I went on a date…maybe this is an NSV??
I went on a date. Friday night. This was my first date since 2003…during/after my divorce I went on a whirlwind of dates mid/late 2003…my heart wasn’t in it; none of them panned out. Besides I was busy having a nervous breakdown LOL! Then gaining 100 lbs in six months, sigh.
I only went because one of my good friends hassled me into accepting. This guy was very nice, a gentleman (fortunately, I was really not up for anyone acting ungentlemanly!). I didn’t feel a single bit of chemistry but I’m going to give him one more shot, we’ll see. Really it’s not going to go anywhere but since he went to all the trouble of driving 1 ½ hours to take me to dinner, I feel like I ought to give it one more shot before I say no thanks (very politely, of course). To be honest, my heart’s already taken (by someone who lives across the country from me…we’re still just friends right now but my intuition says he’ll be back before too long, he's always been interested in me...pretty much a done deal). But practice dates are always good, right.
Anyway, I used some of the pointers I got right here on 3FC…in a nutshell, pretend you are hot, and you will magically become hot.
I pretended I was hot. (I also got an expensive haircut with highlights, manicure, I’ve been tanning all summer, wore some of my super cute “small” clothes (14/16s), really cute shoes, perfect makeup…so it ain’t like I showed up in sweats and pretended I was hot, some work went into it LOL). The pretense itself involved me walking into the restaurant, head held high, mentally telling myself “you are the most beautiful woman in this room,” then continuing to think that periodically the rest of the night. (And not looking around to see if that was actually the case or not, LOL!)
So, there I am, pretending I’m hot…and it totally worked. I suspect if I’d acted like I was needy, or unattractive, it wouldn’t have gone very well. But, I pretended like I was hot, and that swarms of men are after me (LOL, sure), and I certainly wasn’t snobby, but I also was very self-confident and making my own decisions (no thank you I do NOT want to split dessert with you, not even a bite, you go ahead though) and y’all…it totally worked.
This man, very nice looking, good job, nice car, tall, blonde, mid-40s, friend of a friend’s brother-in-law, nice guy…treated me like I was a Flaming Empress. I mean, seriously! I married my HS sweetheart and other than dating another guy seriously in college, my experience with men is fairly limited. And I have NEVER been treated like royalty before. It is a trip! I think he told me four times, “you are the most beautiful woman I’ve ever gone out with, thank you for agreeing to go out with me." WTH?!?! He asked for another date before our entrees were served.
A Flaming Empress! Weird!!
Well, I’m going to have dinner with him again one night this week, then probably tell him “sorry, no chemistry” but wow, this has been a total experience. My advice to all y’all (who probably have way more experience with this dating thing than me!) is, simply, pretend you are hot AND YOU WILL BE.
That is all!
Pretending You Are Hot Actually Works!
I need to practice it more often. Thanks for sharing, this is inspiring!
