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WiiMom
10-18-2009, 04:42 PM
So I went to the spa with a girlfriend Friday. The first 15 minutes or so are always uncomfortable for me as I don't like showing my naked lumpy body in public.

While getting out of one of the hot tubs explosing my bum to the poor women that were still there I saw two women walking toward me to the hot tub I was leaving. They were in their 50's but had the giggling energy of 20 year olds. With a quick glance I noticed that both of them had large scars where their breasts used to be. I had never seen a post-breast surgery scar, and while I am usually a bit sqeamish about hurtful looking things, these women looked radiant-scars and all. I realized that if these beautiful women whose body had braved such a battle can walk among us comfortably who am I to be so self concience and, dare I say, self absorbed to worry about my body that wasn't "perfect".

Lesson learned. Ladies (and gentlemen), today embrace your inner and outer beauty!


kuhrisuh
10-18-2009, 04:49 PM
Love it. Definitely something I needed to read!

Onederchic
10-18-2009, 04:54 PM
Thank you for sharing this :hug:


StephanieM
10-18-2009, 04:54 PM
That was nice to read :)

Onederchic
10-18-2009, 04:55 PM
OT - Carissa - You are a doll!

bargoo
10-18-2009, 05:00 PM
And remember 1 in 7 women run the risk of developing breast cancer.

kaplods
10-18-2009, 05:05 PM
I had a breast cancer scare about a week before my wedding. A month after the wedding, I was in surgery having a tumor removed from my right breast. It was luckily benign (scar tissue from an old car accident, which the doctor had guessed, but we weren't sure).

It left a small scar, but it's not noticeable until I lay on my back, then the right breast has a very noticeable indentation from the surgery so the breast isn't rounded, it's shaped sort of like a volcano, with the nipple and areola settled in the little hollow.

I was a bit self-conscious with my husband at first, even though I know he didn't marry me for my appearance (we were both at nearly our highest weights when we married), but it looked "weird" and I was afraid it would weird him out.

He's such a sweet romantic though, and says the scarred breast is his "favorite," because it reminds him of the relief he felt at knowing I didn't have breast cancer, and reminds him to be thankful to have me with him.

We sometimes call physically beautiful things awe-inspiring, but none hold a candle to the beauty of the soul.

WiiMom
10-18-2009, 05:09 PM
We sometimes call physically beautiful things awe-inspiring, but none hold a candle to the beauty of the soul.

So true. Thanks for sharing.

Cali Doll
10-18-2009, 05:10 PM
Thank you for sharing this.

Late to the game
10-18-2009, 06:55 PM
Wiimom, great post, thank you.

KaplodsYour husband is so sweet! I love the "favorite" sentiment.

LBLAZY
10-18-2009, 07:02 PM
That was wonderful to read. Sadly, almost everyone I know has known someone with breast cancer.

It's a nice reminder that confidence can pour through no matter your appearance.

AR4life
10-18-2009, 07:25 PM
So inspirational! thankyou for posting.

Primm
10-18-2009, 07:52 PM
And how appropriate in October, being Breast Cancer Awareness Month.

Do your self checks, chickies. And get yourselves up to date with your mammograms, those of you of "appropriate" age (i.e. old enough, like me!)

Your relatives and friends will thank you for it.

juliastl27
10-18-2009, 08:29 PM
i know this isnt the point of your post, but i love scars. not only do i think they look interesting, but each one is a symbol of life, and what we've been through. i even like my stretch marks. they are my battle scars from growing a human life inside me, that turned into my beautiful son. it reminds me that God blessed me with a child and also with a safe place inside me for a child to grow. we need to embrace our imperfections. ;)

Primm
10-18-2009, 08:33 PM
I absolutely agree, Julia! I have a massive scar on one arm from having a melanoma removed. It looks bad, but now I wear sleeveless tops and singlets without being self-conscious (no, not in the sun!). I call it my survivor scar. Because if it wasn't here, I wouldn't be.

paris81
10-18-2009, 09:06 PM
Thank you so much for sharing that. It helps to remember that our bodies are ours, no matter what, and we need to cherish them--find love and hope in the battle scars!

beatific
10-18-2009, 09:24 PM
I'm glad I read this today. Very inspirational. :)

kuhrisuh
10-18-2009, 09:37 PM
haha thank you onderchic! :^:

justaloozer
10-18-2009, 09:41 PM
Thanks for sharing!

juliastl27
10-18-2009, 10:09 PM
I absolutely agree, Julia! I have a massive scar on one arm from having a melanoma removed. It looks bad, but now I wear sleeveless tops and singlets without being self-conscious (no, not in the sun!). I call it my survivor scar. Because if it wasn't here, I wouldn't be.


exactly. dont be ashamed! scars are beautiful and interesting and usually make for good stories. ;)

Onederchic
10-18-2009, 10:13 PM
haha thank you onderchic! :^:


You're very welcome :)

Jo Kittibuck
10-19-2009, 12:19 AM
The mother of a friend of mine has a scar across her entire neck, very vivid, from surgery (I think for cancer, not sure what type). It looks like the type of scar a person would get from being hanged! We all told her she looked "wicked" and "way cool", and she agrees. She loves showing it off to people.

Skyra
10-19-2009, 12:39 AM
Julia -- I agree. I like stretch marks too. I have a bunch on my hips just from going through puberty! They're shiny and remind me of tiger stripes. I had a friend tell me once she couldn't believe I could be confident about my stretch marks, and I told her they made me feel fierce! :wink: I guess I never got the memo about hating stretch marks.

yoyoma
10-19-2009, 04:50 AM
I am so happy for those women who are able to put their own "battle scars" in perspective and provide a lesson for us all. Thank you for sharing!

Tante Claire
10-19-2009, 03:27 PM
This photo (http://www.flickr.com/photos/26817835@N00/124552088/) has been one of my Flickr favorites for a long time (warning: scars).

My best friend has a scar on her neck from where a small "growth" was removed. If anyone asks she says "the byatch stabbed me in a bar fight, but you should see what I left of her. ;)".

Is any woman ashamed of their c-section scar? Why be ashamed of any other?

Hamoco350
10-19-2009, 03:37 PM
OT, but this thread reminds me a LOT of the song "Beautiful Scars" by Steven Curtis Chapman - I recommend a listen to my fellow fat chicks: http://new.music.yahoo.com/steven-curtis-chapman/tracks/beautiful-scars--60784428

ohiofreespirit
10-19-2009, 03:54 PM
Thank you for that. i needed reminding of my own beauty, imperfections and all. :hug:

Stella
10-19-2009, 04:53 PM
:-) Love the original post and all the previous comments! I agree with the concept of "battle scars". They are testament to our life.

duckyyellowfeet
10-19-2009, 11:32 PM
i feel like I really needed to read this. I've got quite a collection of battle scars and I'm extremely self-conscious about them. But this post really put into perspective what matters....