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12-08-2009, 12:29 PM
my boss is closing the office for health reasons and gave me three weeks notice today. I've been working with him for over 10 years. Wow, right at Xmas, in this economy. I am so in shock and upset.

12-08-2009, 12:35 PM
I'm so sorry!!

Remember to get contact info so you can use as references on your resume.

12-08-2009, 12:50 PM
I am sorry to hear that ... losing a job is always a tough time. Just try to remember that when a door closes another one always opens. And the economy is getting better so *fingers crossed* that you can find work ASAP.

12-08-2009, 12:54 PM
Wow! I am so sorry. Just reading the words gave me an icky feeling. Hang in there! You are in my thoughts and prayers.

12-08-2009, 01:01 PM
It's scary, but you're not alone! The company I worked for went under in September, and I've been looking for jobs since before that (knowing that the company was on its last legs). Depending on your job preferences and skill set, you could get picked up right away.

It's tough, and support from friends and family are essential. It's especially conflicting because it's not as though you were at fault- you're not fired, you didn't quit, the job just isn't there any more.

I hear (though have not yet experienced) that a lot of companies will start hiring in the new year. Good luck!

12-08-2009, 01:14 PM
So sorry to hear that! I was laid off in July. Make sure you sign up for unemployment ASAP so you can start collecting after you receive your last paycheck.

12-08-2009, 02:05 PM
I hope you find something soon! Is there any way he can help you out with some contacts of his to possibly give you some leads?

12-08-2009, 02:15 PM
*hugs* I'm so sorry. You are definitely not alone. Sending lots of good luck your way.

12-08-2009, 02:17 PM
Oh no, I'm so sorry! What a blow at any time of the year, but worse at Christmas. I'll keep my fingers crossed that you find something very soon!

12-08-2009, 02:58 PM
What type of business is it? Did he have clients that can now become your clients? If health reasons were the only reason it closed, is it something you can take over? Is there any way at all you can turn it into YOUR business?

12-08-2009, 04:26 PM
thanks everyone! I really appreciate all the kind words, and my kind words to all of you facing the same situation!!

I've checked out the unemployment situation, I can apply a week after my last day of being paid.

I'm a paralegal for an attorney, I am going to start making lists of people to approach, and have already asked one lawyer I work with to be my reference.

what makes the whole thing even more emotional is that boss is extremely ill. I'm upset (of course!!) about that as well. Don't mean to be totally self focused, it's a lot to process.

12-08-2009, 04:33 PM
So, so sorry to hear that. :hug:

Perhaps he can give you a general letter of recommendation that you can take with you to prospective employers. When my daughter was laid off about 18 months ago (along with a bunch of other staff members) the owner of the practice did that for her, giving her multiple copies to bring with her. I think it made a big difference as she got a good job about 4 weeks later.

Also, don't hesitate to network - contact everyone you know, both through this job as well as any other previous employment. This is another thing my daughter did and sure enough, one of her former co-workers from another job (who had left that company around the same time she did) was working for a company who was in the process of hiring for a new position. She got the interview, got the second interview, and then got the job. She's still there and says it's the best job she's had since she's been out of college.

As someone else stated, when one door closes, another one opens. Keep a positive mental attitude and things will fall into place.

Most importantly, don't let the stress of the situation derail your weight loss efforts. Just keep on truckin'!

12-08-2009, 09:11 PM
I am so sorry to hear this D-W...hugs....

It is tough out there...I went to our Christmas party this week-end....

that is the only time I see everyone that works for us from office to field to customer service....

the company has downsized quite a bit....

it was a "small" party compared to the past...

hang in there....I am sure another job will come soon...

And prayers for your boss too!

12-09-2009, 10:02 AM
thanks for the gen rec letter idea, I'm going to do that. I can't believe that *I'm* saying this, it's been hard to eat with all the stress. I'm down a lb.

thanks, Gary, much appreciated!

12-09-2009, 10:26 AM
I am so sorry. :hug:

I have been there before. You will get through this, I promise.


12-09-2009, 01:37 PM
thank you!

12-09-2009, 10:01 PM
Sorry to hear that; you have worked there for 10 years, so you can have some great references (and I agree, get many copies of the reference letters), and start applying now for any possible positions. Legal secretaries are kinda rare comparitively so you should have a good chance with your experience to get a new position. Prayers going up that everything will work out for you and for your bosses' health too ... :hug:

12-10-2009, 06:58 AM
I am so sorry to hear you are going though this!!! Also sorry to hear about your boss. My heart really goes out to you. I will say a prayer for you right now. Everyone is giving great suggestions. I hope everything works out for you.

12-10-2009, 10:07 AM
I just so appreciate the kind words and prayers!

12-10-2009, 11:01 PM
oh nO! Im so sorry :(

12-11-2009, 12:42 AM
Oh no! I'm sorry you are stressed- i am job-hunting myself and it can be very difficult. All the tips everyone is giving are really great. Network like crazy! I really think this is key. I was reading "what colour is your parachute?" (more tips on networking in there!) and one of the things they said to do was to approach unemployment like a marathon- catch up on your sleep, work out and make sure you are taking care of yourself physically. It can be hard to do but i think that is a good idea too, will help you stay positive.
Good luck and all the best!!

12-11-2009, 03:32 PM
thank! I'm getting my brain around it now, less freaked. I've sent out a couple of resumes and made calls to a couple of people to be references. My boss wants me to write the gen rec letter (!) Talked to my dad too. It's his 85th birthday today.

12-15-2009, 07:11 PM
Aw im a little late to this thread but happy belated birthday to your dad! And a :hug: for you, because I know how much it stinks. I was laid off from my last job unexpectedly and went through trying to get a job, trying to get unemployment, etc. Best of luck!! And of course, my prayers are with you and your boss, hope he's feeling better..

12-15-2009, 09:13 PM
Congrats. to your Dad. Some one I like was born on your Dad's b-day! This may be time to consider going back to school, I'm jobless too and I feel that I need to do something to guarantee me a good job.

12-16-2009, 10:49 AM
There are several Federal openings in New York, DC metro area (I don't know how you'd feel about that LONG train ride every day--I know lots of people do it).

Go to and type paralegal in the search engine.

12-16-2009, 11:03 AM
so sorry to hear about your job loss. Try not to let it get to you to much i know that sounds unemployed at the minuite due 2 unforseen circumstances and as u say at christmas it couldnt be worse.

Ive struggleds but got my friend and family what i could and stuck 2 the more cheap and sentimental route. Enjoy xmas and new year and just get right back out there in the new year good luck xxx:hug:

12-16-2009, 08:18 PM
There is absolutely no shame in being unemployed. I quit my job to move to a new city and I've been looking since August for the 'right' job. Budgeting is of course more important than ever, and sticking to it is a must. Networking is super important, not only do you get your name and skills out, you get loads of support. Everyone knows someone who's lost a job in this economy! I sincerely wish you the best in finding something you enjoy!

12-17-2009, 12:10 PM
thanks everybody! it is tough at this time of year being jobless, isn't it, yikes! hugs to us all. I have been applying at USAjobs, thanks for mentioning that.

I'm happy that my dad sounds so good at 85. I sent him a box of goodies (he can still eat everything too, ha), and included some homemade chocolate chip cookies.

12-18-2009, 05:58 PM
well, I just have to say HUGS, HUGS, HUGS. I am so glad your dad is so healthy at 85 too! You have a great marketable skill, I will pray for you to find a good job and that your boss gets better too.

12-18-2009, 08:18 PM
thanks, Jen!! I really appreciate your prayers (I'm sure boss does too)! I've been plugging away with the applications.

12-18-2009, 08:24 PM
I'm keeping you in my thoughts...we went through the same thing this week, actually. Through pure kismet we're going to be OK now, but the stress was unbelieveable. :hug: to you.

12-18-2009, 08:29 PM
thanks! I have my job for a couple more weeks, so I have some time to apply before I'm unemployed and to spread the word. it definitely is incredibly stressful. I'm glad things worked out for you.

12-19-2009, 12:27 AM
Yeah it's tough to go to a new year without the security of a job. I have been there.

With 10 years of experience, I'm sure you can move on to a higher place. Use the 2 weeks to save the money and get some references. I hope you have already started looking for new opportunities.

When one door closes, another one will open.

Good luck!

12-19-2009, 03:41 PM
thanks! I have sent out a bunch. It's time consuming at first, esp since nowadays businesses have their own websites that you have to fill out endless resume info before attaching your resume and cover letter. I'm getting it streamlined, and have been letting people know too.