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starfishkitty
08-17-2009, 11:38 AM
I've been feeling so good about myself, my weight loss and journey... how far I've come... so many of my friends are just AMAZED at my change this past year... my body feels amazing and different and new to me... my energy and health are incredibly, amazingly better, etc etc and I could go on.

Then all of a sudden, some JERK has to come along and just wreck it up for you just because they're douchebags and can do it.

This older guy that comes into the gas station I work at (he's a regular, & the place is like... the hub for the neighborhood in many ways) and he laughingly goes, "Yeah, some of the guys up at the mill tease me for coming in here all the time... they insist that I come here to talk to 'that fat girl'... they need to quit all that, cos you are NOT fat!"

I appreciated his defending me, believe me, cos J is a good friend of mine.... but you know what? All those "guys" who say that about me?! What the heck man... why is it people have to say that kind of stuff?? I mean, really??

And you know.. it happens to me all the time. Whenever I tick someone off (guy or girl) there, because I won't give them a discount, or whatever may happen... the first thing they resort to is "you fat witch!" (replace w with a b) One guy even got mad because I wouldn't take his coupon and scathingly told me to "Go lose some weight" when he couldn't win with me with any other comment.

When I cried on the phone with my boyfriend right now(who's been my friend since my 250's), he told me that they're just jealous because I've turned a lot of them down when they hit on me (which is true) and so that's their way of being petty and getting back. That that's how guys work... when a chick they want doesn't want them back, they insult her.

Well, you know what? Bite me. Grow up, petty punk*ss jerks! I'm so tired of people being mean and inconsiderate of other people, and what other people could be going through in their lives without you even knowing!

Don't people ever stop and think that it could get back to the person and totally send someone over the edge, muchless ruin their day at the very least?

Why do people have to be so cruel? :mad:

It made my happiness with myself, and my achievements, crumble into a foul, bitter dust in my mouth.

The only light in all this was my bf, obviously. He's too good to be true, I swear.

Sometimes I just dislike human beings as a whole. Especially on days like this.


hpnodat
08-17-2009, 11:54 AM
Dang, I'm sorry you had to deal with that. And I agree I sometimes dislike the whole human race too. But there really are some decent folks out there. So I usually go to them when I need a shoulder.

I used to work in a store like you too. I dealt with some of the same crap as you do. But I never let them get away with it. I would either let them know what I think of them, ban them from the store and even on one occasion I called the police. There's no way that I was going to put up with another "adults" crap. I dealt with enough teasing when I was growing up.

waquilter
08-17-2009, 11:58 AM
I am sooo angry for you I don't know what to say. People can be such thoughtless insensitive jerks sometimes. I think people who have to resort to name calling are either bullies or so insecure about themselves they have to say something to make themselves feel important.

Hugs to you!!!


shasha17a
08-17-2009, 12:03 PM
I really really hate people sometimes. I'm so sorry that you have to deal with that from other people. :hug:

thisisnotatest
08-17-2009, 12:23 PM
Ahhh, the humans. They can be really difficult to deal with.
Being called fat, just like 4 eyes, short, ugly, etc is such an easy, go to, insult. Guaranteed to have maximim effect with no effort, wit or intelligence required.

Even once you've reached your goal weight, nasty people will still call you a b*tch. And it will be a bad day at work when they do. Just know that this crap has nothing to do with your weight, just as it won't in the future.

Btw, you're doing a great job so chin up and look towards the day when the a**holes of the world just call you a b*tch. ;)

lishamarie
08-17-2009, 12:32 PM
You've done so well in fact you're almost halfway to your goal!

Use this as motivation to stay on track so no one will EVER
call you fat again.

"It made my happiness with myself, and my achievements, crumble into a foul, bitter dust in my mouth."

When I read this I couldn't help but think of this quote:
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent- Eleanor Roosevelt

You're beautiful inside and out so shine your light AND if those people
want to continue to live in the dark...That's their choice.

It may make no sense to many of us why people would be so cruel,but
sometimes I think cruel acts play a significant role in waking people up to
help and love one another.

bargoo
08-17-2009, 12:41 PM
"noli nothis permittere mte terere" ...translation
"Don't let the b*****ds get you down"

StringBean
08-17-2009, 12:49 PM
Working in the customer service industry really opens your eyes to how nasty some people are, doesn't it?? (I'm a part-time waitress/bartender). When people are nasty to me I just smile and think to myself that they must have such a horrible life and be really unhappy to talk and think the way they do, so I actually feel sorry/pity for them. Then I don't feel bad myself. Works for me because I will not let horrible people ruin MY day - how dare they?!

dragonwoman64
08-17-2009, 12:51 PM
Being called fat, just like 4 eyes, short, ugly, etc is such an easy, go to, insult. Guaranteed to have maximim effect with no effort, wit or intelligence required.

couldn't have said it better.

honestly, don't let those idiots have that kind of power over you. and they didn't negate your accomplishments, even if they, for a time, did get under your skin.

