Weight Loss Support - How long have you been trying to lose weight?

04-06-2010, 10:25 AM
Sometimes when I'm getting discouraged about my weight loss and I try to get myself motivated again one of the most common thoughts my "negative voice" gives me is: You've been working at this for nearly TWO YEARS and you've only lost 50 pounds. It doesn't take normal people that long to lose so little. And you still have 30 left to go.

But actually, I don't really know how long it takes most people to lose. So I'm curious. How long have you guys been trying to lose, and how much do you have to lose/have you lost?

Anne Elk
04-06-2010, 10:31 AM
I never did lose all the baby weight after my last was born and since my youngest is 13 . . . .

I lost 22 lbs about a year ago but fell off the wagon this past year and gained 10 or so back. Gaaaaa. Going at it again. Getting my head in the game is half the battle for me. Slowly getting there . . . .

Right now I feel like 'Crap, I'm 5'2" and weigh 161. Mooooo' and I think 'if only I could get down 10 lbs.' But then I'll get down those 10 and feel like 'Crap, I'm 5'2" and weigh 151. Moooo'. Gotta stay away from that mind-set it does no good. Easier said than done though.

One of the best motivators for me is my clothes getting more comfortable. I know in 10 lbs that they will be bigger on me and am keeping that in my mind rather than focusing on the numbers on the scale.

04-06-2010, 10:31 AM
I have been trying for years. I only recently got my act together and realized that I needed to stop giving myself excuses and actually DO what I knew I had to do, i.e. eat right/portion control and exercise.

I started my (final, hopefully) weight loss attempt in June '09 and lost 20 lbs by October '09. I need to lose a little more than 10 lbs to get to 140. I've been working on these last 10 - 15 since October. I maintained during that time, which is good because at least now I know I CAN maintain. Still, it sucks that in 6 months, I've made ZERO progress. Blah.

04-06-2010, 10:38 AM
5 years now:dizzy:

Yep, i lost most of my weight in the first two years then last September-December i lost another 23lbs.

I guess the most important thing is that ive kept it off. I may have a bad weekend or week but i always workout and keep an eye on my diet. I still have at least 25 more lbs to go until i reach my original goal weight:^:

04-06-2010, 10:41 AM
I have dieted once before and lost weight, but gained it back. I didn't gain any extra I just went back to 250. This time I am doing it more sensible. I'm trying to learn portion control and proper eating. I started again on 12/16/2009. So I have lost 49lbs since then. That might sound like a lot, but after the first week I haven't lost more then 2-3 lbs per week. I do have an occasional big woosh, but I don't think I am losing too rapidly.

It is starting to slow down some. I think it will begin to slow down more, but I don't mind how long it takes. I want to maintain for the rest of my life.

04-06-2010, 10:44 AM
Sometimes when I'm getting discouraged about my weight loss and I try to get myself motivated again one of the most common thoughts my "negative voice" gives me is: You've been working at this for nearly TWO YEARS and you've only lost 50 pounds. It doesn't take normal people that long to lose so little. And you still have 30 left to go.

But actually, I don't really know how long it takes most people to lose. So I'm curious. How long have you guys been trying to lose, and how much do you have to lose/have you lost?

Normal people???? What and who and where are they?

There are no *normal* people. The only one you can and should compare yourself to is YOU.

Do you know how many *normal* people would LOVE to be in YOUR situation? 50 lbs lost over two years? A LOT. A real LOT.

It took me many DECADES to lose the weight. I look back and think of all those false starts, the ones that started out on a Monday and barely made it through to Friday. Maybe I wasn't serious ENOUGH about weight loss, but they never materialized into anything. So I DO count that time. Well, I don't actually think about it much (luckily), but now that it's been brought up, I did.

When I did get totally serious, totally committed and totally determined to lose the weight weight - no excuses, finally, once and for all and permanently, well I lost 154 lbs in 10 months. MAintained that weight for 2 months and decided to drop another 11 lbs, did that a month later. But I chose to stick to my plan day after day, week after week, through holidays, birthdays, stress, weekends, what have you. That was my choice. It isn't for everyone. There IS more than one *right* way to do this.

We are all unique individuals and take different approaches and paths on our journeys.

04-06-2010, 11:13 AM
Do you mean trying, or actively trying? :) Because I've been "trying" to lose weight since I was 12, and I'm now 28. In that time I gained about 100lbs.

I've actively tried to lose weight before, but gained it back. This time, I've been actively working at it since the end of July 09. And I haven't lost all that much, if you'll look at my ticker. It's slow going, and I've been struggling lately, which has shown up on the scale as maintanance. I'm slighly bummed about it, but I'm just so happy I'm not gaining.

