Weight Loss Support - What's the picture in your mind keeps you going?

10-30-2009, 10:29 AM
A couple months ago, my sister left a pair of size 14/16 pants at my house. They were getting too tight for even her.
When I first started this diet, they wouldn't even go over my thighs. NOW, they are over my big butt! :carrot: Okay, fine, they won't button up yet, but I think in 5-8 pounds they will! ;)
My goal, -and what has kept me going all this time- is to fit into those jeans by thanksgiving, or, even a week before. The thursday before thanksgiving, i'm jumping on a airplane, and going to go visit my sister in Nashville, (where she recently moved with her new husband) and I'm going to be wearing her old jeans! Yeah, she probably won't notice, BUT, I think i'm going to throw it in her face! Haha

SO, i'm curious, (and very proud of my own little picture) what's the picture in your mind?


10-30-2009, 10:43 AM
For me, I think it has a lot to do with my sister too...lol

Pretty much my entire life, she's been skinnier and smaller then me. I'm 5'8"...she's not even 5'2"...so it's not even really a good comparison...but once I was 3 and she was 5, everyone thought I WAS the older sister. There was even this one time on HER BIRTHDAY where we went to a restaurant and the waiter brought me an adult cup and her a kids cup...and she cried for hours (and of course I felt bad, but still...she's just always been smaller)..

Anyways, she throws it in my face a lot...how big I am and how big I've always been. When we were younger, she'd tell me I was fat and that I was ugly and that I'd never be as pretty as her...blah blah so on and so on...Even now, she doesn't outright call me fat, but she still will come in my room and ask "Rachel can I borrow a shirt?" and I'll find one and she's like "Oh that's WAY too huge. That would NEVER fit me!"

It just gets on my nerves, because honestly...Yeah I weigh more then her, but she's not skinny. She's got big thighs and a flabby tummy, it's just harder to tell because she's got a giant butt and wears a size 32 G bra...so it camouflages it...

I guess one of my goals is to be able to wear her clothes...the hand me downs always went from me to her, and that's just weird because I'm younger and it's not supposed to work that way...

and I DEFINITELY want to be able to walk into a room and draw more attention then she does...but we'll see.

I think I'm prettier then her, and I think that once I'm skinnier then her (not weigh less, just look skinnier) everyone else will finally be able to see that too. I won't have to be the ugly sister anymore.

10-30-2009, 10:47 AM
I have a couple of pictures that keep me going.

First of all, I want to become a police officer. I'm in college studying criminal justice (and want to go to grad school to further my education in the field of criminal justice/leadership management/hr/sociology-I haven't decided yet). But, the big picture that keeps me going is me in awesomely cute skinny workout clothes, performing some sort of a kick from a kick boxing class. It's not even the uniform or anything, it's the ongoing exercise for when I do reach my goal! (How awesome is that?!) lol

Another one is kind of a very personal thing for me. I want to be able to wear those platform high heels and sexy lingerie for my husband (well, for his pleasure, but mostly for mine...to be able to see that yes "Dang, I look good!").

ETA: Both my brother and sister have lost a lot of weight, and now they are able to run. My sister is taking part in a 5K and my brother, who is in the Air Force, is able to train people because of his intelligence and his fitness. When I go home to visit my family, I want to be able to run a couple of miles with both my brother and my sister (they are so very supportive).

10-30-2009, 11:24 AM
Another one is kind of a very personal thing for me. I want to be able to wear those platform high heels and sexy lingerie for my husband (well, for his pleasure, but mostly for mine...to be able to see that yes "Dang, I look good!").

This is one of my motivations as well!

Another thing that I keep in mind is how I'll look in a bathing suit so that I can take my kids to the beach next summer. My son LOVED it the one time we went last fall (around this time). We just walked along the shore but he wanted to get in the water (it was to cold). I want to be able to be comfortable in a swimsuit and take my boy into the water that he loves so much.

Plus I am dying to look supremely hot for my 10 yr anni with DH next November!

10-30-2009, 11:32 AM
I think I'm prettier then her, and I think that once I'm skinnier then her (not weigh less, just look skinnier) everyone else will finally be able to see that too. I won't have to be the ugly sister anymore.

