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10-22-2009, 10:09 PM
I never thought I would get here, but here I am. I realize I haven’t been on the 3FC boards in a while. Life has been kind of crazy the past 4 months, so it’s been tough to find the time. However, during my absence, I have, in fact, reached goal. So, I decided I should share my story.

I have been looking forward to writing this for over two years!!!!

My story:

My weight loss journey has been a wild roller coaster ride.

By 2nd grade, I was the “chubby one”. I could see that I was different from the other kids, but it didn’t bother me much. Two years later, I was obese, weighing in at 165 lbs (a little over 4 feet tall at the time). By then, was very aware of my weight problem. Every day I went to school, I wanted to run and hide. I knew I stood out like a sore thumb, but I tried to hide my low self esteem by cracking jokes about how fat I was. I figured if I acted like it didn’t bother me, no one would notice.

By sixth grade I felt repulsive, ugly, like I was cursed to be fat forever. The boy I had a crush on at the time made it quite obvious that I was not “in his league” and it killed me, because I believed it. I thought no one would ever think I was pretty, and I suffered through a serious bout of depression.

When I turned 14, my body began to change and I experienced a sudden growth spurt, all over the course of one summer. On my last day of 7th grade, I had left, still very overweight… but I came back for my 1st day of eighth grade looking like a completely different person. For the first time in my life, I was an average weight. I didn’t exercise, so while I was technically in the “normal” weight range, I still looked a little chunky. However, compared to where I had been, it was a huge improvement. I didn’t feel “thin”… but I didn’t feel like the “fat one” either. I was at 135 (at 5’2”) then, and I maintained that weight for two years.

Then, the pounds started piling back on. The stress of moving to college caused me to pack on 20 lbs. When I reached 157, I went on a diet. It lasted 3 months, and during that time, I lost 8 lbs, to bring me to 149. I stayed there for a while, but then I got engaged, and the stress of the wedding packed on 5 lbs. On my wedding day, I weighed 154 lbs.

The transition from living with my parents at home, to living as a 21 year old married woman in another state caused me to stress eat to the extreme. In the first 3 months after our wedding, I had gained 13 lbs, putting me at 167 (my heaviest). That is when I first found 3FC. Desperate to stop my weight gain from spiraling out of control, I got a gym membership and started working out. I also changed my eating habits. In 4 months, I was able to lose 14 lbs, bringing me back to the weight I was at my wedding. But, I fell off the wagon after getting a new job (where junk food was abundant), and my weight climbed up steadily, eventually coming to rest again at 167.

After the economic downturn, the company I worked for went downhill. I decided to quit. It was one of the best and scariest decisions I have ever made. While I was terrified about what the future held, I was also determined to get myself moving in the right direction. For the first time, I had the chance to re-evaluate who I was, where I was going, and concentrate on becoming the person I always wanted to be. That included being a healthier, happier, more confident person.

I was unemployed for 6 months. I began to work out religiously, going for runs 5-6 days a week. I cut down my portions, and I got rid of *most* of the junk food. But, more importantly, I finally put a stop to my self loathing. I made a conscious effort to fall in love with my body, and love it for what it was. I came to terms with the fact that I didn’t have to be “magazine perfect” to be beautiful. I just had to be the best “me” that I could be. So I worked towards that goal.

I started losing weight in January, after leaving my first job. When I first changed my lifestyle, I was 167.5 lbs. Last week, I got on the scale…

And it read 130.8.

In 4th grade, I was wearing a size 16 in jeans. After my growth spurt in the summer after seventh grade, I could just barely squeeze into a size 8. I had never… ever… worn a size 6. That had always been my goal…

Two weeks ago, I slipped on a pair of size 6 jeans in the dressing room and I cried. Not only did they fit… but they were loose in waist.

For the first time in my life, I LOVE MY BODY. I feel sexy, I feel beautiful, I feel confident. I have never felt this way before, and it’s simply euphoric. I would often see on 3FC someone saying “Nothing can taste as good as being thin feels” and as a chronic over-eater, I had a very hard time believing that. But, now I understand, and it’s the honest truth.

So, the lessons I have learned through this experience:

1. You don’t have to give up anything. I still splurge. I still enjoy all my favorite foods. I just eat less of them.

2. Find exercise that you can enjoy doing, or you’ll never stick to it.

3. Your weight may be a part of who you are, but it in no way “defines” you.

4. It is important to love your body at any weight. All the times that I lost weight and gained it back, I was trying to lose weight because I hated who I was. I used self loathing as a motivator… and it always failed. This time, I used love as a motivator, and the pounds just slipped off. I tried to change all of my negative, nit-picky comments I usually thought to myself, into compliments. Instead of “wow, my butt is huge” I would think “Wow, my eyes are really blue and pretty.”

5. Reward yourself with non-food items that make you feel good about yourself. I bought make up, lingerie, new clothes, jewelry and perfume for myself whenever I reached an important milestone.

Before I wrap this up and include the obligatory “Before and after photos”, I just want to thank everyone at 3FC for your support, your wisdom, and your courage. We are all fighting the same good fight, and I could have never done it without the motivational words and the wealth of information that I received from many of the members here. I hope I made you guys proud. :hug:

Thanks again 3FC!!!

BEFORE (and wow, does it take courage to post these):


After (at about 135):

After (tonight, in my living room)

In this shot, the "pouch" belly you see is unfortunately accentuated by my over-sized size 8 pants. I haven't actually bought size 6s yet, so I am still wearing my 8s which are quite loose :carrot::

I hope you enjoyed my story! :D

10-22-2009, 10:18 PM
You look awesome!! Such a huge difference!! Thank you so much for sharing!

Congrats and good luck!

10-22-2009, 10:18 PM

10-22-2009, 10:23 PM
You look so beautiful! Congrats and thanks so much for sharing :hug:

Thighs Be Gone
10-22-2009, 10:25 PM
What a beautiful story about a beautiful lady. Congratulations!!!!

10-22-2009, 10:48 PM
You look AMAZING!!! Congratulations!!!! :carrot:

10-22-2009, 10:58 PM
Great, great job :).

10-22-2009, 11:17 PM
Congratulations. You look wonderful.

10-22-2009, 11:42 PM

WOW, what a difference - not only pounds but so many inches - you look incredible! There also seems to be a difference inside as well - you look happier and even radiant - how wonderful is that?

Thanks for sharing your photos - it gives those of us at the beginning of our journey the motivation to keep on. It also gives us a reason to celebrate your success - what fun!


10-22-2009, 11:45 PM
Congrats to you! :carrot: You look like a completely different person...so happy...so alive! I think it was key loving yourself thin...your story truly inspires me...Thanks so much and enjoy the NEW you :D

10-23-2009, 12:26 AM
Well done! You look absolutely stunning!

Congratulations and thanks for posting your story.



10-23-2009, 01:06 AM
You look fantastic, absolutely amazing! Congratulations!

Your story really touched me because I can relate to so much of it, as im sure many others can as well. You're such an inspiration to me!

Contrats again. I can't wait until I can post one of these too :)

10-23-2009, 01:24 AM
You look so happy and trim! Thanks for sharing; your story is very inspirational. :)

10-23-2009, 01:35 AM
Wow! You look great! Like others, I can relate a lot. I was overweight all through elementary school and hit a growth spurt in 8th grade that caused me to grow 5 inches and lose 20 pounds. Almost 20 years later, I still remember getting on a scale in my mom's bathroom and seeing 117 pounds. Unfortunately, I gained it all back (and then some) and have never been able to get back to the 8th grade weight. I recently found 3FC and have been inspired by stories like yours!

10-23-2009, 02:30 AM
Thank you SO MUCH for posting! :hug: It's great especially to see someone my very same height with before & after photos -- gives me an idea of what I might look like when I'm trimmer, and that's so motivating! You look great. Congratulations on all your hard work and your courage.

10-23-2009, 03:41 AM
I so do enjoy your story! :-)

I have a similar starting weight and goal weight to you and hope I`ll look as good as you do when I`m done!

