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moveforward73
01-21-2010, 09:56 AM
Well I weighed myself this morning and I only maybe lost 1lb. I was 256 on my scale last thursday and this morning it was 255. I was 255/253 on weight watchers scale. I lost 10lbs my first week on my coworkers plan, but changed to weight watchers cuz it was more convienent. And now I only lost 1lb. I'm so upset. I just wanted to cry this morning. I stayed well within my point range. I weigh in tonight at weight watchers and I'm terrified of what it is going to say. I'm just so upset. I realistically can't follow my co workers plan day in and out... I just don't know what to do. I know I'll quit if I only lose 1lb a week. :cry::cry::cry::cry::cry:


jewelrymaker81
01-21-2010, 10:08 AM
Was your first week on the coworker's plan your first week of dieting period? I know I always lose a big number the first week cause it's water weight. 1-2 lbs a week is a normal and healthy loss. Maybe just make sure you stay at the low end of your points range, you may lose a bit faster by doing that.

paris81
01-21-2010, 10:21 AM
1-2 lbs is normal and healthy and safe. Experts say that the faster you lose, the more likely you are to gain it back.

If you quit because you ONLY lose 1 lb a week (this week, I lost .1, so I would have loved to see a whole pound!--but I was thrilled to see a lose, at least!) then you won't lose ANY lbs a week. In fact, if you're anything like me, you'll GAIN weight every week.

Keep with it! It's a healthy lifestyle you're starting, not a temporary diet that you'll be abel to ditch once you get to your goal. So it doesn't matter how slowly it goes, because you'll be doing this the rest of your life.


SNMomof1
01-21-2010, 10:21 AM
1 pound is nothing to be upset about! As the PP said, 1-2lbs a week is healthy. Remember that this weight didn't magically appear in one week, so expecting it to disappear in one week isn't realistic.

Stay focused and work on a better YOU. This is a lifestyle change and it takes time. Give it all you've got and be proud that you're one pound closer to your goal. Drink plenty of water and eat healthy.

Thighs Be Gone
01-21-2010, 10:31 AM
moveforward, don't you be discouraged! Weightloss takes some tinkering around with for many of us! Don't you quit! You can do this. I applaud you for trying to find something that is realistic and doable day in and day out forever. YAY you! The time ahead of you will pass regardless. If you lose one pound a week for the next year you will lose more than 50 pounds! OMGosh--50 pounds! That is nothing to be upset about! If you stay your course and start experimenting with food intake and activity I would bet that number would even go up! Congrats on your success thus far.

chickiegirl
01-21-2010, 10:31 AM
Don't be ready to throw in the towel just yet. I agree about the first week -- in the first two weeks I lost almost 12 pounds. But it has definitely slowed this week. And the scale was just stuck for days. I find it's not unusual to have a big whoosh all at once one day after seemingly little progress.

I remember you writing about your co-worker. And that plan didn't seem to great. It sounds - although I don't think you've said it - like a restrictive fad diet.

You are much better off sticking with WW and a lifestyle change and just figuring out what works for you.

If you're really concerned, I would look at things like my salt and water intake, which can also affect the scale.

time2lose
01-21-2010, 10:39 AM
I know I'll quit if I only lose 1lb a week. What are your options?

If you lose 1 pound a week, a year from now you will be just about to slide under 200 pounds. If you quit, what do you think you will weigh a year from now? If you are like me, you will weigh more than you do now.

As the others have said, weight loss fluctuates. If you had stayed on your coworkers plan, odds are that you would not have lost 10 pounds the second week. You said that realistically can't follow my co workers plan day in and out. You need to find a plan that you can follow forever!
I suggest that you give WW a little more time. If your loss is still too slow for you, you can tweak WW too by dropping your points a little.

thistoo
01-21-2010, 10:41 AM
I haven't lost any weight since October. Not a single ounce. I guess I could have given up, but then what? Go back to being 90 pounds heavier and miserable? No thanks.

Think of it this way: If you give up because you're 'only' losing a pound a week, then where will you be? Right back at your starting weight, or maybe even heavier, and you'll maybe feel like a quitter too. That's no solution.

Losing a pound a week may seem slow, but the fact is that it will add up quickly. There's no way you could lose ten pounds a week every week, unless you're doing an extreme program like they do on The Biggest Loser, and even then most of the women only lose five or six pounds a 'week' (their weeks are actually closer to twelve days.)

Some weeks you will lose two pounds, even three. Some weeks you might not lose at all. You're going to have to adjust your expectations in order to be successful, that's all there is to it. But the great part is that you're *losing*, and it's going to make a huge difference in your health and how you feel. That's totally worth it, no matter how long it takes. I promise.

HadEnough
01-21-2010, 10:52 AM
I'll probably repeat most of what has been said, but here goes. You better not give up! You will be right back at your starting weight and then some in no time flat. It's prefectly fine and acceptable to lose 1 # a week. I know that the loss the first week(s) gives us a false sense of hope....we think we should be able to lose that every week. But, that is not going to happen. Even if you lose a 1/2 a pound a week, in a years time, you are down 25 pounds! Well, that's a **** of a lot better than gaining 25 more pounds. It comes off a lot slower than it goes on, I will tell you that. Keep plugging away, you can so do this, we can all do this....there's gobs and gobs of proof on here with all the people that have lost tremenedous amounts of weight.

And here is a quote for you to think about (courtesey of someone on here...sorry if it is not exact):
Being Fat is Hard, Losing is Hard, Maintaining is Hard......CHOOSE YOUR HARD!
I am choosing the middle one right now!

ubergirl
01-21-2010, 11:06 AM
Just chiming in to add that I agree 100%.

When we start out, we tend to be so black and white... we tend to focus on the end result without thinking about the journey.

You will be THRILLED with your progress MUCH sooner than you think! You do not have to get all the way to goal to change your life for the better.

Why don't you divide your first week loss with your second week loss? That gives you 5.5 lbs per week, which is pretty darn awesome!!!

Are you using a program to track your weight loss? Fitday will make a graph for you that lets you set your goal date and then show how you are progressing toward it. My rate of loss has been faster than necessary since the day I started, even though I've had lots of low loss or no loss weeks....

When you're starting out-- that's the hard part. You have to work harder at staying on plan because you are not used to it, and at the same time, it's too soon to really see the benefits.

But if you stop thinking long term and try to just get through one day at a time, before you know it, you'll see HUGE benefits and you won't even recognize yourself!!!

You can do this GIRLY. You DO NOT want to give up! If you did, you wouldn't be here.

LotusMama
01-21-2010, 11:11 AM
You have gotten some great advice/insight above; I agree with it all.

Some weeks you will lose more than a pound and some weeks you will lose less (or not lose at all). I have had weeks were I didn't lose a thing. Other weeks, despite being 100% on plan, I only lost .2 pounds. Then, once in awhile, I have lost more in a week than I expected. For me, weight loss is not a race, it is a marathon.

In a previous post, you stated that your co-worker's plan was untenable for you and you were switching to WW. I commented that I think that was a good move because you have to be on a plan that you can live with. The weight loss journey for most of us is a long one, and in my experience, a plan that is too restrictive or doesn't fit with your lifestyle is nearly impossible to sustain for a long period of time.

Don't give up. Figure out what works for you and keep pushing forward; it is the only way to get to your goal.

J

Tai
01-21-2010, 11:30 AM
Don't be discouraged; one pound a week is great. They add up quickly!

BeachBreeze2010
01-21-2010, 11:30 AM
1lb a week! That's great! It means it's working!! There is a post and a thread here somewhere on 3FC about the scale and what it's actually weighing. Very informative. The main idea is that it is only really possible to lose 1-2lbs per week of actual fat. Most people lose quite a bit the first week they begin weight loss. You lost water weight, food weight (yes, it's gross, but true), a little muscle and a little fat that first week. Since you ate more the second week, you probably added back in some of the food weight, hopefully kept off the excess water weight and lost more fat and less muscle (since you ate a healthy amount of calories). That is awesome!!

I agree with previous posters, quitting doesn't get you anywhere. I felt very overwhelmed at the idea of trying to lose 100lbs. I thought, geez, when I've lost 50, I'll still be fat. But even after a bit over 10, I feel amazing! My clothes fit better, I have more energy, my feet don't hurt as much, skin glows from the water and healthy foods, I have so much confidence. I am off of the sugar cycle. I have more energy.

Get through these first few weeks just focusing on eating foods that are healthy for your body, drinking water and moving more. Regardless of what the scale does, that is good for your health and will make you feel better. Do the right things and the weight will take care of itself in it's own time.

You can do this!! Look around on 3FC, there are people who are accomplishing amazing things that are just like you and started just where you are. It's the real deal.

kaplods
01-21-2010, 11:56 AM
Do not consider 1 lb a failure, by any stretch of the imagination. Get "only" out of your vocabulary completely.

I've been dieting since I was 5 (38 years ago), and in all those decades of dieting, I spent more years than not, thinking that anything less than a pound per week "didn't count" - I was a fool.

I can't lose much per week any more. Borderline low thyroid, insulin resistance, and a less active lifestyle because of health problems all contribute, but even if I only lose 1 lb a month - I still will eventually get to my goal weight.

Unlike the younger me (who lost a lot in the beginning and less as the diet progressed), I suspect that my weight loss will gather momentum and speed as my metabolism repairs and I become healthier and more able to be more active, but even if it doesn't I will eventually get to my goal weight, as long as I don't give up.

I firmly believe that most people do not abandon a weight loss attempt because they are failing, but because they aren't satisfied with the success they are acheiving and are interpreting that success as failure. Most people (regardless of their starting weight) do not lose a single pound, because they give up.

You know that if you give up, you're going to regain not only that pound, but the 10 you've already lost (and likely as not, a few extra pounds - just because that's the way, it always seems to work). If you lose 1 lb a week, you'll reach goal in two years. Two years seems like an eternity, but if you give up, where will you be in two years?

It's taken me a couple years to lose the 80 lbs I've lost, and despite it being slow (for a lot of reasons) I'm only here because I didn't give up. I averaged a loss less than 1 lb per week, and I've got 80 lbs gone to show for it. If I saw those small losses as failures, who knows what I'd weigh now (since I always seem to gain 10 to 20 lbs after abandoning a diet, I know I would be over 400 lbs).

Even if I don't lose another pound, I can't afford to give up. If I have to struggle just to maintain the loss I've already acheived, I'm willing to do that, because I don't want to gain 100 lbs. I'm only about one size smaller than when I started. I don't see any difference in the mirror, but I can shower without a shower chair (except when I'm having a bad flare of the fibro or like last week had a flu and didn't trust my balance), I no longer have sleep apnea (and I don't want to go back to being hooked up to the CPAP breathing machine at night), I can lift my arms over my head without excrutiating pain, can shop in very large stores without having to use a motorized cart, and probably a dozen more improvements in my health and mobility that I can't even think of right now.

Every pound lost counts, no matter how long it takes you to achieve that pound - as does every pound gained. I once read that every pound lost takes 4 lbs of pressure off of you knees when you're walking. When you look at it that way, you've already taken 44 lbs of pressure off of your knees. That's a big health acheivement.

Hang in there.

moveforward73
01-21-2010, 12:37 PM
It's just so dang stressful to figure out all the foods. I haven't given up yet, but I'm just so sad today. I'm sure it's not just the weight loss, my life is a mess on top of it. Sometimes I just can't figure out a way to coop, and the bad foods make me feel better. I have no real friends to go to. I have yet to find a message board/forum that deals with just everyday life where you can vent and whine and complain. I'm just so over whelmed today. I want so bad to have a hot dog, or gyro... ugggg.

CLCSC145
01-21-2010, 12:48 PM
One thing to also consider - when you have a HUGE weight loss week, it is RARELY followed by another big loss week. 11 pounds in two weeks is tremendous!!!! You just have to learn how to keep plowing forward even when you don't get the scale results you wanted. Give it several weeks before you decide if WW is working for you!

kaplods
01-21-2010, 12:49 PM
It's just so dang stressful to figure out all the foods. I haven't given up yet, but I'm just so sad today. I'm sure it's not just the weight loss, my life is a mess on top of it. Sometimes I just can't figure out a way to coop, and the bad foods make me feel better. I have no real friends to go to. I have yet to find a message board/forum that deals with just everyday life where you can vent and whine and complain. I'm just so over whelmed today. I want so bad to have a hot dog, or gyro... ugggg.

Self-medicating with food is a very normal and very difficult to resist impulse, because it works (but only in the short term).

Feel free to vent (and even whine and complain) here, and if you don't want advice or suggestions - just state that in your post (that you're venting and not really needing or wanting advice). If you just need a (virtual) hug, say that too.

Another thing I find helpful is my 3FC Blog. When I want to rant at the universe, it's a safe place to do it (and I'm in charge of it). The blogs (in my experience) don't draw as many comments as posts here on 3FC (there are positives and negatives of each), but just having a special place for such things can be a relief (or at least I've found it so).

This is a rough journey, there's no doubt about that. It does get easier though (or at least more manageable).

thistoo
01-21-2010, 12:49 PM
I have yet to find a message board/forum that deals with just everyday life where you can vent and whine and complain.

You can do that here. Really. Nobody minds, and chances are good that someone else has been there.

I think we all know how you're feeling, but I can say from my own experience that when my life feels out of control, controlling my diet makes me feel a little better. If it's the only thing I have control over, at least I have that, you know?

Massive :hug: to you. I hope things start to look a little better soon. Know that we are here for you, without judgment.

ubergirl
01-21-2010, 01:04 PM
It's just so dang stressful to figure out all the foods. I haven't given up yet, but I'm just so sad today. I'm sure it's not just the weight loss, my life is a mess on top of it. Sometimes I just can't figure out a way to coop, and the bad foods make me feel better. I have no real friends to go to. I have yet to find a message board/forum that deals with just everyday life where you can vent and whine and complain. I'm just so over whelmed today. I want so bad to have a hot dog, or gyro... ugggg.

:hug::hug::hug::hug::hug:

We are all in that place sometimes, and all of us have eaten that hot dog or that gyro LOTS of times. It's convenient and it's what we know. But coming here is another option. We'll listen. You are completely normal-- it's tough to learn new ways, but it's possible.

:hug::hug::hug::hug:

PeanutsMom704
01-21-2010, 01:19 PM
Everyone else made such great points, I'll just say hang in there! 11 lbs in 2 weeks is GREAT! This isn't a race - you are heading in the right direction and that is what matters.

matt_H
01-21-2010, 01:25 PM
Whenever you have a week where you drop a lot of weight, the next week is when the body catches up and restablizes. 1 pound definitely is not something to be discouraged about. You need to prepare yourself for the reality that you will have weeks where there will be little loss or even gains. 1 - 2 pounds is a healthy way to lose weight and one that you can maintain for the long term.

LizR
01-21-2010, 01:37 PM
moveforward I don't have any good advice but I think you've gotten great advice already. I just want you to know that my heart goes out to you and I hope that you get great support at your weight watchers meeting and on this board.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

Michelle98272
01-21-2010, 02:00 PM
If I lose only 20 lbs this year and 20 lbs next year and 20 lbs the year after that...for 5 years...I'll be at goal in 5 years. I've been FAT for over 18 years and have been in a hurry to lose weight over and over and over again...I started dieting at 165lbs in 1988. With each diet, I was successful but have wrecked my metabolism, gaining back all the weight and then tacking 15-25lbs on top of that. I have been quick to dieted myself to an all time high of 270 lbs. My point is you can't go for the quick fix if you want the weight to stay off.

Sweetie, it is important to be successful, I understand that but you didn't gain the weight overnight. Take a deep breath and realize this is a long process. 1 lb a week isn't horrible... #1 love yourself, be kind to yourself, allow yourself to struggle and be imperfect as you'd allow a friend to not be perfect.

Maybe pm some of the really successful people here for advice of how to stick with it when the going is slow. Best wishes and a hug:hug:

Souless Angel
01-21-2010, 02:15 PM
Think long term 1 pound a week, 52 weeks a year = 52 pounds a year. You probably didnt end up being over weight in a short period of time it will take some time to get rid of it. One day at a time one step at a time. Think every little ounce you loose your body thanks you its less stress on it. Keep up the good work and hang in.

ANewCreation
01-21-2010, 03:06 PM
Oh, sweetie, we've all been there at one time or another. We do understand more than you think.

It's so hard in the beginning. It's takes awhile to get a new mind set. And even then we can go back to that dark place in an instant. But the longer we put into practice what works, the less time we spend in that dark place. Good habits and positive self talk take a while to put into place but you can do this.

My wt loss has slowed down and for a moment I started to panic. But I look at where I was and I know I'm not going back no matter what happens. I don't care how long it takes I will lose the rest of this weight!!!

Be encouraged, many of us identify with you. We're here for you. We will listen when you need it. We will share stories so you don't feel alone. We will encourage you and when you want it, we will give you great advice.

You are not alone in this journey!

chicpanda
01-21-2010, 03:32 PM
So much good advice. I will add one more point. If your mood is down and you feel hopeless, try going for a 20 minute walk. The fresh air and exercise should help you feel better. Keep posting, venting and stick with your plan. We all care!

Jen415
01-21-2010, 05:24 PM
Lots of good advice here already. Colleen said it best: take ONLY out of your vocabulary. The only place a 1 lb loss is bad is on the Biggest Loser. In real life , it is great!!

moveforward73
01-21-2010, 05:32 PM
I'm not even sure sure I've lost that one pound. I'll find out tonight at the WW meeting for the offical weigh in. I don't even want to go. My mom is making me go. Just been a crap day. I've stayed on play all day, but I did realize last night I went well over my points cuz of what my mom cooked and I didn't realize it would be that bad. However Wednesday I ate hardly anything all day. So they balance out I guess. I'm still moving forward. Still feeling sad. I just want to be pretty again. I wanted to look great when I went home for a visit in May. I just plain want to feel better about myself. I'm a 36 year old whinny baby. I really hope tomorrow is a better day. Thank you everyone for your kind words of encouragment. I haven't given up yet, but i'm pretty down about it all right now.

BeachBreeze2010
01-21-2010, 05:35 PM
I am certainly not a professional, but honey it sounds like you might benefit from therapy. You sound awfully down. Maybe talking to a therapist would help?? I truly believe that 90% of this journey is mental. You've got to focus on your mind. Once it's in a good place, you'll get where you want to go. Before that, and it will be a hard struggle!

moveforward73
01-21-2010, 05:45 PM
I've been there done that. It's never been helpful. I've been to 3 different ones and I've never been happy with any of them. There is nothing worse than one looking at their watch a million times. It makes me super uncomforable and feel like bothering them. And I definately don't have the money for it now.

I am on meds for my anxiety issues, and I have an additional med I can take for emergencies, which I did today. I did good for a couple hours, but still feeling out of sorts. I don't get much sleep. I have a very hectic life. I don't get to bed til 10, and I have to be up at 4 for work. I can't get to bed any earlier cuz my daughter dosen't go to bed til 9 and then I have to run around and do the things I can't do when she's awake.