If that's you in your avatar, you are already beautiful. Not the 'ugly sister' in the least, even without seeing your sister. I *am* sorry she takes out her insecurities on you, though. Hopefully she'll grow out of it. My sister and I have and we're very close now (we work out together and can even share clothes these days!), but I spent almost my entire life comparing myself to her and calling her 'the pretty one', so I know where you're coming from.

10-30-2009, 12:22 PM
For me, it would be to actually take a picture of myself when I lose the weight.
Everyone: seemed so let down when I gained all the weight. Everyone seemed so hung up on it, as if I dropped the ball. My mom and dad always make comments about my weight or how good I looked before. My dad will ask me if I still look fat. When I told him that I lost a lot of weight he acted like he didn't want to believe it. Everyone lives 4 states away so I wouldn't be able to physically go there. But I do want to take a picture and send it to them.
For myself, it would be to wear my wedding dress again. I felt so sad one year that I let my daughter wear it for halloween. I felt so darn fat especially to see her wear it knowing I couldn't do it. I can't wait.

10-30-2009, 12:37 PM
If that's you in your avatar, you are already beautiful. Not the 'ugly sister' in the least, even without seeing your sister. I *am* sorry she takes out her insecurities on you, though. Hopefully she'll grow out of it. My sister and I have and we're very close now (we work out together and can even share clothes these days!), but I spent almost my entire life comparing myself to her and calling her 'the pretty one', so I know where you're coming from.

ITA! I always think you are beautiful whenever I see your avatar!

10-30-2009, 12:58 PM
I have two pictures in my head that keep me going....

The first one, is me crossing the finish line of a half marathon, all the pride and overwhelming happiness from being able to do it! That and for my next picture i need to be able to RUN...

And secondly, me in Air Force blues graduating BMT.

I can't wait to make those pictures in my mind real. I will show them to all of you when I do! :hug:

10-30-2009, 01:07 PM
If that's you in your avatar, you are already beautiful. Not the 'ugly sister' in the least, even without seeing your sister. I *am* sorry she takes out her insecurities on you, though. Hopefully she'll grow out of it. My sister and I have and we're very close now (we work out together and can even share clothes these days!), but I spent almost my entire life comparing myself to her and calling her 'the pretty one', so I know where you're coming from.

ITA! I always think you are beautiful whenever I see your avatar!

Thanks guys...It's really nice to hear that, especially because today (so far) has been one of those low self-confidence days for me...

and thistoo, I don't know if my sister and I will ever be close....she's just a rude and inconsiderate person and she doesn't understand how the real world works...she's always had her head up in the clouds. I just can't manage to see eye to eye with her, so every conversation we have turns into a fight...HOPEFULLY some day we'll be able to get past it, but right now I'm guessing that day (if it ever comes) will be in the far off distant future. =/

10-30-2009, 01:09 PM
My "picture" would just have to be looking awesome in a picture with my bf. He is alot shorter than me and I feel it always makes me look "bigger" and I really want to see myself as the girlfriend and not the "giant woman" in the picture.

10-30-2009, 01:15 PM
I've always been very curvy, but when I was 16/17 I weighed 124 pounds. I got so much attention from guys, but never noticed. Now that I think about it, it is kinda gross because men used to whistle at me from their cars when I was on the street. Part of me wishes I was more aware of how good I looked so I could have made the best of it and not let myself get this way.

So whenever I look in the mirror, I picture me with that great thin body again, and how great I'll look with my curvy hips and big boobs (haha). I think about how I won't be restricted to the clothes I wear.

I bought a belt yesterday, the only one that fit was a 44 inch waiste one, the large ones at stores don't fit me. I want to buy a belt without finding a store that carries a size bigger than large. I also want to get a coat that's just a large, the larges are a little tight on me still. I want to look great this winter! Without wearing just a puffy coat that hides everything!

I can't wait :D Another thing that drives me is the obesity in my family, I can see how the women easily become overweight. My aunt and my mom are not overweight due to the fact my aunt boxes, and my mom works out everyday to maintain her blood sugar as she's a diabetic. I want to fit into my mom's size 6/8 pants :) ( cus I'm sick of her stealing my clothes! she likes baggy clothes :( )

11-03-2009, 03:19 PM
Grey skinny jeans. I'm currently a size 16, but the smallest affordable pair I can find comes in a size 12. My admittedly ambitious goal is a size 10, but that is some time off!

