100 lb. Club - The How Much Does She Weigh "game"

08-19-2009, 09:03 AM
Please don't tell me I'm the only one who does this? Previously I didn't do this nearly as much as I do now. But I try and guess in my head how much someone weighs. I don't know why, it's not like I will be able to prove if I was close or not. But it's everywhere, the gym, the grocery store, the mall, the movies, even the pool where I guestimate the weights of women who are wearing bikini's. And all I'm really trying to guess is if I would look that good at 180, or 170 pounds. ( my guess of their weight )

IDK, am I the only one who does this?

08-19-2009, 09:11 AM
You are not the only one. I play this game all the time. I wrote about it a little bit ago. I kinda feel bad because I am sure when my mind drifts to "What size is she .. . mode" I am sure that I look like a creep.

Funny you should mention this. For the last three weeks, I have had the burning and nagging desire to approach women and ask them their weight. Although I will probably never get up the courage, I have thought up a million different possible nice ways to ask the question. I have even walked through the set up, explanation and begging their pardon. However, I have not done it yet. I am on a college campus most days and there are plenty of people passing to wonder how much they weight. I just wanna poll about 100 people. I would tell them the entire truth. "I am in the process of losing weight and would like to have a idea of what other individuals weigh". I know this is not a polite thing to do but, I think about it everyday as I am walking across campus.

I have been thinking over the few weeks about what I might possible look like at different weights. There was another thread that many members listed their clothing size height and weight. Since we all vary and are made up differently, it is hard for me to practice visualization. When I work out, I like to try to visualize the healthier and smaller me. This is very hard for me. I have also been asked what person I would like to look like when I am done. I have no idea! So, perception is a hard thing to deal with, on both sides of the fence.

If I am thinking that "normal sized people" around me are 130lbs and they are really 180, it means that I may be chasing something that isn't even that "normal". But, let me say that I didn't chase a "normal" to get up to 267 or 230 lbs. So, maybe I should just leave "normal" alone. Everyone says that when your body gets to its correct weight, you will know. I hope so.

08-19-2009, 09:18 AM
Yeah. I do that. I've also been known to ask my husband, "am I as big as her?" I really don't think I have a clear picture of my real size.

08-19-2009, 09:28 AM
I do not do that per se, however I do something similar. For whatever reason, I am always comparing myself to others. So much infact my husband now points out whenever we are out and about, see that gal in the blue shirt, you and her are about the same size, or sometimes it is you have the same shape as that chick over there. And yanno every stinkin time, I'm like really???? So odd, because every time the person looks a lot smaller than me according to my eyes. It's kinda a game to me, find the person that looks similar weight wise or shape wise to me and then tell me. Oh yeah and whenever he does, I don't believe it to be true. I then find people who I think I look like and point them out to him, and he is like honey, you are way way smaller than her! I guess I still have bad body dismorphe issues. But man, I still like playing "the compare game" and we play it often!!!!

salsa chip
08-19-2009, 09:28 AM
I really don't think I have a clear picture of my real size.

I don't try and guess how much others weigh, but I can agree with this sentence. Knowing the numbers - my measurements, weight, fat%, etc, gives me control over things.

08-19-2009, 09:51 AM
OMG evilwomaniamshe
I am just like that!I do not have a clear picture of how I look like. Everytime we go out, I bug my husband if I look like 'her' or 'her' or 'her'.
He gets tired of all this now. He never really pointed to anyone and said you look just like her.. YET
But I think I sometimes imagine myself thinner and at times a lot bigger too.

But to answer the original question, I donot try to guess the weight but when I think someone is pretty, I will tell myself, you will be too once you get to certain weight, :-)

08-19-2009, 09:59 AM
I kinda do it. But I think the reason is I have no clue how I really look (size-wise), so I am always trying to figure out if I look like her... or her...
Remember that show (can't think of the name of it) where they'd have a line up of different sized ladies and the subject would have to pick where they'd fit in - they were always WAY off.

08-19-2009, 10:04 AM
I'm just glad I'm not the only one who does that.:D

08-19-2009, 10:27 AM
I'm a women's health care provider and so I weigh people for a living!

I used to be able to guess people's weight before they stepped on the scale.

You sort of needed to be able to guess whether you needed to bump the scale thingie over 200 or 250 to avoid embarrassing people.

What I do know, from a lifetime of seeing women without their clothes on is that perfect bodies are definitely in the minority. Fat rolls, droopy boobs... most of us don't look that great...

I wish I'd known that when I was a teen and felt so bad about myself...sigh...

traci in training
08-19-2009, 10:51 AM
I think I do that, too. I honestly think most of the women in the world lower their weight by about 30 pounds if you ask them, though, so the survey thing wouldn't be very accurate. My best friend is a tiny thing and she just can't believe that I'll tell people how much I weigh and post it here. She would NEVER tell anyone what she weighed and if she did, she'd lie. And she's seriously a size 2 or 4.

I think a good way to really know your size is to have your picture taken without your head. Something about seeing the body disconnected from your face makes it more real. I know it sounds crazy, but it's how we help kids see their bodies as they really are when we're treating an eating disorder. Same reality check for obesity.

