100 lb. Club - What do you do to help keep you focused?




milliondollarbbw
03-10-2010, 02:54 AM
I need to lose over 100lbs....more like 122lbs to get to my goal of 190lbs. I would be happy with 210 pounds as well.

I have been having some cravings lately, and the idea of having to lose so much weight can be daunting at times.

I find that focusing on the things that I enjoy and can do more easily at a lower weight is what is helping to keep me focused. Sure, I want that piece of bread, but I think how much better the bread will taste if I am somewhere else, in a far off country, tasting it! :) I have also been repeating to myself that I have tasted the food before, and will taste it again (just not at that moment) as a way of avoiding the urge to taste things that are not on my food plan. :)

What do you do to help keep you focused and avoiding trigger foods?


starfishkitty
03-10-2010, 03:30 AM
I try to focus on things that don't revolve around food at all... like being healthy, feeling amazing, living long, etc! :)

Even smaller things like that size 14 pair of jeans I want to see, or that shirt I want to look great in.

When I'm really in need of a boost, I always try to think of the saying "Eat to live, not live to eat." It's so true. :)

Stella
03-10-2010, 03:42 AM
Taking baby steps. Not focusing on what`s still in front of you but what`s already down. If you lost 2lb, celebrate them, enjoy being 2lb down from last week rather than thinking of the 120 that still need to go.

Weigh *and* measure. I found it hugely motivatign to see where I have slimmed down, and by how much. Numbers are just numbers but the measuring tape is hard evidence! :-)


Tai
03-10-2010, 07:40 AM
I carried around a list of all the reasons I wanted and needed to lose weight. It's sounds sort of goofy; but it really kept me on track.

marigrace
03-10-2010, 08:18 AM
We all need a few tricks to stay in focus some days. For me it is looking at some of the non-scale progress...like the way clothes fit. I think the list idea that Tai has is great. I would make two lists ..side by side...one of the benefits (energy level, knees don't hurt, look better etc) and one of the damage that is possible (diabetes, low self-esteem, feeling hopeless etc)

slimmingsi
03-10-2010, 08:30 AM
For those that know matt on here I have him on facebook and he is doing extremely well a propper slim jim these days. So when I feel myself flagging I take a look at his pics and his updates about running 5k races etc and think you B*****d! I wanna do that and weigh what you do! And that shames me into working out. Not conventional I know but very effective to see someone you've known on this forum for 7 years (eek)! Finally succeed after seeing them struggle and pick themselves up again and agaain for so long. It just goes to show it's never too late, and you should always try again because this time it may be the time it all comes together and is a success.

I wish matt all the best and he's a really nice guy but I'm so bloody jealous of him grrrrrd!

rockinrobin
03-10-2010, 08:42 AM
How to stay focused?

Make this an absolute tippy top priority! Make this your job, your mission. Make it SO important (because it is) that to not adhere to healthy eating habits would be down right insane. Make it out of the question to eat any other way. And of course set yourself up for success - get rid of all junk - all of it. When faced with temptations out of your home, your trigger foods - MAKE THEM DEFINITE NO'S. No maybe just one bite, should I?/shouldn't I? No decide ahead of time that you will stay away from "off" foods. Let your wants and desires for those foods dry up. But DO make sure to plan ahead and ALWAYS have healthy food options - ALWAYS. Keep a WELL stocked home - take foods with you. Eat often, avoiding that hungry, munchie feeling.

Ask yourself a set of questions or choose one before you eat anything:

-Is this going to get me closer to my goals – or further?
-How will I feel after I eat it?
-Why is it more important for me to eat it, then to lose the weight?
-Is it really worth it?
- Can I live without it? Do I really need this?

Make this/these/one of em' your mantra.

People ask me all the time how I lost 165 lbs when they can't seem to lose even 5 and I tell them very simply - I DECIDED to. Decide to do this. Commit to do this. Be willing to put forth the continuous effort needed to do so. Don't stop till you get to your goals - and it CAN be done.

And yes, break down the numbers. Make a game of it. Work on 10 lb chunks at a time. Chip away and chip away at those numbers, focus on those good eating habits and watch the pounds melt off of you.