11-03-2009, 03:44 PM
My picture has changed recently. Until I got pregnant this time, I pictured myself at goal, in cute workout clothes finishing a race. (5k.. 10k... didn't matter... just running in a race and finishing) THEN I found out a couple of weeks ago that I'm pregnant again, so now my mental picture is what I DON'T want. I ended up gaining 45 lbs with my last pregnancy, and I remember how I felt afterwards, when none of my old clothes fit. I don't want to go there again.
DivineFidelity I have sister too, and one of them is always in competition with me. It's frustrating. :hugs: BTW you truly are gorgeous!!!

11-03-2009, 04:58 PM
A picture me walking up to school on my son's first day of kindergarten and feeling confident. Not worrying one bit that someone will tell him his mommy is fat.

11-03-2009, 05:05 PM
I have two; the first doesn't put me in a very good light, however.

My best friend was a size 5 when we started hanging out (2005) and has put on a lot of weight since then...I think close to 100 lbs. And she blames me for it, despite the fact that it was our combined bad choices that led to both of our weight gains AND that she put the last 40 on with me being 200 miles away. Regardless of these facts and her own lifestyle choices, i know she sees me as the reason she gained so much weight.
So, I have the picture in my head of finally being thinner than her. I don't have to be a size 4, just smaller than her, healthier than her and feeling better. As a sorta "if I can do this, its clearly not my fault you're fat" retaliation. Its mean and bitter and I hate myself for it...but I can't wait. And I might be there this Thanksgiving and then I can start to forgive myself for being so cruel.

And the second, I want to look amazing in a wedding dress. I refuse to let my three year relationship turn into an engagement until I'm at my goal weight...because I want those pictures to look amazing, i want people to think I look beautiful and I want my wedding dress to not be a plus-sized gown.

11-03-2009, 07:51 PM
For me it's wanting to put an awesome picture of me up on my facebook page. There were a ton of guys in high school who wouldn't even talk to me because I was a tad chubby...I want to be able to put an awesome picture of me up in a tiny black dress with my super high peep-toed black pumps...and then get the satisfaction of knowing that they are sitting at their computers going "damn, she looks good".

Also, I always feel better when my boyfriend and I are getting frisky if I weigh less..so that keeps me going too!

11-03-2009, 08:34 PM
Divine, you are beautiful now. Don't let your sister get you down. Sisters are always competitive, I know that from experience. Sounds like she has issues of her own.

Ducky - I had to laugh at your story. I can kinda relate to it. I have a friend who seems smug whenever I gain weight, and made a point to tell me, when I used to bike 100 miles a week that I wasn't losing weight from it. Just came right out and said it - "you really haven't lost weight, even though you bike all the time." So I know what it is like to want to show up a friend.

Mathgirl - I know what you mean about being friskier when you are thinner. I am the same way. When I heavy, I don't feel frisky at all. But when I am thinner...:o

As for me - I hate to say it, because it sounds so unrealistic. But I would love to look the way that I did in high school. I have a picture of me from when I was 15 and around 117 lbs. I would love to at least somewhat look like that again.

That said, I am going to Vegas with my bf in January, and I really would like to look halfway decent by then.

11-03-2009, 09:16 PM
I want to wear a bikini next summer and have a smokin' hot bod. I have day dreams about walking on the beach, hand in hand with my husband, and other guys looking at me like "daaaayum..." and my hubby having that goofy grin on his face like "Yup, she's mine".

Yeah, that's my motivation.

11-03-2009, 09:24 PM
JillianFan, its nice to know that I'm not the only one who is slightly bitter towards a friend...why do people feel like they can comment in such nasty ways?

11-03-2009, 09:49 PM
I picture myself being active (hiking/kayaking/swimming) well into my 50's & 60's.

Mathgirl - I can relate to the guys not talking to you in HS. It has been 25+ years since my graduation and many of my "friends" on FB have recently taken notice of me. I have to laugh because although I believe a person can change many have not; they are still all about the looks.

I can also tell you that the frisky cat is back.

11-04-2009, 10:15 AM
To look hot in a great pair of jeans and adorable little vintage dresses.

11-04-2009, 10:43 AM
Ive been overweight since elementary so I picture myself in my day to day life as thin and wearing cute clothes! I cant wait to post pics on facebook and run into some people so all my highschool "friends" can see!

