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diesirae
08-11-2009, 01:30 PM
Tommorow I'm going out with a friend of mine I haven't seen in over a year. I had bought a nice outfit to wear. (Black pants with a nice white and pink patterned top) The top is not "tight" on me but it's not baggy so it shows my curves a bit and Im really self concious about it. Im tempted just to grab a t-shirt instead.

I know I have lost 30 pounds and haven't been this thin in ages, but still when I look in the mirrior I don't really see a change at all. Even knowing I have lost 5 inches off my hips, I still do not see the progress visually. So confidence is definately the issue here.

So what do you gals think? Should I take a leap of faith and go for the nice shirt, or should I just go for the t-shirt?


time2lose
08-11-2009, 01:34 PM
Take the leap!

Have you taken a picture in the new shirt? I could not see a difference in myself until I took a picture and compared it to an old picture. Sometimes it is hard for us to see ourselves as others see us. :)

JulieJ08
08-11-2009, 01:47 PM
My answer would be the same if you hadn't lost any weight - anything looks better than a T-shirt! Go for it.


nelie
08-11-2009, 01:48 PM
Take the leap :)

beerab
08-11-2009, 01:59 PM
Go for it! I'm sure your friend will comment on how great you look :D

Pita09
08-11-2009, 02:00 PM
Wear the shirt and know you look great in it. I'm one of those women that thinks extra large T-shirts and big flowing shirts make me look slimmer. I've had to really learn that isn't so and in fact it only makes me look larger and without any shape to my body.

kiramira
08-11-2009, 02:10 PM
If you are uncomfortable in the shirt that fits but you normally wouldn't wear, then you NEED TO WEAR THIS SHIRT.

Seriously. You need to redefine yourself from being "worthy" of baggy shirts to one who wears nice fitting clothing. Keep the numbers out of it (i.e. I weigh x amount and don't see the difference and so on). This isn't about the numbers. It is about a shirt that fits well and you need to define yourself as someone who wears nice, well fitting clothes.

Step out of your self-imposed limits, break through, and wear the shirt!

Kira

ANewCreation
08-11-2009, 02:22 PM
Please wear the nice shirt. It fits, you said so yourself. It's just out of your comfort zone to wear something different. Trust me, you can get used to wearing more fitted clothes. Fitted clothing shows us at our best. I haven't worn a 't-shirt' in so many years I'm actually not comfortable in them unless I'm doing dirty work or working out.

Come on over to the fitted side.....;)

TaraLee
08-11-2009, 02:29 PM
Wear the nice shirt. It was something you bought just for this occassion and I agree with the other posters...I think you wearing it (and we know you'll rock it!!) would be a huge step for you in the confidence area!!
You work that shirt girl!

scarletmeshell
08-11-2009, 02:34 PM
Jump girl jump!

salsa chip
08-11-2009, 02:35 PM
If you are uncomfortable in the shirt that fits but you normally wouldn't wear, then you NEED TO WEAR THIS SHIRT.

Seriously. You need to redefine yourself from being "worthy" of baggy shirts to one who wears nice fitting clothing. Keep the numbers out of it (i.e. I weigh x amount and don't see the difference and so on). This isn't about the numbers. It is about a shirt that fits well and you need to define yourself as someone who wears nice, well fitting clothes.

Step out of your self-imposed limits, break through, and wear the shirt!

Kira

THIS! :D

dragonwoman64
08-11-2009, 03:11 PM
well, you've gotten great answers. I just wanted to add that I recently went to Macy's and bought a couple of shirts and blouses that are to my size, fitted, that is. I'd realized I'd gotten used to wearing bigger shirts.

I've found it's like Pita says, the fitted shirts show off my curves and make me look slimmer -- and it makes me feel so much better when I wear them (confidence booster!) rather than a big, baggy blouse. I'll bet the new, fitted tops will give you more of a sense of the great progress you've made too. Congrats! have a good time.

Bonnie+J
08-11-2009, 03:34 PM
wear the new shirt! you will look hot!!! i agree with the other ladies about being worth more than shapeless baggy clothes. you are a woman with a gorgeous shape and you should feel proud of that!!

DCHound
08-11-2009, 05:08 PM
Baggy shirts make you look bigger than you are. Fitted shirts make you look smaller than you are. Took me a LONG TIME to figure this out!! But it's true!!!!

Torister
08-11-2009, 07:52 PM
Speaking as the queen of the skin tight 4X tshirts who still wore them 60 lbs later...they hide the new you! I wear button up shirts that are fitted now. They truly do make you look better. I just was hiding in the extra fabric!! Go knock em dead!

Onederchic
08-11-2009, 08:41 PM
If you are uncomfortable in the shirt that fits but you normally wouldn't wear, then you NEED TO WEAR THIS SHIRT.

Seriously. You need to redefine yourself from being "worthy" of baggy shirts to one who wears nice fitting clothing. Keep the numbers out of it (i.e. I weigh x amount and don't see the difference and so on). This isn't about the numbers. It is about a shirt that fits well and you need to define yourself as someone who wears nice, well fitting clothes.

Step out of your self-imposed limits, break through, and wear the shirt!

Kira


Exactly! Listen to Kira, she is wise :D

diesirae
08-11-2009, 10:40 PM
Thank you all for the great advice! :D

I will definately wear the shirt tommorow and after reading all your messages, I think that this is actually an important step for me to make to help build up my self-confidence and how I feel about myself :)

thistoo
08-11-2009, 10:45 PM
I have this one shirt with really short sleeves that makes me feel TOTALLY self-conscious about my overly large arms. I feel like I'm a fat girl squeezed into this cute, tiny girl shirt a lot of the time when I wear it (like today at work!)

But the thing is, every time I wear it, I get so many compliments about how nice I look. So clearly wearing something that fits only enhances the progress I've made, not the flaws I still have.

In short: You should wear the new shirt. Even if you feel self-conscious, you will look great, and the next time it will be just a little bit easier to put on something that's not a t-shirt. :)

bargoo
08-11-2009, 10:58 PM
Wear the shirt !

beautifulone
08-11-2009, 11:50 PM
Thank you all for the great advice! :D

I will definately wear the shirt tommorow and after reading all your messages, I think that this is actually an important step for me to make to help build up my self-confidence and how I feel about myself :)

:woohoo: Good for you! I bet you look fantastic!! ;)