I have had several people say... "I did'nt know you were pregnant?" To which I always reply... "Oh, I am not. I am just fat." Mean, but it turns all the embarrassment back on them.

ttmarie23
04-18-2010, 02:38 AM
See? I'm soooo lucky that my double chin tells people I'm obviously just fat... Yay... Thank God for second (or third) chins *Sarcasm*

vixxi
04-18-2010, 02:45 AM
ah too funny. I know she didn't intentionally mean to hurt my feelings, and honestly, it didn't. I just didn't know I looked pregnant. And geez, I hope she doesn't have that intuition, Im definately not looking to be pregnant at this time in my life! My sister has been asked when she's due as well, and she just looks at the person and says "oh im not pregnant, im just fat", no one really knows what to say to that! lol. But, still its just a little discouraging because most people associate being pregnant with having a large belly. I'll get over it, im just hoping I don't develop my own gravitational pull!

Wannabeskinny
04-18-2010, 10:22 AM
You should have promptly ordered a margarita and lit up a cigarette and freaked her out.

vixxi
04-18-2010, 11:10 AM
You should have promptly ordered a margarita and lit up a cigarette and freaked her out.

Lmao, that would have been HILARIOUS!!! :rofl:

lavenderannn
04-20-2010, 03:57 PM
When I was pregnant and thin, I was so worried that people would mistake me for being fat, that I wore a shirt that said I AM NOT FAT I AM PREGNANT. lol.

When my daughter was in kindergarten, I went to a parent conference and the teacher congratulated me on the new baby. My daughter had told her I was pregnant! This time I was really fat, but not pregnant.

It happens, and it is stupid for people to assume it. Commenting on a person's size, shape or body parts is off limits and inappropriate in my book of manners.

BeeOfTheBird
04-20-2010, 07:38 PM
This still baffles me because, in my opinion, there's a big difference between how someone looks when they're pregnant, and how they look when they're overweight. And in either situation, who's :censored: business is it, anyway? Sheesh...

That being said, it happened to me once, and while it kind of sucked at the time, in retrospect it was pretty funny. Actually, I was at work, and a customer asked me, "Aren't you the girl who was pregnant? Have you had your baby yet?" I was stunned and just gave him a confused stare and stammered, "N-no..." I think it was actually more embarrassing for him than it was for me! ;)

lizziep
04-20-2010, 07:49 PM
while we're at it - i am not only NOT pregnant- i am also no a man, and i am not DEAF!

people. hate them.

lizzybeth81
04-21-2010, 09:19 PM
Last year, I overheard my students talking about me, trying to figure out if I was pregnant. It was a bit of a downer :(

I had the opposite happen yesterday, I was walking by two of my former students and heard one ask the other if I had a baby (assuming that I was pregnant when I was their teacher last year). Then he said, "she looks so different it's crazy."

I'm much happier with them thinking I had a baby than thinking that I am currently pregnant. . . But it's still weird. And I will never get over how much they talk about me when I am standing right there. I love how teenagers think you can't hear things :)

drake3272004
04-21-2010, 11:01 PM
Last year, I overheard my students talking about me, trying to figure out if I was pregnant. It was a bit of a downer

I had the opposite happen yesterday, I was walking by two of my former students and heard one ask the other if I had a baby (assuming that I was pregnant when I was their teacher last year). Then he said, "she looks so different it's crazy."

I'm much happier with them thinking I had a baby than thinking that I am currently pregnant. . . But it's still weird. And I will never get over how much they talk about me when I am standing right there. I love how teenagers think you can't hear things
Yesterday 06:49 PM



I would totally take that as a NSV!!! It sucks when people think you are preggers and you are not, but when a teenager actually notices a change especially when you have lost.....a sign you are doing something right :carrot:

OneStepAtATime
04-21-2010, 11:23 PM
I'm a social worker, and I've had a client ask me if I'm pregnant. I thought it was kind of silly, because my fat isn't solely focused in my belly.

It actually didn't bother me as much as I would have thought, and I still don't know why that is. Probably because knowing this person, it wasn't meant to be mean-spirited. But still, I'm not sure why you'd actually say that to someone. I never, ever assume someone is pregnant, even if it's very obvious...just because goodness knows, the one time I do I'll be wrong :P

SalaamDementia
04-22-2010, 10:28 AM
I've only had this happen once, and whats horrible is I was about 13 or 14 at the time. I went to have some bloodwork done and as the woman was drawing my blood she asks me, when is the baby due?

Yeah, I was crushed. She got all flustered when I told her I wasn't pregnant, I was just fat...

MutableParadox
04-22-2010, 08:50 PM
Had this happen probably about 6 months ago when I was at my HW of 285. I carry ALL of my weight in my tummy. I have PCOS and Diabetes and that tends to not help the matters of tummy fat. I know I look pregnant and am surprised I haven't been asked that before.

I was wearing a shirt that tied right under the boobs so I think it accented my tummy even more. I liked it... I threw it out that night though!

Oh and I just told her that I wasn't and moved on. =) It is definitely not fun to hear though.

Ciao
04-26-2010, 04:26 PM
You should have promptly ordered a margarita and lit up a cigarette and freaked her out.

Haha! I would have loved to see her expression on THAT! xD

StuffedBunny
04-27-2010, 12:29 PM
I've never been mistaken for being pregnant but once when I was out on a date (and I weighed a much healthier weight at the time, though still a bit "thick") the guy and I were at a little late night diner place after a midnight movie we attended. I ordered a club sandwich and a coke. The waitress says "diet coke?" and I said "No, just coke." and then when she brought the food she put my plate down and says "club sandwich...light on the mayo" and he and I both thought it was way rude to decide my order for me...diet pop, light mayo... so we left her no tip.

ruthi3ann
04-27-2010, 04:32 PM
i am an x-ray tech, and i've had nurses ask me before if i have a safe job for my "condition." it's so difficult to keep your cool in a work environment like that.
i've had people approach me at church, asking if i was excited... and of course i ask, "for what?" and then promptly tell them.. "nope. just fat."

i NEVER assume... i have to ask ppl all the time at work "if there's any chance they might be pregnant" and generally, ppl just say, "nope, had a tubal!" but that is SO different than just approaching someone and asking IF they're pregnant!

drake3272004
04-27-2010, 04:33 PM
I've never been mistaken for being pregnant but once when I was out on a date (and I weighed a much healthier weight at the time, though still a bit "thick") the guy and I were at a little late night diner place after a midnight movie we attended. I ordered a club sandwich and a coke. The waitress says "diet coke?" and I said "No, just coke." and then when she brought the food she put my plate down and says "club sandwich...light on the mayo" and he and I both thought it was way rude to decide my order for me...diet pop, light mayo... so we left her no tip.


The whole diet coke thing has happened to me several times! I don't drink soda on a regular basis, it's a treat, and I HATE diet coke so when I ask for a coke I damn well better get a coke. I have had several people ask me if I meant diet coke OR they will get me diet coke....like I am not going to notice it's diet!:mad: