Depression and Weight Issues - October 2009 Chick Chat - Come Join Us

Good Morning,

Happy October 1st. Its a beautiful crisp fall day, hope everyone is smiling.

Nothing much new here, sosdd.. I'm still playing catch up at home with the house work, etc... from being away for a few days. Amazing how fast dirt sneaks up on you lol.

How is everyone?


.

Good morning! It is October and focusing on looking up in spite of problems,

A happy, drop lots of pounds month to all!

(PS - in my house the dirt has not only snuck up on on me it formed cooperative units and is plotting a coup!)

:welcome: Lostbutstilltrying

I'm glad your joining in...the chicks here are sweeter than honey ;)

I think with my selective hearing, I have selective seeing... I really only see dirt when company is coming, and its usually 10 minutes before they show up :D

.

:dizzy: It's definetly a brain fart day ladies.

howdy to lostbutstilltrying!

Leenie - hope you enjoyed vaca, welcome back!

Mom - are you having allergy issues? The weather does that to my allergies too.

Hope - how are you doing. Dh doing well?

Hydra - hope you enjoyed the day with your granddaughter.

Today is my Friday, which rocks. Tomorrow I leave for NY. I'm doing lunch with my parents, then heading to Alumni Weekend. Temptation will be abound, but I'm determined to stick to the plan! I volunteered to be DD, so I can't drink. Of course that prompted everyone to assume I'm pregnant. Seriously not pregnant - just fat - but thanks! ;)

I hope to report back on Sunday or MOnday that I was a very good girl, but we shall see!

:hug:s to all the ladies!

Marbear have a wonderful, safe trip... don't stress about your weight, I'm sure you look fantastic :hug: where abouts in NY are you heading to? I had a lovely mini vacation, thank you for asking ;)

Hope.. girl !! how is your DH?

Mom... allergies... lordy I'm getting hit hard with mine too, my head is spinning. My dd too, poor thing can't breath at night and she's taking Alavert... I think I'm going to switch her b/c she is vedddddddddy cranky and frustrated.

:wave: Toodles Again

Dh is doing very well, thanks everybody for asking. He is actually out of the house right now running a couple of errands. He still tires very quickly but feels good when he is moving. I don't know if I said but he threw his back out tuesday. Good grief, what next? He is working through that pain too.

I'm off today and tomorrow but I have to study for a test on saturday. I really wish I didn't have one so I could just hang out with him but oh well. I still have lots to be thankful for. Especially you chicks! Gonna go study a while. Check in later. :)

Hope-that is good he is feeling better....I am glad hes up an around.

Taking meds to help my head....arguing with my teenager over her mental meds!!!! of course now she thinks she dont need it...UGHHHHHHHH

Hello ladies :) I would like to join in and I'll do my best to be here daily. I am getting scared at the thought of winter coming, it is my very hard time, and it's selfish but I want lots of friends around to help me rally and I'll try to help anyone else :hug:

I have doing ok with my mood. October is generally an up month for me. Lots of family birthdays and Halloween is my favorite holiday. I worry too about staying motivated to exercise and continue to eat healthy through the winter. I have rediscovered my love of fruit and it bums me out that the produce section at the grocery will be getting sparse. I have thought that I will doing a lot of frozen items this winter, not so much fresh.

Hi everyone! I just joined -- actually rejoined -- as I am trying to get back on the wagon after a year off. I'm taking a new approach to my relationship with food and exercise this time, addressing underlying issues including my depression, so I thought this would be a great group to join.

Anyway, October is my favorite month, Halloween my favorite holiday, so it's usually a fairly up month. This year has been tough all around, however, and I'm a little afraid of what the change of seasons is doing to me right now. I look forward to getting to know you ladies better and having the best month I can possibly have!

Thanks to everyone for making me feel welcome! special shout out to Leenie and marbear24, everyone being so nice has cheered me up on kind of a rough day, so thanks!

TGIF !!! WHOOT :cheer:

Hi Ladies,

Welcome Holly, Ducky and :hug: to Lostbutstilltrying.

SAD usually hits me around February, I think because all the holidays are past and its still dang cold out... I'm mad by March LOL. I've read that because we don't get a lot of sun during the winter months, its good to make sure you get enough vitaman D. Some chicks are having good luck with a SAD Light (Lux 10,000+ I believe). We had a really cool thread on the lights, if you want I can dig it up.

Fridays are looooong days, I don't get home until 9 PM (I leave the house at 7:15 AM) because DD has a few activities after I get out of work, but she loves it so its worth it.

Hope everyone is having a great day :hug:

Toodles

Hi Everyone,

I am new and enjoy reading your posts....thanks for the great pick me up..nice to know others are in the same "boat" and inspiring to hear how ya'll r doin....

:welcome: Justdoit66.. your avitar is sooo cute.


.

Ladies! I'm just doooooown this morning, nobody else but you guys get that - there is so much crashing in on me right now I just want to go back to bed and stay there forever... I don't want today to be a dark day! I need to pull myself out of this before I get down so far I can't manage.... gonna focus on the altitude of my attitude with a little me time...

Morning Ladies

I still can't believe its October.

Week 4 of school starts Monday. I have so much homework to do this weekend and its already Saturday and I've barely started it. Going to do some cleaning this morning. We're remodeling our kitchen and have a huge dumpster sitting in the back yard so I decided to clean out all the crap in the house. SO cleaning the attic and my room out this morning. Then going shopping for my son's birthday presents this afternoon and when I get home going to concentrate on homework.

I've been sick for 2 weeks now. If I am not better I'm going to call the doctor since I finally have insurance. I have to call my doctor for my meds on Monday to. I need to be seen.

Still can't get back into exercising. Its either I'm to tired from being at school 6 hours a day or I don't feel good or my moods are just plain crappy and I don't want to do anything. Plus the emotional and bored eating isn't helping.

I think I've let school take first priority and I haven't been making time to do anything else.

I have to get a schedule going where I have time for other things....

Its rainy and blah today so have to get motivated and get moving.

Have a good Saturday all...

HI everyone....

Leenie how old is your dd now? I sent my oldest off to post secondary in the fall and my little one is in grade 6. Work is much more settled these days and I am loving the unusually warm fall in these parts.

Been doing the stairs at work and packing a lunch....need to work on the water.

Have missed you all

lostbutstilltrying, how did your day end? :hug: I had a dark day last Tuesday, and I was so lucky it was only one day. I hope yours was only today and that you wake up better tomorrow :)

hello to everyone else too! :)

I feel hopeful that I'm starting with my Happy Light already.

Hi ladies,

:hug: to all that need them. Looks like there's a few that do.

Sorry I'm not posting much or doing personals. I'm just exhausted from school, work, dh's surgery, and the stress with our pets. We still have both of them but they are separted. I think I did ok on my test this morning then I had to close at work tonight. I'm just ready for bed. Hope you all have a great sunday. I'll check back after work tomorrow.

Liz- good job on taking steps in the right direction, and good to see you again. You were still posting off and on when I joined the group.

good morning chicks :) hopeforme, I hope you got a good nights rest.

I am so encouraged that even though the mornings are SO dark, I can get up and not be grumpy and bad-natured as I think I usually am from October to April :D I hope this good streak continues nonstop! In my favor I always always take my med (Wellbutrin) I have been using my light box for a couple weeks now, and I try to do at least 4 workouts a week, even better if I can get to 6 a week.

I hope everyone has a good day :hug:

Morning Ladies, :wave:

Hope everyone is having a good Sunday.

Hope ~ At some point it will get easier. At least that's what I keep telling myself. I'm sure you did good on your test. It is stressful and exhausting with all that going on.

Finally got a walk in although it was only 30 minutes. Now I just have to focus on eating right. But I do feel a little better and a little motivated to do the things I have to today.

I also write myself a to do list... for everything I want to do today. Hopefully it helps. If it works I might make it an everyday thing.

Good morning,

What a lovely fall day :D

Hope hang in there sweetems ;)

Holly sounds like your plan is a good one... keep it up chickie :hug:

Purefire boy I hear ya on the exercise... tired is my middle name.

Liz.. wow, the kids are getting big. DD is in 3rd grade and doing great (ty). Good for you for taking stairs and packing lunch.. I am also doing the same. Even the salad bar at work was killing me. They give you one low fat dressing that was so gross it made you gag. So now (duh me) I'm bringing my own.

Well I'd love to spend all day here but I can't, laundry, lunch, cleaning is calling and I'll kick myself if I don't get it done today.

Toodles.

thanks for hugs and thoughts from everyone! I really, really mean it!!!!

I stayed down most of the day yesterday, it was weird because I did everything I usually do to fight the blues, I got up, put on nice clothes, got out of the house, got around nice people and talked to them, I walked the dog even though I really didn't want to, treated myself to a healthy and yummy lunch, but all day long I could hardly even look up from the ground, and make eye contact and I felt numb, joyless and like I was in a dark room

- it finally passed when I was at party with DH, even though I hardly knew anyone there - and they were all younger, thinner, and way more professionally successful than me ( and a couple were down right rude to me!) it was a sitch that would normally drive me down down down!....... but around 9pm, the "blues" just sort of popped like a balloon, and it was over..... it just goes to show that you can't really control the downs.... they come and they last for as long as they last, - you can give in and get them to stay, or you can just try your best to go on with your life and eventually they will pass

Wow, I'm so impressed with everyone's effort to fight this depression thing! Good for you guys not just curling up in bed and hiding which I know is tempting. Very inspiring. Going to a party, getting out of the house, and all the exercising, again I'm impressed.

Purefire, how did the to-do list workout? I need to do the same and work in studying daily.

See you guys tomorrow.

Welcome to all the newbies hopefully there will be more action in here. I either check it constantly or I dont check for weeks. It bums me out where theres no action when I check time again...SOOO its nice to see action!!

I am still sick. I just found this site FlyLady and she talks about how to take care of your house and not live on a guilt trip. It is actually really good. She says keeping a shinny sink to wake up to starts the day out better. She also says to do babysteps in routines start with the shinny sink and getting dressed every morning WITH SHOES...says it will make you feel better about yourself. So I am willing to give it a shot....
This weather is killing me even though I did take the kids down to the park friday to play before nap time then to a soccer game sat. I have found if I keep the kids busy and give them things to do constantly it keeps them outta stuff and I am less aggrivated when my dh comes home. My 2 and 3 yr old love to get into EVERYTHING when I am trying to teach the boys school. SO I am trying to use the computer and movies to occupy them...we will see!!

thats bout it Im tired going to bed NIGHT!!

WOW! A lot has been going on here since I left on Thursday! Ok... I had to take noteson what everyone wrote so I could remember what to say... haha. Let's see if I get it all...

VermontMom, DuckyChick, & Justdoit66 - WELCOME! This is a great place, if I do say so myself! Hopefully you can find what you need to keep you happy and on the wagon.

Hope - Glad everyone is doing well. I say again, I think when things settle down you need a "you" day or two.

Pure - Glad school is going well, but you do need to make you tim e- otherwise you'll burn out. (Haha, do as I say not as I do! I'm not very good at this myself, and boy does it show!) Even short walks help.

Mom - Living on a guilt trip? Sounds familiar! I want to go home adn sleep after PT tonight, but I'll be cleaning the kitchen instead...

Lost - glad to see you're starting to feel better.

Leenie, liz :hug:

Heather & Bud - Where'd ya go? :(

As for me I'm tried and far too stressed. I pretty much had a panic attack yesterday over NOTHING. I so wanted to call out today, but everyone knew I was going to Alumni weekend this weekend. Hmmm... I wonder what it would have looked like if I called out. Oh well. My door is shut and I have the sound track to Stardust on. Hopefully that will keep me calm.

mar-yeah guilt trips suck....

having such a crappy day already...wanting to go to bed and sleep...Whats really sad is I havent taken my meds and I know the up and down is from that but i dont know what my problem is....Ughhh...ok write more later....thanks guys!!

Hi everyone,

beginning of a new month - can't believe nine months of the year are gone already! Bah.

My uncle died over the weekend and I'm dealing with the grief. I can't go to his funeral (he lived on the other side of the world), so I'm having to mourn in a different way. It's hard. Still, I'm trying to keep doing what I do each day (though I took today off work), even though I don't feel like it. I figure he wouldn't want me to crumple up and become disfunctional again. Besides, since I started really working on myself in July, I've come so far and I don't want to undo that.

That's really what's uppermost in my mind right now, along with thinking of and praying for my aunt. I spoke to her earlier today and she's so upset. They were so much in love - if I get married I hope my marriage will be even a tenth of theirs.

I hope everyone here is keeping on keeping on too...

Good Afternoon,

This forum surly has its ups and downs... but thats the way it goes. I'm just glad everyone comes back when they are feeling up to it :hug:

Salsa I'm so sorry to hear about your uncle :hug: Just remember there are lots of grieving places/churches you can go to if the feeling gets overwhelming. I agree, your uncle wouldn't want you to fall apart, so take advantage of those places if you need to... and of course we are here for you too.

LBST - wow girl, your incredible. It takes so much strength to do what you did and then to realize when that feeling ended takes a lot.. yeah you !!! I'm sorry those people at the party were mean to you wth? I only go to parties with my family or for my DD when she's invited to a class party (which I've been snubbed at those parties as well because I don't fit in with the stay a home mom's I guess). Its not easy but you know who's the better person at these things :D

Mom.. guilt hmmmmmmmmm yep :yes: I think I live it 24/7.

Marbear how was your weekend? I know you were worried sick about going.

Hope :wave: see you tomorrow.

Pure, Holly, Liz hope you chickies are having a great Monday.

Roll call ;) we miss you chickies Buddly, Judo, Heather, Hydra, Ravengirl, Ambrosia, Ryanne, Oogi, Noel, Mary, Claudia.... hope I didn't miss anyone :(

Leenie - Trip was good thanks :) I gave myself 1 "bad" as part of my pre-trip plan, and that's what I stuck to. I had pizza, and voila! Scale is up 2lbs! I realize it's water from all the salt (hard to monitor sodium when eating out for 2 days straight), but still discouraging, as I REALLY had to hold my ground not to eat yummy poasta, ice cream, and wine. Oh Wine. I love wine.

Salsa - :hug: I'm very sorry for your loss.

Mom - GO TAKE YOUR MEDS... and have a better day! :yes:

Just catching up to say, hang in there everybody!

Hello to everybody this afternoon :hug: -

lost, I am sooo impessed by your huge effort!!! That you did all those things and then, in the evening, you felt it just pop and go away, that is so great! :carrot: like you said, it shows that we can never be sure when a depressive time is going to come over us, but they do end eventually...and you were doing the 'fake it til you make it' thing so well.

I hate to be a newbie with a big load to unload - but last night DH got an email and it appears he is being fired tomorrow - or call it 'let go' or 'downsized' or whatever doesn't sound as harsh as 'fired'. He is not seeming as upset about it as I would be, but as we know men can hide their emotions much better than us. He makes about twice what I do so this is not good economically of course.

we will just have to see what happens in his meeting with boss tomorrow and on Wednesday take steps for him to file for unemployment (which he has never collected) and he has already started on an updated resume.

Hello Ladies

Today was a little iffy but I basically followed my to do list. Its working out pretty well. The only issues I had was I slept through my alarm and didn't get a walk in. I've been tired all day but still have about 3 hours worth of homework

Hope everyone had a good day

Salsa :hug: very sorry to hear about your uncle. It's never easy to lose somebody you love. Glad to see you back here.

Vermontmom- also sorry to hear about dh's job. It would scare me too but something will work out for you both. Let us know if he finds out for sure.

Gotta hit the bed girls. night night

hope-have a good sleep!!!

purefire-thats a lot of stinking homework!!!

vermont-yeah thats not good and it is hard to not worry over that but worrying wont change the situation..i have to remind myself of that all the time!

So yeah had a break down today. I realized with my med in a month I only took 13.5 days worth all sparatically. No wonder my moods are so all over the place!!!

Tuna helper sent me of the cliff!! heres my monday
*my boys were being all loud at the crack of dawn because it was sunny...wouldnt listen when I told them to quiet down
*so i got up aggrivated to start with then find my 2 yr old flipping out in her room...she tried crawling under her toddler bed to get her baby and couldnt get back out
* I actually MADE my bed and got the girls dressed nagged at the boys to clean their room a hundred times.
*while i jump in a quick shower (didnt even wash my hair) the girls managed to get nail polish out try painting their nails and managed to get it allllll over the carpet.
*spent almost and hour scrubbing it to get it out
*Had to take a phone call and by the time I was done the kids had managed to trash my living room:tear my cushions off the couch, push the couch to the middle of the room, move my end table, take the lap off the table, then sat there eating choc chip cookies and bannanas watching monsters vs alien (thanks to their 6 yr old brother feeding them..) they couldnt wait for me to get breakfast!
*then i go to cook them tuna helper for lunch and find that a plastic tote is pushed against the furnace downstairs and is melting from the heat. When I get everything out to cook I realize theres no milk
*i knew i was in NO mood to get them all striaghtened up and deal with them in the store in a nice manner...lol so they got sandwiches
*then i sent them to bed and they got highlighter ALLL over my bed, unplugged the alarm clocks and light and when I walked in the boys were tormentin their 3 yr old sister and shes like I am going to tell mommy
my 6 yr old had a pillow over held over his head ready to hit her and hes like i was just going to lay my head on it...i was like in the AIR???
*my six year old tried to sweep stuffing from a couch in my sweeper and managed to clog it.

I eventually just went and took a nap cause I couldnt deal with it and needed to lay with my 3 year old so shed sleep!

Now i just got back from a late shopping trip and have to go to my room to fold clothes because they have taken over my room!!

Ive left out A LOT of details but I would cause you guys to go into a panic attack if I typed out my whole day...LOL

My kids are not bad just overly active and if I dont keep them on track and switch activities ever half hour or so then I end up with a rearranged living room and my walls painted with nail polish!!!

SO MONDAY IS OVER THANK GOD....Tuesday will be better..Got some fruit for a juice fast so that should go good!!!

Night all have a great day!!!

Mom- Your post made ME want to take a nap! Shesh! Hopefully today is calmer for you. Iand I suggest stocking up on clear nail polish ;)

Pure - homework can be fun. Espeically when you can use it to guilt your significant other to do housework because you're too busy ;) Try it, it's way more fun then the dishes or laundry!

VT Mom - Sorry about DH's job. Everything happens for a reason, so something better is around the corner.

I dropped the 2.2 lbs I gained b/c of water over the weekend. back to where I started on Friday which makes me happy. I'm having an idiot day. Seriously, I'm jsut stupid today... which is very annoying.

I've been writing a story/book thing. I'm not sure what to call it at this point. I finished the 1st draft and it's 182 pgs long. Hmm. it made my hubby cry when he read it. I gave a really good friend a copy it it almost made her cry to. Haha, oye. Perhaps I can polish it up and send it to a publisher?

Sigh, we shall see.

Love to my ladies.

VT Mom - as a person who is person who is out of a job (and has been since March) I will say, there may be tough times ahead - counting pennies, cutting back on fun things, maybe even moving somewhere cheaper - but the main thing is to focus on what you have while you have, your family is together and strong and in the end that is what matters- treat yourself to some extra time with DH, and ride the hard times out - this to shall pass!

Mom - wow your kids have energy! that's great! Send me some of it! If I keep dragging my butt so slow walking the dog that I will hardly finish one walk and its already the next day and time to do it again! sheesh

To all! keep up the good work, things get overwhelming - stay positive!

For me: cross your fingers, maybe I can find an apt we can afford next week so I don't have to live in my car in November - that would be nice! AND I have an apt this week with MO state health insurance - I really really hope we can qualify for it, at least my daughter! I'm always worried something is going to happen..... OK :) happy face again - Today is going to be a good day for all, I just know it!

Lost - I must say, I adore your optimism :). Thank you for sharing it with us!

marbear- i was thinking the same thing...lost is very optimistic!! Yes the day is going better soo far!!

I just plain decided I was going to conqueror my world today...LOL... I am washing couch cushions since my 6 year old slept on the couch and had an accident...YIPEE...was messing with bills and money trying to balance the check book which didnt look so hot!! I did buy me some running shoes last night because that is the reason I stopped running because my feet hurt really bad cause I was just wearing airwalks with no support.. I am determined to excercise and I started my juice fast today so far so good!! My issue is getting the proper amount of water...I dont always get the right amount.
I have a montain of clothes still in my room but its ok not going to stress over it cause that wont get them folded it will just make me want to sleep. AND I TOOK MY MEDS LAST NIGHT AND THIS MORNING!!!! YAYAAYAYAYA

my juice is acctually good.. i put an orange & apple thru the juicer then put that in the blender with a bannana & 4 strawberries and ice chips. With the juicer you dont get much out of the nanna and I feel its wasteful so I found a thing online about putting it in the blender!!

ok so if i spend more time on here thats more time im not getting stuff done!!

:wave:

Work is crazy..... can't stay and chat. :hug: to you all. Holly we are hanging on to our jobs as we speak... a huge company is buying us out any day and we're all on edge. I feel for you and your DH.

Will catch up soon.. ;)

Toodles.

Just want to say hi and introduce myself. Hope everyone is having a good day on all respects!

Thanks everybody for noticing! Being optimistic has been my goal for this month, last month (before I started chatting with the chicks at 3FC) I hardly even got out of bed and rarely did self care - so this month I am trying to really be grateful for what I have and be glad for the days when I get up, walk, shower, etc.... even if there are dishes in the sink, laundry everywhere and whatever else seems so overwhelming

hi taytay :)
and lost, well you certainly met your goal of being optimistic!!
momoffour - holy smokes :dizzy: how did you survive yesterday!
Leenie - best wishes to you!!

and best wishes to ALL of you!

Hello Ladies,

Marbear ~ Yeah right.. the bf doesn't do ****. He works and then comes home and sleeps. Plus I found out a few things today that I am not happy about.

Today has been a real crappy day. I am so depressed that I don't want to do anything except sleep. Took a 2 hour nap. I was so tired. Which of course I shouldn't have done because I have a presentation due tomorrow and I'm going to be up for hours trying to finish it.

Going to get some work done. Have a good night.

feeling tired today...I did good with the juice fast until I cooked supper and I wasnt even hungry..errr...
well really need to finish the mound of clothes tonight will i watch a movie to keep me going!!
night

marbear-what's your book about?

So much to respond to here but not enough time. Catch up tomorrow.

Good morning ladies

Mom - hope you got all of the laundry done! What movie did you end up watching.

Pure - :hug: Tell him if he doesn't cook dinner he's not eating! :D

Taytay - Hiya! Welcome.

Hope - Uh - it's kind of about me. Sort of. My grandfather died of a really rare disease when I was in middle school. Miss diagnosed as Alzhimers. I lived with my grandparents so it was an interesting experience, to say the least. Especially for a 6th grader. So It's kind of about that, with a bunch of fictional drama to round it off and make it a wee bit less depressing... Sarcastic humor is apparently my specialty :D


Everyone else :hug:

It's rainy here. I miss the sun.

Pure, sorry you're having a bad day, good luck with your presentation

hi taytay! leenie fingers are crossed for you

on a scary note, a friend's 4 year old is going in for an MRI tomorrow, brain tumor? we hope hope hope not... everybody cross fingers and send thoughts

I had a good day. The scale was kind to me this morning and I have now lost 27.5 pounds! That is a little over 1/3 lost of my total goal and a friend pointing out here that it also is over 10% of my total body weight lost. That makes me feel really good and the next time I see my doctor I will getting blood tests. I am curious to see if my cholesterol, triglycerides and sugar have gone down.

Hydra, that is great news, congratulations. Looks like you will make your Halloween goal. :bravo:

Lost, :crossed:

Marbear, that sounds very interesting. You should try to get it published, that would be very cool especially since it's based on part of your life.

Purefire, how was the presentation?

Momof4, vermontmom, leenie-how was your day?

Buddly, where are you?

I was off today but slept most of it. Seems to be a trend. We played pool tonight but didn't do very well. I really have a boring life b/c nothing interesting to tell comes to mind. See you girls later.

good morning chicks!

hopeforme, hey, sometimes nothing to tell about is 'good' instead of stuff that isn't good :D

Lost, I am hoping that little child is okay!

Marbear, that is impressive you are writing a book!

Hydra, congrats on that impressive loss! I hope blood tests do show an improvement andmake you and doctor happy.

Purefire, sorry you had a crappy day. and hope your presentation went wel.

Momof4, hope you got your clothes tackled.

leenie, any word about the business being bought? any word if it will affect you, more importantly?

well I can't remember if I told you all or not, but DH got terminated, over the phone on Tuesday (not cool, in my book) So we are on economic 'damage control' because it might be weeks before he can start to collect unemployment benefits. Of course he is already searching for a new job (at age 51 :?: ) but I am thankful for my winter job, and that I am physically able to get a part time job too.

hope everyone has a great day :)

VT Mom - Yeah, over the phone is not very cool. I went to alumni weekend this past weekend and found out my college has a new president. She apparently laid a bunch of people off, and told the newspaper before the people. So they got up in the morning and read the paper - only to find out they had lost thier jobs. Some people just don't have the tact to be in positions like that. I'm certain that your DH will find something else. I will keep my finges crossed for you.

Lost - I hope you're friends daughter is ok :( keep us posted.

Hope - In my opinion, boring is good. I'm kind of boring now - and I LOVE it. Drama free is the way to be!

Hydra - Congrats on the loss

Leenie, Mom, Pure - :hug:

Everyone else - where ya be?!? :( Come back!

As noted in my not to hope - I'm boring right now. Not too much. My friend read something I wrote yesterday and told me I was a "master writer." :( I feel that she is making fun of me, though she swears she isn't. I really wish I could take compliments without assuming people are making fun of me. Though in this case, I swear she totally is.

VT Mom, I agree with marbear, over the phone is not cool, but we know you'll be ok - hang in and come to us when yr down

no word yet on the little one's MRI, fingers still crossed

every one who needs them - hugs!

Mar-I watched "odd girl out" it was a good movie about teens...since im involved with teens alot i totally was into it...I didnt get much folded while it was on. I shoulda put a movie in i already seen so it wouldnt have distracted me

lost-I couldnt even imagine

hydra-that is awesome wish I could say that but i cant i suck at losing weight...LOL

hope-be thankful for your "boring" life....cause sometimes theres sooo much we cant handle it so be thankful...i really really stink at pool i dont even attempt to play it anymore...lol

Vermont-That is tough my dad is 54 and he was a manager for an airline and last year they pulled out of the terminal where he worked so he lost his job. He ended up helping my mom more with the foster kids they had and helped watch my kids if I needed sometime out. First time he did just sit around and watch tv!! But yeah he had a horse training job that she offered perm place thank God that it was there. So after his unemp. ran out he took that! You never know.

Nothing much going on other than the normal....lol...Trying to do some christmas shopping cause I want to look around and find stuff i wanted to get them and not just buy stuff that is cute and later wish I hadnt. Shopping for 5 kids is hard. We did a christmas club but I am thinking bout working for a month seasonal again??? Don't know yet my husband will probably say NO NO NO...cause with our schedules its very hard to work around them. Anyways im gonna go got some youth paper work to do!!