This is all to say don't worry how long it takes! You're 50 lbs lighter than you were two years ago, and I bet you're happy with that! Take as long as you want, it's not a race. You lifestyle won't change once you get to the finish line anyway!

Good luck!

04-06-2010, 11:25 AM
I'm 5 months into this particular version of my weight loss journey. I think that it's likely to take me 18 months to 2 years total and that's fine by me, I'm not going anywhere. And I'm eating pretty much what I expect to eat in maintenance, although I keep my splurges (like meals out, alcohol, chocolate, etc.) very minimal at this point and I think in maintenance I will have slightly more flexibility.

If I weight 50 lbs less than I do right now in 2 more years, I won't be completely at goal, but yeah, I'll be VERY happy - it's a whole lot better than going backwards to where I was 2 years and 40+ lbs ago!!

04-06-2010, 11:32 AM
I'm much like Robin. Very much! This time around? It's taken me almost five months now. But my real journey has been ongoing since I got married almost twelve years ago. I've never given up the struggle, though I have become complacent with a whoa-is-me-I-can't attitude.

It takes a lot of soul searching, research and above all PATIENCE for me to lose weight.

04-06-2010, 11:41 AM
Well, if I lose 16 more pounds I'll be back to my pre-pregnancy weight.

Oh, did I mention that my son is nineteen?:D

I started trying to lose weight on June 19th, 2009 and have lost 83 pounds since then, but it took me 19 years of morbid obesity to figure out how to actually do it.

Fifty pounds is a HUGE achievement-- but, also you have to figure in TWO YEARS of not gaining.... During my long stay in obesity land, I ALWAYS WENT UP. Two years of trending down is two years of maintaining a weight lower than the weight you started. Kudos.

04-06-2010, 12:09 PM
It's taken me a year to take off 60 lbs.

I started March of 09, when I was shocked at the number on the scale. 210. Larger than I was at 9 months pregnant. I really couldn't believe it. I was 42, my little one was 2, and I was heavier than I was while I was pregnant. How did that happen...

So I started a modified WW at home. Dropped 25, 30 lbs by summer. Then got stuck. Maintained, but didn't lose. So, in October, I joined a gym. Took off the other 30 lbs.

It's been a relatively slow process, if you figure, it's taken me 12 months to lose 60 lbs, that's 5 lbs a month. But, in a year, that 5 lbs a month adds up. :)

I'm looking to lose another 10 lbs. With the help and advice from my trainer. He's given me 3 months, (12 weeks) to lose between 7 and 10 lbs. I hear the last 10 are always the hardest to lose.

But, looking back, I'm so very proud of myself. I'm healthier, more active, happier.

04-06-2010, 12:10 PM
Oh hun don't be hard on yourself. I've been overweight since I was a child. I've been here at 3fc since 12/2009 and in that time have only lost 35 lbs. I've gone up and down but haven't given up. I've gone through medical conditions and other things that have hindered my loss- but the one thing is I WILL NOT GIVE UP.

Last January 1st was the FIRST year I weighed less than the year before- and this year the goal is to NOT have a new year's resolution to lose weight :) I want to be at goal by the end of the year- I hope to do it- and if not- no big deal- I'm going to keep plugging along till I get there :)

50 lbs is great! It's 50 lbs you have taken off and kept off! Don't focus on the negatives- focus on your accomplishments- write them all down- and if you ever get discouraged read your list to yourself :)

04-06-2010, 12:19 PM
Honestly, I think I have "tried" once - for about three months. I joined WW and lost 15 pounds. It was easy, but I fell off the wagon and gained 20 back. :) My friend who started WW with me the same day has lost almost 200 pounds in 18 months. It kills me. I think she's only gained three times at a meeting in that time period. She's a gym rat now and lives to exercise and I'm so proud of her, though I think in that same time, I could have met my goal if I would have just tagged along with her. I am trying to take it day by day, though some days, it's breakfast to lunch, lunch to dinner and dinner to bed. And I can fall off that wagon at any time during that day. Just gotta pick yourself up and get back on. I have another friend who lost 40 pounds two years ago and has struggled to get off her last 20. I keep reminding her that for two years she has kept that weight off and that's a bigger accomplishment than the last 20 pounds I'm not even sure she needs to lose anyway. Everyone's journey is personal. I get jealous, but I try not to beat myself up either. Something "clicks" in your head - mine clicked on, then clicked off. It'll click on again, just gotta wait it out.

04-06-2010, 12:42 PM
Great topic to discuss. I keep seeing people start way heavier than I was lose to below what I weigh in a fraction of the time I've been trying. While I love to read these stories, it's hard not to get frustrated. But then I take a hard look at my situation and realize there are many ways I can improve.

I only started to put on weight a couple of years ago. Which means I have been trying to lose weight for a couple of years!

I "got serious" when I joined here, December 2008. I lost some weight, but then gained when I was away that spring, so I "got even more serious" in June 2009. I have lost ~12 lbs since then. So ~1lb/MONTH. It's been a bumpy and frustrating ride, but I keep changing incrementally and hoping I'll get where I want to be - with established, unshakable good habits - by the end of THIS year. 1 lb/month is OK by me - as long as it doesn't reverse directions!!

04-06-2010, 12:43 PM
you know what? this is a REALLY great thread! i often find myself getting down because the weight isn't coming off fast enough (for me)...and every time i get in the zone, and on a roll, and i'm doing really well, i have a GINORMOUS setback (ie: my grandmother dying 2 weeks ago). that completely derailed me, but i also have realize that i am USING that as an excuse. i'm forever looking for and finding excuses...then, when a month has gone by and i've only lost 2 pounds, i get discouraged and depressed. SO, in MY warped mind i'm telling myself that it is taking me forever to lose weight, when really, i haven't been vigilant about DOING it. But back to my main point which was why i think this is such a great thread...i kept thinking that you gals out there that have taken weight off have just put your mind to it and done it since day one with no setbacks and it all came off quick and easy...when really, we ALL have bad days, setbacks and regressions, and life ISN'T like "The Biggest Loser" where they lose 100 lbs. in 9 weeks. This message board IS reality.

04-06-2010, 12:50 PM
I started over a year ago and lost about 25 lbs in a couple months. RIGHT after i hit goal i got separated. that threw me way off. i have spent the past year getting my life back in order and watching my weight has suffered. i am now almost exactly where i was a year ago. but summer is SOOO close and i m determined to lose at least 15 lbs again. hopefully no more major life changes will interrupt me!

04-06-2010, 12:56 PM
on and off for nearly eight years. I've been overweight since I was twenty years old and I'll be 28 this summer.

04-06-2010, 12:58 PM
Sometimes when I'm getting discouraged about my weight loss and I try to get myself motivated again one of the most common thoughts my "negative voice" gives me is: You've been working at this for nearly TWO YEARS and you've only lost 50 pounds. It doesn't take normal people that long to lose so little. And you still have 30 left to go.

Changing your two years to four years and I fit right in here. Expect I lost 50 pounds in 10 months and have spent the last THREE years trying to lose the last 30 and not getting anywhere. :)

04-06-2010, 01:20 PM
I've been "concerned" about my weight in some way or another for probably 25 years. Sometimes, that included trying to lose weight; other times, just trying to not gain more weight; other times, I gave up and gave in.

Two years ago, I would have loved to weigh what I weigh now (which is 85 pounds less than then). I know when I started changing my life in April-May 2008, I fantasized about losing 100+ pounds in a year, but that didn't happen. And it is OK that it didn't happen.

I no longer put a timeline or dated goals to my weight loss or health efforts. When it gets done is not important; what is important is that I am engaged in healthy behavior, every single day, which will eventually lead to weight loss. I am still learning, still changing, still tweaking. Meantime, I feel great, I look great, and I'm really extremely healthy. And with all that I am very happy and satisfied.

04-06-2010, 01:44 PM
Um...as long as I can remember?

Since grade six, when all the other girls seemed so tiny in comparison (looking back at pictures now, I notice that I was tiny too! Peer pressure is a *****.)

Or maybe since my brother's wedding, when my dad suggested I wouldn't want a sleeveless bridesmaid dress, since my arms were not my "strong point". (I now have better biceps than my dad.)

Definitely since living in England and dating a seriously messed up no-self-esteem-of-his-own jacka** who berated me for my body for months and then got angry when I started getting up early to go to the gym.

Last year when I joined Weight Watchers and really liked it.

And most recently, since moving in with my awesomely supportive boyfriend, who somehow managed to help me add Pepsi and potato chips to my diet, as staples. We have sinced banned these items (from our own purchases, at least, his family members bring them when they visit, which I can just about handle) and taken it upon ourselves to eat healthier foods and set a decent example for his two year old. (Easter "treats" involved a handful of jellybeans, spread over the house in cute little containers, and dried apricots, which the little guy LOVES).

I hope that the "losing" part ends this year and I can stick with maintaining. I think my weight will always be a challenge, but I think I might finally be okay with dealing with it.

04-06-2010, 01:49 PM
Officially since the last week of january.

