100 lb. Club - One Tequila, Two Tequila, Three Tequila, Floor!




starfishkitty
08-05-2009, 05:12 AM
So back a few years ago, during my dorm days, my friends (and fellow RA's) were a darned good group. We spent our weekends (and some week days) at our favorite bar, pouring everything and anything down our throat. Retrospectively, I realize that I did create a lot of amazing memories (which I'll never regret) but it also not only caused or increased a lot of emotional problems I was having at the time.... and most DEFINITELY helped me pack on and/or struggle to get off the pounds I've now been finally losing. But now, we've all moved on and I gave up a lot of my bad habit/depression drinking over a year and a half ago or more, and I'd say I've honestly only drank about 3 times in way over six months.

However, since I started my diet 3 months ago (and lost 20 or so lbs), I really haven't drank at all. I've become so strict on my calories and whatnot.... that I'm totally shuddering at the thought of drinking like a hillbilly on steroids this coming weekend like we're bound to do. Part of me can't wait to let loose and have a great time with my friends (some of whom are coming in from Cali and Wisconsin) and celebrate my birthday like we used to in the good ole days..... but another part of me is balking at the thought of pouring so many empty calories and carbs down my throat that I'm wondering if I'm even going to have a good enough time to make up for it. *sigh* :dunno:

Realizing I'm only 14lbs from Onederland today PROBABLY won't help either. :(

I'm not a beer drinker, so that's not really an issue... but does anyone have any mixed drink selections they know are on the lower end of okay, calorie and carb wise? IS there such a thing?? And has anyone else gone through this.... wanting to let loose and have a good time with friends.... but having a hard time because of your guilt factor? :sorry:


Lexxiss
08-05-2009, 06:26 AM
Hi Starfish:sunny:

I, too, am very close to onderland. I've decided I'm not drinking alcohol while I'm headed towards my first goal(199). I'm finding I do have the ability to have fun when I'm not drinking and enjoy waking up fresh and ready to continue on my weight loss journey.

I think when your friends see the new you after losing so much weight, they won't have a problem with your drinking something much more healthy.

I hope you'll get some good responses to help you make a decision that is comfortable for you.

Madison
08-05-2009, 06:30 AM
I am also not drinking at the mo/anymore . . . my low carbin' friends who like a drinky every now and then drink vodka/soda, vodka/diet coke and rum & diet coke. I havent done the math on any of those drinkies.


goodday
08-05-2009, 07:54 AM
I'm a college sorority girl, so I feel your pain! and struggle with this dilemma every night of the week...anyway, though I do abstain most times, when I go out drinking, I usually drink wine, champagne, rum&diet coke, or just do shots of vodka and/or tequila. wine/champagne is 100 calories a glass, rum and diet and the shots i believe are around 70 per drink/shot.

avoid: anything with sour in it (especially long islands...my favorite), anything made with soda that isnt diet, margaritas, sangria, MOST mixed drinks, sadly.

but its definitely still possible to get nice and drunk and have lots of fun- just pick yourself back up the next morning and go run/to the steam room ;)

also, obviously, avoid the drunk eating afterwards, always the hardest part for me...ive learned to be satisfied with a cup of hot oatmeal while everyone is gorging on pizza and BK :)

rosiem
08-05-2009, 08:35 AM
One thing is, i bet you will find your tolerance has gone WAY down- i used to drink a lot more but haven't hardly at all this summer and i had a beer yesterday and felt it way more than i used to- so you can tell this to your friends if they ask why you aren't drinking so much. But also, it is much more efficient with the calories to have a lower tolerance ;-) Happy Birthday!

AbbySinthe
08-05-2009, 08:40 AM
I agree w/the rum & diet or vodka & club soda suggestions. They're the lowest calorie drinks that won't do too much damage. That said, I think you're forgetting one thing. You tolerance is probably pretty low. I doubt you'll be able to drink nearly as much as you used to with your college friends which means you'll probably be consuming much less calories. And spending less money !!

Unless you're drinking 3500 calories over what you burn for the day, you're not going to gain a pound. Your weight will be up probably the next day or 2 after just due to water retention/dehydration, but it's not long term & you're going to see onederland before you know it. Consider this just a very small detour on your journey. Good luck and have a great time w/your friends! :hug:

Onederchic
08-05-2009, 09:04 AM
I don't drink (anymore, haven't in years) but here is a similar thread where they discussed something along these lines if you would like to check it out

http://www.3fatchicks.com/forum/general-chatter/177461-drinks-anyone.html

bargoo
08-05-2009, 10:34 AM
Did you know , you can actually have a good time without alcohol ? It's true.

