100 lb. Club - Someone thought I was pregnant :-(
07-31-2009, 07:15 PM
Well, I have been waiting for years for someone to assume I was pregnant because of my big belly, but it finally happened. A sweet old lady at church asked when I was due. I just said something like "I'm not pregnant, just fat!" Even though I was not upset with her at all, it still stung. Here's to losing the big belly!
On another note, how can I look at myself daily in the mirror, & even though I know I need to lose weight, most the time I think "it's not that bad...." But whenever I see myself in a photo, especially next to someone who is trim, I look like a huge linebacker :?:
07-31-2009, 07:17 PM
I have no clue about the photo thing, I'm like that too.
but I've been waiting for someone to tell me I look pregnant, hasnt' happened yet and hopefully won't since I"m losing, but there is ALWAYS the child who doesnt' know better that says something like, "Why are you fat?" Which is a big reason why I can't STAND kids.
07-31-2009, 07:24 PM
Yep like my 5 yr old nephew who told me my belly was as big as Kate Gosselins when she was preggo with 8 kids and I didnt even have a baby in there :(
07-31-2009, 07:27 PM
That's why I hate going to BabiesRUs for friend's shower gifts - I go into a panic that someone will assume I'm there for me rather than for someone else. The only thing you can do is dust yourself off, hold your head high, and remind yourself that if you stick to your plan, it won't be that long before no one would think to assume such a thing.
As for the person in the mirror not matching the person in pictures, I don't know anyone fat who doesn't feel that way, myself included. But again the only option is to keep moving forward toward a healthier life. You deserve to be healthy and happy and feel good about yourself.
07-31-2009, 07:38 PM
Ug I KNOW how you feel!
I happened to have a few friends who were all due within 1-2 months of each other. SOO I went and bought things off their registry at Babies R Us and took them home. The next day my neighbor asked me "when are you due?"
I looked at her and screamed "I'M NOT PREGNANT!"
Her face fell and I walked inside so upset- I think that night I skipped dinner and said I would never eat again :(
(hug) I've had people think I'm pregnant, and it's not a nice feeling. I'm sorry that happened to you, and I hope you don't take it to heart.
As far as mirror vs. photo- the same thing happens to me. I'm going to have dh take some pics of me for progress, but also for me to really see how big I am and how other people see me.
Keep on working toward your goal weight, slow and steady wins the race.
07-31-2009, 07:48 PM
I was once the co-owner of a children's resale store. I had a few occasions where I had to tell some well-meaning, yet wrong customer that I wasn't shopping for my intended baby but that I was working.
People see what they want and often assume what they don't know. Don't let it get to you. :hug:
07-31-2009, 08:10 PM
I get this and I understand...I use to be asked.."didnt you just have a baby? or are you having another!"...Jerks! lol...
My sisters boyfriend told be im a bootydo....Its when your stomach sticks out farther than your booty do! I was pist! Had to laugh it off though...
And I hate pics because they make me look HUGE! I take a pic and get disappointed...
07-31-2009, 09:48 PM
When I was pregnant not a single person asked and everyone acted shocked when I told them I was...When I was not pregnant, I had people asking when I was due....
07-31-2009, 10:06 PM
I think I look like I'm pregnant
maybe about 5 months...
07-31-2009, 10:11 PM
I'm so sorry - that would sting!
My husband, who should know better after living with a big girl, has asked that of a couple of big ladies who weren't pregnant. I was so embarrassed! :o
07-31-2009, 10:54 PM
Oh I'm so sorry this happened to you! It's happened to me at least FOUR times!! The first time, I actually just pretended that I was pregnant b/c i was so embarrassed that I didnt want to tell this woman that I wasnt!
The second time...I was on a DATE, and the waiter was listing the specials and said to me "and for you and the baby, our chicken whatever whatever would be a great choice.." I was mortified.
third time was actually a nurse at MY DOCTORS OFFICE! she asked me when i was due
the fourth time was a cashier at a dept store and i looked her dead in the eyes and said: I'm not pregnant. She ended up being really embarassed, and i was so glad that she was b/c it just made me so angry.
It sucks, i completely understand how awful it must have felt for you!!
08-01-2009, 02:59 AM
One little kid ran up to me and loudly announced "You're fat!". His mother just giggled and didn't reprimand him or anything.
08-01-2009, 12:15 PM
I keep waiting for the day that someone says that to me - hasn't happened yet, but my belly is at that stage that my boobs are kind of resting on the top part of my belly. I think I wear clothes that try to hide my belly, but i think I am just kidding myself.