:wave:

I can't stay but wanted to send prayers for the little 4 year old :hug:

I will catch up in a few days (I did read all the post but can't respond to them all).. sorry.

:hug: to everyone.

Leenie

Thanks hope4me, vermontmom, marbear and momof4under5! I truly appreciate the encouragement. I really like celebrating these mini-goals. I plan to treat myself by using some beads I have to make myself a nice necklace this weekend.

hope4me - that is nice you played some pool.

vermontmom - sorry that happened to your hubby that is really s****y how they did that. Hang in there, you sound so positive and that will help you during this time.

momof4 - good luck with the christmas shopping!

down night dont really want to talk bout it..would rather just cry...talk to you all tomorrow

sounds like a blue day mom - hang in there, it will pass, talk when yr ready

:wave: Just poppin in.

Its a gloomy day outside so I tend not to look out the window to much here at work.. last thing I need is a downer lol.

:hug: to everyone needing a little extra today. It will pass.. press on !!

:cheer: to everyone with a little milestone to celebrate.

Gotta run ... lots of work to do and only one of me.

Leenie

Hi, there,
I'm new to the board and wanted to introduce myself. I'm turning 40 in a few weeks, my husband works overseas (bomb disposal) and is only home a few weeks a year so it's just me and the kids most of the time - boys 18 and 10. I have a career that I enjoy - and sometimes detest.

I've had clinical depression (very treatment resistant) for almost 20 years but (finally) I feel pretty stable...touch wood. Before my diagnosis (and after the year from **** ending up with moving to Canada - in FEBRUARY - I wondered how people lived here during the winter!) I just piled on the weight - 150lbs in a year. I've gone up and down ever since, and just need to start making the current mental stability (which is all relative, of course) help with the weight. I feel like such a blimp.

Marbear, I'm also writing a book - but mine's a thriller. Keep me posted on how yours is going. :) We budding writers need to support each other!

Ok - that's me. I hope to meet you all and chat and see if I can offer some support as I know I'll be on the receiving end of it. Rookie question - what is DH and DD? Saw them posted but don't know what they mean. :o

Long day tomorrow..still sick...babysat a 3 year old boy for my mom...cleaned my whole back yard..then watched my 11month old nephew for a lil while also..then had to run and get buns for the youth funraiser tonight..then came home an crashed for a little bit..then off to church to make the sandwiches, then came home and cleaned cleaned cleaned, scrubbed walls and floors...I am pooped gonna go crash cause its starts again early...soccer game at 10 with all the children but i have my new adopted sister to help with the kids, then drop off some sandwiches, then to my moms for a thing called hartslog day (craft thing that takes over the whole little town people come from all over for it!!), then have to leave there and be at church for drama at 6:15!!! I am pooped just writing it all out...anyone wanna switch places for a day??? ANY TAKERS??? LOL well atleast my nails look pretty a dark red with gold tips (painted by ME!!) and my legs are SHAVED!!! haha thats a big accomplishment for a mom with tons of kids...my showers are done in under two minutes most days so no time for shaving there..hm im even lucky i get a shower in!! I soaked in the bath last night to help me feel better!!

Ok enough of me Where has SASSY been she usually out talked me??

lata chicks!!

:welcome: Havisham

Glad you could join us, and you know it chickie, support is our middle name ;)

DH means dear husband, and DD is dear daughter... I like to call them darling husband and darling daughter lol ;)

Glad you can stay :hug:

Thanks, Leenie - it's a great place to be!

Mom - you make my 'single mother with a career and commute' life sound so easy. You deserve a medal!!!!

Having a day where I want to throttle my 18 year old, and the 10 year old is sick and wanted DQ burgers for dinner - I confess, I caved and had one myself. If I wasn't so frustrated I'd feel guilty, but I'm gonna go buy a load of fruit tonight so I'll make it up to myself!

Hope all are having a great day! Happy Thanksgiving to all the Canucks!

Havish- that is funny....single mothers work very hard too..I dont think I could do this all as a single mom..just wouldnt be able to make it and be sane when i was done

ok still not feeling well...finished lunch going to talk to youth then going to bed!

Just a quick update on my friends 4 year old! MRI results in NOT NOT NOT a brain tumor!!!!!! She's gonna be OK! Wonderful! Wonderful! - Thank you so much for all your kind words, thought and prayers!!!

Hello to everyone and welcome to Havish! :)

Been working alot but I am in good spirits, we found that we can move some retirement funds around so we have some cushion $ and that makes all the difference that we don't feel that the 'wolf is at the door'.

This must be one of those 'learning experiences' that makes one realize to be thankful for simple basic things . I am now thankful that I am healthy and strong enough to work extra hours, and thankful for the crappy winter job that I usually complain about so much but is steady :devil: And thankful that during the very stressful week, DH and I did not snipe at each other because of the stress; rather felt more bonded that it was 'us' against the adversary.

Okay I am done convincing myself that DH losing job was a good thing! :devil: Hope every one has a good day :hug:

momof4, you do SO much!! I applaud you!

Just a quick update on my friends 4 year old! MRI results in NOT NOT NOT a brain tumor!!!!!! She's gonna be OK! Wonderful! Wonderful! - Thank you so much for all your kind words, thought and prayers!!!

Oh that is wonderful news!!! :carrot:

lost-that is awesome I am sure the parents are sooo happy!!

vermont-thanks but I still cant get everything right and there are days I feel like I suck at my job...If I could just get myself structured and in order everything would go sooo much smoother!!

Just a quick note, as I am using posting to avoid the avalanche of work that is falling on my head today

Am going to check out an apt that might be in my price range, if it is not scary dangerous I may have a place to live next month that is not on anybody's couch - that would make me VERY happy! fingers are crossed!!!

Just a quick update on my friends 4 year old! MRI results in NOT NOT NOT a brain tumor!!!!!! She's gonna be OK! Wonderful! Wonderful! - Thank you so much for all your kind words, thought and prayers!!!

YEAH !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! God is Good :hug:

Holly :hug: keep it up darling, I just love reading your positive thoughts. To be humbled is a good thing... makes the heart smile at things you never thought it would. You go girl !!

LBST good luck with the apt .. I'll send out some prayers that everything is just what you need. Let us know.

Mom, I think everyone feels at one time or another that they stink at their jobs or could do it better.. I know I do. And then I get my review from my boss and its amazing, she see's in me things I can't even begin to imagine... When I read her review I was like... is she talking about ME? So.. don't be so hard on yourself... ok love :hug: we really are our own worst critics.

Havisham.. how are you today? Were you able to pass up DQ? We have one by me but it doesn't serve hot food (anymore). Good thing LOL.

Well chicks, off to get dinner ready for my hungry little bears.

Have a great week ahead.

Leenie

thanks leenie....it is still hard everyday knowing i coulda done more and the day has slipped away without me even knowing it!

Hi everybody,

Just wanted to stop in and say hi. I've been reading and keeping up but not posting much. I have a midterm this saturday and a regular test the following week. I have an 'A' average so just trying not to screw it up. All I've been doing is working, studying, and somehow managing to sleep too much inbetween. I have a headache I can't seem to get rid of from laying around too much when I'm home and not working out. :p

Lost-I'll keep my fingers crossed on the apartment. I so hope it works out for you. It's terrible to feel unsettled.

Buddly-where are you? You ok?

Mom- You always do TOO MUCH!

Vermont- I hope your hubby finds something quickly and this is just a small bump in the road. I'm glad you have some funds to fall back on.

Havisham, welcome and good luck on your book. That is so cool that you're writing.

Leenie, I'm not surprised you get good reviews at work. You seem like such a hard worker there and at home.

Hi everyone :wave:

Hope congrats on the A average!! You are doing wonderfully. How is you DH?

lbst that is wonderful news about your friends daughter. And I really hope the apt works out for you.

Vermont that is great that you were able to find a financial cushion. With the economy turning around here's hoping your hubby finds a better job.

Welcome Havish.

Leenie, mom, you both work to hard!!

I'm doing alright. My mom and I took a road trip back to her hometown and spent 10 days visiting old friends and not much else. It was so nice and relaxing. Something we both needed.
Last week I started a new group therapy course. I'm hoping it improves as the first two hours were so confusing and left me with a splitting headache. It goes until Dec 9th so lots of time yet. I pulled out my little "golite" as the days are getting shorter and the silly thing won't work. :( it has the blue light and I was considering getting a white light one as it didn't really seem to help as much as I had hoped, so now I have no excuse not to look into the new one.
Because my mom and I shared a room for 9 nights she gave me a running commentary on my poor sleeping (loud snoring, whistling, stopping breathing etc) so I'm thinking I should ask my doctor about getting my tonsils removed. I've had problems with them since I was an infant, but the doctor always maintained I'd "grow into them" Well I'm 43 now and the darn things still swell and touch the uvula. I've often wondered if I had sleep apnea and now I wonder if its obstructive sleep apnea and getting the tonsils removed could solve a whole host of problems. I've been doing some research and it sounds manageable. I've always been scared as my mom got her's removed at 19 and it was quite the horror story, but that was 1964. I have a prescription apt with my doc on Thurs, so I'm sort of hoping for a good infection or whatever it would take to convince him that 43 yrs of suffering is enough.

Well I should head off to sleep here. Take care everyone and have a wonderful week! :)
K

Hey all - so it feels like Monday, here in sunny Canada. I survived the weekend without killing my 18 year old, although that may come ....never say never.

Every time I speak to my husband (who works in Lebanon, and therefore has no daily interaction with the kids) he tries not to get mad but he always has to tell me that I'm too soft on them, and they wouldn't abuse me if I were firmer and on and on...And he's right. It's just so tough when he's never here and it's just me, all the time. My 18 year olds latest is that I should pay him for stuff he does around the house (down to putting out the garbage) and then I wouldn't be always lending him money and I'd get stuff done around the house. When I suggested that it was maybe not fair that I do everything when we all make the mess and I work full time, his response was 'but you're the mom - that's what you do'. Justifiable homicide, anyone?

Work is insane stressful, and I confess I just got a chocolate bar because if I didn't I was going to explode....I took an Oxazepam with it, which probably helps! :) As I write this, I'm procrastinating about all the things in my inbox, that I should be dealing with. I need to center myself and that's tough today.

anyway, thank you for listening...I'm heading home soon and I'm going to give the kids leftovers and just have fruit...it's the least stressful and makes up for the chocolate crime.

I hope everyone is having a good day....

Mom - hope you're feeling better!

Lost - that is AWESOME news!

Vermont - SO glad that you managed to find a buffer - that's some stress off...don't suppose your DH does bomb disposal? I could get him something with my husband if he did! :)

Hang in all!

Hey ladies - lots to catch up on!
Bud - glad you had fun on your vaca. If you have your tonsils out you get to eat ice cream for a week! That justification would be enough for me to do it! :)

Hope - goodluck on your midterm, congrats on the A!

LBST - I'm glad everything turned out OK with your friends child.

VT Mom - When one door cloases, another opens. In the long run DH's situation MAY be a good thing afterall. Keep your chin up.

Havisham - "Cool" with regards to writing a book. Mine is... well... mine is what I need to get out before I can write what I want to write, so it's kind of an accident, if you will. Apparently it's a godd accident, so we'll see where it goes :) I say you do have a case for justifiable homicide. I'd stop doing your son's laundry for a week or two adn see if he gets the hint that he needs to help out. 18 is old enough to be paying rent, and dude - rent is expensive! I wish I still lived with my mommy from a financial perspective!

Leenie, Mom - :hug:

Not much here. I need a concentration Tune up, seriously I can't pay attention to anything for more than 5 minutes lately. I downloaded Ella Enchanted yesterday, that made me very happy :D Uh - really kind of boring right now. Busy as all ****, but boring busy - I think that's the worst kind of busy there is!

today was exhausting! eating to much wasn't really a problem between stepped up packing schedule and DD being down with the flu. At this point I am really regretting not packing her room up first because there would have been less stuff for her to puke all over. wheew........ diet aid for sho' Still haven't heard back from apartment we applied from starting to really worry that its a bad sign and its back to the "living in my car" plan

so i have been crying a lot since yesterday. My 6 year old son told me he wished his family was killed except his bro and sis. I said so you want me and papa to be killed and he says not papa just you. Then he was like well i didnt mean it....it was to late it was said..he had just got home from being over night at my moms so i woulda figured he missed me. I was already feeling soo crappy about how sucky of a mom I am and how much I need to change... so I cried last night for like 40 mins. Ok so lets back up to sunday...those of you that are christians will understand those who arent you can skip this part. I have been really battling anger. So the message was just using our authority we have in christ. So I decided I am not going to let this anger rage in me it has to go because its not of God. Well since sunday I havent felt that anger. So today of course my 6 yr old was home and him and his brother just feed each other and they go until I flip out. I dont matter how many times I say stop that or pick that up or do that they dont listen until I get to that point I just scream.... Well they were doing it to me today and I went to put the sweeper in the shoe closet and just broke down cause the closet I took time to fix and organize and bought things to help it stay that way was just a big mound of junk. Nobody in this house cares...i clean it or even have them clean it and its trashed within seconds. NO BODY CARES.....yes yes i know thats part of being a mom...but these kids dont do this stuff at my moms house cause they know they cant get away with it so apparently they think they can here so I called my husband bawling we decided we need to sit down and find something that works when hes here and when hes not cause spanking all day long is not going to work. I believe in spanking but not for everything they do wrong. They need natural consequences so they learn life lessons and not just the lesson of dont get caught. so my 6 year old heard the conv. and come out crying and was like mom im sorry for doing this to you...and then went and cleaned out the shoe closet...He had asked me this morning to forgive him for saying that to me and that he asked God to forgive him last night....but its just been a long long day...
then at youth prayer one of the girls innocently said they wished my husband was there cause hes usually the one that does prayer...and i just lost it.. I had went early to play the piano to just destress and it really helped.
I have been listening to The climb its such a good song I love it
Ok well thats my day...gonna go catch you all later!! thanks for listening!

Mom - :hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug::hug: :hug:

Good Morning Ladies...

Good Morning Ladies...

Just a little tired this morning.

I had my finals for my law & ethics class. I believe I passed it but have to wait until next week to find out.
The presentation I had to do what just really funny. I got so nervous that I could barely talk which wasn't good. Waiting on that grade to... One more final to go tomorrow and I am done with the first term. Next one starts on Monday so as of 10am tomorrow I will be on a 4 day vacation. So can't wait.

Other than that I started eating right again, its getting cold out so I really don't feel like walking. I'll have to figure out something else...

Have a good day everyone

Mom, as a) a mom myself (on my own as my husband works overseas) and b) the child who was the only one for whom my parents were not good parents, I can tell you, without hesitation, that you're an awesome mom. Know how i know? Because you love them - and you let them know that.

My parents weren't overtly cruel - they just ignored me and made it clear I was going nowhere. They said I made it very difficult to love me when i was two and my dad (step dad) moved in. I was TWO. My father moved to Australia and barely spoke to us after that.

Take it from me - you can be the worst, most unpredictable, volatile mother in the world - if your kids know you love them unconditionally, then you're doing ok. I was at my lowest, depression wise, when my oldest was young. I had no diagnosis, no idea what was going on, and totally the wrong meds. I felt like I was the worst mom alive. I was volatile, and unpredictable and felt like I couldn't get anything right. Now he's 18 - he's a pain in the butt, but that's to be expected, and he knows, without any doubt that I love him. He tells me everything (sometimes too much) and freely tells all his friends that I'm his best friend. He says that I always, always told him that he was loved and that my behaviour wasn't his fault. Almost in spite of myself, I managed to do ok.

I can relate on the discipline - my husband moans all the time that I'm too soft, that I don't discipline them enough and they walk all over me. It's hard to make that stand. I employ 'grown up time'. They have to go somewhere quietly - whether it's the den, or their bedroom or whatever, they have to be out of the way and doing something quiet. Watching tv, playing a game, reading a book (ok, I can dream), whatever - as long as they're quiet. You HAVE to have time on your own, and it sounds like that's not happening right now. Tell them, mommy needs some space, and you need them to do this for you.

have you tried the old time out? Or taking away a favourite toy for a short time? it's hard the first couple of times, but once they realise you're serious (even if it's only ten minutes) they'll know next time.

I'm also a fan of bribery - I know, it's awful. Sit them down, tell them that you're all going to work together to get the house nice. Give them each a small job - even little ones can put stuff away. Tell them once they do that and each has done their job properly, they will get a 'treat' - whether it's a cookie, or a piece of fruit, or a favourite movie to watch, if they feel that they're getting a reward, it's easier to make them comply. It's not totally bribery - you're really teaching them that when they do good things, then good things come to them. Either way, if it gives you ten minutes peace, it works.

You're an awesome mom, and you know your little guy didn't mean it. it just caught you off guard. maybe tell him that he's hurt your feelings. That he's allowed to feel whatever he wants, and that you will love him, no matter what, but that he's hurt you and you'd like him to think about what he says to you. It's worth a shot. Chances are he's already forgotten it - he didn't mean it, it's just a kid thing. But next time, you can make him see that it's hurtful to say stuff like that.

anyway, I'm rambling (gee, go figure). I don't know if any of this helped, but hang in. :hug:

Good afternoon, everyone. i thought this might be a place to make friends here on 3fcs. i suffer from chronic depression and bi polar.

It's raining here, i hope everyone has better weather day than i am.:)

Mom - good for you for getting that off your chest! as a mom, and the family disciplinarian - I know that we are are ones that get the flack back from the little ones - we take away the fun/dangerous stuff, limit sweets, set stay up time, nag at them about teeth brushing and bathing, have to deal with nasty and inexplicable messes and generally stop them from the freewheeling super fun that would lead them to be homeless, friendless, on the way to the ER

So - know that you are a good mom - but if it really worries you, have a talk with your kid, I know he's a smart man because he must take after you!

I applaud all of you moms out there. :cp: I think that is the scariest job in the world and I shall be avoiding it at all costs. :D

:welcome2: Ohiofreespirit, looking forward to getting to know you. It rained here today too in VA but I'm one of those weird people who loves the rain.

I was off today. I got a little (very little) cleaning done but again ended up sleeping most of the day. I slept in and then took a nap before pool tonight. I'm wasting SO much of my free time sleeping. I needed to study badly or at least clean some more. Why am I sleeping so much?

We lost big time in pool tonight. It happens. I did win my match however but I was the only one.

Buddly, glad you had fun and got to get away. I had my tonsils out in first grade and I remember my throat feeling raw but it was worth it. It stopped my annual episode of strep throat.

You know how you know you are a good mom? Because you care enough to worry about you being a sucky mom or what not. This is what someone told me Friday when I was suicidal and way depressed. That someone also told me, "do you honestly believe someone else can know when your child is sick or that someone else could love him (or her) better than you?" I was brought to tears thinking about it. Then, that someone told me to write little affirmations, and so I did all over my window and now there is an accumulation of them I read each day. I also try and add at least something positive about me, too, each day. Oh, and one of them says, "I am the best Mom possible to my son Tien-Tien." Its so true. I do love Tien with all of my heart and soul. I just keep allowing my negativity to ruin my ability on being the best Mom for Tien-Tien, and then get all suicidal on feeling like I suck so bad that I need to give my son someone better than me. Feeling suicidal is a sucky feeling to have.

Mommytotein! OMG what a rough patch to be feeling so down! please take care of yourself!

Ohiofreespirit welcome! I to am bipolar!

Purefire good job back on the eating right wagon!

i am in a much better mood today, i think my meds are finally getting me straightened out. i still have a ways to go tho.


Thanks for the wonderful welcome, everyone. :) It feels so good to have someone notice me on here. :o

ohiofreespirit, glad to here it!

Not much time today, lots to do. :hug:s to everyone who needs one. Welcome Ohio! :wave: And Mommy!
The teacher I met with yesterday agreed to be my cooperating teach, so I know where I'll be student teaching in the spring. Score!
Everyone have a good day!:D

Hi Ladies,

Sorry I can't do personals. The company that bought us out is official taking over tomorrow and we are rather stressed to say the least here.

I just read all your posts and may i offer you all a big ol cyber :hug: You are all amazing ladies, please believe that. Also know that you are not alone in your struggles. I'm so glad you are here to share and support with us.

:welcome: Ohio & Mommy ... thanks for hanging out with us ;)


Talk to you soon.. Leenie

Leenie, hang in there. the pharma industry is a fickle one, but I'm sure you'll be fine. Sounds like a good buyout! :hug:

for all that I didn't get a chance to tell ! We got accepted at an apartment that is within what we can afford! Not going to be homeless! Not going to have to live in car or with Mom! I was so worried when I didn't hear from them for 3 days past when they said they would have a decision! But all is OK! I am so happy!

will be gone for a little while doing paperwork for everything, but thank you all for your kind thoughts and prayers

good morning friends, sorry I've been absent for a few days; but just quickly read all posts and a big :hug: to everyone. Leenie, I hope the buyout and transition doesn't stress you out too much. Mom, I agree with the poster who said 'you are a good mom because you are scared that you aren't'. Havish , thank you for the bomb disposal offer for DH :D that was sweet :) and hugs to everyone else. Oh and :welcome: to Ohio!

DH got the notice that the UI Adjusditcator (??? I know that's not spelled right but it's 6:30 a.m.) will call for a phone interview later this week. So it will be some time before this is settled. Whatever :dizzy:

Good morning, all!

Lost - that is Excellent news! A new home is SO exciting!

Vermont - the red tape will kill you if you let it - don't let it! As the saying goes, don't let the b***ards grind you down!

Leenie - as I said to Vermont, don't let the b***ards grind you down! Hope the transition goes well!

hang in all!

:wave:

Congrats Lost

Can't post to all.. I will catch up tomorrow.

Happy Friday :hug:

Good morning chicks, Happy Saturday to those who don't have to work...and to those who have off but have a ton to do, hope you get it accomplished :)

will try to say hi individually soon! (next day off isn't til Wed.)

I woke up in a really good mood this morning (post pizza binge sugar high?) maybe its having the worry about a place to live off my back. Anyway - I feel ready to add a new challenge to my exercise routine and am going to go get a Yoga video - I have never done any Yoga in my entire life, so something may fall off, I have no idea - but I miss my flexibility from a few years ago and I think I'm ready for a new challenge!

Hi there chickies,

I've been away for a bit, working on myself lots and whilst I've been reading along I haven't posted here much. But I have been reading along and I have been thinking of you all.

Right now I've been on my meds for something over a month, and (this episode of) my depression seems to be fading away. Things are more positive! And as a rather nice bonus, I seem to be able to concentrate on things better, for the first time in years :)

I just wanted to leave a note and say, especially to those struggling right now: please don't give up. We all have it inside each of us to get better, with the help from outside that's needed. But what's really essential is that we want to get better. So please keep going - one day, one hour, one minute at a time.

thanks salsa chip, glad things are getting a little better for you too! One day at a time, everyday a little bit better

I woke up in a really good mood this morning (post pizza binge sugar high?) maybe its having the worry about a place to live off my back. Anyway - I feel ready to add a new challenge to my exercise routine and am going to go get a Yoga video - I have never done any Yoga in my entire life, so something may fall off, I have no idea - but I miss my flexibility from a few years ago and I think I'm ready for a new challenge!

Lost, yoga is a great exercise - I used to do it regularly BF (before fat) and it's amazing - it makes you feel like you bounce. Enjoy! :)

Going to work soon :p but as I was logging on I began to wonder why (besides you wonderful peeps of course) do I even belong to this site? I'm not even attempting to lose weight or work out. I eat way too much daily and most of the time give it no thought except for the usual guilt. This is a weight loss site after all and I'm definitely not participating in the journey. Humph...

But I hope you all have a great day!

Hope - I'm with you. That's why I'm just never posting here now.

hope that is why i didnt post much and because there was in the past not many people posting. As I was signing in tonight I thought exactly what you wrote then like two seconds later I read yours...that is crazy...Cause Im not even trying every day I am guilty bout the crap I eat and I say well I already screwed up today I will do better or start tomorrow...but that tomorrow never comes....

Hello Ladies. Hope everyone has a good Monday. :hug:

Good morning ladies, I am thankful it's sunny here, that always helps me!

I hope that everyone continues to post here, whether or not you are having success with getting healthier body-wise, this part is good for our minds I think :hug:

today is the first day of my seasonal winter job, that I really don't like (understatement :devil: ) but I am thankful to HAVE a job. Hope everyone has a good day :)

Heather, Hope, Mom - I, personally, do not care if you're trying to loose weight or not. Come back (or stay) and play with us!! We enjoy you not your diets!

I think I posted something about that in a past month's forum and everyone told me the same thing... let's see if I can find it... hmmm... AHA!

Words of wisdom from Leenie, Purefire & Hope4me! :D

Leenie: Marbear, you need to post whether your doing good or bad... thats what support is about, besides you'll receive no judgment here. We love you the way you are so please don't feel you need to be perfect to post Ok Gosh if I only posted on good days, I'd have about 10 posts out of my what... 10k lol


Hope: Marbear, if I didn't post every time I went off plan you'd never see me!
I'm always behind on my homework.

Purefire: Marbear ~ continue posting whether you are having a good day or a bad day. We all have them both and it's always good to talk about them instead of hiding from them.


So I best see you ladies posting! :) :hug:

Everyone :hug: have a greta day. Good to see most of you are in high spirits

Leenie - How's work, love?

(As for me - SOSDD)

I agree that you ladies should definitely keep posting - sometimes the "weight" you loss is all that mental baggage that is weighing you down. I wish I had joined this site before I was ready to lose weight, because it would have brought me to a healthier mental place much quicker!

on a down note, my great mood evaporated quickly and I had a rough yesterday, way binged and am feeling ashamed and defeated, but I know I have to pick myself up and get moving and that no one is going to do it for me

Good Morning,

Oh sweet ladies, I don't not post because I'm not doing well on my diet, I just can't find the time to post on all the boards I moderate here, plus my job, plus my family yadda yadda yadda ;) I read all the post but don't always have time to do personals for everyone ...If I could reach out and give you all a big ol hug every day I would. This board is near and dear to my heart (my baby) so I make sure if I can't post, I sure as heck read and pray for everyone :hug: Thank you for being so kind.... I agree... this is what support is about. We here have something so much more than just a diet plan... don'tcha think, so I agree.. weather or not you lose weight should not prevent you from posting... we are so much more than a number on the scale. I've been coming to 3FC's since 1998 (chat boards) and finally registered in 2001, its a 2nd home for me... I just love the people here ;)

Anyway......... again I am off and running, I have to get my passport done and then off to work. Marbear at the moment the only thing different at work is the oodles of announcements... boring lol I guess soon we will find out about site closings. Thanks for asking ;)

Have a great day ladies... you all ROCK !!

