Weight Loss Support - Omg Girls :(:(:( Please Help....

So I've blogged ever since I started losing weight, and I've really liked it and think it helps me. Recently I was watching video blogs on youtube of people who were blogging about their weight loss journeys... so I guess I just thought it was a cool idea and thought I'd start one too.

So, I did. This was on Sunday. I uploaded one video then and another today. I was excited and have been checking for comments or messages or anything, and just now there was! It was a comment, and it said something I never, ever expected it to:

"lose some weight then *****. i can see you are very overweight"

:?::(:stress:

I don't get it :[. How is it that my very first comment was something so rude and hurtful?? I had a few tears well up but I didn't let myself cry. I know I'm doing what I need to be doing. And I know I took that chance when I decided to put my videos on the internet. It just sucks :/


I don't know what to do. Do stop putting up the videos? Should I not let someone like that affect what I do? How do I deal with my bruised heart??? I just need your love chickies!



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People are always going to judge. The internet is particuarly bad for this because people hide behind a screen name.
That being said, why are you letting it hurt you? They obviously don't care about you and their opinion means nothing. You're well-aware of your weight-loss journey and you can't let people's negative, hurtful attitude affect you.

If you feel like not making videos will help avoid a bruised heart, stop. But the majority of people out there are good, supportive, encouraging souls who aren't out for the attack. As for the bruised heart, just let it go. Anyone who could say that to a total stranger clearly has their own insecurities....you don't need to take that on. You're taking control of you're life, you're making this journey.

Oh, that's awful! I'm sorry that happened. I agree with ducky, people on the internet have no accountability for their words/actions.

Is there a way to restrict comments so that only "friends" can add them? I might seek out a blogging/vlogging community where you can post but restrict who sees it or who comments.

That's just crappy. It takes so much to put your vulnerability out there, and then to get discouraged to do so.

If you like posting video blogs you should continue to do it. Don't let some rude comment stop you. For we/you know that person could be overweight too lol, and maybe they are just jealous. That's what sucks about the internet, you can be anyone you want to be to make yourself feel better, ya know.

People like that are just ignorant anyways. One day they might be in our shoes and be overweight and not know how they got here, and they might have to make the choice of a different lifestyle. Some people are just naturally thin but eventually if not almost always it catches up with them. ;)

Be proud of yourself girl, at least you have the motivation to lose weight, and you never know maybe you inspired someone else.

There are some mean, nasty people out there in the world and they all seem to have internet access. Except for a few pockets of nice people like at 3FC, I've decided not to put myself out there to be attacked, especially about things that hit close to my heart like my weight. Those kinds of people who can cut a stranger at the knees like that are cruel and clearly have issues if they can't either be supportive or keep their traps shut. They are picking on you to make themselves feel good. If they belittle you, they feel bigger. And people like that don't deserve your attention.

Is there a way you can have your video blogs be private just for you or a few friends you decide you want to share them with? Or if there is a reason you want everyone to be able to see them, can you make them uncommentable? (not a word, I know!) I think if you want them to be accessible to the world and open to comments, you'll have to find a way to be okay with the nasty people who just want to make you feel bad.

I wouldn't let it bother you. Really, do we know what this other person looks like?? Nope...And exactly, theyre hiding behind a screen name. Who knows maybe it's someone bigger than you and theyre just jealous :) Pople are just rude and don't like to see people succeed if they're not happy...just keep doin ur thing!!

That is so awful. I am so sorry you had to have such a comment. Unfortunately in this world some people feel as if they have to tear other people down to bring themselves up. It seems that this jerk is one of those people. I have gotten to the point were I cannot read comments to news stories online because someone (no matter the subject of the story) always makes rude and uncalled for comments about someone in the story. I'm faint of heart, and I cannot imagine saying mean and nasty things about anyone, I mean I can't even read them about others.

That is one thing about the internet. People feel as if they can say anything because they are not thinking they are saying it about a real person. They are. That person will always be a jerk.Don't let those nasty people affect you. Maybe you can turn the comments off on your videos so people like that can't comment.

Best of luck to you girl. You have done an awesome job so far, and I know you have been an inspiration to me. Just know you are the better person and keep moving forward!

There are some people out there who say horrible things about sick children. Yes, it's sad, appalling, but true. It's possible that this person is evil or maybe they have some sort of a disorder. I don't know. I just know that they are not worth a single drop of your tears. Not a one. You are clearly a gorgeous, kind and supportive woman, so you probably expect similar from others, but there are some hateful people who are so miserable in their lives, that they take pleasure in hurting others. Eventually, they'll get their share (if they haven't already), so just be proud of your accomplishments and character.

I'm soooo sorry you got a rude comment! But think of it this way... if they took the time to watch their video and then left a rude comment think of how sorry their life is! hahaha Most of the time when people say hurtful things about others they are trying to make themselves feel better... Chances are it was a 15 year old boy at home because no girl will date him... Dry up those tears and keep blogging!!

Im so sorry! Im sure it had to be an immature young kid playing on youtube. You ARE beautiful! Absolutely DONT let this stop you. Who knows, one day when youre 150 pounds or even lower, that person might come across your videos again and get a reality check!

You're doing an amazing job and you look amazing! Stay Strong girly! =)

Man, that sucks. There are trolls on every site. With that being said, I definitely could not handle it myself. My feelings would be hurt, even knowing this person is probably writing these things and getting their rocks off. Just know you are beautiful and that if they weren't saying it about you, it would be the next girl down the line. If you were to continue it, I think it very brave and could really be inspiring for others. Good luck!

Girl, you totally rock! You are doing so well and are changing your life for the better and nobody can take that away from you! Someone who goes around on youtube looking at people's weight loss blogs and hide behind a screen name only to say rude and hateful things has a sad sad life if that's what they do in their free time. Sorry that was such a long sentence, lol. I saw your videos and you are absolutely beautiful! There is absolutely nothing wrong with bettering yourself and trying to inspire others. NOTHING. Do not let A-holes like that deter you. They are not worth your time or tears.

Can you tell that's a hot button issue with me? omg...I hate people like that.

I work with someone like that, so he can't hide behind a screen name. Me and a co worker were talking about weight loss and how much weight I've lost and he says "omg no one CARES!" And another time when I was talking about how I wanted to join the air force when I reach my goal he had to add in "pssshh yeah THAT will never happen."

Both times I wasn't even talking to him, he made a point to listen in and put his negativity in the convo. I shrugged him off because NO ONE is going to tell me what is and what is not going to happen in my life. One thing I've learned through my journey is that I control what happens and what doesn't happen. Some punk headed little 19 year old with a god complex is not going to dictate how I live my life nor is he going to have an opinion that means a darn to me. :p

Fat can be lost, we can get slimmer; but an ugly inside can't be changed as easily.:devil:

Keep your chin up, girl. You got this!

They're just an internet troll.

They only want to get a rise out of you. I doubt they even think that, and are only looking for an argument. If you can delete it, I would.

I can always count on you all! Thank you so so much. I read each of your posts twice, haha! After thinking about it and listening to you all I've decided that I'm not going to be upset about it anymore. You are all right - the person that did that isn't worth my time even thinking about, much less feeling sad over. I'm bettering myself and I know I'll get there.

I'm going to keep blogging because I like to, and I've let other people rule what I do/don't do for long enough. Thank you again! love you ALL!

Do not take them seriously. There are some people who just make comments to make people feel bad about themselves. If you ever get a comment like that again just delete it and laugh. Do you ever wonder what they look like? I bet they are 300+ lbs people who doesn't have the motivation that you have and try to make themselves feel better by hurting you.

JUST DON'T TAKE THEM SERIOUSLY.

You're doing something great. You could be a motivation for other people who are trying to lose weight.

What a mean thing to do. It is hightly unlikely that whoever posted that comment would ever walk up to you and say that to your face (or someone else's face), but something about being anonymous and unidentifiable emboldens people. I think what you are doing is very courageous and I think you should keep on doing it; don't stop doing something that will help you (and I am sure inspire someone else) just because somebody chooses to be so cruel. We are all behind you!

J

I agree with the others, this person is just a troll, they get their kicks out of these things. Do not let them stop you from doing something that is going to help you!

I agree mean and nasty! Well, there are some people out there that are so down about themselves, they have to bring other people down so they feel better. I am sorry and hugs. If video blogs help you, don't stop on account of a nasty troll. You are doing great taking the weight thing into your own hands. And you are such a beautiful girl, people are going to be jealous and mean.

Keep blogging and I like the addition of a video blog... I always read your blog and I love it :) and I liked your video... You're an encouragement and I love checking in on your progress....

Mean people are always out there... and I hated telling people I lost weight because I assumed they would be like well you are still fat...but I embrace it now...you have done amazing things... all of us have and we should be proud to say we have lost something...even if it is just one pound

This world is FILLED with jerks like that. Just dont lose sight that you have come a long way and you were VERY brave posting a video of yourself..

which is a thousand time better than that dirtbag who's hiding behind a computer screen to take jabs at strangers. Man up asswipe.

:hug::hug::hug::hug: Don't let a coward like that make you feel down.

:hug: Read these:

http://xkcd.com/202/

http://xkcd.com/481/

Youtube is notorious for really awful, rude, poorly-written comments. I'd be willing to bet that these people don't mean half the **** they say, they just think it's funny.

If you think that these vlogs could be useful for you, then keep on posting, and don't worry about what anyone says. :cool: If you don't think you can do it without letting the morons get to you, then you should probably find other outlets, because on youtube there's an endless supply of idiocy.

hey, remember that woman in the intro section of 3FC who started videoblogging her weight loss? I watched her interview video at youtube, she got those kinds of responses too. in fact, one said he didn't believe she could do it. she said he actually spurred her on to do better to prove him wrong(!) Keep your eye on the prize.

many more people cheered her on than insulted her, and she has inspired people to lose weight.

it's not worth it to let some dope you don't even know hurt you, or even slow you down in what you want to do.

Wow. Very rude. I am very sorry. I don't understand why people become so horrible once they are behind a computer screen.

For me, I don't discuss weightloss with hardly anyone. My hubby. My health concious friend that is within a pound or two of me. It is super personal to me--it rates right on up there with my sex life actually. It just isn't something I talk about because I don't want to debate with anyone--I don't want--well, like the comments you experienced. You really put yourself out there. Bravo that you are comfortable doing that--unfortunately when you poke your head out, you never know whats coming next--especially where weight issues are concerned.

I am sorry this has happened to you. Can you erase that comment? Is there someway you could put your video on 3FC somehow--a safer environment where you know poeple will understand? I have been reading the blogs here lately from some of the members and am really loving them. I am considering writing my own. Would you get the same satisfaction from writing a blog?

I'm sorry that happened to you :( YouTube is just full of immature pubescent kids who pretty much leave nasty comments for fun. And I'm curious as to why that person clicked on your blog if they saw what the title was. Either they are interested in losing weight themselves or were just looking to hurt someone to make him/herself feel better. It is very annoying when I read comments of YouTube videos I like to watch. You can tell they are a bunch of junior high kids who think it's cool and powerful to curse out everyone on the web. I totally wouldn't even bat an eyelash at it. But I do understand that at first the shock of the comment hurts!

That's just awful. I think you seem to be handling it fairly well, I'd probably be in bed with a big bowl of Mac and Cheese if this had happened to me!

We're lucky here at 3FC, since the moderaters are quick to zap any nastiness or trolling, but in the unprotected outside internet world, people are CRAZY! And mean. And crazy and mean do not go well together.

I'm sure that doing your vlog will help other people, so it you keep it up, it would be good (hey--send us the link so that we can check it out--we can also comment back to those nasty people!). But if you want to stop, I'd totally get it!

i liked your videos :)

Don't let the idiots on the internet get you down! There's unfortunately always going to be someone with a rude comment. You just have to keep your chin up and ignore them and keep on chugging! You've already lost more than 30lbs, which is more than most people can boast! You're a beautiful girl, don't let them stop you from doing what you were inspired to do!

I say keep on posting the videos (if you want) and ignore any ignorant comments. :hug:

I am very new to this site, but I wanted to write you and say do not listen to people who are hurtful and judgemental. Although I am one to let people get to me and hurt my feelings easily, I am trying to teach myself that when they do that they are really insecure about themselves. Sounds very textbook, but I know that it is true. I think you are beautiful by your profile picture! And I am not saying that to try and make you feel better about yourself, I really think you are. I am also trying to learn not to let rude people bring me down because there is so much more to live for than them! Keep blogging!



So I've blogged ever since I started losing weight, and I've really liked it and think it helps me. Recently I was watching video blogs on youtube of people who were blogging about their weight loss journeys... so I guess I just thought it was a cool idea and thought I'd start one too.

So, I did. This was on Sunday. I uploaded one video then and another today. I was excited and have been checking for comments or messages or anything, and just now there was! It was a comment, and it said something I never, ever expected it to:

"lose some weight then *****. i can see you are very overweight"

:?::(:stress:

I don't get it :[. How is it that my very first comment was something so rude and hurtful?? I had a few tears well up but I didn't let myself cry. I know I'm doing what I need to be doing. And I know I took that chance when I decided to put my videos on the internet. It just sucks :/


I don't know what to do. Do stop putting up the videos? Should I not let someone like that affect what I do? How do I deal with my bruised heart??? I just need your love chickies!



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Please don't let them get you down. I spend a lot of time on youtube more time then i should really. If you spend a lot of time you notice a trend on racist immature ******s who like to post comments to anyone in anyways that can hurt them. Don't take that to heart it's sadly just part of the youtube community and always has been. You will find if you keep it up the more people that see your videos you will start seeing people who support you. I believe you can even erase peoples comments off so just do that and block the user.

Send me a link to your videos or post it up I will watch them I love watching vlogs that is what I mostly watchon youtube. Just remember don't let the few idiots on youtube bother you in anyway they are mostly children with no parental supervision.

Thank you thank you thank you again! Those comics made me :lol:!! And I do write a blog, and I love it :]. I'm using every tool I can to keep me accountable, heh. You are all right about how every video gets comments like that from idiots.. and I'm not gonna waste my time worrying about them. I still feel kind of insecure about putting up videos, but the GOOD things people are saying are outweighing the MEAN things. I think this may be one of the very first times (in quite awhile..) that something hurtful has happened to me, I've dealt with it in a healthy manner (meaning not eating myself to sick or just holding it in until I explode), and moved on. It feels refreshing! It's a step in the right direction. I pretty much owe most or all of it to yall!


Also, theres a link to my video blog in my signature... :)

People are so self centered and obnoxious these days. Think it makes them better or happier or whatever to step on other people. Don't let them get you down. I'm impressed that you are willing to put yourself out there like that, I couldn't do it. I have a hard enough time with my pics I have posted here!

Good luck to you. :)

It's def. one of the harder things I've done, putting pictures of my body on my blog & putting my real personality on youtube. But I think what I need is to be completely honest with myself & hide nothing. If I blog about it, then I have to accept it. Opening up to people on a personal level is really hard for me anyway, but I think the blogging & especially coming to 3fc is helping! I'm still very much a work in progress... PROGRESS being the key word.

Aww Carissa, I just watched both your videos and I loved them! I love reading your blog too :D

kuhr, I just watched! I loved it! Really, I mean that. I look forward to watching more. May I say you are a beautiful girl? :) Congrats on your success so far. I can't wait to see the next episode! That rude poster--yeah, they were a hater. You totally don't even look overweight in that video!

:D yall always know how to make me smile! Thank you for watching & being so supportive girls!

I subbed to you! Watced both of your videos. ~waiting on more lol~


Remember don't let anyoneone get to you and you're really cute so don't listen to the haters!

Some people just suck! Any you know what...those aren't the people you are going to motivate. Your blog will benefit the greater good of women like us and that is worth way more than this persons rude opinion / comment. It's just a shame that it had to be the first one...just consider it trial by fire! You are ready for anything now.

I find when someone lashes out like that, its best to just think...wow it must suck to be them. They live in a world where that is an acceptable thing to do. Meanwhile you are here on 3FC!

Jokes on them!

Keep it up and look forward to checking out your blog.

If you look at that guy's youtube channel, you'll see that all he does is make troll comments.
"wtf is wrong with you, dumb f----t?"
"wow, just want we need, another f----t on youtube"
"not n----r games like this, L4D N----R!"

etc, etc.

I read a lot of health and fitness blogs that are really good and still there are many instances of people posting backhanded or even nasty comments. If they don't like the blogger or what they're saying then DONT READ/WATCH THE BLOG!

I just had a look at that guy's youtube profile. It appears that he just ponces around saying horrible nasty things to loads of people by the looks of it! He is quite clearly a moronic assbag.

So glad you're not going to let him stop you. It's such a shock when someone says or does something that's really dreadful. When I had just started going out with my boyfriend 2 years ago, we were walking along the street when a car full of teenage boys drove past and one started yelling the same kind of thing out of the window at me. I was so mortified, I wanted to run away and DIE. Or maybe just cry.... I still get panicky when I'm out and about sometimes. Even now, there's a guy in my class at uni who I can tell is completely disgusted that I'm overweight. He talks down to me every day. It's horrible, but I can handle it because I know I'm doing something about it (finally!)

At least we're here now, and are doing really well with our weight loss.

These people will always be witless imbeciles.

and GOOD RIDDANCE!!!

:) x

I just watched your blogs and you are SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO BEAUTIFUL!!! I'm completely jelaous!! You carry your weight WAY better than I do!!

Don't let stupidity get you down. You keep doing what you're doing. You are such a beautiful person and I can't wait to read and see more of your success :) :hug:

Way to rise above the jerk kiddo...fight on!

I really enjoyed your video blog. I have it bookmarked to keep up with your progress. Good for you! And Congrats on your weightloss!

Thank you Brittni!! And all the other girls and guys who have shown me support - I really do appreciate it & am so thankful that I have people like you who I can come to! :hug:

And what a jerk that guy is for saying so many mean things to so many people! Thanks for investigating him for me yall, haha! ;]

I don't know where to see your youtube video, but I'm curious! I think we should get an army of fat chicks to go peck that person to near-death. ;)

Mayness, I love xkcd!

PS - found it - your video is entertaining, and you look great on film! That little turd would be lucky if you gave him the time of day.

I watched your video and it was totally awesome and clever. Keep them coming, you are good at it.:D

I don't know what it is about YouTube but it seems like people there are especially harsh. The fact is they are probably some 13 year getting a little to eager with a keyboard and the house to themselves. Regardless, anybody who says something like that knows nothing about dieting or what it's like to be overweight. I find forums like this full of knowledgeable people to much more insightful. But if you like blogging on youtube keep at it... and don't let those people get ya down.

You are seriously adorable! Don't let them get to you. You might be a bigger girl, but you are beautiful (I mean that). You have a lovely face, and you carry your weight well.

thank you so much! :)

I'm a WL YOUtuber too and I haven't had anyone stupid comment me yet. The WL community over there is AWESOME and you will find alot of people who are supportive. Don't let a troll get you down!

I don't usually post over here, so I hope it's ok. 2ndly, you're a gorgeous girl and you look young - maybe that's why you obviously haven't learned yet that people, for the most part, are a$$holes LOL Doubly so in the anonymous world of the internet. This person obviously had to make YOU feel bad in order to make themselves feel better. They deserve pity. What they don't deserve is an ounce of your tears, they don't deserve more than a "hmm what a jerk" thought from you. Forget them and move on. Maybe your blog will inspire someone that's lost.

im hoping so! :)

Hey, I just checked out your video. You are a cutie-patooty! And you don't look overweight at all, so I don't know what that tool was talking about. This is a brave thing that you are doing, so you just keep on keeping on and know that you are gorgeous inside and out!

So I've blogged ever since I started losing weight, and I've really liked it and think it helps me. Recently I was watching video blogs on youtube of people who were blogging about their weight loss journeys... so I guess I just thought it was a cool idea and thought I'd start one too.

So, I did. This was on Sunday. I uploaded one video then and another today. I was excited and have been checking for comments or messages or anything, and just now there was! It was a comment, and it said something I never, ever expected it to:

"lose some weight then *****. i can see you are very overweight"

:?::(:stress:

I don't get it :[. How is it that my very first comment was something so rude and hurtful?? I had a few tears well up but I didn't let myself cry. I know I'm doing what I need to be doing. And I know I took that chance when I decided to put my videos on the internet. It just sucks :/


I don't know what to do. Do stop putting up the videos? Should I not let someone like that affect what I do? How do I deal with my bruised heart??? I just need your love chickies!



:hug:


OMG :mad: What a hateful person. I hope karma catches up to them. Usually when people say something thoughtless like that, I turn it around on them with a few simple words that you are more than welcome to use...

"Watch your thoughts, for they become words,
Watch your words, for they become actions,
Watch your actions, for they become habits,
Watch your habits, for they become character,
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny."
-unknown

Mean people suck. :mad:

omg! You totally look like Ashley Judd. GORGEOUS!

omg! You totally look like Ashley Judd. GORGEOUS!

thank you thank you! :D

They're just an internet troll.

They only want to get a rise out of you. I doubt they even think that, and are only looking for an argument. If you can delete it, I would.

I agree. They saw you had a weight loss blog/video and knew it would get to you if they said that. Don't even worry about it - block/delete him if you can.

~CGH~

P.S. - just watched the video - what the? You look amazing! You have a great camera presence - very relatable and I love your accent :-)

choirgirlhotel - THANK YOU! I didn't even know I had an accent :lol:. And i deleted the comment and havent had any further problems, so everyone was right! :)