04-06-2010, 01:49 PM
Let me just say first of all that 50 lbs lost is no small feat and you should be very proud of yourself!

I had always wanted to lose weight but never really tried until I had my son and gained 50 lbs. I had him in Nov 2008 and weighed 215 and by that January I had lost almost 30 lbs naturally. When I started my first real weight loss journey it was Jan 2, 2009 and I was 187. I lost about 20 lbs fast and got down to my pre baby weight of 167 by March and have been trying to lose weight on and off since then. I re-started officially this Jan 11, 2010 (after a week long trip to NYC put me back to 170) and I've been pretty on track ever since except for the occasional set back and I've lost about 13 lbs this time around and 30 overall.

Basically, it's been a year and 3 months for me but I wasn't really trying most of that time, but no more! I refuse to look back a year from now and wonder where I'd be if I had kept going (again)! So good luck to you I know 30 lbs seems like a long way to go but if you stick to it, you really can get there in no time! :)

04-06-2010, 02:55 PM
I understand how you feel 100%. I have been loosing weight for almost 3 years and I'm still not at goal. I always get discouraged when I think of how long I have been working at it, but then I stop and realize that in those 3 years I haven't GAINED anything so I consider that a success, and you should too! I think it helps to lose slower as your body adjusts to your new body better. Slow and steady wins the race :)

04-06-2010, 07:16 PM
I first started in September of 2007. I was 260 then, and lost a bit at first, and then kinda stopped going to WW meetings and stuff, but I still kept an eye on my food and tried to be more active. I slowly lost until March of last year, where I got down to the low 200's. I got serious with my cousin in the summer, and got down to 199, and then gained 28 pounds when I started dating my boyfriend.

I came here and really cleaned up my act in late January, and I've been at it ever since.

And I know how you feel about taking forever to lose. It's true that no one loses "normally". Some people have more extreme weight losses, some people lose slower, some people have really lax plans, some people have strict ones. You have to find what works for you, cos that's what normal is.

04-07-2010, 02:59 AM
I've been to lose weight for.... my entire life. I've NEVER been at a weight right for my height. And I've had to deal with people constantly talking about my weight and everything. I've tried every diet out there. I even went to a "fat camp" and let me tell you, best summer of my life. I wish I could go back, but unfortunately it's way too expensive. If I lost 50# I'd be crying happy tears literally. I weigh in the 200's and I can't even remember when I was in the 100's. I think it was in ... 2006. :(

04-07-2010, 02:26 PM
I started THIS journey in December of 2008. I became homeless then, and going to the gym everyday was one thing I could control. (in my case homeless did not equal broke; just without a home)

Once I moved into my new house I fell off the exercise wagon and maintained with a very slight loss (about 5 pounds) from Spring 2009 til fall 2009. After a very stressful and busy holiday season, I saw the scale trending up instead of down as it had since i started and I recommitted to exercise and journaling my food. That was Jan 1 of 2010.

Although I have tried, with varying degrees of success in the past to lost weight, this is the time I am going to succeed and keep it off. The stars have aligned and I know I am ready and willing to stick with this for the long haul.

It takes time, but we can get there.

Fat Pants
04-07-2010, 02:57 PM
Since I left the womb. :rofl:

Seriously though... I joined 3FC back in 2007 and lost a few lbs. Gained it back and then some. So I have been "trying" to lose weight for several years and finally in 2009, I got it right.

Someone's got it right. I never lost more than 6 or so lbs in a month. But it adds up over time. You know, last January when I started my final weight loss journey, I thought to myself... it's going to take a LONG time to get this off. 1 year? 2 years? Who knows? But those small amounts add up over time and before I knew it, a year had passed and I was close to goal.

04-07-2010, 03:02 PM
Great thread! I've heard it said and it is true - in this example as in many others - that 'normal' is just a setting on your washing machine. :)

I agree with what others on this thread have written. I think that losing slowly is the way to go. I admit I am a Biggest Loser watcher and I tune in every week, but I think it sends a really unhealthy message that people should expect to lose 5, 10 or more pounds a week. I started on this journey in January 2009 and have lost about 33 pounds. Very slow rate of weight loss - with weeks at a time when I've basically maintained. When life gets crazy, I consciously choose to not put a lot of energy into scheduling work outs and counting and planning my eating - not that I am going to go way off plan, but in reality our lives have lots of different priorities and it is not reasonable to think our eating/exercise plans will (or should) always be priority number one.

I think it more natural for one's body to slowly adjust to the changes - fewer issues with stretch marks and that kind of thing, too. And I'm reminded that even though I am still technically 'obese' I am so much healthier than I was 15 months ago. There are so many health benefits to be reaped from even losing 10% of body weight, that even if I'm not there yet, I know I'm on the right path to get there eventually, and I'm already enjoying the benefits that come with increased fitness.

04-07-2010, 03:36 PM
39 years (I'm 44, and have been "dieting" more often than not since I was 5).

I'm almost the polar opposit of rockinrobin, which is why on so many threads we give very different opinions and advice.

When I was younger, I could lose weight very quickly (the quickest was 65 pounds in about 6 to 8 months on Nutrisystem {blech}to fit into a dress for a friend's wedding).

I only knew how to lose weight by that intense, do-absolutely-nothing-else-with-your-life type of foucus a nd drive. When I wanted to do anything else it was at the expense of the weight loss, or I chose not to participate in any activity that might distract me from the weight loss (which was just about anything) whether that be dating or spending time with a boyfriend, spend time with friends, advance my career or education, or even put in the effort to do a job adequately (I almost lost a job over the effort I was putting into weight loss, and I have lost friends and boyfriends over my constant turning down invitations).

I always eventually lost focus, because I just couldn't tolerate being miserable long enough to get all the weight off, and I was usually so frustrated with the misery that I went overboard in the other directions, binging and gorging to console myself. Stupid, stupid, stupid (except my diet pattern was the stererotypical one - the one we learn to do by paying attention to what people do. It is the way we're "taught" to diet if we follow the most common pattern it's "diet strictly, get sick of it, feel bad for failing, eat like a vaccuum cleaner, get depressed and self-hateful and eat some more).

The only way I've succeeded this time, is to "diet in reverse?" If I'd been willing to do this when my activity level and youthful metabolism was at it's peak, I know I'd be losing faster (because the calorie level at which I'm losing now, is drastically lower than the calorie level I lost rapidly on when I was younger. Whatever you believe about metabolism - young and active tends to burn a lot more than more than older with health problems and mobility issues).

How much faster would I have lost? Who knows, and who cares - I can't get that exact metabolism back, I can just work on improving the one I've got.

As for what I mean by dieting backwards, I mean that instead of deciding to try to lose weight as fast as I can and worry about maintenance when I got there, I decided to work on maintenance from the beginning. I only chose the behavior change that I was willing to commit to forever (at least something I could see myself doing forever). When I started, that wasn't much at all because I was so physically and emotionally depleted that I did not have any confidence in my ability to change. I was so convinced I couldn't succeed that I did not reach very high (sometimes I still feel like I'm doing this despite myself. That a large part of myself is daring the rest to fail - but I've proved myself wrong in the most amazing way. I am succeeding just by making small changes and once those are going well, taking on another slightly larger change). My confidence in my abilities has skyrocketed. It doesn't yet match my confidence in other areas of my life, the areas in which I always excelled.

The first 20 lbs I lost without trying over the course about a year (they just "fell off" after leaving my job because of health problems, and having to go on disability and move to Wisconsin with my hubby).

I never lost ANY weight before without trying very, very hard so I was astonished, and it made me realize that I could lose weight if I found a way to do whatever I did to lose the first 20.

My doctor recommended low carb, admonishing "not too low," but admitting he didn't know what was too low.

I didn't really follow his advice until I got a second opinion from another doctor who'd lost almost 100 lbs herself on a modified Atkins (almost a year from my primary doctor's recommendation).

So the next 60 lbs came off in a period of about two and a half years.

Unlike the stereotype I did not lose quicker in the beginning. Instead it's snow-balling - the more I lose the more capable and confident I am to try more.

I do have the same advice as robin (shocking) do not for a minute believe that "normal" has anything to do with this. "Normal" is to hop on the endless and ineffective not-so-merry-go-round of diet/frustration/feelings of failure/resignation/binge/depression/more binge/frustration/vow to change/diet/frustration........

Breaking that cycle, however you are able to do it, however long it takes you is not normal, it's extraordinary - so remember 50 lbs in two years is extraordinary.

You ARE extraordinary.

04-07-2010, 03:45 PM
for 40 years since my aunt returned me to my mom after summer vacation significantly heavier than when I left. In that time, I have lost and re-gained hundreds of pounds, given up and given in, gotten back on track, and then derailed with unrealistic expectations of how fast it should come off. Now, no pressure, no timeline, just lokinf for small results each week and trying to keep the scale in a downward slide. There have been setbacks, but fewer than in the past and now I just get right back on track. This time, I plan to reach goal. Just when that will happen, only time will tell. In the meantime, I cut myself some slack and focus on healthy living one day at a time.