Leenie

Good morning, all,
It's beautifully sunny here in Canada today, which is wonderful (especially since it's cool, so not too much sweating!).
For those saying they shouldn't post because they're not losing weight right now, I have to tell you that you all got me to START trying to do something about my weight. I started just reading here a couple of weeks ago. Then I started posting. Then I realised that if you all could post and be supportive and try to do this, then I could try, too.
As I've said in other posts, I'm not killing myself over this. I'm doing CAD, and if I fall off for a day, I'm not going to be beat myself up over it. This is life, not a temporary thing and we all have times when we're really going for it, and times when we're knee deep in ice cream. Both times have their advantages.
Look at it this way - you're coming here, you're reading the posts, you're putting in something when you feel you can. Therefore, you're thinking about the problem you want to solve. That's the first step. It's the thought that counts, and when you're in a place where you can start with one day then you're in the right frame of mind.
And then, when you are ready, you'll have this board as support. :)

I miss the days of the daily post....I feel a bit overwhelmed trying to go back to the last time I posted and work my way forward....and feel bad about not acknowledging posts....at least each day is a fresh start...not sure when that changed or why....in the meantime I will post when I can.
Leens does Cathy come anymore?
Oh the good old days when we used to chat too!
Had my 20th wedding anniversary last week....feel like I should still be 25!
Anybody on facebook? That is the new social network since I used to post here.
Have a great day everybody. Clinic day today. Spent the weekend prepping the house for a major reno---house is 17 years old and we have painted once...it is looking tired. We are starting from the basement and working our way up.
Slept poorly last night but hopefully a quick trip to Timmy's on the way to work will fix that!
Have a good one everyone.
Liz

Yes, ladies, keep on posting :)

Yesterday was a rough day for me too, but unlike a couple of months ago it didn't reduce me to tears. I have confidence in my meds, my docs and my own b****y-mindedness: I will come out of this and I will get better :yes:

Have just been to the gym which makes me feel good. As I'm not too keen on running in the winter I asked my PT what I could do through the week, and he suggested spinning. Something I've never tried before! So I'll check that out sometime this week - I want to keep my activity levels up as the days get shorter.

Keep going, ladies, please keep going! Knowing that there's a group here who have similar struggles to me is such a wonderful support each day. You (yes, YOU!) have no idea how much you all help me each day :D

Thanks guys I guess that makes sense...

I feel crappy that I went and spent money like 2 weeks ago on running sneakers cause the shoes I had i couldnt excercise in cause they hurt my feet...n i have yet to excercise in them...by the time my day is done i havent even thought of excercise...so i got this thing off motivated moms...it has a check list for everything
from doing a random cleaning to making beds to reading the Bible to excercise, to read to children...everything sooo I am going to post it and ATTEMPT to do it!! small starts are good!!

:hug::hug:

The truth is I would be lost most days without having you all as friends. Thank you all for posting and listening to me over the past couple of years.

:hug::hug:

Good morning friends :) boy it's dark out. Remember when it was light at 5:00 am? I miss that! So now I soak up the rays of my Happy Light and think 'brain, get happy!' :D

I also wish I could personally respond to each and everyone, but even without that, I know we all care and mentally wish that person all the best.

everyone, and enjoy the day if you're feeling good; and hang in there if it's not so great, it eventually WILL get better :carrot:

( I might ride my motorcycle to work today, that ALWAYS put me in a fantastic mood!)

LOL, I thought that the 'reason for editing' box was just for moderators to see, guess not :D

Morning all, just a short post as I managed to slice my hand open moving an aquarium... so typing is a little harder! Just wanted to say Hi! and have a great day today everyone!

LOL, I thought that the 'reason for editing' box was just for moderators to see, guess not :D

LOL! Thanks for a giggle :D

Good morning ladies. Not much here, SOS DD. I need to meet with my boss to tell him I won't be coming back after my december vacation. Ick. Oh well, onto to a more rewarding career :D!

(For all of those a bit lost: I'm student teaching in the spring. So I'm leaving the financial world to teach - which may not be monterarily rewarding, but at least my life will serve a greater purpose. I sure as **** don't serve a greater purpose where I am now!)

Everyone have a great day! Cheers! :huh:

Ok, I have to ask - what does sosdd mean?

my anxiety is up today, money is tight but i'm holding my own. trying not to freak out and let things take their course.


The sun is shining, it is supposed to be 60 today. Hope everyone has a great day where ever you are. :)

Good morning :D

Salsa... to put it nicely.. SOSDD means same old stuff different day ;)

Hope everyone is having a wonderful day... I'll try to sneak back in later :s:

Leenie

hello, all,

Lost - ouch! Be careful! :)

marbear - thinking good thoughts for you today. No-one likes doing that stuff!

Leenie - how goes the job post-merger?

I'm on day three of rigidly sticking to the new diet plan ...feeling pretty good. I know it's only three days, but it's three more days than I've done in a long time! No cravings, no hunger, all in all pretty good. I want to thank you all, again, for being the motivator that made me start this. If all you guys can be this strong, I can too. So thank you!

yeah Havisham you rock!

Good Morning Ladies :wave:

All I want to do this morning is go back to bed. I only got about 3 hours sleep, but I have to be in class in about 2 hours so that is out of the question.

My back has been hurting really bad, so I haven't wanted to do anything. Walking or getting on my gazelle hurt so much. I have to call the insurance company to set up my PCP so I can get to the doctors. But for a little temporary relief, yesterday I went to walmart and bought a roll on pain/muscle reliever, some heat wraps and some icy hot. So hopefully that helps until I can get to the doctor.

I have been eating right, which is good. Now I just have to get the exercise in. I was thinking of doing some belly dancing as something different. It firms up your hips, and legs..

On the school front... I got my grades back for the 1st term. A in Business English and an A- in Medical Law and Ethics. Started the 2nd term on Monday and there is so much to learn its scary. My homework literally doubled and any free time I had Mon - Thurs went completely out the window. So I have to find a way to get things done.

I need to find a job, but I seriously don't want to yet. I might go look on Friday. Its the beginning of the Christmas season so I might get lucky. Then again I might wait until I start Term 3 and then go look.

On Friday I broke up with my boyfriend. Finally kicking him out. He has been such a drain on my emotions. I couldn't take it anymore.

Have to run. Going to try and do at least a 15 minute workout before school.

Have a good day ladies. :hug:

Wow, purefire, so many things to say "YAY" for....the grades - EXCELLENT! Kicking the boyfriend out, AND having the self awareness to realise that he's an emotional drain. Getting up after only three hours of sleep. I bow to you! :)

For your back, have you tried Yoga? It's really good for that stuff. I get horrendous sciatica and if I stick to the yoga it really helps. Just a suggestion. Also, the belly dancing is meant to be huge fun, as well as super good for you!

Hope your day goes well!

Good morning to all - hope everyone is having a great Wednesday.

good evening ladies :) Wow Purefire, you have ALOT going on. Good job on keeping it all together!

Havisham, congrats on being 3 days 'on program'!

and hello to everyone else :hug:

so yeah for the first week in a long time I feel in control in some areas of my life. I have been being more consistant with my children. I know that I cant change every thing all at once but being consistant with my children every day is a big thing..once they understand I mean what I say I think things will go easier. I havent felt stressed since I have been doing this...because I dont allow them to run my day anymore I run the day and thats how it should be... My boys put me to the test. I have been telling them to take care of their stuff...YES I KNOW THEY ARE KIDS..but they really have no appreciation or care for their things...so the new clothes dividers that hang in the closet I just bought they stood on and ripped them and everything was laying around there room...I am re washing clean clothes cause they just throw clothes outta there drawer and leave their dirty clothes lay on the floor...and I AM DONE...so we are going to start at step one...I clean out their room I mean everything but the bed and a dirty clothes basket is gone...i threw it outta the room and they bagged it up and to the attic it went. They kept their room clean so they got their radio back (they listen to it at night to go to sleep so its was logically the first thing) They dont put their shoes away so they get one pair of shoes and when they show they can take care of that one pair they can get another pair out of the attic. They lost their dressers even because they dont put the clothes in it any way. I gave them a plastic crate to put their pants undies and pjs in (shirts are hung) so if they can manage putting it away in there then they can get the dresser back!! If they keep their room clean every two days they can pick one item from the bags they took to the attic....I sat and expland to them cause the 6 year old was heart broken...but I am tired of empty threats and the money i spend on stuff for them is important to me and needs to be important enough for them to take care of things (yes accidents happen, but they throw there stuff, let it lay on the floor, let it out in the yard in dirt and rain....) They will learn now....Sorry if any of you feel I am to hard but I have given them time and time again...YES it is our fault cause we never properly taught them to take good care of stuff because when the boys were little and it was just them we bought and bought and bought stuff so it didnt matter if it broke...but now its a bigger family and money is important!! So the best way to learn is to start from scratch!! ITs working so far

Now my 2 year old tried me two days ago...shes my happy child and if she knows we are unhappy with her shes always like sorry mom...so i told her to get away from my school desk she told me no...so I said get away from mommys school desk or you will have a time out...she says NO and walks over and punches me (she never hits me) so to the corner she went...she screamed and turned around and walked away...back i put her...after she was done crying I told her its not ok to hit mommy and she needed to tell mommy sorry...YEAH....she was soo mad she wouldnt even look at me...so i put her back in the corner....4 times i did this till finally you could see she gave up and lost the power struggle and told me sorry then was smiling and off she went...I tell you it is tough to stick with it and not let them push me over...


ok i am rambling on about my kids when I am sure there aroe other things more important in you guys day!!!

lata

Good Morning Ladies. :wave:

Mom ~ Good for you. Its hard, but keep sticking to it and don't give in. Kids today think that they can do whatever they want and don't have to listen or do what we tell them. Hopefully they learn that you mean what you say.. Keep it up :hug:

Got 3 hours of sleep again last night. Oh well. Last day of classes for the week. running out the door.

Have a good day Ladies

:wave:

Good to see you all :hug: Nothing new, sosdd. Work is work.. lots of information being handed to us.. just not the info we need to make us feel more secure. We'll know in about a month or so which sites are going to close.. other than that.. sosdd (((( I like SOSDD )))) ;)

Have a great day chickies... remember, smile... you are loved !!

Leenie

.

Pure :hug: that's a lot you have on your plate there lady! Good for you in all areas :) I'm excitedly waiting to see how you're doing without the emotional drain!

Mom - I think tha'ts the best way to go. My grandmother and mother use to take everything I left in the middle of my bedroom floor away if I didn't pick it up. Nothing pisses a teenage girl off like all of her brushes missing right before going out!

Everyone else :hug:

I'm tried and don't feel well. Many people around me have been getting the flu. I'm too busy to be sick! Argh! Saty away, you damn flu, stay away!!!!

Morning, Chickies,

Mom - you are amazing! I don't think you're being hard at all - I think you rock! In fact I'm going to go home tonight and take everything on my 10 year olds bedroom floor and put it away...that is an awesome idea! Think it'll work on my 19 year old??

Leenie - hang in...our thoughts are with you.

Lost - how's the packing going?

Marbear - hope you feel better soon.

Pure - get some sleep!!! :)

I'm having a frustrating week - you know the type where everyone you work with seems to be holding you back from moving on - like everyone has a decision disorder. And I seem to have been stuck behind a LOT of people who feel the need to go 10 under the speed limit on the way home. My commute is 50 minutes of mostly country roads, so if you get one slow poke and a couple of people won't go around them, we're all stuck. SO frustrating.

On the plus side I'm on day five of being 'on program' and going strong. Haven't had a chance to pick up my new scales yet, but I'll get them this weekend. This week I'm just staying on plan and seeing how I feel.

Thanks, again, to all of you for being here and posting support and such..YOU all gave me the strength to start this journey and I am eternally grateful!

happy Thursday to all!

Pure-I agree kids dont feel they have to listen...I was brought up that I had to listen to my elders and that was anyone adult didnt matter if they were related or not...man if even so much as talked back or used the wrong tone I was done for. Sometimes I hated it but I now see that it was a very respectful and I want my kids to be respectful but it has to start here with them being respectful at home. I cant expect them to do it to everyone else when I dont make them be respectful to me! My 3 yr old thinks its cute to tell me what I am going to do and yell at me to come in the bathroom if I dont move fast enough...Yes it is amazing/cute that she comes up with this stuff but in a year or two its not going to be...so therefore I have to HAVE to stop it now! Hopefully you get more sleep because I used to do those 2 or 3 hour nights and I was ok on it but they wear you down quickly and this time of year wears your immune system down!!

Leenie-I guess what comes to mind is God is in control. My husband always says that his company is NOT his provider but God is his provider..God just uses that company...We know that God will supply all our needs and if your time there is done he is faithful and will open the next door...if hes not ready for you to be done there!!

mar- that is awesome well it prob wasnt at the time but that is too funny!!!
Rock on Gramma!!

Havish-It is hard and its a killer to do and to stick with it but so far day three WITHOUT me telling them they take their shoes up to there room when they are done and have kept it clean every day (mostly just keeping their clothes picked up) SOOO its working and I think if they are in the habit of taking care of it and adding one thing every few days there wont be any problem keeping it clean! I dont know bout the 19yr old...it might just depends on if she cares bout what your taking away!!! I have threatened to do this for a while but I had to come to the breaking point almost angry over it and I felt bad at the time but now I am very glad that I did it now!!!

Done with boys school, lunch is over, kids been out playing, husband off to work, NAPPP time then whatever we decide to do tonight......catch you lata

Hi everyone:wave:
Sorry about not posting, I try, but then get overwhelmed.

Mom good for you for taking a stand. Flylady has sent out some testimonials about other parents doing that and they find that the kids are actually happier with less "stuff" to overwhelm them and everyone is happier with a tidy and peaceful space. I wish someone would come in here and whisk all the "stuff" away. I have to get consistant with flylady's 15 minutes a day thing.

Not to much new with me. In a new therapy group that lasts until mid Dec. Its different, but I'm trying to keep an open mind.
Haven't been doing my walks and I sure can tell. I really miss them, I think I better start taking the flashlight and my mitts for when DdC is in judo. Right now I'm suppose to be working on a halloween costume. I was hoping to find something to just revamp from the thrift store, but no such luck. Thankfully I have some appropriate material and a pattern I can mess with.

:hug:s to everyone. And as others have said I'm so glad to have all of you and this board to come to.:hug:

Take care,
K

buddly thanks for reminding me I need to go on and read some more stuff on flylady i got kinda busy didnt get to read stuff!!

buddly, sounds like you`re down...if there therapy isn`t really cutting it, feel free to PM - I`m happy to listen. :hug:

Hello ladies - I must say I was really impressed with 'mom' and your plan of action! I hope it continues to work!

Havisham, I also get sooo irritated at people who drive under the speed limit, when I'm trying to get to work on time. I should just make it a habit to leave even 10 minutes earlier to cut down on my irritation :D

My DH had a favorable impression after his phone interview with the UI investigator, hopefully they will decide in his favor and he will start receiving his UI benefits soon, I miss his pay :devil:

I did get to ride my motorcycle today, it was 67 and sunny which is great!

well hang in there friends, we're all in this together aren't we :dizzy:

vermont- I also agree with the aggrivation even though its me that should leave early so those slow drivers wouldnt even affect me...I still dont...i leave at the last possible minute!!


gonna go watch a movie have a good night all!!

Havisham thank you so much for the offer.:hug:

I actually managed to do somethings tonight. Cooked a proper dinner and made some seitan (gluten "chicken" actually) and got it in the fridge for tomorrow then got all the dishes washed and scrubbed the tub and toilet.
Anyway I should go and get to sleep I have work tomorrow.

Take care everyone,
K

buddly-you cook some dinners for me and send them my way??? lol I know if i did that and planned ahead i would dooo so much better!!


one of those days where I am totally unmotivated and dont want to get out of bed...but thinking bout it I missed my meds a lot this week so that is probably why I feel this way...I have to resist the urge to just lay on the couch and do nothing...its hard very hard....ughhh

wow where is everyone??? boring in here!

R U KIDDING ME...NOT ONE PERSON POSTED...this is what I hated before was at times it was like a ghost forum...there was no support if no one showed up...lol...but I am good right now just checking in to see how everyone else is doing!! talk to you all tomorrow!!

some Momof 4 how are you doing today?

I am doing great thanks for asking hows things going for you???

two whole days and nobody post ARE YOU GUYS SLEEPING... I know depression cause you to sleep but COME ON.....ok for real I am going to bed I had just looked back and seen I was the only post for the 23rd too (except buddly early in the morning) night

good morning, I'm sorry you felt alone momof4 :hug: work kinda gets in the way of my free time :D So, momof4, how are you today?

VermontMom – fingers are crossed on UI, it would be a big help

Momof4 – enjoy your movie, you could use the break! Sorry I wasn't there to post, I was out of town doing Girl Scout stuff with DD

Buddly – what is “gluten” chicken? Is that a vegetarian substitute?

For me, TOM is finally gone and am starting to cheer up, am glad! Poor DH just hurt his back lifting a really light box (it was one of those weird things) so I am suddenly very worried about my ability to get packed and moved!

Oh well, what happens, happens! Diet front wise – I ate s'mores last night and I am OK with that... some days you just have to roll with it (and I've got plenty of rolls!)

Good Morning,

Busy weekend :D

I'm going to try to plan better eating wise this week.. I just can't get in the groove. I do good for a few days and lose concentration. Also I am cleaning off my treadmill... :D

Have a great day ladies !!

Love Yah !!

Mom - I'm so sorry - I kept looking for the thread and didn't see it....and I confess I was worried that if I posted on it everyone would think "OMG, she has nothing else to do and she's always got something to say" ...or "oh, not her again"...what can I say, self esteem issues! :s

Having said that your post to yourself made me laugh out loud!

Good morning chickies - I have to go have family pics taken today (even though my DH is still overseas so it's me and his family - yay!). I really only agreed as I'm hoping it'll be a bit of motivation. Maybe in a few months I can have some 'after' pics done.

Anyway, hope all are well...just heading in to TOM which will be problematic as I crave chocolate for like three days straight. Thank God for the Reward Meal. :)

Happy Healthy to all. :)

Mom - I'm not normally a weekend person, sorry. :( I need to be though, as panic mode has set in. Will elaborate on Monday. For now - major planning is needed.

.and I confess I was worried that if I posted on it everyone would think "OMG, she has nothing else to do and she's always got something to say" ...or "oh, not her again"...what can I say, self esteem issues!

Oh darlin, look how many posts I have :o and 1/2 of them were deleted at one time LOL. I don't sit in here 24/7 but I do love to be here. Don't worry about what others have to say ok :hug: post away.

Oh darlin, look how many posts I have :o and 1/2 of them were deleted at one time LOL. I don't sit in here 24/7 but I do love to be here. Don't worry about what others have to say ok :hug: post away.

Thanks, Leenie, you have no idea how much that means! :hug:

Hey thanks guys...Havish that is funny thats probably what your saying about me right?? ok well my teenager needs the puter for homework so i need to get off here type more later!!!

Hey thanks guys...Havish that is funny thats probably what your saying about me right?? ok well my teenager needs the puter for homework so i need to get off here type more later!!!

Oh, dear Lord, no! I have so much admiration for you - you have all that other stuff going on, and you still find time to not only offer support and concern to others, but to be totally honest with yourself and us. Do you know how many people can't do that?

I've only been here a few weeks, but I already miss you guys when you don't post...I like to hear how Lost's move is going, and how Vermont's DH's job stuff is going. And how Leenie's company buy out is working out. It reminds me that I'm not alone in this, and that everyone else has problems and that we're all struggling. And coming here makes me feel like with all of you behind me, I can't fail.

So, mom, keep posting....we'd miss you if you weren't around! :) :hug:

Sorry I have been MIA too. I have been reading every day but sometimes posting feel overwhelming to me. Why? Don't know. Just feel boring I guess.

Marbear, looking forward to your post. Sorry you are feeling panicked. When I have a regular mon-fri job I begin to freak a little, or a lot on sunday night. I hope it's nothing more serious than the pre-week jitters. :hug:

Havisham, I'm really glad when you post daily. Please don't hold back. I have felt that way before, especially when I was out of work and posting a few times a day but I think we are all excited when we log on and see lots of posts to read. :yes:

Leenie, while you're at it, can you clear off my elipticle? It has plenty of clothes on it now. I need to eat at least a little better this week. I've been eating 90% junk and I'm starting to feel really icky from it. It really just zaps your energy and endorphins it seems.

Momof4, sorry I didn't get up the energy to join you the last couple of days. I did read like I said but just couldn't seem to get anything out. Oh, and don't forget your meds this week! :nono:

Vermont, did you get any riding in this weekend? My fiance has been riding some this week. Some days have been warmer than others. :moped:

Lost, aahh s'mores. Yummy. :drool: If you're going to splurge a little that's a good way to do it. I hope your dh's back heals quickly. It is a really bad time for that to happen but it will work out. It always does. I'm just so happy that you have a new place of your own.

Better get to bed girls, good night.

hope- i so love you....reminding me to take my meds..I really miss your post back before i stopped posting i always enjoyed your post cause you pretty much posted ALL the time...but its ok atleast your still reading..it happens..ive been there...youll come out of it I know you will!!

havish-thanks i dont really feel like I get everything right and do what I need to but I guess cause im in the middle of it.

SO GUESS WHAT EVERYONE...I EXCERCISED TONIGHT...lol...my teenager is going thru this stage the last few days since in health class she realized she is in the obese catagory. She is not over eating and tonight is the first night she excercised so I went down with her so she wasnt by herself....I felt good after I was done and came upstairs and it was like i wanted to go out for a run but it was dark and running in the city is cool when its dark or very safe!

so anyways...who knows...right now I am working on getting things organized and schedules straight so I think those things are important in order to eat properly and excercise I have to have a solid schedule!!

Ok well gonna go try and sleep even though im NOT tired...night

good morning chicks :) sunny and beautiful here but chilly, 30 degrees.

At least for now I am feeling good! And that is big for me, for this time of year (well, from now until almost April!) Using my Happy Light every day, taking my Wellbutrin XL every night, exercising almost every day.

hope4me, I havent been on the bike since ...hmm I forget which day it was, it was at least 3 or 4 days ago. But I do have to wean myself away from it. The inevitable *now is coming!

Havisham, can't remember if I posted it, but DH got ruled in his favor and yes he can collect UI while he is looking for something else. He has kicked around some ... radical :devil: ideas and I am trying to be supportive and understanding while still being scared :dizzy: about some of his ideas.

hello to everyone else! :hug:

Happy Monday all! I am surrounded by boxes that are calling to me to pack them, and I must get to it.... I have all those s'mores to work off (ummmm.... plus a lot of cheese lasagna :) ) so I will just jot off a quick note to say Have a really positive NSV and SV day!

Good morning, chickies, also sunny and cool here, but to be honest that's how I like it. I'm one of those strange depressives who LOVES fall. I don't know if it's a fat thing, but I hate being hot - I just find it drains me. So I love fall with it's cool sunny days and cold nights when I can light the fire.

Vermont - that is awesome news! I can relate on the 'ideas' - my DH has that habit, too...after 20 years I've learned the art of appearing interested and still reading my book! :)

Mom - EXCELLENT news! I bow before you as the thought of exercising is still horror provoking to me right now. I need to find a pool nearby that has actual lane swims - my nearest one gives us three lane widths, but only half lengths - it's ridiculous, you're barely in swing and you have to stop and turn around. I'm also going to start back in to the yoga - I know I always feel better when i do it, and my oldest son has said he'll start with me. Who knows how long that will last, but it's worth a shot! :)

Hope - thanks for the boost...is it pathetic that I feel all warm and fuzzy! :dizzy:

FINALLY going to get my scales tonight - fingers crossed I'm not waaaay more than i think I am! :?:

So Marbear = lazy. I don't feel like retyping everything - so I'm going to copy and paste from my blog. Well, I shouldn't say I'm lazy. I just have homework and work work to do and too much! Ahh!

Here's my blog drama. Will do personals tomorrow. Promise :(
:hugs: to all! Sorry I suck!


There are two things that really have just freaked me out this weekend. The first I feel is a valid reason, and the second is… well… because I’m crazy. Friday night we were doing errands and the hubby got a text from his brother. His brother was scheduled to be married in May. Hubby is the best man, I’m the photographer - so, you know, we both have significant roles to play in this process. My goal date to loose 75 lbs was May because I didn’t want to be the fat family member at the wedding. 75lbs from August - May = doable. Well, not so much anymore. The text was informing us that they’re going to have 2 weddings since my future SIL has a brother over seas who can’t make it to the one in May. When will the “new” date be? THE BEGINNING OF JANUARY!!! That removes 5 months from my timeline. There is NO WAY I can loose … what do I have left?… 60Lbs by January!!!! Very not doable! Oh, plus it may be two different dates in January. But they don’t really know which one yet. Nor do they know what will exactly be happening on the first date, but we get to drive to and from Philly (8 hours w/ no traffic) two weekends in a row (Christmas visit & Wedding). If we’re lucky, it will be two weeks apart! Plus, uh - does hubby need to rent two tuxes? One for Jan and one for May? Am I shooting two weddings? I was going to wait until the Christmas visit was over to order any more equipment, so I didn’t spend money I didn’t need to. (We were going to visit the venue and check out if the flash capacity on the pop up was adequate, what the lighting situations are so I could see if I needed a lens with a larger aperture, etc…) But I can’ leave 1 week to order and acclimate myself to new equipment - so I guess I just need to buy it and hope I need it!!! CAN SOMEONE PLEASE TELL ME WHAT THE **** IS GOING ON?? Plus - who has two weddings to the same person without a divorce or 30 years between them?!

Oh. And then the “I’m crazy” part. You know that “guy” everyone has in their past. The only one who still has the ability to totally crawl under your skin and drive you INSANE. You know, the one you’ve always acted like a third grader around, kicking them in the shins and running away from them when they try to talk to you? Yeah. That guy. Well, apparently my friends cousin is friends with him now! And this is the cousin who normally throws the New Years parties we go to! Super! So the chances of me seeing this guy are pretty high now, and thats around the same time as my BIL’s wedding. Great. So if the wedding wasn’t a diet panic attack this is! I’d still love to know why this kid bothers me so much. Hello? Married! Very Happy! Very much do not want this guy seeing me looking less than perfect! Esp with his stupid little fiancee, who so better not me prettier than me.

Why the **** do I care!? I’d really love to know this. I really don’t like him anymore, and I am truly happily married. What the ****??

As for the diet - Yes. I know I’m doing this for me, and progress is progress, and I shouldn’t let it derail me, yada yada. But realistically, I’m not going off plan. I’m just going to go f’ing crazy to see if I can loose at LEAST 22lbs by the end of the year. This is going to get - well - insane to say the least. Here are the changes I’m making, and I’m extending/ revamping my challenge until the end of December.

Old Challenge (until Thanksgiving): Under 1650 calories/ day, 10 days where I can eat calories back, 150 min exercise a week.

New challenge (until the end of December): Under 1600/ day, 3 days where I can eat calories back, 4 days of lifting a week (at least 180 minutes) and at least 210 minutes of cardio a week. And I’m switching my “weekly start date” to Monday.

I’m going to ask my PT to get me back into a running program today. (I’ll ask today, I don’t expect to be back into a program by today Though, that WOULD be nice…) I was debating starting like P90 or ChaLEAn Extreme - but I don’t have 3 months before the wedding, so that would be setting myself to not finish it. I’m thinking that I can do one of those at the start of the new year as a “change up” as I feel I’m going to be a little burned from my current plan by then.

DAH!

On that note, we did have a nice weekend. Dim Sum was fun and we spent the night at hubby’s sister’s house in CT.

Weigh in today: 213 (water from sodium. Dim Sum = a wee bit high in sodium.)

Dude, I’m so going to kcik a$$ for the next two months.

Marbear, you can totally, totally do at least 22lbs by the end of the year. You've already done so well, and I know you can do this, too. We are all rooting for you!!!!! :hug:

:wave:

Sorry I'm posting late.. boy things are nuts around here LOL

Have I told you lately how much I love you all :grouphug: I really do.

Have a great evening chickies....

Leenie

Marbear, I completely understand. :yes: There are a couple of people I would avoid seeing ( or them seeing me) at all costs. I do not want these people, wouldn't take them on a silver platter, but the thought of them seeing me looking like this turns my stomach. I actually have nightmares about it. Often. Crazy isn't it. :dizzy: Sorry you are being put in this position. It would freak me out too. Things are usually worse than we imagine them to be however.

Good luck on your new goals. I know you can do it!

Oh good luck Marbear, I do understand. I would rather die than bump into an ex-boyfriend who dumped me years ago for being too fat - when I was way slimmer than now! And I am so glad I never ended up with him, I have a lovely family now. So relax, I reckon it's nothing too unusual.

I would run as fast as I could in the opposite direction if I ever saw him coming down the road towards me!

Do your best to get to your mini-goals and goals. You've done well so far, keep going :)

Morning Ladies...

Hope everyone is doing ok...

hugs

good morning everyone :)

marbear, oh my gosh...wow. I am sorry to hear what a shake-up those new wedding plans are! So it is just assumed that you will be shooting both weddings? and all that driving, and your WL plans given a huge hurry-up...well all I can do is say we have faith in your ability to step up your goals :carrot:

momof4, yay to you and your daughter working out together :) do you have equipment downstairs?

hello to everyone else :hug: today is my Friday, woohoo! and it's already 42 degrees here, s'posed to get to 50-55, so I hope to ride m'cycle to work.

have a great day chicks :)

Good morning, Ladies,
So, I finally got around to going to get my scales...and it turns out I'm waaaay bigger than I'd thought. I guess that's what happens when you guesstimate.
So, to my horror and embarrassment, I am 337.4lbs. That's 157.4lbs to my goal weight.:^:
I'm not going to let this get me down, because that's just an excuse not to do it - I'm going to start with a mini goal of 5%.
Thank you, all, for motivating me to do this - without this place I may never have bought those scales and set this plan in to motion. Without you guys, there would be another morbidly obese woman out there doing nothing about it! So thanks!

Good morning ladies!

Havisham - We will be here for you throughout you journey! MIni goals are good, they help keep things in perspective and prevent things from becoming too overwhelming.You mention a pool... are you a swimmer? Becuase, boy, can I talk your ear off if you are!! :D

Mom - it's great that you and your oldest are working out together. Having someone else around you exercising is always helpful when it comes to keeping yo uon track.

VTmom - yay on UI! I'm glad for you that it was(is) your Friday. I wish it was mine!!!

Leenie - I hope things calm down over there!

Lost - Moving is stinky :( But REALLY good exercise, so it's got a positive light to it too!

Hope, Pure, Bud, Angel and anyone I may have forgotten because I'm a pea brain sometimes - :hug:


I ordered Kathy Smith's Lift Weights to Lose Weight and Jillian Michael's No More Trouble Zones. So... soon I'll have strength training DVD's, and I'll mix that up with cardio and do both at least 5 days a week and I'll be fabulous by January. (Or... better at least!)

My PT gave me their version of C25K last night, so I need to go hit up a treadmill at my college's gym tonight to do it. Then tomorrow I can tell them how I feel and we can proceed from there.

:hug: Thanks to everyone for their support. It's nice to know people are there to cheer you on while you're going insane :D;)

Havisham, I am sure that you are as beautiful on the outside as you are on the inside, no matter what your weight. Be healthy and fit when you are ready, we are always here to support you! All though a scale is not the best tool for determining weight loss (I think you should take some measurements too!) it is a helpful tool! Its good to know how far you will have come.

Marbear – know that you are a beautiful person inside and out, no matter what some numbers on the scale are! Just think of it this way, when you reach your goal – you can throw a party where you are the center of attention and not have to share the spotlight with a bride or holiday!

Hope – some days I just read and don't post too – I am always as glad to get support as to give it!

Mom – its good that you have helped (and probably inspired some) your daughter to eat healthier, my DH & DD are working with me too and I really feel like that is a change for the better I can easily see!

VermontMom – keep taking good care of yourself!

Leenie – we love you too!

All – If I die from packing & moving, know that I love you too!

Good morning ladies!

Havisham - We will be here for you throughout you journey! MIni goals are good, they help keep things in perspective and prevent things from becoming too overwhelming.You mention a pool... are you a swimmer? Becuase, boy, can I talk your ear off if you are!! :D


:hug: Thanks to everyone for their support. It's nice to know people are there to cheer you on while you're going insane :D;)

Thanks, Marbear - I have to say I LOVE swimming - it's easily the only exercise I really enjoy doing. I used to swim a mile (64 laps) three times a week as a late teen/early twenty something...and did yoga daily. I was in amazing shape - I fairly bounced. :) I couldn't do anything like that now, but I figure if I can find a decent pool close by, I could start with quarter miles and build it up. So, please, talk away! :)

Lost, thank you so much! I've avoided the scale for years (obviously!) but it's time to hold myself accountable, now. Now, if I cheat, it'll show me exactly what the cost of that is, and I need that.

Either way, it took me years to get here, so now I just start the journey back....fingers crossed for no depression relapses any time soon. :dizzy:

I am absolutely starving but I am finding it hard to find motivation to do anything, even walk down to the kitchen to make something. This weather here is killing my spirits :[

What do you guys do to help make yourself feel more human when you cant go outside to play and exercise?

sometimes I stay in bed and sleep - it gets old fast enough, sometimes I walk somewhere with a treat at the end, sometimes I make a low cal snack (usually popcorn) snack and watch a good sad movie with a dramatic uplifting ending, sometimes I write or call a friend - what ever you like, treat yourself on a day like that

Good idea! Looks like I'm gonna curl up with some carrots and watch Goodwill Hunting!

Good idea! Looks like I'm gonna curl up with some carrots and watch Goodwill Hunting!

Ooh, good movie choice! LOVE the bit where Will gives the pompous a** in the bar his speech!
Bonne journee! :D

my weight is bad that my rings wont come off...I realized today I really need to cut salt cause that just retains water..is there anything I can replace salt with that isnt so bad? I did good today until dinner...ugh

I need to go plan school lessons and do dishes before I go to bed...DONT want to but it will put me in a better mood tomorrow..no sense in starting a day off sour when i can help it!!

..no sense in starting a day off sour when i can help it!!

:) that is so true, I try so hard to pick up the living room before I go to bed so it doesn't look like crap first thing in the morning :dizzy:

Good morning everyone, I have two days off and I don't know where to begin, guess I should start with inside stuff since it's a gray day and supposed to rain, so no leaf raking. Maybe tomorrow.

momof4 - I love salt...there are smart people who can tell us what herbs and spices to replace salt with, but I haven't been smart enough to start to use them yet :dizzy:

Havisham, GOOD attitude about tackling your journey with 5% mini goals! we are here to cheer you on :)

ma petite - is it gloomy weather where you are? Hope you are feeling better .

lost - wishing you the strength to get through the packing and moving, that is a huge strain isn't it.

Leenie - :wave: :)

marbear - you made me laugh about having friends around to help when we're going insane :devil: but that's what this place is all about isn't it :hug: I have to come here because my DH NEVER asks how I am, in regards to depression. Ever. So that's why you're all so important to me. and NO, you don't suck for cutting and pasting :rofl:

Hope everyone has a great day :hug:

just stopped in for a quick good morning and good week to everyone - I'm going to be gone for a couple days, busy moving and then computer and internet will be done for the transfer - eating will probably be a little crazy, so I'll just pick up from where ever next week!

Have a wonderful weekend all!

Good Morning,

Good to see you all chatting away :hug:

Same ol same ol.... working, keeping my head above water, staying out of trouble...yadda yadda yadda ;)

Have a great day Chickies :D

Leenie

hi leenie- thanks for welcoming me to join here.
just wanted to introduce myself to everyone!hi everybody!
i joined 3fc a little while ago and i'm trying and determined to lose the weight i've put on. depression often gets in the way and i'm determined not to let it this time!
hope everyone is havning a good week!

Hey all - it's HUMP day!!

Vermont - thanks for the kind words - always lovely! :D And I hear you on the picking up the night before - NOTHING is as depressing as coming down to a mess in the morning.

Lost - hang in there - I'm an ex-military wife - I've moved more times than I can count - it DOES eventually get done. Promise!

Jiggles - welcome!

Leenie - thanks for checking in. Hope to hear good news on the job front from you soon - we're all rooting for you! Go, Leenie! :carrot:

I'm wondering if I need to re-assess my plan. I've had great success on GI before, but didn't want to take on all that cooking and daily preparation since DH is away all the time now. I've been doing the CAD, but I'm thinking that it's not a lot more work to do GI - and it feels healthier. Going to read through some of the GI books again tonight, and see what I think. The biggest thing on CAD is I miss the fruit - I can only have fruit in my RM, and I feel so much healthier when I eat fruit. On GI, I can eat as much fruit as I like. Anyway, I'm rambling. Hope your day is going well!!

Hey all - it's HUMP day!!

Vermont - thanks for the kind words - always lovely! :D And I hear you on the picking up the night before - NOTHING is as depressing as coming down to a mess in the morning.

Lost - hang in there - I'm an ex-military wife - I've moved more times than I can count - it DOES eventually get done. Promise!

Jiggles - welcome!

Leenie - thanks for checking in. Hope to hear good news on the job front from you soon - we're all rooting for you! Go, Leenie! :carrot:

I'm wondering if I need to re-assess my plan. I've had great success on GI before, but didn't want to take on all that cooking and daily preparation since DH is away all the time now. I've been doing the CAD, but I'm thinking that it's not a lot more work to do GI - and it feels healthier. Going to read through some of the GI books again tonight, and see what I think. The biggest thing on CAD is I miss the fruit - I can only have fruit in my RM, and I feel so much healthier when I eat fruit. On GI, I can eat as much fruit as I like. Anyway, I'm rambling.

Hope you're all having a great day!

Ooops - sorry! Double posted by accident! :o

havish-I am so messed up I thought I went the wrong way and was rereading it...LOL I love fruit when I eat it but I never have an appetite for it...I think its the juice...I love bannanas and love vegs but the thought of fruit just does not appeal to me. I like them dont get me wrong. I cut them for the kids and once in a while I will take a bit and Im like mmm good but thats about all the further it goes...dont know why?

jiggles-def a place to come to lose weight esp. when depressed


Leenie-have a good time working...LOL..

Lost-Def miss you...come back as soon as you can...

Vermont-Yeah it does make a difference just to do it every night and to remember how much better it will be..I can tell I missed a few meds since I was sick cause when I get up its like my bodys still sleeping..i cant get awake and motivated...Hope you got some stuff done today

So yeah I laid down with the middle children to nap cause they were goofing off and my 3 yr old girl curled up next to me and laid her head against my chest so yeah I ended up dosing off...but i had these awful dreams someone was trying to kill me and I managed to run away from.....then I woke up and was like what was that...then dosed back to sleep and went back into it except I went with my dad and someone else to get away from him and he was waiting for me...I managed to plead for my life hoping my dad or someone would kill him....Then I woke up and was scared to death...then I woke up and was like what was that... then my teen was wayyy late and i got freaked out thinking something happened to her...ok gotta go family calls!!

havish-I am so messed up I thought I went the wrong way and was rereading it...LOL I love fruit when I eat it but I never have an appetite for it...I think its the juice...I love bannanas and love vegs but the thought of fruit just does not appeal to me. I like them dont get me wrong. I cut them for the kids and once in a while I will take a bit and Im like mmm good but thats about all the further it goes...dont know why?


I can tell I missed a few meds since I was sick cause when I get up its like my bodys still sleeping..i cant get awake and motivated

Hey, Mom, I'm sorry to cause confusion. :dizzy:
I confess I have to be in the mood for fruit - but I hate not being able to eat it at all. But, I can always be tempted by a bowl of strawberries. :)

I also wanted to say I hear you on the being sick thing - when I'm sick it takes a good couple of days longer than anyone else to recover because of the mini-withdrawal. I hate the dizziness and nausea - and the worst is the tearyness - maybe it's just me, but I always get major crying jags in those times.

Hang in there! :hug:

:hug:

Not in a "posting" mood, but definetly in a "hug" mood so I thought I'd share :)

Ditto Marbear... :hug:

but Havisham, what is CAD and GI?

Hey even though you two didnt post it still thrills me that you left something to let us know you were here!!!!

past my bedtime..going to sleeep frustrated I can fit my jeans and I WILL NOT go buy bigger ones...Like they fit but part of my stomach hangs over and i absolutely HATE that and i have to be in lose fitting pants or they drive me crazy...but thru all that I STILLLLL eat crap food and drink soda I dont get it...even when I was taking off the tight jeans all I could think was this is sad I am too fat to fit these I need some chocolate and a pepsi...AHHH why cant I get away from it...idk

good morning all, I dont know what CAD or GI is either...well I thought they meant "computed assisted drawing' and 'gastro-intestinal' but I don't think that fits in this context! :)

momof4 that was a scary dream, and then to go back to it, ugh! sweet nap dreams to you from now on!

Morning, Chickies!

Mom - I can SO relate - my response to discovering just how fat I am is that I want chocolate and a coke. You are NOT alone.

This week is especially hard because, having finally got my scales, I can now see that I'm going up - just a bit of a pound a day, but it's not dropping. I'm telling myself it's just TOM, but it's a little discouraging. Hoping I can see some dropping next week once TOM is done. :(

Marbear and Hope - really glad you sent the hug. We all have days we have nothing to give, but the hug is huge!

Hope - CAD is Carbohydrate Addicts Diet and GI is the GI diet. CAD focuses on no carbs at all for two meals a day, and then one, one hour meal a day (Reward Meal) where you can eat what you want. Obviously, it's best to eat a balanced healthy meal, with carbs, but if you want to have something not healthy, you'll still lose the weight.

GI is based on the Glycemic Index and promotes a lifestyle of low fat/high fibre, with lots of food. It stresses that you need three full meals a day and three snacks. The books have some amazing recipes in it, and once you get going on it, it's sooo easy. You're literally never hungry and you feel amazing. When I did it last, before my last major breakdown, I lost 60lbs in six months and felt great. My doctor was thrilled. It's written by a cardiologist who was president of the heart and stroke foundation of Ontario for like ten years. I also like it because he says that this is not a diet, this is life, so he says that you should plan to stick to plan 90% of the time - that 10% of the time we're human. So, if you really crave Pizza, have pizza. When i did it before, that's what I did. I know I don't want to cook on a Friday night, so I plan for that night to be a night off - and we have whatever the kids feel like, really. In all honesty, it's the only 'diet' that's ever worked for me. It also controls my blood sugar and IBS which is a huge plus. It's also relatively easy to follow for eating out, which is nice.

For me the biggest plus on both of them is that you're not counting calories or points, and that it allows for the 'human' factor. You just watch portion control, like a palm size for meat, quarter of your plate for carbs, that kind of stuff. I started on CAD, but I'm now moving to GI as it's so much healthier. The food is easy and tastes great, and I'm literally NEVER hungry. And it works - the weight fell off me last time. So I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it will this time, too.

I'm 40 in a couple of weeks - I need to find what works for me and that I can stick with for life.

Sorry - that was probably more than you wanted to know! :o

Anyway - thanks for all of you for your daily support - it helps more than you will ever know!!

Happy Thursday!

Good morning ladies.

I'm very... antsy today. Fidgety, stressed, and all I want to do is dive head first into a box of wine and a box of chocolate.

If I was given 3 wishes, one of them would definetly be that boxed blush wine tasted the same, had the same effect, but had zero calories. How heavenly would that be?

Today was definetly a stay home and snuggle day. I woke up half way through the night with my brain on warp drive and couldn't fall asleep again until like 30 min before I had to get up. One of my cats came to keep me comapny though. He plopped down on my pillows above my head, and used the top of my head as his pillow. He's so cute. Which is good for him, because he's kind of a pain in the arse too!

Havisham - finding something you can stick to for life is key. I think that's been my downfall int he past. I've been loosing weight for a specific event (the start of college in the fall, my wedding, etc) and once that event was reached it was like I was done. I'll never be "done" and that's something I need to get through my head.

Mom - I'm between sizes too - it's really annoying. What's more annoying is that I bought new running pants a month ago (before I went to physical therapy) because my others fell when I ran. Well I didn't run for the past month but I lost weight, so now they don't fit and I didn't get to run in them!!! Oh well, at least they're comfy!

VT Mom - hope everything is going well with your hubby.

Everyone - :hug:

well atleast im not the only one that wants choc. when they are depressed..but hey it is said to be a drug...so guess thats why I crave it..LOL

I met a girl the other week that used to be 240 lbs and she lost her weight over several months but completely chewing her food until it was mush. because then her brain had time to realize when she was full before the whole meal was inhaled...a lot of people that go the bypass surgery gain weight again because they stretch their stomach out again. I do need to eat slower because I would quit a lot sooner....

I think we can all agree that chocolate is definitely one of the major food groups...the day they say I can never eat chocolate again, I'm going postal! ;)

I also know someone who dropped weight that way - and by only eating when she was actually hungry.

But....she was a money grabbing skank so her motivation may have been different than mine! :)

Marbear - I agree, getting over the idea that this is temporary is key...and also the most depressing. I spoke with a friend of mine earlier who's a recovering alcoholic and he said that it depresses him that this is always going to be a struggle. That he's always going to have to think about it ...and that's kind of how I feel. Like, I'm always going to have to think about every mouthful. It's tough. But I'm telling myself that it's worth it - that once I'm a slim, trim 180, it will be so much easier. I hope.

Hugs to everyone. Tomorrow's Friday - YAY!!!!!

Havisham, thanks for the info and no, it wasn't more than I wanted to know. The GI diet sounds interesting to me, I think I'll read up on it more. The only diet that ever worked for me was Weight Watchers which I like but if I actually didn't need to count points that would be a big bonus. I always thought I would calorie count or do WW again if I happen to get back on track but we'll see.

I'm off tomorrow but I have a test on Saturday that I have to study for all day. My house needs major help as well. That may have to wait till Saturday afternoon though.

I agree that the whole dieting for life or eating well thing is depressing. It's hard enough to do for the time it takes to get a significant amount of weight off. I think it's even harder in the maintenance mode. It's exhausting to think about. I know, I know that's what I need to do to be healthy and I shouldn't ever want to shovel crap into my body regardless of my weight but :p, it's just so satisfying and tempting to do so. :devil:

good morning chicks! That was good information to us, Havisham! The GI stuff sounds so sensible. I wonder if my DH would go for that. I am so glad that he is taking daily walks with the dog now.

About the 'for life' thing, it might seem depressing and overwhelming sometimes but truly once it is ingrained in you it is not in your thoughts all the time. Well at least for me. Or if (like this morning!) as I was pouring coffee I thought 'is there anything that goes better with coffee than a donut?!' but it passed because there isn't a donut within a half mile of here :devil: and it just isn't happening. Or it might happen but once in 3 months.

The chewing of food thoroughly, now that is something I need to embrace!! I do inhale my food. And think I'm still hungry afterwards, but it's only been like 4 minutes :devil:

We have had cloudy, dreary dreary weather. I haven't been on my motorcycle for at least a week now. I really want some sun! but every morning I sit here with my Happy LIght blinding me :cool: trying to trick my brain into 'happy thoughts' :D

well have a great day chicks; today is my Monday because I just had my two days off. I do look forward to wearing some of the new tops I got at Goodwill. Something really bright today, to offset the gray and dreariness.

Ladies -
Happy Friday! WOOHOO!!!
Yeah - for life is evil, but necessary. There are very few things I want to dedicate a lifetime to (thankfully my husband seems to be one of them). I get so bored and feel so restricted when I think of things like that. Hmm...

Hope - good luck on your test.

VTmom- I also inhale food. i think it's a side effect of ALWAYS being in a rush to do everything. I need to slow down in general, let alone while eating.

to all my ladies :hug:

I'll probably be back Monday - as I suck at posting on the weekends.

Hope and Vermont, the GI is amazing. It's quite literally the only diet I've ever done that works. It's simple in that it works on a red, yellow and green light basis. Green light means eat as much as you want - with a few exceptions where a portion is specified - such as whole grain bread, nuts, pasta etc. With those things they stress the portion control, and even then it's things like meat should be about the size of your palm, no measuring or weighing.

It's very straightforward, and the books are easy to read and to follow. Each book (and you really only need one - I'd suggest the "Living the GI Diet" as it's clear and has lots of recipes) has a whole section of 'red-yellow-green' light items, and it's vast, covering everything down to oils and snacks. There's also a little tiny book for shopping and eating out - tells you what you can eat at each fast food restaurant etc., as well as if you want Chinese food, or Indian food, what you should get. Invaluable.

You have to eat six times a day - three meals and three snacks. Being hungry is not possible! :carrot:

The books also have some awesome recipes - the low GI rice pudding is to die for - and is great in the evening as a snack - especially with sugar free jam. Also the garlic shrimp pasta and the Lemon Herb Chicken Thighs. It's very easy to cook and stick to the plan because it tells you which spaghetti sauce to buy, what pasta and how to cook it, and again all veggies and fruit are green light so eat as much as you like.

Lastly, like I said, the Dr who wrote it stresses that we're human so you should expect to cheat 10% of the time. That takes the stress off right away - if you want a Big Mac, have one. I know for me, if I really, really crave something and don't have it, I'm going to end up bingeing. This gives me the green light (no pun intended) to be human for a couple of meals a week - if I want to.

I can tell you honestly, hand on heart, that this diet works. If you read the testimonials in the book, they are all absolutely representative of the way the diet works. If you're committed, this diet is actually 'easy'. Hard to believe, I know, but I lost 60lbs and never once felt deprived...I felt great and the weight fell off.

So why aren't I slim and trim now? The old monster Depression - had a major breakdown and fell right off the wagon....just the idea of cooking a meal was too much. So now I'm getting back on...the dragon is in it's cave, for now, so I'm giving this a shot again.

Happy to share if anyone wants info. :)

happy Friday all!!!

:woohoo: MY TEST IS POSTPONED AND CLASS IS CANCELLED TOMORROW!! :woohoo:

I could not be happier. I'm actually off now for 2 days in a row with nothing to do and I only have to work from 5-8 on Sunday. I actually teared up when I read the email. Sad but true. Now, what to do with myself?...

:wave: Hi everyone.

Happy Halloween

:haphal: . :sklol: . :sklol: . :sklol: . :sklol: . :sklol: . :sklol: . :sklol: . :sklol: . :sklol: . :haphal:


.

:badbat: Happy Halloween!! :ghost:

Hi everybody, you are out there, right? :witch:

What did everybody do for Halloween? I got lucky, we were supposed to go to a party given by one of dh's friend, but he didn't feel like going. We stayed home and watched a movie. It's not that I don't like this person, I don't really know her well, I just try to avoid most all social situations. I'm sure you know what I mean. I just always think 'I'm too fat to do that'. As soon as someone suggests most anything, I immediately try to figure out how I'm going to get out of it.

I hate this about myself and I know that living with me can't be fun. I don't want to be this person I've become but here I am. I went yesterday shopping for a Halloween costume and looked through all the skinny skank costumes hoping to find some tent shape mumu looking thing that wouldn't be too embarassing to put on. The hospital scrubs option was probably about the best but dh was going to go as a biker (big stretch). I decided just to buy some leather fingerless gloves and a studded choker and be a biker chick. I of course would not be sporting the signature tiny black tank top but the effort was made in case I had to go. The emotional rollercoaster over this party I didn't even attend was enormous and such a waste of life. This is just one small example of the torment I experience so frequently due to my weight. Why then can't I change? :dunno:

Hi everybody, you are out there, right?
I'm here! But I'm new in these parts...

The emotional rollercoaster over this party I didn't even attend was enormous and such a waste of life. This is just one small example of the torment I experience so frequently due to my weight. Why then can't I change? :dunno:
I feel so much empathy... I get this exact feeling every single time I have to go out and "be seen". I'll spend forever and ever making a costume or getting one together and then some random person will snap a photo of me, and when I see it I feel so dejected, so hopeless. I'll throw my hands out at my reflection, get really mad at it, tell myself that I will never. change. and why should I bother, anyway?

Sometimes I think of it this way, and it helps me: you know all of those diets you begin and don't finish, and how they seem to pile up? A successful diet is just the one that lasts a little bit longer and is a little bit healthier than the one before, until you're at your goal.

Anyway, just to say, I know where you're coming from and I wish you all the best. :hug:

i didnt get to post yesterday but i had went to see my gram. She looked like she was already in a casket. She said hi but then went back out of it and when I was leaving kinda came to life and was like I didnt know you were...then went back out of it. Well when i called my mom to tell her something dad answered said gram had just passed away...They had just went to run an errand while my aunt sat at their house with gram and she called them back...Guess they had a long night. i love my gram and will miss her. I had a lot of good times with her and we had a good last year since she moved in with my mom. She didnt die in her trailor on the mountain all alone.. i hurt for my mom cause I know she is hurting. she took care of her 24/7 and would have to beg my aunts to come help her if she needed to go somewhere. My mom is the baby. She sat there this whole week watching the life drain out of gram and nothing she could do for her. She tried to get her to eat and drink and even crushed her pills up in some applesauce but nothing she could do could keep her mom from going. I only got to talk to her breifly because she was at the funeral home. She broke down crying so then I started crying. i had held myself together SOO well even when i had to tell my sisters (who my parents adopted not too long ago). I feel like I was as prepared and at peace. You will always miss people and remember times you had with them. But its my mom who I am focused on. ok well enough of me blabbing on.
I will talk to you all later...services arent until wed and thur cause my uncle from new mexico has to fly in for the services.
nite

momof4, :hug: to you and your mom; condolences on your gram's passing. You sound very 'together' in this sad and stressful time, that you see how your mom is hurting. I hope you keep strength to get you and your family through this time.

Hi Nenu, welcome :wave:

hope, I'm sorry you were in such angst because of the party.

Havisham, buddly, Leenie, and all others :wave:

I had 4 huge frosted sugar cookies and about 8 fun sized candy bars yesterday/last night. Ugh. Back on track today.