100 lb. Club - NSV and HUGE RELIEF




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ubergirl
11-23-2009, 11:46 PM
I have a job in which I sometimes have to make media appearances. It has been HUGELY PROBLEMATIC for me being obese. People don't expect it and I tend to avoid opportunites because I'm so worried about my weight.

Whenever I go into public settings, it's always a huge pain-- I don't have enough nice outfits, and I spend a lot of time feeling awkward and worrying about how I look.

So this weekend, I had to go meet some really important contacts for the first time. First, getting packed was a snap. I have several outfits that I'm really confident about. I used to often have to over-dress because I looked so lousy in casual clothes, but not this time. I packed some mix and match stuff and I knew it looked fine.

Everything was SO DIFFERENT than it was six months ago when I weighed so much more! I constantly worried about where I was going to sit, how I looked, what I should eat in public.

This time I was relaxed and confident. I didn't need to worry about my clothes at all. And I ate on plan. No big deal.

My life is SO MUCH BETTER NOW. It never ceases to amaze me!


Tai
11-24-2009, 12:12 AM
Congratulations Ubergirl! I'm so glad things are going well for you.

LotusMama
11-24-2009, 12:27 AM
Awesome; you must feel so good!

Cheers,

J


Kae
11-24-2009, 09:21 AM
Congrats... you are working hard and are feeling the benefits!

rockinrobin
11-24-2009, 10:51 AM
Whenever I go into public settings, it's always a huge pain-- I don't have enough nice outfits, and I spend a lot of time feeling awkward and worrying about how I look. Everything was SO DIFFERENT than it was six months ago when I weighed so much more! I constantly worried about where I was going to sit, how I looked, what I should eat in public

This is why when people who have lost weight say that the hard of losing that weight isn't nearly as hard as being obese. THAT'S truly, truly hard. There is no comparison. My stomach is getting all knotted up just thinking about how truly difficult life was being morbidly obese.

I'm so very happy for you. I love what you're doing with your life!!

ubergirl
11-24-2009, 11:43 AM
This is why when people who have lost weight say that the hard of losing that weight isn't nearly as hard as being obese. THAT'S truly, truly hard. There is no comparison. My stomach is getting all knotted up just thinking about how truly difficult life was being morbidly obese.

I'm so very happy for you. I love what you're doing with your life!!

This is just so, so, so true!!! And mind-boggling that I never realized it.

I did not have to get to goal to reap HUGE benefits from my weight loss.

I can't imagine that it's going to be even better than this, but I guess it will.

Windchime
11-24-2009, 11:47 AM
I'm not at goal, either, and already the clothing aspect is so much easier. We've talked about it before here, but now I feel like I can buy clothes based on whether or not I like them, not based on whether or not I can tolerate them and they (kinda) fit. The result of that is that instead of staring at my closet and selecting the items I hate the least, I can just pick one of the many things that I LIKE to wear to work. It's much, much easier.

I am so happy for you, ubergirl. It's just going to get better and better from here!

rockinrobin
11-24-2009, 11:50 AM
I did not have to get to goal to reap HUGE benefits from my weight loss.
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I have used these exact words in many a post. Exact. We start reaping those rewards waaay before hitting goal. Which is another reason I've often said that the actual losing portion of my journey was fascinating, exciting, thrilling, life-altering and FUN!

I can't imagine that it's going to be even better than this, but I guess it will.

Not to take away from the wonderful things you've already accomplished, but let me tell you - you ain't seen nothin' yet. It gets better and better and better still. Better then I ever could have imagined, better then I can possibly explain to you. But you'll know. You'll see. You'll experience it. :smug:

starfishkitty
11-24-2009, 11:51 AM
My life is SO MUCH BETTER NOW. It never ceases to amaze me!

I feel ya sister!!!

JulieJ08
11-24-2009, 12:15 PM
That's really neat and put a smile on my face :)

LesliesMom
11-24-2009, 12:24 PM
Good for you!!

I am totally back on plan now and already my clothes fit better and the smaller things in my closet fit. I can't wait to pack for my next trip and be able to pack things I WANT to wear.

Angie

ubergirl
11-24-2009, 12:54 PM
I'm not at goal, either, and already the clothing aspect is so much easier. We've talked about it before here, but now I feel like I can buy clothes based on whether or not I like them, not based on whether or not I can tolerate them and they (kinda) fit. The result of that is that instead of staring at my closet and selecting the items I hate the least, I can just pick one of the many things that I LIKE to wear to work. It's much, much easier.

That is exactly what's going on with me and it just makes my life so much less stressful and awful!

I realize now that when I was at my heaviest, and even twenty pounds below that, the MAJORITY of clothes in my closet didn't really fit. I mean, yes, they fit, in that I could buckle/zip/button them, but I think there was at least a ten year period where I never tucked in my shirt. NEVER. Not once.

Most people I know love to have face-to-face contact with people to cement relationships-- me, I avoided them and worried that if people met me face to face they'd like me less.

That is no way to live.

FitGirlyGirl
11-24-2009, 01:10 PM
:congrat: I am so happy for you that things are easier and that you have more confidence now. You've worked hard for it and deserve to enjoy the benefits.

I too know the feeling and was just thinking about it the last few days. I went to visit family in July and I didn't have very many clothes that fit me because I hated the idea of buying clothes in that size. I worried when I was packing and I wore pants that were entirely too warm for July in Florida just because they fit. I worried that my father and brothers would think my hubby was not taking good enough care of me because I didn't have enough clothes. That was especially worrisome since we had been married less than 2 years and they don't know him very well yet since I met him overseas. We are going to visit in December and I already know that I have tons of clothes that fit because I am in what for me is my skinny size for my adult life and I already had bunches boxed away and I don't mind getting more and it is much easier to find 14s than it is to find 18s, 20s, and 22s, especially when shopping in thrift stores since I don't want to spend much money on clothes that I don't plan on fitting into for long. I won't have to wear anything that is seasonally inappropriate, I am not worried what my family will think, it feels great.

Windchime
11-24-2009, 01:25 PM
I hope that anyone who is feeling bad or depressed about their weight is reading this thread. Seriously, a year ago was like a lifetime ago for me. I cried a lot; nearly every day. I hated every article of clothing that I owned; each piece was wrong in some way (hated the color, made my butt look big, icky cheap material, jeans busting open at the seams). I'm still not a small girl by any means and have "only" lost 55 pounds, but it has made a world of difference. A world. So lurkers, please know that this CAN change, and in a relatively short time. It really, really can.

bargoo
11-24-2009, 01:32 PM
Before I lost weight I had to shop at the "fat ladies shop" my criteria for buying anything was...
Does it fit ?
Can I afford it ?
It was a bonus if I actually like it ( that rarely happened).

ubergirl
11-24-2009, 01:42 PM
Before I lost weight I had to shop at the "fat ladies shop" my criteria for buying anything was...
Does it fit ?
Can I afford it ?
It was a bonus if I actually like it ( that rarely happened).

I still have this AWFUL memory of having a work performance review, maybe three years ago, before I was at my heighest weight. My boss, a very slim, very pretty woman, commented on my dress, saying that I looked sloppy at work. She pointed out her own outfit (a sweater and slacks) and suggested that I wear something like that.

I was DEVASTATED because I was coming of a pregnancy and had very little money to spend on clothes--- BUT, I knew that I had probably paid more for my clothing, in a pricey brand-name plus-sized store, than what she had paid for hers. The problem was NOT the clothes. It was ME. I looked sloppy because my clothes didn't fit right....they didn't fit right because nothing really fit me right not even the plus-sizes.

It's NOT like that any more. I look just fine.

bargoo
11-24-2009, 03:37 PM
I still have this AWFUL memory of having a work performance review, maybe three years ago, before I was at my heighest weight. My boss, a very slim, very pretty woman, commented on my dress, saying that I looked sloppy at work. She pointed out her own outfit (a sweater and slacks) and suggested that I wear something like that.

I was DEVASTATED because I was coming of a pregnancy and had very little money to spend on clothes--- BUT, I knew that I had probably paid more for my clothing, in a pricey brand-name plus-sized store, than what she had paid for hers. The problem was NOT the clothes. It was ME. I looked sloppy because my clothes didn't fit right....they didn't fit right because nothing really fit me right not even the plus-sizes.

It's NOT like that any more. I look just fine.

Feels good doesn't it, ubergirl ?

Arctic Mama
11-24-2009, 03:46 PM
Confidence is worth its' weight in gold! There is just nothing so sweet as feeling comfortable in your own skin.

Judy Lynn
11-24-2009, 04:22 PM
This has turned into such an inspiring thread. Love it!

Windchime
11-24-2009, 07:09 PM
I still have this AWFUL memory of having a work performance review, maybe three years ago, before I was at my heighest weight. My boss, a very slim, very pretty woman, commented on my dress, saying that I looked sloppy at work. She pointed out her own outfit (a sweater and slacks) and suggested that I wear something like that.
.....

It's NOT like that any more. I look just fine.

I'm so glad that you're feeling so much better about your appearance! It's heartbreaking to think of you in your performance review, being lectured by some slim little thing on how to dress. She probably had no idea how difficult it is for heavier girls to try to find flattering clothing, or how expensive the few sad pieces that we had were.

I felt like it was doubly hard for me because I'm so tall. It seems like Womens department clothing designers must have sat in a room and decided that anyone who wears an 18W or 20W (or larger) must also be short. Of course nobody who wears a large size can be tall--what an outlandish thought! So it was really, really tough to find pants long enough unless I happened to drive 2.5 hours to Seattle to the closest Lane Bryant; even then, it was hit or miss.

Thinking about this gives me good incentive to mind my eating over Thanksgiving. I do not want to go back. Not ever.

rockinrobin
11-24-2009, 08:03 PM
Nightmare. Just a nightmare. The clothing situation back then. An absolute horror of a nightmare. Oh those memories.

I never felt right with what I was wearing. Or put together. Or polished. Or special. I don't know. There's lots of adjectives I could use.

Windchime, I always used to say that not all overweight people are necessarily tall. Because EVERYTHING was soooo long on me. The sleeves, the lengths, the waist to the crotch. Yuck. Everything was misshapen and tent like. Oh the nightmares.

Definitely a good reminder as Thanksgiving approaches. I too NEVER want to be back there. Thank goodness for that bird. That white meat, low fat bird. Love Thanksgiving. There's enough other events coming up where the star of the show won't be such a healthy option.