I also definitely want to be healthier and one of those cute skinny pregnant people! haha My mind just wanders randomly around when I think of what I'll be like thin....from people seeing me that havnt seen me for a while, shopping in the skinny stores at the mall, running, getting dressed up in sundresses with sexy heels, going to the beach and actually feeling comfortable....to name a few!

I cant wait!

08-29-2010, 09:50 PM
Hello, I'm new to this site!
Mine isn't really a picture but more of a time period, back when I was in middle school I was over weight and still in that awkward faze of life, and people constantly reminded me of it, Boys and girls a like would insult me and act like I wasn't there because of my weight, and a lot of times even my parents would insult me on it. I've also been dumped quite a few times due to my weight. So now I keep that in mind as I try to better my weight, and try to show them what they made fun of years ago.

That and I'm tired of my brother constantly telling me how ugly I am and how fat I am, I understand he's young but it still hurts.

08-29-2010, 10:44 PM
My parents are away for 3 months, I have an image in my head of them returning and me being at least 8kgs lighter then when they left.

Summer is around the corner (for me anyway) and I want to be able to harness the maxi-dress this year without it looking like a tent.

We go camping over the holidays, I want to be one of those fun, fit mums that run around and are more active rather then using camping as an excuse to sit around and do nothing.

08-29-2010, 10:58 PM
I always picture myself wearing my favourite jeans which last fit me when i was about 147 pounds (or ten and a half stone as we say on this side of the pond). In the picture I am also wearing a stripey jumper I adore which I haven't worn for some years.
Clothes are a big part of the motivation for me because for too long I have been wearing the same sad old tracksuit. Because I'm only 5'3'' but large, I have to roll the sleeves up which is not comfortable and the trousers have an elasticated waist. I long to be in nice clothes again.
In my picture that is going to spur me on, I am also playing the guitar. I used to love to play, but it is very hard for someone apple shaped to play as the guitar keeps getting pushed off your knee. So I hardely ever play now.
Finaly, in my picture it is the beginning of Summer. My goal date is May 1st next year, just when everything is about to burst into life in the garden.
What a happy person I will be when this picture is a reality.

08-30-2010, 01:15 AM
just to be smaller, healthier, feel sexy... have sexy things fit awesomely ;) I want to see people from my past and for them to be wow'd :)

08-30-2010, 01:24 AM
Love this post.

I have so many pictures I can't choose! It depends on the day.
But......the first one, is me, being fit and happy, in a cute little jogging outfit running with my 65 year old aunt in a 5K.
Second.....being a "fit" bride, pregnant lady and mom.
Third.....because everyone simply "expects" a person to never be fit after they have had a gain.
Fourth.....to be able to see pictures of myself in a bikini and not cry. :-)

08-30-2010, 01:30 AM
Similar to what was stated before, my picture is being in a sexy lingerie outfit for hubby and not having to turn the lights off ( I wear them now and LOVE them but I feel so stupid sometimes because of how big I look) and feeling good about myself. :)

08-30-2010, 01:32 AM
I literally dream of running. All the time. Not running from something or to something, but just because I'm fit and I can. I can't wait to make that dream real.

08-30-2010, 01:50 AM
I have two pictures in my head that keep me going....

The first one, is me crossing the finish line of a half marathon, all the pride and overwhelming happiness from being able to do it! That and for my next picture i need to be able to RUN...

And secondly, me in Air Force blues graduating BMT.

I can't wait to make those pictures in my mind real. I will show them to all of you when I do! :hug:

It's so cool to see this post now with the picture of you wearing your race medal next to it!

08-30-2010, 02:14 AM
i guess i have a little in common with some of you girl as far as my motivation being all those boys in hs never giving me the time of day because i was a little overweight. I went to a really big school, and was relentlessly teased until my very last day for my size. I just want to show everyone that my size does not define me, and how much i have improved since then. I'm doing also for me and my healthy too, of course. I would like to wear a bathing suit next summer, and look at myself naked without feeling disappointment.

08-30-2010, 03:30 AM
I guess i have a couple of "pictures" in my head.

I would like to be in a picture with my sons and not end up cropping myself out of it before I post it online.

My son is starting preschool, and though it won't happen now, I would love for the other moms to see me and think "Wow, she looks great for having 2 kids".

I know it's dumb, but there is a Lowe's ad where this woman is putting clothes in the dryer, and she's wearing a pair of skinny jeans. I like to picture myself looking that awesome in a pair of skinny jeans.

