100 lb. Club - need some encouragement...




View Full Version : need some encouragement...


girlonfire
08-07-2009, 01:31 PM
Sorry for such a needy post, but I'm needing some encouragement. I haven't technically gone off-plan, but I did eat more popcorn than I intended to last night. Afterwards, I kept thinking "You're kidding yourself; you're never going to lose weight" and I kept trying to squish those negative thoughts, but they kept coming! I am terrified that my body isn't meant to be smaller(even though I've lost weight in the past, but are fears rational?). I am afraid I will be stuck with this stupid hanging belly forever(Sorry for TMI) and I can never look good in a bikini or, ahem,have romantic encounters without feeling self-conscious(Again, sorry for TMI). I see here all the ladies who have great success, but what if I'm not like that?

Sorry for the fishing for encouragement post, but I really need some right now. I just feel...exhausted.


Slashnl
08-07-2009, 01:39 PM
Sometimes we all just need a positive thought sent our way, so don't apologize for asking for encouragement. You CAN do this! There are so many successes out there, people who weighed more than you do now! It is possible. You just have to be willing to make the commitment to stay the course.

The other way to look at it is... what is the alternative? Give up, start eating whatever, not exercising? You have to ask yourself if that will make you feel better. What if you give up and start gaining more weight? Will you want to go to the store and get bigger clothes? Will you want to get unhealthy and develop something worse, like diabetes or other weight related problem?

Of course you don't! You want to make a lifestyle change. You want to feel better. You want to look better. You want more energy. YOU have the STRENGTH to make it through!!!! We all know that and now YOU have to believe that!

lottie63
08-07-2009, 01:51 PM
The other day I went out to the mall. I was gone all day and by the time I got home I was STARVING. I had a light dinner planned, and was still hungry, so I went over my cals by 400, I had 1 cup of seasoned brown rice and some fruit with light whipped cream, I was satisifed, and yes, those negative thoughts DID creep up on me, but I squished them down and said damn, haven't you had worse days than going over by 400 cals on HEALTHY FOOD? I asked myself, was it really a cup of rice and some fruit that got you to the size you are now?

No. It wasn't.

It was binging on wings and pizza and fries and eating out 5 days a week. It wasn't eating a good healthy home cooked meal. and it wasnt' going a little overboard on popcorn for you either. It's a combination of bad eating habits and not moving.

Dont' demonize food. It makes it harder to stick with your healthy lifestyle change! We are not perfect, we will make mistakes, the beauty of this journey is that we have the CHOICE to learn from those mistakes, and do better the next day, and know in our hearts that we can and will succeed even with failures along the way (inevitably with failures along the way) but they aren't even really failures unless you FAIL to learn from them.

Or, you have the choice to say, "I can't do this. I messed up." and get fatter and fatter until you end up like me, or some of the other bigger ladies and at this point, speaking only for myself, I feel sometimes like it is so so very far away. I would LOVE to be at your weight right now, It's all relative. You don't want to end up here, where I am, and that is where the road leads when you make the choice of "I can't do this, I messed up." Just because you can't be perfect doesn't mean you should throw it all away, becuase listen, even the ladies here who have had huge successes have faltered along the way, I guarantee you that, and the only difference between them, their success and where you are now, is the choice to stay On Plan.

You can do this.


lottie63
08-07-2009, 01:53 PM
And never apologize for needing encouragement. THAT is what we are here for.

H8cake
08-07-2009, 02:10 PM
I know that negative voice, it lived in my head for 25 years! I'm glad you are recognizing that the negative talk has to stop. It will keep you going up the scale if you allow it to continue. I gave into it for years, it was easier, or so I thought, than doing the work to lose the weight. Living an obese lifestyle in reality, is so much harder than getting the weight off and living in a healthy smaller body. I feel so relieved to be free of that nasty negative voice in my head always tearing me down. It still comes around but I've gotten much better at making it stop.
You have the power to lose the weight! You just have to make good choices. Like Lottie said, you will mess up, but don't look at it as a failure. It was a choice, now you are going to make more choices that will lead to weight loss. Dust yourself off and keep going!

kiramira
08-07-2009, 02:24 PM
This hits all of us at some point along the way. The key is to power through it, get support where you can, and recognize that nobody's perfect...

Hang in there...

Kira

rockinrobin
08-07-2009, 03:32 PM
I truly didn't believe that I could "do it" either. For so many years. Now keep in mind that I DO have hindsight on my side. So please listen to me when I tell you, and I know this sounds cliche - if I can "do it" any one can. ANY ONE. Losing weight IS a doable thing and anyone and every one CAN do it. Yourself included. It's not some crazy, hare-brained, ridiculous, out of this world scheme. Losing weight IS something we have control over. You don't have to be fat if you don't want to be. Make the commitment to do whatever it takes, whatever is necessary, whatever is required - and then seek out ways to make it work for you.

So many people ask me how I lost so much weight and I tell them very simply - that I decided to. DECIDE to do this. No matter what. Make that commitment and take the ball and run with it...... :hug:

VickieLou
08-07-2009, 03:37 PM
I know how you feel. Losing weight can be overwhelming at times. But, we need to keep trying and eventually we will succeed. I keep having to restart but eventually, I hope the time between going off plan is shorter each time.

Pita09
08-07-2009, 03:42 PM
Peachykeen, we all need encouragement. :hug: Thanks for writing this thread because I also am in need of encouragement and reading the wonderful replies you have gotten has helped me. Yesterday, I went off on myself in my Blog because I haven't been doing what I know I need to be doing. Deciding to lose weight is the first step, doing it is the final step. We can do this...and we will! Never give up on yourself. :)

scarletmeshell
08-07-2009, 03:48 PM
We all have felt this way right?? I have those voices too. Every post on here is correct. I had 5 herrsy's kisses last night, woke up this morning, and wanted to give up. Over 5 pieces of candy!!! You know what?? I didnt' floss after lunch either (I know I am a rebel!). I don't feel bad, I never once said to my self, I am a terrible person because I didn't floss. I don't deserve to have pretty healthy teeth. I don't think I will ever floss again! NO!!! I did not. I thought, well probably should have taken the time, but next chance I get, I am flossing and using Crest white strips too so THERE!
No apologies Peachy! Hang in there Beautiful, you can do it!:D

paris81
08-07-2009, 04:33 PM
Your asking for encouragment is helpful to everyone. Others see you do it, and they feel more comfortable doing it! Also, it shows others that this is hard for everyone!

When others are struggling, I feel less like a freak for being so weirdo about food. I'm not alone, and I know that because you expressed yourself!

And you can lose weight, you already have! Think of the progress you've made so far. And popcorn really isn't bad at all, considering what you could have eaten.

Even normal weight people overindulge from time to time, they just don't let it ruin their days, weeks, months, years. Just keep swimming!

ANewCreation
08-07-2009, 06:08 PM
:hug: Everyone has spoken the truth beautifully so I will just hand out a couple of hugs for you and anyone else that might need them. Tomorrow it might be me! :hug:

momof5k
08-07-2009, 06:20 PM
You have already received some great advice so I can mostly just say "ditto".
Another things that helps me sometimes...when my goal weight seems SO FAR off...is to set shortterm goals and celebrate them. Take each step (each pound) at a time because, I know for me, looking at how much I have left to lose can feel overwhelming and discouraging. Celebrating each 10 pounds...or 5 pounds or whatever feels much more doable.

I celebrate everytime I change my avatar from one chick to the next. 55 pounds here I come!! :)

TJFitnessDiva
08-07-2009, 06:41 PM
Wonderful advice and words of encouragement given to you :) I don't have anything else to add lol

:hugs:

girlonfire
08-07-2009, 07:32 PM
Awwww, thanks guys! Ladies, I guess. It's so great to have a support system when it gets tough(like it is now). You're all awesome and so inspirational! :hug:

Back to my sugar-free Red Bull and being on plan!

