20-Somethings - is EVERYONE only here to lose baby weight? goodness!

It seems like everywhere I look women are only trying to lose their baby weight.
and .. for me its not that at all. I'd love to find someone in my situation.
so.. here's my situation.
I'm 22, have always been overweight, and have noooo kids! haha
I am just sick of being overweight, and all my friends getting hit on, while im left to just be.. the friend.
my friends are gorgeous, and they all tell me i am, but its easy when people are thin to be like.. why do you care what other people think!?

it would be nice to talk to someone who gets the looks i do, or never gets asked out because of her size. or just feels gross even walking out of the house because of her appearance.

anyone else in this position?

I think you will find LOTS of people in your shoes. Everywhere. I think it's just more common for people to refer their weight gain to "baby weight"... I was not one of them, though. I was just tired of a lifetime of being fat.

Stick around and you will see that you are definitely not alone :)

No baby weight for me! Just poor decisions and not caring enough about myself.

There are tons of people here in both situations. But no matter where we're coming from, we're all trying to commit to getting healthier, whether for our babies or for ourselves.

So welcome, and I hope you find some people you can connect with!

No baby weight here but again, I think we allll know how it feels to be heavier than we desire. I think you'll find plenty of support here so it doesn't really matter how any of us put the weight on; we need to focus on how to get it off! ;)
Good luck!

I am! (my babies are 21--LOL!)

no baby weight for me, just cake-weight :P I just signed up, im 21 and i feel exactly the same as you! What sort of diet are you doing?

yep. I'm 20, no kids, have been overweight all my life. I've actually LOST all of my friends because my weight (among other things) has kept me from wanting to even leave the house... so I definitely get where you're coming from.

You're not alone, promise!

Nope I'm here losing life weight... I'm also 22 and have always been fat

Hollywoodkatt,

So glad you are getting your priorities in order at an early age. I so wish I had done the same. I have been overweight all my life....and I cant blame baby weight that's for sure...just the opposite. I blame my weight for the fact that I am 42 and have no babies...

So stick with it girl and hang with us. Take it from the older girl you DONT want to be...still single and overweight 2o years later.

Get this done and live the life you were meant to live.

I think you will find many women on here especially in the 20 somethings who are trying to lose baby weight but, there are many who are on here because they have been overweight their whole life with no children. like me! haha
I am 19 almost 20 and like you I was just sick and tired of diets, losing, gaining back and being the fattest of my friends ALWAYS.
I am in college and I live in a sorority house so I can completely relate to you and your gorgeous friends, I never feel good enough! I always feel so self conscious around them especially when we are shopping or getting ready etc.
I have never been asked out because of my size until this year and it has been very hard. Let me tell you it does NOT get any easier (at least for me with my various insecurities) when men do start to ask me out. I feel like all men are scum when someone does hit on me now because they obviously did not like me before. I know that is one of the many reasons I lost the weight... to get men to want to date me but its hard! I never feel like its true, like they are joking or pulling my leg. I still feel so ugly and think that I look over 200 pounds. But those are my issues that I need to deal with.
Anyway sorry for rambling I would just like to say this IS a unique community where yes many women are here to lose baby weight but that doesnt mean that they cannot relate to me and my struggles. I love this place and it has made a world of difference for me. So welcome! It is nice to see another person similar to me on the board :)

Well my baby is 2.5 yrs old so Im way past the losing baby weight stage lol. I still get hit on a lot even though Im heavy and MARRIED lol. I think its more of my pesonality that just makes me so approachable. Of course I turn the guys down, Im happily married. You will get to your goal weight eventually and then your friends are gonna have to step there game up because your gonna be the one with the smoking body

Gosh it's my pet peeve when women talk about how they've popped out 3 kids so *of course* their bodies don't look like Heidi Klum's. Or when that Lizzie Miller photo of her belly roll in Glamour came out, and everyone was all like "I love that photo! That's what my belly looks like after 6 kids!!" I'm sure this is true and all, and maybe I'll have a different perspective when I have kids, but it's like, I'm 25 and have never had kids and that's what my belly looks like!!! Is it only ok to have a belly roll after you've had kids??

Gosh it's my pet peeve when women talk about how they've popped out 3 kids so *of course* their bodies don't look like Heidi Klum's. Or when that Lizzie Miller photo of her belly roll in Glamour came out, and everyone was all like "I love that photo! That's what my belly looks like after 6 kids!!" I'm sure this is true and all, and maybe I'll have a different perspective when I have kids, but it's like, I'm 25 and have never had kids and that's what my belly looks like!!! Is it only ok to have a belly roll after you've had kids??

My stomach smiles at me when I sit down :)

I'm just one step ahead of the game when the time comes for babies!

I think I'm trying to lose my baby weight from when I was a baby! Always have been overweight and wanting to be normal/skinny!

Hailey, I like your term "life weight"!


hollywoodkat-
I'm here to lose life weight as well. I've been obese since God knows when! And yes, I've had all those horrible negative thoughts that you expressed about yourself. I still have those thoughts at times. But I'm really working on trying to be positive toward myself. How can I ever be happy if I keep tearing myself down? It's hard at first, but I really recommend you try to stop that negative self-talk! I've had mulitple guys tell me that my lack of confidence is far more unattractive than my fat. And it's true, when I'm in a good mood, I get hit on (not by the guys I want yet but we're moving up here :lol: )!

I think I'm trying to lose my baby weight from when I was a baby! Always have been overweight and wanting to be normal/skinny!


HAHAHAH I was going to say that!!!

No kids here -- I'm the weirdo that doesn't WANT kids. All of my friends' clocks are ticking and I'm like NO WAY JOSE!!!!

Not me lol I'm trying to lose college weight.

This is kind of starting to bother me - all my college friends only knew the 200-220 lb me. Now I'm like 183 (maybe) and they're like OH MY GOD YOU'RE SO THIN and I'm like um, not really...I used to be a lot smaller.

No, I don't have any kids. I have a better "excuse" for my weight than having kids, though. I was put on medication that made me gain almost 100 lbs a few years ago. I rarely ever tell people this, because it doesn't matter to them. People think you're fat because you're lazy and greedy. They don't want to hear any "excuses"... like I had a baby, I was put on meds, I have thyroid problems, etc. I'm over feeling cynical about people and am now improving the only person I can improve-- myself. I try not to judge others, even though we all make judgements at first impression. You never really know where a person is coming from.

No kids here -- I'm the weirdo that doesn't WANT kids. All of my friends' clocks are ticking and I'm like NO WAY JOSE!!!!

I'm one of those weirdos that doesn't want kids either. I'm 28 and married and in my neck of the woods that makes me a side show freak let me tell you *sigh*

So I'm not trying to lose baby weight. I've been gaining weight my entire life. This is the very first(and hopefully last) time I have ever lost any large amount of weight. I was just plain sick of being overweight, now I'm super excited to be THIN!

I'm 30 (I know I'm a little too old for this thread), I've never had kids and I've been fat my ENTIRE life. I want so bad to be thin and taken seriously for once in my life!

And I'm also a weirdo that doesn't want kids. I thought that way since I was a kid myself. People used to tell me that I'll get over it someday. Now that I'm 30 people leave me the **** alone about it.

