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evieistrying09
10-05-2009, 10:34 AM
Okay. So, since probably last febuary, I have lost 10 pounds. I know, I know, not that much. The first time (in febuary) I lost around 15 pounds. I gained back 12. :mad:

Then, I started in september, and so far I lost 10. (like I said before)
It's been reallys low, and i'm kind of angry that I'm not losing weight as fast as I was before, but hey, at least i'm losing weight, right?

One thing that i always ADORED about losing weight was the fact that everybody would notice, and would always compliment me. I hope that doesn't sound too self-centered, but I think everybody likes receiving compliments, right?

WELL, anyhoo, this is the first time I can tell, but nobody else can. I can feel the muscles in my legs now, how much more thinner my stomach is, how much my pants are looser when I get them out of the dryer, and everything.

BUT NOBODY IS SAYING ANYTHING! I asked my Mom the other day while we were out if she thought I looked like I lost weight. And she said "Not really, have you? You don't look like you gained..." (My Mom is very open. She refuses to lie :( )

I'm bummed. This is kind of a complaining post, I know. But this short weight loss journey is on a bad foot. grrrrr


Glory87
10-05-2009, 10:40 AM
Have you bought any new clothes yet? I didn't really start getting any attention about my weight loss until I ditched my baggy tunic sweaters and started wearing clothes that fit better.

Other people might just be shy about saying anything. To say "have you lost weight" implies you had weight to lose and they might not want to hurt your feelings until it's SUPER SUPER obvious.

amynbebes
10-05-2009, 10:43 AM
It was *at least* 20-30 lbs before anyone started noticing on me. Give it some time and you'll have compliments left and right ;)


evieistrying09
10-05-2009, 10:44 AM
Well, I haven't lost THAT much weight yet. I'm one of those weird people that it takes about 10-15 pounds until I go down a size. I'm just waiting for that tipping weight. I'm not sure how many people out there have it, but once i'm below 218-215, It instantly looks like I lost WAY more weight then I actually did. It's very nice. Just not nice at all when you gain it back. :/

rachinma
10-05-2009, 10:45 AM
Toss your too-big clothes and buy ones that fit. People will notice then.

I finally got rid of all my clothes that don't fit. (OMG, I think I gave away 25 pairs of dress pants/jeans!) I bought one new dress, one new skirt, one pair of pants, and one pair of jeans. *Everyone* noticed. :)

JayEll
10-05-2009, 11:04 AM
At your current size, you'll need to lose more than 10 pounds before it's noticeable to others. Also, if you're still wearing the same clothes, people are even less likely to notice.

Another thing is, if you lost weight before and regained it, people may be less inclined to say anything this time.

Don't worry about it. As you continue to lose, people will notice. Then after awhile, you'll wish they would shut up already! :lol:

Jay

Hyacinth
10-05-2009, 11:07 AM
I am also 5'11" and people don't notice until I've lost at least 25-30 pounds. I think being taller, it takes a little more for it to show.

Keep up the good work! Be motivated by how you feel better, and how your clothes fit differently, rather than by the compliments you get.

It will get noticed, just hang in there!!

nelie
10-05-2009, 11:27 AM
At my highest weight, I think I had lost about 70 lbs when someone first said something to me.

It is difficult when you see someone constantly to realize they have lost weight.

mayness
10-05-2009, 11:53 AM
Another thing is, if you lost weight before and regained it, people may be less inclined to say anything this time.


That's what I was thinking. They may not want to say anything because it makes it clear that they're paying attention to your weight, and they worry that you'll feel bad when/if you gain it back again because you know they're "watching" you. Also, every time they acknowledge that you're losing weight, they're acknowledging that they noticed you gained it back.

I don't mention anyone's weight loss all that much... but I definitely keep my mouth shut around my "yo-yo dieter" friends and acquaintances... and even if this is only your second time around, that might be what's happening here.

Onederchic
10-05-2009, 11:58 AM
At my highest weight, I think I had lost about 70 lbs when someone first said something to me.

It is difficult when you see someone constantly to realize they have lost weight.

I totally agree.

getfitchicks
10-05-2009, 12:00 PM
It took a long time before people started to notice with me and then all of a sudden the compliments started to fly in. Then it would go in waves, about every 30 pounds or so I would find I would get a flurry of compliments - all at once so I knew something in my body had changed... Now that i'm close to goal I get compliments every 10 pounds or so because it's more noticable but it definately took more time at first.

Hang in there - the compliments will start to come soon!

rachinma
10-05-2009, 12:06 PM
I don't mention anyone's weight loss all that much... but I definitely keep my mouth shut around my "yo-yo dieter" friends and acquaintances... and even if this is only your second time around, that might be what's happening here.
^^This.

I do like when people notice because it's taken a lot of really hard work to get to where I am. But I hate when people say, "Oh, rachinma! You look so great. Have you lost a ton of weight?" or "Oh my God. How much weight have you lost?!" Um, thanks?

kaybelle9
10-05-2009, 12:47 PM
I lost 40 lbs. before my wedding (gained it all back plus some with a pregnancy).

My fiance (now husband) never even noticed! AT ALL! Until he saw a before picture and was like HOLY COW! Sometimes when you lose it slowly the people you see daily don't notice a difference. Give it time, and shock them with the before and after photos. Post them here so we can celebrate too! :D

Featherfire
10-05-2009, 01:04 PM
We're exactly the same starting weight and loss at this point, and I can sympathize! I've started noticing places that are shrinking, but no one else seems to see it. We may be different heights, but I think that once we lose a size or even another 10lbs, EVERYONE will see and recognize our efforts.
Keep positive! *huggles*

Cali Doll
10-05-2009, 01:05 PM
They will come in time. Trust me.

You are tall so the weight is spread out more than on someone shorter. It will take a few more pounds for your loss to become noticeable. No worries! :D

Like someone said, pretty soon you'll be a bit tired of the comments. lol!

juliastl27
10-05-2009, 01:10 PM
I have lost 45 lbs. To date, aside from my family, ONE person has said something. I agree that a lot of people don't say anything even if they do notice. People definitely said stuff last time I lost weight, but I also made it public knowledge that I was dieting. I didn't want to do that this time because I felt like a lot of the compliments last time were false and only said because people knew I was trying to lose weight. I was also embarrassed that after telling everyone I was dieting, I gained it all back.

I know how you feel though, don't let it get you down. They'll notice eventually.

funnycanadiangirl
10-05-2009, 01:13 PM
Hey chickie,

I know it seems frustrating right now - but you've been given some excellent advice by the other posters. I just wanted to share my story with you. As of yesterday, I've lost 60 lbs. And exactly one person has said something to me about it. Yeah. One.

But, as great as it feels to get noticed, I made the conscious decision to lose the weight for me and how I feel. When I look in the mirror, I don't always notice the weight loss either. But I can tell from the way my clothes fit (or don't fit!) that I'm a lot smaller now. And that's something that makes me feel good everyday! Just internalize your successes for now, and make yourself feel amazing!

Other people will notice soon enough!

PammyFl
10-05-2009, 08:42 PM
I am also 5'11 and I lost over 30+ before people started to notice. Dont worry people will notice soon enough, and you will feel AWESOME!

Skinnycow
10-05-2009, 09:03 PM
I'm tall, too. It took about 30 lbs before people started to notice. Keep up the good work, and it will come.

Windchime
10-05-2009, 09:13 PM
I am also 5'11" and people don't notice until I've lost at least 25-30 pounds. I think being taller, it takes a little more for it to show.



Same here and I'm also 5'11". People just didn't notice on me till I'd lost that much, and I didn't really go down a size till I'd lost about 30 pounds ( maybe a little more). So yeah, that was kind of depressing. But the next 15 or so I went down another size and then people starting noticing. Which is good because I've been stuck at a plateau for 5 weeks now, so I'm glad to get occasional positive feedback to keep me from falling into despair.

evieistrying09
10-05-2009, 10:35 PM
Thank you guys SO MUCH! You don't know how much you guys helped me! :hug:

AND! just so you know! I went out today, and got 2!!! yes, 2!!! compliments on my weight loss! YES!!! :)

PammyFl
10-05-2009, 10:40 PM
Man that happened fast haha.. Grats!

Tante Claire
10-06-2009, 11:10 AM
I've lost 22 lbs. so far, I am rather short, so those 22 count for more in my case. So far just one person outside my family have noticed, or at least said anything about my weight loss. I know it's noticeable, I am 2 dress sizes down, but it could be that either people avoided paying too much attention to me before, or don't want to mention it now, both for fear of offending me.

Don't worry, do this for you. People will notice eventually.

Sunnigummi
10-06-2009, 11:27 AM
I was at my highest weight (172) in April, right before my wedding. :dz: I left for a week, barely ate while I was there (I'm guessing I was super nervous/excited/jetlagged) and lost 6 lbs in that one week. One person noticed and said something. Since then, I maintained that weight and got serious about losing for good in August. I've lost 10 - 12 lbs since then and only Mr. Sunni, my sis and my mom have said something. I asked my dad if he thought I lost weight and he goes "um, I guess so... did you?" He's not very good at lying. ;) I guess you'll have to wait for people to see a drastic change in you. I know someone who's your height who lost 20 lbs in a few months and um, nobody noticed. I think it's a height thing...

evieistrying09
10-06-2009, 12:55 PM
It did happen fast. I was surprised myself. I walked outside being sure of myself that I would have to lose at least 15 pounds MORE until anybody said anything, and then I got surprised. whoopdeedoo :)

Thanks chickadees once again!

beerab
10-06-2009, 01:10 PM
It took about 25 lbs for people to start noticing that I'd lost weight, just keep at it.