Skinny Genes
08-19-2009, 10:52 AM
Yeah. I do that. I've also been known to ask my husband, "am I as big as her?" I really don't think I have a clear picture of my real size.

This is my big thing too! I am always asking my husband that! (I've found out that when I was at my biggest I didn't have a clue what I looked like in my head; and that problem is only worse as I lose weight.)

08-19-2009, 11:18 AM
I often wonder about people's weight and I very often compare myself to people. I will ask my boyfriend or daughter all the time if someone we see is fatter than me. I know this is somewhat wrong of me, but I get a jolt of happiness if they tell me I look better.

Recently my boyfriend has been pointing out women who don't have weight issues as to what he thinks I will look like once I get to goal. That is much better than comparing myself to the morbidly obese.

08-19-2009, 12:01 PM
hazzah !! im not the only one !! my husband was trying to hint at me that i was nuts i too nag my husband about if im bigger/smaller than other women we randomly see in the street ..... lolz hes going nuts i too also dont have a clue as to what my body really looks like ... all i see is something i dont wanna see ..... i hope these issues clear up ,

ubergirl seriously if someone could have told us all that we know now back then .... life would have been great .... when i was a teenager i was about a size 8 and 145 - 150 pounds and i was convinced that i was as big as free willy i was certain that all of my friends - but me of course looked good ..... i hated myself ... id give anything to go back there ....

08-19-2009, 12:01 PM
I am convinced that I have never met anyone fatter than me IRL. My husband says that this is absolutely untrue, but I have never not been the fattest person in the room.

I also relax a bit if there are other fat people around. Like somehow in my head I have fat comrades to take the abuse with (even though in the grownup world there is rarely abuse to be taken, I am always waiting for it).

08-19-2009, 12:08 PM
I do this ALL the time! I'm so relieved that I'm not the only one.

I also look at women around my size, shape, and height, and I wonder if I'm bigger or smaller than them.

08-19-2009, 12:26 PM
hm, I must be odd, other people's weight never crosses my mind.

I Do compare my size with others though, although it's not always easy to tell.

08-19-2009, 12:38 PM
I have started doing something like this quite often, esp at the gym. I'm pretty tall, 6'1 and if I see someone tall like me, I try to guess what size shes wearing.

08-19-2009, 12:57 PM
I don't really think about it when I look at people. When I actually know someone's weight, like on the biggest loser, I do compare myself to see if that's what I look like. It's so hard to get a good idea of how other's actually see you.

I've figured out that most of the time people are thinking more about themselves than they are of me. I'm a lot less self conscious than I used to be. It still doesn't stop me from sucking in my gut around other people.

08-19-2009, 12:59 PM
Yeah. I do that. I've also been known to ask my husband, "am I as big as her?" I really don't think I have a clear picture of my real size.

this is exactly what I do:D

08-19-2009, 01:40 PM
I do this too! More than guessing weight I try to guess what size they wear, like in jeans or something. And then I wonder if I am bigger or smaller, or how I would look if I was that size. Even typing it just now I feel like a creep! :o

I'm so happy to have all of you that feel the same way about things as I do!!

08-19-2009, 01:52 PM
I don't do this so much from day to day but it's usually if someone tells me their weight I will analyze it. Like on that new bachelor show for chubby women. I found myself arguing with the tv because it would show the girls weight when they talked and I was like, "No way, that girls weighs way more than that."

08-19-2009, 02:20 PM
Remember that show (can't think of the name of it) where they'd have a line up of different sized ladies and the subject would have to pick where they'd fit in - they were always WAY off.

I was thinking the same thing. I saw that one to. I think it was the British show "How To Look Good Naked" All the women picked the "model" that was like 20 or 40 lbs bigger than they were.

And yes I do the same thing. Me and my hubby both. I guess it is to egt an idea of how others see you. My hubbe has the oposit problem. He is in good shape but thinks he is smaller than he is. So we both struggle to see what others see.

08-19-2009, 02:29 PM
I've never done that. I don't even try to compare others to myself. The other day, I was wondering if my neighbor is bigger than me. I was thinking that I must be bigger than her but it is because I don't have a true concept of me versus others. I always believe I'm the biggest one because I was always the biggest one for such a long time.

08-19-2009, 02:31 PM
Yeah. I do that. I've also been known to ask my husband, "am I as big as her?" I really don't think I have a clear picture of my real size.

I've done this recently with friends. Asking them to point out who I look most like, and comparing to who I think I look like. It's been really surprising to see the difference between how my mind see's me, compared to how other people do.

08-19-2009, 02:53 PM
I do this too, but I'm terrible at it!!! I'd guess someone at about 145 lbs., and it turns out they're 190 LOL I always guess way too low

08-19-2009, 03:24 PM
I dont exactly do that...And i dont make it obvious..I do however ask my husband "am I her size?"....Yes I ask his this all the time...And he says "NO shes bigger"...and if she isnt he says "I didnt get a good look at her"...LOL....Yea watever! He just doesnt want to tell me she smaller...But since the P90X I have been gaining muscle....so Im hot! Atleast I think I am...

08-19-2009, 05:58 PM
I do this too. Not guess weight but try to compare myself to someone just so that I can understand what my size is. We recently had an event at work and I tried to get in various group shots so that I can compare my size to other people. I used to avoid the camera as much as possible!