Work past the initial temporary discomfort of establishing new habits - and stand back and be prepared to AMAZE yourself. Just AMAZE yourself. Push yourself. Elevate yourself to new heights. Reach. Stretch. Learn. Grow. Prosper. Discover who you were intended to be. :)

Eliana
03-10-2010, 09:02 AM
I like to remember all the things I couldn't do when I began this journey and I feel doing those things now. Things like how hard it was to tie my shoes and how now I kick them off with glee to hop on the scale too many times a day. Or the fact that I used to have to squeeze my rear past the arm rests in the movie theater and then the seat was comfortable. That's no longer an issue. Memories like those keep me motivated.

I like to keep smaller sizes of clothing in my closet and try them on FREQUENTLY, especially when the scale is not moving. I'm always amazed at how things start to fit better even when the scale stays stagnant.

Mostly though, I made a commitment to myself to just keep doing this and I chose a timeline of one year. I want to see where I'll be a year from my start if I just keep going, day after day, no excuses.

PeanutsMom704
03-10-2010, 09:05 AM
The POINTS challenge here helps me to focus. I don't have to think about losing 100 or more lbs. I just have to think about staying in my calorie target range, drinking all my water and getting my activity. And I just have to think about it for TODAY. I know I cannot control the scale, but I CAN control those three things.

marigrace
03-10-2010, 09:37 AM
Amen to that PeanutsMom !

jigglefree
03-10-2010, 10:24 AM
If I'm at home and I feel like I'm losing focus I try on clothes that used to fit and are now too big and then see how much closer I am to my next size down.

I also remember MY why!! Why did I start this journey in the first place. It's important to know WHY and if the why was important enough to start and be serious enough to make progress then it's important enough to help you finish the journey.

caryesings
03-10-2010, 12:20 PM
The paper towel analogy someone referenced really helped me when the work was just hard and no results showing.

Lyn2007
03-10-2010, 12:20 PM
I write. And write and write and write. Write out exactly how you are feeling. It helps FEEL the feelings and then they sort of change to more helpful feelings as your brain processes them.

milliondollarbbw
03-10-2010, 12:51 PM
How to stay focused?

Make this an absolute tippy top priority! Make this your job, your mission. Make it SO important (because it is) that to not adhere to healthy eating habits would be down right insane. Make it out of the question to eat any other way. And of course set yourself up for success - get rid of all junk - all of it. When faced with temptations out of your home, your trigger foods - MAKE THEM DEFINITE NO'S. No maybe just one bite, should I?/shouldn't I? No decide ahead of time that you will stay away from "off" foods. Let your wants and desires for those foods dry up. But DO make sure to plan ahead and ALWAYS have healthy food options - ALWAYS. Keep a WELL stocked home - take foods with you. Eat often, avoiding that hungry, munchie feeling.

Ask yourself a set of questions or choose one before you eat anything:

-Is this going to get me closer to my goals or further?
-How will I feel after I eat it?
-Why is it more important for me to eat it, then to lose the weight?
-Is it really worth it?
- Can I live without it? Do I really need this?

Make this/these/one of em' your mantra.

People ask me all the time how I lost 165 lbs when they can't seem to lose even 5 and I tell them very simply - I DECIDED to. Decide to do this. Commit to do this. Be willing to put forth the continuous effort needed to do so. Don't stop till you get to your goals - and it CAN be done.

And yes, break down the numbers. Make a game of it. Work on 10 lb chunks at a time. Chip away and chip away at those numbers, focus on those good eating habits and watch the pounds melt off of you.

Work past the initial temporary discomfort of establishing new habits - and stand back and be prepared to AMAZE yourself. Just AMAZE yourself. Push yourself. Elevate yourself to new heights. Reach. Stretch. Learn. Grow. Prosper. Discover who you were intended to be. :)

Wow. Just wow. I mean, wow. Can you be my coach? I really liked your response.

It may sound simple to some people, but yeah, I have to make a decision to do this, and I have to be aware of my strengths and weaknesses and avoid having tempting foods around me.

Thank you everybody for your awesome posts! :)

milliondollarbbw
03-10-2010, 01:04 PM
I write. And write and write and write. Write out exactly how you are feeling. It helps FEEL the feelings and then they sort of change to more helpful feelings as your brain processes them.

I need to do that more. That would probably help me to destress at the end of the day.

CLCSC145
03-10-2010, 01:19 PM
I think it's sheer will and practice. When I want to reach for food for the wrong reasons, I hear this voice inside say, "That's not me anymore" - not how I eat, how I cope, or how I celebrate, not how I console myself or how I entertain myself.

I had a really rough Monday full of family drama laced with high emotions, fear, anger, frustration, etc. On the way home from the mess, I had to stop at the store for milk. As I'm walking to the checkout counter I was thinking how badly I wanted to stuff myself with chocolate just to check out for a while. But there was that voice telling me that's not me anymore. I suddenly felt calmer and the urge to buy the crap passed. It was harder to do that when I started, but now it's become more ingrained. I guess my point is, the urge to overeat doesn't go away but the more consistent you are with how you answer those urges the easier it gets to not derail yourself.

milliondollarbbw
03-10-2010, 05:38 PM
What is the points challenge? Where can I find it?

The POINTS challenge here helps me to focus. I don't have to think about losing 100 or more lbs. I just have to think about staying in my calorie target range, drinking all my water and getting my activity. And I just have to think about it for TODAY. I know I cannot control the scale, but I CAN control those three things.

matt_H
03-10-2010, 06:06 PM
For those that know matt on here I have him on facebook and he is doing extremely well a propper slim jim these days. So when I feel myself flagging I take a look at his pics and his updates about running 5k races etc and think you B*****d! I wanna do that and weigh what you do! And that shames me into working out. Not conventional I know but very effective to see someone you've known on this forum for 7 years (eek)! Finally succeed after seeing them struggle and pick themselves up again and agaain for so long. It just goes to show it's never too late, and you should always try again because this time it may be the time it all comes together and is a success.

I wish matt all the best and he's a really nice guy but I'm so bloody jealous of him grrrrrd!

:o

You make me blush man. Thanks for your kind words.

angelskeep
03-10-2010, 06:19 PM
I am trying really hard to stay positive. I focus on what I CAN do and what I CAN eat instead of what I can't do or eat. For me, the food is the easy part of the equation. Excercise is a mustery to me and I have to do something I really enjoy that is active or I know I won't do it. I will NEVER go to the gym or do most of the standard execise things that most people do. instead, I ride the bike and I just started today doing stairs. We have these really STEEP stairs from the road to the river, 2 sets, just down the road fr99m my house. So this morning I started at the top, walked down both sets and up both sets...twice. I was a huffin' and a puffin' and I th0ught my hear might actually leave my body and just lay there beating all by itself...BUT I did it.

I learned through me quitting smoking adventure a year and 1/2 ago how to focus on me and on my goals. To set tiny goals that are manageable and do whatever it takes to go the right direction I was trying to get to. And the hardest part of all, for me stiil, is to recognize that even a whisper in the right direction is better than going backwards.

I learned that the support of other people is really important to me too. And if someone else can do it, so can I. Forums are such a great place to find support and read success stories and stay on track.

I spend too much time online, but it's necessary for me right now.

Focus on yourself, set small goals you can achieve and feel good about them. Be happy for small successes. Lean on others when you can't go it alone. If you fall down, dust yourself up and get going again. Learn what went wrong and what to do differently next time the situation arises. Be patient.

And I hope I shall take my own advice!

Barb

ubergirl
03-10-2010, 06:35 PM
I stay focused by focusing on it ALL THE TIME.

I post here EVERY DAY. I post on my fitday log EVERY DAY. I log my exercise EVERY DAY.

The beginning is the hardest part because of fear of failure.

Each tiny success gives you something else to build on. Think of it as building a staircase one step at a time.

Just remember: the past does not predict the future. You do not have to fail this time because you failed last time. The only thing that matters is what you do TODAY.

milliondollarbbw
03-10-2010, 06:37 PM
I stay focused by focusing on it ALL THE TIME.

I post here EVERY DAY. I post on my fitday log EVERY DAY. I log my exercise EVERY DAY.

The beginning is the hardest part because of fear of failure.

Each tiny success gives you something else to build on. Think of it as building a staircase one step at a time.

Just remember: the past does not predict the future. You do not have to fail this time because you failed last time. The only thing that matters is what you do TODAY.

Dang, like wow! You seriously are motivating! :)

Angihas2
03-10-2010, 06:42 PM
This may not seem so odd to y'all, but for those who just have never been here, done this, it's odd. I have a few pictures of myself, that would have been great pics I would have had put on the wall for everyone to enjoy, had I not been so fat. Not the pics are amazing or anything, general, hanging out with the kids at the river or hiking or whatever, but I feel so horrible in those pics, I'd hate to have them on my wall. Forever. For now, they're on my fridge, in my wallet, even in my truck since I commute so much for classes it would be so very easy to hit a heart attack in a sack and keep on going. Instead if I feel the call of the fast food sirens, I glance down at those pics as I pass the exit to it, then the next. Sometimes I see that pic every mile of my commute, sometimes I don't need to see it at all. But it helps keep me focused.

Michelle98272
03-10-2010, 07:00 PM
are banned from my home. I just do.not.buy foods that are triggers for me. These are binge-inducing foods or rather non-food as they have no nutritive value. Semi-sweet chocolate chips? Not in my house! Dots candy? Never. Gummi bears, Jelly Beans, MnM's...etc. Same thing. The before mentioned foods are like crack cocaine, addictive and oh so dangerous. I will eat the entire gallon size Costco container of them in one sitting and likely want to kill you if you tried to prevent my access to them.

Things that I might overeat on but not binge on: chips, oreos, Ritz Bitz crackers that my b/f keeps on hand are for the most part just off limits. They are in my home but I put them on my list of "can't/won't/don't" and don't think of them as foods that are for me, therefore...I just don't eat them.

I stock lots of healthy things I can eat: fruit, pre-cut veggies, string cheese, nuts, hard boiled eggs, cooked cubed chicken breast, fat free sugar free yogurt or plain greek yogurt, baby spinach and salad greens...that I can enjoy when I am feeling snack-ish. Also, I am a big volume eater...if I pile my plate high with a salad, I don't feel like I am being deprived. A dinner or lunch salad for me might include 3 cups of greens plus tons of other veggies. Or Fat Free Healthy Pop pop-corn you can eat the whole bag with a diet soda or spritzer and not do any damage to your plan.

Also make sure to eat something often to prevent the "I could eat a horse!" feeling that comes on if I skip breakfast and lunch. If I eat breakfast at a regular time and then a snack...then lunch and a snack 2 hours later, then dinner ....etc..not letting myself get starving hungry, I can withstand this new lifestyle much easier. If I had to gut it out while starving...just make myself not eat, I couldn't do it.

Best of luck!! It get's easier!:hug:

artic123
03-10-2010, 07:03 PM
Exercise keeps me on track. If I have the energy to exercise then why spoil it by going off the diet. Good luck.

Sharon

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Michelle98272
03-10-2010, 07:22 PM
Oh, I should also add, I check in here about 5 times a day while at work and at least 2 times a day on the weekends. There is such a wealth of positive energy and advice here. I also periodically read the Maintainer's Forum and pour over Before and After pics/Success Stories.

I also have a bit of a crush on RockinRobin and CFmama for there wisdom and no-nonsense attitudes!

Beverlyjoy
03-10-2010, 07:26 PM
What keeps me focused... every day I make a list of goals similar to this:

fork down between bites
eat only when seated (no licking the spoon, no picking at food, etc...)
no seconds
slow, mindful eating
taste the food
exercise
lots of water
remember that eating is not an emergency
plan food - write it down!!! (very, very important)
log food and make note of changes in plan or any morsel of food I put in my mouth
write down 5 things for which I am grateful (everyday for 12 years) This is important!
feel fullness - at least try (sometimes I think that is broken in me)
weigh weekly
remind myself why I need sanity with food & to lose weight - these advantages are written down and I read them daily
post here at 3fc every day
remind myself that food does not cure physical pain or anxiety.
forgive myself if I don't do all these things or have a slip ....then carry on

Everyday - I see how many of these I have accomplished. Some days I have all of them checked off - some days not. But..it's a guideline for me.

Does this take time...yes it does. I am worth the time & I will make time to do it. I must to find a way to live with food.. This is really helping me. Also - I didn't start doing ALL these things one day. I gradually added things one or two at a time.

I am grateful that these things have helped me stay focused on healthy eating, living well with food and having some sense of food sanity.

PLAN FOR THE FUTURE...BUT, TAKE IT ONE DAY AT A TIME.

Did I think of all this myself? No.(some I did) A friend who lost over a hundred pounds and has kept it off suggested I read The Beck Diet Solution by Dr. Judith Beck (I read her first book). This book is a cognitive approach to breaking the habits that keep a person overwieght. It's suppose to teach you to think like a person who doesn't have a weight problem. It can be used with any healthy food plan. I am a calorie counter and my friend is in Weight Watchers. But...basically after observing how the Maintainers are living...it's alot of what they are doing.

astrophe
03-10-2010, 09:53 PM
What do you do to help keep you focused and avoiding trigger foods?

Don't buy them. Resisting once at the store is easier than resisting a zillion times at home.

Eat regularly -- every 4 hours or so, around 400-500 calories. Include protein of some kind in each meal.

Prick my finger for blood sugar to verify that it is stable whenever I'm feeling crazy. I had gestational diabetes when pregnant and I have PCOS/IR and I've found when I am feeling all crazy craving the fault is usually not having eaten regularly and sending my blood sugar way low or overdoing and sending it way high.

If it is stable, I could care less about trigger foods. No physical craving for them at all.

And I check to see if I am having emotional cravings -- heart hunger vs head hunger. Then rather than eat, I seek the correct emotional response.

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=56502

A.

Shmead
03-10-2010, 10:14 PM
Get on the right plan for you. A food and exercise plan is the right plan when, in an average week, you lose 1-2 lbs AND it only takes about 80% of your will power to stay on it.

I often see people here posting "I was on X, and it works for me, but I keep cheating". If you can't stay on a plan, it doesn't work for you.

The reason you don't want to go on the toughest plan you can--the one that takes 100% of your will power to stay on--is that if you do, you'll crash when life gets difficult and makes other demands on your will power.

MomtoThree
03-10-2010, 10:39 PM
I have to say finding a plan for me is a good part of what keeps me on track. I also have monthly pictures from the last time I lost weight. I look at those and know that I can get back there. I am doing the same thing this time, pictures every month. I love to see the changes.

rockinrobin
03-11-2010, 12:09 AM
Yes, planning. Should have mentioned that early.

I plan my meals/snacks AHEAD of time. I have it ready and good to go. When it comes to making my food choices, it's already been done for me in advance. Makes it much less likely to make poor choices and veer off plan. That planning occurs daily - and it helps to keep me focused and if some reason I should lose focus - it doesn't matter. IT DOESN'T MATTER. Because I KNOW what I'm eating. I've already figured it out. The thinking's been done when I'm reasonable and rational.

And one more thing - I make sure every little thing that I'm eating I TOTALLY enjoy - if on plan is so good, well than, there's no reason to go OFF plan.

TJFitnessDiva
03-11-2010, 12:16 AM
I also remember MY why!! Why did I start this journey in the first place. It's important to know WHY and if the why was important enough to start and be serious enough to make progress then it's important enough to help you finish the journey.

lol you sound just like me :lol: I'm always going on about my "why"

This is my number one way to stay focused.

As far as trigger foods are concerned they are banned from my home. No good will come of them being here...why put yourself through that?

duckyyellowfeet
03-11-2010, 01:38 AM
I also never buy trigger foods. I also avoid buying anything that is too "snacky"...chips, chex mix, whatever. its not filling for me, just empty calories. So I'll eat whatever and then want to eat other things afterward.

When I feel snacky, I try and do something before I eat. Sort laundry, take a walk, post here...something to make me really think about my stomach and hunger. If I'm still hungry, I'll have something sensible.

I also try really hard to make my plan fit my life. I eat smaller breakfasts because I rarely eat before 10am and then I have lunch at 12:30. However, I need a meal later in the evening because I'm often up until two or three am. This keeps me on plan because I have meals set aside for the times I'm really hungry, not some arbitrary time I feel I should be eating

Wizzie
03-11-2010, 10:59 AM
I go look at regular clothing store clothes either at the store or on the web. I say won't I look cute in something like that.

Beverlyjoy
03-11-2010, 12:11 PM
Yes, planning. Should have mentioned that early.

I plan my meals/snacks AHEAD of time. I have it ready and good to go. When it comes to making my food choices, it's already been done for me in advance. Makes it much less likely to make poor choices and veer off plan. That planning occurs daily - and it helps to keep me focused and if some reason I should lose focus - it doesn't matter. IT DOESN'T MATTER. Because I KNOW what I'm eating. I've already figured it out. The thinking's been done when I'm reasonable and rational.

Robin - I totally agree about planning. For me, planning is very freeing. You don't have to think about it once it's planned. Thoughts of what to eat next stop 'spinning' in your head.

latinhips
03-11-2010, 09:48 PM
I think about how good Im going to look and feel

milliondollarbbw
03-11-2010, 10:10 PM
I went out today and bought a ton of my favorite non-trigger foods. I have so much healthy food now and I am pretty happy about that. :carrot::carrot::carrot::carrot: