100 lb. Club - Bad Day!
09-30-2009, 09:41 PM
Well today started out to be a great day. I was ready to get down and start doing my richard Simmons and the Phone Rang . It was the Principal at my daughter School. She decided that today she was gonna reak havick on them.
We have so many Problems so they require all students to Wear Uniforms. She decided that she was gonna wear these large hoop earrings She was asked to remove them from her ears. As she got back to class she placed them back in her ears. Then she put on a pink Sweater. Not a uniform color so was asked to remove it she refused and made a sceen she was sent to the principal office where they asked her to remove the earring and sweater and she refused and then proceeded to argue with them . Needless to say I was asked to come pick her up from school that she was welcome back to school until she could wear the uniform.
I was soo Furious that when i got to her I went off on her. I took her Phone , mp3 player , computer and all from her. I called her councler and she came out and spent half the day talking about the problems she was having. She said that they told her to remove the earring earlier and they didnt tell her she couldnt place them back in. I DONT THINK SO!
So in the Am dad will be taking her to school in Uniform and I told her if I get a call I will let them do what they need to. If I didnt say she is 14 her bday is in 18 days and will be 15 she thinks she is 21. She is in the 8th Grade.
I was sooo upset because this is the third time in a week we have had to go to school for something. What happened I ate a Twix bar. I am not holding it against me I will dust my self off and get back on plan One candy bar will not ruin me. I jest feel bad cause I allowed it to happen. I had no exercise or water because all of the stress today. I guess I feel Better now thanks to everyone for letting me vent.
09-30-2009, 11:21 PM
Bonnie, sorry about your bad day. You can feel proud of yourself. You ate ONE Twix, not multiples.
09-30-2009, 11:25 PM
Here's a hug.....:hug:
09-30-2009, 11:39 PM
And another :hug:
09-30-2009, 11:40 PM
Hope tomorrow is better - seems like all girls that age somehow lose their brains until they get to be about 25 or so. Hugs!
10-01-2009, 12:04 AM
:hug: I don't know if this is a help to you or not, but when I get to that place you were at earlier, I keep on plan by saying something like this to myself...
Why should I punish my body because someone else did something stupid (or irritating, mean, etc)?
That keeps me from eating the wrong foods, overeating, etc. Hope it helps you!
By the way, good attitude! Don't let this keep you down! Right back at it!
Alana in Canada
10-01-2009, 01:04 AM
When I was in my twenties, my mother told me I'd been abducted by aliens when I was 14--and not returned until I was about 21.
10-01-2009, 04:53 AM
I'm sorry you had a bad day :hug: . But you only had ONE Twix bar. Previously, I would have eaten a Twix bar, ice cream, and something greasy. You are doing AWESOME.
10-01-2009, 05:30 AM
LOL kids will be kids... i really dont see the problem reguarding her wearing a pink sweater or hoop earring i think schools are getting so controling.. It seems inappropriate for the school to call you over something so small. its not like she started a fight or was smoking or anything eles that would require a phone call home.
I hope todays a better day for you Bonnie. 14 (almost 15) is a tough age, isn't it?
I like your attitude to get right back on plan eating wise. Take care.
10-01-2009, 07:46 AM
I hear you, my daughter is 7 going on 17. I don't know where she get's her attitude from;).
I hope that today goes better for you and her. And like other's said, it was only one twix.
10-01-2009, 08:54 AM
:hug: I hope that today goes better.
The teen years can be difficult. My daughter had blue hair for two years. She also decided to change her name by spelling it backwards so she became "Nerak". We did not have uniforms so I did not have to deal with that. A wise teacher told me not to be concerned about her rebellions as long as she was not doing anything that would hurt her. At least with the hair we could easily pick her out of the crowd at graduation!
Today she has settled down, is married and expecting her first baby. She is so conventional that you would not believe. Sometimes I miss that little spark that she had.
Hang in there, you will get through the days. Hopefully, she won't get into anything more destructive than hoop earrings and pink sweaters. Maybe she can find something to express herself after school hours.
10-01-2009, 08:57 AM
Thanks Everyone. Yes it jest was a twix and I wont be doing that again. The best thing to do is not dweel on it and keep moving forward.
As for daughter dad took her to school they suggest she gets Angr mangment classes. The way I am told no other color can be worn to school because they have alot of Problem with Gangs. They cant even wear a colored shirt under their Uniform shirt. The earring is for saftey reason. They dont want someone to rip them out of their ears in a fight. But all will Prevail.
10-01-2009, 11:26 AM
Throwing in my support here! I feel your pain. I have a 15 year old daughter. She's been pretty good so far (knock on wood) but it is either hot or cold with her. She's either really happy or really unhappy, not a lot of anything in between. So you are not alone!
As for the Twix, well... it happened. You moved on and that's what is important!
10-01-2009, 12:10 PM
:hug: And you are right, one candy bar will not ruin you. It is usually what happens AFTER the candy bar that will ruin you. Keep doing what you are doing.
Shannon in ATL
10-01-2009, 12:24 PM
:hug: I remember being absolutely vile as a 14 year old girl. Sounds like you dealt with it pretty well considering. And like has already been said, it was just one candy bar. :) Hang in there, she will grow out of it.
10-01-2009, 12:37 PM
Sorry you are going through this. I remember 14 being such a hard age for me. I feel your pain since my 8 yo son was sent home yesterday because he flipped over a desk. It's been a trying few weeks and I have not been handling it as well as you. So just know you are doing great!
10-01-2009, 12:57 PM
Ugg.. this is the one of the biggest reasons why we homeschool. It's unbelievable the violence and sex in schools! I also am not a fan of all rules imposed in a school setting.
Lots and lots of :hug:
10-01-2009, 03:38 PM
well so far the day is great. Did a 1 mile and then a 2 mile of watp and feeling pretty great right now.
10-01-2009, 04:48 PM
Good job.. you show that candy bar who's boss!
10-01-2009, 06:20 PM
I think you're doing excellent Bonnie... I sure wouldn't worry about one Twix bar. We all have our bad days!
10-02-2009, 02:48 AM
I remember when I was 15 and my very conservative mother told me she was going to take me to a psychiatrist. ha. Things have changed so much I guess we have no freeking idea what these kids face in school. And fifteen is a crazy time for sure. I admire you for being strict and telling her how it is going to be. Once she is supporting herself she can express her creativity! Not that a pink sweater and hoop earrings are a felony. She can break out on the weekends.
10-02-2009, 12:26 PM
I work as a nanny... schools have just gone crazy...the one little boy is in kindergarten and we got a call the other day because they were going to write him up for saying he was going to kick someone in the head...he plays football and is allowed to talk like that... the teacher wanted him to write an apology note...hes in kindergarten...he cant even write his own name...
10-02-2009, 12:41 PM
I totally feel your "parent of a teenager" pain :) It's SO tough!
I went for coffee with a friend the other day and I was talking about my teenager problems. She was sympathizing and said she was worried that it was my teenager angst that was "causing" my weight loss and she was worried about me :lol:
I told her if I was allowing him to influence my weight, I would likely weigh 400 pounds by now!! Clearly, I do NOT have a history of NOT eating when stressed :)
For you to stop at one measly Twix bar is awesome! Don't beat yourself up and keep on doing what you've been doing.
10-02-2009, 03:24 PM
That BITES. I am so not looking forward to the teenager years.
here's a big *hugs* for you just being you.
10-02-2009, 03:32 PM
Thanks everyone. So she has been back in school for a few days and all is well. she is still mad because I repo her cell phone. For not the fact she didnt follow the rules its because when she got caught she argued with the teacher and the principal. I sure cant wait till she is passed this stage. I still got a 11 year old daughter trailing behind her.
10-02-2009, 03:37 PM
Good job.. you show that candy bar who's boss!
Hehe, I agree :D :hug: