Starrynight
11-19-2009, 08:05 PM
Hi ladies. I was just wondering if anyone else was going through the same thing.
I've been trying to dress better... I love vintage-inspired looks, feminine clothing, patterns.. etc. I am so used to wear jeans.. and I've made *some* progress by wearing it with nicer, more feminine tops and cardigans. I've just recently embraced having a curvy figure (I used to do as much as possible to de-emphasize my chest and hips, esp. coming from a conservative family).
But my big thing is wearing skirts! I really love different combo's skirts, tights & boots - but I'm so not used to doing that. I thought that it was because I'm overweight & once I lost weight, I would just suddenly feel comfortable to dress differently.. but after trying on pieces that really don't' look so bad on me NOW, as I am, I realize that it has more to do with social anxieties.
I feel so overdressed when I wear outfits like that, and I end up over-thinking it and just going with jeans. Has this happened to other people? I have such nice pieces.. but I'm having trouble deciding what is appropriate, and I've lost sight of what is too dressy and what isn't. I see girl wearing dressier clothing to class (then again, I also see girls in sweats and hoodies hah) - and being someone that is quiet in general, I feel like it draws too much attention, and I only JUST started to get over male attention.
I have a boyfriend (5 years in February), so I don't really have an extra motivation to attract attention from other guys, it's just.. On top of that, I'm not someone that really parties, I like going to museums, indie shows, stuff like that - so I rarely feel like dressing up (but at the same time, I want to - if that makes any sense).
I posted a thread previously about this dress I was going to wear to see my BF, but we didn't go anywhere, so I didn't have to deal with any social anxieties with wearing that..
Has anyone else gone through similar situations? Any tips on getting over these anxieties? Am I just being neurotic?
I've been trying to dress better... I love vintage-inspired looks, feminine clothing, patterns.. etc. I am so used to wear jeans.. and I've made *some* progress by wearing it with nicer, more feminine tops and cardigans. I've just recently embraced having a curvy figure (I used to do as much as possible to de-emphasize my chest and hips, esp. coming from a conservative family).
But my big thing is wearing skirts! I really love different combo's skirts, tights & boots - but I'm so not used to doing that. I thought that it was because I'm overweight & once I lost weight, I would just suddenly feel comfortable to dress differently.. but after trying on pieces that really don't' look so bad on me NOW, as I am, I realize that it has more to do with social anxieties.
I feel so overdressed when I wear outfits like that, and I end up over-thinking it and just going with jeans. Has this happened to other people? I have such nice pieces.. but I'm having trouble deciding what is appropriate, and I've lost sight of what is too dressy and what isn't. I see girl wearing dressier clothing to class (then again, I also see girls in sweats and hoodies hah) - and being someone that is quiet in general, I feel like it draws too much attention, and I only JUST started to get over male attention.
I have a boyfriend (5 years in February), so I don't really have an extra motivation to attract attention from other guys, it's just.. On top of that, I'm not someone that really parties, I like going to museums, indie shows, stuff like that - so I rarely feel like dressing up (but at the same time, I want to - if that makes any sense).
I posted a thread previously about this dress I was going to wear to see my BF, but we didn't go anywhere, so I didn't have to deal with any social anxieties with wearing that..
Has anyone else gone through similar situations? Any tips on getting over these anxieties? Am I just being neurotic?