Ellie R
10-23-2009, 04:21 AM
Well done - you look really great, enjoy buying those size 6's from now on!!!

10-23-2009, 10:21 AM
Woohoo!!! Congrats!!! :bravo: :carrot: :cheer:

10-23-2009, 10:50 AM
Thank you so much everyone! Your comments are just blowing me away. I never thought *I* would be able to inspire people... I was always reading everyone else's stories. It means so much to see so many people that I look up to, commenting on this thread. You guys are awesome... everyone, keep up the good work! :)

Judy Lynn
10-23-2009, 11:19 AM
Way to go!!! You look awesome!!!

10-23-2009, 11:42 AM
You look fantastic, I really appreciated seeing your pictures, since you are my height and around my goal weight, it's always nice to get an idea of what I'm striving for :-)

way to go!

10-23-2009, 12:43 PM
Congrats! That dress looks beautiful on you! I love your arms. Thank you for being such an inspiration. :hug:

10-23-2009, 12:52 PM
Congrats! You look great!!

10-23-2009, 04:33 PM
You look amazing! What an inspiration. You look so much happier.

10-23-2009, 07:04 PM

10-23-2009, 07:34 PM
Congrats! You look great, but more importantly, you FEEL great on the inside. You learned the hardest lesson for a lot of us, loving ourselves.

Many wishes for a long and happy maintenance!

10-23-2009, 10:38 PM
aww your story is very touching and you look amazing! good job girl!

10-24-2009, 01:17 AM
You look beautiful and you body is definitely sexy now!! Great job. Your arms look toned up. Its great.
Thank You so much for sharing. :)

10-24-2009, 01:43 AM
Wow! Congrats to you! Great job! :bravo::congrat::cheer2:
Thanks so much for sharing your wonderful stories and pics. You look so happy and healthy and so pretty.

10-24-2009, 04:01 AM
congrats on your success!!!

Cape Breton Chick
10-24-2009, 07:26 AM
Congratulations! You have done an incredible job! :yay: Way to rawk it girl!

10-24-2009, 08:34 AM

10-24-2009, 09:37 AM
:carrot: You look awesome! Congratulations!!! :carrot:

10-24-2009, 11:25 AM
Thank you for sharing your wonderful story. You look awesome!

10-24-2009, 02:09 PM
congrats, you look amazing. I am totally inspired!!!

10-24-2009, 03:40 PM
Thank you so much everyone!!!

10-24-2009, 07:46 PM
:flow1: LittleMoonRabbit :flow1:

You are radiant! Thank you for posting about your experience (it does indeed take courage. Your story is already encouraging others (me included) to see/remember what is possible.

I very much appreciate your sincere and empowering message.


better health3
10-25-2009, 12:34 AM
I love your confident, sexy smile. Congrats!

10-25-2009, 03:14 AM
You look incredibly happy and thin! Way to go!

And, I loved how you described why losing weight worked for you this time... I need to adopt your insight and look in my mirror. It really is great advice!

Our starting stats are virtually the same and your pictures are truly an inspiration for me to start kicking myself into gear. Simply WOW! Thanks for sharing your story and pics :D

10-25-2009, 03:22 AM
Congrats, yay you!

10-25-2009, 10:29 AM
You look amazing! Congratulations on reaching your goal!

10-25-2009, 12:30 PM
You look incredibly happy and thin! Way to go!

And, I loved how you described why losing weight worked for you this time... I need to adopt your insight and look in my mirror. It really is great advice!

Our starting stats are virtually the same and your pictures are truly an inspiration for me to start kicking myself into gear. Simply WOW! Thanks for sharing your story and pics :D

Wow, our stats really are the same! That's incredible! You can do it!!! You'll be posting your story here soon enough, I know it!

KaCee J
10-25-2009, 01:22 PM
You look amazing!!! Congratulations!

:bravo: :cp: :cheer2:

10-25-2009, 05:12 PM
WOW. that's really all I have to say!

10-25-2009, 05:26 PM
Congratulations, Little Moon Rabbit! Thank you for sharing your story. Especially the part about learning to love yourself at whatever weight you are at...I am just now learning how to do this. It's essential!


