100 lb. Club - Need some silly reassurance




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Eliana
02-22-2010, 10:22 AM
When I had lost 10 lbs, I thought it wasn't enough and admired people who'd lost 15 lbs. When I got to 15, pish-posh, but boy folks who'd lost over 20 were really doing well. I thought 30 was really something...until I got there.

So...here I am...sheepishly asking...37 IS something to be proud of...right? :^:

I guess when you have 100 lbs total to lose, it's hard to ever know you're really getting somewhere. I mean...I still have a lot of fat to go. I'm so proud to be in one-derland...but at 5'4", that's not as big an accomplishment as for someone taller.


paris81
02-22-2010, 10:26 AM
It's a HUGE accomplishment! You've lost more than me, so of course, I totally understand what you're feeling.

It's all individual--you lose weight alone, it's a personal responsiblity, and the results are personal, individual. You did it! That's amazing. It's all relative. Good job. Part of it is that you just didn't have as much as some to lose! You can't beat yourself for not letting yourself get higher than 235, right?!

time2lose
02-22-2010, 10:31 AM
When I had lost 10 lbs, I thought it wasn't enough and admired people who'd lost 15 lbs. When I got to 15, pish-posh, but boy folks who'd lost over 20 were really doing well. I thought 30 was really something...until I got there.

You sound like me! We can be our own worse critic but 37 pounds lost definitely IS something to be proud of!


Nada
02-22-2010, 10:32 AM
I remember being VERY jealous of my sister when she had lost 35 lbs. It's a big deal.

jay41
02-22-2010, 10:52 AM
here at 3FC it is easy to find examples of people who have lost alot of weight. But when you go out in the real world you find some people who have lost 10 or 20 pounds ... and that is it.

To lose 37 pounds is truly an accomplishment -- if you look around in your world you will find that there are very few who can say that.

matt_H
02-22-2010, 10:53 AM
Its a huge huge huge accomplishment!!!!

jennynyc77
02-22-2010, 10:58 AM
37 pounds is AMAZING! You're doing so well and such an inspiration to those of us just starting out :) That's almost 40% of your goal. Fantastic!

rockinrobin
02-22-2010, 11:06 AM
It's funny, some times I'll see someone's pounds lost avatar, I don't know - 50 lb, 80 lbs lost or whatever and I'll think, "geez that's a LOT of weight". But in terms of me, I never feel that way. It's odd. I guess I just don't think of me in those terms. Maybe it IS not giving credit where credit's due. Hmmm, something else to ponder.

Anyway, back to you.

37 lbs IS an incredible start. You should be proud. You should feel good. You should feel accomplished.

That 37 lbs down should show you that you DEFINITELY HAVE THE ABILITY to lose the weight. ALL OF THE WEIGHT. That *number* should no longer frighten you. You keep chipping away and chipping away at those numbers and watch them dwindle.

I'm telling you there was a time, when I was so into the throes of losing (I LOVED the losing portion of my journey), it wouldn't have mattered if I had to lose 165 lbs, 265 lbs or more. Because you see, there's no way that you can't lose ALL of the weight - provided you don't stop. That you continue. That you keep on going and going and going and persevering and persevering and persevering. It's yours for the taking. It's in your control. You've got the power.:cheer2:

losermom
02-22-2010, 11:11 AM
Are you kidding me? 37 lbs is amazing! Like OP have mentioned, look around you in the real world. Eliana, you won't find many people who have lost 37 lbs and CONTINUE to lose! And now is the part of the journey when people around you are going to really start noticing and commenting on your weight loss. Get ready!

Eliana
02-22-2010, 11:27 AM
I'm so glad I asked. :D I almost didn't. You guys get it.

Yep, out in the real world I don't know many people who have lost great amounts of weight. And I too see avatars and tickers and think OTHERS are doing great no matter the poundage, but we're harder on ourselves aren't we?

bargoo
02-22-2010, 11:28 AM
37 pounds is definitely something to be proud of . Congratulations !

Shannon in ATL
02-22-2010, 11:32 AM
Definitely an accomplishment to be proud of. Celebrate it!

Like robin said, funny how we are hardest on ourselves. I think it is often a girl thing - we beat ourselves up and hold ourselves to such a high standard. We need to celebrate our own achievements the way we celebrate the one of others.

You are rocking!

calluna
02-22-2010, 11:35 AM
:D Ask yourself if it would be a big deal to put ON the 37 pounds you have lost! Would it?

Lori Bell
02-22-2010, 11:54 AM
Yep, it's a big deal. I remember when I had lost 37ish pounds. I was finally into the 200's and I felt amazing. Although no one else could see it, or feel it, I was on top of the world. I had already started sleeping MUCH better, I could breath better, my puffy feet and ankles already started looking normal, my puffy face and eyes looked better....so yep, 37 pounds was sure a big deal to me. You, starting at 100 pounds less than I, should really be feeling the love... :)

cfmama
02-22-2010, 12:10 PM
37 pounds is huge!!!!

And getting into onederland better be a huge accomplishment for someone short... because it is to me!!!

rockinrobin
02-22-2010, 12:33 PM
Definitely an accomplishment to be proud of. Celebrate it!

Like robin said, funny how we are hardest on ourselves. I think it is often a girl thing - we beat ourselves up and hold ourselves to such a high standard. We need to celebrate our own achievements the way we celebrate the one of others.
!

It's not even a matter of being hard on ourselves necessarily, well for me anyway. It's just that I don't even REALIZE what a huge accomplishment it is. But here I sit in awe of others and their accomplishments - and again, just never think in those terms for myself. Interesting.

I also agree with Lori. 37 lbs down - I was feeling fabulous, as if there was no stopping me. It wasn't even that the weight loss was THAT apparent yet, it was that wonderful sense of control that was already grasped. It was that this was already becoming habitual and I loved everything that was going on with me, I loved manipulating that scale and making wonderful choices and transforming myself and growing - and I KNEW I was home free. :)

Kayhm0711
02-22-2010, 12:43 PM
Girl you are doing so good. 37lbs is awesome! I am, like most of the other girls like you too. We have a lot to lose and sometimes it feels like we will never get to the other end. I feel you with the short thing. I am 5'0- so I am SUPPOSE to be like 110-125lbs and that seems impossible at some times, but we can do it! You are doing amazing now, just keep up the work.

kuchick
02-22-2010, 01:10 PM
Okay Eliana - not only did you just describe me, but YOU are the poster that I always compare myself to, and find myself coming up short (which, BTW, I am shorter than you and cfmama - I'm getting a complex here :)). I see that you joined in November and I joined in January, and you've lost 37 pounds!!! I've only lost 15, and there's no way in he!! that I'm going to be able to lose another 22 pounds in two months. I don't know how you do it.

Any weight lost is weight that is gone forever, and you are succeeding where so many others don't. Your weight loss has been nothing short of amazing! :D

CLCSC145
02-22-2010, 01:54 PM
37 pounds and onederland?! That's awesome! Every single pound counts. If they didn't, then I wouldn't get so excited when I see one disappear from the scale!

marigrace
02-22-2010, 02:03 PM
[QUOTE=paris81;3165602]It's a HUGE accomplishment! You've lost more than me, so of course, I totally understand what you're feeling.

That goes for me too ! Speaking as someone who has lost the same 35 lbs on many occasions, it is worth noting that 35 always looked good in retrospect. You are doing great, Eliana, so flaunt it !:hug:

gumboot
02-22-2010, 02:31 PM
37 pounds is a HUGE accomplishment! Huge! Congratulations on reaching onderland! :hug:

FitGirlyGirl
02-22-2010, 03:40 PM
of course 37 pounds is something to be proud of. Every single pound is something to be proud of. They all add up. As for the short thing, I'm only 5'2" and I still did all kinds of happy dancin' when I hit onederland. Sometimes when I am feeling like what I've done so far isn't much I try to remember to ask myself what I would say if someone I care about told me they had accomplished that. The answer is always that I would be proud as heck of them, so there is no reason for me not to be proud of me too. This weight loss stuff is hard work and we fight to get every one of those pounds of, we certainly should be proud of what we've done.

Eliana
02-22-2010, 04:01 PM
Okay Eliana - not only did you just describe me, but YOU are the poster that I always compare myself to, and find myself coming up short (which, BTW, I am shorter than you and cfmama - I'm getting a complex here :)). I see that you joined in November and I joined in January, and you've lost 37 pounds!!! I've only lost 15, and there's no way in he!! that I'm going to be able to lose another 22 pounds in two months. I don't know how you do it.

Any weight lost is weight that is gone forever, and you are succeeding where so many others don't. Your weight loss has been nothing short of amazing! :D

I just wanted to address this specifically because, well gosh. :^: Thanks. I didn't know anyone ever compared themselves to me. :^: But I'm sorry you feel like you're coming up short! That's not my intention! LOL!

You're making me see how very silly I am being because I have all kinds of advice running around my brain that I should be throwing at myself. Things like, it doesn't matter how long it takes. Getting the weight off slowly is healthy, practical and more likely to stay off. Blah, blah, blah. ;) And it's so true!

Yes, getting into the 100's is definitely a big accomplishment and I was/am thrilled to get there! It's just that SOME people get there and say "Yay, only 20 lbs to go." LOL! That's SO not true for us shorter folks!

I guess what brought this on is this...I went to the doctor before this process and they had to pull out the big BP cuff. I was mortified. Two days ago I went to the doctor and thought Ha! They won't be pulling out the big cuff now! And she didn't....she just wrapped it around my forearm! :?: So suddenly in that one small thing all my accomplishments flushed themselves down the drain. It's like she was sneering at me, "ha ha, you're not as far along as you think you are."

kaplods
02-22-2010, 04:41 PM
The most weight I ever lost (not counting this attempt) was 70 lbs (and I was in high school on prescription amphetamine diet pills).

It's still hard to wrap my mind around the fact that I've lost 80 lbs, or that I've maintained at least some weight loss for more than five years (and a stable non-gaining weight for even longer).

Even though I'm impressing the heck out of myself in many ways, I have to force myself to look at my acheivements as impressive. I have to talk myself into being impressed, because my natural inclination is to "yes but" myself.
I start telling myself, "but I'm not working very hard," "but it's taken me years to do this, where in the past it took me months," but, but, but....

I've talked myself out of having these destructive conversations with myself very often, but once in a while they crop up.

I think there is a positive aspect of these thoughts (if you can have them without any - or much - guilt and self-recriminations). It's natural, healthy and beneficial to keep raising the bar.

I do tend to pay more attention when someone mentions or I notice that they've lost more weight than I have. I don't think it's a matter of not being impressed with those who've lost less, it's a matter of looking for a role-model for the future pounds. As long as I view my 80 lbs (and to a lesser degree other people's 80 lbs or less) as "the easy part," I'm not stressing about whether I can keep mine off.

Now getting cocky about how "easy" it is to keep 80 lbs off, would spell disaster, but feeling that the accomplishments I've made weren't so difficult makes it easier to keep going.

kuchick
02-22-2010, 05:37 PM
Eliana - If I made you feel bad, that really wasn't my intention. I just have been following your weight loss because you are somewhat vertically challenged also, and our weights right now are fairly close. It's nice to see that you are succeeding. I know that I'm going to lose slowly, and I'm going to have to be okay with that. As for coming up short - only some platform shoes can correct that :D

Seriously, 37 lbs is spectacular, and you should be so proud of yourself! And I will be proud of my 15 lbs - it's the most I've ever been able to lose the healthy way :)

eclipse
02-22-2010, 05:40 PM
Eliana, I totally know what you mean. I'm a half pound away from 40 lbs, which used to seem insurmountable. Now it seems like not very much. It's very weird.

MoveMoveMove
02-22-2010, 08:03 PM
Chica Chica Chica go stack 37 pounds of something - dumb bells, canned goods, whatever. Now lift that something. Repeat. Repeat. Still think you have nothing to be proud of?

You're rockin' girl. Keep it up.

merrie
02-22-2010, 08:26 PM
Congratulations, Eliana! Not to be repetitive, but YES, 37 pounds is a big deal! Keep it up! :hug:

eratosthanes
02-22-2010, 09:01 PM
Congrats! I will be so happy when I get 37 of these flubby things off, myself! And keep in mind, for some of us not-as-short chicks it's hard to get the weight off too! Health problems, endocrine problems, all of them (your height included) can make those losses even sweeter.

ubergirl
02-22-2010, 11:53 PM
Oh yes, yes, and YES! 37 pounds is a big deal! Are you kidding?

Until this time, I had never lost that much in my entire life.

If you're thinking it isn't that much, then think back to when you were at your starting weight....

One thing that completely surprised me on this journey was how quickly I started feeling different and better. Maybe if I'd known that, I wouldn't have waited so long to get started. I'm sure you LOOK and FEEL very different from when you started!!!

milliondollarbbw
02-23-2010, 12:10 AM
No reassurance is silly. YES, 37lbs is a big deal and you should be very proud of yourself!

I have the same problem with comparing myself to other people and always feeling like what I am doing is not good enough. I do have to tell myself ALOT, that I need to focus more on my blessings and the things I have been fortunate to have experienced and achieved. I do not think that I did things solely on my own.

You have accomplished ALOT and not think of yourself as anything less than spectacular. :carrot: