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hpnodat
09-03-2009, 11:21 PM
I normally would announce it to the world that I'm on a diet and I cant have this or that, like everyone should stop what they're doing to accommodate my diet or something. *rolls eyes* YEs folks, the world really does revolve around me and I am that important. :encore: OF course I know better than that. ;)

This time I have kept it to myself. I've been counting calories and exercising for 1.5 months and most of my family and friends don't even know it. I feel comfortable with that.

Did any of you do this when you started?


I just didn't want to hear "She cant have such and such because she is on a diet!". I'm not on a diet. I'm changing my eating habits so I can become a healthier, happier individual. I don't want to people to ask me if that's on my diet everytime I go to eat something that doesn't look like diet food.

Frankly I'm tired of the pressure I get from other people. It's really none of their buisness what I do or don't do.
I get asked by friends and family "are you on a diet" because I'm eating differently and I say "No" and that's the end of the discussion. Then they look kind of dumbfounded by my response.
I just think its funny.


ANewCreation
09-04-2009, 12:43 AM
In the past I've always shared when I was on a diet but this time, with the exception of my family, I'm keeping it to myself.

It just feels right and I can remember some remarks made in the past that made me uncomfortable so this is the best way for me at this time. If I reach my goal people are sure going to notice, but I'm not bringing it up until they do! AND, if they never do that's just fine with me. I get all the validation I need from my family and my doctor. Oh, and the smaller clothing I'm going to be able to buy...;)

Aussie Nikki
09-04-2009, 01:15 AM
I've done the same thing this time too. I just felt in the past people have gone "Wow, good for you" when I just started, and in a subconscious way I guess I was already congratulating myself, even before the hard work started!

So this time, I figure I want the results to speak for themselves. And it will be so much more rewarding when people notice I've lost weight. I think if people know you're dieting, they can say "Have you lost weight" just to be nice, instead of actually noticing it.

And you're SO right - I also like the fact that when people don't know, they don't watch what you eat and raise their eyebrows if you have something they think you shouldn't. If I want to have a slice of the office cake we had for someone's birthday, I can and then work it into my own calories and go for an extra walk, without having to explain myself to everyone!

Best of luck!


momof5k
09-04-2009, 01:39 AM
I also told very few people. A few close friends and my hubby and kids. that's about it.

Partly because I was afraid to fail and partly because I wanted the weight loss to speak for itself. Now everyone that sees me is noticing my loss (it's about time! It's over 60 pounds LOL) but the first few comments were the ones that meant the world to me!

and it is a lifestyle change for me, not just a "quick fix" diet ("quick" being relative, you know)

giselley
09-04-2009, 02:39 AM
I never tell anyone. I have some immature family members who mock me if I quit anything. What I eat is my own business.

Rosinante
09-04-2009, 06:18 AM
I didn't tell anybody for exactly the reasons that people then think they have the right to comment on my food. Hey, if one day I decide to max my calories on candy or fries, that's up to me. Of course I'm not recommending it but I get so cross at being given advice by people who have no clue. Mz Angry, that's me!

anamimi
09-04-2009, 06:57 AM
Yes, I never was inclined to tell people, then they become *aware* and start paying attention to my food and body... not exactly what I am looking for. Also, they may feel at liberty to "comment" or even try to "help". :dizzy:

salsa chip
09-04-2009, 06:59 AM
I haven't told many people either, mainly because my weight loss is part of a larger transformation that I'm going through right now, and I'm bad at just stopping at one piece of information. I have to be strict with myself about my boundaries: just tossing out personal info about yourself is not the way to build up proper and lasting friendships. Unfortunately I've learnt this the hard way - so I'm not going to do it again.

GirlyGirlSebas
09-04-2009, 07:51 AM
I have no problems telling people when I"m on-plan. The people around me are usually supportive and encouraging. When they know I'm on-plan, they have healthy options for dinners, they don't bring junk food around me and they recommend restaurants with options for me when we go to dinner. Telling the people around me that I'm on-plan seem to give me a measure of accountability.

time2lose
09-04-2009, 09:26 AM
I did not tell anyone at first, not even my husband and children. I had failed so many times that honestly, I was embarrassed to tell. I had to tell DH and the children still at home pretty quickly. It was too difficult to keep it a secret. I told my parents before I went to visit them but I had already lost about 40 pounds at that point. I knew they would notice.

I never did "tell" my co-workers. When it became obvious that I was losing weight, I just acted like trying to eat healthily was the normal thing to do. When offered cakes and cookies at work, I would just say, "Thank you but I can't eat sweets." I have heard that the grapevine thinks that I have a serious health issue, probably diabetes. It is not true but, hey, it makes it easier to turn down food. ;)

hpnodat
09-04-2009, 09:33 AM
I had failed so many times that honestly, I was embarrassed to tell.


This ^ is another reason why I haven't told.

Phenomenal Woman
09-04-2009, 09:44 AM
I usually keep it to myself that I'm making changes in my lifestyle. Though I usually tell my best friend. I prefer not to discuss it most of the time with others because I would rather avoid the topic altogether. I spent my life with everybody else watching my diet more than I did. I certainly don't want to encourage them to continue! lol When it comes down to it, my lifestyle choices are about making me happy, so nobody else really needs to be involved in that. :)

paris81
09-04-2009, 10:15 AM
I don't tell anyone at all. I don't people judging me, looking at what I eat, giving me advice. I want to be able to eat what I want when I'm around friends, esp since that's not my main problem in weight loss--my main problem is eating when I'm alone.

JennLin
09-04-2009, 10:31 AM
Only my husband and my mom really knows that I want to lose this weight (well... plus any of you who read my posts! haha). I am a person who becomes VERY insecure if I know people are watching me closely. I definately don't tell my dad I am trying to lose weight ever cause he would always comment on what I eat.. "should you eat that?" In all honesty, its better to have a little of something you want one day and move forward from it rather than make it "forebidden" and next thing you know you bought 10 boxes of it and binged the week away. What I learned from my weight efforts in the past is that food is just food... and as long as I see it that way it should help my weight loss efforts.

Anyway... got off topic. lol I just become very uncomfortable if people are watching me in my efforts to try to lose weight. I don't want to fail... I don't want to be watched or talked about. Even when I get down to the size I want to be, I don't want to talk about "all the weight I lost"... because then it makes me feel like I was always a big person even when I'm smaller. Just one of those things... besides my husband (who is helping me) and my mom (who is always talking about her weight loss anyway... lol) no one really needs to know I am trying to lose weight. I'd rather just show up thin. :)

pintobean
09-04-2009, 10:39 AM
I didn't tell anyone in RL that I'm working on losing weight/lifestyle change cuz frankly it's nobody's business. The only people who know is my husband (he's doing it with me even though he doesn't need to lose weight per se but it's a lifestyle change) and another friend. I like to think it's a lifestyle change for me and not a diet. Be it eating healthy or working out consistently. I eat to please myself and if that means I have to eat proportioned meals several times a day I'll do that. I don't need to skip meals or take any such drastic measures to lose the weight. I found what works for me and I'll continue to do it till it doesn't. And, from what I've seen and heard, concept of eating several small meals throughout the day is still alien for many people as it is not considered "diet" friendly by them.

Couple people at work asked if I'd been losing weight and I replied "yes" and they said good, keep up the good work, it shows. And the conversation ended. I was happy about that. :D

Nada
09-04-2009, 11:35 AM
It's funny one of the recommendations that the experts make about life-style changes is to tell everyone for accountability sake, but many of us (very sucessfully by the way) have broken that "rule".

I sometime feel like I am surrounded by people who talk about losing weight all the time without doing anything about it and I didn't want to become one of "those people". So I kept it to myself when I started and and don't volunteer information--just answer questions when I'm asked how I have done it.

Thighs Be Gone
09-04-2009, 11:43 AM
OP--nope, I didn't tell anyone either! I loved it! It was my special little secret that was so rich and exciting. Only I was enjoying it. Only I knew about that little jewel deep inside me--that I was hoping to transform into a butterfly.

About -30 pounds or so my hubby said, "you are looking thinner" when I was in the closet getting dressed. I answered, "I am?"

Thighs Be Gone
09-04-2009, 11:44 AM
It's funny one of the recommendations that the experts make about life-style changes is to tell everyone for accountability sake, but many of us (very sucessfully by the way) have broken that "rule".

I sometime feel like I am surrounded by people who talk about losing weight all the time without doing anything about it and I didn't want to become one of "those people". So I kept it to myself when I started and and don't volunteer information--just answer questions when I'm asked how I have done it.


YES!!!!!

Phenomenal Woman
09-04-2009, 05:39 PM
I usually keep it to myself that I'm making changes in my lifestyle. Though I usually tell my best friend. I prefer not to discuss it most of the time with others because I would rather avoid the topic altogether. I spent my life with everybody else watching my diet more than I did. I certainly don't want to encourage them to continue! lol When it comes down to it, my lifestyle choices are about making me happy, so nobody else really needs to be involved in that. :)

Kae
09-04-2009, 05:52 PM
My family and closest girlfriends know... it was just easier to tell them. They are supportive. They are ok with eating places that have healthy options or doing more activities that are less food related. As for my family, I set up some boundaries. I cook most of my own meals and buy my own groceries. Only a couple times I got the, "oh, I forgot you can't eat that" remarks from them before I reminded them that this is a lifestyle change and I can eat whatever I please because I'm not on a diet. So it works out... I haven't told any coworkers or more casual friends but I'm ok with talking about it with them when it is more obvious that I've lost weight and they notice.

IHeartMe
09-04-2009, 06:04 PM
When I started out this time I told everyone around me. I don't think any of them really know how hard it is to stick to changing the lifestyle you have known your entire life. I don't go to them for advice or to understand, but for me, telling people was important. It holds me accountable. The more I talk about it, the more people ask about it when I see them. I am not one to want to say one day..."oh the diet? I quit because it was too hard". I think it kinda keeps me on track in a way.

bcort
09-04-2009, 06:24 PM
JennLin, you sound just about exactly like I do - I'd rather just show up thin, & not talk about it at all!

thisisnotatest
09-04-2009, 06:55 PM
... then they become *aware* and start paying attention to my food and body... not exactly what I am looking for. Also, they may feel at liberty to "comment" or even try to "help".

this has totally been my experience. I haven't told a soul, but you can only go so long without people noticing what you eat, how you eat, and what you look like. This is my biggest problem with weightloss is that I am such a private person, and this is a public experience.

Recently I had a friend ask if i was allowed to have pizza-oy :shrug:

Another friend said 'you've lost weight', I said, nope, not since I last saw you. we went back and forth till she gave up. I know I'm being a bit ridiculous, but really, the only way I know how to keep my privacy is to just not engage in conversations about my body.

I am just going to continue denying it till the end. You cant argue with crazy (ask my mom, she knows ;)

JennLin
09-05-2009, 01:17 AM
bcort, its actually what I did when I lost weight the first time (darn babies for making me gain it all back!!! lol)... I was in college...never told my family and friends back home I lost like 50lbs in 2 or 3 months (seriously... it just fell off!) and I went home and everyone was like WOW! :) Made me feel wonderful! haha

Now if I can only repeat that once this new baby is born... *sigh*

StellarGirl
09-05-2009, 02:22 AM
Iheartme...I agree with you. ...that has been my experience as well..

I disagree with a lot of you here...but I also truly believe that you have to do what you think is right.

In the past I wouldn't want to tell anyone because I didn't want everyone scrutinizing me and telling me what to do and I didn't want to be one of those annoying people that talks about their diet all the time!

But this time...I felt like it was really important to tell my friends and family because it DOES hold me accountable. I am telling the world that this is my commitment and my vow to myself. When I "cheat" on my food choices...it's really easy to lull myself into a sense of feeling "alright" about it...but I am WAY too prideful to let anyone think that I fail at something I put my mind to!

Also, my coworkers have been really supportive and I even have some of them making healthy choices with me. (Again...I'm not trying to be THAT girl...but still) The morning chick-fil-a runs have stopped, the mid-morning bagel, and afternoon frapaccinos have ended. (and when they do get something...they don't tempt me with it!) Everyone has been really kind.

Anyway...do what will motivate YOU...that's all that matters...but I have to say...I think telling everyone will be crucial to my success this time around!

sherrybwc
09-05-2009, 03:21 AM
Like someone else posted, I haven't told anyone this time (other than my DH) because I didn't want to see the eyes roll and hear "yeah, right" as before. Some people can be heartless and mean...

Besides, with regards to my weight, I'm accountable to no one other than myself.

S