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12-27-2009, 12:46 AM
So I never, ever get hit on by men. Ever. No glances, no smiles, no how you doin's. :D I was thinking it wouldn't hurt my self-esteem now that I'm looking better if I got noticed once in a while. Big mistake.

Well, I'm at the grocery store today and putting my stuff in the back of my car when this majorly scuzzy guy comes up to me and starts rambling about his martial arts classes - seriously incoherent. I didn't think anything of it because I guess I have a face that says, "Oh come all ye weirdos and tell me your life story!" This guy has loooong red stringy hair and random parts of it are shoved up under a cowboy hat that's dirty and falling apart and he's got tattoos all over his fingers, neck, and arms and his t-shirt is covered in stains and holes. He tells me he's a street fighter and has been in jail.

So I'm trying hard to get away, but I don't want to make him mad as he's clearly a little unstable. And he suddenly says while looking me up and down, "I really like big girls. What are you, 195?" With what I can only imagine is a look of utter horror :fr:, I screamed "OH MY GOD!" and jumped in my car and burned rubber.

I swear, I needed a shower after that. Jeez, I MUST remember to be more specific when I wish for things in the future!!!!! I'm finally not thinking of myself as a "big girl" and yet I guess to sleazy, dirty ex-cons in the Ralph's parking lot I still am. :mad:

12-27-2009, 12:57 AM
Maybe he meant big as in tall...?

Either way, it doesn't matter. You didn't want to date him anyway. ;)

And yes. You must always be careful what you wish for. :P

12-27-2009, 01:00 AM
No, he clearly meant my weight. Blech.

12-27-2009, 02:10 AM
Ugh, sounds really creepy! He sounds like a mentally ill weirdo or something. I'm glad that you were able to get into your car and get out of there!

12-27-2009, 08:41 AM
Apparently this approach has worked for him in the past. (It takes all kinds?? There's someone out there for everyone???)

I remember reading a poem (it may have been by Philip Booth) that talked about angels coming down to earth & fulfilling wishes. Problem is, the angels are not running on our clock. Which is why our wishes are granted so inconveniently & inexactly, particularly when we do NOT want something anymore. I wish I could find that poem. It's so much better than my explanation of it.

12-27-2009, 08:46 AM
Oh horrible. Just horrible. Unfortunately with all the good things this wonderful weight loss brings about - comes some UN-good things and lucky you, it was your day to run into it. Truth is, you may have had this experience with this wonderful "guy" whether you've lost the weight or not. You have no way of knowing.

Don't let that deter you. Hopefully experiences like the one you had with the skeevey dude will be far and few between. Yuck.

Your weight loss and added confidence is going to open up a whole new world for you. I look forward to hearing of the time when you run into Mr. Right or at least Mr. Maybe...

12-27-2009, 10:12 AM
Poor thing! That sounds awful! It's funny, I always thing that I want to get hit on by men, but then when I do, even if they're not as gross as this guy was that hit on you, it's SO uncomfortable and awkward!

12-27-2009, 12:31 PM
Oh, good God!

Some things there's just no explanation for :shrug: He could just as well been fixated on redheads or short girls or black hair.

He sounds mentally ill. I wouldn't read too much into it.

12-27-2009, 12:35 PM
ugh, what a loser. Don't let him get under your skin to much.

12-27-2009, 12:38 PM
Yuck, that's so uncomfortable. But hey, he guessed 195.. that's kind of silver liningish. And I have guy friends who think a "big girl" is someone over 120 pounds sooo.. don't read into it too much. Maybe this is the awkward guy stage for you and as you become more confident and gain self esteem, you'll get the non ex con guys hittin' on ya ;)

12-27-2009, 01:35 PM
Yuck, that's so uncomfortable. But hey, he guessed 195.. that's kind of silver liningish.

That was the only silver lining I could find too! I alternate between laughing about it and shuddering. It really was one of those moments where I thought, am I being filmed on a hidden camera show?

12-27-2009, 01:54 PM
What!?! He obviously had no idea what he was talking about.. and he apparently had no manners either. Thank goodness you got away quickly!!

I'm sorry you had to go through that though! Seriously, don't worry about it too much. He's a speck of dirt in your AWESOME journey. :)

12-27-2009, 10:14 PM
Sorry you had to go through that.

12-27-2009, 10:19 PM
What a super duper creeper! I think that when anyone introduces themself as a street fighter, that pretty much anything that comes out of his mouth afterwards should be ignored. I hope you were able to spray yourself down with Lysol and forget about him!

12-27-2009, 10:22 PM
Ugh.... but it'll make a good story to laugh about once the CREEPY factor wears off.:)

12-27-2009, 10:40 PM
Ugh.... but it'll make a good story to laugh about once the CREEPY factor wears off.:)

Amen to that! :dizzy:

12-27-2009, 10:42 PM
that reminds me of the not-all-there guy who lives in our apartment complex.

this guy is involved in an adult MRDD program in our city that keeps him occupied during the day, but sometimes in the evening he just sits and watches the sparse traffic on our side street or picks up & throws away ciggarette butts the upstairs tennents throw off their balconey. all whilst talking to himself.

last summer i was starting to be very pregnant, my son was born in dec. and weighed almost 11 lbs.

anyways, last summer every time i walked in or out he said hi, and i said hi, an when i turned my back he told himself "thats why I don't want no B***h, don't need no baby drama"


btw, our neighborhood weirdo is now on different meds and no longer talks to himself like that! I can only hope your grocery store weirdo gets the help he needs too!!

p.s. I thought i read its your birthday today?? Happy birthday!

12-27-2009, 10:54 PM
p.s. I thought i read its your birthday today?? Happy birthday!

It is! I'm 38 today :o. Thank you! :D

12-28-2009, 01:15 AM
Some men are so gross! Sorry that happened to you!:hug:

12-28-2009, 02:45 AM
sure, he was grossed, but he put you at 30lbs. lighter! wooot!

12-28-2009, 07:53 AM
Okay.. now that I've quit giggling at your story (sorry! hehe), I must add that you must be careful what you wish for for sure...while you might start getting some of the nice guys giving you smiles and compliments.... you'll also get some of the creeps too! As you found out! ;)

Definitely either mentally unstable or a drunk/drug addict. I get a lot of those at my work. One night I even had a drunk guy pull his junk out and put it on the counter for my inspection after I turned him down the first three times!!! :rofl:

12-28-2009, 09:54 AM
Yes, next time be VERY specific in your wishing!! ;) You are awesome, your life is just beginning!


12-28-2009, 12:40 PM
In my "first life" when I was thin, I used to get noticed all the time. I hated it. In some ways, one of the things I like about being overweight is that I don't have some loser making comments about my body every where I go. I feel like I have "clothes on" so to speak. This is coming from a happily married woman, but still. Tell me I look nice today, but please don't make comments that imply you've been thinking about me in a way that isn't your place. Why do men think it's okay to do this? The man that made those comments to you was clearly a complete loser and he had no right to say that to you! We are beautiful and deserve to be treated with respect regardless of our weight.

12-28-2009, 12:55 PM
One of the fringe benefits of making ourselves more visible for sure: attention from the wrong people. I work in a public library, so I deal with a lot of crazies on a regular basis, as well as a lot of perfectly lucid and pleasant homeless guys.

There's one we think of as 'halfway homeless', because he's got a job and an apartment (near the mission), but he hangs out with all the homeless guys. He asked me out awhile back. It was...sweet, but when I turned him down it got kind of unpleasant for awhile. We're past it now, I think. I hope. I still see him every day that I work, so it's a little weird, and some days he's more gracious about it than others.

Anyway, what I'm saying is that I can certainly relate! I just hope you never run into yours again.

12-28-2009, 04:00 PM
happy belated birthday!

yikes to the nutty guy. think of it this way, he's not so capable of expressing himself in a good way socially, but you can certainly still take it as a compliment regarding your attractiveness.

12-28-2009, 07:33 PM
Yikes....so sorry you had to deal with that creepy guy. Sometimes people don't know how awful they really are. Glad you had a quick get away!