Mikayla
08-05-2009, 11:05 AM
Did you know , you can actually have a good time without alcohol ? It's true.

Stop it! Having fun without alcohol is impossible and you know it!;) Seriously though when one goes out with friends and everyone in the group is drinking and getting a little tipsy, the sober person is usually a bit left out and that sucks.


Rum and Diet is about 70 calories a few of those could easily be planned into a day. I would limit drinking overall, but a few nights here and there won't kill you.

Onederchic
08-05-2009, 11:25 AM
Did you know , you can actually have a good time without alcohol ? It's true.


I agree!! :D

scarletmeshell
08-05-2009, 11:26 AM
My tolerance has gone wayyyyyyyyy down, so I bet it will take less for you too.

Onederchic
08-05-2009, 11:26 AM
Stop it! Having fun without alcohol is impossible and you know it!;) Seriously though when one goes out with friends and everyone in the group is drinking and getting a little tipsy, the sober person is usually a bit left out and that sucks.


Rum and Diet is about 70 calories a few of those could easily be planned into a day. I would limit drinking overall, but a few nights here and there won't kill you.

I have to disagree. I have been the designated driver more times than I can count. I drank strictly sodas and I had as much fun as and with my friends. But maybe that's just me.

JayEll
08-05-2009, 11:42 AM
As someone who used to drink a lot, as the OP described, and who now doesn't drink at all, I just wanted to add that it is completely possible to have a great time without drinking. It really is! In fact, you can par-tay longer and harder--dance all night if you want--and not make quite as many stupid decisions... ;)

Also, as someone who doesn't drink, I get to see just how ridiculous drunks are... In case you drinkers think no one else knows...

Jay

JulieJ08
08-05-2009, 11:48 AM
One word. Chaser. Water (Ok, that's two words).

irishsarah
08-05-2009, 11:56 AM
I have to disagree. I have been the designated driver more times than I can count. I drank strictly sodas and I had as much fun as and with my friends. But maybe that's just me.

Good for you. I mean that. However, as adults, there are those of us that LIKE to have a few drinks with friends here and there and Starfishkitty brings up a VERY valid point. Losing weight is supposed to get us to a healthy weight we can maintain for the rest of our lives. (*knock on wood, crossing fingers, grasping 4 leaf clovers...*) So it is a good idea to investigate what works for the individual if they chose to have a few drinks now and then. After all denial of something you really want is the surest way to overindulge. I think people sometimes are so focused on FOOD that we forget about what we drink. Not just alcohol, but juices, smoothies, coffees, pop...whatever. Sometimes it is easy to sorta push those numbers to the side.

It is too bad you are not a beer drinker because there are some really decent low calorie/low carb beers out now. Miller 64, Michalobes flavoured beers like Cactus Lime, Pomegranate Raspberry and Tuscan Orange Grapefruit and Michelob Ultra and Ultra Amber (regular beers). I don't even like plain ol' Michelob but the Ultras are good. Here is the website to check out nutritional info: http://www.michelobultra.com/default.aspx

There are plenty of other choices that are not beer of course. Personally, I can't have NutraSweet and I don't like artificial sweeteners so I don't do the "diet" pop mixed drink thing. I recently went out for my sisters boyfriends 30th birthday at their favourite local dive bar with a group of friends and some family. We sang karaoke, teased the **** outta him, danced around like fools and had some drinks. I just planned for it, drank a lot of water the next day and there was no harm, no foul. Now, if I were still 18-23 and going out almost every Saturday night drinking, those calories would be killers eventually...I lost a ton of weight after my oldest was born and I couldn't go out w/hubby and our friends anymore. Ironic in a way...here I was stuck in the house and NOW I lose weight and look better. That's the way she goes...

irishsarah
08-05-2009, 12:00 PM
As someone who used to drink a lot, as the OP described, and who now doesn't drink at all, I just wanted to add that it is completely possible to have a great time without drinking. It really is! In fact, you can par-tay longer and harder--dance all night if you want--and not make quite as many stupid decisions... ;)

Also, as someone who doesn't drink, I get to see just how ridiculous drunks are... In case you drinkers think no one else knows...

Jay

Now, now...not everyone that goes out drinking gets themeselves DRUNK and stupid. Yes, there is no reason you can't have fun without drinking, but there are plenty of responsible people who may have a few drinks without getting themselves completely blitzed! Drinking sure makes karaoke a lot more fun and tolerable for the listeners! ROFL!

girlonfire
08-05-2009, 01:33 PM
Flavored sparkling water makes a great mixer; also gin and diet tonic with a squeeze of lime. You can get some drinks made with Splenda instead of simple syrup as well. But what everyone else has said: diet mixer or low cal mixer. I would allow myself one sweet cocktail and budget it into my cals for the day so I don't feel too deprived. That's what I'm planning for my birthday :).