I'm in the exact same boat as you. 22, Lifetime overweight, no children.. and yeah, just leaving the house is pretty hard. I think being overweight can make ya a bit paranoid, too. :P

There are a LOT of people on here, so there are a lot of people on here for the exact same reason :)

I'd say by the look of things, there are more of us "lifers". I too have been fat since I was like 7. Its been rough and a part of me is pissed that I had to miss out on parts of my childhood because of my weight, but I'm glad I'm getting this problem resolved now so that I can be healthy and trim for the majority of my life.

its SOOO nice to read your posts and know that I'm not the only one and you guys are going through the EXACT same thing!!!
I wrote this huuugee thing, but my internet connection messed up and deleted it. now i dont want to re write it! haha
but.. the last part was... i used to have these thoughts.. and every once in a while still do.. like.. 'people dont want to see THAT walking down the street.. don't leave the house!' but.. im a human too. and if people can't respect me for who i am AT THE MOMENT.. then i dont need them in my life.
i guess i have to respect myself before anyone else will.
but its HARD when everyone around you is so pretty.

gosh! my best friend is like.. 140. and is always saying how shes so huge.. and i think.. if YOURE huge.. what the **** does that make me!!!

I was thinking..
would anyone else like to be like.. 'text' buddies.. i mean.. if we are having a hard time. or hard day.. we can text each other if we cant get to the forum, for a little extra encouragement!

just a thought!

I already love this place. thanks for being so awesome guys!

And I'm also a weirdo that doesn't want kids. I thought that way since I was a kid myself. People used to tell me that I'll get over it someday. Now that I'm 30 people leave me the **** alone about it.

THANK GOD!!!! People stop leaving you alone... although they don't really bug me about it because I don't have many serious boyfriends so they can't say "when are you getting married, when are you going to have kids." My best friend's clock is TICKING and I'm always like "thank god that's not me." It's kind of bizarre. And thankfully my parents have heard me say I don't want kids long enough that they don't say anything... although my mom has on occasion said I'll change my mind. Don't think so.

I am 23 and have no kids! I am losing weight so I can be healthier but my ultimate goal is to enlist in the military!

I think having a text buddy on this forum would be a GREAT idea! I am up for it!

I would LOVE to have some texting buddies!! Send me a private message and I'll give you my number. :)

I'm also not here to lose baby weight. I do really want kids some day, but not anytime soon please. :) I've been big since I started high school - I was anorexic in eighth grade (not a good choice at all!) and gained 40 lbs total before starting high school (so I ended up being ~130lbs at 5'4"). I felt fat (which isn't that bad, I wish that's what I weighed now! lol) and didn't talk to anyone. I found my niche in band, thank goodness because otherwise I wouldn't have had any friends. My weight kept going up until I started college - I topped off at 190lbs at a college physical and I was in shock.

I've slowly come back down to 165, but it's still really hard. I used to be so skinny!!! I don't want to be that skinny now, but I really let my eating get out of control. I binged so much in high school and somewhat in college. Now I just want to lose the weight, get down to a normal, healthy, somewhat thin body... And look the way I have felt all along. :)

Well, I am 23 and have two young daughters, but my fat waaaay predates them! I am lighter now than I was when I got married. So I am trying to lose life weight, not baby weight!

I'm 20 and a sophomore in college... no plans for kids any time soon! But.. I've been chubby since like the 3rd grade, so this is life weight. I never had any self-control around food and ate horribly growing up (my parents would try to stop me but I'd eat behind their backs) but stayed in the overweight category because they were still controlling some of my meals.
It was only when I started college and no one was around to lecture me AND I was in an all-you-can-eat cafeteria several times a day, that I started packing on the pounds quickly and gained the freshmen 35, becoming obese.
I think I lucked out though. I got the willpower to start changing it March of my freshmen year... instead of it being my fat college experience, it was just my fat freshmen year experience, because I actually started my sophomore year (just barely) at a normal BMI! I'd never really been a normal BMI before!!
So no, I don't think everyone on here is trying to lose baby weight, but I wouldn't be surprised if college weight came in at second or third though.

Even though I have 2 kids, none of the weight I'm here to lose is baby weight. In fact I ended my last pregnancy 20lbs less than I started it at. So I guess I'm here to lose my "life weight" as well. I've been overweight since fourth grade and finally am ready to change.

hello! im in your same position. 22, been over weight my whole life and no kids. I know what you mean about going out and your friends are all getting hit on. I have a bf and Im not looking to give him up for anything but it would be nice to be hit on once in awhile!

okay. i dont know how to PM people... so if you can do it to me first.. maybe I'll figure out how to PM back? im not sure. GOODNESS! i need some help!! sooo.. can i ask you guys something? I just bought that Jillian Michaels 30 day shred dvd. i know i have to do this more than 30 days.. but its a GOOD work out.
anyway. i was going to do that every day. but after one day.. i am SO sore the next day.. like, walking down and up the steps KILLS my thighs...
should i do it every other day since its pretty intense? or just suck it up and be in pain?

You can do it a few times a week if that's right for you.

But remember, the harder you work the faster you'll get results. So do it if you can! You'll only be short-changing yourself if you don't give it your all. :)

im definitely going to do it tomorrow. even if it hurts. ill just do the best i can. ill push myself. because even if i cant do it PERFECt.. its better than sitting on the couch!

So no, I don't think everyone on here is trying to lose baby weight, but I wouldn't be surprised if college weight came in at second or third though.

haha i'm a college weight-er too! :) noooo babies ANYTIME soon please!

I am not trying to loose baby weight! I don't have any kids, so I can't have any baby weight. I am however, trying to loose my "college weight" and a little more too! I'm been overweight my whole life and I'm tried of it. I don't want to be stick skinny or anything like that I just want to feel beautiful in the things I wear and get rid of that dreadful muffin top!!! ;)I would love to hear from others as I am pretty new to this!

No baby weight here either! Even tho a gentleman wanted to give me his seat on the bus a while back - getting up, pointing to my stomach and then rubbing his before he sat back down after I shook my head intensly *memo to self: must write about this in blog*

I'm 25 going on a 52 year old catlady, or at least that's how I see myself in 30ish years unless I do something about this weightproblem. Going back to college in august, and I want to finally date, so I need to loose weight fast :D

About the work out - you know what they say... no pain, no gain ;D

http://299lbs.wordpress.com/

23... no babies... just a lifetime of always being the fat girl...

I never got asked out in high school, I never was kissed in high school... it did a huge number on my self esteem! So when I was 19 I signed up for Match.com I posted pictures of myself, not just the ones from a certain angle I didn't look my real weight... and guess what, I got dates! I was going on 1-2 dates a week, and then had a couple 2-4 month relationships... it was great, I was feeling great! Then I met my fiance online and we've been dating for almost two years and just got engaged. He is an amazing man and I couldn't be happier, and he loved me at 250lbs, and he'll love me at 150lbs... that's what's most important, he loves me for me, not just at a certain weight. Start dating now, be proactive and join some dating sites... now that we are in our twenties more and more men are less concerned with girls looking perfect and more interested in finding a great girl who they connect with.

same here. im 21 and no kids and ive been overweight since i was about 9. I gained my weight from years of just stuffing myself with junk. i remember being a kid and going to the store and eating king size candy bars all by myself. as a kid i think i use to eat that much other kids use to tease me about my weight. and as i got older i just kept those same habits.

although i dont eat king size candy bars anymore. but i still go on my binges.

I don't have any babies, but I weigh the same as my 30 year old sister who just had her 4th baby. I've only been overweight for about a year, and for 6 years I have been out of shape. Suddenly 6 months ago I realized my so called healthy diet was full of me binging on desserts and over sized portions, when I stepped on the scale and realized that in only 10 weeks I shot up over 20 lbs. I want to start losing weight now to prevent the issues I see in my close family. Except for my grandmother, every single adult is overweight or obese. It's hard to connect with them about weight loss, because they don't think I am big enough or they have struggled and given up many times. That is why I am here, to connect with people who might feel the same.

It's hard to connect with them about weight loss, because they don't think I am big enough or they have struggled and given up many times. That is why I am here, to connect with people who might feel the same.

Of course! No matter what your starting weight, all are welcome here. Actually, if it hadn't been for college, I would have started here at 175 (only 2 pounds overweight), but at 175 I always PERCEIVED myself as being really fat and dressed for it - baggy, lifeless clothes, no care in my appearance, etc. I think it was more of a mental thing than an actual physical thing. The mental challenges in weight loss are there no matter what your starting weight is, and they are something we all have to overcome to successfully lose weight.

You'll find a lot of support here; I think that this is really a great group. I know it's helped me a lot. :)

Hi! I am 22, over weight, and with no kids lol (other than my dogs lol). I was actually thinking the same thing as I browsed the forums! Nice to meet you!

I think I'm trying to lose my baby weight from when I was a baby! Always have been overweight and wanting to be normal/skinny!

I was about to post the same thing! So I'll just say I'm another 20-something losing my "life weight" (and cake weight.)

I'm losing my "baby weight" from eight years ago, heh. I only have one child and I think that, at this point, I have no excuse. It's pretty much just cake weight for me now, as well. Everyone I know at this point in my life has no idea what I used to look like before I had my daughter and was skinny. In fact, one of my friends made the assertion yesterday that I didn't even look like I was "meant to be skinny". I've been in these fat jeans for so long that I'd be completely absurd to call it baby weight now, lol.

I have always been the bigger friend in my clique, but after 2 kids Im here to lose baby weight and all of the weight I gained after high school. After meeting my husband I got very comfortable and started to gain weight.

Im also losing the weight because my husband and I are planning on renewing our vows =)

ditto to everything you just wrote! I am 22, no kids, and i've been trying to lose weight. This year, I really want to reach onderland. the friend thing, i totally get. One of my BFFs is like 130 fairly tall but always talks about her weight being to high. To each his own, I guess. But I'm like dang, what must you think of me? anyway, I tried Pm-ing you bc the text idea sounds pretty cool but i couldnt figure it out. I'm gonna add you to my aol if that's okay with you? :)

its SOOO nice to read your posts and know that I'm not the only one and you guys are going through the EXACT same thing!!!
I wrote this huuugee thing, but my internet connection messed up and deleted it. now i dont want to re write it! haha
but.. the last part was... i used to have these thoughts.. and every once in a while still do.. like.. 'people dont want to see THAT walking down the street.. don't leave the house!' but.. im a human too. and if people can't respect me for who i am AT THE MOMENT.. then i dont need them in my life.
i guess i have to respect myself before anyone else will.
but its HARD when everyone around you is so pretty.

gosh! my best friend is like.. 140. and is always saying how shes so huge.. and i think.. if YOURE huge.. what the **** does that make me!!!

I was thinking..
would anyone else like to be like.. 'text' buddies.. i mean.. if we are having a hard time. or hard day.. we can text each other if we cant get to the forum, for a little extra encouragement!

just a thought!

I already love this place. thanks for being so awesome guys!

I'm 23 and have always been chubby, no kids yet. When I was about 14 I thinned out due to stress and anxiety from going to a highschool where I had no friends, then after changing schools to finish my grade 11 and 12 I met some great people and gained 20 pounds. Then another 20 a year later, then another 20 a few years after that.

I wanna lose weight for my health and because I want to feel good, also the longer I stay overweigh the harder it will be to lose it.

Of course! No matter what your starting weight, all are welcome here. Actually, if it hadn't been for college, I would have started here at 175 (only 2 pounds overweight), but at 175 I always PERCEIVED myself as being really fat and dressed for it - baggy, lifeless clothes, no care in my appearance, etc. I think it was more of a mental thing than an actual physical thing. The mental challenges in weight loss are there no matter what your starting weight is, and they are something we all have to overcome to successfully lose weight.

You'll find a lot of support here; I think that this is really a great group. I know it's helped me a lot. :)

Thank you for the warm welcome. I am starting to feel this way. I find myself wearing my makeup almost never and I put off things that used to be important like getting my hair & eyebrows done. I am also buying clothes in a bigger size worried that I will keep growing and waste money on clothes that fit.. I just can't help it.

You're definitely not alone! I'm almost 28, single, and no kids to blame my weight issues on. I've just led a life of lazy eating and exercise habits.

I've found this is a great website for motivation and weight loss tips. I've got about 50 pounds to lose to make myself happy and with the help of this website I'm going to make 2010 the year it happens!!

Good luck with your weight loss!

~Jen

No kids here and I'm 21! I've been 40-50 lbs overweight my whole teenage and adult life. I lost 35 lbs a few years ago, but gained it back.

I do plan on trying to have kids early next year though :twirly:

Hi Everyone! I am 22, no kids, 215 lbs and as the Wii fit puts it "thats obese" lol. I was not overweight during my teens, mine happened when I met my fiance and started eating Mcdonalds again! I do know the feelings though. I cannot stand the way my stomach looks now with the stretch marks...ew. I am trying to lose weight because of the MAJOR health problems the extra weight and meat eating have caused (I used to be a vegetarian...because of health issues lol I have no moral problem with eating meat haha). But anyways it is nice to be here and I hope that this forum will prove helpful!:carrot:

Well, I will still be here to support ALL of you, but I had a crazy revelation today and realized that I am truly ready for maintenance. I look perfect at this weight and I'm healthy and I am now ready to invest my energies into maintaining that weight, eating healthy, and exercising right. I am going to get more active in the maintainer's forum. But more importantly, I am also going to keep posting in the 20-somethings, and rooting you all on!!!!! I'll be posting my goal story in the next few days. Thank you all for always being there and rooting me on. Maybe I will eventually lose 7 more pounds and end up at my original goal of 145, or maybe I won't. The difference is that it's no longer a goal of mine. I'm healthy and I'm happy, and that's what matters most. I never imagined I would get this far. I'm so proud of myself for accomplishing what I had previously only dreamed of.
(Sorry for any of you that had to read this twice, as I posted it in all threads I was active in involving current weight loss.)

I think I'm trying to lose my baby weight from when I was a baby! Always have been overweight and wanting to be normal/skinny!

Thats hilarious...and I agree I too have to loss my "baby" weight. I spent the first 24 years of my life putting it on and I am ready to take it off. I don't wanna be the girl with the "pretty face" any more. Or the "she'd be really cute if..." girl!!:halfempty

So I hear you and a agree!

Well no not really! I could say that but my "babies" are 18 and 14! Hang in there - there are lots of people on here doing this for lots of reasons!

Congrats Megwini on your goal and choosing to maintain. Im sure once spring and summer get here you will get those last 7lbs off if you want!!!

I am not trying to lose baby weight I just want to get back to my healthy weight were my clothes fit better and my blood pressure is down! I dont have high blood pressure or anything but when Im a certain weight I can see that its starting to creep and I dont like that. I would like to have kids one day but at the same time I would like to be at a certain weight before that happens. Ive always been very athletic so its hard for me emotionally when I gain weight even if its 10-20lbs.

Babies? Golly no. I was wearing bras in the second grade (not training ones, either!)

But I have to say, the looks I got when I was larger (like 160 at the beginning of college, though my ticker starts at 145 'cause I didn't join until then) aren't very different from the looks I get now. I was never hit on before and had to lasso in my one and only by brute flirting force.

Honestly, men are a bad motivation. You can find a good one no matter what your size if you look in the right places (e.g. NOT at bars or frat parties). If you feel bad because boys don't ask you out, that's easy to circumvent: do the asking instead. Men (and I mean men, not boys) really aren't as interested in thinness as women are; they like ladies with self-confidence who make them feel good about themselves. By feeling good I mean being able to act naturally without the pressure to be perfect or someone's psychiatrist, not being buried under meaningless flattery.

I guess I AM trying to lose baby weight, but I'm also trying to lose takeaway weight lol