Chicks in Control - Roommates (a Rant)

I HATE blaming other people for my problems with food/weight but right now, I feel like I'm a little entitled to the anger. I do really well with my food and eating and exercise so long as no one tries to convince me to eat something. So today, right after I got home from the gym, my roommates inform me that they are making sugar cookies. When I say I don't want one, they look really insulted and beg me to eat one. Again I said no, and this went on until I finally agreed. Once they were done, they bring a huge plate to me and tell me to have as many as I want. At first it is just two, but then I can't stop. I think I have like six before I started to feel sick and then, because that wasn't bad enough, I ate a balance bar. This isn't as bad as some of my old binges, but it just frustrates me that I can't seem to get a handle on saying no to other people when it comes to food. I'm a big pushover in general, but it is so annoying! I was doing so well, too!

Eurgh, sorry about that.

Effie

Next time this situation comes up just think of how you feel right now. You need to insist that you do not want one, and let them know that you would appreciate their support in your desicion to make healthier choices!

I agree with Ashley. Good friends will understand and support you. Good luck!

When you say no, say it like you mean it. Did they actually force feed you? I don't think so. Just don't eat them if you don't want them. If they insist take the cookies to the kitchen and put them down the garbage disposer, that should cure them of insisting on eating what you know you shouldn't.

sorry. sugar cookies are sooo good too.
luckily my oven is broken so there is no more baking of cakes, cookies and brownies like there used to be around here. all my roommates know that I am busting my *** trying to lose this weight and that I am on a pretty strict diet - so for the most part they don't try to persuade me to break my diet.
they sometimes get me with pizza tho. lol

Thanks everyone, I know it was just me being dumb and succumbing to temptation, but I hate when people don't understand that I'm really trying to diet. I've tried to make it as clear to them as possible, but they are still always trying to get me to eat things, planning trips to go out to eat, and those sorts of things. It just sucks that no one around me is able to grasp that I just need them to back off. And no, there was no force feeding, and I should have just thrown them out. I guess I just really wanted one, and then one turned in to however many.

I agree; they should support you. I'm not saying you need to have a big talk with them about your weight loss goals or anything, but maybe next time you could say (going off the idea listed above), "Okay, I'll take a cookie if you really insist, but if you give me that cookie, I'm gonna throw it away, because I don't want it." And if they continue to push, follow through and throw a cookie in the garbage. It seems like a rough thing to do, but it'll show that you mean business -- and they can't really complain, you gave them fair warning! And they probably won't give you any more cookies once they know you mean it. ;)

You are surrounded by diet saboteurs, stay strong, don't let them get to you. You are the stronger one. It is all going to be worthwhile. You will be so happy when you have reached goal.

When you say no, say it like you mean it. Did they actually force feed you? I don't think so. Just don't eat them if you don't want them. If they insist take the cookies to the kitchen and put them down the garbage disposer, that should cure them of insisting on eating what you know you shouldn't.

Unfortunately girls have a way of manipulating you into feeling guilty or bad if you don't do what they say.

She wasn't force-fed, but it sounds like they really manipulated her and that's just not right. I've had roommates do that to me.

Wow I really feel for you. You did say "no" to them numerous times, and they were jerks for continuing to hound you. If you want - what I have done in the past - (yes, it's more passive, but this way everyone's happy) you can take it, say you're going to eat it in your room, and then toss it. They think you ate one and they won't harrass you (hopefully!) and you dont' have to eat it.
Or - depending on how good of friends you are with them - you can just tell them you are obviously trying to get healthier and are trying to eat better, and don't want things like cookies to undo all your hard work at the gym. They should respect that.
I know how you feel - I've been there.
Best of luck!!!

Do what you must to stay true to you. Don't give in under the stress of someone--saboteur especially! When my "frinemy" drops over a plate of goodies (which she has been told before NOT to bring) it gives me the utmost pleasure (even more than eating it) to turn on my disposal and throw them down in my sink one my one--I love how quickly I can obliterate the problem! You can do it too. The next time they want to bake that may be a good time for you to take a bubble bath, or go for a walk, a drive, go shopping for a new lipstick--whatever. Obliterate the problem on the spot.

Thanks again for the advice and support everyone, it really made me feel better. I don't like blaming them for my momentary lapse in judgement, but I do find it frustrating when people won't take no for an answer, even after I told them that I didn't want them because I had already eaten enough that day and was full. I'm going to try having a talk with them. Hopefully it won't start any 'do you have an eating disorder' talks, make them start watching me too closely, or trying to tempt me further. All of which, sadly, have happened in the past.

Thanks again,
Effie <3

Good luck Effie. Your roommates are cruel, honestly! They are trying to derail you on purpose. maybe they are secretly jealous - I have no idea. Good luck with the talk! Don't take crap from nobody ;-)

I have a friend who used to do the same thing with me except with alcohol. It drove me nuts. I just had to finally be a b*tch about it and she finally "got it" No MEANS NO! Stay strong, and if you have to tell them to back off, than just do it. It really is your call.

I know where you are coming from, my relatives do the same and they also know I only eat healthy foods, not junk. It's so annoying that you just don't want to be around them anymore. good luck!

In my experience I think people try to force you to do things that they think you WILL do. It's a sick mind game and you shouldn't play into it. If someone offers me something I politely say no the first couple of times they ask. After that I cannot dignify their coaxing with a response. Ignore them entirely, as if their words got lost in the air somewhere. Believe me they will get the idea that you are serious. But if you keep whining "mmm no, i shouldn't really.... no no" then they know it's just a matter of time before you break down.

It's rather sadistic, but people seem to get enjoyment out of forcing others to do things.

You know, I had a frank talk with my dr...at 5'6", 37 years old and 260 pounds... I said, "I'm a minister and a pastor's wife, and people are constantly shoving pies and cakes and all kinds of stuff at us. I need to be able to say, "I WOULD LOVE TO, BUT THE DOCTOR SAYS I MUST NOT EAT THIS, not even a little taste, OR I WILL DIE." My dr. said, "you go right ahead and say that, that's fine, 'cause in all likelyhood, if you don't succeed at losing weight, you will."

Later, I saw my diagnosis sheet. She had written "Morbid Obesity."

That really hit home...

Now I just tell all those nice church ladies, "I'd love nothing more than to eat that pie...but I can't. Doctor's orders!" And since most of them have watched their husbands die because they wouldn't listen to their doctors...they really respect that.