I mean you are doing this for you anyways right? Compliments are nice and all but you are doing this for yourself as well :D At least that's what I kept telling myself. :)

Jacquie668
10-06-2009, 01:35 PM
I got comments around 30 pounds lost, but I also think my attitude and things changed. I wear makeup, I try to look my best, and I just am different, so people noticed. I'm more outgoing in a way, but I'm still shy lol. Now they know I'm losing weight, so they notice, but they don't say anything really. Occasionally I'll get a comment and that makes me feel good, but I like what beerab said about we doing this for ourselves. I tell myself that too. :D

evieistrying09
10-06-2009, 05:24 PM
But don't compliments make you feel better? MAYBE I sometimes can be a self centered person, (haha, what can I say, i'm the youngest in my family :shrug:) But compliments make me feel better. Like I'm DOING this, and people are noticing. And every time I think someone even lost maybe a pound, I always ask if they lost weight. I don't find it offensive. But man, if it did, i'm really sorry :

Jacquie668
10-06-2009, 06:19 PM
But don't compliments make you feel better? MAYBE I sometimes can be a self centered person, (haha, what can I say, i'm the youngest in my family :shrug:) But compliments make me feel better. Like I'm DOING this, and people are noticing. And every time I think someone even lost maybe a pound, I always ask if they lost weight. I don't find it offensive. But man, if it did, i'm really sorry :

I was a bit taken aback when I got the first "we see you're doing something good for yourself...it is really showing" and I thought "huh" lol. Then I got the "wow you're looking great" comments a bit down the road, but I really didn't care if someone noticed or not. I can take or leave the comments lol. I like them, but they aren't something that I put a lot of thought into personally. Saying that they do make me feel pretty, nice, lol...you know. I also get the same kind of feelings when I accomplish a goal or I remember the first time I could get clothing in a store. That was a BIG rush of excitement and fear, but positives lol.

Some people do not want to talk about their weight. There are some people out there who if you ask them if they've lost weight, which is a bit dangerous in my opinion lol because that can backfire, they are going to just change the subject as quickly as possible. Some might find that offensive, but I dunno. The difference in the comments I've gotten is it wasn't a question of if I had lost weight and the comments really focus around my overall attitude and appearance, meaning it isn't "hey you lost weight" but "wow you look great."

For me I wouldn't find it offensive and I don't either way, if someone asks me if I've lost weight I'll answer truthfully even if that answer is NO. The thing is I can see someone reacting negatively especially if they haven't lost weight to the "hey have you lost weight" or something. Kind of like if you congratulate someone on a pregnancy only they aren't pregnant and you are basing it on how they look lol. So, it is a can of possible worms.

TMG2008
10-07-2009, 08:03 AM
I've always found that there are certain people who tend to notice right away when I've lost weight and will not hesitate to comment on it, but most people just aren't that observant to notice a 14 pound weight loss on a 225+ pound person. As others have said, I find that most people don't start sayinga anything until you've lost 25-30 pounds and start wearing smaller clothes. The comments will definitely come, just be patient. I am getting a lot of comments lately due to the fact that I am now bordering on being "normal" size for the first time in my life. My family and friends have NEVER seen me this small. My mother-in-law actually told me this weekend that I am really getting "skinny" which I almost had to laugh at.

Also keep in mind that the people who see you regularly will not notice the differences as easily because they are seeing the change gradually.

StephanieM
10-07-2009, 10:38 AM
One thing that i always ADORED about losing weight was the fact that everybody would notice, and would always compliment me.

BUT NOBODY IS SAYING ANYTHING! I asked my Mom the other day while we were out if she thought I looked like I lost weight. And she said "Not really, have you? You don't look like you gained..." (My Mom is very open. She refuses to lie :( )

I'm bummed. This is kind of a complaining post, I know. But this short weight loss journey is on a bad foot. grrrrr

I'm the same way, those positive compliments just push you forward and make you want to work harder, they feel great! I usually get 'did you lose weight?' when I've actually gained it so it always makes me feel bad haha.

Why don't you take before and after pictures? They'll reaffirm for yourself the difference that your feeling and seeing, as well if you want to get showy about it you could always show your mom 'Look! I went from this, to this' If you see someone often they won't see that gradual change, but someone you see rarely will notice the difference more as well.

Hope that helped :)

Thighs Be Gone
10-07-2009, 10:48 AM
I was down -30 pounds before anyone noticed. In some ways though I loved that secretive time--time for me, reflecting into myself about what I wanted and why, my new lifestyle was like a hidden jewel waiting to glisten in the sun.

Keep up your work and give it another 20 pounds or so. The comments WILL come as you continue. In fact, some days they will never seem to end.

Thighs Be Gone
10-07-2009, 10:53 AM
I like when people that normally don't talk to you begin looking at you when THEY think you don't see them looking. That is rich! LOL

JustBeckyV
10-07-2009, 04:54 PM
I think like others have said some people are worried to say something that it might offend. I have just flat out told people and then they say something lol Like they did notice but dind't wanna speak up.

As long as you feel good about what you doing that is really is all that matters!

gardenerjoy
10-07-2009, 05:40 PM
Have you tried strength training? I'm doing the most baby ST I could find (I'm afraid of injury), but I'm surprised at the difference. I feel thinner at this weight than I was the last two times I was here! My husband complimented me last week (about a 12 pound loss) -- and he did it when I was naked. :o I suspect it will be a little longer before anyone will notice when I'm clothed.