100 lb. Club - DIVINE INTERVENTION for DH (off topic, long!)




TaraLee
08-04-2009, 03:39 PM
Yesterday started out pretty good. I did my workout, was feeling pumped and I needed to run to the store. I thought we'd take the kids to the park and spend some family time together. DH had been up as he'd had a dr's appt. He got back and made us brunch (DH's days off are our "weekend") and seemed to be in a good mood. So when I go to ask him to come along with the kids and I, I find he's already glued his butt to his XBOX.
Now, in my house we both have XBOX's. I don't play frequently anymore as it has addictive qualities that I am pretty sure helped lead me further into the weight abyss I'm working on climbing out of. He constantly plays his. Its been the source of major arguments in this house cause he'll stay up till 5am playing then want to sleep all day. He skips out on chores in order to play as well (its like pulling teeth getting the yard mowed and its a little yard). Point being he takes his gaming so seriously and spends TONS of time playing.
He ended up going (after yet another argument) and actually enjoyed spending time with the kids. So when we got home, you can accurately guess he ran straight back to the XBOX. Except this time, he got an error message. He was on my XBOX and it errored out on him. Hardware failure. Now, for those not familiar, Microsoft XBOX is notorious for its hardware issues and has had to extend their warranties to cover it. I was a little upset initally that it happened to MINE, especially since its the least used of the two. So while I'm dealing with warranty crap he runs to his own xbox, gets on and... RED RING of DEATH. In the XBOX community that is the most well known hardware failure. The chance of it happening to both XBOX's on the same day is remote!
Now, both XBOX's are scheduled to go out for repairs Friday and it's going to take at least two weeks till we get them back!! Which means no fighting over him sitting in front of the TV till 5 in the morning hunting zombies or whatever he's doing!! Nope, instead he's been at his computer all day instead :P
I just had to share!


DCchick
08-04-2009, 04:12 PM
haha congratulations! My fiance also looooveess playing his xbox. he'll do other things, but he'd usually rather be playing his video games. he says it's relaxing for him.

JulieJ08
08-04-2009, 04:24 PM
I would agree that's a blessing indeed! Get him addicted to family time quick!


TaraLee
08-04-2009, 04:27 PM
haha congratulations! My fiance also looooveess playing his xbox. he'll do other things, but he'd usually rather be playing his video games. he says it's relaxing for him.
Yeah, it started off that way. Then it moved to its his "me time" than it became more of a full time thing. It just depends on the person, I think. DH works strange hours (he's on call 24 hours a day for 6 days then 2 days off) so hobbies maybe harder for him to schedule with real life friends I guess. But if I had heard the phrase "I could be at home playing XBOX" one more time... one of us wasn't going to make it home. And don't get me wrong, I love my XBOX. I like that it is (or was before DH touched it) there to play whenever I get some down time but thats it.

kisskisskill
08-04-2009, 04:28 PM
My fiance doesn't play video games, but good luck trying to get his attention away from the TV. He's always watching "How it's Made" or "Monster Machines" So annoying! lol

Justwant2Bhealthy
08-04-2009, 04:48 PM
That's a cute story TARA -- but too bad the Xbox has become such a source of angst for your family. And, it's also a shame that your DH couldn't set himself a flexible schedule for the use of his xbox and PC. I set a self-imposed schedule with the #1 rule that I cannot go on my pc until all my daily chores are done; and any other obligations I have to family, etc.

For instance, I usually do my chores in the AM's so that I can have the afternoon or evenings free to go on my pc. The only exception is this: if DH and I want to go visiting, shopping, out for a walk, or preplanned activities, appointments, work, etc ... these must come first!

Maybe you could mark the activities on a calendar on the wall for your DH so he could check it before going on each day, ie Tuesday afternoon: the park; Sunday morning: swimming at the beach; Friday night: date night; Monday morning: yard chores ... and so forth. You'd have to work them in around his harried schedule, but it might be worth a try ...

rochemist
08-04-2009, 04:49 PM
Xbox was mentioned in my divorce proceedings.

dixied
08-04-2009, 05:00 PM
Xbox was mentioned in my divorce proceedings.