Judy Lynn
08-08-2009, 12:19 AM
Atta girl Peachy! :hug: We don't need to be perfect, we just need to keep trying.

TaraLee
08-08-2009, 12:34 AM
Everyone has already said it wonderfully. We are here for you, never apologize for needing encouragement..., so I'm just here for
:hug:
and to send some, slimming postive vibes your way ~~~~~~~~~~~~!

AngelicLyna
08-08-2009, 01:49 AM
I actually needed to read all of these encouragements myself, I'm glad I read this forum daily.

dragonwoman64
08-08-2009, 10:43 AM
some great posts here, helped me to read it too.

I just wrote in another thread about the perseverance part of my experience.
http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/100-lb-club/178619-taking-credit-weight-weve-lost.html

not everyone gets it off at a super fast pace (um, me, which is not easy to confess; I'd much rather be telling you I lose 2lbs a week!). I love reading the posts and looking at the pics of ladies here who've gotten down to their goal weights, which in many instances has involved losing over 100 lbs. It helps me to keep in mind that I can do it (I've already lost over 70).

it's a lifestyle, and a worthwhile change. hang in there!

Onederchic
08-08-2009, 07:15 PM
I truly didn't believe that I could "do it" either. For so many years. Now keep in mind that I DO have hindsight on my side. So please listen to me when I tell you, and I know this sounds cliche - if I can "do it" any one can. ANY ONE. Losing weight IS a doable thing and anyone and every one CAN do it. Yourself included. It's not some crazy, hare-brained, ridiculous, out of this world scheme. Losing weight IS something we have control over. You don't have to be fat if you don't want to be. Make the commitment to do whatever it takes, whatever is necessary, whatever is required - and then seek out ways to make it work for you.

So many people ask me how I lost so much weight and I tell them very simply - that I decided to. DECIDE to do this. No matter what. Make that commitment and take the ball and run with it...... :hug:

RR is so right.

You can do this! We are here for you :hug:

Smileydd
08-08-2009, 07:25 PM
Sorry for such a needy post, but I'm needing some encouragement. I haven't technically gone off-plan, but I did eat more popcorn than I intended to last night. Afterwards, I kept thinking "You're kidding yourself; you're never going to lose weight" and I kept trying to squish those negative thoughts, but they kept coming! I am terrified that my body isn't meant to be smaller(even though I've lost weight in the past, but are fears rational?). I am afraid I will be stuck with this stupid hanging belly forever(Sorry for TMI) and I can never look good in a bikini or, ahem,have romantic encounters without feeling self-conscious(Again, sorry for TMI). I see here all the ladies who have great success, but what if I'm not like that?

Sorry for the fishing for encouragement post, but I really need some right now. I just feel...exhausted.
I am very new to this my self, but when I look at these other ladies on this sight I tell my self I can be one of these ladies and have pics to show how I have lost my 120 pounds one pound at a time. I say keep on keeping on:carrot::carrot:

lottie63
08-08-2009, 07:28 PM
smileydd, great attitude and so true! :D

gottadoit2010
06-23-2010, 01:02 PM
I really enjoyed reading the responses to your post too. Might have to remember where this one is if I need it in the future. We can all do this. I remember looking at all tickers thinking even movement on mine was so far away...but really it's only been 2 months of work and I'm starting to see some changes. I think the hardest thing is that is truly is work. It doesn't just magically happen...like OP's said...it's a decision and action. SO...one of my favorite sayings is...keep on keeping on. Works well in this situation. Go Peachy!!!

GirlyGirlSebas
06-23-2010, 01:16 PM
I see here all the ladies who have great success, but what if I'm not like that?
But....what if you are? Just imagine it. You...healthier, feeling great, looking even more awesome....writing your goal post to inspire everyone else. Just imagine it! Why can't this be you, too? Think positive. Tell that negative inner voice to just shut up!