10-25-2009, 05:37 PM

10-25-2009, 05:38 PM
That's brilliant! :carrot: I particularly like this part:

"I came to terms with the fact that I didn’t have to be “magazine perfect” to be beautiful. I just had to be the best “me” that I could be. So I worked towards that goal."

Well done! :D

10-25-2009, 06:08 PM
You look absolutely amazing. Congratulations on reaching your goal and sticking with it. What an inspiration. :)

10-25-2009, 06:32 PM
HI! Congrats i love stories like this.
You are very cute in your before pics as well, but now you are stunning. Congrats I bet it feels great... you should be so proud... it's no easy task as we all know.

11-24-2009, 06:00 PM
Congratulations, you look fab.

11-30-2009, 05:08 AM
Congratulations!! You look gorgeous!!

12-01-2009, 01:13 PM
LittleMoon!! I love your story!!!! you are now one of the inspirations.

and guuuurl you lookin hotttt :D :D :D

i am loving both the blue dress and the living room pics. dress is so elegant, but the simple black tank top looks beautiful too! you can pull anything off now! :cp:

go team tangerine!!!!!

12-02-2009, 08:07 PM
you look good !!! congrats

12-02-2009, 09:46 PM
"I made a conscious effort to fall in love with my body, and love it for what it was. I came to terms with the fact that I didn’t have to be “magazine perfect” to be beautiful. I just had to be the best “me” that I could be."

I love what you said! I'm going to take this to heart and change the way I look at myself. Thank you so much for your story and motivation. You look absolutely fabulous! Congrats! :hug:

12-02-2009, 09:54 PM
Thank you so much! :) You are all so awesome!

12-07-2009, 10:55 AM
You say that so well, those are great words to live by. And you look spectacular! You go girl:)

12-07-2009, 09:52 PM
Congratulations! That is wonderful and so inspiring! It is so true, as others have said, you look so happy and alive in your recent photos. Kudos to you for all your amazing changes! :congrat:

Dulce Vida
12-08-2009, 09:42 AM
You look amazing! Your story is absolutely inspiring, thank you for sharing! :cheer2:

12-08-2009, 06:59 PM
wow- congrats!

12-12-2009, 01:05 PM
you look so great and sound so happy!

12-14-2009, 01:40 AM
Congratulations and thanks for sharing, you are an inspiration to me as I'm on my first day towards losing 40 pounds...which I totally plan on doing! Thanks again.

12-14-2009, 06:04 AM
congrats, I have gained my motivation back and am putting on some muscle.

12-14-2009, 01:32 PM
Wow you look amazing!!! Congrats, congrats, CONGRATS!! I really like that blue dress, you took awesome in it!

Thanks for posting these it is very inspiring.

12-14-2009, 04:13 PM
GOOD FOR YOU!!! wow...what a GREAT story!! it feels good knowing it CAN be done and i look forward to the day that i get to write MY goal story :dizzy:

12-14-2009, 08:28 PM
wow !! you look good

12-14-2009, 09:14 PM
I haven't been on 3FC much lately, so I missed your goal post. I'm so glad I saw it tonight though, so I can tell you how beautiful you look! You are so tiny and adorable - healthy and pretty! You have worked very hard, and you should be so proud of yourself!

Great story and inspiring pics! Thanks for sharing!

12-14-2009, 10:28 PM
Congrats! You look great :carrot:

12-15-2009, 09:42 PM
As if I wasn't inspired to get it right for ME, for Me, I am now! Thank you! I will be where you are by next year. Thank you!

12-17-2009, 10:33 PM
you look great!!!!!

12-17-2009, 11:02 PM
Congratulations! You look gorgeous! :D

Cali Doll
12-19-2009, 04:17 PM
You look absolutely gorgeous! (and quite younger in the latter pics, I might add). Good job!!!

12-20-2009, 11:36 PM

02-12-2010, 10:01 AM
Congrats! You look amazing!

02-15-2010, 10:29 PM
These before and after photos are the reason I joined this site. This is absolutely motivating. You look fantastic! Great job!