It will probably be mentioned in mine, along with the PS3, and the Wii. :D Or possibly it will be mentioned as justifiable homicide if I'm ever arested for murder.

TaraLee
08-04-2009, 05:34 PM
It will probably be mentioned in mine, along with the PS3, and the Wii. :D Or possibly it will be mentioned as justifiable homicide if I'm ever arested for murder.

:rofl:

Likewise

SnowboundChick
08-04-2009, 05:44 PM
Yes, do take advantage of that down time. I'm a World of Warcraft widow!!!! Though he cancelled his account for the summer. What I don't get is that they play at the most inconvenient times. But Hubby can say the same thing about my reading or board(here and other places) time.

beerab
08-04-2009, 06:08 PM
I say sell it when it comes back- you guys don't need it right? You can still get a good price for it. Or set a schedule, he plays 2 hours a day and that's it!

My husband and I have an xbox 360 and it rarely gets used. And yup ours got the red ring of death like a few months after we bought it and we were sent a new one. We also use it for netflix maybe once a week but other than that it just sits around- my husband probably plays 1x a week at the most...

I'd make these next two weeks as enjoyable as possible and when it gets back and if he starts to get glued again tell him that him being online all day isn't going to work!

How can he play till 5 am then sleep all day? Doesn't he work?

JulieJ08
08-04-2009, 06:32 PM
That's a cute story TARA -- but too bad the Xbox has become such a source of angst for your family. And, it's also a shame that your DH couldn't set himself a flexible schedule for the use of his xbox and PC. I set a self-imposed schedule with the #1 rule that I cannot go on my pc until all my daily chores are done; and any other obligations I have to family, etc.

I think that's a great idea. I'm working toward something like that.

famograham
08-04-2009, 06:50 PM
Ohhhh, BOY do I feel your pain!!!
At our house, it's a PC games addiction, Halo, World of Warcraft, zombie games, tons of first person shooters. I didn't know there were so many of us! (Techno widows!)

I'm seriously not surprised that it's mentioned in divorce proceedings. Although, I do prefer a gaming *issue* over a porn one...we don't struggle with that one anymore because I'm out..if it resumes.

:hug: to all of us...:lol:
Linda

lottie63
08-04-2009, 08:27 PM
my bf plays a lot of xbox, but I Dont mind, I usually occupy myself in some other way while he's doing it (like being on here.)

I play, though rarely. We each have our own things I guess.

Misora
08-04-2009, 08:31 PM
.... Parental controls. Set a password! Okay that's not dealing like the situation like 2 mature and reasonable adults but it's a fall back plan right? I have a family timer set on mine to remind me not to just play for 4 hours straight and I made an investment in family friendly multiplayer games so I can play with my nephew and we can both have fun!

BarbPA
08-04-2009, 09:37 PM
I'm seriously thinking we need to start a "gaming widows" group! In my house it's Everquest2. I used to play with DH, but those days are gone now that we have 2 small kids and I realized what is was doing to my weight/health. He's totally addicted....but would never admit it. We just had an argument earlier that included the topic.

It's somehow a little comforting to know I'm not the only one. :^:

TXJess
08-04-2009, 10:16 PM
My husband and I both play Everquest2. We played CONSTANTLY before we had our son. Now we're so busy we're just total casual players, maybe a few hours a week after our son goes to bed.

The nice thing is, he says it's not as much fun when I'm not playing. So my exercise schedule has reduced his gametime down to nil.

People just need to learn everything in moderation. Gaming isn't bad... however your life revolving around gaming is very destructive.

Glory87
08-05-2009, 12:39 AM
I'm Cimmerone on Antonia Bayle - send a tell! :)

I used to play a ton of EQ1, but I don't want to play like that anymore. EQ2 lets me play in a casual way.

dcapulet
08-05-2009, 01:35 AM
my husband is a computer technichan/network engineer, so i feel the pain of my fellow techo widows. It used to be text based RPG's: Torn City, Mafia wars... and such. Now he's moved on to the downloadable content of FF for the Wii. Although I have to admit he's gottne MUCH better. and it's only been 7 years! :/

HeatherMcG
08-05-2009, 10:17 AM
Oh my! My hubby too ladies! I have a COD hubby who loves playing all....the.... time. And although it has been a source of arguements before, I have some to realize that with his high stress job, he deserves a chance to nwind and relax. So, I usually occupy myself cooking dinner or surfing the net. Like clockwork, an hour later and he's done........ well, most of the time! ;)

Mikayla
08-05-2009, 11:16 AM
What I don't understand is how men can play these games for hours and hours without any regard to other things going on around them. When I wake up on my day off, I workout, pick up the house, do laundry, have lunch with friends, drag my husband off the couch and to the store, run other errands, take another walk.


