100 lb. Club - It's sitting on my counter.....
09-04-2009, 02:14 PM
It's a 9x13 pan of chocolate frosted chocolate cake.
Hmmmm. I don't hear it calling my name. But, I certainly know it's there. My son brought it home last night. His girlfriend made it for him. I know I can ask him to keep it in his room or put it in the fridge in the garage. No problem there.
I just wonder if I can let it sit there and not be tempted.....? I am thinking I have a handle on things. I don't find it tempting now, but what about later tonight?
I don't know. I'd kind of like to find out if I can handle it. It would be so nice to know that I could be around a yummy cake and not sucuumb. Especially with the holidays right around the corner.
What to do? What to do? What would you do?
09-04-2009, 02:22 PM
I'd put it away...out of sight. Sometimes, I handle tempatation much better than other times. Why chance it?
It depends on your resolve. Only you know yourself...
I usually do better with out of sight out of mind but since moving back home I have had to get used to having the temptations sitting on the counter and in the fridge and freezer... it can definately feel like a test sometimes, but that can be good. When I overcome a strong STRONG stong craving for something (even if that means walking out of the kitchen for the rest of the night) I always feel better about it when I weigh-in in the morning. Even if I don't lose I know that I did everything I could.
09-04-2009, 02:27 PM
I guess I want to see if I can do it. I mean, my long term goal is to break the hold that food has over me. That means getting used to the idea that there will be foods that I see and can still choose to not eat.
I just don't know.....I value input, that's for sure!
You are right... there is ALWAYS a choice. You are stronger than you think. You CAN do this!
09-04-2009, 02:41 PM
It won't really matter if it is on the counter in front of you or in the fridge or in the house, cause its going to call your name regardless. But by putting it away, if you WANT some you have to actually GO to the fridge, open the door, take it out, put it on the counter, get a plate, get a knife, cut a piece, rewrap the cake, open the fridge, put it back in, and eat the cake. More effort, meaning more time to come to your senses, so to speak and make a more reasoned decision.
This new lifestyle change that you're implementing can be as challenging as you like. SO if having the cake on the counter and not having any will mean a certain type of victory for you, leave it there. BUT if it is a distraction for you and is disrupting your day, you might want to put it in the fridge in the garage. No harm in doing this and letting your DS know where it is. I mean, sometimes this journey isn't about RESISTANCE but learning how to deal with food challenges in the easiest, most pleasant way. If putting these foods out of sight means that you can put it out of your mind, having these foods around but out of sight won't be an issue in the long run.
I personally would move it into the fridge because the icing probably has butter and should be in the fridge in any event and because I don't like looking at foods like these. For me, it just takes a moment of "desire" and with the food RIGHT there it is easy to have "just a taste". I USED to do things like keep open bags of chips and chocolate around to "test my strength" but I generally found this counterproductive -- either I obsessed about the food and it disrupted my day OR I had "just a taste" which wouldn't have happened if I had stored the food properly.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do!
09-04-2009, 02:49 PM
Two months ago, I had to get cake out of my house immediately. A few days ago, I kept a chocolate cake out on the counter for three days and didn't even look at it.
Know yourself. If you are concerned, put it away or get rid of it.
Alana in Canada
09-04-2009, 02:55 PM
I have not read the other replies: but get it OUT of there! NOW!
Look at it this way: What would you tell your alcoholic friend to do with the bottle of whiskey on the counter?
Good grief. You aren't a "better person" for leaving it there and "resisting"--nor are you "worse" for leaving it there. It is just foolish.
Ask me how I know.
09-04-2009, 03:19 PM
I I mean, my long term goal is to break the hold that food has over me.
Is that possible? For me, I kind of feel like a recovering alcoholic who will always be tempted. Sugary starchy foods are my addiction. I'm especially vulnerable in the comfort of my own home when no one is watching. One bite and I'm gone, gone, gone.
09-04-2009, 03:20 PM
Try thinking of it it as your son's cake. It belongs to him so you shouldn't have any, at least without asking. This trick often works for me, if the food belongs to someone else, because then i feel guilty for taking some.
09-04-2009, 03:43 PM
You have some willpower I'd have begged your son to hide it or get it out of the house! lol.
09-04-2009, 03:57 PM
TESTING myself ... well I used to TEST myself until I'd go and eat the whole thing... and FAIL my test.
If you honestly honestly think that you can leave it there, not touch it and NOT have it bother you than go ahead.
Honey... I've lost over 140 pounds and there is NO FREAKING WAY I'd have that in my house. Just saying ;)
09-04-2009, 04:16 PM
There are some good suggestions ahead of me and they are right you need to do what is right for you. I know from my own experiences that I am stronger in the morning and I have thrown things out when I am feeling strong :strong:so I don't have to battle it so much when I am not strong. :dunno:
Here's some :dust: for whatever you decide.
09-04-2009, 04:59 PM
What I'd do is get it out of your sight AND smell. The smell of a cake just drives me to want to eat it, bad! Also, dont have any at all. For me, If I have a bite, I end up eating more. Dont eat any of it at all and get it out of your sight asap. You are strong enough to resist it, really, you are! Just reach down inside of yourself and ask, if it would tast better than losing weight? You can do it!
There was something I read once that said we should visualize who we want to be and play the part. Who do you want to be? Now, take that vision and play the part until it becomes you. When you face a situation ask yourself, what would that person I want to be do in this situation? Then act accordingly.
09-04-2009, 06:17 PM
Well, it's out of my hands. He took it and put it somewhere--probably the garage fridge. I'm not going to look for it that's for sure!
I am kind of proud that I wasn't even tempted to lick the icing or have 'just' one piece for breakfast.
He's such a sweet young man--he's knows I'm trying to loose wt and he took it on himself to hide it from me. I love my family!
Thanks for all the valuable input. I really appreciated each and every perspective.
09-04-2009, 06:25 PM
If I found myself thinking about that cake more than I would a bottle of windex that was on the counter, I would put it away and sweets aren't even really my thing. Im sure you can resist it, the question is if this is the right kind of fight and only you can answer that. Good luck either way!
09-04-2009, 06:26 PM
He sounds like a sweet guy! Good job at resisteing temptatoin!
09-04-2009, 08:20 PM
I personally allow myself to eat 1 tiny piece of it, call it my treat for the day... and I'm OUT. I curbs the serious craving... and to me it more of a "living for life" way of dealing with it.
But that's just me. :)
09-04-2009, 08:29 PM
I mean, sometimes this journey isn't about RESISTANCE but learning how to deal with food challenges in the easiest, most pleasant way.
Wow, well said.
These circumstances will pop up all the time. learn what works best for you-what really actually works, which translates into what option gives you the least grief.
I have been actively changing my relationship with food but I don't set myself up for tests or pop quizes! Its just not fair.
These days I rarely get tempted by other peoples treats, only because I have truly paid attention to the foods that i really love. Some young girls box mix cake wouldnt do it for me now. Cake is one of my favorites, but I have learned that there is actually bad cake--yes this does exist---
be tempted by food on your terms and then enjoy what You want, when You want. This cake is just random and replaceable and it will show its face again.
09-04-2009, 08:51 PM
You know what? It's not your cake. You wouldn't take someone's food out of the fridge at work, so why take someone elses food at home?
That always keeps me away from the bad stuff.
09-05-2009, 12:32 AM
Oh I sneezed on that cake a few hours ago.
09-05-2009, 01:18 AM
Oh I sneezed on that cake a few hours ago.
LOL! Thanks for the good belly laugh! :carrot:
Honestly, I haven't given the cake a second thought. I sure have enjoyed reading all the responses today. I think the one I agree with the most is from thisisnotatest "Some young girls box mix cake wouldnt do it for me now."
That's so true!
I honestly don't know where he put it nor am I going to go looking for it.
Thanks to all!