General chatter - Military spouses/significant others/family?




mkendrick
11-27-2009, 11:12 AM
I'm sure there have been threads like this before...I'm new and figured I'd see who else has loved ones in the military (or who are in the military, lol).

My fiance is an Army officer (field artillery). He's currently in Iraq and has another 10 months left there. While I miss him like crazy, him being gone is giving me a chance to work on getting healthy and losing weight. It gives me a project and something I can focus on so I'm not thinking about him being gone.

I gotta say though...Thanksgiving by myself was tough.

Anybody else? :)


Windchime
11-27-2009, 11:38 AM
My only niece is in the Army. She just went in this summer and finished basic training a month or so ago. She's now stationed in San Antonio and training to be a nurse or medic, I don't remember which. She doesn't know a soul in San Antonio other than her army people, but one of the girls she is stationed there with happens to have a distant relative in that city, so they were invited to this girl's relatives' home for Thanksgiving dinner. She said it was going to be a little awkward going to an unknown family's home for a holiday dinner but that she was grateful she would be spending it in a family setting and not eating at the mess hall.

We did miss her but we are so proud of her.

stargzr
11-27-2009, 12:40 PM
My younger brother is in the Army, stationed in KS. He gets along really well with the guys in his troop so one of them invited a few to his house in a border state. I'm sad he wasn't here for Thanksgiving, but happy that he had a family to go to. We're very proud of him.
Tell your fiance we appreciate his service. :)


RMatS
11-27-2009, 02:28 PM
I'm still serving after 22 years, although I've spent the last 12 as a Reservist, which just isn't the same. No one makes me move, and my career field doesn't deploy much.

I know being alone is tough on the ones left at home, and you miss your loved ones, but one of the good things about the military is the way you form family-like bonds with others around you. Since I was young, a bunch of us single folks all gathered together at Thanksgiving (after working our shifts, of course), cooked a big meal and shared our families' favorites from all over the country. Even now, 20 years later, I still keep in touch with a few of those folks and we talk about our families and kids.

Windchime and Stargazer, your brother and niece are part of that now, and MKendrick, your husband ate good in the chow hall with his unit, probably talking about whatever his favorite food was and the special woman who makes it. We in the military bond together, but we never forget who we would rather be with. Your sacrifices make us all strong. :hug:

ladyrider72472
11-27-2009, 05:39 PM
My son is in the guard. While I was fortunate to have him home this Thanksgiving, he will not be home next. He is leaving for Kosovo in April. I can only imagine how lonley he will be. So.... not only are we without them, they are without us.

God Bless Our Troops!

EZMONEY
11-27-2009, 10:56 PM
My nephew is in his second year in the NAVY...just turned 19...he is in Norfolk VA and fortunately one of his best buddies from Great Lakes is there too...and his grandparents live close...they were able to go there and spend the day with "family" :carrot:

Angie and I picked up 2 Marines from Camp Pendleton, both 18 years old. We took them to breakfast, came home and chilled for a couple of hours....they loved our dogs and vice-versa....took them to dinner at church where there was around 20 other Marines and families that picked them up. The young men got to play foosball, soccer, pin-ball games in our youth room and watch TV before we ate. We came home and we all crashed and watched cartoons (their choice!) :D....took them back to base last night...

I asked them if they were bored with us 2 old folks...they laughed and said heck-no! We had a much better time than we thought we were going to have!....before we met you. Of course my kids probably helped that out too, they came down to church to hang out with them before they went to their mom"s for dinner and her birthday.

branflake
11-28-2009, 12:27 PM
I grew up with a Navy dad and now I'm married to a Navy man. :) My dad retired early after 18 years in and hubby has a little over 10 years in so far. We've been married for 6 1/2 years and although the separations never get easier but you do get "use to it" as the in's and out's become almost routine and expected.

Shopaholic1204
11-28-2009, 02:06 PM
Navy wife here!!!! HOOYAH!! My husband is in the Navy. He's been in for 6 years, and we'll be married for 5 years on Dec. 4th. He's been deployed twice..but is now on shore duty. Which is hella great. I love having him home!!! Luckily for us, he's never been deployed over the holidays *knock on wood* We're still unsure if he'll reenlist again, or join the Coast Guard.

It's tough being away from your man for a long time (for us, the seperation is never easy. It seems to get worse and worse). But the best thing you can do is just keep busy!!!

EveLHaelf
11-28-2009, 11:56 PM
Air Force wife here! :carrot:

He's been in almost 3 years and I'm sooo proud of him! I've been lucky and he hasn't had to deploy yet. I'm not sure how I'll do when he goes, I know I'll be posting on 3fc a lot!

LiLLy19
01-14-2010, 03:17 AM
My boyfriend is in the Navy! I like all the Navy spirit in here. He is getting ready to take off to the opposite coast this weekend. Its incredibly hard to prepare to be so far away but at least we're still in the same country, albeit in a different time zone. Eeeekkk......

Shopaholic1204
01-14-2010, 07:26 AM
My boyfriend is in the Navy! I like all the Navy spirit in here. He is getting ready to take off to the opposite coast this weekend. Its incredibly hard to prepare to be so far away but at least we're still in the same country, albeit in a different time zone. Eeeekkk......

:hug: Stay strong

LiLLy19
01-14-2010, 12:35 PM
Shopaholic thank you...I'm trying.....
We were that far apart when we just met and started talking. Fortunately the Navy had to bring him here to the west coast for some time so we got to build a strong foundation for our relationship. Just gotta get through this move now

mkendrick
01-14-2010, 12:49 PM
I just talked to my guy in Iraq. Ugh, I just love him so much!

When I was choosing what to major in for college, my dad only wanted me to be a vet or a doctor. I wanted to do interior design, but he thought it was dumb. So now I'm a senior in an animal science degree that I didn't even want in the first place. Well Sean has figured out how to use his GI bill for his spouse so I could go back to school for interior design. He's so supportive and wonderful.

I told him he was my hero on the phone, and I think he got choked up, haha.

3.5months of this deployment down! 8.5 to go. Only about 5 left until he comes home for leave though!

Shopaholic1204
01-14-2010, 01:55 PM
Lilly~You'll be surpised at how strong you can be during seperations. Communication is #1. Before we were married, my hubby was stationed in San Diego. Which was about 6 hours away from Phoenix. But we talked on the phone & IM'd a lot. Same with deployments. We emailed a ton, and he called whenever he could.

Megan~Totally take advantage of the GI Bill!!! My friends have, and it's pretty great for them. I wish I could..but the school I want to to go is 3 1/2 hours away.

Martina
01-14-2010, 02:32 PM
My Dad is a Vietnam Veteran and was in the Navy and the Army.

Currently I live with my ex-bf who is also my best friend. He is in the Army National Guard. He deployed to Iraq while we were dating. He was there in 2004 and stayed for ten months. I also live with his Mom, who is former Air Force. His sister and father are also former Air Force, and his brother is current Air Force.

LiLLy19
01-14-2010, 04:44 PM
mkendrick - Thats so wonderful!!!!!!!!! Interior designing is super fun and if yo have the gift for it then you should totally do it. Thats so sweet of your guy to support you in your dream. I think thats super important.

hehehe I want to see if I can get my masters degree covered by the GI bill once Im married to my guy :) :) :) :)

Shopaholic - I was actually talking to him about that last night!! hehehe Im glad to see that others have been in the same shoes and have made it through. This whole seperation anxiety thing has been causing some problems with communication the past few days but we're both so determined and committed to getting through it and putting it past us. Thank you for your support

Shopaholic1204
01-14-2010, 04:54 PM
I ALWAYS get major seperation anxiety when my hubby goes on workups and deployments. But it's always best to have other military friends who understand what you're going through.

LiLLy19
01-14-2010, 10:33 PM
Shopaholic - you're right...but unfortuantely none of my immediate close friends have anyone in the military. Maybe its time to make new friends ;)

Shopaholic1204
01-14-2010, 10:39 PM
Join a military or navy s/o group on facebook or myspace. That's how I met most of my friends.

Martina
01-14-2010, 10:57 PM
I'm still a member of my military SO forums, even though we are exes now. But seeing as we live together I still deal with the mlitary a lot. Besides, I've made too many friends.

Shopaholic1204
01-15-2010, 08:13 AM
Forums are good to join. I got kinda tired of the one I belonged to though. The girls were into their own cliques.

170starting
01-15-2010, 08:26 AM
My boyfriend is in the Marine Corps. While he hasn't deployed in a while, he leaves for 2 weeks every month (he is a Fleet Liason Logistician). It is so hard, especially since I am the one who cares for his 3 teenagers alone. They miss their mom, and I genuinely understand that. I am lucky that they have been so accepting of me. I am hoping the next time he goes on travel, I will lose a little more weight. Everyone stay strong and stay on plan. You can do this and so can I.

19Deltawifey
01-16-2010, 02:34 PM
My husband is in the Army. We are high school sweet hearts and he joined the Army about 2.5 yrs after we started dating. We have been together for 8 years and married 6 yrs 2 months. He's been in the Army the whole time that we have been married. He just signed his life over again to the Army lol he's a lifer but after being a military wife for 6+ years you get used to all the training and deployments. Our 2 kids keep me very busy and once I bought a puppy during his 2nd deployment my life got even more crazy lol. I lost weight the 1st deployment but not the 2nd deployment. Maybe the 3rd deployment will be the charm lol but that wont be for several more months. Im so happy that were moving to Colorado springs in a couple of weeks and were getting a 2nd dog once we get to Colorado. So yeah 2 dogs and 2 kids will be a lot of work when my husband deploys but dogs help me feel safer when my husband is gone. wow I talk a lot lol Im just so happy to find other military families on this site. It sucks that the Army has 1 year deployments, they just seem to never end.

HealthierLori
01-16-2010, 02:55 PM
I'm currently an Army wife. My husband was in Geneva for the START treaty talks during Thanksgiving so I know how you feel about holidays being tough alone! He was home by Christmas though so I was very lucky and I do count my blessings.

I hope your fiance comes back safe and sound and that the deployment goes quickly!

I used to be in the Army myself as a Quartermaster Officer and served in theater during Desert Storm. I also grew up as an Army brat so I guess I've been around the Army all my life, don't really know anything else. It's a good life, even though there are hard things about it (like deployments) sometimes.

You get to be really close with other military wives. Coffees and social functions are so boring, but they are worth it to go to because that's where you meet your new friends.

Best of luck to you on your fitness goals! I'm so glad you are here!

missyanne24
01-17-2010, 09:07 PM
my husband is in the Navy..we're stationed in Norfolk, VA. He's been in for 5+ years. I come from a long line of Navy folk.. so we'll just call me a Navy brat and leave it at that. LOL.

NotFatImFluffy
01-19-2010, 11:25 AM
Oh hey hey! I was just wondering if there were any other military spouses on 3FC!
My husband is in the Marine Corps, he just returned home mid November from a 12 month deployment to Iraq (his third).
This is a challenging but rewarding lifestyle - it keeps you on your toes, that's for sure.

Shopaholic1204
01-19-2010, 10:09 PM
YAY for all the military s/o's here!!!

LivyBell
01-24-2010, 05:39 PM
My hubby has been in the Royal Marines Commandos for over 25 years. While I love the military life, I am definitely looking forward to when he retires in 2012!

FitGirlyGirl
01-26-2010, 09:10 AM
My father retired from the air force. My two oldest brothers are retired from the air force. My youngest brother is in the navy. My husband is in the air force and so is my ex-husband and we're still friends.

nicholealyssa
01-29-2010, 11:53 AM
My hubby is in the Army, we are currently stationed in South Korea (Our first duty station) and let me tell you, it is a shock! lol I love the military life though :)

Shopaholic1204
01-30-2010, 05:17 AM
My hubby is in the Army, we are currently stationed in South Korea (Our first duty station) and let me tell you, it is a shock! lol I love the military life though :)

Culture shock?

nicholealyssa
01-30-2010, 03:32 PM
Culture shock?

Oh yes, very much so. I mean not so much on post because there is American stuff there, but it is definitely strange being in another Country.

LivyBell
01-30-2010, 05:21 PM
I can certainly understand where you are coming from Nichole. I experienced quite the culture shock when I first moved to England years ago, though you are experiencing it more with the language thing. It's amazing though how much our "English" language in the US differs from the English language spoken in the UK though. It is quite different.

FitGirlyGirl
01-30-2010, 06:48 PM
It really really does Livy. I spent 3 1/2 years in England.

GiddyupKaos
02-08-2010, 04:47 PM
I am a MARINE brat.. my father was a marine for 20+ years, my brother is a corpsman in the Navy, working with marines... and I was married to a marine for 20 years ... so.............................we are definitely a MARINE CORPS family... been around marines my whole life... Ooohhh rahhhh!!