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08-16-2009, 12:12 PM
I did so good this week, last week too.

In the last 2 weeks I have lost ONE LB. You can probably lose that with one good BM. which means I probably haven't lost any weight at all!

I'm so angry!

I have lost an inch off my waist and TWO INCHES off my bust, but no weight? Why not? I cut down on dairy and olive oil and upped my cals to the proper deficit. I eat about 1750 a day and exercise almost EVERY DAY.

If I"m losing inches where is the fat going if not off my body!? Did it just slide down to my hips or something? Is it relocating?!

Last night I tried to prepare myself for not losing, but I guess I didn't do a very good job as I am sitting here totally freaking out, crying and discouraged.

08-16-2009, 12:16 PM
Oh darn, Lottie! I think you're doing so well that it is hard to not have the benefit of a loss showing on the scale. But, you're losing inches, so you have to keep that in mind. It is working, but the scale isn't cooperating right now. Keep plugging through!

08-16-2009, 12:29 PM
lottie: :hug: I experienced the same 2 weeks ago. A no loss week and I was OP and getting after the exercise.. very disappointing!!! BUT.. I found out that changing up an exercise plan can sometimes cause water retention. I had started lifting weights, and apparently your body wants to hold on to some water to help repair muscles, etc. So my question is.. are you drinking all of your water? Like.. close to a gallon per day? Drink LOTS of it. It really helps flush everything out.. add some lemon juice to it, too.. it knocked out my water retention in about 2 days.

On a side note: Every time I read a good eating/exercise book, it says DO NOT place all of your faith in the scale. Measurements are a MUCH more accurate way to determine if you are reaching your goals. With all of the fluctuations that a scale can do.. it is just not that reliable. Hard to look at a number that stays the same though.. I totally feel ya! :hug:

08-16-2009, 12:40 PM
yeah I drink 64-96 oz of water a day. :(

Judy Lynn
08-16-2009, 12:45 PM
Oh Lottie. :hug: Please don't cry. I know, easier said than done, right? If you are losing inches, isn't that the main objective? To get smaller? The darn scale is just an indication of everything that is going on in your body on a particular day. Water, muscle, bone, BM, and yes - fat. But of course the scale doesn't just measure fat, unfortunately. Just think how ecstatic you would be if it gave you a read out and said "Lottie, you have gained two pounds of muscle and lost three pounds of fat." But NO, the stupid thing says "Lottie, you have lost one pound." WHAT?

Hang in there. It is a learning process, and from what I can tell you are doing great! :hug:

08-16-2009, 12:49 PM
:hug:Lottie, the inches you lost is what counts. You may not see it in the scale because the fat is turning into muscle from the exercise and muscle weighs more. As you continue with your program it will all even itself out and you will see the results on the scale too. I know it's frustrating but you have to keep your head up and push through. You can do it. :hug:

08-16-2009, 12:51 PM
Isn't whittling the fat off your body the whole point? Are you trying to get slimmer, or you really just want to see a smaller number on the scale?

08-16-2009, 01:01 PM
Lottie, I've had many times when my inches dropped and the scales dropped later. Hang in there. Your scale victory will come soon.

08-16-2009, 01:03 PM
It often goes this way for me too, Lottie, and it's frustrating as heck but I've tried to learn to just roll with it. The alternative is to be upset, even though we've done a good job over the things that we can control. Lots of people don't like to weigh daily but I do it and this is why: Chances are when you weigh in a day or so, the scale will show that you ARE going down; it's just not reflecting it today for whatever reason (stupid scale!).

You have lost 35 pounds! You obviously know what to do and are doing it correctly. So chin up, because you are losing inches and the scale will reflect that soon. I think we get so disappointed because we rely on the scale to give us that feedback, but we also need to use the tape measure and how we feel. It's not just all about the scale although I too wonder....if the inches are smaller, where did the fat go!??

Hang in there, Lottie. You're doing this right!

08-16-2009, 01:08 PM
I have lost an inch off my waist and TWO INCHES off my bust, but no weight? Why not? I cut down on dairy and olive oil and upped my cals to the proper deficit. I eat about 1750 a day and exercise almost EVERY DAY.

And in the bolded part lies the only things you should care about. Your hard work is showing!

I gained last week but my clothes fit better. I spent a little while WTFing over it, but guess what? My clothes fit better, I am taking that and running with it. And you should too.

Lori Bell
08-16-2009, 01:15 PM
Salt, PMS, TOM, Cabbage and other high fiber foods? These are the things that stall my scale victories...and the more water I drink, the more there is for my body to hold on to. Keep on trucking and the "whoose" will happen soon. And you have lost weight...a pound is a pound...KWIM?

08-16-2009, 01:17 PM
thanks everyone, and nooch you are right, I had posted right after I weighed and now that I had some time to talk to friends, you guys, and to think about it I guess I should feel ok. As you all should know (because I complain about them all the time) is my boobs are like an endless source of stress and pain to me. So losing that 2 inches off my bust is a really great accomplishment. I'll take it. I wont' smile about it...but i"ll take it.

08-16-2009, 01:18 PM
With the inches being gone? Well, I find that measurements are not an exact science. It's hard to get the same exact spot 2 times in a row and to hold the tape in the same spot.

You've lost a pound. And that IS something. That's 1/2 lb per week, so the scale is headed in the right direction. Keep on working at it, keep on tweaking your program to suit you. Could be the following week you'll have a nice big woosh. Just stick with that program and the pounds WILL come off. Lots of patience is going to be required on your part Just know that you are doing the right thing. Take comfort from that and know that as long as you don't stop - you WILL get to your goal.

08-16-2009, 01:24 PM
With the inches being gone? Well, I find that measurements are not an exact science. It's hard to get the same exact spot 2 times in a row and to hold the tape in the same spot.

Sorry? Not sure I get what you are saying....are you saying I prolly DIDN'T lose the inches? cuz I know I did because I went form a 44 H to a 42 G.

08-16-2009, 01:25 PM
That scale... It can be a great friend when we see what we like and a demon :devil: when it doesn't show us anything at all. Don't let it beat you down. I have been doing the same thing getting frustrated at that scale even thou my clothes are hanging off me not really seeing whats going on. Keep at it and keep your head up. You have to know your worth it before we can tell it to you. Fight for it. :cheer3:

08-16-2009, 01:30 PM
Lottie, I KNOW how hard it is, but the pounds WILL come off if you stick with it!!! You are doing a great job!

08-16-2009, 01:31 PM
Many times I've lost inches and only seen a minute change on the scale. I know it sucks and it's disheartening. But you have come so far with changing your ENTIRE way of eating, adding tons of exercise and self love. Your body IS CHANGING from the inside out!!!!! You are a much healthier person even if you only lost 1 lb in two weeks.

*mega hugs* because I know how crappy it feels.

08-16-2009, 01:34 PM
:hug: :hug: :hug:

I haven't taken my "offical measurements" since day one. I noticed at what would've been my monthly measurements I wasn't dropping any inches. Probably holding the tape in the wrong place or its just cause I'm so big its not going to show with measurment loss anytime soon so I've decided to hold off on "measurements" cause for me it sucks that the scales going down but technically I'm just as BIG as I was day 1.

So I know that your having a rough time not seeing the scale move but to me the inches are really really really much more impressive than some stupid number on an evil scale!! The inches means your actually slimming down...the number on the scale... not so much.

08-16-2009, 01:47 PM
I have lost an inch off my waist and TWO INCHES off my bust, but no weight?

At one point I stalled for 6 weeks and lost no weight at all, and 2 1/2 sizes. I will take size loss over weight loss any day. People can SEE your size, they got no clue what you weight. Jump up and down with joy woman!!! You lost inches!!!!!!!

08-16-2009, 02:22 PM
Hey a loss is a loss and you've already lost 35 lbs! You are doing great- our bodies just go through phases where they are like I'm taking a break for a bit!

I've been at the same weight for a few months and I've kicked it into high gear this past week, not only am I up a freaking lb but my body is sore as heck lol! That's what I get for hardcore exercise this week.

:hug: Keep it up :)

08-16-2009, 03:11 PM
I think there are always weeks like this... I know I've had 'em! :)

One thing that I think helps me though is that I change my calorie intake per day... one day I'll do 1500, one day I'll do 1700, one day 1900, one day 1400 etc. I read somewhere (a couple of places actually) that it prevents your body from plateauing as easily.... but you're still getting the calorie loss that you wanted, and sometimes more.

And, like everyone else above said... it could be so many things that you can't even help... TOM, fiber, changing routines, etc!

Keep the faith, and stay on track! It'll start going down again. :)

08-16-2009, 04:18 PM
:hug: I know how it feels to work so hard and not see the scale move. Stick with what you are doing. I stayed right around 202 from Feb till June. I worked out, and ate right. ( or at least stayed within my calories ) Nothing seemed to work, seemed liked overnight the scale just finally moved. Good Luck! It will happen if you stick with it.

08-16-2009, 04:30 PM
hey! i totally can relate. this week has been really bad for me. i've actually been fluctuating a pound or two up rather than going down. it's been extremely frustrating but i keep having to remind myself this is a lifestyle change that i will have to stick to. you can do this! we are all here to support you. hugs

08-16-2009, 04:52 PM
Lottie sorry to hear you are upset. :hug: You are losing inches and you did lose a pound. So that's good. It could just be water retention from exercise.
Hope the scale goes down soon. :goodscale:

08-16-2009, 06:55 PM
lottie--yea, scales suck! You are doing awesome. You are losing inches and that is what matters. you are eating well and exercising--which is fantastic! Keep at it. The stupid scale will catch up.

08-16-2009, 07:52 PM
I agree, a pound is a pound, you're going down. and if you feel and measure your body getting smaller, you have more muscle and less fat.

feel happy and proud of all the changes you've made, which ARE scale AND non-scale victories. it's not an exact science and efforts doesn't always show immediately (the same is true with slip ups! if I overdo it one week, it might not show up on the scale until the next).

sometimes it's an effort of faith.

08-17-2009, 06:29 PM
Oh honey, I know how you feel, and it isnt pretty. How frustrating this weight loss thing can be, I tell ya! You keep your head up and DO NOT GIVE UP. The scale will start moving, but only when it is darned ready to, no matter how frustrating it is. Belive me Ive had several, I repeat, several meltdowns relating to weight loss this time around. Sometimes we just gotta let it out, ya know? Keep doing the right thing and it will move, sometimes it just takes its sweet frigging time. Hang in there!

08-17-2009, 07:26 PM
You're doing so well!

If you're losing inches but not seeing that much change in the scale, it probably means that you're losing fat and replacing it with muscle. Muscle weighs more than fat, takes up less space, and is generally better, obviously. (This is why many athletes with lots of muscle register as overweight or obese for the BMI but are actually quite healthy)

As long as you're getting smaller in inches, that's all that matter.

Keep up the good work!

08-18-2009, 01:36 AM
You're doing well! Look at it this way at least you lost inches. I refused to do a weigh in yesterday because my mid-week weigh in and measurements went so badly even though I've been militant about staying on plan and it's the TOM right now and I already felt fragile so I just couldn't bring myself to do it. Just stay on plan, no matter what. In the midweek I felt like giving up and just crying, but my victory is that I stayed on plan.

You're in competition with yourself and you're winning. The scale will be forced to move in the right direction eventually as long as you stay on plan. It can't win.

Also, congrats on the bra size change. I'm very close in size to you so I know psychologically (and physically) what the difference between 44H and 42G is. Congrats!!!!!!! One step closer to VS!!!!

08-18-2009, 08:51 AM
Hang in there! A lot of this weight loss battle is lost and won in your head. Negative thoughts are so easy for us. We get to beleiveing that negative talk inside us. Fight back with some positive thoughts and eventually you will begin to believe those instead. Two inches lost anyplace is a huge victory, hang on to that!!!

08-19-2009, 03:13 PM
You are doing great! But I know where you are coming from, I've had that happen too! But it will get better and you will move on. I'm stalled again this week, eating is horrible but not terrible. No exercise, too much stress and things going on and I can't concentrate but I'm trying. You just keep your head up and keep moving forward. We are here with you!!