:hug: hang in there. dealing with the crabby, overstressed public has it's intensely sucky moments, no getting around that.

bargoo
08-17-2009, 01:00 PM
And remember they treat everybody that way, not just you. Note my previous post about 3 posts above this one.

Onederchic
08-17-2009, 01:09 PM
Some people are idiots. Don't let idiots get you down. You have done amazing and you are amazing. Don't ever forget it! :hug:

kuhrisuh
08-17-2009, 01:12 PM
:mad: I'm so sorry you're getting treated this way!! People in general really are inconsiderate and rude. This may get you down, but don't let it KEEP you down. After all, you're not losing the weight for THEM. It's for YOU. So keep on keepin on girl.

TaraLee
08-17-2009, 01:44 PM
:hug: I'm sorry. I worked in a resturant that was the same "hub" sorta scenerio and I've dealt with the gambit of r-tards too.

I've learned, via that work experience and life experience as a whole, that I should feel sorry for people who have to stoop so low. They obviously lack the intellect to come up with any creative come-backs or put-downs to throw at me and so have to stoop to the only thing they can in my case...the obvious. Course should and do are totally seperate things!

My favorite response to someone calling me fat was to give them the "Duh" look, like ya didn't think I already realized that? Sometimes I'd even get vocal..."You fat witch," Responses: "No, really? I'm fat?? Here I thought everyone else had shrunk!" or "Did you think of that all on your own or did you see my name tag?" On of my favorites: "If you think I'm fat now you should've seen me (x amount of time) ago!! Wooo man!!" That one throws them off!

The important thing to remember is not to let these people have the any sort of power of you. They are pathetic and you know how awesome you are. You've seen your success and you KNOW you are on the right track. Remember, we might be "fat" but there's no fix for stupid.

willa
08-17-2009, 03:06 PM
Remember, we might be "fat" but there's no fix for stupid.

Exactly!

Your fat will go away, their brain wont come back ;)
Karma will do it's job, don't worry hun!

I've been served this all my life.
People are just plain stupid when they don't understand something/a situation. They are afraid of difference... their loss.

angieaang
08-17-2009, 03:30 PM
Karma will do it's job, don't worry hun!

This is soooo true. I used to be called "Big Mama Woo Woo" as a kid growing up because I was the thickest kid around. Do you know those same people that used to insult me are now extremely overweight?

Karma doesn't play. Treat everybody the way you'd want to be treated! They will get what's coming to them, but you continue to stay positive. You are doing such a great job, and there are some good people out there.:hug:

Numina
08-17-2009, 04:06 PM
I've been feeling so good about myself, my weight loss and journey... how far I've come... so many of my friends are just AMAZED at my change this past year... my body feels amazing and different and new to me... my energy and health are incredibly, amazingly better, etc etc and I could go on....The only light in all this was my bf, obviously. He's too good to be true, I swear.

This part of your life is reality --- this is where you live and what you do and who you are. And it is AMAZING! You are uncovering your own strengths and realizing you have wonderful people all around you cheering you on.

The stuff those jerks say in the 3 minutes that they intersect with you? That is nothing. It isn't real, it isn't factual and it really has very little to do with you. Give them back courtesy and restraint --- no reason to give them an excuse to get even uglier --- and forget them the minute the door hits their lame behinds on the way out of your business.

I know in some way it hurts no matter who is doing the insulting, but I would really work on not giving a tinker's dang what such trivial, ineffectual and unimportant people think.

HannahBoo23
08-17-2009, 05:52 PM
Whooo! Starfishkitty is my sister! :) Yeah, i just tend to ignore what people have to say. Just keeping my head up high! :D Yet, it gets difficult sometimes to keep it up when people are weighing you down. :|

Kae
08-17-2009, 06:12 PM
That that's how guys work... when a chick they want doesn't want them back, they insult her.

That is so true!... sadly. I had it happen a couple months back. I went to hang out with a guy friend and he thought it meant more than it did. He totally threw himself on me and attacked me with his lips. Not cool. When I didn't react how he wanted he got pissed. He started being a total jerk to me. His own brother (my best friend's husband) was even the one who told me that this way why he was insulting me and being rude to my face now. Nice... we're sadly not friends anymore and I still have to see him time and again.

paris81
08-17-2009, 07:31 PM
Yuck! People can be really awful. I agree, you're losing weight, they'll always be stupid.

Regardless, as long as you act with grace in these situations (at least in front of them), you will always know that you are better than them. Don't sink to there level.

Good job on your progress so far!

SunshineCA
08-17-2009, 07:54 PM
Just popped in to give you a :hug: as it looks like you've already received some great comments from the others.

You rock and now it's time you walk in that! Rock on girlie!! :yes:

starfishkitty
08-17-2009, 08:18 PM
Thanks for the pick me up guys.

It's just been a stressful week for me, and this just made me SNAP. Normally I would have done like some of you suggested... just rolled my eyes, smile at them and walk away. Which usually irritates them even more, but they shut up. I just think my week was too stressful from other things for me to take it as well as I normally would have.

Before all this self strengthening and inner core working, etc, I probably would have collapsed into my room with disgust and despair. But this just made me angry and upset for a little bit, venting here and to my sweetie was all I needed to feel better. I'm still a little ticked and stressed feeling... but it's subsiding rapidly.

A year ago, two years ago, THREE YEARS AGO especially.... oh man. I really HAVE come a long way. :) Amazing what taking care of your health can do....

Kae: Seriously, once he told me all that I thought about it and I was like Hum. MAAAYBE.... cos you know what? I've literally had guys in the past hit on me, be all about me... but when I turn them down.... they literally flip out, rave at me, and call me a fat b*tch. I mean, wtf? Lame?

Hannah: Thanks Hannah. :) Good to see my little sister took my advice and checked out 3FC. See ya... at home? lol :hug:

SunshineCA
08-17-2009, 08:25 PM
You're welcome and hi Hannah! :wave: Welcome aboard! :)

Thighs Be Gone
08-17-2009, 08:28 PM
You are doing amazingly well--keep up your good work--you worked your *** off to get this far--don't let a bunch of cowards get the better of you.

I agree with not liking human beings in general. I SO have those days. Too many actually.

Windchime
08-17-2009, 09:53 PM
I remember awhile back, someone gave us a nice list of good things to say when people are rude. I kind of like this one for your situation today: "Oh, what a thoughtless comment! You must be so embarassed!" It almost sounds as if this guy was trying to give you a compliment in his man-backwards way, but it turned out to be very back-handed indeed.

I had a lady at the mini-mart do that to me one time. I was the customer, she was someone I used to work with years ago (pre baby). She looked me in the eye and said, "Wow, you've really put on weight, haven't you?" I was stunned and said, sarcastically, "Oh, thanks." She says, "Oh, no, I didn't mean that in a BAD way."

Oh. You meant to call me fat in the GOOD way. My mistake!

Anyway....I am sad at the thought of your day turning out badly because of this. Treasure that man of yours; he's a keeper.

TaraLee
08-17-2009, 10:07 PM
She says, "Oh, no, I didn't mean that in a BAD way."

Oh. You meant to call me fat in the GOOD way. My mistake!


See its like this... "Foot, this is mouth...Mouth this is foot."

jrsygrl
08-18-2009, 12:12 AM
:hug: Hugs to you Starfishkitty. Some people truly suck but you can't let them steal your thunder. You have accomplished a great deal don't let their ignorance bring you down. Hold your head up.

Let me at them. I'll kick them in the arse :kickbutt:

chickiegirl
08-18-2009, 09:30 AM
That's so ridiculous. For the life of me I'll never understand why some people, and to be truthful some men over women, feel they can just run off at the mouth like that.

I wish so much you could speak back to them and point out how they're bald, smelly, stupid ... but I know you can't. The only thing I can say is these people really aren't worth a smidge -- I mean, who goes out of their way to hurt someone by digging at them like a child when you don't get your way? Just disgusting!

:hug:

irishsarah
08-18-2009, 10:38 AM
You know, when people are mad (immature people that is...) they are going to find the ONE thing to say that they think will get you the most upset. That's just the way it is. If you are overweight, it is such an easy attack...if you have obviously lost a bunch of weight, that is an easy target too. It could be anything...just think back to about 4th grade; that's the mentality.

Guys are just SO sure that what they say about our appearance is just SOOOOOO important to us that they almost always use that in their immature attacks. Whatever :rolleyes:...I've gotten where it doesn't even phase me anymore. Besides, I can sink to their level and LOWER if I feel the need to. I can be wicked with my tongue when the need presents itself. I've cut more then one jerk down to size in my day. Not my proudest achievement but I can play dirty too. The trick is to not let their comments bother you...and MEAN it. Now if I hear anything like that, I don't feel bad about me I just think about how much more ignorant they look and sound as I keep shrinking and they keep wanting what they can't have!