I'm also worried because I'm going to France in a week and they drink wine all the time, plus my classmates will want to go bar-hopping a lot. They have a lower obesityrate, so they must be doing something right.

Have fun!

JulieJ08
08-05-2009, 01:51 PM
Drinking sure makes karaoke a lot more fun and tolerable for the listeners! ROFL!

Um, you're kinda making her point for her ;) Why do we choose entertainment that requires alcohol to make it ... entertaining ?

JulieJ08
08-05-2009, 01:54 PM
I'm also worried because I'm going to France in a week and they drink wine all the time, plus my classmates will want to go bar-hopping a lot. They have a lower obesityrate, so they must be doing something right.

I don't know how true it is, but what I have always read is it's because they have a glass of wine with their meal, not a jumbo glass, not outside of their meal, not barhopping. But I'm always suspicious of stereotypes of how "The XYZ" eat or live.

girlonfire
08-05-2009, 02:02 PM
Well, the program leaders were telling us that drinking wine with dinner is a daily occurence(they have been doing this program for 15 years, so I'm pretty sure they know their stuff). I didn't mean they chug wine all day long, I meant they do it daily or sometimes twice daily, which to me is "all the time" I guess, not being a huge drinker. And barhopping does happen in France, mostly among the younger crowd. Take a group of(mostly) under-21 students and it's natural some are going to try the bar scene. As for needing drinking to have fun, I don't think that's the question here. The question is for better drinking options for what the OP described as a special occurence :D. Some people have fun with alcohol, some without. A lot(like me) do with both. Everybody is different!

OT: Worst drinking advice I have EVER heard was when someone told me if I drank until I threw up, the cals wouldn't matter! And they were serious! :o. Then again, this person also told me to skip dinner before drinking and I would save cals and get drunk faster. Needless to say, I don't ask this person for ANY advice.

quiffy
08-05-2009, 02:23 PM
wanting to let loose and have a good time with friends.... but having a hard time because of your guilt factor?

My friends and I are not big drinkers so I don't have much to relate in that arena. However, we are big on putting food into any get together. I have found it hard to "hang out" with someone where food is not brought into the mix. Often times it is potluck meal or potluck snack, but it is also frequently eating out. So yes, I can relate to the guilty feeling or the feeling of being left out. It is tough. I have found that it is ok to work a more "relaxed" day into the routine. My goal on these "relaxed" days is to try to break even calorically, continue to eat frequently (rather than saving all my calories for one meal), and to stop when full.

JulieJ08
08-05-2009, 02:26 PM
OT: Worst drinking advice I have EVER heard was when someone told me if I drank until I threw up, the cals wouldn't matter! And they were serious! :o.

LOL, if it weren't so sad. I guess it never occurred to him/her that if you're drunk ... you've already absorbed the alcohol. Duh.

starfishkitty
08-05-2009, 03:59 PM
Thanks for the responses everyone..... I'd say I'm probably going to go with the diet and rum, which is what I was doing before when my diet wasn't so strict. Glad to hear that other people recommend that. Vodka, I SO cannot do because it REALLY makes my head hurt the next day....

As for everything else.... I agree about the having fun without alcohol stuff for the most part. That's a hard lesson I learned, and barely in time I'd say, being the child of a very very bad alcoholic, and grandchild, etc. Years ago, I COULDN'T have fun without alcohol, and I learned many a hard lesson because of it. However, I am in control of myself now (we went to a bar for about an hour last night after I picked one of my friends up from the airport and I watched them drink beer and talk about sports while I drank a diet coke.... TELL ME I don't have willpower! haha!) and know when to drink and when not. I've discovered that having fun can be and usually is better off without alcohol, but seeing as its this group and our main goal is to relive some of the old glory days..... well.... that involves alcohol! And I have nothing against that!

I don't want to be one of those people that just go into denial of everything outside of their strict diet, because like someone said above.... I don't think that's long term feasible and is also a good way to set yourself up for long term failure.

However, like some of you guys also said..... my tolerance is going to be waaaaaaaaaay low for sure, so I won't need much most likely! And I'm going to make sure to eat right before, and I'm going to take some healthy snacks along with as well since I get hungry fast on my diet (I do the several small meals a day thing).....

Thanks for the input everyone! :) Cheers! :cheers:

nelie
08-05-2009, 04:20 PM
I agree with everyone else in that I haven't really drank much since I turned 21... I just got bored with it.

Club soda with lime is a good drink to drink if you are at a bar, hanging with friends and what not because it is mixed drink like but not alcoholic. It is also 0 calories.

Good time with friends means hanging out with them, not drinking.

starfishkitty
08-05-2009, 05:31 PM
Personally, I can't stand being around people drinking if I'm sober. To me, it's the absolutely most annoying thing in the world because growing up I had to take care of my fall down drunk mother. We're talking half a gallon of vodka a day, three or four days a week sometimes, fall down drunk. Being around drunk people irritates me and I think brings back bad emotions. I get irritated and upset even sometimes. So unless I'm enjoying and drinking myself.... I just can't do it. :( I know that a lot of people who quit drinking are okay with this...... but I'm just not. *sigh* I'm way more okay with going out every now and then, indulging, and enjoying. I just kinda wanted to know the best way to indulge when I DO indulge. :)

nelie
08-05-2009, 05:34 PM
Well honestly, if it was my birthday, I'd suggest to do something I wanted rather than what your friends want (to drink that is). Again it is up to you on what you want but it sounds like you are trying to make your friends happy on your own birthday rather than make yourself happy.

Thighs Be Gone
08-05-2009, 06:31 PM
starfish, I take a shot of tequila and mix in part of a crystal Light packet...not bad at all for under 100 calories...

where I live shots run about ten bucks a piece..okay, the whole board knows I am cheap--so--I sometimes carry my own flask...yep, that's right..it's pink leather with rhinestone hearts and saves me a TON!

hehehe

girlonfire
08-05-2009, 06:51 PM
This is an interesting article about it...not sure what to think, although it does cite its sources well.

http://www2.potsdam.edu/hansondj/Alcoholcaloriesandweight.html

irishsarah
08-05-2009, 08:56 PM
Um, you're kinda making her point for her ;) Why do we choose entertainment that requires alcohol to make it ... entertaining ?

I was KIDDING...
Alcohol is not required for karaoke it is just a bonus.

irishsarah
08-05-2009, 09:04 PM
Starfish...you have your head on right, you will be fine. Eat a good protein rich dinner before you go out and use your head with what you drink. You are already doing the research, so as long as you stick to what you know and don't go overboard; you will be fine. You are an adult and there is nothing wrong with having a drink or two OR whatever now and again, if you want to. Denying yourself the right to go out with some friends and have a few drinks forever is never going to work if you enjoy doing it. It would be different if you didn't want to have a few drinks, but if you DO, don't feel guilty, just be smart. You are going to be fine. :)

DownSizex100
08-05-2009, 09:26 PM
I'm lucky that my drink of choice happens to be low calorie (martini). If I am in a bar, I'll have one top shelf drink, then I'll switch to coffee. To me a hot cup of coffee is more satisfying than water or diet soda.

The other hard thing to do in partying mode is to turn down drinks that other people try to force on you -- usually million calorie shots. I adopted a rule years ago of never drinking a free shot. Of course, if you have moved to drinking coffee, people usually get a clue.

Beck
08-05-2009, 09:33 PM
I went to a concert on Monday (Coldplay), and I so wanted to have a drink or two while there, but more than I wanted to let loose with a couple of drinks I want to get healthy and to a normal weight. I still had tons of fun.

You can always have a drink or two (instead of drinking like a hillbilly :), or none at all, and I'm sure you'll have a great time either way. It's the company you're keeping that's important, not the amount of alcohol (or food) you consume.

Have fun!

starfishkitty
08-05-2009, 09:58 PM
Oh, I totally plan on getting shnockered, to be honest. However, we have our designated driver and whatnot set up, so no worries there either. I really AM looking forward to getting totally faced, pretending I'm 23 again, and yeah.... just looking forward to it. Cos I definitely don't feel bad doing it seeing on how little I actually do it! :) And considering I've been playing mommy to an 18 year old and an 80 year old for the past year and a half... I'm tired, stressed, and feel like I'm 50. It's going to be amazing to go out and pretend I'm back in college for a weekend. hehe No pressure from my friends, honestly. It's just something all of us want to do together.... in fact most of them are in the same boat as me, begroaning the coming hangovers next week since they as well have given up the hardcore drinking these last two years (med school, pharmacy school, teaching and engineering jobs will do that to you... wow, I've got really productive best friends! lol!)

jab91864
08-05-2009, 10:10 PM
I like to use the no calorie flavored water as a mixer. Example I like peach schnapps so I use peach water as the mixer. Crystal light makes a good mixer too w/ vodka etc...


Happy Birthday !!

Betony
08-06-2009, 07:12 AM
I would go with the rum and diet soda option -- I believe Bacardi Silver has the lowest cals of the rums out there (but I could be wrong, so feel free to check that info).

starfishkitty
08-06-2009, 11:42 AM
Duly noted. :)