I have avoided pictures for a very long time, about 15yrs I think. Just on Thursday I was in a golf tournament and I asked if I could see the pictures that the Official photographer guy had taken so far. I deleted all the pictures of me!!!! He didn't know I did it, but I felt so much better afterwards. I looked like a cow.
When I look in the mirror, I don't think I look that bad. But I find that If I make sure I look at my head in proportion to the rest of my body, I get a better picture of what I really look like. If my head was double the size, my body would look somewhat normal, hence I know I am seriously overweight (obese). I hate to say the word, but I AM OBESE!
08-01-2009, 12:49 PM
Wow! people can be so rude sometimes...
08-01-2009, 01:53 PM
I feel ya! Right now I am puffed all full of gas and fluid and look about 5 months pregnant. Bleck.
08-01-2009, 02:00 PM
years ago my nephew asked me if I was pregnant, he was I think about 5 at the time (!) No, I answered, I'm fat. His dad, my brother, is heavy too, which made it less insulting, you know, being big in our family (at least for some of the adults) is more like a fact than an insult. But I sure didn't like hearing that!
08-02-2009, 11:46 PM
Thanks for all the encouragement - that's not something I can just tell anyone!
08-03-2009, 12:16 AM
Several years back I worked in a shop at the mall. It was a family-owned business, and I was one of the few workers that wasn't actually part of the family. And when word spread around that one of the daughters got pregnant? The whole mall thought it was me! :yikes:
I can't tell you how many "congratulations" I got when I worked that counter. :o
08-03-2009, 05:24 AM
My moment came at Cracker Barrel when waiting for take out I heard from behind me "so when is the baby due". It was a hostess who had mistaken me for someone she had been talking to earlier. I just said I'm not pregnant. She was embarrassed and kept apoligizing. The worse part was it was a busy night and I still had to stand there for 10minutes waiting for my food. I felt like the whole place was staring at me and talking about me.
08-03-2009, 07:16 AM
I've been asked if I was pregnant a few times by clients at work, but I think the people who asked me were more embarassed when they found out that I wasn't. They seemed really sheepish afterwards. It doesn't bother me at all, I know I'm a big girl and I know they just wanted to start a conversation. Talking about the weather would probably be better though. lol
As for the picture thing, I know what you mean! Coming from an Asian background, every female in my family aside from my sister and I, are no more than a size 6. Even the guys aren't over 150lbs and they are 5'10-6'3. I stand out like a huge black dot on a piece of white paper, even when I stand behind everyone in a group picture. Once I was in a picture with my petite friend, she was 4'10 tall and she was about 86lbs, after the picture was taken, my other friend wouldn't let me look at the picture because she thought it would hurt my feelings. Well, I looked and WOW, I don't even know how to describe the difference between us, it was like I was King Kong and she was a twig next to me.
08-03-2009, 08:15 AM
I've never been asked - odd. At least now, barring entry into a world's oldest mothers competition, no-one would make that assumption!
08-03-2009, 10:28 AM
I don't even know how to describe the difference between us, it was like I was King Kong and she was a twig next to me.
don't feel bad. I have relatives who are tiny (though most of my immediate family is tall and big). I went to visit my aunt and cousins, they're probably around 5 feet tall and thin. I have pictures of me standing next to them and it really does look like a scene out of Land of the Giants.
I'd like to add they hate having their pics taken, and I've gotten so it doesn't bother me so much. I'm working on my weight.
08-03-2009, 10:38 AM
Oh, Yes. I have heard that , several times when I was overweight. I never was able to find a good answer other than to mumble."I'm not pregnant". It reallyh is an unpleasant moment.
08-03-2009, 10:54 AM
My favorite answer for "When are you due?" is "Nine months after I get pregnant." It confuses them and they have to stop and think for a moment to figure it out.
08-03-2009, 11:40 AM
JulieJ08 - that is a GREAT response! :cp:
I have been asked if I was pregnant before. The first time, I was mortified and ashamed. Now, I just say, no I'm just fat. Several years ago, my mother even said to me (after not seeing me for several months), "Wow, you've put on a TON of weight." which was true, and to which I replied, "Yes, and I can and will lose it." I felt like adding "I'll probably lose it faster than you'll stop being a b*tch." but I held that tidbit back. :rofl:
Hang in there. We will all get through this, lose our weight and not have to worry about anyone saying that to us ever again! :hug: