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krisJ81
03-03-2010, 11:34 AM
Hi everybody. I hope I'm posting in the right place to say hi, tell a little about my story, and hopefully get some much needed encouragement for the challenges I am facing. If not, I'm sorry!

I'm here because I have 100 lbs to lose. I never thought I would say those words again, because a few years ago, I almost did it. In 2006, motivated by a near-fatal illness I had recovered from, I decided I wasn't going to make excuses anymore and was going to change my life. At the time, I was fresh out of college, wasn't working, and had few friends in the area I was living, so I had 100% free time. I went to the gym 5 - 6 days a week, changed my eating habits, and over the following year I lost about 75 pounds. I was in the best shape of my life, felt fantastic, and was actually happy! Unfortunately, things came up. Work, going back to grad school, and starting a new relationship seemed to take up all my time, and I stopped going to the gym altogether. My eating and drinking habits also gradually went from healthy to terrible. Over the past 2 years I have gained back all 75 lbs + a few extra. It's funny how easy it's been to stay in denial. Telling myself, "I haven't gained that much," and avoiding scales and mirrors worked well for me! Yesterday I saw a nutritionist and was honestly shocked when I stepped on the scale.

I never realized how hard it would be to cope with undoing all the weight loss I had worked so hard for, but it is extremely depressing, which makes things seem so much more hopeless, and I am struggling to find the motivation to do it again. I tried, over the last year, to get back into exercising, but the person I am dating discourages it. We drink too much and eat badly, and this cycle of behavior has been very hard to change considering I am the only one who actually WANTS it to change. Fortunately for him, what we eat, drink, or how much never seems to actually effect his weight. I don't want to blame him, because I know it comes from a place of insecurity (it is not a bad or abusive relationship), but it is also very difficult to feel like I have absolutely no support from the people in my life and like "changing" myself will negatively effect my relationship. I looked around today and realized I don't even have anyone to call who can encourage me and help me in this. So I started to look into online communities to see if maybe this will help. I have stopped drinking (I was mainly drinking red wine but definitely too much and too often), and am going to try to change my eating habits. I am re-joining the gym TODAY. But its a long road and I just feel like I need some help here.

I'm sorry this is long and kind of depressing! But I look forward to talking to some of you and I promise I'm a lot more positive in general. :^:

Thank you for reading,

Kris


Eliana
03-03-2010, 11:43 AM
You are absolutely in the right place! We move a lot of pounds around here.

Do you have a food plan in mind?

Congratulations for making the first step and I look forward to reading more!

LesliesMom
03-03-2010, 11:46 AM
Welcome!! You've done it - you know it can be done. Congrats on taking the first step to putting yourself first again.

Angie


marigrace
03-03-2010, 11:47 AM
Welcome, you are in a safe place here.

WildThings
03-03-2010, 11:50 AM
Welcome! You seem to be off to a good start. With the nutritionist, the gym, and the commitment, I have full faith in you that you can do this.

Summerblue
03-03-2010, 11:54 AM
WELCOME! I just started the journey on March 1st.....so I am not too far ahead of you.

This please is AWESOME, so much great info...just remember one step at a time and maybe like me, you feel THIS TIME is the time.

JackiG
03-03-2010, 11:55 AM
Hello and welcome Kris! You are definitely in the right place! Congratulations on taking the first step to a healthier you. Just remember it is a long journey, but well worth it in the end. Only you can make these changes, to live a better, and fuller life. I know it is hard when you do not have family or friends to encourage or help you, but you are not alone. We are here to offer any type of support you may need.

krisJ81
03-03-2010, 12:09 PM
Hey! Wow, you guys are fast! Thank you all so much for your encouraging words! I think this place will be very helpful!

You are absolutely in the right place! We move a lot of pounds around here.

Do you have a food plan in mind?

Congratulations for making the first step and I look forward to reading more!

I don't have a "food plan" exactly, which is somewhat difficult for me because I need structure. I have a lot of info from the nutritionist, but it's hard for me to "calorie count" and those sorts of things. She wants me on a 1400 - 1600 calorie diet to begin, with just balancing my food types. Mostly, it's the encouragement/motivation that is my biggest obstacle, but food management is difficult too. Any suggestions would be awesome.

I'll tell ya, my day was off to a rough start but I feel better already! :D

krisJ81
03-03-2010, 12:17 PM
WELCOME! I just started the journey on March 1st.....so I am not too far ahead of you.

This please is AWESOME, so much great info...just remember one step at a time and maybe like me, you feel THIS TIME is the time.

Thank you, I wish you the best of luck too! :)

brandijune44
03-03-2010, 12:17 PM
WELCOME! You will find so much support here and if you're anything like me, you'll love it and feel "at home" here very soon!

CLCSC145
03-03-2010, 12:27 PM
Welcome, Kris!

I know how hard it is to lose a lot, be happy, and then gain it back. I did it with about 130 pounds 10 years ago. It is so frustrating and sad to see yourself undo all that hard work and it's really hard to find it within yourself to do it again. I wish I had tried again sooner than waiting a decade!

You've got to dig deep, but all the tools you need to do this are still in you. And 3FC is a huge help!

JustBeckyV
03-03-2010, 12:30 PM
Welcome to the group!! I agree you can feel safe here and find the support!!

JackiG
03-03-2010, 12:39 PM
Take one day at a time. It gets easier. Meal planning is key. I plan my meals one week in advance. Normally, I make extra for dinner, and eat leftovers the next day for lunch, makes it a lot easier. You will find lots of great info, support and recipes here. Take your time checking the different threads out. We are happy to have you here! :)

MomtoThree
03-03-2010, 12:50 PM
Welcome! I bet there are many of us here who can relate to your experience. I know I can many times over. We just have to take it one day at a time and lose the weight again.

Lori259
03-03-2010, 12:55 PM
Welcome & remember you did it before & u can do it again! START STRONG & STAY STRONG!

MamaP
03-03-2010, 01:07 PM
From one Kris to another, welcome (I think there are a few Kris' on here) . . . I just joined as well. This forum and the people on it are amazing.

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Kris
Dancing away the pounds
One :dancer: for every 5 lbs lost
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Eliana
03-03-2010, 01:12 PM
I don't have a "food plan" exactly, which is somewhat difficult for me because I need structure. I have a lot of info from the nutritionist, but it's hard for me to "calorie count" and those sorts of things. She wants me on a 1400 - 1600 calorie diet to begin, with just balancing my food types. Mostly, it's the encouragement/motivation that is my biggest obstacle, but food management is difficult too. Any suggestions would be awesome.

I'll tell ya, my day was off to a rough start but I feel better already! :D

It's great you're working with a nutritionist! A lot of folks around here eat "whole foods" in moderation and I think some do so without regard to calories, at least at first. For some people, just balancing the food types works quite well. Diligence is key.

I'm glad you're day is improving! Rough starts are tough.

Michelle98272
03-03-2010, 01:28 PM
So many of us here have lost a lot only to gain it all (and then some) back! I've personally lost 70 and then gained back 100 over a course of 10 years. You are amongst friends who truly understand what you are going through!:hug:

I didn't think your story sounded depressing at all! It is what it is...you sound hopeful and determined to succeed. Welcome!

Beverlyjoy
03-03-2010, 01:53 PM
So glad you posted. WELCOME

You'll find the folks here friendly, helpful, and encouraging.

krisJ81
03-03-2010, 02:34 PM
Thanks everybody! You guys have all been so nice and helpful! :) I honestly wasn't expecting this kind of response. :)

Went out and bought some healthy food to keep at my job during my lunch break. :carrot: My daytime snacking and "foods of convenience" have always been an issue so this should help!

Eliana, what did you mean by "whole foods"? Any suggestions for good mid-day snacks?

The nutritionist should be helpful, I hope. My insurance only covers 3 visits a year though which is unfortunate, but it gives me a place to start. :) I think balancing at first will be a good starting off point. It's my portion sizes I have to work on reducing, which is hard in the beginning because i'm HUNGRY!

Eliana
03-03-2010, 03:15 PM
"Whole foods" is pretty broad, but I think most of us use it to mean un-processed. For me it means unprocessed and most things are made from scratch. I like to eat things that have ingredients I understand and foods that do not have high fructose corn syrup.

There's a whole forum dedicated to whole foods at 3FC with a lot of women more knowledgeable than I! :D

cfmama
03-03-2010, 04:18 PM
Welcome welcome! I'm so happy to see you here and so excited to get started! I look forward to following your journey :)

krisJ81
03-03-2010, 04:47 PM
Thanks everybody! You guys all seem to be doing so GREAT and that's very encouraging! I better stick to my plan of going to the gym today!:ebike:

FitGirlyGirl
03-03-2010, 04:56 PM
Welcome! You will definitely not be lacking support now that you have found 3FC. Which specific plan you use is not nearly as important as being diligent with your chosen plan. Planning has always been key for me. I make a written plan for the week. At first I went further than that - I prepped my food for the next few days ahead of time. I put it in ziplocs or tupperwares and labeled it with a grease pencil - "Monday breakfast", "Monday AM snack", "Monday Lunch", and so on. Journaling my food also helps. I have a body bugg and so I use their online system to journal my food, but there are lots of free places to journal your food online. Some of them will even help with the pre-planning. Just take it one day at a time and don't be afraid to post here if you need help.

As for the boyfriend - try having a serious talk with him. Explain to him why you want to do this and why you need him to support you in it. Reassure him that you aren't going to leave him. I know many men get scared when their girlfriends, wives, etc. start losing weight that once she is hotter she will want a hotter man. Men can be very insecure creatures. My husband is very worried that if he doesn't start turning into the health nut that I am turning into he is going to lose me. There are weeks where I have to reassure him multiple times each day.

Arctic Mama
03-03-2010, 05:08 PM
Welcome to the group! You'll find a LOT of calorie counters here to lean on, you can do it!

krisJ81
03-03-2010, 06:08 PM
Welcome! You will definitely not be lacking support now that you have found 3FC. Which specific plan you use is not nearly as important as being diligent with your chosen plan. Planning has always been key for me. I make a written plan for the week. At first I went further than that - I prepped my food for the next few days ahead of time. I put it in ziplocs or tupperwares and labeled it with a grease pencil - "Monday breakfast", "Monday AM snack", "Monday Lunch", and so on. Journaling my food also helps. I have a body bugg and so I use their online system to journal my food, but there are lots of free places to journal your food online. Some of them will even help with the pre-planning. Just take it one day at a time and don't be afraid to post here if you need help.

As for the boyfriend - try having a serious talk with him. Explain to him why you want to do this and why you need him to support you in it. Reassure him that you aren't going to leave him. I know many men get scared when their girlfriends, wives, etc. start losing weight that once she is hotter she will want a hotter man. Men can be very insecure creatures. My husband is very worried that if he doesn't start turning into the health nut that I am turning into he is going to lose me. There are weeks where I have to reassure him multiple times each day.

Thank you, that's a lot of good advice! I've tried talking to him. I think change is scary and he might not feel at ease until I actually start making progress and he sees that I'm not going anywhere. But I do try to be reassuring and hope that things will be ok and work out...

I definitely need to get in the habit of meal planning, even if I have to prepare things ahead of time like that. A lot of my bad eating really just comes from not having enough time to make soemthing or get something healthy.

I'm finding more and more motivation as the day goes by, and have been looking through a lot of the site! Hopefully I'll have some progress to report soon!

S.A.S.H
03-05-2010, 08:17 AM
:hug: :wave: Welcome! You have a very safe and supportive environment here. I hope to see you around and to get to know you better. I am glad you have looked for alternative places of support instead of just giving in and going with the crowd. What an awesome way to start. :)