I am glad you said something and got it out of your system. Now you can objectively use that comment for what it really was...a bunch of guys talking about a girl they can't have. Can you say, bitter? I guarantee if you strutted yourself past anyone of them and gave them a flirty glance, they'd be all over you like white on rice. Bitter. That's it.

starfishkitty
08-18-2009, 10:40 AM
That's so ridiculous. For the life of me I'll never understand why some people, and to be truthful some men over women, feel they can just run off at the mouth like that.

I wish so much you could speak back to them and point out how they're bald, smelly, stupid ... but I know you can't. The only thing I can say is these people really aren't worth a smidge -- I mean, who goes out of their way to hurt someone by digging at them like a child when you don't get your way? Just disgusting!

:hug:

I totally agree!! It's like... grow up!! Oh wait, you're 49?? What the HECK happened to YOU??

It's just frustrating.

But for the most part, I don't let them get to me too much..... it just sucks how it always seems to happen on a day that I'm PARTICULARILY feeling wonderful about myself.... though I'll admit I'm having quite a few of those lately ;) ... that they seem to do it. It almost makes it a harder blow...

But oh well. Their bad karma. :s:

starfishkitty
08-18-2009, 10:45 AM
Can you say, bitter? I guarantee if you strutted yourself past anyone of them and gave them a flirty glance, they'd be all over you like white on rice. Bitter. That's it.

I hate to toot my own horn... but with some of them I know that's true for a fact. ;) How pathetic of them!

irishsarah
08-18-2009, 10:49 AM
I hate to toot my own horn... but with some of them I know that's true for a fact. ;) How pathetic of them!

LOL! Honey, don't just TOOT that horn...BLAST it! It is pathetic of them, but that is their problem. Keep on strutting your stuff when you feel like it! You deserve it.

Jennelle
08-18-2009, 08:55 PM
I remember the first time I lost the weight...was 132 pounds...got called a SKINNY b*itch and started laughing with joy because someone called me - ME! - skinny! :lol:

SnowboundChick
08-18-2009, 08:57 PM
That really sucks. I hate when people make offhand comments with out thinking it through first. Sorry this hurt! But you are doing so great! Keep up the wonderful work!

MandiK
08-19-2009, 11:38 AM
honestly, these guys probably all just have a complex because they have a small tick (replace t with d) lol.
Everytime a guy is a jerk like that I think.... wow, he must have a small tick! Why else would he be such a rude jerk? He's insecure!

starfishkitty
08-19-2009, 02:13 PM
LOL Funny thing is that I was thinking that but then was like Okkkay... try not to stereotype because you're mad!

cfmama
08-19-2009, 03:09 PM
Jerks jerks jerks.

All of them.

Don't waste another minute of your precious time even thinking about them!

HannahBoo23
12-04-2009, 04:30 PM
I'm sorry Amanda that people are being a**holes to you. Don't worry..i get my fair share when someone is pissed at me or whatever else happens. Calling me a fat a**, or fat f**k..fatty.. It does get to me at first.. sometimes i even just lose it and feel like giving up. Then, i stop and think..whatever.. I'm who i am and they can blow me. lol I must admit it does hurt... :| But you have done such an amazing job with your goals and journey that you neednt mind the jerks... your awesome!

Dulce Vida
12-04-2009, 04:48 PM
Oh, sweetie, you are doing amazing, and you are right not to let them drag you down! But it's not easy, I know. Just yesterday, a co-worker who met me a couple of years before I started working at my company told me "To be honest, when you came to work here, I couldn't believe that you were the same person I met a few years ago. You gained so much weight, and even your hair was a nicer color."

Wow. Just wow.

But you know what? I decided to use that as fuel for my fire, instead of letting it bring me down. I took out my aggressions during a great workout.

People can be A**holes, and we can't control how they act to us, but we can control our reaction to them.

Violet73
12-04-2009, 04:51 PM
I have to put my two cents in here (grins) umm...what about the guy telling you this? You kinda have to suspect there is something not right there. I mean if he is a nice person...why would he even tell you what they said? Wouldn't he realize that would make you feel bad about yourself? If anyone ever said anything negative about one of my friends ,specifically like they are ugly, fat, etc...I would never let my friends know they said those things...just let them know they were talking about them and to stay away from them. Anyway, like I said....my two cents! :)

Keep your chin up....they arent worth the time or energy wasted on thinking about them :)