If my husband had his choice on his day off he would have stay up til 4am the night before (playing some sort of game)then sleep until 1 or so. Then he would sit on the couch watch tv and play on his computer until sometime between midnight and 2.

I just don't understand why I feel the need to be productive and get things done and I get stressed about these things, But he can just lay around without a care in the world...BOO.


I'm glad to see I'm not alone.

JulieJ08
08-05-2009, 11:44 AM
To a certain extent, I think some men know that they don't have to worry about things. If they don't, someone else will take care of it for them. It amazes me sometimes how much differently we treat (and raise) different sexes *still*, and even worse, it amazes me that people really don't think that's true. My niece and my nephews (and pretty much most kids I see) do not get the same reactions for the same behaviors.

irishsarah
08-05-2009, 12:30 PM
*snicker*

Sorry, I am not laughing at ANYONE of you. I am just thinking about my sister and her boyfriend. My sister is a video game whore...LOL! She owns every system that has ever come out and has mastered all of them. She is also very much into the whole World of Warcraft, Halo...all of that stuff on the computer. Heck, she built herself a SUPER computer to handle all the graphics and memory she needed.

Her boyfriend is the same way (they have at least 2 of EVERY system) only it gets a bit funny here...

My sister manages her own GameStop. LOL! She started out just as a plain ol' clerk and after only a year or two, is the "turn around manager" in her region. If a store is failing, she'll go and turn it around. They want to send her to corporate now. She is secretly plotting to leave her beloved job. She is tired of working 50-60 hours a week with no compensation and an only so-so salary. She said she will not miss the actual work, but will sure miss being able to play video games and get paid for it for part of her day. LOL! She is only 23.
Her boyfriend is 30 and the ONLY time the two of them fight is over who gets to use X-Box or whatever in the living room instead of the bedroom because the tv is better. :p

Ironicly...they both have LOST weight too. A bunch of it. I think it is because they are too poor for food. Priorities ya' know. Food or video games. ;)

So, while I am not dismissing anyone's issues with their video game obsessed husbands (mine has his own obsession, but it is not electronic related) this thread is just more proof that my sister was really supposed to be a boy!

TaraLee
08-05-2009, 03:55 PM
Like I said, I played too and I'm knocking the gaming industry. I loved EQII, WoW, SWG, DDO, on PC, CoD 4/W@W, Halo, Legos games, etc for the XBOX (favorite so far...Overlord, so freakin funny!). Sadly, I can also admit that game wise, I own MORE than my husband. Mainly, because I'm willing to wait and buy them used... why buy one new when you can spend the same for 2 used?
The first difference is now that WE had children *I* somehow don't have time to get on, but it hasn't seemed to have had a huge impact on his gaming schedule, though he is getting better. Funny how that works.... Secondly, I've also noticed that I am no longer able to sit and play for extended periods of time since becoming more active. I just get bored and need to get up to do something. I also HATE feeling unproductive now. I love feeling like I'm accomplishing something with the majority of my time where before I always just felt to BLAH to bother!
And yes, to answer the question, my husband does work. Its for Halliburton, an oil field service provider so his job is not a 9-5 where we can schedule stuff easily. He's on call 6 days straight 24 hours a day. For the most part it ends up working that the jobs that are called in come in grouped so he may go out on only two or three jobs but he'll have worked 50 hours or more... which means the rest of the time he's just home waiting for the next job, sometimes 2 to 3 days at a time. Think of it as working the entire weeks worth of work (for these guys its anywhere from 40 hours up, generally around 60) in about 3 or 4 days time.