I'm just starting to run, and there is nothing attractive about me during a run. I remember driving down the street one day, and a girl was jogging down the sidewalk. Some guy driving along was too buys watching her jog (most people were!), and he rear ended the guy in front of him. I would like to go jogging and cause traffic accidents!

08-30-2010, 07:37 PM
OK. I realized when I started thinking about this that this is hard for me--I think because, even though I've been taking the weight off (very slowly!) for years, I've never really let myself dream about an "end goal" until recently. As someone who's never in her adult life been inside a healthy BMI range until a few weeks ago, I think I don't have a very high capacity to really believe in my fantasies about looking good--I've never seen it in real life. (I hope I'm turning a corner!).

But here goes:

1. I want to walk into my family's Christmas celebration and have all my aunts who've been catty to me over the years for being "the uppity one" (why waste money going to college when you can get your M-R-S for free? not much value for education for women in my family, mostly just for having babies/husbands with decent jobs) be taken aback by how much better I look than *their* daughters, who internalized their moms' sucky values. Don't get me wrong; I also really hope things get better for my cousins (lots of 'em are taking major control of their own lives now, WOO). But I sort of want my aunts, their mothers, to see me and realize they were wrong about me--and that their values are all screwed up... but that'll never happen.

2. I want to inspire my parents and brother to take control of their health. They have a whole variety of health problems (high blood pressure, back pain, gout, sleep apnea), most of which are directly caused by poor diet. We all shared the same bad habits. So I'm hoping that if they see me succeed, they'll feel like it's possible for them, too. So one of my pictures is a family picture of all of us, looking/feeling like a million bucks.

3. I want a slammin' bod in time for some major exams I have in January--my qualifying exams before I start my dissertation. I've never had a picture of myself at a Major Life Event where I thought I looked good, and where I get to be *fully* proud when I see the picture later; I really, really want these to be the first. That's the image I have in my head--me with my advisors, in a form-fitting sweater and jeans, a glass of champagne in my hand and a huge, proud smile on my face.

08-31-2010, 07:20 AM
1. I picture myself in knee-high boots and a skirt!

I have bought specialty knee high boots for wide calfs
and...they're cute..but it's not the same..

I also do not wear skirts at all right now, so, i would love to be
able to wear both!!

2. I picture myself on a beach. in public. in a swimsuit. and i am smiling
and not hiding under a towel!

3. Being fast! Running, upstairs, out with my family, not being the one who slows everyone down..

08-31-2010, 07:57 AM
I picture myself being active and doing things fearlessly! I used to just take off and go; now I'm all cautious and worried about stamina and fatigue. I want that to leave me forever.

My 16yo son reminded me of this yesterday. He's started a course that requires physical fitness, and announced that they're running 10k today (it's their second day). But because it's a 'team thing', he will then have to go back and spur on his teammates that haven't crossed the finish line yet, so will likely run more like 20k. He just throws it out like he's talking about the weather, with no doubt that he'll be able to do it.

I want to be like that... :^:

08-31-2010, 11:49 AM
This is an interesting exercise. It made me realize that some of my goals probably aren't realistic, because I've patched them together from pictures of fitness models & clothing catalogues, and those people are younger & taller, and they just aren't me. I don't have any images where I can be sure it's actually me instead of my airbrushed face photoshopped on some woman's body whom I've seen in the Windsor Pilates or P90X TV infomercials.

But finally I am able to come up with a picture, because I'm going to the Cape tomorrow, and when I think of what would make my visit happy, it would be if I could run on the beach & really look like someone who runs all the time, instead of making the other beachgoers turn to see if I was fleeing something.

Same thing about being at my local gym. I'm comfortable there, and it's a regular hangout. But I'd like to look like I really, really belong there.

08-31-2010, 11:54 AM
My picture is of me, fit and active, hiking with a staff in a forested mountain with a backpack on my back. Currently, I use a lumbar pack (enough for 2-3 hours) and avoid mountains. But I love to hike, and would LOVE to at least TRY a day-long hike some day.

08-31-2010, 09:51 PM
A picture for me is to FINALLY feel and dress as youthful and free caring as I know I am/could be. To walk into a store and buy something and look decent without having to try on fifty different shirts to find just one.

Now... pants... :p I'll always have to work hard to find a GOOD pair. I have long legs... which makes it more difficult. Long pants are SO hard to find!!!

10-07-2010, 11:59 PM
I picture myself looking equally proportioned or thinner in relation to my mom and wearing a smaller size. She's lost a lot of weight and is looking very slim these days, but she's a couple inches taller than me and much bigger-boned - so there's no reason I shouldn't be able to compete!

I also picture myself with a smaller waist. I'm 35-27.5-37. I'd like to see that middle figure at 26 or 25!

10-08-2010, 12:36 AM
I gained 65lbs during my pregnancy and am still working off this baby weight almost 2 years later! We want more kids and I really, really want to be a skinny pregnant lady. I want to just look like I swallowed a basketball instead of having people wonder if I'm pregnant or not. :D

I'm an academic and I also picture myself being a professor and giving lectures in a business suit looking very slim!

10-08-2010, 01:15 AM
My goals are a little off because I have reached some of them like being able to wear knee high boots and skinny jeans (I used to have huge calfs - I could barely wear ankle high boots).

When I reach my goal weight::carrot:

:m: I want to shock all the people I went to HS with. On a side note, I don't just want to shock them with my awesome bod I also want to throw it in there face of when I obtain a bachelor's degree. I was pretty much voted least likely to succeed and not just by the students but also by some teachers. (It was not an official vote or anything but it still pisses me off). I only have eight classes left so I am totally jazzed!

10-08-2010, 10:25 AM
My picture? I feel a little bad, but...

I've mentioned her before. I have this one friend who has always been tiny and curvy (like, tiny waist, bigger bust, bigger hips/butt but not BIG - just...perfectly proportioned). She's never outright said I was fat, but she likes that she's the "pretty one" in our relationship. I suppose I can't blame her. I kinda wish I was the thin one.

Anyway, she's my height her BMI is like 21, she wears a size 4 and S/XS. I was REALLY tired this morning and grabbed a pair of her jeans off the floor instead of mine (we room together) and got them all the way up to my hips before I realized they wouldn't button. They were pretty dang tight, but not tight enough that they wouldn't go up. I can barely squeeze into a size 4! (this is a good thing at my weight). And I weigh at least 40 lbs more than her! I'm hoping that when I get smaller, I can easily fit in her jeans. That'd drive her a little crazy! Mwa haha!

But the nice one is a mental picture (hopefully someday real) of me in a sleek, kinda sexy/trendy black dress out on the town with friends where I'm the/one of the smart, heel-wearing (maybe even a little hot) one. I'd LOVE that. :D

10-08-2010, 10:26 AM
Oh, and with the talk about sisters, I just had to mention mine (she deserves it) - My sister has actually never said anything about my weight. When I was smaller (years ago) she acted like it was normal and I could be pretty. When I got big, she still acted like it was normal and I could be pretty. She hasn't said anything about my loss yet, but I know her very well - the reason is that she knows I don't like it to be in the spotlight.

I appreciate it - I do like comments on my weight loss, but I don't really want to DISCUSS it (some people want to do that, thinking I want to - my sister gets that I don't, though). I love that she's never judged me - we're both pretty, but she's always, always been thin without effort at all. If I ever bring up my weight to her, she'll talk about it. I don't think I will just yet - I want to be able to take her clothes, first! Lol!

I love her very much, and I know she's behind me on this all the way. One thing I love about her is that if I ever ask for help or seem to need it, she's there. I try to do the same for her, too.

So, someday I'd like to be able to go out and do fun things with her with both of us looking smokin'! People will probably think we're twins - we're not, but we sound alike and in high school everyone thought she WAS me (they didn't believe I had a sister until I proved it - it took like a week).

10-08-2010, 10:35 AM
I always had a similar "picture" as the OP. I bought a pair of size ten boys' jeans at the thrift store for my son, but when I got them home I realized they'd been in the wrong section and were actually size 10 women's. I couldn't fit my big toe in them at a size 20.

Now they fit. :D

10-08-2010, 10:54 AM
For me it's my family, I want to be there for them and I know I need to be.
My Mom has diabetes and bad arthritis in both knees and hands. My mom has recently lost a huge amount of weight and her diabetes is under control without shots or pills. She is a huge inspiration to me.
My Dad was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis 4 months ago, he also has bad knees, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. He is currently on a diet and exercising, it seems to be helping a bit. He has also lost some weight. The fibrosis has put a lot of stress on my family because it is a terminal disease and we are very scared for his life. He will be going on a lung transplant list but it takes a year to be placed on it. I really hope that what he is doing now helps him feel more comfortable.
My Brother is healthy other then being very over weight and also having bad knees. He has lost some weight as well and looks great.

My whole family is on the heavy side and I know since the only thing wrong with me at the moment is bad knees and being overweight that I will more then likely get diabetes if I stay on the track I am in now.

I just keep thinking of my family and how i can hopefully prevent things before it's to late.

10-08-2010, 05:28 PM
1. I picture myself going into ANY store--namely, forever21, and being able to have my pick of whatever items are in there and not have to be limited to the plus size section. I love forever21 and many of my cutest clothes come from their plus size section but its such a SMALL corner of the store and I have to head straight for it whenever I go in, bypassing all the other cute clothes that occupy the rest of the HUGE store.

2.LOOKING better. I don't think I'm unattractive at this weight, and I get plenty attention from men, but I know I would look EVEN BETTER in an a normal weight range. I can't wait to be slim and light and fit and active.

3. The last and perhaps most motivating picture is to be THINNER THAN MY SISTER. She is two years younger than me and is no slim jim by any means. She could do with a 20 lb weight loss herself, but she has ALWAYS ridiculed me and called me names because of my weight. I CAN'T WAIT until the day when I am skinnier than her and she will ahve to EAT HER WORDS! Most people already say I'm prettier than her weighing nearly twice as much, I can imagine how much better I will look than she does when I'm THIN! And I've already figured out that I can weigh a little more than her and still LOOK skinnier because I'm two inches taller than her. AND she has more of a stocky build and I have a smaller frame under all this fat.

10-08-2010, 05:58 PM
I have a short term "picture" that's keeping me motivated and it's picturing myself in the dress I just ordered for my ex-boyfriend's brother's wedding! I'm going to look fabulous! The wedding is 4 weeks away...

10-08-2010, 06:02 PM
I just remember how great and full of energy I use to feel when I was thinner and active. And how much better my sex life was....

10-08-2010, 06:08 PM
Every Christmas we do a "whole family" get together. Everyone is there, inculding the people you only see once a year on that date. Over the last three years people have noticed/mentioned or looked at me funny due to my weight gain. THIS year I want to shock them, instead of being BIGGER I want to be SMALLER.

10-08-2010, 08:52 PM
Oh I have LOTS of images in my head.

For my 16th wedding anniversary next year (May) I want to hire a photographer to do a boudoir shoot. I wont be at goal at that time... but I'm hoping not to put it off til his bday (Oct) because i haven't lost enough.

Along the same lines, I want to be sexy... in and out of lingere.

Just like with MzHopeful, I want my extended family to be WOWed when they see me at Christmas. (There are about 100 of us, but I usually only see them at Christmas time. LOL)

10-08-2010, 11:07 PM
A picture me walking up is my boy friend.

10-09-2010, 01:18 AM
Thanks for this thread, guys! I wasn't sure I could finish my time on the elliptical today, and now, I'm ready to hop back on there!

So sad that girls are so competitive with each other, but mine has to do with using friends as motivation, too...

One of my best friends at work is known as the "hot chick" of the company and I know everybody knows we're really good friends. But I feel like guys always flock around her, and when we go to bars together, she always gets all the attention, and me, I'm either playing wingman or completely ignored.

When I get to goal, I'd love to be the "hot chick" too. Not just that friend of the hot chick who guys feel like they have to talk to because they wanna score with her best friend.

Another image is me at the beach, rockin' a *~*~bikini*~*~ for the first time in my life, not feeling self-conscious, long hair blowing in the wind and a great big smile on my face. And I'd even let people take my picture and put it on facebook, too! :beach:

10-09-2010, 11:35 AM
My picture is of me, fit and active, hiking with a staff in a forested mountain with a backpack on my back. Currently, I use a lumbar pack (enough for 2-3 hours) and avoid mountains. But I love to hike, and would LOVE to at least TRY a day-long hike some day.

I do day walks on paths, without much of a steep climb usually. I would really love to be able to seriously hike.

my older sis was (much) thinner than me most of our lives -- got more positive attention from family, always was popular and had boyfriends. after she had kids, she gained a serious amount of weight. I don't see her often bec she lives on the other side of the States. It always gave her some (catty) satisfaction that she was skinnier than me. Now I'm a smaller size than her, which gives me some satisfaction (from past frustrations with her). I'd much rather we supported and cheered each other on, as I definitely feel like I could use the support. Unfortunately, I don't ever see that happening.

I don't think it would occur to her to think: "wow, this is what you went through" now that she's heavy.

the real pic in my mind that keeps me going, is having more stamina and doing activities like hiking, swimming, kayaking maybe, or whatever I'd like to try. yes, I'd like to look better in clothes and have life be easier in general from being thinner, but I really want to have the ability to be more physically active in a fun way.

10-10-2010, 04:07 PM
Last time I saw my family was in April and next time I'm going to see them is going to be at Christmas.
I want to lose what I have gained since leaving home. I have gained back some of the pounds I had once lost and my family was kind of expecting me to do so.
My sister and my mother are always on some diet but never ever maintain their loss and they think I won't be able to either. There is this one pair of black pants that I want to wear. I can still squeeze into it, but it doesn't look good at all.

ashley nicole
10-10-2010, 05:30 PM
There are a couple..
1. Me wearing a swimsuit and not being mortified about it. Preferably a bikini, but I have no idea what my body is going to look like when I get down to my goal weight.

2. Me walking around my apartment in (and this is very specific) knee socks, boy short underwear and tank top and driving my boyfriend CRAZY!

3. http://www.wedding-dresses-mall.com/pic/201022316505238897.jpg

10-10-2010, 08:29 PM
The picture I have in my mind is walking into a store and being able to grab a size 8 of the rack at the FRONT of the store, trying it on, it fitting, and looking fabulous! I am so sick and tired of being relegated to the fat lady racks at the back of the stores, full of floral print crap. I want to wear clothes that look good and aren't full of big freaking hibiscus petals!

10-10-2010, 11:16 PM
I think for me, more than anything, it's the energy I want!

The image that I have is of me finishing a marathon or a triathlon. At that point, who cares about the number on the scale!

lol, plus looking hot in a bikini would help

10-10-2010, 11:57 PM
One of the (many) pictures in my head is waking up the morning after great sex, throwing on my boyfriend's t-shirt and having it be big on me - like hangs down near the knees...of course, in this image I also have awesome hair and perfect skin that requires no makeup to look gorgeous in the morning :D

Another picture in my head is just me in great fitting jeans and white tank top looking curvy with pert butt and boobs...and again with the awesome hair and skin (are we sensing a theme)...

10-12-2010, 09:39 AM
There's a girl that's exactly my height, and what I imagine the ideal body at this height is. I picture myself looking more like her. I picture myself finishing a marathon. I picture myself looking hot for my man.

10-13-2010, 06:47 PM
Wow! I just logged into 3FC for the first time since december...I was looking back at threads I started, and this being one of them! I'm so glad it was revved up again but some of ya'll!!

Just FYI, I totally walked off the airplane in THOSE JEANS! I remember doing it clearly. What a great day!

A new update, i'm OFFICIALLY 196 lbs. I just bought two pairs of SIZE 12 JEANS! The tiniest I've ever been, and probably one of my biggest goals completed!!! That was my picture in my mind; and I DID IT. Yay ME! Keep going girls!

10-13-2010, 08:48 PM
1. better sex - yes I went there but I'm so self conscious that it was hard for me when I was in a relationship.

2. Clothes!!! and Heels!!! - At this time I wear pretty basic things (dark pants/jeans, basic tops in solid colors), but a lot of people come to me for fashion advice once I start talking about my love for all things fashion! I cannot wait until the day that I am able to wear vintage, and just pick up anything from the rack and look hot. Heels: self explanatory. I will live in them once this weight is gone.

3. No one will look past me anymore because I'm the "big girl"- I feel that I have been brainwashed throughout my life because I have always felt that men, **** people in general, think that I'm "cute", great personality, fun, but "too big". I have grown up feeling that I'm not worthy of an attractive man's attention or respect (this can also be applied to any person), especially when they approach me and looks are the only thing that matters when dealing with anyone initially. Thinking like this has damaged my self esteem but at this point I am beginning to undo the brainwashing. I'm somewhat comfortable in my skin now, better than any other time in my life but once I reach goal, I will feel invincible.